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The Bachelor 17 - Sean

The Bachelor Sean Recap & Clarifications on Tierra News

-Cocktail party time and Selma is up to her tricks. After holding out on the kissing during the Joshua tree date, she is ready to step up to the plate and lay one on him now. I think. “Although I didn’t have the courage to jump into the lake, I do have the courage to show my love.” She tells Sean to close his eyes, then proceeds to give him a 5 second peck on the lips with no tongue. Sean might’ve said in his blog today he sent Selma packing because of her unwillingness to compromise, but lets be honest here, if a chick is gonna build up the suspense of your first kiss, and then lays that dud on you, that’s a major letdown. Of course, Selma is in the clouds and practically thinks she just delivered an Oscar-worthy on-screen kiss. “To kiss someone on national television is a huge shame to my family, but mama, please forgive me…had to bring out the big guns tonight.” Oh yes you did, Selma. You sure did. They are huge and they are spectacular.

-Lindsay’s turn with Sean and she’s gonna play a game that’ll never work – try not to kiss him while sitting right next to him. She swears she’s not gonna kiss him, even though we know she can’t not do it. So to take their mind off the inevitable, Sean asks her, “Tell me something about yourself that I don’t know.” Lindsay: “I sleep naked.” Check please. If that doesn’t solidify her as the next “Bachelorette,” I’m not sure what does. Yeah sure, maybe we don’t actually see her sleeping in the buff, but at least we have it as a thought now. I fully endorse Lindsay sleeping in the nude and admitting it in front of 8 million people. I’m sorry, but the Lindsay/Desiree combination couldn’t be any more different than AshLee. I think the average person would much rather see either one of those two in the lead role than AshLee. Their personalities couldn’t possibly be any more different, and I think it’s an easier sell than AshLee with her control issues and what not.

-Speaking of her control issues, AshLee ramped up the intensity with Sean at this cocktail party. She says her life has always been about control, and because she felt she wasn’t good enough for her parents, she’s always been trying to prove herself. By doing that, she’s a tough cookie to crack. But now, she’s gonna let loose. She wants Sean to blindfold her with a scarf, which she says signifies her allowing Sean to do what he wants to her in a relationship. Uhhhhh, ok. So he picks her up, carries her around the lobby, sets her down in a chair, and apparently this gives AshLee a whole new lease on life or something. Huh? Am I missing something? Sorry, but that was waaaaay over-the-top and overly dramatic. She’s known this guy three weeks, been on one date with him, and now she had some life changing event in a hotel lobby because he picked her up blindfolded? Ugh. Nice girl, very attractive, sad backstory, but it’s the second time she’s gone to the “my parents didn’t want me” card this season. Too heavy and too serious for this show, and it’s obvious Sean wants someone a little more fun and goofy. But apparently not someone who sleeps naked. Go figure.

-Rose ceremony time. Catherine, Lesley, and Desiree with roses, which means Sean has three roses to give out among 5 women. Sean: “Thank you for this week…grateful for those who embraced it…wasn’t myself after last week…this decision is toughest I’ve made so far…my wife might be among you…which is funny, because 5 days ago I was so down on the process and thought I was wasting my time on the show. Amazing how things change, huh?”

Lindsay: Slowly moving up the ranks as one of my all-time favorites ever on this show.
AshLee: Ummmm, the opposite of Lindsay.

“Ladies, Sean, it’s the final rose tonight. When you’re ready.” Really? Even though you were just here and Sean’s only handed out two roses, you feel the need to come back and tell us this? Go board your flight St. Croix and quit wasting precious air time.

Tierra: Only one more week of this nonsense…

Selma wasn’t happy to be eliminated. “I came here to fall in love, and I’m leaving with a memory…I couldn’t believe he called Tierra’s name.” Neither could any of us. However, words of advice Selma. Never go on a reality show ever again if you don’t plan to kiss a guy. If you honestly thought that you were going to get engaged to a guy without ever having kissed him, you’re as loopy as Daniella is 24/7.

Speaking of Daniella, she had some parting words as well. “I’m in complete shock…trying to keep a straight face…I’m hurt…never got that shot with him…feeling vulnerable…wanted to find love really badly…I’m just over having a broken heart.” Awwwwww, there there Daniella. It’s ok. Hey, just go back to doing this and I’m sure you’ll meet a quality guy at clubs. Uhhhh, that’s too many “tv’s” in a domain name. Clubben? Really? Good luck…

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  1. Dianne

    February 7, 2013 at 5:50 AM

    For all of those that are blaming Sean for the way Sarah was eliminated, think about it for a minute. Sean had absolutely NO SAY on how Sarah was sent packing. It’s 100% the producers who stage this kind of thing, and always have. They played the poor girl up for everyone to feel sorry for her because of her missing limb. That got old and boring, so off she went. Same deal goes for Tierra..her antics are now so predictable, and the producers figure her 15 minutes are up, so bye, bye, Tierra.

  2. cheryl1

    February 7, 2013 at 6:10 AM

    I’m sure SR doesn’t consider Canadians freaks…unless he means freakishly nice, freakishly good looking 🙂 In those cases, he’s right. Moving on…I actually feel uncomfortable watching Ashlee’s scenes. She has some serious issues…which given her history makes perfect sense, but hashing them out on The Bachelor? Bad choice. Oh, I do tire of Lindsay. She’s a teacher? Yikes! She hasn’t said one interesting thing or had one interesting moment on the show. If she is The Bachelorette I’m not watching. Des on the other hand is great…very likeable. Yep, poor Lesley. That was a terrible break up….awful to watch. I kind of understand why he did it that way. It was likely bothering him. He wanted to get it over with, and not sit through an awkward per-rose ceremony conversation. But still – awful. And, pease, please could they show us a little more of Catherine!

  3. Dianne

    February 7, 2013 at 6:31 AM

    @peepsforpeace – Selma, is that you??!!

  4. randais

    February 7, 2013 at 7:28 AM

    Dianne – bwahahahhaah I almost fell off the bed with that last comment! Good one.

    Peeps and anyone else defending Ms. Selma via “do you know the back story” – Really? A back story to why/where/when she took off her top for a video, could excuse it or change the fact that she STILL appears hypocritical? I will never understand that rationale. I don’t know her or what’s in her heart and don’t begin to suggest that I do, BUT I DO know how she “appears” based on what she has done and has been put out there for EVERYone to see. That’s the ONLY thing we have to go off of. It’s not rocket science, it’s common sense. I’m not suggesting she’s not a “nice” person, I think many hypocrites can be very nice people, or has a “good” heart. I just think the term hypocrite, in this instance, means she is sending two different messages, that’s all.

    Having said all that and slightly changing the subject, I would have NEVER jumped into that freezing water either no matter if it sent me home or not. In my opinion, if it DID send me home, that would tell me, without question, he was NOT the man for me.

  5. megbird711

    February 7, 2013 at 8:01 AM

    I’m a girl, and I really like Lindsay. Not huge on Des, she seems boring. *Shrug*. Now, when I say “like”, I mean like for a lead. I didn’t want Sean for a lead, and lo and behold, this is the most bored I have ever been watching this franchise. Thank God for some of the girls I like (Lesley and Lindsay are my faves). I think Lindsay would be funny and entertaining, two things Sean and Emily were NOT.

    As for the ring thing, I think that it’s sloppy editing, but I think it was filmed when they said it was.

    And cheryl, did you mean Poor Sarah? Lesley is still on the show! And I thought it was rude what Sean did too.

  6. megbird711

    February 7, 2013 at 8:08 AM

    And Dianne, all we are told this season is how everything is Sean’s choice. If he can give roses out to whoever the hell he feels like on the first night, you honestly think he can’t refuse to embarrass Sarah? Of course he could’ve. He just is dumb enough to think he was doing the respectful thing. He embarrassed both Sarah and Kacie, and his muscles-for-brain is too slow to realize it.

  7. addicted2rs

    February 7, 2013 at 8:13 AM

    Daniella didn’t get a 1-1 date because Sean already knew he was going to send her home. But he was going to let her wait until the rose ceremony. It is really cruel the way he eliminated Sarah. I wouldn’t put it past the producers forcing it, but I also wouldn’t put it past Sean either.

    When I saw the ring on Catherine’s wedding finger I thought it might be a family heirloom because it seemed to have a wedding ring attached to the engagement ring. It didn’t look impressive enough to be a ring from the show though.

    I noticed Des packed the exact same red and black suitcase that Sarah did. Must have been given to every girl who made it that far.

    One last thought… I think Sean and Catherine would make a good couple now that we’ve gotten to see a few minutes of them together. He doesn’t seem to want a serious person. Kind of surprised he doesn’t eliminate AshLee sooner.

  8. jillbeau

    February 7, 2013 at 8:17 AM

    I will miss Selma for her snarky comments. She had a gem during the cocktail party that I haven’t seen mentioned in any blogs. Talking to Lesley and Des about Tierra: “Let’s be honest. You’re going to WIFE that?!??”. Sure it was mean, but it made me laugh. There’s a deleted scene that Steve may post in today’s column that pretty much shows why Sean eliminated her. But for some unknown reason, the producers decided not to include it in the show. Who knows anymore.

  9. Dianne

    February 7, 2013 at 9:22 AM

    Megabird, honey, you just keep on thinking the way you’re thinking. But, you have to realize, Sean is paid to be there, and is under contract to be there, and that leads me to belive that he has to do what he’s told to do, not vice-versa. But hey, that’s only my opinion.

  10. randais

    February 7, 2013 at 9:34 AM

    I can’t help but think of one more thing, after reading everyone bashing everyone on the show (and me too), but it seems to me, this ALWAYS happens. No matter who the bach/ette is, since we’ve ALL met whoever it is previously, they ALWAYS appear to morph when taken out of a competitive role and placed in a control role. EVERY single one of them. I have been disappointed in the lead, going from one role to the other, EVERY SINGLE SEASON. They turn into clueless, thinking with their crotch, hypocritical idiots. So why are we surprised? I’m not, it’s the same thing every season, time for us to just accept it and carry on.

  11. jensmith05

    February 7, 2013 at 9:37 AM

    Hey, Steve, big fan. Women put perfume on their wrists and their necks because they are “pulse points” where your blood vessels are closest to the skin, thus the hottest (temperature) areas. Because these areas are warm, the smell reignites when activity happens. Also, my mom said you should always wear perfume a little higher on your neck, so when a man kisses it, it smells wonderful, but doesn’t taste like rubbing alcohol. Love the column.

  12. cheryl1

    February 7, 2013 at 12:35 PM

    @megabird, you’re right. I get the names mixed up.

  13. LynnMJ

    February 7, 2013 at 4:28 PM

    Dianne – I feel the same. Producers want/need for certain things to happen. There is no way they’re going to send the resident b#tch home when she’s the person everyone talks, writes, blogs about. Is it a coincidence that Sean, just like many bachelors before him, keeps an obviously obnoxious personality around, even after being told straight out by other women that he needs to know the truth? The drama queen makes the show….without one of those, it’d be boring.

  14. mariet

    February 7, 2013 at 5:10 PM

    cheryl1– Yes, you get the names mixed up. Like when you said, Lindsay. She’s a teacher? Yikes! I’m sure you meant, Ashley Hebert. She’s a dentist? Yikes!

  15. peepsforpeace

    February 8, 2013 at 9:30 AM

    @Athena – thank you! And yes, great point about people changing, etc. I mean, these women are still so young! I agree the topless video of Selma was a bit strange but we really don’t know the backstory behind it and whether it was even released, etc. Just have a bit of a beef with people writing posts authoritatively about others cultures when they obviously don’t understand just how complex culture is.

  16. reddla

    February 8, 2013 at 10:38 AM

    Of course this show is produced but I an hardly believe you would put merit in anything that Doug character had to say. It’s called saving face.

  17. Athena

    February 8, 2013 at 12:54 PM

    @jillbeau about Selma: you’re right, that was a “good” snarky comment she made during the cocktail party, and thanks for the video clip. I don’t know why they didn’t show it either. Granted, she wasn’t very smooth when she called the other girls “idiots” for taking the plunge by not realizing that Sean was one of the “idiots” too. But, I thought what was most telling is how put upon he seemed by her comment. It’s ok for him to expect all of the girls to do his (producers) bidding, but not ok for Selma to say “no thank you”. Seemed arrogant to me. Guess it’s good she went home – it was definitely not going to be a match made in heaven for those two.

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