-I don’t know what I liked more last night: the horribly planted audience members with the stupid questions, or the amounts of awkward silence on stage when Kiptyn and Reid were up there. It seemed like the first half hour was nothing but a bunch of facial expressions and people forgetting their lines. How awkward was that to watch? I can’t tell you how many times I could hear the humming of the lights in my room while Kiptyn and Reid were on stage. Here’s the problem I’ve always had with bringing the rejected bachelor or bachelorettes back. This season had the quickest turnaround from the time filming ended to the time the finale aired (2 months). In that time, the one(s) rejected at the end might labor some feelings, but lets face it, they’ve moved on. Hell half of them are usually banging somebody else by that point. Just ask Jenni from Brad’s season who was already back together with her ex, yet came to film that show and whipped up some tears for the audience. It’s usually 3 to 4 months removed from actual filming before that ATFR tapes, so do you really need answers from someone that far out after a break up? I usually only bug them for a couple weeks afterwards. Ha ha.
-So what are my thoughts after seeing Jillian and Ed together last night? The same as they were the night before. “But Steve, look how happy they were, and she’s even moving in with him.” Yeah, even better. The fact she’s moving in with the guy in a month, in my mind, is waaaaaaay too early. That’s just gonna speed up their break up. Happy couples holding hands and kissing on the “ATFR” means nothing in the history of this show. So did Andrew and Jen. So did Bob and Estella. So did Meredith and Ian. So did Travis and Sarah. So did Lorenzo and Jen. So did Matt and Shayne. So did DeAnna and Jesse. Hell, DeAnna and Jesse were giving us video and photo updates on essentially what they had for breakfast for 6 months telling us how much they were in love with each other, spending time with each others families, etc. How’d that work out for them? Look, I know every couple is different, but, I’ll play the odds on this one. Your experience on the show is completely removed from reality and what relationships are really about. Hence the reason this show is 1-for-17 in producing a marriage. I’ll stick with those odds. So when these two eventually break up for whatever reason, just remember what your reaction was after last night’s lovefest and I’ll remind you what you saw last night doesn’t mean anything. The final couple is ALWAYS happy at the “ATFR” show.
-So many of you were disappointed that they didn’t announce who the next Bachelor was going to be last night. I don’t know why since they’ve done many “ATFR” shows without announcing who the next one was. Here’s some statistical data to remember regarding this show. Only two of the thirteen Bachelors have been recycled (Bob and Jason), but all five Bachelorettes were (Trista, Meredith, Jen, DeAnna, and Jillian). Interesting dynamic. I wonder if there’s any rhyme or reason to that? However, they are on a mini streak right now as the last three seasons they’ve shown have been with recycled people (DeAnna, Jason, and Jillian). If you’re gonna go by Monday night’s finale, then you’d think they’re setting it up to be Reid. The Kiptyn rumor has been floating around for the last month or so, and the fact it hasn’t been confirmed I think pretty much kills that. Plus, the audience reaction to him isn’t anywhere near what it’s been for Reid. So if they do choose someone from this season, my guess is it would be Reid. But I have no idea where their head is at and Chris Harrison reiterated in his blog today once again that the next Bachelor hasn’t been chosen.
-And even though “US Weekly” hinted towards it last week, and Jillian even gave her endorsement for it in an interview, you can officially cross Michael Stagliano and his twin brother off the list for possibly being the next “Bachelor”. Why? Because Michael is now dating Holly Durst. I knew about this last week but I was told to wait until after this past weekend before saying anything since Holly went to visit him in NY. Apparently things went well since Monday morning, both of them had changed their facebook status to “In a Relationship” (with the other persons name) on each of their pages, so obviously they don’t care that people know. Wow. That didn’t take long. I knew they really hit it off when he was in L.A. for the “Men Tell All”, and I to see she made a quick turnaround to go see him in NY was a telling sign. Not to mention all of her tweets recently about how in love she is. Hey, maybe she is. Or maybe she isn’t. I don’t know. I haven’t watched their relationship on TV nor do I know of any ex-girlfriends floating around ready to speak. I guess we’ll see how it goes. Holly is an acquaintance of mine as most of you probably heard the interview so I wish her the best. I just thought that immediately going to “In a Relationship” status within a span of two weeks was awfully bold of them. I guarantee Facebook has caused A LOT of arguments between couples based on that “In a Relationship” status. That thing can get very tricky.
-Jillian wrote her final blog on People.com that you can see right here. What I find interesting is that last night on the show, they said they haven’t been apart more than five days total since the show ended. Then in the blog she says they spent “all summer together (every two weeks for five days at a time)”. Ummmm, so which one is it? Last time I checked, those are completely different statement. Saying you’ve spent all but five days together since filming ended two months ago means we’re looking at spending 55 of a possible 60 days together. Seeing each other “every two weeks for five days at a time” equates to 10 days a month, for a total of 20 days in two months. Wow. Two months into their relationship and they’re already lying to us. Nice. What’s next? Ed is a tiger in the bedroom? Oh yeah, they already disgustingly addressed that last night. Did Jillian really allude to how much they have sex last night? Classy. It’s bad enough we have to think of that guy in his awful European trunks, now we have to picture him doing it with someone other than his ex? Great. I think I’ll pass. But really, thanks for offering that bit of info last night. We were dying to hear how frequently you guys have sex. No, seriously.
-I wanted to share something with everyone that I don’t think I’ve ever posted before. Just with all the shenanigans that happened this season, and all the manipulation and editing I’ve been telling you about. This is an email that Brad Womack wrote to his cousin shortly after his finale aired and he’d dumped Jenni and DeAnna. No, this isn’t a private email that I got a hold of. If you google Brad Womack, you can find this thing on the internet. I’ve always had it in my possession because I think it’s one of the more telling things ever written about the behind the scenes stuff that goes on. And lets remember, Brad just wasn’t any contestant. He was the “Bachelor”. So for him to say this I think speaks volumes. For those that question the validity of it, I can assure you it’s authentic because, well, I’ve spoken to Brad about it and he confirmed he wrote it. I also recently brought it up with DeAnna and she confirmed that’s basically what Brad told her. So before we put a close on this season, just wanted to bring this to your attention. Here’s the email he wrote to his cousin:
(Name),
I don’t really know where to begin my email because I don’t know if you’re
part of the half of America that is disgusted with my choice or part of the
half that respects it. I am hoping that you are of the latter; if not, I
hope this email will at least answer some of the questions that have been
thrown my way in the last few days.
First, let me say this. I did not ask to do the show; a friend of mine
submitted my information because she thought I would make a good candidate.
In fact, my initial reaction to the producers was “absolutely not”.
Hollywood can be very convincing when it wants to be and after some time I
agreed to give it a shot. I truly went on The Bachelor to try to find a
good woman that I may develop strong feelings for. That is the only reason.
I did not go on it for publicity of the bars. I did not go on it to use as
some sort of “stepping stone” into entertainment. I simply went on the show
to use it as it was meant to be used…to try to find a romantic interest.
Yes, it’s unconventional but also adventurous at the same time.
I had no idea what I was getting myself into (but that is another story that
would take too long to write in an email). I want to clear up some
misconceptions of the general public that I can only hope you and the rest
of the family are not inclined to believe.
First: Due to my contract, I was NOT ALLOWED to tell the women that I wasn’t
interested in them until the respective rose ceremonies. In other words, if
I realized a relationship was not going to come out of the show, no matter
how early on this revelation may have happened, I simply could not walk off
the show. I was constantly reminded there was a show to make and that I
would be sued for breach of contract. I never one time misled the
ladies…NOT ONCE. I was not allowed to tell anyone that my feelings
weren’t strong enough to try to build a relationship on. I never once
uttered the word love. The only time I mentioned “soulmate”, and I promise
you with everything that I have that this is true, the producers edited that
sentence to make it sound as if I labled Deanna as my soulmate, which I
assure you I didn’t. I admit that I did say that she was everything I was
looking for. I said she’d make a great wife. I said I could see spending
my life with someone like Deanna. What America wasn’t shown is that in
every interview that I said things like that about the women I immediately
followed up those statements with a “but”. “Deanna would make a great
wife….BUT, I don’t understand why I don’t see her as my wife”. Things
like that were said the entire show but were never aired.
Second: The only reason I went ring shopping is because it was part of the
show’s itinerary. I wasn’t asked if I wanted to buy a ring…I was TOLD I
was going to be filmed buying a ring. That particular day took place almost
five days prior to the final rose ceremony and even then I knew a proposal
wasn’t going to take place. I informed the producers of this and that is
when things started to turn interestingly different. I was no longer their
“golden boy” and I began to get the impression that I was going to be thrown
under the editorial bus. People think I kept the ring. I had the ring in
my possession for all of 2 hours MAXIMUM. In fact, (name), I told the
producers that there is NO WAY I would ever allow anyone to buy a ring that
I was going to give to a woman I love. I was very clear about the fact that
if I was going to propose to someone I would buy my own ring.
Third (and this is a biggie): I NEVER ASKED THE PRODUCERS TO FLY DEANNA’S
FATHER OUT TO THE FINAL ROSE CEREMONY. What actually happened is I was
adamant about the fact that if I ever propose to a woman I would have to ask
her father, face to face, for her hand in marriage. I said a phone call
would not be sufficient because I would want to look him in the eye and ask
for her hand. A day later I was told that Deanna’s father was in route to
Malibu. I was shocked. When I realized there was no turning back, I asked
for a mere hour to talk to her father and explain that 1) I didn’t request
his presence, 2) I wanted to apologize for the show wasting his time, and 3)
I wanted to tell him that as much as I cared for Deanna I was not in love
with her and did not intend on proposing to her. I think the world of
Deanna’s family and I always will.
(Reality Steve Update: It was confirmed to me that Brad was never given the
chance to have this meeting with her father even after asking for it).
I don’t have commitment issues. In fact, the majority of my adult life has
been spent in some incredible, long term, committed relationships. What I
do fear is wasting time. As good of a person as Deanna is I didn’t feel a
single bit of falling in love. So why lead her on? Why try to start a
relationship based on “Bachelor protocal”?? My goodbye to both women may
have seemed harsh because of the brutal honesty. If I need to work on being
more sympathetic than I will accept that. All I can say is I’ve had women
at one point or other say to me “I don’t love you anymore”. As much as it
hurt me at the time, I later greatly appreciated the honesty. I would much
rather have someone tell me that than string me along or toy with my heart.
No one in this world is perfect. All I know is I can walk away from this
experience with my head held very high. I know in my heart that I was
honest with all parties involved. I never one time lied or said and/or did
anything that I didn’t mean or want to do.
I hope you all had a very happy Thanksgiving and that you are doing well.
Brad
Good stuff. And you think Wes is the only one who got a bad edit? This guy was specifically stating he couldn’t see DeAnna as his wife on camera during his ITM’s, yet all America is shown is the first half of the sentence. From the minute Brad’s finale ended I’ve always thought that outside of Charlie’s season, his was my favorite ending. Never really understood the backlash against a guy just because he didn’t propose or choose one woman in the end. Why? The guy admitted he didn’t see a future with either of them so by choosing one of them, wouldn’t that be leading them on? Anyway, I know it’s old news and no need to bring up a season that happened two years ago, but I’ve always thought this email was a good indicator of how this show really works. Can’t believe I’d never printed it before. I guess I just figured a lot of people had seen it already since you can find it by googling his name.
-And what better way to close out this “Bachelorette” season than with a plug for our boy Wes. Ha ha. You know you love it. Call it kissing ass, call it whatever you want, I consider the guy a friend now so I will take this time to plug his appearance tomorrow night at the Glass Cactus in Grapevine, Texas. A few of us are headed out there tomorrow night and it should be a great time. I know a lot of you are either love it or hate it when it comes not only to Wes, but also country music. As I’ve said, I’ve never been a fan. Don’t despise it in the least bit, I just don’t buy much of it unless Carrie Underwood’s hot ass is on the cover. Ha ha. Anyway, Wes appeared on “Good Morning Texas” yesterday morning to do an interview and perform. No, he didn’t sing the song you all know and love. He actually does an acoustic version of “Gettin’ Around”, and I gotta tell you, I think it was a pretty damn good performance. The guy is a talented artist. Here are the links to the post show (internet only) interview he did, plus, his musical performance. Come on and check out the show if you’re in the DFW area. And if not, give the performance a listen and let me know what you think, regardless of if you’re a country fan or not.
Post show interview:
Musical Performance:
That’s it for this season for the time being. It’s had its ups and had its downs, but all in all, it was a good time. Trust me when I tell you I am still trying to work on letting some more information out about this season in general. I just need to see how I’m gonna go about doing this. Keep checking back periodically to RealitySteve.com for updates. No “Reality Roundup” Friday as I’m sure I’ll be three sheets to the wind on Thursday night, plus, my niece and nephew are in town tomorrow so that should keep me occupied. I will update when I can. Join on Facebook and Twitter, and don’t forget to purchase the last remaining RealitySteve.com merchandise before we’re all out. As always, any questions, comments, feedback, praises, criticisms, and anything else you’d like to ask, email me at steve@realitysteve.com. Talk to you soon.
@sparkly
gianabella and sparkly – I love your comments!! I would read your blogs any day!
gianabella. Great comments. Couldn’t have said it better. You really should have your own blog. All of it was great, but I particularly liked the ending.
“You received a “bad edit†on Extra (BTW, I am convinced that this was clearly a premeditated plan on the part of the Extra producers to make you look bad on national TV and destroy your life and reputation for ratings. If you don’t believe me, I have an email from a friend of a friend of one of the producer’s stepmother’s neighbors saying just that. Plus my BFF Jeremy confirmed it.)
You know, I would think that with all your in-depth knowledge of evil editing techniques you would have chosen your words more carefully so that they couldn’t edit you in a way to completely change your (WRONG) prediction. Even my grandma predicted Jillian would pick Ed and she doesn’t read spoilers. (PS Maybe you should sign up at the FORT.)
Anyway, just thought I’d share my impressions of your latest entries (and for those who are planning to ask me why I’m commenting on Steve’s blog if I don’t agree with what he posts, I’d suggest you first ask Steve why HE blogs about the Bachelor/Bachelorette when he clearly hates the show!)
Finally, the only comment I’ll make about your continuing quest to talk to Ed’s ex, exes, brother’s exes, etc. is this – when you finally reach her, you might want to tell her that regardless of whatever relationship she had with Ed in the past, it is now over.
I heard he got engaged on TV.”
Thanks for posting Brad’s letter. I have never seen that before. He is my fave Bachelor of all time. Not only is he absolutely gorgeous, but his finale was the most real yet.
The reason why Melissa looked different on ATFR is she changed the way she did her eye makeup. She didn’t have heavy eye liner on like she has in the past and she had white colored eye shadow on that makes your eyes look larger and gives you that more awake look. I’m sure since GMA had their makeup artist change her look.
I think Melissa is adorable and very classy. If you read the emails between Jason and Melissa that were leaked I doubt that she and Tye together during the show. And I don’t get why anyone would go on the show with a boyfriend or girlfriend. I would sure be pissy if my boyfriend was on The Bachelor mugging down with another girl.
I want to be a romantic and believe that Reid was really genuine in his feelings for Jillian. i thought he looked really sad last night and I felt bad for him. I know I would have picked him, had I been the Bachelorette!
I love Melissa and think she’s cute and down to earth. Why make her watch that horrid video of Jason again! I know that had to.. but geez I could have done w/o seeing stupid Jason’s face again.
Thank you for sharing a copy of Brad Womack’s letter… very telling of this series. It was very interesting…. I passed it on to several of my co-workers who watch the Bachelor.
Looks like RS touched a nerve with someone over on the comments section of Brady’s blog. Check this comment out…
“You and Reality Steve need to stop picking on Ed with all the rumors about ex girlfriends and being gay. If you guys continue to spread this crap, even if it is true, I will expose what I know about Steve’s own little “secret”. There’s a reason he continues to commute back and forth from Texas to Los Angeles, and its not because of the beaches. Do a google on “West Hollywood”. And yes, there are photos.”
For the full thread, go to http://bachelorettenews.blogspot.com
1. you wrote “the one(s) rejected at the end might LABOR some feelings” … the word you are looking for is HARBOR – not labor.
2. your grammar is also extremely rough – especially your misuse of pronouns .. though you’re in the company of jillian, ed and kiptyn on that.
3. wonder if anyone ever told you how ANNOYING it is that, in your blog and interviews, you ask yourself questions then answer them!!!
4. after all the put-downs from you – to so many – about how stupid they are to fall for things (including put-downs to your audience here about that) .. you actually fell for the thrill (< for you) of being on a national t.v. show, Extra — and so you got to be the buffoon.
5. wonder, after all the terrible things you said early on about wes’ singing, how you suddenly like it so much now…… and wonder if he’s read those put-downs of his singing you wrote so often…. though he is a cool enough guy not to care.
(i have always liked wes’ singing and songwriting.)
6. if you do a blog next year, please work on your language skills AND your compassion-for-others skills before you do.
damn, holly! well i can’t say i’m not jealous…michael is awesome. sucks that this takes him off the list of contenders to be the next bachelor though
p.s. does anyone know if fred and noelle are still together? they were so adorable!
Wow, kc, take it easy here! If you don’t like the way Steve writes, then by all means, leave. Trust me, you won’t be missed. And tell me oh perfect one, what exactly does “to so many” mean? Is that some kind of new english that only YOU use? And “early on” is NOT proper grammar; “earlier on” is what you should have used. So, kc, I suggest YOU be careful what you say and who you say it to. You are obviously not as perfect as you pretend to be.
To kc -
“People in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.”
If you’re going to pick apart someone’s language skills, start with your own. Sentences begin with a capital letter and the word “I” when used as a pronoun is always capitalized.
Hava a nice day.
You say, “What I find interesting is that last night on the show, they said they haven’t been apart more than five days total since the show ended. Then in the blog she says they spent “all summer together (every two weeks for five days at a time)â€. Ummmm, so which one is it?” So when they say it and it’s not totally 100% accurate and you don’t believe it, or want to scorn it, it’s not edited or “reality tv”, they’re ‘lying’ to us, but when Wes says it, it’s edited and reality tv, the gospel truth. You’re a trip. Just be fair whether you like the show or not.
No offense to anyone who likes Holly, but that saddens me that Michael Stag is dating her. She’s seems to be hooking up with as many guys as possible from past seasons. (I guess she has a really great personality?? :-/ )
Before we know it, next thing we’ll hear is there’s been a mass spreading of some STD between past Bachelor/ette contestants.
RS – there are really a few snotwaffles on this thread of posts….can’t you delete them? Very annoying – jeez. They way they attack you – you would think they actually know you. I don’t know you from Adam and I’ve been reading you for a few years now. Never would I disrepect YOU or MYSELF by writing such dribble as I have read above. Oh well…to each their own or to each his own or her own or whatever. I like you RS. I like your writing, I like your style – it’s good. Keep on doin’ it and doin’ it and you get my drift! BTW – I watched the first episode of MORE TO LOVE and aside from all the tears, it kept my interest. Some flaky girls, sure…but for the most part – all seemed and the key word is “seemed” genuine. Again, you have opened our eyes to the edits of reality TV so we look at these things with fresh, new prospectives. THANKS RS!
There is NO WAY Brad Womack wrote that email – at least not on his own. That would make him a much better writer than Reality Steve and he never went to college and he’s a bartender. Sorry, I’m not buying that the beautifully crafted, well thought out, eloquent email was the sole work of the guy who runs the Dizzy Rooster.
ok Steve! Spill the beans!! What do we have to wait for Monday to hear about that is going to make our jaws drop?!?! Give me something!!!!
Steve, I look for your recaps every week and also enjoy the interviews you have conducted with previous Bach/Bachette participants. The greatest story you could ever bring to this blog is a story exposing Ed for the cad that he is. You would get as much traffic/exposure as you did last year through the Jason/Melissa/Molly story. Ed may have convinced Jillian that she is the one for him; but he WILL NEVER fool those of us that know better. Run with the story if you have the chance Steve – there are so many good reasons to do it!
@tennisany1
Very Interesting you say that. A friend of mine met a guy who could have been pulling this out of his “arse” but he supposedly was connected to Ty somehow. The story goes that the real reason Melissa and Jason broke up was she was cheating on him with Ty. As she was such a fan favorite, ABC was already planning on using her for their future benefit and since this was happening prior to the finale, they had to think fast. So they turned Jason(since they were done with him) into the villian and her into the victim. While as in all things, I’m sure the truth lies somewhere in between, but I do think Ty had more to do with the breakup then let on (especially as last night she said they began speaking in early January when the ATFR was filmed mid to late January). She told me this little story while we were watching the ATFR the other night and it started to actually make sense. Granted this goes against RS whole conspiracy theory but it still involves major manipulation on ABC’s part. If they were able to edit someone like Wes so severly and their was no studio audience at J, M, and M’s ATFR, could they not have severely edited what occured to fit their storyline and keep Melissa in good graces? Considering Jason also had such an “I hate ABC but i’m contractually obligated to be here ” look on his face at the MTA, he definitely could have been screwed over by ABC.
I kinda see a smiliarity to Jason’s situation and Brad’s. In Brad’s season they edited and manipulated to increase sympathy for Deannna to attract viewership when she became the bachelorette. So why couldn’t they do the same with Jason in regards to Melissa? ABC is surely always thinking towards the future and attracting viewership. If it got out that Melissa in fact broke Jason’s heart instead of vice versa, her popularity would end up being a waste for them…just some food for thought
Dear negative people, (especially the grammar critic)
Please go to your bookmarks and locate http://www.realitysteve.com/blog.
Left click, right click, delete.
Simple as that.
Good riddance.
Thanks RS for a fun ride this season. I will miss getting my fix on Tuesday morning!
I appreciated Brad’s email, very eye opening. Also after viewing the above videos, I am a bigger fan of Wes.
It will be interesting to find out about Ed. I just don’t trust the guy. I will be checking back.
I agree with Jennifer S. that those of you who have been attacking Steve should get lost. It is possible to be critical without being mean.
Take care everyone.
Michael!!! Are you seriously saying they were considering him for the next bachelor? Well that would cure it for me, then I can for sure quit watching. If it is Reid, I will watch again other than that I am so done with this scripted show. At least with Reid, I know it could potentially have some honesty.
I’m hearing Jill is already in Chitown…
Are we thinking she knows everything and is ok with it?
Maybe I’m crazy – some people seem to think Ed’s “stuff” is all a case of making mountains out of molehills. I wonder why I don’t quite see it that way….
Did you guys get to read this??
http://www.411mania.com/music/news/111882/Ex-%5C%5CAmerican-Idol%5C%5C-Contestant-Says-Show-Is-Rigged.htm
Seems like the truth is finally coming out about Reality Tv. This is the perfect place to shed the light into what really goes on behind the scenes.
Enjoy!
The ‘reality’ of it is that it is on t.v.
Respectfully, in the world of television ratings and profit, I think ABC could’ve easily taken this situation and exploited it for tremendous ratings.If vViewers rallied around Jason as the rejected bachelor on DeAnna’s season, they would have rallied around him eqaully as the victim of another heartbreak. Then there would have been cheers when he chose Molly.
I think one of the reasons he looks pained when on television is because he knows how reviled he was. I also think that any animosity he might have toward ABC is because he had no idea how massive the outcome would be for agreeing to play whatever games the producers told him to. Be careful not to make deals with the devil… He agreed to their terms, and then the producers hung him out to dry.
The show is a sham. To whatever extent prior contestants are conmfortable with the show’s integrity is, I believe, directly related to how involved in game playing they were required to be and how accurately they were portrayed.
Just my opinion.
@gianabella
LOVE IT!
Steve,
I think it’s put up or shut up time with the innuendos about Ed and a mystery girlfriend back in Chicago. It’s been some months now since he left the show and went back home to deal with work issues. I would have thought that if there was a girlfriend, she would have spoken out by now. So far I have seen precisely nothing factual or any proof whatsoever that Ed went back home to break up with a girlfriend. I didn’t watch this season of the Bachelorette to have a favorite, so I am not defending Ed because of any emotional investment like others who have posted here. I am just impatient with all of the rumors flying around.
If I remember correctly, there were a lot of similar rumors about Jesse on Deanna’s season of the Bachelorette. As I recall, many were also calling into question his motives for being on the show. I kept hearing that he went on the show to get publicity for his career as a snowboarder. The bottom line is that the people who go on this show do not live as monks or nuns in their real life. I think it’s entirely natural to expect that they have dated, had relationships, all the normal activities that single young 20 and thirty somethings engage in at that point in their lives. So what’s the big deal?
Steve – you called Ed a player. What’s so bad about that? So he’s a young single guy having fun with women! Big deal! I think that if he had another reason for leaving the show, it would have come out by now. If some woman does come out after the fact, and claims to be a former girlfriend, I don’t think I would even believe it. People say all sorts of things just to have their fifteen minutes in the limelight.
Jillian also said that she doesn’t care if he had a girlfriend, as long as he broke up with her. If she’s okay with it, then why should anyone else care. I have this feeling that you think that if you can prove that Ed was the guy who had a girlfriend, then it will take the heat off Wes. I hope that’s not your motive. I wish Jillian and Ed the best. The odds may be against them, but you never know.
Good luck to you Steve,Maddie,Wes,you should all put this behind you,well I guess,ha ah The Texas Mafia…via twitter,can’t.Jeremy should just get laid,if the tweets or whatever are true,but,not sure,it’s the frigging internet,so who knows,I will wait with baited breath for the breaking news…Well maybe a glimmer in all this,well whether Brad’s e-mail was legit or not,you do have to play out the show,you signed,but…He is one guy who took a lot of heat that I could not understand…I found him admirable and honest.So people out there be carefull who you hate.
Frankly, my interest was waning and my frustration was mounting with this stupid show until…I discovered this blog. Now, I can stand about 7 minutes of the show, flip to something else, then read realitysteve in the morning and get a great laugh. Juicy bits too. So thanks for that! In a weird way, I’m sure this site helps the show much more than Harrison or anyone else at ABC would like to admit. But I did realize one thing that has ALWAYS bugged me. Call me old fashioned, but the fantasy suite, where the bachelor/bachelorette is potentially sleeping with more than one person over the course of several days. In REAL life, if that happens, it’s not something you are necessarily proud of. Yeah, it happens, you might admit it to your close friends and you might tell the story with a little bit of embarassment. But you are also most likely not in the state of mind where you are looking to get married. You are playing the field, so to speak. So how in God’s name do the producers expect anyone to believe that this is any state of mind to make a decision as to who to marry? It makes Brad Womack’s decision the most realistic of them all. If a friend of mine announced their engagement and I knew they had slept with someone completely different a mere sequence of days before, I’d be saying to myself…ewww, shaky ground. But then again, that’s why the 17-1 track record is what it is. I’m sure someone has probably made this observation before–my participation has been pretty sporadic, so I apologize. But I just thought I’d offer my two cents. Thanks again, Steve!
@gianabella
Exactly what everyone I know is thinking, too! Awesome gianabela!
Awesome gianabella!!
@marubi
I’m sure I’m completely naive regarding the entire fantasy suite thing, but going along with how fake and scripted this show is (a complete soap opera) I don’t think any of the “contestants” sleep with the bachelor/bachlorette. I think it’s all for show. The rest of the show is fake, why not this part too?
I felt very embarrassed watching the AFR this week. I may be the only one, but IMO—Jillian’s high-pitched squeals and constant kissing (of everyone—-probably the cameramen even got some)—is just too much on the ears and eyes. I found myself looking away more than watching—- just wanted to see what they would say re: possible wedding day. I agree with Steve that it probably will not occur—but, like a train wreck—had to watch the uncomfortable episode. We’ll see, I guess.
Thanks for keeping it real Steve! I enjoyed the blogs, skipped the last two shows themselves, (why bother) and I will give it 3 months tops!
Now get off it, and call Jennifer! (she is a sweetie!) <3
http://www.radaronline.com/exclusives/2009/07/exclusive-bachelorette-winner%E2%80%99s-new-man-still-texting-ex-girlfriend
I hope this isn’t true.
The ABC board is all talking now about that radar article. Come on Steve why not share now what you know. About time people see Ed for what he is.
And why was he allowed to text anyway with the outside world – job? girlfriend? what is with that?
@tennisany1
You are so right, and I have to keep reminding myself not to fall for it. I actually thought Reid was genuinely upset on the AFR show, until Steve pointed out, hey, it’s been 2 months. So in keeping with the non-reality reality, why then, when they do script the intimate stuff, they have to make it so damn creepy? Like when Jillian went on and on about having sex ALOT with Ed since the show. Another creepy moment no one’s mentioned is the 12 year old girl asking Reid for a date. UG.
I hope that ABC will not pick Jake for the new Bachelor. He is married. His wife’s name is Christina. And as of today their gorgeous picture is on Lantanalive.com (for residents only). Everyone here knows this and this just proves that reality shows are sooooo scripted. What a joke.
It’s pretty amusing how an RS hater comes on his site repeatedly, just can’t stay away. Tells me all I need to know.
you guys need to go radar on line for the latest info. about ED. and his Ex girlfriend Bethany. I guess Jillian already know about Ed EX. We all had Ex.
Here’s a country singer that seems to be really genuine. Kevin Skinner will never be on the bachelor, but wow, what potential. I’d much rather listen to this guy than Wes.
http://tv.yahoo.com/blog/americas-got-talent-top-10-of-the-vegas-40–503
Steve – just new to your blog. Thanks for Brad’s email. But a question for you. My deal with Brad was NOT that he turned them both down, but because he didn’t want to date either one for a while to see if more could happen. I think its totally acceptable to not want to propose, and for him to say he’s not in love. But he didn’t like either of them enough to want to date them? I mean really, this show is more about finding someone you want to date, more than marry. So, it seemed to me (and this could be the editing) that he liked them both, so why not date after the show, to see what happens? If I went on the show that’s what it would be for me. So, that’s what I couldn’t understand and didn’t make sense to me.
Hey Steve, keep up the good work! Its really interesting behind the scenes stuff. But it seems if you get in too deep, and you care too much about the reality of the contestants, the show gets boring and kinda lame. Its actually kinda cool that they spice things up with Jason-Melissa, and Ed-Jillian. Sure, people’s feelings get hurt and that’s unfortunate, but just like Wes you always have to be watching out for numero uno. The producers did Wes a favor by making him the Bad Boy, now he is one of the memorable castmembers and can sell CD’s and become a big star. Did you really think Wes wanted to fall in love with Jillian and get married? No one on the show gets married, so Wes should be thankful he got some free publicity instead of a fake engagement. As for Brad, I don’t really feel too bad for him, yeah he should take sensitivity training because the show is about TRYING to fall in love, Not actually falling love. They give you 15 beautiful, marriage-ready women, and you reject them all. That is COLD. Give it a try, even if its fake. Everyone breaks up, but its a pity to break up when Brad never gave it a chance in real life. At least Andrew and Jen moved in together and I think they were the best couple in that they tried to make it work, even if it was for a short time.
I like how the producers have let real life issues into the story-line. Jason flip-flopping between Melissa and Molly was an exact copycat of the real-life switch with Lorenzo and Sadie, except taped. Real life is more dramatic than tv. Ed leaving for business reasons is exactly what other men are faced with who can’t take off a month of vacation days. One guy quit his job to marry Meredith and he got the boot. Don’t lose your job trying to find love on the Bachelor.
But the show is a great way to launch a career and get exposure and every contestant should be happy and milk for as much as possible. I think Jillian will get married, because she wants to get married more than she wants a tv career.
Wow there is a post now on the ABC board that has reposted something from FORT that pretty much backs up everything you have been saying Steve and more. This is really quite unbelievable. And as you have been saying ole Eddie really is not what some people thought he was. I know I never liked him from day one, but seems he was not a fave of anyone from ABC. I just wonder how ABC is going to play this one out. How long does Jillian have to pretend they are happy? This is just beyond unbelievable. Wow!!
I’ve read your column for the past 2 seasons and usually enjoy reading your sophmoric take on the show. This last article, however, didn’t sit right with me. Jillian said that they never spent more than 5 days apart from each other. Not total, Steve….just at the most 5 days between visits. 2nd…the comment about Ed’s last name. Come on, are you kidding me that you are going to go there. HIS LAST NAME, really!!! That is beyond sophmoric. Then to top it all off, you make fun of Ed’s bowl haircut. Have you looked in a mirror lately? Your forward is so large they could show a movie on it.
Stick to the show and stop making fun of people’s last name. You are offending many ethnic people with good, solid, hard working ethnic names.
Now, you are “friends” with Wes. Congratulations! He has lured you into his agenda now. Don’t you think that it is not wise to mix business with pleasure. You know why guys where boots in Texas, Steve.
Snakes, that’s why. Be careful who you are defending. He probably just using you, too!
Bye the way hope you had a good time really with Wes,party hardy,and by his interview,well Wes was a gentelman about Jilly,hope that rubs off on you…Have you had a chance to post on other boards lately?Are you as wiped out as some people?Anyway love to Maddie,she’s a doll,and have a good and thoughtful day.Thanks Bud.
Sorry,my Post didn’t show up,so will try again.I was just saying to the effect I am glad you made friends with Wes,and partied hardy…And I was saying, in Wes’s interview he was a perfect gentleman when talking about Jillian,he saw the person with the personality,go have a beer with, date.I am sure he still thinks that, and I hoped that rubbed off on you.I also asked if you have posted on other boards lately,but you must be wiped,I guess.I also sent my love to Maddie,looks like a sweetie,and I wished you a good and thoughtful day…
I cannot wait until “next week,” is here and you spill!!! After reading all that FORT info I want to hear what you have to say even more.
Hope you’ve had a chance to read the NYTimes Online story about Reality TV:
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/02/business/media/02reality.html
This helps confirm much of what you said about the Bachelor/ette shows and specifically about Wes. I appreciate your interviews and support of Wes because I listened, watched, and came to realize that while he wasn’t someone I’d seek for a friend due to my lack of interest in country music, I still found him compelling as a person trying to set the record straight.
@JLBWorld,
Have you read that piece on the ABC boards? That person used bad grammar, spelling, run-on sentences. It was a mess. It sounded more like a teenager wrote it. It was patently absurd on its face. It astounds me that all someone has to do is go on any forum and claim to be the friend of Ed’s ex-girlfriend and then make up some dumb story and, looky looky, everyone takes it as the gospel truth! I am extremely skeptical of someone who can’t even write decent English.
I just hope if Bethany hersel decides to speak up, that she is more literate than the person who wrote that ridiculous post on the ABC boards!
mindy – I am referring to what was on Fort – written by an attorney and a very credible person.
Misspelled words? You mean like hersel???