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“Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” & No Live Video Blog Tonight

Not as big of a “Reader Email” bag today. Although I did receive a lot of response in regards to Tuesday’s column, a lot of it was just support and “keep your head up” emails. I appreciate those. I just don’t need to re-print them. You know, kinda like how some people out there re-tweet every single positive thing someone tweets to them – I don’t do that. Just know that I got all your emails and I’m thankful you saw my side.

Hi Steve,

I was just curious why you thought no one at the ATFR focused on the hypocritical side to Emily, such as – when she watched Brad’s season play back, she called him every week berating and ranting at him about the “material” he provided to the cameras week-to-week, how he went on more fun dates with Chantal, seemed remotely interested in Shawntel etc. Even though Brad was ga-ga over Emily the entire season, their relationship started out so rocky and negative due to her immaturity while watching the show. He’d have to answer/explain to her each week, send her gifts each week, pre-emptively call her and tell her how much he loved her each week, how sorry he was each week, explain the tabloids and so on. That would “poke” anyone. It was exhausting to hear about and watch on the ATFR. THEN, she becomes the Bachelorette, gives more material than I’ve probably ever seen from a Bachelorette, Jef watches the season maturely and doesn’t give her any grief (which is a big reason they are all happy, in love and smiles today because he could have been a big pain in the ass about how Emily and Arie were when together all over eachother) yet no one referenced how lucky Emily was/is that Jef didn’t act like such a brat like her!

Also, Emily’s big thing after the Bachelor season was how she was so beat down by the paparazzi, wanted a normal life for Ricki and herself, couldn’t travel with Brad because she has a daughter blah blah blah. And here we are, and all Jef and her have done are media spots all last week, no problems with paparazzi any longer, are traveling the world (to LA, NYC, Ghana) and no Ricki??!!! Emily either matured, or she is full of it. She poured out this sob story about her and Brad’s breakup and the challenges of the paparazzi, so we wouldn’t think she was the cold bitch she was on the ATFR last season, all to set herself up to be the Bachelorette. Bottom line, when she actually likes the guy (like Jef), she will travel back-to-back-to-back, she will do media, she will drop Ricki for weeks no problem (which is fine and understandable for the chance to be with the love of her life) but she was full of crapola back during Brad’s season.

And it overall bothers me that no one has pointed this out to her or about her. Oh and PS. I also love that she CLAIMS she’d love to uproot and start over in AZ or in SLC and here we are, Jef is moving to Charlotte. Of course he is, because she was full of it regarding wanting to move too! She always says she will move, but when it comes down to it, she won’t in a million years!

Comment: Soooooooooo, you’re sayin’ you’re a big Emily fan, huh?

This is totally random, BUT….

Can you imagine how great it would be if Bachelor Pad only had nice people on the show? Here’s how I imagine it playing out:

[Chris Harrison pauses for a moment. He stares at Ames and Kiptyn with his sorrowful eyes.]

Chris Harrison: “Ames…Kiptyn. There’s one rose left tonight. One of you will stay and one of you will go.”
[Thirty second pause as super dramatic rose ceremony music plays.]

Chris Harrison: “Ames, you are safe.”

[Ames buries his head in his arms in despair. He looks to Kiptyn and gives him a hug before going up to get the rose.]

Ames: “I can’t accept this rose. Kiptyn deserves to be here. Let him have to rose.”
[Kiptyn’s jaw drops along with everyone else’s.]

Kiptyn: “Thank you for the kind gesture, Ames…but I can’t accept your offer.”
[Ames puts his finger to Kiptyn’s lip.]

Ames: “Shush, child. I insist you take this rose and compete as hard as you can. You will do fine and I am confident that you will go on to win this.”

[Kiptyn sheds a tear as he embraces Ames in a bear hug. Doves fly in the background while instrumental music plays.]

Kiptyn: “Bro’s for life.”

[Hand hug.]

End scene.

Comment: What a boring show. No one would watch.

Steve –

Did you notice Jef’s Twitter bio says, “Mr. Emily Maynard”? How many weeks do you think it took him to come up with that one? Do you think he got it from an e-card?

Comment: He really changed his Twitter bio to that? Hold on, let me check. (Checking Twitter). Yep, he did. Wow. I guess we see who wears the pants in that relationship. I wonder how many times he’s already had to spend a weekend on his “Honey Do” list? So when Jef inevitably buys her a Chanel bag, will it come equipped with his balls already in it, or no? They’ve been engaged 3 months (known each other for 5), and she’s completely emasculated him already. Outstanding.

Hello Steve, I’ve been a reader and fan of yours since Jason’s season. I have a question for you. You’ve stated that Emily O’Brien was your favorite Bachelor contestant ever, and made it obvious that you had a crush on her. You also shared that you contacted her and offered to pay her for information. Not judging you, just stating facts. I’ve often wondered if you regret not using that opportunity to ask her out instead. Maybe you did. I hope so. I assume that ship has sailed, but I thought your feelings for Emily were very sweet.

Comment: No, because when I sent that email, I didn’t know her. I would never ask somebody out that I didn’t know. I sent that email after she got back from filming and six weeks before the first episode even aired. I didn’t have a clue about her yet. It wasn’t until I started watching the show that I started to like her more and more.

Hey Steve,

I’ve been reading your spoilers and recaps since Jason’s season and look forward to tuning in a couple times a week for laughs and eye-rolls.

Speaking of eye-rolls, I’m assuming you’ve seen the article on regarding Cassie Lambert’s wedding and seen the attached photo.

I can’t help but feel sorry for these people that appear to be living in a plastic pseudo reality-show type world. Wouldn’t one pause to consider whether or not recently divorced Chris Harrison would be the best choice as celebrant? REALLY? And calling it a “star-studded event” with the likes of Ben Flajnik and Casey Shteamer?! Who are we kidding? And who is the mountain man in the middle?

I couldn’t help but also chuckle at the “Bachelor Experience” featured on last night’s Bachelor Pad episode at Madame Tousseau’s. Those poor people walking in to find “big name Bachelor stars” like Tony and the curly-haired guy whose name I can’t bother to learn. I just love that Rachel finds herself such a huge celebrity. Michael, on the other hand, is HYSTERICAL. His ITMs are golden. Regardless of how much I love to hate this show, it’s incredibly entertaining on SO many levels.

Thanks for doing what you do– keep up the sarcasm!!!

Comment: The “mountain man” in the middle is producer, Elan Gale. He’s there because he’s friends with Cassie and Pete and, most importantly, has been dating Casey Shteamer for the last few months. I made a subtle reference to it in a column a couple weeks ago. No one seemed to pick up on it though.

Why was Casey S invited to Cassie’s wedding over the weekend? I didn’t know they were friends. I just thought it was kind of weird being that most of the bachelor people that were invited to that wedding were former leads. Casey S wasn’t nor was she a big part of the show during Ben’s season. I just would assume other people that are considered “more popular” in the franchise would be invited as oppose to Casey.

Comment: Read my answer above.


When this season of Bachelor Pad started I thought the “fans” gimmick was a terrible idea, if only because I figured they’d probably pick people who’d act like morons (which has largely been the case, with David as a possible exception).

Sure enough, the former contestants have steadily picked off the fans, episode by episode. But what’s been fascinating to watch is the invisible social barrier that seems to exist between the fans and the former contestants. The former contestants really just won’t accept the legitimacy of the fans, and at one point I turned to my wife and said, “I think I figured this out. These former contestants really think they are TV stars.” It’s pretty amazing to watch. The “fans” are all excited to be there and are just trying to navigate the awkwardness of the spotlight and the cliques they are trying to penetrate. The former Bachelor(ette) contestants are almost territorial, like mini-Kardashians defending their allotted camera time.

It’s as if all of them have been “changed” (like an underground society, Twilight style) and live in a parallel universe where their endless hookups, petty jealousies, and overindulged personalities (could Chris be a bigger douchebag if he tried?) actually matter. They think they matter. They think they are culturally relevant. They think they are building a public persona. It’s amazing. Stagliano’s kiss of Donna (fulfilling a fantasy for her?? What are you Matt Damon now?), Ed’s pious insistence that he really cares about people, the stage 5 creeper’s a nut house of overweening ambition and self-regard.

Watching this show makes me think of the Disney movie Wall-E, where in the futuristic world everyone is an overfed lardass confined to a lounge chair, except with Bachelor Pad the morbid obesity that is created is mental, not physical.

Oh, and as for the Erica Rose thing—they can all go screw themselves. Keep doing what you do. Everyone already sees her for who she is anyway.

Comment: Interesting. So this show and it’s characters can kinda be like “Inception” as well, but way less confusing.

Look, I’ve said it a million times. A lot of these contestants become changed once they’ve been on the show. They get a taste of the Hollywood life, and they think it’ll last forever, when in reality, it basically never does. They all want to hold on to something that really wasn’t there. It’s sad to see. I applaud those who basically disappear from it once it’s all over. I don’t think some of these people realize how it’s not that big of a deal anymore that you were on a reality show. Look at how many channels are on TV now. Look at how many of those channels have reality shows. It’s astronomical compared to what it was 5-10 years ago.

If you want to book a couple local appearances where you live and make some cash that way, that’s great. Most of them are bigger deals in their hometowns than they are on a national scale, so it actually makes sense to do appearances where you live. But to move to LA or NY to start an entertainment career just because you were on a reality show is mind boggling. And plenty of them have done it.

The worst part is, based on stuff I hear and what I read on Twitter, none of these people have thick enough skin to make it in Hollywood. The second someone tweets something negative about them, it gets their panties in a wad and they’re calling tabloids trying to beg them to run positive stories. You’re gonna let some no name who has 2 followers on Twitter bother you? What happens when you get to Hollywood and every audition you go on you fail? These people absolutely have lost touch with reality when it comes to this show.

Now, I’m not saying ALL of them have. There are still a few in the group with a good head on their shoulders, but, that group seems to be getting smaller and smaller every season they turn out new contestants. It’s all about who can get the most Twitter followers, who can get the biggest fan base, and how can they market themselves the best. That can only last for so long. The minute the next season starts up, no one cares.

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  1. elisabethwest

    August 9, 2012 at 10:32 AM

    Steve, it never ceases to amaze me that, as a person of a pretty opposite demographic to you, a 24 year old married female, I always agree exactly with your advice. Love it.

  2. barbararap

    August 9, 2012 at 10:46 AM

    Is that Courtney on the left in the wedding photo? She doesn’t look like her model self. Is this the result of a funky camera lens or has she has a physical transformation?

  3. dreamchi

    August 9, 2012 at 11:10 AM

    just glanced at the first page here, & haha! steve seems to think that it’s some kind of feather in his cap that he’s “befriended” any of the dbs that appear on this asinine show. he’s glad that erica rose didn’t deny their friendship? hahahahahah. i’d think he’d be ashamed of his atrocious taste in “friends.” really, the guy is delusional & pathetic. not to mention dishonest & exploitative. (trying to pay off contestants for info & lying to his readers about it to get donations…). hahahahah. steve & this show truly deserve each other. hahahah.

  4. nobody1

    August 9, 2012 at 11:43 AM

    Stevo, I can’t believe you had nothing to say to the Emily hater in the first email. The person writing that email took the time to write a very accurate representation about that fraud ass fame whore bitch and you can’t think of a single thing to say?

  5. Dianne

    August 9, 2012 at 12:05 PM

    @nobody, what’s to say? The person that sent that e-mail obviously has a hate-on for Emily, as you obviously do also; Steve doesn’t, end of story.

  6. jillbeau

    August 9, 2012 at 12:35 PM

    Anyone know who’s in the picture from People magazine between Casey Shteamer and Deanna? I don’t recognize him.

  7. rollingeyes

    August 9, 2012 at 12:53 PM

    Wow, when did dreamchi become such a “hater”?

  8. steffy

    August 9, 2012 at 12:57 PM

    Nobody is talking about the elephant in the room. Does this mean that RS won’t be able to provide ABC Bachelor spoilers anymore without risking serious financial lawsuits?

  9. caitlyn

    August 9, 2012 at 1:16 PM

    Wow, Steve, you must be getting old. Thought you, of all people, would see Jef’s sense of humor/snark more clearly. It’s hilarious that he changed his bio on Twitter. It takes a really confident guy in the relationship and sure of his masculinity to do that. You, the King of Snark and it went right over your head. WTF??

  10. elizabeth82

    August 9, 2012 at 1:41 PM

    @jillbeau, it’s Chris Harrison.

    @barbararap, probably just the camera angle.

    Elan Gale and Casey S. make an odd couple! Steve said no one picked up on his comment alluding to them a couple weeks ago–I think he does read the comments and I don’t know why he doesn’t just admit it. 😉

    Sounds like Erica did something shady to Steve but why would he want to be friends with her in the first place?

  11. bigfatwoman

    August 9, 2012 at 1:43 PM

    To the person who wrote in about Emily being contradictory —-

    We all contradict ourselves…..that’s life. I’m sure Emily’s relationship with Brad was night and day different than her relationship with Jef.

    Different people either bring out our insecurities or bring us to be our best. I’m sure glad every conversation I have if recorded would make me one big contradiction.

    Kinda like proclaiming to have no money and having a cleaning lady.

  12. bigfatwoman

    August 9, 2012 at 1:47 PM

    And! I forgot to say —- Jef has not been emasculated by calling himself Mr. Emily Maynard.

    He’s quietly confident and comfortable in his own skin. You could take a lesson or two Steve.

    You are seriously juvenile sometimes. Late 30’s are you? C’mon….Jef’s in love.

  13. randais

    August 9, 2012 at 4:41 PM

    ZZZZZZZZZZZ = emails
    I can’t even be bothered to TRY and read them.

    Any other BB fans? Did you hear this:

  14. nobody1

    August 9, 2012 at 5:32 PM

    @BFW: Surely you don’t really believe this “quietly confident and comfortable in his own skin” shit. Queen B Emily rules their roost. Jeff can’t even take a dump without getting her permission first. Emily is far bigger baggage than her daughter could ever be.

    A friend I work with is in the same boat…. pussy whipped to the max. The man is 47 and never had any desire to EVER have any kids the entire 20 plus years I have known him. New wifey comes along and demands a kiddo….. they’re due next month. Now he’s screwed into devoting another 18 plus years to the job after already giving 18.

    This is only the beginning of the misery Jeff is going to have to endure

  15. bigfatwoman

    August 9, 2012 at 6:07 PM

    Ray of Sunshine + Misogynist = Nobody1

  16. nobody1

    August 9, 2012 at 6:19 PM

    You’re wrong…. I love women. But I can’t stand that hypocritical celebrity wanna-be.

  17. pumpkin

    August 9, 2012 at 7:14 PM

    I thought Jef’s “Mr. Emily Maynard” was adorable and sweet.
    I don’t care how high maintenance Emily is in some ways. I think she is sweet and loving (you can tell by the way she treats her child) and I think Jef is loving as well and likes to give her props.

  18. bachelorandbachelorettefan

    August 9, 2012 at 7:24 PM

    Just because I wrote a factual email about Emily’s confusing actions doesn’t mean I’m a hater. I am literally shocked how most people surrounding this show get beat down over the smallest of things, but yet she has taken everyone on this roller coaster of behavior and never been questioned. Its weird. She’s untouchable! I wish she’d just stop dancing around the excuses and just admit that Brad and her weren’t a good match rather than her what sounds good and makes her look better answers. Because she has proven that when she IS a good match with a man, she has a lot more flexibility with paparazzi, travel, being away from Ricki, partying etc. Yes, everyone is hypocritical in their life, but within the same year about such big life decisions (including your daughter) is very strange to me. I rooted for Emily during the Bachelor season and afterward and was excited that she was the Bachelorette. But I think she has pulled one over on alot of us. Yes, she has a good heart, and is a good mom, but she decided to go into the public eye and preach her beliefs post-Brad break-up. I don’t care that she decided to be the Bachelorette, I care that she isn’t owning up to her actions and thanking the lord that she got together with a better/bigger person than her during her season. Because if she’d had picked herself, they would have been constantly fighting the last couple months! 😉 In my opinion, she lets her immaturity shine at times – not her insecurities, although she has those too – but her immaturity. Calling a guy incessantly the night your show airs to yell at him about went on during the show is off. She’s a lucky lady!

  19. duckquack

    August 9, 2012 at 7:32 PM

    steve’s site is full of popup’s time to make more money…
    he lied to you all saying he never bought information, and you all buy his bs…
    telling him not to trust erica, lol….why should they trust steve that he wants to be their friend for real, and not be looking for bachelor information from them?

    he got plenty of info. from them and every body knows who they were…like he says he couldn’t care less about these people on the show, he just wants to make fun of them…so all of them friends he had he asked for information…he is no friend either, and you are defending a guy who told you nothing but lies while you donated money for his lazy butt…..he is no better than they are, one paid the other for favors.

  20. Dianne

    August 10, 2012 at 5:02 AM

    @nobody1 – did you forget to take your happy pill? Geesh..get real already. So, who cares if you don’t love Emily, I myself don’t like her much, but I do think her and Jef (with one f, pal, not two) are a good the saying goes, opposites attract.

  21. Dianne

    August 10, 2012 at 5:04 AM

    @rollingeyes – dreamchi is just trying to stir the pot, yet again. Just ignore her and maybe she’ll go away.

  22. daisy1a

    August 10, 2012 at 6:31 AM

    @bachelorandbachelorettefan – I don’t hate Emily either and think your statements are spot on. Good Job!

  23. khaki

    August 10, 2012 at 8:10 AM

    @Steffy, there is no elephant in the room. He addressed it. He has said it won’t stop him. In this very blog posting he wrote that he will spoil the final ending once they go back to taping. Basically, everything that has already happened is off limits because he can’t prove what he already knew before Erica Rose spilled the beans. Everything new is fair game. I’m sure he’s going to have a battle on his hands from now on. They will try to dissect his every spoiler and look for possible ties to cast or crew member sources.

    @duckquack, if you have popups, you have a lousy browser. I rarely see any of the ads on this site. Never once have I had popup or redirect. Right now, there is one tiny AT&T ad on the right side of the screen, and that is probably due to the fact that I have AT&T so my browser probably doesn’t know it’s an ad because I already have their site in my favorites list.

    So, try getting a browser that actively blocks ads and popups. I use Maxthon. Google Chrome also works well. It’ll make your internet experience a lot smoother. Welcome to the 21st century.

  24. jazzmine

    August 10, 2012 at 9:03 AM

    @bigfatwoman – I really liked your comments.

    I’m not crazy about the mr. emily maynard; however, it’s a compliment to her and he’s in love, as BFW said. Kind of like when JFK said on a trip to France as a newly elected president and knowing how immensely popular his wife Jackie was with the French people: “I’m the man who accompanied Jacqueline Kennedy to France.” Subtle humor.

  25. iheartvino

    August 10, 2012 at 9:06 AM

    I haven’t had any issues with pop-ups on this site ever since that annoying Crackle issue finally went away.

  26. heliofan

    August 10, 2012 at 9:13 AM

    Just read that Ryan Lochte might be the next bachelor. I found that quite funny. LOL

  27. spammy

    August 10, 2012 at 10:12 AM

    Steve, don’t you ever learn? You befriended Holly a few years ago and when she was going on Bachelor Pad you hounded her for spoilers and when she refused to give them to you she said you said you would ruin her, you told 3 contestants from Ben’s season you would pay for spoilers and they reported you to Mike Fleiss. You befriend Erica and when she is going on Bachelor pad you also hound her for spoilers and she hands over texts to Mike Fleiss. So really who’s fault is it that you are in the pickle you are in. Looks like you played too close to the flame and got burned.

  28. bigfatwoman

    August 10, 2012 at 10:40 AM

    I have heard the same rumors that Ryan Lochte might be or is lobbying to the next Bachelor.

    I really hope they don’t cast him. Perhaps some of you know him as someone nice to look at. But….have you heard this guy in his interviews? He is a royal douche and talks like a caveman. Not to mention his grillz and his trademark of the phrase “jeah” instead of yeah. He is a total moron.

  29. DawsMA

    August 10, 2012 at 11:17 AM

    Like Steve always says, no way will they cast an “outsider” as Bachelor/-ette. It’s bound to be either Roberto, Sean, or Arie. This whole Lochte rumor is similar to Cheryl Burke as Bachelorette.

  30. shouldbeworking

    August 10, 2012 at 11:40 AM

    Regarding the Ryan Lochte story about him wanting to be the next Bachelor. Could you imagine? Nobody would want to get in the pool (or hot tub for that matter) if he were.

  31. jazzmine

    August 10, 2012 at 11:54 AM

    Lochte coined the word “jeah”?? I thought it originated from some hip hop singer – and then done by the black male comedian on SNL who parodies other black singers and comedians.
    He said he would prefer the competitive DWTS if given the choice. Can’t believe I even know this garbage. Hah.

  32. heliofan

    August 10, 2012 at 3:25 PM

    All your comments about Ryan Lochte is exactly why I thought the story was so funny. All I could think of was Flavour of Love.


    August 10, 2012 at 8:24 PM

    Er, so Roberto isn’t the Bachelor now? I am confused but definitely do not care enough to investigate this any further than this comment board.

  34. heliofan

    August 11, 2012 at 4:14 AM

    I think the Lochte thing is just press and I personally don’t think it’s true (and hope it’s not true). Steve said he still thinks it’s Roberto but there are rumors he backed out. I hope that is Arie myself. I think he’d be the most interesting. I met him last week and he is better looking in person than on the show and he seemed really nice.

  35. spammy

    August 12, 2012 at 6:39 AM

    So where did the RS haters and lovers facebook group go? I tried to go on to comment and it’s no longer there?!?! Steve you really effed up. Stop friending people like Holly, Ellen, Erica, and the 3 girls from Ben’s season to get spoilers whether paid or gotten some other way. You are just getting burned by these ladies who are spewing lies and spreading sh*t about you. And stop asking us for donations to get you out of your legal troubles. You made your bed, you have to lie in it.

  36. jessesgirlie

    August 12, 2012 at 7:53 PM

    I’m missing something here, I get the problem with paying for spoilers.. Even though I think if people are willing to sell, it’s the sellers that should be punished not the buyer. But with this Erica situation, it doesn’t seem like any info was purchased by Steve, so what’s the problem?
    It seems to me that Mike Fleiss’ little tight knit family isn’t so tight knit. He should take it up with his bachelors/ettes, not Steve.

  37. liz123

    August 13, 2012 at 10:30 AM

    @jessesgirlie, The problem was that Steve settled his last legal dispute with ABC only like- what?- 6 weeks ago by agreeing to have no contact with ABC’s cast and crew. His contact with Erica (although his contact with her was a “friendship” & not about spoilers) was considered to be in violation of that agreement because she is cast on the show. I think understanding the terms Steve agreed to in order to settle that last legal dispute is what you’re missing. Although, I agree with you that Fleiss should’ve taken that up more with Erica than with Steve, I guess he’s just going to get Steve however he can now.

  38. randais

    August 13, 2012 at 5:39 PM

    “He’s sensitive and he’s really cute”…is that Jackie speak for, he’s an alcoholic? OH wait I don’t have to watch this train wreck, there’s a new show on NBC! Woo hoo bye bye Trashelor Pad.

  39. DawsMA

    August 13, 2012 at 5:57 PM

    jessesgirlie and liz123 I think the terms, more specifically, had to do with him initiating contact regarding non-public information to do with the show. When RS said that Erica showed Fleiss or whoever texts from RS that were taken out of context, it may have been that RS and Erica were discussing BP3 but she only showed parts of the text conversation that implicated him. I think that is what he meant when he said he didn’t actually violate the terms but it was too difficult to explain/prove so he just paid the fine.

    Judging by the apparent terms, he is free to be in touch with anyone from the show…he just can’t ask them first about spoilers (aka non-public information).

    That all said, I think he is cuckoo for trusting Erica Rose in the first place! 🙂

  40. breezy23

    August 13, 2012 at 8:17 PM

    For those STILL complaining about the pop-up ads…do you all not use Google Chrome? Do you not also use AdBlock with it? I’ve got it on mine, and NEVER ONCE had an ad pop-up issue on this site. Never once saw a crackle ad, never have the ads on the side of the pages. Also works wonders on Facebook not to mention EVERY OTHER SITE. In fact when I use any other browser I get all upset there’s so many ads, then I realize I’m away from the comfort of my Google Chrome. Seriously, its not hard to avoid the ads. Just be smarter about it, and in the time it takes you to complain to a blogger’s comment section (which is pointless btw) you could have downloaded Google Chrome AND have AdBlock installed and running and your issues, at least with the ads, are gone. As far as bashing a blogger about his ways and spoilers, well…that’s your own fault for sticking around if you don’t like it.

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