I’ve been reading your blog since Ali’s season, not for long, but I’ve already have loads of stuff I wanted to tell you so much that I took the time to email you. This is mainly because I cannot stand you already. You may say, haters hate, nothing you can do about it. But the point is, you are close to nothing without spoilers, and if you weren’t so full of yourself in past years, everyone would have given you a break. The reality is that you brag continuously over past seasons about how ‘accurate’ you are, how ‘quick’ you got your information, how ‘confident’ you are with your behind-the-scenes scoop. By only following you for a few seasons, you were wrong 2 times already (Ali’s and Brad’s seasons). I tried to trust you that Chantal is the winner, but I could not ignore the undeniable chemistry between Emily and Brad, and it turned out that I was right. Emily was the winner. Aha.
Fast forward to now. you claimed that you were the No. 1 spoiler of The Bachelor Series. Do you realize that without the ending of Emily’s season UNTIL HTD, you are really a lousy spoiler. I get that you are afraid to be wrong, but LOVE_ME beats you, and you CANNOT deny that in any way. All that crap about ”if you don’t put your name under your spoiler, you’re simply nothing.” Point is, they got that Ali chose Roberto, they got that Brad chose Emily, and now they got that Emily chose Jef and Arie went home in F3 LONGGGGGGG before you spoiled the same thing weeks ago. Say whatever you want, but they HAVE put the name behind the spoiler, just not as cocky as you, or as infamous as you as a spoiler.
I’ve been reading your recaps and spoilers, and they frustrate the hell outta me. Simply because if you HAD the spoilers, you would brag incessantly about them. If you don’t, you tried VERY hard to defend yourself that it’s NORMAL to not have the spoilers. I really can’t take your ‘hater’ attitude in your recaps too. If you say haters hate no matter what, you definitely are a BIG hater yourself. You are jealous of the men who got the girls, you also hate whoever who did not give a sh*t about you. Let’s say, you dislike Jef and love Sean. This is simply because Sean gives a sh*t about you and Jef doesn’t. You don’t get why Jef is loved by many, and it’s totally okay. I don’t get the ‘hotness’ of Roberto anyways. The difference is that I won’t keep on picking on Roberto like you did on Jef, and keep on restating that he doesn’t appeal to you, you don’t get it, you don’t see him and Emily together, Sean is a humanitarian ten times better than him, he’s a plagiarist, blah blah blahhhhhhhhh. I don’t see the appeal of Sean also, but I won’t act like you. What is the difference between a kid and you? Except the fact that you’re 37 years old.
I also stopped reading your recaps because they are not funny at all, and they annoyed me as I stated before. You may say, if you hate me so much, why read them? Sure, I am a Bachelorette fan, so I would read a lot of recaps to get the inside scoop. I still trust your spoilers, so I go to your site to find spoilers. Unfortunately, you have NOTHING on the show now. You’ve lost your appeal. What a pity.
You are also a narcissist. Why is that? It is simply because you will only post emails from your avid readers, make fun of people who genuinely believes in you and give a shit to email you, and ignore other emails. Enough about bragging that everyone loves you. No, this is not the case. And for god’s sake, read your comments. They are not from haters, but from people who genuinely cares about you and gives constructive criticisms to you on how to become a better man. If you do not wish to become a better man, it’s fine. But you’ll gradually lose your readers one by one, until no one cares about you anymore. In the entertainment industry, any feedback is good. Indifference is the worst reaction. I hope you bear this in mind.
This is exactly what I wrote this person back…
There’s no point even to bother emailing you back and ripping this whole email apart sentence by sentence. I disagree w pretty much everything you say.
But whatever. It’s all right. Continue to hate every single cell in my body (which you obviously do by reading what you just wrote), and I’ll continue to do what I do.
I can’t believe it bothers you so much that I get attention for spoiling this show. Ahhhhh it’s great, isn’t it?
You should probably get over it because it’s not changing anytime soon.
Have a wonderful life, you seem like such a wonderful person, and keep reading. I know you will.
Steve (hey look, I actually signed my name)
And here’s their response…
Do I hate every cell of your body? No. Like I said, I’m not a hater. I just wrote you the email because it’s been building up on my mind every time I read your blog, until I stopped reading your recaps as I stated. Will you get it? Seems no.. but whatever.
Anyway, have a good day too. You seem to be a person who will only believe in what you believe in. Good luck for that.
Comment: I think my favorite part of her response? “Like I said, I’m not a hater.” Uhhhh, what? You just spent five paragraphs telling me how much you disliked me with zero facts to back up anything you said, not to mention half the stuff is just flat out wrong. I guess their definition of hater is quite different than mine. Totally ridiculous email that I literally could shred to pieces one sentence at a time, but it’s not worth my time. It’s a no-win situation when I get an email like this. You cannot win with people like this. No matter what I write in return, they will come back with more nonsense and it’ll never end. If I respond and obliterate anything they say, then I’m being touchy and defensive. If I don’t, they assume that everything they said is accurate and I’ve got nothing to defend myself with. Bottom line? Don’t care. Let them say what they want.
Safe to say that person just flat out doesn’t get me or my column. And takes me waaaaaaaay too seriously. But hey, they’re reading and will continue to read, no matter what they say. Good to know I have that sort of effect on someone. Must be doing something right.
Love your site, it makes my workdays bearable! Just have one quick question…during the rose ceremonies do they put tags on the roses with the guys names on them? I realize its probably not necessary when there are 10 or less guys but for the first few ceremonies when there are so many guys? I’ve just noticed how the bachelor or bachelorette seem to kind of stare down at the rose each time and didn’t know if it was producer manipulation or if the roses were tagged!
Comment: Ahhhh, I skip a week of doing “Reader Emails” and I return to this. Until the end of time, whether I answer that question in every since “Reader Email” bag, or if I put it into a FAQ page, no matter what, it will be asked to me at some point until this show finally goes off the air. And then when it does, I’ll still get asked it by someone watching this show on a re-run.
I’ve been watching Emily’s season with more focus than a lion hunts its prey. So a few questions that will help me sleep better at night:
1) for the first time in my opinionated history of watching the show, I don’t want the see any of the three remaining guys go. (ok that’s not a question) Jeff and Arie though seem to be good friends. Don’t you feel it’s unnatural for there to be such camaraderie when they’re in direct competition?
2) all the families “love” her – all the families feel like she’s a good fit for their sons. Is this scripted? They all start off skeptical and then BAM they’re convinced she’s it. Arie’s mom is straight up scary.
3) do the guys see their families once they are home or are they seeing them for the first time when they walk in with Emily
4) jef’s parents not being there is suspicious. I’m thinking they don’t want to be involved with the nonsense, especially of they’re Christian do-gooders. Any info on that?
5) is Sean’s family from highland park? They didnt give off a bourgeoise vibe but holy hell that house!
6) who’s your personal favorite of the last three standing?
Comment: 1) No. Every season most of these people become friends. Not unnatural at all.
2) That’s television for you.
3) They are seeing them for the first time when they walk in the door.
4) They are Mormon Mission leaders in South Carolina. Guess they were busy.
6) I think if you’ve read anything I’ve written in the last 2 months, you’d know that I thought Sean was the most suitable one for her. But it’s not my choice.
I’d like to address the Crackle ads: Get a better browser whiners! I have ZERO problem with the ads. My totally free non high tech browser keeps me from having to deal with ads / popups. If you guys don’t have the first clue about how to make the internet a positive experience for yourselves, go to the library or nearest grocery store and pick up a magazine in the checkout aisle. Think about it like driving, if you don’t know how to drive a stick, you’re going to end up miserably puttering down the road (and in my way). Do yourselves (and me) a favor and just get an automatic transmission / US Weekly.
Comment: Since Tuesday, I haven’t gotten any emails from people regarding the Crackle ad so maybe it’s gotten better. Not sure. We’re working on it, but in all honesty, here’s my dilemma: I’ve probably gotten a total now of 15-20 emails from people who have said the Crackle ad has popped up while they’re reading. Sure, it seems to be annoying some people and I wish it would go away, but when 15-20 people have emailed me on it, and then I look at how many people read the column, I mean, we’re talking such a minute percentage of the overall audience, that it’s tough to justify this being a major problem. I wish it wasn’t there, and my webmaster and I wish we could figure out where the hell it was coming from, but other than it being a nuisance for a few people, I don’t know what else I can do. It hasn’t affected my overall readership, I’ve never had it happen to me, my webmaster has never had it happen to him, and we’re on the site more than anyone else. I don’t know what else I can do. We’re trying to get rid of it, but when we can’t produce the ad ourselves, we’re kinda stuck.
So glad to finally see the ending here! I have to say that I think for once, I actually approve of all 3 finalists. Good to see cry baby Chris finally go…
What I’m really writing to say: Considering that Lindzi spent so much time in a relationship with a guy who dumped her via a text message, can we really be surprised that she has a taste for D-bags? She was probably drawn to Kalon like a fly to rotting road kill. Sweet sweet stupid Lindzi….
Comment: If I’m Lindzi, I’m mortified by the way the guy has been acting since the show ended. Kalon is a character. He’s doing stuff just to get a rise out of people and playing up the “character” from the show. If that’s the type of guy she wants to date, so be it. But he’s been a complete ass. I know, I know. All the Bachelor Pad 3 contestants love the guy now, tweet him all the time how much they love him and “he’s not the guy you saw on Emily’s season” blah blah blah. Well, he sure is acting like it. Go look at those two tweets regarding Emily he posted. He’s an ass. Just let it go, dude. Once Bachelor Pad is over, no one will care about him anymore.
And by the way, the incessant tweets from Bachelor Pad 3 cast members about all their inside jokes from the show is a bit ridiculous. I don’t see the point. Just sayin.
This is probably a weird question but I’m wondering if you’ve ever noticed the creepy way Arie makes out with Emily. It’s personally awkward for me to watch. He moves around his shoulders all feminine like, and sticks out his lips as if he’s really trying to avoid their teeth hitting. And that drawn out lip smacking sound they make at the end of every make out session, just makes me wanna turn the other way. I never noticed this until after their first date together, because their first kiss was pretty nice, but the rest after that just made me squirm a little. Just a random thought! Have a good one!
Comment: Never really paid much attention to it.