Not too many “Reader Emails” this week, but we did have a full set of “Dr. Reality Steve” ones which is why I used some on Tuesday and the rest today. Enjoy…
Is it just me, or has this most recent group of Bachelor/ette contestants gone sour?
I love watching the show, I really do. While it’s airing, I look forward to Monday nights all week. I find it extremely entertaining, and generally, I find that I form a bit of an attachment in some of the people. I am certainly not delusional, and it’s definitely a ‘find someone to date for a while’ show rather than ‘find someone to marry’.
But, it seems to be like something has changed this past year in how these couples (and even the rejected contestants) have been covered in the media. Can you give us any insight into why this might have happened?
Thinking back on 2010, Brad and Emily and then Ashley and JP, it seems like there wasn’t even close to this much attention paid to them. I do remember there being some rumblings about Brad and Emily, especially when their relationship was already on the rocks at ATFR, but I hardly remember being inundated with pictures of them at the grocery store or at football games. Was I blind back then? Was coverage this constant for Ali and Roberto? Why does anyone care that anybody was spotted buying eggs and milk?
Ashley and JP had managed to lay low. They both seemed to dive back into normal life, even after moving in together. Come to think of it, I remember seeing occasional pictures of Ashley in her scrubs, but nothing even close to the Emily/Jef coverage. Although I’m sure there are many more factors behind Ashley and JP sticking together than and outside observer can pinpoint, the return to normal life must have something to do with it, am I wrong?
I get that viewers want to know what the couples have been up to once filming is over. We watched these people every week, and yes, we want the occasional check in. “Oh, they moved in together!” or “They’re planning a fall wedding!”, “They got a dog!”. Great, I’m all for knowing that. I’m even interested in knowing that! But we have to know where to draw the line.
Do you think it has something to do with some of these people’s livelihoods? It seems to me like Courtney has kept herself in the spotlight on purpose to keep her name and face recognition out there as a model, whereas Ben was more inclined to keep to himself (Although it’s arguable that Ben’s continued exposure to the media would also help his wine label). Jef wants to stay in the spotlight to keep up with his business’ expansion as well (which, I’d like to make clear to those who are reading this and will think “He only wants to expand to do more GOOD” — it’s still a for-profit. Jef, in addition to whatever salary he probably gets, also gets profits), although I’d say he’s been very smug about it all and is starting to give me the impression that he might be a big creep.
Do they have a choice in the matter? Are things the way they were for Emily and Jef because they made it so? If not, how did Ashley and JP manage not to have cameras in their face at all times?
I hope this past season was a special case. Maybe if you can figure out what happened to Courtney/Ben and Emily/Jef, you can give Sean some tips on staying a real person.
Oh, and PS. I realize that your website is intended for spoilers, but I’m wondering if I can make a simple request that you delineate the paragraphs in which you are writing spoilers so that those of us who want to be surprised but still want to read your column can know which portions to skip? For example, in today’s column I didn’t want to see who Sean’s final 4 were, but I did want to know what you had to say regarding Courtney and Arie, etc. Usually it’s easy enough to do, but a row of asterisks would sure be helpful. I do like spoilers, but I wait to read them until the season is actually airing to keep some of the surprise.
Thanks for reading until the end, and thanks for all the work you undoubtedly do!
Comment: I think ever since the Jason/Molly/Melissa fiasco, this show has completely changed in the tabloid world. Name another reality “game” show that gets more tabloid coverage than this one? It’s not even close. “Real Housewives” franchise is really the only one, but it’s not a “game show” with eliminations and stuff like that. So you may not remember stuff about Brad and Emily or Ashley and JP being written, but it was definitely there. Not nearly as in depth as the Jef and Emily stuff, but Brad and Emily were getting their pictures taken anytime she was in Austin with him. There wasn’t much on Ashley and JP, but you’re right, a lot had to do with they weren’t dramatic people and they moved away from all of it.
People have a short term memory when it comes to this franchise. Every season everyone is all excited about it starting, then at the end of the season, they’re whining and bitching about the final couple, or who got eliminated, or which person they hate blah blah blah, then the next season rolls around and it starts all over again. Nothing will ever change with this show outside of the people you see every season with the exception of the lead (well, and Kacie this season).
As for the spoilers, I’m sorry. It’s impossible. I can’t NOT talk about them. It’s what I do. I don’t know what to tell you, but just assume if filming is happening, and I’m writing a column, chances are there are going to be spoilers in there without any warning. I’m a spoiler site for this show, plain and simple. Have been for three years. To start giving heads up every column when a new spoiler comes out will never work. Nor will having the season spoiled in a separate column, but then when I write my recaps, I have to pretend like I don’t know what happens coming up.
Hi steve! I was wondering if you think they will ever use a celebrity as the bachelor/bachelorette. I know in the summer there were many rumors that Ryan Lochte wanted to do it but im not sure! I think it would add an interesting twist on the show! What do you think! Thanks for reading.
Comment: Not going to happen. I addressed this in Tuesday’s column as well with all the Cheryl Burke nonsense.
Hi Steve –
Enjoy your column. I was glad to see your Reality Roundup piece. I was surprised that you did not mention Revenge, since it’s been such a hit since its debut last year.
Absolutely love the show. Would be interested to hear if a) you watch it and b) if you do, what you think of it. I love it because it’s so different than any show I’ve ever watched and it has gotten a ton of pub. Great show!
Comment: A) No B) Not applicable. I already have enough shows on my plate on a weekly basis. Not interested in adding Revenge. There’s only one show that I haven’t seen that I plan on adding shortly, and that’s “Homeland” since I already know I’m gonna like it because it’s from the creators of “24,” my all-time favorite show. I just need to find the time to go buy season 1 and rip through it in a couple days. Then I’ll eventually catch up on season 2.
I love Olivia and Nicholas, but I have to say that Nicholas pulls some interesting facial expressions in the photos you posted, absolutely adorable.
Comment: He’s quite the character. Sometimes I don’t know where he comes up with the stuff he says or does, but then again, that probably applies to a lot of kids. I’ll be back in CA in a week to spend Thanksgiving with him. I’ll be sure to update you on any of his crazy antics.
Forgive me if you’ve already answered this question before and I missed it!
I really like reading your columns, and I love the info you provide. However, I dislike being spoiled ahead of time because I just feel like it makes the shows less fun for me to watch (I’m sure others feel differently). I know you have a spoilers tab on your site, but I feel like all of your columns are so infused with spoilers, that I will sometimes stumble upon many without wanting to. Any possibility of you doing columns without spoilers (just general info on the casts, behind the scenes, recaps, etc) and then keeping the spoilers to a separate column? I realize this may be more effort for you, and harder to write. Just a question from a fan who wants to read during the season without being spoiled!
Comment: Wow. Twice in the same column this gets requested. Sorry, but no can do. It’s impossible to write a column pretending I don’t know what’s going to happen. Once I post the episode-by-episode spoilers, that will definitely be in the “Spoilers” link in the navigation bar, however, once the season starts and the recaps begin, the spoilers will be alluded to in every column. So I guess you’ll just have to either accept knowing what’s going to happen ahead of time, or just not read. It’s up to you.
Thanks for the heads up on “Friday Night Lights.” I never would have watched it, thinking it was just some football show. Loved it.
Comment: I hope that more people realize just because the premise of “Friday Night Lights” is set around a high school football team, doesn’t mean that’s what the show is about. Ask anyone who’s watched the show and they’ll tell you football is most certainly not what the show is about. If you enjoyed high school, whether even playing competitive sports, or were a cheerleader, or just enjoyed your high school years, you’ll love the show. It’s kinda impossible not to. Best part is, it’s a show for both men and women. So see? It’s a television show that couples can watch together. Then go make out or something.
Dear Reality Steve,
I am just your normal, average closeted Bachelor fan who embarrassingly reads your (great) column. I just wanted to say thanks for what you do. I hope you get some good compensation out of it… at the very least, I am sure it can be quite amusing for you at times.
Your Dr. Reality Steve is funny and quite accurate. Good idea.
By the way, I am an English teacher and your grammar is fine.
Comment: Well that’s a first. Someone who is an English teacher who tells me my grammar is fine. I’ve had plenty tell me otherwise, even go as far as to say they’ll edit my columns for me. Nah, I’m good. I’m not an English major. Never was in college. I don’t expect every single sentence of every single column I write to be picture perfect. I write like I talk. I have a ton of run-on sentences and I have a ton of short sentences. And I even start sentences with conjunctions and prepositions, just like I did with this one. Look, I’m not trying to win any Pulitzer’s here. I’m just a guy with a blog expressing my opinions about a silly show, and for as many words that appear in my columns, I think I do a decent job of keeping grammatical errors to a minimum.