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Reader Emails

“Reader Emails,” The Conspiracy Theories Flying Already & Another Hour of Sean

Yes, this was a real email I received…

Hey steve i like reading ur spoilers. i kinda take it seriously and stress out when the wrong peopke are still in on the bachelor. like tierra. with vianna and courtney every week was frustrating for me. if the leads are there to find love cant the producera tesl them who to stay away from. i think its stupid to keep them. i kbow the show wants to reveal drana bur give the leqd a break. i think the will be longer lasting relaionships if producers help kill the pests. lolz anyways i saw on the monday episode tierra writing a letter or something at the table before leaving to find sean. could that have been the letter sean gets thatwe see in the previews.

Comment: I realy dnt no wot 2 saye too ths. Spel chk?

Hey Steve,

Just read an interesting Reader Email I wanted to ask about. You said the dates are chosen in advance of knowing who is getting a rose and who isn’t. Do you mean Sean tells the producers “I know I’m not giving Leslie a rose no matter what happens on the date” so they plan the date and have the van waiting, etc.? What if he said he was definitely giving someone a rose on the date and then during said date the girl totally throws him by acting like a total nut job and he wants out? Is he then compelled to give it to her because he said he would to the producers?

Thanks in advance for any clarification you have time to give on this. I didn’t know this was how it worked and it surprised me!

Comment: People are put on certain dates knowing what’s gonna happen in advance. I guess it’s possible that someone was put on a date with every intention of getting a rose, but then turned off the lead during the date and they changed their mind, but I wouldn’t know for sure. And vice versa. I think Ashley was set to send Ames home on his 1-on-1, but I remember reading her say that he totally surprised her. So maybe he was set to leave, but impressed her.

Hi Steve,

I’m just wondering if there are any good or genuine people who are cast on this show, at least from your perspective. I wasn’t an avid viewer of the show, but the year after undergrad and before grad school, I was living at home and my mother convinced me to watch Ali’s season. Somehow (I don’t know if ABC was feeding me subliminal messaging) I was hooked and I found myself rooting for her to find “love.” Now, having my eyes opened from your column and those infamous gossip mags, it seems that not one of these men or women have an ounce of decency in their fame-seeking souls. I guess I’m at fault here because I expect more from people, especially those who are trying to build a “relationship” with someone. Silly me.

On a side note, I do love your wit and your way with words. I will continue to read about these train wrecks of contestants until the show is off the air

Comment: I wouldn’t say none have an ounce of decency. That’s a little harsh and untrue. But many are completely changed once they go on the show because they come off it having that little taste of the limelight, and suddenly they think they are waaaaaaay more important than they are. That’s happened to a lot of them. A LOT.


Last week when Sean sent Leslie home he reasoned that “the romance just wasn’t there.” What a great dumping line. I wish I had that one in my arsenal in my single days. Much more tactful than “you’re not hot enough” or “your parents scare the crap out of me.” We also hear “I have a stronger connection with the other girls.” Another brilliant ones. When a guy has to basically dump 24 women over the course of the season, I suppose he gets some help from producers as to what to say?

Comment: Or just uses stuff he’s heard from past seasons. There’s a lot of dumping lines you can use on this show, but they all center around one thing: I’d rather marry someone else than you. Sorry.

Hey Steve,

Just reading your reader e-mails and I have noticed the last couple of weeks people have been asking a lot about the gift bags that the girls get upon arrival. I’m not sure if you saw this on Possessionista but it says what were in this season’s goodie bags and where to get some of the stuff.

Comment: There ya go. Definitely not my area of expertise, so if that’s what some of the items in the bag were, then I guess that’s what they were. She’d know better than me.

Hey Reality Steve,

Two questions:

1. I was a little confused why Tierra pulled Robyn AND Jackie aside last week to chat about their drama. We’ve seen nothing happen between Tierra and Jackie. I noticed those two have a 2-on-1 date next week. Do you think the producers told Tierra that Jackie was talking crap about her and to pull her aside to make the upcoming 2-on-1 date more dramatic?

2. When the girls don’t get a rose, they show them walk away from the house like they are walking away forever. Do they come back and get their stuff after the cocktail party filming is over, or is their stuff already packed in a car and they really leave immediately after the rose ceremony?

LOVE this blog. Yours is the only blog I read religiously. Keep up the good work.

Btw, I have a friend who doesn’t have a left hand because she has an arm like Sarah’s, and she wears her wedding ring on her right ring finger.

Comment: 1) Who knows at this point? I think it just had more to do with Jackie was getting sent home, and they just decided it’d be during the 2-on-1.

2) I think it’s like “Survivor” where every girl packs before every rose ceremony in case you get sent home, and if you do, they bring it out to you.

Steve –

It seems that you dislike Melissa Rycroft. Was she more responsible for the onscreen break-up than it seemed? I certainly can see that she is a person that likes attention, but I can’t see you disliking her just for that. You don’t seem to dislike Jason, and to me his agreeing to humiliate her (or any woman) on screen certainly didn’t show much character. Did Melissa say something negative about you in her book? I have read some of her blogs and never seen anything bad said about you. I did hear that she and Tye had broken up before the filming of The Bachelor. Was there more to that story?

Comment: Jason and Melissa were already broken up before that on screen breakup happened. Both of them admitted it after the fact. They were basically told to essentially re-enact their breakup. Melissa was in the dark about Molly, and that’s why she was pissed. Or so she claims. She had reasons to suspect it was her, but according to her, up until that day Jason assured her it wasn’t.

I haven’t read Melissa’s book nor do I plan to. I don’t care if she likes me or not. I’m just not a fan of hers.

She and Tye dated on and off for a couple years before that show, but once she came back from it, I guess he/she realized they were meant to be together so they got back together again and got married.

Hey Steve,

I’ve written before, but reading all of today’s emails made want to write yet again. As I read through, page after page, I decided to jump to the end and read your favorite email ever. I can understand why it is your favorite. You know, sometimes I read your column, and I think, “WOW, that guy is so crass!” But then, I will laugh out loud at other stuff you write. As a woman, I read the column and think of how chauvinistic you sound at times, but then again, it is hilarious. That is one of the great things about your column, you appeal to a variety of readers. You are humorous, honest, opinionated, and you don’t ever apologize for those opinions. I can totally see how in the midst of difficulty, you provide some levity to a person’s day. It’s a very nice reward to have someone say that about your column. Words are powerful, and yours obviously provoke conversations and laughter.


Comment: I’ve never hid who I am and what my personality is. The column is not for everyone. But I’m certainly no phony. I’ve always been very sarcastic, very blunt, and if I offend, then don’t read. Can’t stand phony people and that’s what I try to stay away from in my column. Is some of what I say exaggerated a bit and done tongue-in-cheek? Of course. I’m here to entertain and make people laugh. That’s all I care about. People who dissect every word I say and take me so literally just don’t get it.

Hi! A few questions for you:

1. The girls obviously have to pack many suitcases, and you have
addressed that before. Does ABC pay for everyone’s 5 suitcases to get
to LA, even if they might get eliminated the first night? Or do they
have contestants pack extra boxes or suitcases that get shipped only
if the make it farther into the game?

2. Is there places for them to do laundry or is their laundry done for them?

3. What percentage of contestants to you think regret going on the
show after it is done? Obviously, while they are watching the
episodes that make them look like fools, they completely regret it.
However, after that has all died down and they start hooking up with
other contestants, do they become “proud” to be part of “the family”?

Comment: 1) Yep. They’re only allowed to bring 2 suitcases when they leave for filming, but are given more once they arrive since they get more stuff.

2) Crew handles laundry I believe. Or maybe they do it themselves. Not sure. Are people really concerned about who has their laundry done?

3) I think very few regret it because of the perks it brings to their social/dating life.


I have been following your site pretty regularly since Jason’s season, and am yet another one of those people that wouldn’t follow this ridiculous show if not for your spoilers/blog.

After seeing the Reader Email about Lindsay v. Emily O, I have a question that I hope you will answer to satisfy the random, ridiculous curiosity of a dedicated reader…

Have you ever made it to first base with a girl from this franchise? (No names – just Y/N) I actually googled “first base” to make sure it still means what it did when I first heard of the baseball metaphors for sex. I didn’t want to be too personal. Ha.

Keep up the good work!

Comment: No. Never tried either.

Hi Steve, Love your columns….sometimes, it takes me over an hour to read because I have to minimize my screen every time my boss leaves his office,
but I don’t mind because I’m always entertained. However my boss probably wonders why I do not type anything for a full hour =)

A few questions for you….

1. What was your favorite location where The Bachelor / Bachelorette was filmed?

2. Do you have a favorite episode of the Bachelor or Bachelorette?

Comment: 1) Where did Ali go for the ending of her show? Tahiti? Fiji? Can’t remember. I liked that place.

2) There were a lot of memorable ones, but when I was pulling video clips from Kacie in Park City last season to prove her ITM used this season was from that episode, I ended up rewatching the episode from the rose ceremony cocktail party on. That was some gooooood sh**. I forgot how nasty it got between Courtney and Emily O’Brien. That was very entertaining TV. I’m sure there are others that stand out, but since that is most fresh in my mind, I’ll go with that.

Hi there, I just want to say I enjoy reading The Bachelor & The Bachelorette spoilers :).

Do you have any deleted videos of Catherine on Sean’s seasons? I agree that there is not much airplay and wondering if you have anything exciting to watch that kind of indicates that he really likes her.

Comment: Do I have any? Like, my own personal stash? Yeah, sure. Let me just whip those out for you.

Or are you talking if ABC has released any? I don’t think they have as far as I’ve seen, but sometimes I forget to check.

Yo what’s up Steve!

I noticed this season that there are lot more “injuries” that require medical attention compared to the other seasons I’ve seen (Tierra gets two injuries in one season!). Usually there’s one at most. Any thoughts on that? Is ABC being careless so there’s more room for promos to boost ratings?

Comment: Well, considering two of the injuries belonged to Tierra and it she seemed to recover rather quickly from both, I guess we can question whether EMT’s should’ve even been brought in in the first place.

Hi Steve,

Love your site! I was wondering at what point does the Bachelor have to tell them who his final 4 are for the Hometowns? How much notice does the contestant’s family get to prep for this visit?

Comment: During the episode before. Producers start calling family members in the city before to let them know they might be coming for a hometown date and if they have any suggestions for what to do, along with taking suggestions from the contestants since they know their hometown better than the producers do.

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  1. bunbun

    February 10, 2013 at 3:14 PM

    whatireallymean:thanks I didn’t notice the first “r” being missing. Now I get why she said it wasn’t a word. Glad you noticed it and cleared it up for me.

  2. catloverx2

    February 10, 2013 at 4:02 PM

    Why aren’t they traveling this time. I look forward to seeing exotic Locations with this Show.

  3. karynr

    February 11, 2013 at 5:45 AM

    **Response to iheart…..Situation in CA.**
    iheart, I’ve been reading about it in the paper every morning. That’s pretty scary stuff going on in your neck of the woods. I read that one of the police Captains hasn’t left his house since this started, as he’s named in this guy’s “manifesto.” I sure hope they catch him soon. They’re now offering $1M for his capture, so maybe that will motivate someone to pick up the phone if they know where he is, and get him off the streets.

  4. Meghan

    February 11, 2013 at 8:29 AM

    Everyone, just FYI, I recently installed Adblock Plus and the annoying ads at the top and side of the screen are no longer there. I downloaded the one for Firefox, but it is available for several different browsers.

    To the person who wrote Steve about Sean’s sincerity and why he would go on the show, etc., I just wanted to say that I would not be surprised at all if Sean is either 1) a total fake and knows it or 2) a total fake without realizing it. I have known so many guys who profess a very deep faith and values, and even seem to give back to the community on a regular basis, but are still total jerks, womanizers, players, and the like. Some of these guys seem like they probably know they are being fake, but some genuinely don’t get it. The fact that Steve said Sean was making out with crazy Jenna Burke before filming the show kind of tells me he’s not quite what he presents himself to be. Personally, I don’t think someone with the kind of faith Sean says he has would go on this show–I mean, he’d have to be pretty dense to believe God’s method of connecting him with ‘the one’ would be this show, not to mention all of the making out with multiple girls and leading them on. That said, I haven’t been watching this season and am only basing my perception of Sean from what I’ve read.

    Is anyone watching The Office?

  5. velatria

    February 11, 2013 at 8:51 AM


    Been a fan of RS since I found this site during Bachelor Pad 2. But I finally registered last night because I know some of you are followers of the TV *****REVENGE*****. What do you think about last night’s episode?

  6. velatria

    February 11, 2013 at 10:12 AM

    My comment is awaiting moderation. 🙁

  7. velatria

    February 11, 2013 at 10:15 AM

    Hello people. I just registered last night as a new poster, but not new here. I read RS spoilers since Bachelor Pad 3.

  8. iheartvino

    February 11, 2013 at 10:29 AM

    Karyn- yep it’s been pretty crazy around here. The news shifted gears to cover the Grammys briefly, but other than that all focus has been on that manhunt. I hope they find him too, but honestly, he knows how they operate and I don’t think he’ll be found until he’s ready to be found.

    **Revenge** (Spoilers!)
    Amazing show last night! Helen had it coming and I’m glad Victoria took her down. I hope Emily can still get the answers she’s looking for though, without Helen. And after last night’s episode I’m leaning towards Fauxmanda being one of the ones that dies. She also was missing from the funeral scene pictures I mentioned last week, so it definitely could be her. I hope I’m wrong, but it just seems like that’s how they were setting it up. I think the body with the wedding band on the hand is Nate Ryan.

  9. Sunnyside422

    February 11, 2013 at 10:56 AM

    Oh my goodness, Revenge was incredible last night. Loads of drama and fast paced entertainment! Very good TV.

    And tonight…The Following at 9:00!

    Since I am invested in Idol, will probably watch Survivor On Demand. Wish they didn’t conflict. Notice I’m not mentioning The Bachelor at all! Think I’ll skip it again this week and just read Steve.

  10. addicted2rs

    February 11, 2013 at 11:15 AM

    If the altercation goes down on the boat, I’m thinking it has to be Jack that “makes the ultimate sacrifice” for Emily. If by land, it could include Aiden. I highly doubt it will be faux Amanda since she is a fearless badass that does some dirty work for Emily. Jack doesn’t do much, and if Jack dies, Emily can forever be tormented by “what could have been”. There wouldn’t be the same effect of loss if it were faux Amanda.

    Love that Victoria “offed” Helen. 🙂

    Confused that Nolan confronted Padma so directly, against Emily’s better judgement.

    This episode did not disappoint after being absent for so many weeks.

    @iheart Thanks for mentioning the pic of the funeral, I hope I can find it!

  11. velatria

    February 11, 2013 at 12:04 PM


    I don’t think they’d kill Jack this early on the series, that would eliminate Emily’s conflicting love-interest which will then make her character somewhat boring and predictable. I also think that the hand with the wedding band was Nate Ryan’s….or so I hope. 🙂

  12. randais

    February 11, 2013 at 1:22 PM

    GREAT show…have I said that before? I think we all think that.

    Helen DID have it coming to her, I can’t wait to see how Moma Vicky gets herself out of this one though. I can see where you’re coming from, IHEART, regarding fauxMandy ending up fish food along with Mr. Scarypants Ryan. I could get on that train. But I watched the show last night, fell asleep for the middle of it, read these comments this morning, went back and watched the show again and did not see the wedding ring on Nate’s hand. So IF this plays out like that, I either missed it OR it’s not him?

    Addicted, nothing Nolan does (especially regarding his “feelings”) surprises me. He’s ever the hopeful romantic and can be pretty clueless at times. I just hope that Padma isn’t feeding him another line of poo.

    Ok so any thoughts on Daniel breaking up with fauxEm’s? Protecting her? How about fauxEm’s relationship with Aiden? I mean she’s clearly still in love with Jack. In fact I was shocked she gave fauxMandy his pipe cleaner ring for the ceremony! Perhaps that means she truly has moved on? She also seems to have genuine feelings for Aiden.

    YES Sunny, The Following, tonight! Biggest Loser, the previews want us to believe that Jill has a soft side…..”skeptical look”. 😀

    I read the previous comments about The Taste, I don’t disagree. It needs more. The Job, from Friday, seemed very similar in format. It was ok, but I’m don’t think it will be able to compete with The Apprentice.

  13. randais

    February 11, 2013 at 1:54 PM

    May I add:

    This “comment awaiting moderation” is becoming annoying :\.

  14. iheartvino

    February 11, 2013 at 3:38 PM

    *The Following*
    Randais, I watched last week’s The Following about an hour before Revenge last night. I liked watching those shows back to back and wish The Following was on Sundays instead of Mondays. You were right about episode 3 (I think that’s how many they’ve had?) being more predictable. It was fairly obvious to me that that guy’s wife, Maggie? was in on it. And how creepy was it when they had Joey say “Hi Ryan!!!” to the camera? I am really liking this show and wish I had time during the week to watch it.

    I think in some earlier scenes, Nate has been shown with a ring on, but not sure. Regarding Daniel’s call to Emily, I think he asked her for some distance just to protect her from Helen and The Initiative. I think Nolan will regret going against Emily’s advice and that Padma’s going to try to screw him over but I hope not.

  15. iheartvino

    February 11, 2013 at 3:41 PM

    Also- Sean’s sister is on The Bachelor tonight! She seems much less boring than her brother is. I love her blog- she has some good recipes. I’m no Rachael Ray in the kitchen so I love when people post recipes that are easy to make but still really good. I made Shay’s “Lasagna Soup” recently and my family loved it.

  16. randais

    February 11, 2013 at 5:54 PM

    Hey Iheart, have you discovered pinterest yet? I make SO many things from that site. I love the low cal recipes I find on there and I love trying out sweets but I only bake on Saturday so I can take them to church on Sunday and give them away, if I have any left over I give the rest out to the kids behind the desk at the gym, where I go after church, that way NONE are in the house! But anyway, it’s a fun site.

    I’m not watching the Bach, so fill us in with what happens. Regarding The Following, this whole show is soooo creepy, I can NOT figure out why I like it so much. I NEVER watch scary shows but I can’t NOT watch this show. I FORGOT about Joey saying that! “chills”

    P.S. Revolution is coming back and there’s a new one on NBC to rival Bach, called “Ready for Love”, starts 3/3 I think, as does the Apprentice.

  17. addicted2rs

    February 12, 2013 at 7:17 AM

    I didn’t see Tierra produce a single tear. It seemed like she was trying really hard to cry, and I am glad it backfired on her. No doubt she will end up on BachPad.

    Catherine completely confused me with her melt-down. It seemed like she was rooting for Sean to choose Leslie in the end. Huh?

  18. JovisMom

    February 12, 2013 at 8:02 AM

    @ iheartvino – Hey what is the name of Shay’s blog? I’d like to try to make that soup.
    Ever watch Trisha Yearwoods cooking show? Her stuff is relatively easy to make.

  19. iheartvino

    February 12, 2013 at 8:53 AM

    Randais, I refuse to Pinterest because I know I would spend waaaay too much time on there (as I type this from my office lol).

    Addicted, I was confused by Catherine’s little meltdown too and the only thing that makes sense to me is it had to have been edited to look as though she was saying that just then. She could have said something completely different and they spliced it together. Who knows. I noticed they finally decided to show us when Tierra actually cried “I hope the girls got what they wanted…” in the car- earlier in the season they played that as a voice over in previews when they showed her right after her “fall” down the stairs. So dumb.

    Jovi, Shay’s blog is

  20. karynr

    February 12, 2013 at 9:44 AM

    **Amazing Race**
    randais, thanks for the heads-up regarding The Amazing Race. It’s always been one of the best reality shows on the air.

    Did anyone notice when Tierra called the show a “game?”

    IMO Catherine was just very emotional that night. I’m sure after a few weeks the tension can get to you and cause you to have little meltdowns. I also think maybe she and Lesley grew close and she was sad she left.

    I loved when Catherine said “I’m low maintenance.” “I just need to pee.” Can you imagine? I won’t even go hiking without slapping on a little makeup, deodorant, etc. Of course I’m probably almost 30 years older than Catherine!

  21. kaster

    February 12, 2013 at 5:02 PM

    Hi Steve and All,

    I thought Catherine’s melt down showed a more vulnerable, human side to her. It showed she has doubts about herself and her compatibility with Sean, based on how different her own family experiences were growing up to his, they really come from completely different worlds.

    I think all the remaining girls seem nice enough, but I don’t see it with any of them and can’t understand how it would dramatically change in the short amount of time left. The fact that Sean still doesn’t have a front runner by St.Croix speaks volumes.

    During Emily’s season I wanted her to pick Sean, I thought he was the best match for her out of a not so suitable batch of guys, certainly better than the to immature players that made it to final two. However, after watching Sean’s season I see why she didn’t pick him, he seems a nice, genuine sort of guy but perhaps too much on the bland side.

    Lastly, Lindsay as the Bachelorette, nooooo! Nice girl but a whole season of her would be like listening to Minnie mouse hopped up on hormones.

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