-I don’t know what I liked more last night: the horribly planted audience members with the stupid questions, or the amounts of awkward silence on stage when Kiptyn and Reid were up there. It seemed like the first half hour was nothing but a bunch of facial expressions and people forgetting their lines. How awkward was that to watch? I can’t tell you how many times I could hear the humming of the lights in my room while Kiptyn and Reid were on stage. Here’s the problem I’ve always had with bringing the rejected bachelor or bachelorettes back. This season had the quickest turnaround from the time filming ended to the time the finale aired (2 months). In that time, the one(s) rejected at the end might labor some feelings, but lets face it, they’ve moved on. Hell half of them are usually banging somebody else by that point. Just ask Jenni from Brad’s season who was already back together with her ex, yet came to film that show and whipped up some tears for the audience. It’s usually 3 to 4 months removed from actual filming before that ATFR tapes, so do you really need answers from someone that far out after a break up? I usually only bug them for a couple weeks afterwards. Ha ha.
-So what are my thoughts after seeing Jillian and Ed together last night? The same as they were the night before. “But Steve, look how happy they were, and she’s even moving in with him.” Yeah, even better. The fact she’s moving in with the guy in a month, in my mind, is waaaaaaay too early. That’s just gonna speed up their break up. Happy couples holding hands and kissing on the “ATFR” means nothing in the history of this show. So did Andrew and Jen. So did Bob and Estella. So did Meredith and Ian. So did Travis and Sarah. So did Lorenzo and Jen. So did Matt and Shayne. So did DeAnna and Jesse. Hell, DeAnna and Jesse were giving us video and photo updates on essentially what they had for breakfast for 6 months telling us how much they were in love with each other, spending time with each others families, etc. How’d that work out for them? Look, I know every couple is different, but, I’ll play the odds on this one. Your experience on the show is completely removed from reality and what relationships are really about. Hence the reason this show is 1-for-17 in producing a marriage. I’ll stick with those odds. So when these two eventually break up for whatever reason, just remember what your reaction was after last night’s lovefest and I’ll remind you what you saw last night doesn’t mean anything. The final couple is ALWAYS happy at the “ATFR” show.
-So many of you were disappointed that they didn’t announce who the next Bachelor was going to be last night. I don’t know why since they’ve done many “ATFR” shows without announcing who the next one was. Here’s some statistical data to remember regarding this show. Only two of the thirteen Bachelors have been recycled (Bob and Jason), but all five Bachelorettes were (Trista, Meredith, Jen, DeAnna, and Jillian). Interesting dynamic. I wonder if there’s any rhyme or reason to that? However, they are on a mini streak right now as the last three seasons they’ve shown have been with recycled people (DeAnna, Jason, and Jillian). If you’re gonna go by Monday night’s finale, then you’d think they’re setting it up to be Reid. The Kiptyn rumor has been floating around for the last month or so, and the fact it hasn’t been confirmed I think pretty much kills that. Plus, the audience reaction to him isn’t anywhere near what it’s been for Reid. So if they do choose someone from this season, my guess is it would be Reid. But I have no idea where their head is at and Chris Harrison reiterated in his blog today once again that the next Bachelor hasn’t been chosen.
-And even though “US Weekly” hinted towards it last week, and Jillian even gave her endorsement for it in an interview, you can officially cross Michael Stagliano and his twin brother off the list for possibly being the next “Bachelor”. Why? Because Michael is now dating Holly Durst. I knew about this last week but I was told to wait until after this past weekend before saying anything since Holly went to visit him in NY. Apparently things went well since Monday morning, both of them had changed their facebook status to “In a Relationship” (with the other persons name) on each of their pages, so obviously they don’t care that people know. Wow. That didn’t take long. I knew they really hit it off when he was in L.A. for the “Men Tell All”, and I to see she made a quick turnaround to go see him in NY was a telling sign. Not to mention all of her tweets recently about how in love she is. Hey, maybe she is. Or maybe she isn’t. I don’t know. I haven’t watched their relationship on TV nor do I know of any ex-girlfriends floating around ready to speak. I guess we’ll see how it goes. Holly is an acquaintance of mine as most of you probably heard the interview so I wish her the best. I just thought that immediately going to “In a Relationship” status within a span of two weeks was awfully bold of them. I guarantee Facebook has caused A LOT of arguments between couples based on that “In a Relationship” status. That thing can get very tricky.
-Jillian wrote her final blog on People.com that you can see right here. What I find interesting is that last night on the show, they said they haven’t been apart more than five days total since the show ended. Then in the blog she says they spent “all summer together (every two weeks for five days at a time)”. Ummmm, so which one is it? Last time I checked, those are completely different statement. Saying you’ve spent all but five days together since filming ended two months ago means we’re looking at spending 55 of a possible 60 days together. Seeing each other “every two weeks for five days at a time” equates to 10 days a month, for a total of 20 days in two months. Wow. Two months into their relationship and they’re already lying to us. Nice. What’s next? Ed is a tiger in the bedroom? Oh yeah, they already disgustingly addressed that last night. Did Jillian really allude to how much they have sex last night? Classy. It’s bad enough we have to think of that guy in his awful European trunks, now we have to picture him doing it with someone other than his ex? Great. I think I’ll pass. But really, thanks for offering that bit of info last night. We were dying to hear how frequently you guys have sex. No, seriously.
-I wanted to share something with everyone that I don’t think I’ve ever posted before. Just with all the shenanigans that happened this season, and all the manipulation and editing I’ve been telling you about. This is an email that Brad Womack wrote to his cousin shortly after his finale aired and he’d dumped Jenni and DeAnna. No, this isn’t a private email that I got a hold of. If you google Brad Womack, you can find this thing on the internet. I’ve always had it in my possession because I think it’s one of the more telling things ever written about the behind the scenes stuff that goes on. And lets remember, Brad just wasn’t any contestant. He was the “Bachelor”. So for him to say this I think speaks volumes. For those that question the validity of it, I can assure you it’s authentic because, well, I’ve spoken to Brad about it and he confirmed he wrote it. I also recently brought it up with DeAnna and she confirmed that’s basically what Brad told her. So before we put a close on this season, just wanted to bring this to your attention. Here’s the email he wrote to his cousin:
I don’t really know where to begin my email because I don’t know if you’re
part of the half of America that is disgusted with my choice or part of the
half that respects it. I am hoping that you are of the latter; if not, I
hope this email will at least answer some of the questions that have been
thrown my way in the last few days.
First, let me say this. I did not ask to do the show; a friend of mine
submitted my information because she thought I would make a good candidate.
In fact, my initial reaction to the producers was “absolutely not”.
Hollywood can be very convincing when it wants to be and after some time I
agreed to give it a shot. I truly went on The Bachelor to try to find a
good woman that I may develop strong feelings for. That is the only reason.
I did not go on it for publicity of the bars. I did not go on it to use as
some sort of “stepping stone” into entertainment. I simply went on the show
to use it as it was meant to be used…to try to find a romantic interest.
Yes, it’s unconventional but also adventurous at the same time.
I had no idea what I was getting myself into (but that is another story that
would take too long to write in an email). I want to clear up some
misconceptions of the general public that I can only hope you and the rest
of the family are not inclined to believe.
First: Due to my contract, I was NOT ALLOWED to tell the women that I wasn’t
interested in them until the respective rose ceremonies. In other words, if
I realized a relationship was not going to come out of the show, no matter
how early on this revelation may have happened, I simply could not walk off
the show. I was constantly reminded there was a show to make and that I
would be sued for breach of contract. I never one time misled the
ladies…NOT ONCE. I was not allowed to tell anyone that my feelings
weren’t strong enough to try to build a relationship on. I never once
uttered the word love. The only time I mentioned “soulmate”, and I promise
you with everything that I have that this is true, the producers edited that
sentence to make it sound as if I labled Deanna as my soulmate, which I
assure you I didn’t. I admit that I did say that she was everything I was
looking for. I said she’d make a great wife. I said I could see spending
my life with someone like Deanna. What America wasn’t shown is that in
every interview that I said things like that about the women I immediately
followed up those statements with a “but”. “Deanna would make a great
wife….BUT, I don’t understand why I don’t see her as my wife”. Things
like that were said the entire show but were never aired.
Second: The only reason I went ring shopping is because it was part of the
show’s itinerary. I wasn’t asked if I wanted to buy a ring…I was TOLD I
was going to be filmed buying a ring. That particular day took place almost
five days prior to the final rose ceremony and even then I knew a proposal
wasn’t going to take place. I informed the producers of this and that is
when things started to turn interestingly different. I was no longer their
“golden boy” and I began to get the impression that I was going to be thrown
under the editorial bus. People think I kept the ring. I had the ring in
my possession for all of 2 hours MAXIMUM. In fact, (name), I told the
producers that there is NO WAY I would ever allow anyone to buy a ring that
I was going to give to a woman I love. I was very clear about the fact that
if I was going to propose to someone I would buy my own ring.
Third (and this is a biggie): I NEVER ASKED THE PRODUCERS TO FLY DEANNA’S
FATHER OUT TO THE FINAL ROSE CEREMONY. What actually happened is I was
adamant about the fact that if I ever propose to a woman I would have to ask
her father, face to face, for her hand in marriage. I said a phone call
would not be sufficient because I would want to look him in the eye and ask
for her hand. A day later I was told that Deanna’s father was in route to
Malibu. I was shocked. When I realized there was no turning back, I asked
for a mere hour to talk to her father and explain that 1) I didn’t request
his presence, 2) I wanted to apologize for the show wasting his time, and 3)
I wanted to tell him that as much as I cared for Deanna I was not in love
with her and did not intend on proposing to her. I think the world of
Deanna’s family and I always will.
(Reality Steve Update: It was confirmed to me that Brad was never given the
chance to have this meeting with her father even after asking for it).
I don’t have commitment issues. In fact, the majority of my adult life has
been spent in some incredible, long term, committed relationships. What I
do fear is wasting time. As good of a person as Deanna is I didn’t feel a
single bit of falling in love. So why lead her on? Why try to start a
relationship based on “Bachelor protocal”?? My goodbye to both women may
have seemed harsh because of the brutal honesty. If I need to work on being
more sympathetic than I will accept that. All I can say is I’ve had women
at one point or other say to me “I don’t love you anymore”. As much as it
hurt me at the time, I later greatly appreciated the honesty. I would much
rather have someone tell me that than string me along or toy with my heart.
No one in this world is perfect. All I know is I can walk away from this
experience with my head held very high. I know in my heart that I was
honest with all parties involved. I never one time lied or said and/or did
anything that I didn’t mean or want to do.
I hope you all had a very happy Thanksgiving and that you are doing well.
Good stuff. And you think Wes is the only one who got a bad edit? This guy was specifically stating he couldn’t see DeAnna as his wife on camera during his ITM’s, yet all America is shown is the first half of the sentence. From the minute Brad’s finale ended I’ve always thought that outside of Charlie’s season, his was my favorite ending. Never really understood the backlash against a guy just because he didn’t propose or choose one woman in the end. Why? The guy admitted he didn’t see a future with either of them so by choosing one of them, wouldn’t that be leading them on? Anyway, I know it’s old news and no need to bring up a season that happened two years ago, but I’ve always thought this email was a good indicator of how this show really works. Can’t believe I’d never printed it before. I guess I just figured a lot of people had seen it already since you can find it by googling his name.
-And what better way to close out this “Bachelorette” season than with a plug for our boy Wes. Ha ha. You know you love it. Call it kissing ass, call it whatever you want, I consider the guy a friend now so I will take this time to plug his appearance tomorrow night at the Glass Cactus in Grapevine, Texas. A few of us are headed out there tomorrow night and it should be a great time. I know a lot of you are either love it or hate it when it comes not only to Wes, but also country music. As I’ve said, I’ve never been a fan. Don’t despise it in the least bit, I just don’t buy much of it unless Carrie Underwood’s hot ass is on the cover. Ha ha. Anyway, Wes appeared on “Good Morning Texas” yesterday morning to do an interview and perform. No, he didn’t sing the song you all know and love. He actually does an acoustic version of “Gettin’ Around”, and I gotta tell you, I think it was a pretty damn good performance. The guy is a talented artist. Here are the links to the post show (internet only) interview he did, plus, his musical performance. Come on and check out the show if you’re in the DFW area. And if not, give the performance a listen and let me know what you think, regardless of if you’re a country fan or not.
Post show interview:
That’s it for this season for the time being. It’s had its ups and had its downs, but all in all, it was a good time. Trust me when I tell you I am still trying to work on letting some more information out about this season in general. I just need to see how I’m gonna go about doing this. Keep checking back periodically to RealitySteve.com for updates. No “Reality Roundup” Friday as I’m sure I’ll be three sheets to the wind on Thursday night, plus, my niece and nephew are in town tomorrow so that should keep me occupied. I will update when I can. Join on Facebook and Twitter, and don’t forget to purchase the last remaining RealitySteve.com merchandise before we’re all out. As always, any questions, comments, feedback, praises, criticisms, and anything else you’d like to ask, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Talk to you soon.