Dr. Reality Steve

January 10th, 2013 | 41 Comments | Posted in Dr. Reality Steve

Wow. Three days in a row. I told you. I’m sticking to this routine all season. Recap on Tuesdays, “Reader Emails” on Wednesdays, “Dr. Reality Steve” on Thursdays. As for the live video blog, we’re still working out some kinks on the site so that’ll start up again either next week or the week after. Apologize for that. But hey, plenty of contestants from season’s past do live video blogs (seems like there’s a different one every night), so check theirs out if you’re so inclined. I think Natalie has one, Jenna Burke has one, Erica has one, and probably 50 others for all I know. I get confused.

Forgot to put this in the notes yesterday for those that haven’t seen it. You know how when you women go to bars there’s that creeper guy that just won’t leave you alone, so you either end up saying, “Find me on Facebook” and then never accept him, or just give out some bogus phone number? Well, now you can have Chris Harrison and Sean Lowe help you tell the guy he’s a loser by giving him the “Bachelor Hotline.” Click on this link for all details about what’s on the call. It’s pretty cheesy and I guess it was done just to bring more attention to their season, but hey, if you’d rather Sean tell the drunk guy trying to get in your pants that it’s not gonna happen, then here’s your safety net.

I did my interview yesterday with Susie Meister from the RW/RR Challenge yesterday. She’s gonna have it up on her site sometime next week, so I’ll link to it when she does. She asked me a question that no one’s ever asked me before. What’s in my trunk? Unfortunately, my answer wasn’t any good. You’ll hear that, plus kind of a refresher course on how Reality Steve came to be, a little talk about spoilers in general, plus the lawsuit and more. Once it’s posted on her site, I’ll let you know.

This video has been out a while but was re-sent to me this morning. If you want to hear Catherine’s funniest first date story, well, here ya’ go:

So let me get this straight? A man she met once in her life at a wedding, stalked her number through a friend, then flew from Miami to, I’m assuming Seattle, for a weekend with her, got a hotel room and had bought her a box of sex toys? In their first meeting? Couldn’t that video have continued longer so we actually got to find out exactly how she spent the rest of the weekend? I mean, do you kick the guy out and never see him again? Or did she follow through with the weekend and just not use the sex toys? Or did she use them? Judging by the grin on her face at the end of the video, I’m not so sure this ended up being a bad weekend for her. I just found it funny that she doesn’t elaborate on what happened next. But hey, what do I know?

41 thoughts on “Dr. Reality Steve

  1. This video was part of an online special of some “über-cool” local blog(from like a year ago) where guys and girls in their 20s were asked about dating, love, sex, biggest mishaps, ridicules first jobs and the kind. Catherine did 2 other spots, i believe, one where she talked about bringing her first bf home to meet her mom and one about a part time job, where she had to dress up as a zebra to promote a club…
    And.. for all I know she stormed out and had to sleep on a makeshift bed in the basement of the said hotel since she left her purse back, when storming out…
    Catherine really does have a good head on her shoulders. She has this incredibly sweet side, but she doesn´t let her guard down easily. She is also pretty hilarious, in a sarcastic-one-liners way, which sometimes leads people to believe that she is being either bitchy, petty or shallow despite her rarely intending it to be spiteful or mean. She is a fun, smart, straight-laced girl, who is always there for her loved ones. She did most definitely not have any ulterior motives going into this and I sincerely hope, her and Sean can make this work;)
    Ps. I am new around here, so…. Hey people!;)

  2. Oh, and LOVE LOVE the three days in a row columns…….was about to have some SERIOUS withdrawals.

  3. Steve – you never disappoint “I think there’s nothing wrong with self-love. A lot of it. Like, every day. Just don’t over do it. You could go blind.” had me laughing so hard – I shouldn’t be reading this during office hours.

    To concerned friend- sound like you had a great bf that told you and showed you how much he cared but when you keep asking someone to continue to “prove it” for no reason, it not only gets old, but shows how insecure you are. If you are acting like this now, what happens when you’re married? Will you freak out over him talking to or working with any attractive women? Self confidence and high self esteem is attractive; insecurity and jealousy is not. That being said, I hope he takes you back (really decent men are hard to find – just read the other Dr. RS letters) and that you get over your insecurity issues.

  4. Hey Chloe….welcome!

    Thanks for the great week of spoilers and other entertainment, Steve!

    I haven’t watched The Bach yet and hope to get to it this evening. But, I sure have found the time to read RS, and probably wouldn’t even watch it anymore without the enhancement of RS and his spoilers.

    Hear that, ABC!

  5. Hi Chloe.

    I’m wondering if you are a friend of Catherine’s? You listed so many qualities she has in a way that makes it seem like you really know her vs just watching little recorded scripted snippets…? Are you and she connected in some way? If not, it sure seems like you’re reading a lot into these things something it’s tempting to do, but not very realistic…

  6. A Bachelor/Bachelor Pad alum is going to be a guest on a podcast I am associated with.

    Suggestions for any good questions to ask?

  7. @reece81- i would want to know what their biggest gain was from doing the show, and what they feel was their greatest loss from doing it, as well..

  8. About the Catherine piece: you do realize that many women “smile” when talking about something extremely embarrassing? Her eyes weren’t sure where to go while telling it, that seemed like a tell to me. I could be wrong, but I read her face as saying, “I still can’t believe anyone would do that on a first date.”

  9. @dewatchesreality- i got the same impression from her watching that piece, too.. i know when i get embarrassed, i tend to smile, as well..

    @chloe- btw, welcome! seems like youre definitely a catherine fan.. im liking her too so far ; ) i like that she isnt trying too hard to be either of the extremes, and she seems nice but a little sassy (not in a malicious way).. so far, so good..

  10. @Athena
    I am indeed personally acquainted with Catherine to some degree, otherwise it would have been quite far-fetched, no?:)
    Really, I am not here to spoil, heck I know nothing spoiler-worthy;), I just get the feeling that, while Steve seems to be infatuated with Lindsay, he bears a dislike towards Catherine and he somewhat tries to influence his readers to feel the same way….
    (She was obviously embarrassed by the end of the video and was cringing while smiling yet Steve tries to interpret something into it..)(or passively calling her shallow in his last post…etc.)
    @kasey31 she´s def. got some spunk;)

  11. If you go to a hotel with a man for your first date you should expect your relationship will be based on sex. Not respect… sex toys or no sex toys. Not sure why she was so surprised.

  12. Maybe it´s me but since when is “getaway” a codeword for having crazy-monkey-sex for a longer period of time?…
    I mean if you go away to somewhere, you´ll have to eventually find a place to sleep(ie. hotel)…

  13. @tamara, she was probably young and naive? it happens.. i don’t blame her. she probably didnt think she was going to get taken advantage of like that because of how “gentlemanly” he was. i’m sure she has learned a lesson after that though.

  14. @chloe- well im happy to hear that.. as a few may remember, she was a very early favorite of mine.. it was something about her picture.. glad to hear shes with sean, and i wish them all the best!

  15. @Chloe, welcome!!

    @mella, well said! And who are we to judge Catherine for doing that? God knows I had my fair share of naive and dumb decisions back in my 20′s. You live and you learn.

  16. I finally watched it Friday night and have to say my first impression of Catherine is pretty positive. She’s adorable and I look forward to seeing how the season plays out. I love knowing the outcome.

    As far as people making mistakes in their 20′s, I certainly had my fair share. If you ask my family, their were a lot! But as iheart said, you live, learn and apply the learnings to other situations throughout life.

  17. @Karyn, glad you got to watch it! I love knowing the outcome too, and it will be fun to watch and see how it all happens. (or I should say what the producers manipulate and splice together for us haha)

    *Revenge*
    10:30 (PST) the next day and not one Revenge comment yet? I’ll start. I loved last night’s episode. Super awkward moment when Emily got to Daniel’s office and she was just going in for a friendly hug and he tried to make out with her. And (spoiler) I was finally right about something! (Padma) I knew she wasn’t one of the good ones. I just hope Nolan figures it out sooner rather than later.

  18. very true, iheart and karynr..definitely not here to judge.. this is rs, not church.. u do live and learn..

    **revenge**
    i thought last nights episode was one of the best so far this season.. i was sad to see padma betray nolan! i liked her, but as the episode went on, i knew marcus was the trustworthy one and not padma.. i also liked the little show-down with emily, nolan, and aiden in an attempt to make hellen trust aiden.. i thought the ending of that scene was a little weird though.. “youre welcome for saving your life, hellen?”

  19. **revenge**
    ps.. also, creepy hellen “good evening, daniel.. i hope im not interrupting anything” even though im watching u eat chinese food on the couch with your ex finace..

  20. *Revenge*
    kasey, I got a kick out of that scene with Helen watching them too. I was thinking that I wish I had been watching Revenge on as big of a flat screen as hers. :)

    Honestly, so far this season I have been a little disappointed with Revenge, compared to season one. I read somewhere that Mike Kelley is aware that a lot of the show’s viewers aren’t happy right now with the stretchy storylines and he promises we’ll see how everything ties together by the end of the season. I’m optimistic that it will keep getting better. We’re only a few episodes away from the sinking of The Amanda.

  21. **revenge**
    @iheart- i heard the same thing.. it looks like theyre already starting to piece together some unanswered questions and filling in some gaps concerning the initiative.. its starting to make more sense now.. it was getting too confusing, so i was glad to hear that hes taking action on the feedback from the viewers..

  22. I was going to back 2 posts and comment on Revenge but I noticed you all carried it forward so here goes:
    **Revenge**
    Nolanism from last week, “a fake up”?
    Aidan’s buying everything Helen (The Initiative) is selling. Anyone else buying it? Think they really do have his sister?
    Poor Daniel, what a sucker, he falls quickly and hard. Am I the only one that thinks a “Wine Auction” isn’t really compatible with a “children’s charity”? I don’t know, maybe it’s just me. Clever fauxEm, picking up the extension and listening in on Daniel and Helen’s convo.
    I wish I had a bag to match every single outfit….

    Enter fauxAmanda, don’t cross that one, who DIDN’T see this coming? Of COURSE she’s going to go after the Ryans….duh. NEVER mess with her family. Declan definitely doesn’t have the same finesse that fauxAmanda has, he’s a bull in a china shop.

    I LOVE that Nolan was playing Tetris when Daniel confronted him. I LOVE Tetris :D . Padma’s back….who’s buying what she’s selling, beside Nolan of course? Hard to determine who’s the bigger threat, Marco or Padma…and who’s pocket who is in. Must have been the “Night of Returns”….enter Ashley. She’s been “privy to all manner of chicanery ….”, no threat intended, of course.
    I liked Vicky’s dress at the auction, it was WAY nicer than the strange thing fauxEm was wearing in the last episode, the one with the metal bar thingy across the front. “Oh hell make it half a mil, I don’t even drink wine” this weeks Nolanism. I was curious to see how Nolan’s tapping into the hotel system was going to aid them, sure enough, party’s over and the master manipulator starts playing with his new toy…ok so I get the “set up” BUT at the beginning of the episode they show the abductor’s wrist with an “Infinity” tattoo on it, right? So does fauxEm have one? She was the abductor that went down but they didn’t show her wrist the second time around. Anyone? And of course, who’s pocket is sweet Padma in….no big surprise there.

  23. Hi everyone – ok, so I’m not someone who would normally make comments about someone with a physical disability. It’s just that the Bachelor editing department really wants me to care that Sarah only has one arm. So for those of you who haven’t watched this episode yet…just wait for this gem, “my ability to love someone is not affected by the amount of hands I have”. I nearly spit my diet coke at the TV. Really???? I mean, it’s awesome that she’s comfortable enough with herself to be on this show. But who says that? I wonder what question a producer had to ask to get this response?

  24. @jill- THANK you for saying what most have us might have felt uncomfortable bringing up.. i think she seems sweet, but she mentioned not having an arm 3 times in 3 minutes.. i give her props for putting herself out there and doing this show, but when she said “my ability to love someone is not affected by the amount of fingers i have” i almost thought it was a joke.. what in the world? i mean, i get that having one arm is obviously going to be part of her storyline, but it seems that abc was a little distasteful with her edit.. sorry if i offended anyone, that was just how i felt watching it..

    @randais- great recap.. i also found it hilarious that nolan was playing tetris.. i used to love that game!

  25. @jil and kasey – GIRLS! My daughter and were “watching” last night (kind of, it was on while we were talking) and made the EXACT SAME comments regarding Sarah. I can not imagine how these producers manage to get these, probably normal girls under ANY other condition, to act so ABnormally and ridiculous on this show. She seemed like such a genuinely “real” girl until the scripted date where ALL the emphasis is placed on her missing arm. I actually felt bad that she was put in that role, I doubt she’s that obsessed about her missing limb in real life.
    And Kasey, great minds ;) .

  26. I really want to like Sarah but I find her kind of whiney. Not regarding her arm but her voice kind of grates on me. JMO. Find it interesting how little screen time Catherine has gotten so far.

  27. To Heartbroken Idiot: I agree with Dr Steve’s analysis but would also add:

    Is this guy an engineer or a person working in a technical field? Most those guys are introverts whne it comes to matters of they hear (ie they analyze the relationship internally – in their own head). They go through a logical process in their head much like they do on their job and they tend to follow logic more than their emotions. So even if he is deeply in love with you, he may have come to the logical conclusion that “this relationship” is heading in a direction that just “doesn’t compute” with long term happiness and stability. Most engineering types deal with technical “problems” all day long, and they usually don’t like to come home to more “problems”.

  28. To “Still Actively Dating”:

    It sounds to me that the military dude in school is already worried about “other guys”. I think it’s safe to say that in the past 5 years he wasn’t dating anyone while he was in the military. But it sounds like you “were actively dating”. The guy might feel that you’re “a player” and doesn’t want to “get played”. If you really like this guy then confront him with a letter or an email and tell him how you feel and that you’re willing to “stop actively dating” (ie stop game playing) and find out if there’s anything possible between the two of you.

    I’ll bet the guy has been keeping tabs on your “active dating” and that is why he brought a “date” to the NYE party, to show you that he can “actively date” too.

    Obviously there’s sexual tension there. If you want to find out if there’s more, you’re going to have to make a “serious” first move.

    Otherwise, Dr. Steve’s advice is SPOT ON.

  29. @randais- exactly.i highly doubt in a normal first date experience, she would be placing this much emphasis on her arm.. shes a beautiful girl, absolutely gorgeous and has such a great personality, so that overrides everything.. there was no need for the producer manipulation, but why would we expect any differently? abc really has no shame..

  30. @Kasey – distasteful is the right way to put it. I sincerely laughed out loud when she said that. It’s not funny that she has one arm, it’s really not. It’s just the way that it is edited makes it ridiculous. Like randais said, I’m sure that she doesn’t sit around obsessing over it in real life. And when I saw that she had only 1 arm/hand, my first thought was not, “wow, that must really affect her ability to love someone!”. Of course not. It’s just distasteful, like you said.

  31. I dated a guy that was born with only one arm. I didn’t think any less of him and it was not a big deal in our relationship. It would have bothered me if he had talked about it. He let me ask questions or talk about it when I wanted to, but he didn’t bring it up.

    I have to believe ABC is making Sara focus on it more than she would on her own.

  32. **BIGGEST LOSER**
    I think it’s so funny how Jillian finds her “chill” AFTER her team gets decimated. Down to 2 contestants and NOW she get’s all complimentary and encouraging. Does she ever wonder if she’d adopt that attitude to begin with, would she have 3 contestants instead of 2? I mean, one did leave, maybe if Jillian had been less screamin’ mimi perhaps that one would have been more inclined to stay…She needs to take a Dolvett pill every morning :D .

    This franchise is being so clever with the way they are incorporating these kids into the episodes. I’m really appreciating this aspect of the show.

    Here’s what I couldn’t figure out though, so the whole blue team was relegated to the “junk” room for 4 1/2 hours a day…why couldn’t they come up with work out options? I mean there were table and chairs in there, a hockey table. walls…..this team decided to sleep for 4 1/2 hours? Not very imaginative of them. And then along comes Bob, why didn’t these people come up with this idea day one?

    One thing I will never understand about this show, why do they make the women stand there on Weigh In day in their sports bras while the guys get to keep on t-shirts? It seems so demeaning. Having said that, LOVED when Pam the Whiner turned into Pam the Winner! Interesting change in game this season, no more voting table. This season each team member gets to enter a voting booth and vote off a team member. For all the good that did, because right after the vote they show everyone who voted for who. Cate got voted off but with Jackson having the lowest weight loss for the last 2 weeks, I don’t get it but there you go.

    And now, I will shift over to RS’s next post since I see he has a new one :) .

  33. @addicted and jill- i agree 100%
    and jill, jimmy kimmel always has the f4 right, always! idk if it has anything to do with being on the same network, or u could be right.. maybe he does read steves blog!

  34. Don’t ANY of you GET IT? Catherine was only preselected so the show can reach out to its expanding Asian American female (East asian, as in Filipino, Chinese, Korean, etc.) audience. This is the large demographic group that is with white men, or prefer white men. More of those viewers = more $$$ for the show. Let me guess, one of the final dates will also be in an East Asian country?

  35. Never been a fan of “The Big Chill” and it’s because I don’t understand how a circle of “friends” live intertwined relationships of sex and love and friendship. I gues I am just way too black or white and have very little room for gray in my relationships. Back when I got married, I wouldn’t have tolerated my wife maintaining “friendships” with ex-lovers and I’m certain she wouldn’t have tolerated me doing so either. I think there’s potential conflict when an ex isn’t EX enough.

  36. I don’t find the Catherine and Sean relationship to be sincere or true love at all. I only think its preselected to get more $$ for the show, because they can reach out to a more diverse audience. AKA a bigger audience and more advertisements and sponsorships to keep a show that fails at it goals running.

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