-As for the ATFR, it pretty much played out like I had explained it would, minus one thing that I will clear up. I guess we know now why I never got any info on Lindzi on the hot seat – because she never was. Definitely have never seen that before, but she’s already been on three talk shows in less than 24 hours, so people are hearing where she’s at anyway. Honestly, did you really want to see 10 minutes of Ben and Lindzi talking about their breakup last night? Of course you didn’t. You wanted to get right into the Ben and Courtney stuff and where they were at, which is what they did. Smart. There was really no point in bringing Lindzi on during a season that was so focused on Ben and Courtney’s relationship, plus the after effects of having them be ripped apart in the media for the last four months.
-Of course whoever agrees to go on this show opens themselves up to whatever criticism they get because that’s what you’re signing up for. I say that every season. With that said, I think the most unrealistic thing about this show, and the reason why most of these couples never make it, is because of how ridiculous the concept is. Not only are you proposing to someone you barely know and have spent very little time with over a six week period, but also, you have to carry on this “private” relationship while the show is airing, where you STILL can’t really get to know them outside of a few safehouse visits with each other. That’s just not normal. And relationships that start under such ridiculous circumstances usually just don’t work out. And in Ben and Courtney’s case, they basically have everything working against them – the show’s track record, the fact he chose the woman most of America doesn’t like, the tabloid fodder, etc. Having to go 4 months after a proposal before you can go public about your relationship, and not being able to talk about it would be hard on anybody. You could tell that after four months of having to endure the beating both of them have taken on Twitter, Facebook, the tabloids, the internet, those two basically were just a mess last night.
-I gotta imagine it definitely is more of a relief now that they can talk about things and carry on like any normal couple would. I mean, Ali and Roberto didn’t get any media backlash when her season was airing. It was mostly positive stuff. But when your fiancé is getting crucified by the media for 4 months straight and you can say a word publicly to defend her, not to mention everyone hating you because you chose this woman, I don’t care how secure you are with each other, that HAS to take its toll on a relationship. Without a doubt. And in their case, it certainly did as Ben pulled away and was very distant at times since Decemeber. There’s absolutely no need for them to come out and defend their relationship publicly, which they’ve stated they are not going to do. They will be on the cover of “People” this week with their story, but after that, I’ve been told they will not be media whores and put their face in front of any camera that wants to talk to them. I can see just Courtney or the both of them doing “Ellen” because Ellen has publicly called out Courtney and wants her on the show, not to mention, if you want to repair your image, that’s the show you want to go on. Women love Ellen. And if Ellen changes her tune on Courtney, most of her lemmings will also. But outside of appearing on “Ellen,” I don’t expect to see these two doing any more interviews. Of course, that’s while they’re together. If/when they break up, I’m sure both of them will chirp.
-As for the idea that these two broke up, I’m sorry, but I don’t buy it. I think that was played up more for the show than what actually happened in real life. As I mentioned around Valentine’s Day, things definitely were “complicated” and these two were having their issues from everything I was told. That was never disputed. However, I don’t believe a break up actually ever happened. I’m sure they were told to make it sound like a breakup when it was more of, “What’s going on here, lets figure this out” kind of deal. But to say absolutely Courtney received a phone call that said, “We’re not a couple anymore, the engagement if off, we’re breaking up” – I don’t believe that to be true. They played it up for the cameras last night for television effect. They struggled, Ben pulled away at times in the last four months, Courtney probably did wonder what the hell was going on, but I was told at no point was there ever a break up. So when I see them say there was on TV last night, makes me just think they were told to play it up for the cameras. Just listen to everything else Ben said last night. When he says things like, “There was never anything wrong with us. What’s wrong was everything surrounding us” it’s obvious that meant they both were overwhelmed by all the negative publicity, and it seemed that Ben handled it poorly at times. But if there was never anything wrong with them, there’d be no need for them to break up.
-I think these two have a hell of a road ahead of them. 15 previous “Bachelor” seasons and not ONE of the “Bachelors” has ever married the final girl he chose. Hell, only 4 of the 15 “Bachelors” have ever gotten married period, let alone to anyone on this show (Aaron, Firestone, Bob, and Jason). I said it at the beginning of the season, and I’ll say it again: Knowing what we know about Ben Flajnik, do you really think THIS guy will be the first one to do so? I don’t think so either. But good luck, and my offer still stands as it does every season. Any final couple that actually ends up getting married from this show, I will buy them a gift off their wedding registry. I’ve only had to do it once so far since I started with the offer, and that was to Jason and Molly. Although it certainly looks like I need to start saving for Ashley and JP’s wedding, no doubt. I’ve got no problem with that. If they prove me wrong, by all means, I will gladly eat crow and get them a gift. Ben and Courtney? Lets just say I probably won’t be needing to shop at Williams & Sonoma or Crate & Barrel anytime soon. But hey, stranger things have happened in this franchise. You never know.
Thanks to everyone this season who stuck by me and never doubted what I told you back in December. Means a lot. Those who hoped I was wrong, wanted me to be wrong, tried to prove that I was wrong – sorry you wasted your time. Probably want to find something better to do. Already in spoiler mode for next season, hopefully I will have an update on the lawsuit for you shortly, but as I’ve said all along, things will continue as normal on this site. I ain’t going anywhere.
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