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Reader Emails

“Reader Emails,” and an Interview with

“Reader Emails” this week has quite a few from the month of December since I never did a column all month with emails. Some are funny, some are good questions, and some are completely random that I’m amazed I get asked. Enjoy…

hey steve,

here’s my question…do you think one of the main reasons that abc will never cast a celebrity as the main lead is because they know that a celebrity is more likely to publicly dish, purposely or unintentionally, the behind the scenes info on the show? it seems like it would be harder for them to defend against someone who has any sort of power in hollywood than it would be for them to defend themselves against the “average joe.” i get that the recycled contestants works for them, but i also think it would be bring it a ton of ratings, and therefore, money if they were to cast someone well known, so there has to be a multitude of reasons they would never consider it. i would think this would be a major consideration and worry for them. what do you think?

Comment: I doubt that’s in their top 5 reasons why they wouldn’t cast a “celebrity.” And technically they did already with Jesse Palmer back in the day. Granted, he was a back-up NFL QB, but still, he was in the public eye. I just don’t think them casting a celebrity makes any sense. Celebrities aren’t the most genuine people, and no one will believe for a heartbeat that they can’t find someone to date them. Unless your name is Jennifer Love Hewitt and you’ve basically run through every guy in Hollywood already and they’ve dumped you, maybe she’d do it.

They’re doing fine recycling contestants who get dumped the season before and have built-in storylines. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.


I have several things on my mind.

1. Are Jake Pavelka and Kristin Chenoweth really dating?

2. Given the way things have turned out, do you think Emily wishes she had picked somebody else on The Bachelorette? Or maybe she regrets going on the show in the first place?

3. What’s Catherine’s ethnicity? I know her dad is white; what about her mom?

Comment: 1) I don’t know anything more than what was reported. If that was ever serious, gotta say, HORRIBLE career move for her and completely makes no sense. Kristin is a respected actress with some pretty big accomplishments in Hollywood and Broadway. Jake Pavelka is a laughingstock. We know most celebrity couples that arise are strictly done in the beginning for PR purposes, so this couldn’t have been a worse PR move for her. I’ll never understand it.

2) If Emily were being honest with herself, I guarantee you she regrets doing it again. She never would’ve lasted with any of the final three guys on her season. Was never going to last, regardless of what Jemily fans think.

3) She’s half Filipino, half Italian. Dad is the Italian side, mom is the Filipino side.

In your column for November 26, you congratulated Sean for being the first bachelor ever not to fornicate on the overnights. I have to say, I didn’t picture Brad as the kind of person who would have sex on the overnights… now Ben I could totally picture doing that.

Anyway, how many bachelorettes have had sex with one (or more) of their F3 on the overnights? Just wondering… I heard that women tend to be less likely to have sex out of wedlock, but everything in The Bachelor world is totally different. It has to be less than eight though because Emily didn’t sleep with anyone on her season, right?

Comment: Uhhhhhhh…lets just say don’t believe everything you see on TV.

I do have quick legitimate question/rant. There is no truth to the rumors of another Emily Maynard season, right? I could not handle her fakeness for another season. She clearly has no intention to marry. Jef has gotten a bad rap as a player, and yeah he probably is, but at least now he is up front about it. Emily still puts on this poor little widow act that is disgusting. If she really wanted to settle down, would she be sexting Matt Leinart?! Everybody knows that he is the guy you have a fling with. She clearly has no interest in settling down. No, neither did Jef, but at least he has admitted to his new girlfriend. Emily is still trying to sell the victim act, and it’s infuriating. I could not survive another season with her. I already am iffy about watching Sean’s season for fear it will be boring, but I know for damn sure I would never watch another Emily Maynard fake sobfest.

Comment: Emily is not going to be the Bachelorette again. No worries.


So I am watching the wedding on TV now and I have a question that I was wondering if you could help me with. How much did this wedding cost?!?! My brother specifically wants to know the cost of JP’s tuxedo.

Comment: I have no clue. Didn’t look like it was as expensive as Trista and Ryan’s or Jason and Molly’s, but then again, I wasn’t in charge of the budget. Whatever the cost was, it was a drop in the bucket for ABC. Nothing they couldn’t handle considering they make money hand over fist on this show.

Hey there, been reading your site since Ashley’s season. Love it, makes me laugh. I forgot Ashley’s wedding was even on – watched Survivor instead. Oops. Was wondering if you had any inside info on Survivor, in regard to the final tribal council where everyone on the jury is usually bitter and enjoys destroying the finalists. Are they egged on by producers to be angry and hostile (like how the Bachelor producers get the contestants all emotional over what so and so said or did). Or do they almost all behave that way because they have seen 25 other seasons of jurors do that?- or are they genuinely po’d at the outcome ( ie they are not final two or three). It just seems like everyone has seen the show, to be pissed that someone lied to you or broke an alliance should be expected, and why get so righteous. Jurors criticizes the finalists for being hypocrites when they aren’t much better either. I wonder each season how genuine that sour grapes is, or if they are coached on it for good tv.

Comment: I think each season is different, and each cast member is different. I’m sure there are people at the final tribal council jury that are still pissed off they didn’t win, and they use that against people during their final tribal questioning or comments. And definitely some are playing it up for the cameras because they want to be “that guy” who stood out and caused tension.

But kinda like the “Bachelor” franchise, where the lead doesn’t get to see any of what’s happening back at the mansion and only has to rely on what people tell him, same goes for “Survivor.” Once you’re voted off and you’re part of the jury, you get to hang out with all the other jury members and can basically scheme, talk sh**, and even form voting alliances before getting to that final tribal. But you’re doing this without seeing what was actually going to make air and what some other contestants were saying in ITM’s.

I can’t remember which contestant’s post show interview I read from this past season, but they did mention that if the voting actually took place the night of the live finale, and not and the end of 39 days when people are tired, cranky, want to leave and don’t have the opportunity to view the show in when it airs, the outcome could’ve been different. It’s a great point. I understand the “Survivor” people want the voting to be done on the island because they don’t want their votes influenced by what they would inevitably see on the show, however, when all the jury members get to spend every second of every day together talking and sharing stories about people still on the show, how is that any different? Maybe one time they should do the voting at the live after show. Would be very interesting to say the least and change things up after 25 seasons. Hey, they tried Redemption Island and that was a complete disaster. Why not try live voting? Couldn’t hurt.


What is with your review of the bachelor party? Were you actually displeased with lack of “female entertainment”. Honestly, you seem like a decent enough guy and definitely old enough to understand it’s not just “entertainment”. Don’t you find it sad that so many guys go to strip clubs to objectify women and take advantage of misguided and (most of the time) abused women and think nothing of it? Most of these girls are broken, no matter how tough, confident and happy they appear to be. Not to mention, doing that the night before you enter a covenant with a woman who you promise to love, honor, and cherish!

It’s sad to see men who refuse to acknowledge the brokenness and evil that is behind these kinds of places.

Comment: Ha ha. This was funny. And nothing I say will matter. I guess we’ll just agree to disagree.

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  1. breezy23

    January 9, 2013 at 10:01 AM

    Soy guapo! fff ffff! You sir.are.awesome.

  2. JovisMom

    January 9, 2013 at 10:35 AM

    To the emailer who talked about the Bachelor Party and there not being any strippers….
    I worked in a strip club as a cocktail waitress and I can tell you while someo of the girls (Strippers) are broken a lot of them are just like you and every other girl who posts on the column. The strippers do not want your man. They want his money. The majority of men don’t want those women. They want to look at a naked women dance. The guys just set there at their tables quietly drinking beer. They aren’t as bad as you think. I once made $700 tip off of 1 table in a couple of hours. It was a bachelor party. I am glad that I did experience working there because now when my boyfriend goes to one (so far has been 1 time in a year and a half) I don’t care because I know what they are all about.

  3. Vanilla Thunder

    January 9, 2013 at 12:00 PM

    Eres guapo? Very humble, senor Steve. 🙂 Heh heh.

    The whole “strip club as bachelor party” thing is, I guess, typical, but now people are getting more creative and thinking of other “guy” types of things to do at bachelor parties. And maybe the groom isn’t comfortable at a strip club, or it’s just not his thing, so the plan is to do something else “manly” like drive race cars or go to a beer tasting. So what? It doesn’t mean the guy(s) are any less of a man.

  4. Vanilla Thunder

    January 9, 2013 at 12:01 PM

    Also, Columbo starred Peter Falk, not Robert Blake.

  5. strick432

    January 9, 2013 at 12:15 PM

    STEVE!!! I can’t believe you don’t know Beretta from Columbo!!! You aren’t THAT young….or maybe I’m just that old…..huh……

  6. sarah771978

    January 9, 2013 at 2:00 PM

    To the e-mail that referenced posting a spoiler on Emily’s twitter…

    I did the same thing on the ABC site message boards. The day before the premier, i was bored, and reading through the message boards on the ABC Bachelor site. One string was talking about how they couldnt believe that there had been no spoilers posted, and commetned that it was a first or something. So, i thought, “this could be funny!”
    I posted the final four, and then said the Catherine wins.
    I think everyone on that string jumped down my back at how rude and appaled they were that someone would have the nerve to post something like that on someone elses string. I mean they were pissed. they flaged my account and by the next morning all my comments had been deleted. i thought it was the funniest thing ever, and sort of want to keep screwing with them.

    This is a Fake TV romance where you win the chance to be a little miss? I can think of better prizes to win.

    Also, because you know some pathetic plebe from ABC reads through this stuff daily, here it goes.

    I stopped watching the bachelor before the 2nd Jason Mesnik season. I only started watching again as soon as I found Reality Steve. You can guarantee that you will lose viewership if you keep bullying Steve. Many people only watch your show now, to see that Steve was right. I know that i will not watch if the spoilers get shut down.

    Thanks for doing what you do Steve. I appreciate the info and the laughs.

  7. TXChic2

    January 9, 2013 at 6:35 PM

    Thank you, Steve for the laughs as always. To show my support in this lawsuit I am not watching this season.

    ABC, if you are reading, I’ve watched EVERY season of the Bachelor, Bachelorette and B-Pad, with the exception of Emily’s. After about two episodes I just couldn’t take her any longer. The only reason I watched this fake show for long was because this column paired with watching the Tweets made it funny!

  8. iheartvino

    January 10, 2013 at 9:23 AM

    To the person who sent the reader email asking Steve about getting an iPhone app-
    I was hoping for the same a while back but understand his reasons for not getting an app. So I have his site saved to my home screen so now I can access it that way. All you have to do is open the site in Safari, click on the arrow, and select “Add to Home Screen.” I know it’s not the same thing as an actual app, but it’s a quick and easy way to access this site on my iPhone and iPad without having to go through Google or Safari’s history.

  9. elizabeth82

    January 10, 2013 at 9:03 PM

    ^I find the issue is that it’s hard to read on a mobile device not that accessing the site itself is hard.

    Understand why it wouldn’t be a priority, though. Always read it on a computer unless I’m on a trip.

  10. iheartvino

    January 11, 2013 at 8:55 AM

    ^ Completely agree with you, elizabeth92. I don’t like commenting from my iPhone because it doesn’t show what I’ve already typed so it’s hard to catch and fix errors. It also seems to take all the comments a long time to load on movile devices. Most of my time on RS is spent while at work anyway. 🙂 (I think that’s the case for a lot of us!)

  11. iheartvino

    January 11, 2013 at 8:57 AM

    Sorry, I meant elizabeth82. Can’t blame my phone on that one.

  12. strick432

    January 11, 2013 at 12:15 PM

    me, too ihearvino….I have to have some sanity every now and then at my job – oy, Reality Steve, sanity??!!! lol

  13. tamara

    January 12, 2013 at 11:27 AM

    she seems very nice, but why would you agree to go to a hotel with a man you haven’t even dated yet. are you really surprised he expected to have sex with you? sex toys or not, if you go to the hotel with him, you are both expecting to be sexual without knowing anything about eachother.

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