Looooong weekend in New York, but it was a good time. The NY family reunion is pretty much what you’d expect it to be. Lets just say Shaun T would not be happy with me after what I devoured this weekend. You know those competitive food eating leagues? I think I might’ve challenged for most pasta consumed in a 3 day span. Holy crap. I keep forgetting that Italian families don’t have one course meals. They’re at least six. And basically you have to eat from every course or else they feel personally insulted. Did wonders for my stomach. It was daaaaaaaamn good though.
I’m sure you all have seen by now that Courtney and Ben released a statement on Friday that they have broken up after 11 months. Not much else to add here other than to say that this is how break ups on this show work. No final couple from this show will just quietly break up and you don’t hear about it. Every single one of them will have to release a statement to tell the masses about it. Neither said much in the statement, but I’m sure you’ll hear stuff come out little by little as to why it ended. I don’t know what happened to be honest. But it just goes to show, that thinking you know about these peoples relationship because you read what they post on Twitter or Instagram or Sulia is just ignorant. A week before their breakup announcement, Ben is tweeting about the dinner he made for Courtney and how happy he was. Obviously things didn’t go to hell in a handbasket in a matter of 7 days, so there were problems before that. All I’m telling everyone is stop taking what these people tweet about at face value. That’s the relationship they want the public to see, not necessarily the relationship that is really happening. I’m amazed by how many people think because they see a picture on Twitter or Instagram, or see some quote someone retweeted, that they know what’s going on. Take a step back and realize that what you see on Twitter, Instagram, and other social media sites is only part of the real picture. You have no idea, and Ben and Courtney pretty much just proved it.
Which brings us to Jef and Emily. I’m going to get right to the point. I don’t care if you don’t believe me. I don’t care if you say I’m crazy. And I don’t care if you have 1,000 questions for me. Until Jef and Emily officially go on the record and release a statement, I guess that’s when you’ll believe it, but I can tell you right now that Jef and Emily broke up this weekend. Done. Over. No longer engaged. This isn’t being reported anywhere else. No magazine or gossip site has it yet. It’s just what I feel comfortable in reporting based on what was told to me. Yes, I know, I know. I can hear your questions already coming, “If they broke up, why did they go to the Panthers game together?” “If they broke up, why is each still following each other on Twitter?” “If they broke up, why is each default Twitter picture a picture of them together?” All legitimate questions. And here’s what I can tell you: It just happened a couple days ago. This isn’t a rumor, I didn’t hear this 5th hand, and I’m not making something up for attention. All I’m here to tell you is that Jef and Emily are no longer an engaged couple and have broken up.
Right now, they are in the process of figuring out how they are going to present the breakup to the media, when they’re gonna release the statement, and who the statement will be released to. Could be tomorrow, could be in a few days, could be next week, could be in two weeks. I have no idea. They have a few things that obviously need to be sorted out and they’re gonna need to figure out what the reasoning is they want to give the media. So of course if one or both of them changed their Twitter default picture and took the other one out, that’d pretty much give it away. You won’t see that stuff done until they release their statement to the media, whenever that is. Not to mention the lovey dovey tweets between the two of them have come few and far between in recent weeks, no? That’s the biggest problem these couples have with Twitter. Hell, ANY couple has with Twitter. The second you start tweeting all these pictures of yourselves, the minute you stop doing it as consistent as before, immediately red flags get raised. I can tell you that all the stuff you’ve heard over the last two months, coupled with other things, is why they are done. If you honestly think that none of the reported stories in the tabloids was true, and all of it was made up, you have your head buried in the sand. Where there was smoke, there was fire, and these two tried their best to bury every story written about them. Unfortunately, you can only take so much.
I don’t care if either of them take to Twitter and discredit what I say today, or ignore it altogether. Won’t matter to me. I know what I know, and they’re done. Do I think they’d personally address me? No. But I could see one and/or both making some, “Oh I guess the rumors have started again” comment on Twitter. If they do that, it’s all a cover up. This breakup will be “official” (meaning a public statement just like Ben and Courtney’s) sooner rather than later. The relationship is over, a lot has to do with what you’ve read in the tabloids, and now it’s just a matter of dotting the I’s and crossing the T’s on how they are going to present it publicly.
I know many of you will accuse me of taking happiness in this breakup, when that couldn’t be further from the truth. I don’t care if any of these couples last because I don’t know them. And neither should you. Did I believe they’d ever last? No. But that doesn’t mean I’m glad that they didn’t and I’m happy they are broken up. I like Emily. I always have. I was disappointed she chose to go back on the show, and I just didn’t see it when I found out she was engaged to Jef. Nor did I see it with Arie. Or Sean. I just didn’t think that she was ever going to find her future husband on this show. So to go back on, get engaged AGAIN, and go through this whole post-show media blitz, and deal with paparazzi coverage and tabloid stories, hey, that’s what she signed up for and she knew what she was getting into. I just knew things weren’t going to last. However, I will say what I am happy about. And that’s all the Jemily fans who told me from Day 1 I didn’t know what I was talking about, and that I was wrong, these two are different, and that they were so happy together, and blah blah blah. And not necessarily just because I ended up being right, but because trying to rationalize with the irrational was impossible, and all those people who were saying that stuff were saying it ONLY based off of pictures they saw in magazines, tweets Jef and Emily sent out, and Instagram pictures. That’s totally and utterly ridiculous. You people really need to worry more about what goes on in your own life, then live vicariously through a couple you don’t even know, who was obviously having some major problems behind the scenes that you didn’t have a clue about. Did I know everything going on behind the scenes? Of course not. But I’d say I was made aware of things that 99.999% of the public didn’t know.
Yes, they tweeted pictures of Jef at Ricki’s soccer game. And yes, they tweeted happy pictures of them together in different cities. But just like Ben and Courtney, that’s the public image they want you to see of their relationship. What if I were to tell you I have three pictures in my possession when the cameras and media WEREN’T on them, and the pictures show these two in a completely different light, including one where Emily wasn’t even wearing her engagement ring when she was out with him? So just as much as the Jemily fans want to scream, “Look! They look so happy together!” when they see a picture on Instagram, I could post an exact opposite picture of them together, where they certainly don’t look happy at all, and it’s actually of a “real” life moment, not one where photographers and paparazzi were covering them and they’re supposed to look happy. Not saying the pictures I have prove that they were some miserable couple or something, because that’s not my point. I just find it interesting how because Jef and Emily tweeted a picture of them smiling together, that somehow Jemily fans can deduce that they’re a happy couple and they just know nothing could possibly be wrong. Now, I’m not going to post these pictures because I told the people who sent them to me I wouldn’t, but just know I have them, it adds to what I was hearing and it goes along with the point I’m trying to make. Pictures in magazines and social media sites are the pictures they control and want you to see about their relationship. Jef and Emily are very proud people and they have a public image to uphold to all their fans. So of course you’re going to see the best and happiest pictures of them on their social media sites. Just know that there are others, some of which I have, that paints a completely different picture than what you’re shown. The bottom line is things have not been well for a while, and they broke up this past weekend.
Sling any arrows you want at me. I’m a big boy. I can take them. I’m just the messenger in all this. I can’t PROVE it’s over. I just know it is. My proof will be when it happens. I don’t know when that will be. Just no need to ask questions to me about details, and why this, and why that. I don’t know. I just know they are broken up, they are no longer engaged, and this thing will be “official” sooner rather than later when they figure out how they are going to present it to the media. With the Ben and Courtney story just breaking on Friday, I can see them waiting a little bit longer to make it official just because, well, that looks REALLY bad for the franchise. I really wish Emily never would’ve gone back and done this show like I said back in January when she was first announced, but obviously that’s too late. It’s unfortunate that these two couldn’t make it, I wish they’d just stop with the public façade that everything is ok and every report about them is untrue, and just get out of this as soon as possible. They’re not fooling anybody at this point, a child is involved, and it’d be best for all parties to sever ties as soon as possible for everyone’s sake. Including Jemily fans. They probably need to be put out of their misery the most. Yes, their lives will officially be over once Jef and Emily confirm this to the media, but at least they can move on to stalking some other couple.
I am a blogger. I write about reality television, but obviously my main focus is this franchise in particular. When I hear things I feel confident in reporting, I tell you. Some things I can never get into detail about but they are still true. Going into detail would essentially be giving away my sources. So I just tell you stuff like “this happens,” then it does, and I didn’t need to reveal a source as to how I knew it happened. This is one of those times. Obviously I have no contact with Jef or Emily, and until the words “we are no longer engaged” come directly from one of them, there’s a certain group of you that won’t believe me. And that’s fine. I’m just here to tell you it’s over, and that the news is coming shortly. Sorry to ruin your day.