Hi Steve!
I have a question for Dr Reality Steve. I’m getting married in June and want a really awesome gift for my hubby-to-be. Any thoughts? Something sentimental but not lame & boring…
Also, was it just me, or was Jennifer F. really rude for talking about how shocked she was that Ben would want to bring Blakely home to mom ahead of her? Like, wow. I used to like Jennifer until she said that.
Comment: I’d like to just say I’m really bothered by the fact that this email broke the string of emails sent by people in college or younger. Boooooooooooooooo. Or maybe this person is in college ready to get married, but didn’t specify? Whatever the case, the ones in college or high school seem to like to identify how old they are, so when someone doesn’t, I just assume they’re older.
Make him a scrapbook. Always seems to work wonders on the “Bachelor” or “Bachelorette.” Kidding. Hmmmmm, since I’ve never been married, I’ve never really given much thought to what you should get someone or what I would want to receive as a wedding gift outside of well, you know, mouth love on our wedding night.
I’d go for something that you know he likes but doesn’t have. Or a different version or upgrade of something. Something that says you thought a little outside-the-box for it, but didn’t go overboard. As an example, if he’s a golfer, I’d get him a round at a really nice course that he’s never played before. Something along those lines. Or if you want your gift to include you, then do a bed in breakfast, or some relaxing spa day. I’d take a relaxing spa day any time. I’m a big fan of those. Of course, I’d also take playing a round at a nice course as well. I’m not sure. What’s the etiquette? Is the wedding gift you give your significant other supposed to be something you both can enjoy, or it’s a separate gift for each person for them to use on their own that has nothing to do with you as a couple, or does it have to be wedding related? I have no idea.
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Dr. Reality Steve,
Hypothetical situation: You and I are dating and you go out with Brad for drinks one night. You say you’ll be home around 10 and you don’t get home til 11. When you walk in the door I have 2 options, a) be mad that you’re late, didn’t call, and are sh–faced, b) Ask if you had a good time and go back to doing whatever I was doing before you staggered in. Why do people always choose option a? If I repeatedly chose A, next time you are out with Brad and you lose track of time, you’re going to look at your watch and realize that I’m going to scream at you and withhold sex so you’re going to have a few more drinks and hope that you pass out with your eyes open so I think you’re awake while I scream at you and accuse you of cheating on me with Brad. Really, why don’t people think about how their reaction to one situation will impact future situations?
Comment: Please don’t yell at me. It was only drinks with Brad. I’m sorry. I’ll get home earlier next time.
I think if it happens once, you let it go. Could be a myriad of things that caused someone to be an hour late. But if it’s a continuous patters, you have every right to kick him in the nuts when he walks through the door because something is up. I’ve never understood if someone is going to be late, especially if it’s over an hour, to not just check in with a text and say so. It’s why texting was invented. Nowadays, it’s pretty impossible not to get a hold of someone you want to get a hold of. Everyone has a cell phone and everyone texts. It’s not that hard. If your man does this a lot, you need to confront him on it cuz something ain’t right. But a one time occurrence? Eh. Might not be a big deal.
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Do you ever keep in contact with the people who send the Dr. Steve emails? I would love to hear what happened with the girl who washed her boyfriend’s flash drive….
Comment: No, I don’t and I probably should. I delete all the emails once the Thursday column goes up, so, if anyone has sent in a past “Dr. Reality Steve” email and wants to give an update on their situation, by all means, email me. I am kinda curious to know what happened with the woman who washed the flash drive only to find a bunch of naked pictures on it. That couldn’t have been a fun conversation to have.
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Dear Dr. Reality Steve,
First, I wanted to say something about the WTA. Though I can understand where Ben is coming from when he told Emily that he would have liked her to focus only on their relationship, I think that’s one of the things that’s wrong with the people on this show. In life, you constantly have outside things that affect your relationship and how you handle them as a couple is what makes or breaks it. You can’t constantly live in a bubble where it’s just the two of you…but whatever. Until they figure that out, all of those relationships are going to be doomed.
Anyways, this is my question:
I am a huge sports fan. I don’t just watch for the cute guys, keep up with daily news and the offseason and can hold my own in most pro-sports conversations. My problem is that every time I meet a guy and he finds out I’m a sports fan, that’s ALL he wants to talk about. Though I try to steer the conversation in other directions and talk about books and music and art, they ALWAYS bring it back to sports. And ultimately, I end up as one of their buddies, another person they can talk about football or hockey with. A lot of the time they end up asking me to hook them up with one of my friends (most of which don’t know what a touchdown is).
Some of the advice I’ve been given is to pretend that I have no interest in sports or not let on about how big of a fan I am. However, I’m not willing to “dumb” myself down in order to get a guy’s interest. Since you are a sports fan, I figured I’d get your take on it. If you find yourself in conversation with a girl who’s a sports fan, how can she get you to talk about something else so you get to know her other interests?
By the way, I am not a tom-boy by any means. I get dressed up, wear heels, do my hair, make-up, etc. Basically my only “non-feminine” quality is being a sports fan….and the fact that it takes me less than five hours to get ready for an evening out 
Any insight would be appreciated.
Comment: Any time I’ve ever been interested in someone that’s a sports fan, I just consider it a bonus because, lets face it, most women aren’t into it as much as men. Just like we don’t give a sh** about “Sex in the City” or your stupid “Twilight” obsession. If I’m with someone who’s also a sports fan, it’d bother the crap out of me if that’s what our conversations revolved around. I’d get tired of that so quickly that I’d probably lose interest. So apparently these guys are different than me in that aspect. Sure, we can talk about it on occasion, but it would never dominate the conversation. I’d poke my eyes out. This was especially the case when I was in sport-talk radio. My job revolved around sports every single day. The last thing I wanted to do at the end of my day was talk MORE sports. There’s only so much you can say before it becomes redundant.
If you’re not the tomboy type wearing jerseys, pounding beers, and screaming at the TV, I don’t know why guys keep wanting to talk sports with you. I certainly wouldn’t. And if they’re only talking sports, and not asking other questions, then unfortunately, they don’t seem to care to know any more about you, which means they probably aren’t for you anyway. Sports is a good ice breaker if you’re both into it or have favorite teams, but if that’s all he’s talking about, move on to the next guy. That guy is either too dim witted to talk about anything else, or, he’s just looking to get some ass. If he’s interested, he’ll talk and ask you about other stuff.
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Hi Dr. Reality Steve,
I’m dating this guy that is obsessed with sports. Well I love sports too and I would have thought that this is something he would like about me, but everytime I’ve asked him to hang out and watch a basketball game or whatever, he makes up an excuse about how he is going to “watch it with the guys.” What gives? (And before you ask, no, I’m not one of those girls that asks 50 million questions during the game because they don’t understand the rules or won’t stop talking and annoys the crap out of him. I’ve played various sports and grew up watching with my dad and uncles, so I know a fair amount and prefer to just sit in peace and drink a beer.)
Thanks for your insight and I really enjoy your blog.
Comment: Ok, you’re guy is just a douche then. You mean, he’ll NEVER watch with you? Sure, us guys do want to watch sports with other guys, but what if you’re the only girl in the group. Probably wouldn’t be a good time for you to hang out with him and his Neanderthal friends watching games. But if he never asks you to join, or bothers to stay home on occasion and watch it with you, well, that’s just rude. I’d just ask him, “What’s wrong with watching games with me? You never know, maybe one of these times I’ll surprise you and you can have the best of both worlds in the comforts of your own home.” Bow-chicka-bow-bow.
If he turns that down, leave his ass.
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I’m so glad Steve told his readers that there are a huge # of high school & college kids writing to him/ visiting his site. That explains so very much.
I’m going to finish out this ridiculous Ben & Courtney season…..visit again once to find out who wins Emily’s season….and then I’m done.
I just realized today…..this column/Steve is a downer.
Blah.
You rock. That’s all I’m saying.
I only wish the biggest problem in my life was the fact that a free website that I voluntarily choose to read makes me mad. And continue to go back again and again to revisit the pain. Here’s a thought, do not read the blog. Now, your biggest problem in life is solved. Man, I should charge money for this advice!
I just started reading today’s column and was surprised to read your mention of all the negative comments in your last column. Seriously people if you don’t like what Reality Steve writes then DON’T READ IT! If you have a problem with his sarcastic, condescending sense of humor then go read Chris Harrison’s blog instead. Most people come here to make fun of the show and all the people who are so obsessed with it and think it’s real. If Steve wasn’t sarcastic, funny and condescending I would never read his column every week. Keep doing what you do Steve, there will always be haters and I’m sure all the haters actually bring more traffic to your site anyway. Seriously how boring would this blog be if all you did was re-cap and not comment on any of the ridiculousness that this show is? Is that not the point of your whole blog??? I can see why you get irritated with all the stupid people out there!
Your reply is brought to you by the letter “Q” and the number, oh I don’t know….32. I think that your attitude still suck and you really need a humble pill. I too will only be visiting this site for spoilers.
Remember this from the Howard Stern movie…
Researcher: The average Howard Stern fan listens for – are you ready for this? – an hour and twenty minutes.’
Pig Vomit: ‘Okay, fine. But what about the people who hate Stern?’
Researcher: ‘Good point. The average Stern hater listens for two and a half hours a day.’
I think Reality Steve is going to be just fine
For those saying they are ONLY just going to come here for the Spoilers..this IS a spoilers site. You’re still visiting the site, you’re hopefully just not going to bombard all the fans with your negitive comments. Thanks for doing us all a favor.
karirosepink, who is upset that Steve is making fun of the show? Just wondering which comment section you’re reading. Enlighten me please. Tell me ONE.single.person who has commented that they are offended that Steve is pointing out the ridiculousness of the show. Again, you don’t get it. Dur.
Jessiesgirlie, are you really comparing Steve to Howard Stern? Seriously?
noooo im not. But there are many who have said that they are done with the site, yet they continue to come back and post. I wouldn’t be surprised if those who have claimed to be leaving the site spend more time on it then those who actually like what Steve has to say.
Just read the comments on the previous column. That’s an eyeopener.
FTR, I haven’t ever said that I’m leaving. Actually, these comments are more entertaining than Steve’s blog has EVER been. I know every single one of you posting in this comment section agrees with me even if your nose is stuck too far up Steve’s ass to admit it.
I agree with you Liz123. I also enjoy the comments more than the actual blog.
Steve needs to reach out to Emily O’Brien and see if she will write him a RealitySteve rap. This needs to happen. Plus–I have a secret thing for her.
Get on this RS.
skpfla – Totally agree with you. That’s exactly what I said on the last column.
Lots of people with too much time on their hands and obviously not enough world experience to let a little thing like a blogger’s supposedly decreasing level of humour in his posts get them down.
Ooooohhhh – there are people that are ONLY going to come here for the spoilers from now on? I’m sure Steve’s shaking in his boots while he makes his living doing something that obviously others are just jealous that they didn’t think of doing first!
For anyone who’d like a funny take on the WTA episode, go here: http://thebachelor.warnerbros.com. I hear the bloggers read and respond to the comments too. West Lee just posted a short, funny, interesting take on the WTA… so it CAN be done!
Bwahahaha!! “Not enough world experience”??? Okay, sweetheart. You have no idea. I don’t recall anybody saying that this was their biggest problem in life. I don’t recall anyone saying they were losing sleep over it. I think women just like to bitch & bicker back & forth. It’s entertaining. Obviously, you agree. You’re commenting, aren’t you? I will, however, confess to having too much time on my hands– when I’m at work that is & need a distraction from the things I do there that give me zero “world experience”. You must also have too much time on your hands b/c you are also commenting & not even on the blogger that you have some familiarity with. You’re commenting on complete & total strangers & your assessment of their life experiences… or lack thereof. Come on, pot calling the kettle black, dontchathink?
Are you guys for real? Steve sucks, he knows it, but will never admit it. And he quit his job to become a full time blogger?
And to the person that makes up a bazillion different names to post here, get a clue. When you have to put a word in all caps to make your point, at least don’t do the same thing under all the other names you have here.
Hey Steve, fine if you want to insult all of us even after all the negative comments, but really, now you’re blaming our parents? Douche!
What I’m going to start doing, and what I suggest others do, is create a google alert for “Reality Steve”. Plenty of other people read his site then write the highlights (the spoilers we care about) and that way we don’t have to read the other stuff we don’t care for. Win Win
Thanks for the link, Rita. LOVED Ashley Spivey’s picture blog. Natalie Getz’s was very entertaining also.
aatxcutie – Humor alert: IMO, the line about blaming the parents was the most hilarious one in the whole column.
I registered just to post this comment. I have been long time reader for RealitySteve. And I am so over his arrogance, attitude, and rudeness to his readers. Goodbye Steve. I’m heading over to Ashley Spivey’s blog. She is funny and witty without being rude. You could learn a thing or two from her.
I never comment but today i will. I think I made one comment about maybe putting ur videos on YouTube so that people w/iPads could watch.
#1 To the point page 2 6th email down I’m sorry does that make me crazy? (how much time did u take out of ur day to email Steve hypocrite)!
#2 if you got it flaunt it. Steve u have a great site and get the best info. Comeon now where can u go and find out the whole show before it even airs? I give u a pat on the back! ( and that doesn’t mean I have my nose up his ???)
#3 It’s thier parents fault! The funniest thing I heard all day and I completely agree.Lmao ( back to the email I guess I think I know you now and I’m crazy) ! Hehehe
Ummmm…to whomever talked about the all caps for one word, that’s common internet lingo for stressing an important point when “bold” isn’t available.
And no, I don’t have a lot of free time, so I use it wisely — friends, family, working out and reading things that I find amusing and make me laugh. Hence the reason for coming to this site. It baffles me why people will continually come back to something that makes them angry. That’s where the “no world experience” comes in. Doing the same thing over and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. Decided you’re unhappy with Steve’s style of writing? Don’t read it.
I really only have one rule in life: do things that make you happy. For me that includes reading bloggers that I enjoy. Not waste time on ideas/actions/blogs that upset me.
Oops…just broke my own rule to reply to a snarky, bitter person. There’s 90 seconds of my life I’ll never get back. Oh well. I’ll make the exception just this once.
Forget Spoilers. Forget the Vlog. Forget reader e-mails. The only reason left to come to this site is to read the comments section. So awesome. For everything else, WetPaint.
I am not sure why there are so many haters. I thought I missed something so I re-read the blog. I still do not understand where all the hate came from. There was nothing wrong with his blog.
Wait, so when someone is bitter & snarky you don’t wanna waste time on them (even though you just did?), but when Steve is bitter & snarky it’s freaking hilarious. Ooookay. Your logic is amazing. I can’t speak for anyone else, but for me, Steve’s new writing style hasn’t made me angry. If it did, I wouldn’t be back & I wouldn’t need you commenters or Steve or anyone else to tell me I shouldn’t come back. I personally just think it sucks & I have every right to say so. I hope it’s just a momentary lapse. Oh & if I only did things that made me happy, my life would probably actually suck pretty bad- I’d probably be living in a tent on a beach somewhere, I’d have no life savings, & who knows where my kids would be. Sounds like you’re pretty young & have very little “world experience” yourself if your *only* rule in life is to do what makes you happy. Sorry, I’m not taking advice on how to behave in a blogger’s comment section from someone who is probably half my age with half my life experience. Thanks, but no thanks.
Hahahaha. Half your age? Doubtful.
I too have a career, husband, kids, life savings, etc., etc. Just learned in my “short time” that some things are worth getting so upset over, and plowing through tough items should be saved for real world issues, not bitching about a blogger. You need to enjoy things and not be so uptight. Sorry that your panties are in a bunch.
Bitter and snarky [self proclaimed] laced with humour & info = enjoyable. Bitter and snarky because you feel the need to be ignorant on a message board = worth responding to. It actually makes me laugh (oops…sorry for being optimistic. Must be my “young age” showing again…LOL). I guess if I’m finding humour in all of this, I’m not actually breaking my rule after all. Sweet.
PS – cangel44: totally agree with you. I can imagine that all of these haters are the types that get over emotional when someone looks at them the ‘wrong’ way too. Didn’t see anything wrong with his posts, but then again, I’m not one to get too upset over things that don’t really matter. Even the hateful responses are funny to me…
Does it say anywhere that the comment section is for positive comments only? Didn’t think so. Bad and good feedback come with having a blog and putting it out there for people to read. Get over it.
People who get upset over negative comments are no better than those who respond negatively to Steve’s blog. We are all people and are entitled to our own opinions. If Steve didn’t want “haters” he wouldn’t have a comment thread.
He loves getting people to talk about his site. Bad publicity is better than no publicity at all.
I miss reading RS’s blog for a few days and look at what I missed! Such drama in the comment threads! I’m laughing so hard at all this bickering because I can’t believe “grown women” are bickering in the first place, on a blog about The Bachelor’s spoilers. Perhaps this is why Courtney didn’t have many girl friends as I know it’s why I don’t… you’re all so mean and catty to each other. Get a life!
I’m not going to say get a life becasue that’s just rude, but seriously people getting so bent out of shape over a blog and these comments?! That’s just crazy!! Stop it all of you! You are stessing yourself out! You are all going to get premature wrinkles and high blood pressure. Let’s just leave the comment page to just that, comments on the SHOW!!! How much of a witch Courtney is, the bad editting and slip ups. So much more fun that way! God I read all of these and first thing that came to mind was HIGH SCHOOL MEAN GIRLS!
vin233 on March 9, 2012 at 3:51 PM said:
” Doing the same thing over and expecting different results is the definition of insanity.”
Stolen right from Alcoholics Anonymous- think we know where your head it at…
I’m not going to say get a life becasue that’s just rude, but seriously people getting so bent out of shape over a blog and these comments?! That’s just crazy!! Stop it all of you! You are stessing yourself out! You are all going to get premature wrinkles and high blood pressure. Let’s just leave the comment page to just that, comments on the SHOW!!! How much of a witch Courtney is, the bad editting and slip ups. So much more fun that way! God I read all of these and first thing that came to mind was HIGH SCHOOL MEAN GIRLS!
Awww. we’re just poking fun and insulting one another like our great sarcastic leader, RS. ROFL!
The thing is, I’m actually not getting upset or angry at all. And I’m not a “hater”. I don’t hate anyone at all, actually– especially people I don’t know. I rather enjoy the back & forth in the comment section or I wouldn’t participate in it. I dislike some of the ways in which Steve’s writing has changed, but that does not equal anger to me. And as far as being angry about the comments here- nah, it’s not my style. And, like I said, I rather enjoy the back & forth & the debate. I’m not sure if you & I define ignorant the same way (i.e., uneducated), but if we do I’m not sure what qualifies you or anyone else to comment on a stranger’s level of education based on a few paragraphs in a comment section.*That’s* how a true mean girl behaves. Congrats. You’re in the club.
Oh & I think you’re mistaking me for someone else, vin2333. That or you just felt the need to say something untrue to have a reason to make another snide comment toward me. I haven’t been bitter or had my panties in a bunch at all- not towards you or Steve or anyone else. All I’ve said is that his new writing style is not as good as it used to be & I don’t enjoy it as much as I used to & his constant self congratulations is getting old. Those are really fairly minor things to say. If that’s bitter & snarky, then your world must be filled with unicorns shitting rainbows where everything you encounter is positive & covered in glitter. Can I come to glitter/unicorn/rainbow land with you?!?! (Don’t even try to deny it. That made you laugh- at least a little. Now can I be in the bitter and snarky [self proclaimed] laced with humor & info club?) And don’t call me ignorant when you’re the one who added an extra ‘u’ to the word humor, thanks.
I’ve been loving your site since you spoiled ATFR for Jason’s season. I’m shocked Courtney and Ben aren’t doing publicity after the show, especially Courtney. Although I remember Melissa Rycroft saying she wasn’t doing any publicity after Ellen and People, but she ended up on Dancing with the Stars and still won’t go away.
Haha, you did make me laugh liz123, on several occasions. Partly ‘cuz of your funny rainbows comment, and partly ‘cuz you took such offense to an initial comment that was never directed at you. After you replied, I replied, and so forth…don’t know why you felt the need to jump all over me in the first place.
The funniest part? That you accused me of being ignorant, but are obviously unaware that many countries in the world outside of the US use different spellings for many words. Here in Canada, “humour” has a u…thanks to our British heritage.