“Bachelor” Notes and Thoughts on the Ali & Roberto Breakup

I don’t know why Ali and Roberto broke up. Nor do I care. I don’t know them, and neither do you. So to hear people on Twitter and on email yesterday saying that Ali and Roberto’s breakup “ruined my day”, I mean, WOW. Ruined your day? Two people that you only know through a television screen, their breakup ruined your day? And you wonder why I make fun of most of the people who watch this show. Let me play Therapist Reality Steve for a second. If Ali and Roberto’s breakup “ruined your day”, you have some serious issues that need to be resolved. Not to mention your priorities are ridiculously out of whack. Why? If one of them were injured in a car accident or something, then yeah, that’d really suck. They broke up. Who cares? Life goes on. People break up every day. But because you watched them on TV, you think you know them to the point where their breakup affects you? I’ll never understand that in a million years. The only people whose day should’ve been ruined yesterday by the break up are Ali and Roberto and their friends and family that know them.

Here’s another one I heard a lot of yesterday, “I really thought they would be ones that make it.” Based on what? Because they made occasional appearances on other shows? Because they looked happy together in paparazzi pics? Because Ali would tweet things Roberto would say or do with her? I think fans of this show tend to put these people on a pedestal that I’ll never understand. They are regular people. Regular people, with regular relationship problems just like you or I. Not only that, this final “couple” has added pressure on them because of the track record of the show. Don’t think that doesn’t weigh on these people because it does. Ali met Roberto last March. She saw him sporadically during filming from March – May. Once the show was done taping, I believe they told Jimmy Kimmel they saw each other for 5 days straight every two weeks or so while the show was airing, so like maybe 20-25 days together. Hell, call it 30. Once the finale aired, they moved in together the next week. Lets face it, these two didn’t really know each other. None of the final couples really do, which is why the engagement at the end is preposterous. The last year to 15 months is when they actually started to get to know who the other person really is. And after all that, they decided to end things. Hey, better now than after getting married and kids getting involved, etc. I actually applaud them for ending it now and not going through with pressures of a televised wedding or whatever was to come.

Ali and Roberto are grown adults. They’ve been in relationships before, they’ll be in the relationships in the future, and there will be breakups I’m sure. I’m not trying to tell you the why’s and the how’s of their relationship, because I don’t know it. What I do know is that it’s much too coincidental that this show has produced numerous engagements in 22 seasons and only one marriage. That’s not opinion, that’s fact. I’m trying to show you that what you see on TV, and even after the fact, isn’t necessarily real. No matter how many pictures you see of the final couple together happy and kissing (which we saw plenty of with Ali and Roberto), no matter how many public events you see the final couple attend together, no matter what you think you may know about these people and their relationship, the bottom line is none of us know sh** about them. Which is why news like this doesn’t surprise me. Does it suck they broke up? Sure. I’m sure they’re great people. But other than knowing I’d have to write a column about it today, seeing the news yesterday was like, “Oh well. What’s for dinner?” But judging from the fanatics out there that I saw on Twitter and even email, I know I’m in the minority in terms of my reaction to their breakup. Take a deep breath people. It’ll be ok.

Do I think Ashley and JP are headed for the same fate? Only time will tell. I have no idea. I don’t know anything about their relationship just like 99.999999999% of America doesn’t (even though they like to think they do). I tend to think they have a better chance than others for the sole reason neither of them is thinking about a career in entertainment, as far as I know. I mean honestly, if for some reason Ashley and JP announced a breakup soon, I’m sure it would garner the same type of reaction Ali and Roberto got. “OMG, they looked so happy together!” “I really thought they were gonna make it!” “So sad, I was rooting for those two!” You know it, and I know it. All I’m here to say is we don’t know anything. And the more people try and talk about how happy they think two people are, or, how they’re perfect for each other these couples are, the more ignorant they sound. Take a step back and realize these people got engaged after six weeks on a reality show where the whole beginning of their relationship was played out in front of cameras with producers manipulating and deceiving certain situations to get the best possible drama for their show. The engagement at the end of the show means nothing. It’s just to draw viewers. The true test comes afterwards when these people enter the real world as a couple. This show is a completely ridiculous, unnatural and unrealistic way to meet your future spouse. And unfortunately, it has led to another failed couple. My day will go on. So should yours.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone and I’ll talk to you next week when I spoil the end of Ben’s season 3 ½ months before his finale airs. Can’t wait.

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9 thoughts on ““Bachelor” Notes and Thoughts on the Ali & Roberto Breakup

  1. I have a feeling Ashley and JP are going to end up the same as Ali and Roberto. She’s already saying they are “too busy” to even think about planning a wedding, but will re-think it in the new year. mmm..doesn’t sound too promising.

  2. My vote would be for the Muppets movie too, Steve! Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family. It’s supposed to be sunny and 70′s here in southern CA this weekend. Enjoy!

  3. Hi Steve…

    When “Reality Steve” puts on his “Therapist” hat..that’s the MAIN main reason I read/enjoy your site!!

    You KEEP IT REAL…no BS from you..THX for that..

    HAPPY THANKSGIVING…

  4. Not much to say about this one… except that I agree with RS about the importance of the Ali-Roberto breakup. I’m hoping for Ashley & JP to stay together, but if they don’t? It will just be a normal story coming out of Bachelor/ette land.

  5. Why did she give up a job at FB to go on this show. For the publicity. Never thought that relationship stood a chance.

  6. Wow. There is absolutely nothing wrong with people CARING about the fate of a couple whose happiness they got invested in. It doesn’t make people nuts, it makes them human.

  7. Call me a nut job, but I thought these two just might possibly get to the altar. She seemed absolutely gaga over him. I don`t give Ali that much credit for being a great actress. I bet the bloom fell off for him first in reading their body language. Well, at least they lasted for a good while! Looking forward to Bachelor despite the probable grim result.

  8. Just feel sad for ANY relationship that fails no matter who the participants are. Perhaps Ali’s ambitions got in the way of the husband and babies route and Roberto wanted the simple life. Who knows. I will wish them both happiness in the future.

    I am not looking forward to The Bachelor. Feel the upcoming season will be as lame as the previous 4 or 5.. Ben is just not attractive or interesting, but hey he gets his 15 minutes.

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