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Hello, I love what you do.
I was just curious if you have ever thought about having iPhone app created for your updates and spoilers? I would love the app!!

Comment: We thought about it, but the costs involved are a concern, plus, outside of the column itself, I don’t know if it’d be worth it just to have my column up there. It’s still an option, but honestly, we’ve put it on the backburner for the time being.

Hi Steve,

My question is, what happened between Arie and Courtney?

Is Sean legitimately good friends with anyone from the franchise?

Comment: What happened between Arie and Courtney? Their little fling was never gonna be any more than a fling. It ran its course, and now it’s over. She’s moved on, and so has he. Numerous times.

Yeah, just reading Sean’s twitter account, you can tell he’s still good buddies with Jon Wolfner, Charlie Grogan, and a few others from his season. He’s also workout partners with Jeremy Anderson and I believe he’s even hung out on a couple of occasions with Tanner Pope. Seems like he’s closest to Wolfner from his season since they tweet each other constantly about their bromance.

While I realize this will never happen, don’t you think we should petition ABC to do a version of the bachelor/bachelorette that is specifically targeted at the male 18-30 demo? Beer commercials. Bachelorettes that all look like Selma (or at least built like her). Bachelors like Ed or Chris from Bachelor Pad 3. OK, maybe scratch the last one. You get the idea. Maybe be better for Skinemax, though.

Comment: Yeah, you might have to throw that one on cable. Would be much more entertaining. With how much Selma posts self pictures on Instagram, I’m guessing this is someone that wants to continue some sort of career in the entertainment industry and will bleed this show dry for any publicity she can get. Hey, maybe I’m completely wrong and we’ll never see or hear from her again. But I doubt it.

I think the spoilers enhance the viewing of the show. You can watch for the hidden clues in how the Bachelor interacts with the one he chooses. Of course, Mike Fleiss is too dumb to see that. It’s one reason Columbo was so successful.

Comment: Well, I may be old, but I ain’t that old. Can’t say I watched Columbo. Is that the one with the dude who had the parrot on his shoulder then murdered his wife about 10 years ago? Robert Blake?

Hey Steve

Thanks again for Spoiling this season! I love that I can tell my friends who the ‘winner’ is before the season even starts.

It’s quite sad how emotionally invested people are in this show. I watch it for a Monday night laugh, I honestly would not be still watching the show if your site wasn’t around, it’s is the sole reason I watch. ABC can stuff their lawsuit too, it’s sad that they want to bully you in to stopping spoiling, I wonder how bad ratings will be if Reality Steve goes away.

Do you think that they monitor former bachelor/bachelorette social media sites? I was bored last night scrolling through instagram (and yes sadly i follow Emily) i commented on a picture Emily posted on instagram of her of her passed out (roofied?) after her first night. I posted the name of the winner (thought it would be funny to ruffle some feathers) and within minutes that comment was deleted, there were at least 120 comments on there already so I can’t imagine when Emily gets notifications that people are posting on her instagram she checks it immediately. Thoughts?

Are you going to be collecting law suit donations again?

Comment: There will always be the nut jobs who watch someone on TV and think they know them, think they’re bff’s with them, get emotionally invested, tweet at them all the time, “like” all their Instagram pics, and what not. I just try and stay as far away from those people as possible because honestly, they have a screw loose somewhere. If you honestly think that you really know anything about someone that you watch on a reality TV show for 10 weeks, you are living in fantasy land. But they’re there every season, so it’s definitely enjoyable to poke fun at them for their lunacy. They certainly provide some great comic relief for things they said and do, that’s for sure. The thing is, they don’t think it’s funny and are too wrapped up in their own little world to realize what a joke people think they are. Quite amusing.

Good job on posting the winner on Emily’s Instagram. I will say I’m not surprised one bit that people jumped down your throat and it was deleted. Next time, go on there and say something bad about Jef and watch the maniacs go even more crazy. I think there are people in this world that still think Jef and Emily are the greatest couple known to mankind, shared the greatest love story ever told on television, will get back together someday and be married forever. Delusional.

I don’t see the need to ask for donations this time around. Too early.

Hi Steve,

“I had tweeted about that dress that Britney Spears wore the something very similar on the X Factor semifinal show.”

Just wanted to point out that Jaclyn from Bachelor Pad season 3 wore what looked like the same dress as Britney Spears during the Bachelor Pad Season 3 Finale.

I love your blog btw!

Comment: Yes, a couple people have brought that up to me since yesterday. I don’t remember what Jaclyn wore on the BP finale, but if people are saying she did, then I’m sure she did. I just know I noticed it on Kacie and it looked great.


I have been a regular reader on your blog for Bachelor/Bachelorette spoilers for several years now and I must say that I am one of those fans who enjoy the show tremendously despite the fact I’ve read the spoilers. What can I say, I don’t like surprises?

I wanted to submit a question that perhaps you may take the time to answer….

Why is it that the producers choose contestants who are blatantly incompatible with Sean….like the Fifty Shades of Beligerant girl….or the Democrat….or just the not-so-impressive or not-so-attractive girls? Honestly, I have probably have 25 friends who are better-looking and more impressive than those 26 women last night. I was so disappointed at the lack of impressiveness in the majority of them. Of course, there were a handful of quality options, but I mean, seriously? Sean is a very impressive individual and I was hoping to see a house full of very impressive ladies for him to choose from but I just wasn’t seeing that. Maybe I’m crazy, but why would they waste spots on the show with girls who clearly Sean wouldn’t settle for? He could do so much better and I hate he didn’t have better options. Frustrated.

Comment: Easy question to answer. Because it’s a television show. The last thing they care about is finding the 26 most compatible women for Sean. Same as every season. You cast 10-15 girls who you know have no chance (fillers). You cast another 5 or so that will be good TV and make interesting characters, and then you cast 4-6 girls that you really truly think he will like.

If they went and cast every single woman as a perfect match for Sean, the show would be boring. No one wants to see 25 of the same women. You gotta mix different personality types, with different looks, different temperaments, etc. Any time you ask yourself any question about this show, remember to keep in mind that they don’t care about these people. All they care about is making a television show that you’ll watch. Period. End of story.

HI Steve,

I wanted to tell you how much I love your blog and also how much your blog has help me with my English. Its a fun way to learn new words.

Me gusta mucho tu columna

Comment: Gracias. Me llamo Steve. Soy guapo.

Back tomorrow with your “Dr. Reality Steve” column. Send all emails to: To follow me on Twitter, it’s: Instagram name is “RealitySteve,” or join my Reality Steve Facebook Fan Page. Talk to you tomorrow.

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  1. breezy23

    January 9, 2013 at 10:01 AM

    Soy guapo! fff ffff! You sir.are.awesome.

  2. JovisMom

    January 9, 2013 at 10:35 AM

    To the emailer who talked about the Bachelor Party and there not being any strippers….
    I worked in a strip club as a cocktail waitress and I can tell you while someo of the girls (Strippers) are broken a lot of them are just like you and every other girl who posts on the column. The strippers do not want your man. They want his money. The majority of men don’t want those women. They want to look at a naked women dance. The guys just set there at their tables quietly drinking beer. They aren’t as bad as you think. I once made $700 tip off of 1 table in a couple of hours. It was a bachelor party. I am glad that I did experience working there because now when my boyfriend goes to one (so far has been 1 time in a year and a half) I don’t care because I know what they are all about.

  3. Vanilla Thunder

    January 9, 2013 at 12:00 PM

    Eres guapo? Very humble, senor Steve. 🙂 Heh heh.

    The whole “strip club as bachelor party” thing is, I guess, typical, but now people are getting more creative and thinking of other “guy” types of things to do at bachelor parties. And maybe the groom isn’t comfortable at a strip club, or it’s just not his thing, so the plan is to do something else “manly” like drive race cars or go to a beer tasting. So what? It doesn’t mean the guy(s) are any less of a man.

  4. Vanilla Thunder

    January 9, 2013 at 12:01 PM

    Also, Columbo starred Peter Falk, not Robert Blake.

  5. strick432

    January 9, 2013 at 12:15 PM

    STEVE!!! I can’t believe you don’t know Beretta from Columbo!!! You aren’t THAT young….or maybe I’m just that old…..huh……

  6. sarah771978

    January 9, 2013 at 2:00 PM

    To the e-mail that referenced posting a spoiler on Emily’s twitter…

    I did the same thing on the ABC site message boards. The day before the premier, i was bored, and reading through the message boards on the ABC Bachelor site. One string was talking about how they couldnt believe that there had been no spoilers posted, and commetned that it was a first or something. So, i thought, “this could be funny!”
    I posted the final four, and then said the Catherine wins.
    I think everyone on that string jumped down my back at how rude and appaled they were that someone would have the nerve to post something like that on someone elses string. I mean they were pissed. they flaged my account and by the next morning all my comments had been deleted. i thought it was the funniest thing ever, and sort of want to keep screwing with them.

    This is a Fake TV romance where you win the chance to be a little miss? I can think of better prizes to win.

    Also, because you know some pathetic plebe from ABC reads through this stuff daily, here it goes.

    I stopped watching the bachelor before the 2nd Jason Mesnik season. I only started watching again as soon as I found Reality Steve. You can guarantee that you will lose viewership if you keep bullying Steve. Many people only watch your show now, to see that Steve was right. I know that i will not watch if the spoilers get shut down.

    Thanks for doing what you do Steve. I appreciate the info and the laughs.

  7. TXChic2

    January 9, 2013 at 6:35 PM

    Thank you, Steve for the laughs as always. To show my support in this lawsuit I am not watching this season.

    ABC, if you are reading, I’ve watched EVERY season of the Bachelor, Bachelorette and B-Pad, with the exception of Emily’s. After about two episodes I just couldn’t take her any longer. The only reason I watched this fake show for long was because this column paired with watching the Tweets made it funny!

  8. iheartvino

    January 10, 2013 at 9:23 AM

    To the person who sent the reader email asking Steve about getting an iPhone app-
    I was hoping for the same a while back but understand his reasons for not getting an app. So I have his site saved to my home screen so now I can access it that way. All you have to do is open the site in Safari, click on the arrow, and select “Add to Home Screen.” I know it’s not the same thing as an actual app, but it’s a quick and easy way to access this site on my iPhone and iPad without having to go through Google or Safari’s history.

  9. elizabeth82

    January 10, 2013 at 9:03 PM

    ^I find the issue is that it’s hard to read on a mobile device not that accessing the site itself is hard.

    Understand why it wouldn’t be a priority, though. Always read it on a computer unless I’m on a trip.

  10. iheartvino

    January 11, 2013 at 8:55 AM

    ^ Completely agree with you, elizabeth92. I don’t like commenting from my iPhone because it doesn’t show what I’ve already typed so it’s hard to catch and fix errors. It also seems to take all the comments a long time to load on movile devices. Most of my time on RS is spent while at work anyway. 🙂 (I think that’s the case for a lot of us!)

  11. iheartvino

    January 11, 2013 at 8:57 AM

    Sorry, I meant elizabeth82. Can’t blame my phone on that one.

  12. strick432

    January 11, 2013 at 12:15 PM

    me, too ihearvino….I have to have some sanity every now and then at my job – oy, Reality Steve, sanity??!!! lol

  13. tamara

    January 12, 2013 at 11:27 AM

    she seems very nice, but why would you agree to go to a hotel with a man you haven’t even dated yet. are you really surprised he expected to have sex with you? sex toys or not, if you go to the hotel with him, you are both expecting to be sexual without knowing anything about eachother.

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