The “Bachelorette” Andi Episode 4 Recap Including My Thought’s on How Eric’s Departure Was Handled

June 3rd, 2014 | 12 Comments | Posted in The Bachelorette 10 - Andi

Can I just give a little travel rant? Thank you. I’ve actually done this before, but since it happened again yesterday, might as well repeat it. I board the plane yesterday and we’re about 10 minutes from our scheduled take off before the pilot comes on and says some maintenance is being done at the back of the plane, and he’d let us know as soon as it’s done. I have no problem with that. What I did have a problem with was the lady next to me that let out a giant sigh like she’s being inconvenienced. Lady, would you rather them NOT fix what needs to be fixed and we just take off? I’ll never understand people who are that impatient and aren’t thinking of the alternative when it comes to a possible broken plane. Sorry, but I’d rather have a fully functional plane than take off and go crashing into the ocean. Guess I’m weird like that. Best part of the whole story? It ended up being fixed right away and we were never late for take off, making her little hissy fit and mumbling under her breath all the more ridiculous.

A lot of you asked last Thursday during the live chat, and again through the weekend on email how Eric’s family was dealing with everything. Were they watching? Were they mad? Yesterday I was emailed an article written by Eric’s sister, Karen Tracy, on how she’s dealt with the show. It’s a very good read and puts a lot of things in perspective for everyone. Take the time to read this link:

Eric Hill, late ‘Bachelorette’ star, defies death through show

Then last night after the show ended I received an email that I was pretty surprised to receive. It was from Karen Tracy. Here’s what it said:
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Hi Reality Steve,

I just wanted to send you a quick note to thank you for the way you’ve handled Eric’s part on “The Bachelorette.” For a show that invites mockery and cynicism, I appreciate that you treated Eric’s story with such respect. He really was a remarkable person, and I like that you mentioned more than once how his part in the show should be kept in perspective with the rest of his real life. Lots of writers have been respectful, but you’ve handled it with special class. Eric was visiting me when he signed the contract and I begged him not to do it, but when I realized he was set on it I tried to be supportive. As always, he was none other than himself to the end, for better or for worse. He really felt terrible that he made Andi cry.

Anyway, I felt the need to express my gratitude to you before I signed out. Best wishes to you in your endeavors.

Eric’s sister,

Karen Tracy
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It was great to receive an email like and I thanked Karen for it. It was the least I could do. I didn’t know Eric, nor would I ever claim to know him. Hell, in real life, Eric and I probably couldn’t be any more different in our lifestyles. But I respect what he did and I hate to hear his life was cut short. Like his sister said, her whole life she braced herself for the phone call that she’d eventually get. Doesn’t make it any easier, but if anyone “lived life to its fullest,” it was Eric. RIP Eric. You will be missed. My thoughts on how the show handled everything are later on in the column.

No real way to transition easily into something else, but as they say, the show must go on. Gonna do something a little bit different tomorrow. I want all your reactions to what you thought of how the Eric situation was handled. Positive or negative. I will post those emails tomorrow. Some I’ll add my comments, some I won’t. But I don’t want to mix those in to Thursday’s “Reader Emails” as I feel it’d be all over the place and those emails would get lost. So email today with your thoughts on it (how would you have handled it, what’d you like, what didn’t you like, etc) and I’ll post those responses tomorrow. If you could, in your subject could you please put Eric’s name in it just so it’s easier to separate those emails from “Reader Emails” on Thursday? Thanks.

So lets talk about ratings. Sunday night’s were horrendous. Some of the lowest numbers I’ve seen in a while, but then again, it wasn’t on its normal night. When you do that to shows, you certainly aren’t going to see a spike in your numbers. Last night’s numbers are more indicative of what we can expect. You realize that last night was the first Monday in four episodes where it ran in its normal time slot and wasn’t on a holiday? So what happens? It produces its best numbers since the premiere. A 1.7 in the 18-49 demo and 6.5 million viewers, up 1.5 million over Sunday night’s episode. So I expect this is where it’ll stay for the rest of the season, which is pretty consistent from what we saw with Desiree’s season. All seems to be back to normal.

Remember, there is no new episode next week. As of right now, ABC has only a one hour slot open next Monday, and according to their schedule on June 9th, they haven’t filled it with anything yet. So next Monday no new episode, and on June 16th, we’re back to a regular schedule for the rest of the season. Every Monday night for two hours 8:00pm EST/7:00pm CST until the finale happens on July 28th.

By the way, I forgot to add a video to yesterday’s column when I was talking about Nick’s take on soul mates. I referenced Chris Rock’s stand up, but then never included the video. It’s in there now if you want to go back and check it out. Spot on.

12 thoughts on “The “Bachelorette” Andi Episode 4 Recap Including My Thought’s on How Eric’s Departure Was Handled

  1. So, they have a guy who dies and decide to go the “honest” route to portray his exit? It may have been honest, but MF doesn’t care about honesty. He’s got a proven track record of over 10 years in that regard. No, he looked at sagging ratings and decided not to look a gift horse in the mouth. That golden egg was teed up for him. All he had to do was hit it. And so he did. Can you imagine MF avoiding the topic and passing on the ratings potential? That just wasn’t going to happen. Sure, he tried to do it tastefully and avoid any backlash for his ratings grab, but there was no need to be mean spirited in this case.

    As for Eric personally I have no opinion. He’s no worse than a lot of people have been on the show and certainly better than quite a few. But we really can’t know him any better than anyone else. I do take some exception to anyone that goes on the show, rolls around in it for 4 weeks, and then suddenly is outraged that the paid lead is acting. Come on. Like I commented in the prior blog, that’s like Captain Renault, from Casablanca, opining “I’m shocked, shocked that there is gambling going on here”. There was no need to be duplicitous. Andi is being paid to put on her makeup, show her girls and pretend to enjoy her dates. She said as much. She’s “working” her tail off (read acting) and is exhausted after four weeks of being the focal point of the show. Are these guys really that drunk and stupid that they don’t know what this show is all about? Hadn’t we already gotten to the point where pretty much everyone was joining the show to pimp their business or get their 15 minutes? Did we suddenly get a batch of guys that fell off the back of the turnip truck?…. Besides Chris, I mean.

  2. This may come off as mean…but…I hope they don’t dwell on Eric much anymore the rest of the season. Its unfortunate and I feel for him and his family but I think we should move on. He was a part of the show, not the show and I want to get back to THE SHOW. Again condolences RIP but I’m ready to move on.

    AS far as MTA I don’t expect much from the guys because they only knew him like what 2 -3 weeks? I think its unfair to them to have to come up with some deep emotional bond that may have or may not have been there. Sure they’ll be sad but I dont think it will be more than the general “he was a great guy”. If anything I think they should just show a video that pays tribute to his life and what he was doing, no need to draw it out anymore than necessary. And I dont need to see Andi and the F4 reaction to his death. We already know they will be upset and shocked, and will cry so please lets just get back to THE SHOW!

    Finally as far as their “argument” I will side with Andi. Obviously her intentions are not to seriously hurt anyones feelings so I get where she felt attacked by being called fake when fro what I’ve seen she does care about the guys and is trying and it is a sensitive predicament to be in. I just think the writing was on the wall with even Andi foreshadowing to there being a “stall” in their relationship. IMO it would have been acting for her to be all gushy gushy if its not there. I think it was a hard pill for Eric to swallow that “Shes just not that into you”. And by dammit she has that right to be :)

  3. Gemma, do you really think MF is going to pass on the ratings opportunity presented by the filmed responses of the F4 being told of Eric’s death? If you wondered how that was going to be handled, last night was your answer. We’re going to see every moment of every tear shed that day. Cynical, yes. But it’s a cynical show. They’re just not going to pass on an opportunity like this. The Bachelor was getting a little long in the tooth, with a lot of phonies populating recent shows…. And then THIS happens. Oh, they’ll milk this puppy for all it’s worth, while trying not to offend too many people. If there is any backlash, expect the show to respond that they wanted to be honest and true to Eric’s memory, and that editing out the responses would have been dishonest. Like it, or not, the major subplot this season is Eric.

  4. As far as the way the show handled it–I think it could have been handled a little better. Mostly, I feel like if Andi had said anything slightly regretful about the argument like “Watching it back I think he was just using the wrong words to describe how he felt and I just misunderstood, because he was a great person and wasn’t trying to offend me” it would have made her part better and seem less like she thinks she can do no wrong which she had just exemplified during the argument itself. And also it would have been nice if they maybe had a producer or guy who had gotten closer to him also on to share what a great guy he was.
    As for the argument–I think he really just wasn’t articulating what he meant very well and she was too tired and just not into him enough to even try to understand what he meant.
    I feel like her whole break down about being so tired was kind of what he meant. She kept saying “How can you say that when I have been working my ass off and trying so hard for you guys?” and I think he sensed that she was trying so hard and that is what he wanted her to stop doing. I think he wanted her to say, “Oh my gosh I am just so tired!” And have a real conversation with her instead of feeling the need to be bright and charming with him.
    So honestly, I really take his side. I can’t stand people who feel the need to fake it and paste on a smile all of the time, but I do recognize that many people prize that quality in themselves so it is just a personal pet peeve. Ashley was a bachelorette who immediately jumps to mind who was a little more “open” with the guys about what she was feeling rather than just keeping up the act all of the time. Also, another reason I take his side is because she kept (even in his memorial interview) saying he wasn’t really opening up to her. I think telling her how he walked away from his faith was pretty open myself. And to be honest, maybe it was edited it out, but she seemed like she listened to his story, digested it, and moved on, rather than starting a deep conversation about it. That’s what being open would have looked like on her side. You know, confession and mirroring? The basis of all deep friendships?
    I don’t really dislike her for the fight though because it probably boiled down to the fact that she wasn’t interested enough in him to make it work.
    But I do blame her for freaking the eff out that he confronted her for having the audacity to criticize her. It just seemed like a spoiled brat thing to do.

  5. All the harping on Eric being a bad communicator is ridiculous. The man went to foreign countries where he DID NOT speak the language and communicated.

    His entire travel epic or odyssey or boondoggle or whatever was about COMMUNICATING! With other people. About their lives. It was all over his photos and blogs and videos.

    His “mission” was to communicate.

    But all of the sudden, with Andi, he was incapable of any coherence? Sorry, just not buying that. She didn’t want him for keeps and it bruised his ego enough to go on the offensive. He’s not bad, she’s not bad but together they would be bad.

    I know what I saw on my TV screen and how I interpret those words & actions.

    YMMV

  6. Well put, Angelfish. No one did any wrong.

    Rob, I agree completely. MF, aka the MF, cares about ratings, not people.

    RS has handled this beautifully.

  7. Steve, on the topic of air travel and your comment. Maybe the person beside you sighed because he/she wondered why the plane wasn’t ‘fixed’ BEFORE they boarded passengers??….Just sayin’. As far as how the Eric situation was handled, I have one word…..tasteless. And, Steve, I agree 100% regarding Dylan. It’s his choice, but why he’d choose to come on a show like this so soon after tragedy is beyond me.

  8. As for the heavy sighing woman on the plane —there could be a hundred different reasons she was exasperated. Maybe her husband just told her their kid wrecked the car again, she was just fired — the list goes on.

    oyoung….I agree 100% with your view.

    As far as Dylan going on the show, you’d have to ask him his reasons. Everyone deals with obstacles in their own way.

  9. Thanks Karynr,

    I just watched an interview with Eric’s brother,Scott on “Entertainment Tonight”. He was very gracious and said the whole family was fine with how the show went. He also said he’d like to sit down & chat with Andi.

    Chris Harrison did a phone in and said that since Eric’s exit interview was brief & a little tense, they subbed in his little interview with Andi.

    So if the family is fine with what went down, that should be the end of all the huffing & puffing! *LOL*

  10. I became a fan of Andi’s when she told JP off for being fake. She wasn’t happy that JP dismissed her feelings. So when Eric approached her with sincerity and kindness and she flipped out, my opinion of her took a nose dive. She absolutely overreacted and didn’t even attempt to listen to what he had to say and take it to heart. She is a hypocritical spoiled brat. The interview at the end? Could she seem any more glib? Screw her.

  11. I work in pharma sales and most of the Bachelor/Bachelorette group dates and cocktail parties remind me a lot of the happy, sometimes mindless fakery that is just part of the required social scene. Andi is good at this. Eric is not. Eric has traveled the world and is savvy to the hardships and political struggles in countries where dressing up to drink champagne and have cursory “I so want to find love, this is so great, best day ever, omg, isn’t this hotel amazing!” conversation feels stilted and disingenuous at best.

    After a solid first date, he was probably getting fed up with trying to find a few minutes to re-establish that connection with Andi, only to find her being formal and nice with him and maybe brushing him off or not really opening up to him. I get that this is part of the game, but Eric probably realized he wasn’t cut out for it. He opened up to her on several occasions but all I really heard from Andi was “hmm… interesting.” When he pulled her aside and calmly and rationally explained how he was feeling about her being detached or having a ‘poker face’ or just playing things up for the camera, he had every right to. He wasn’t yelling at her or insulting her. Andi chose to take it that any guy who was not fawning over her and telling her how fabulous she is = an insult. Instead of having a normal conversation about the frustrations of being tired, or just not feeling the right connection or whatever she wanted to say about it – she flew off the handle and went into tears and hysterics and blew everything he was saying wayyyy out of proportion.

    I was watching that scene and just thinking – wow, this girl is sooo high maintenance and cannot *listen* properly. Eric is a good communicator – he tried to be real and tell her how he felt – in the moment. She just didn’t want to hear it and the melodrama that ensued is allll on her, as far as I’m concerned. My feelings have nothing to do with Eric’s tragic accident either. I would have felt the same, even if he was still around. Andi seriously needs to learn some interpersonal skills that go beyond small-talk and social-acting. I thought this during her over-dramatic Juan-Pablo explosion and this was just another (worse) example. She always needs to be right and if the guy doesn’t retract his statements, out come the tears and overblown fury. If Josh ever stops stroking her ego – watch out! So yeah, I was Team Eric all the way. He cut through the BS, trying to see if there was something there and what needed to happen to have a meaningful connection and she just didn’t ‘get it’. It’s like they were having two different conversations. All she heard was “how dare you criticize me!” Ugh. Girl, you did the same to JP. I half-wish, last season that instead of calmly saying “eees ok” – JP had just burst into hysterical sobbing and told her how tired he was and to just get out. On this show (AND last season!) Andi cries about something every 20 minutes – I hope Eric didn’t feel too badly about it. For a lawyer, she doesn’t seem able to hold it together very well.

    Re – the aftermath – I wish they’d just chosen to show maybe 10 min about Eric’s life – maybe some video clips from his travels. I would love to have seen that instead of Andi fake-crying about how she can’t believe he won’t be at Men Tell All. God – this woman needs to stop being so self-involved!

  12. Dear Eric’s Sister,

    I wish your family healing from this tragedy. What I saw of Eric was a very sincere person who was very different from Andi. He was well travelled and very street smart. Because of his travels, he had little time for formal “small talk”. It was as simple as that with Andi. He probably wasn’t a good fit for the show b/c of his sincere nature.

    I am sad for your loss…Prayers to your family,

    Sincerely…

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