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Dr. Reality Steve

“Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” & Next “Bachelor” Talk, and Holy Crap, US Weekly Credited Me For Something

Well that was a disappointing MTA! I hate that Andi was only on for like 10 minutes, but I guess it’s supposed to be all about the guys. The nonsense with Ashley and JP was so awkward! I’m really surprised they would agree to do the “live” ultrasound because they seem more real than most couples and like they are trying to have a normal life.

Josh just declared on Twitter “6 more days”- maybe the crazies that don’t believe he is the last man standing will find some meaning in that. Also, did you see he tweeted what his lies were about last night? They were lame, as expected. I saw those tweets about the lies. I think he was just joking.

I’ve noticed on Twitter a lot of interaction between Juan Douche’s girls and Andi’s guys and it seems like something might be going on with Coach Brian and Christy Hanson. Follow your girl Kat (by the way, love that Jimmy Fallon called her Cat Turd) if you’re interested in keeping up, which I’m sure you aren’t. Part of me thinks it’s awesome to basically have automatic friends in every major city in the US but the majority of me thinks it’s incest and totally gross. I wonder how many STD’s have been spread since the beginning of The Bachelor. Plenty. And yes, Brian and Christy have definitely been keeping in touch for a while. Not sure the extent of their relationship, but they were definitely talking before she left for BIP.

A couple weeks ago you mentioned that a lot of the cast gets picked because they are friends with previous cast members from other seasons. I think Christy Hanson and Jaclyn Schwarz might be an example of this. I noticed a long time ago that they are Twitter friends and now it all makes sense. And I read an old US Weekly a couple of days ago that said Eric Hill met Brooks Forester in 2013 so my guess is that Brooks got Eric on the show. Any other connections like that that you know of? Too many to name right now.

Interesting tidbit… They people I work for are neighbors and friends with the Dorfman’s. I heard that they had to re-shoot the scene last season where Andi left Juan Douche after the fantasy suite dates because she went off way worse than what we saw. Do they reshoot scenes a lot?? Hy’s office happens to be next to ours and I’ve talked to him a few times, but not since the show started airing. He is a great guy- can’t wait to see him next week! Yes, they do.

BIP looks like a total cluster-f#@k and I’m embarrassed for the people who participated. That said, I can’t wait to watch!

Ok, sorry for the rambling. Thanks for indulging me! Keep doing what you’re doing!

Hey Steve:

Love your site, spoilers, recap and commentary!

I have never before had a reason to write to you, but some stupidity from MTA has provoked me to vent as I noticed something pretty obvious in the Ashley and JP segment that made me roll my eyes.

That ultrasound was clearly not live or even recent! As someone who has had many ultrasounds due to high risk pregnancies with my two kids, I am very aware of the types of images that will be captured at different stages in pregnancy and the extent of moving around with the device that is required to get the different angles that were shown.

At her current stage of pregnancy, with the size of the baby, all you would see is a part here and there and not almost the whole body on the screen at once. As well, the technician would have to move the device all around – not just on a corner of her abdomen through a slit in her dress – to capture what we saw.

They must really think we are all morons!

Keep doing what you do – I’m certainly enjoying it!

Comment: I’ve now asked 3 different people if what the technician on the MTA was doing was actually what was being shown on the screen and basically the answer was, “absolutely not. That wasn’t a live shot inside her belly.” Very easily could’ve been video footage they had shot much earlier in her pregnancy, they pressed “play” on a previous video from an earlier ultrasound, while making the audience think it was being done live. I buy that. The whole thing just seemed off.

All these stories that have come out in the last week or so about Josh already cheating
on Andi are true? Supposedly with his ex-girlfriend (who, in my opinion, can’t hold a candle to Andi)????

I love reading your column and knowing ahead of time who “wins”…. cracks me up that you are so “right-on” on almost all of the scenarios and conversations.

Keep up the good work!!!

Comment: Josh is not cheating on Andi. They are engaged.

Hey Steve, just a couple thoughts on yesterday’s episode.

Definitely the tackiest Men Tall All I’ve ever seen. I mean I always new this show was trashy but at least they tried to be a little classy. Its like they totally through that out the window. First, the Ashley/JP ultra sound was so weird. The whole time I was like I’m pretty sure we all know its a boy. It was just so bazar. Yes, I agree. Totally bazar.

Second, why did they give Marquel so much screen time? Not only was the majority of the show dedicated to the race card, but he also got the hot seat. I felt like both Marquel and Chris were auditioning for the Bachelor. Although you said Chris is getting it. Marquel is not in the running for the next “Bachelor.” I think his screen time was more to promote him on BIP. It’s between Chris and Arie now.

Third, why didn’t they mention Eric Hill? Like not even a little. I though at least they would have a chair for him. Its so weird to start the season saying “this season is dedicated to Eric”, do a whole sit down with Andi the episode he leaves, and air Chris telling Andi and the guys of his passing, but make absolutely no mention of him at the Men Tell All. They even omitted a scene in the bloopers that he was in. I have the episode recorded and the scene with Eric and Chris on the couch was not in the bloopers that aired last night. I though it was so weird to not even acknowledge him.

Comment: Maybe they just figured they’d done enough this season. But not to get any of the guy’s opinion of him was weird. It’s not like that was left on the editing room floor. As I mentioned in last Thursday’s column, Eric’s name was never brought up once during the MTA taping.

Do you think Andi will pull a mesnick in the ATFR and switch her choice. Or do you think she is perfectly content with Josh.

Comment: You read too many tabloids.

I was looking at Andi’s and Josh’s instagram feeds and they were both by a lake on the July 4th weekend. It seems to me they were together. Just more proof she picked Josh to my dismay. Josh made a comment that he spent the weekend with his best friend and showed a picture of his dog. I bet he meant Andi and was trying to be cleaver…unfortunately he is not. I love your column but have to disagree with you that it was a clear choice for her for the whole season to pick Josh. I believe she had a better connection with Nick that will last longer than the physical connection with Josh. My bet is that she changed her mind after Josh met her family. With her Dad being such a big fan of Josh’s brother and due to them both being in Atlanta I bet her family influenced her to choose Josh. Really why not pick Josh. She has only known these guys for a matter of weeks – it makes sense to go with the guy that lives close to you and gives your Dad an in with his fav quarterback. Just my opinion. I bet she does not last with Josh and Nick will be better off without Andy anyway.

Comment: We’ll agree to disagree.


I hope your niece is recovering well! Finding out there is no Santa can be a traumatic experience. I was around her age when a kid on the bus and I had an argument about the existence of Santa, with me being firmly in the “there is a Santa camp” only for my mom to crash my world down on me when I got home from school.

I was so pissed and embarrassed, I promptly told my 6 year old sister there was no Santa. So yeah, your sister did the right thing.

Comment: Well it should be an interesting Christmas. Hopefully Olivia doesn’t slip up. I don’t think she would intentionally tell Nicholas, but she could easily say something or slip not realizing what she’s saying. Then again, Nicholas would have to been paying really close attention to catch it and, well, the odds of that happening are slim.

I’m really curious, has Andi had a nose job? I had one, and I’m always nasal spraying. (Mine is only 4 weeks old- I’m wondering if hers is old, will I be nasal spraying forever). Plus, Andi’s nose is awesome.

Comment: Yes.


I have been meaning to e-mail you for weeks and rant about how annoyed I was with the stereotype of Iowa that I’ve had to endure for months. I had a long response about how most of us live close to cities, we have corporate jobs–I worked at one of the biggest insurance companies in the nation–it’s not just all cornfields, there is civilations, etc. Then last weeks post with the hashtag #BlameItonIowa made all the frustration go away. It’s so ingenious. I’m going to blame all my problems on Iowa. Loved it!

Thanks for all the great info. So glad that you help us see how fake this show really is!

Comment: I agree. I think we should making it trend worldwide.

Are all the contestants completely miked at the rose ceremony? I think the producers know exactly what Andrew said to JJ, but the controversy & drama over “Did he or didn’t he?” is too compelling for them to reveal it. The not knowing keeps people talking, and that’s what they want.

Comment: Exactly. If they reveal the audio, then there’s no discussion because we’ll all know exactly what was said. By not revealing, it creates a talking point for people to discuss and that’s what they want.

As a few former contestants said on Twitter Monday night when they showed that segment, “If there’s video, there’s audio.”

A few questions/comments:

1. Is Josh really Jewish? I read somewhere that his mom is Jewish but on Instagram, there’s pics of him and his siblings on Christmas last year. I don’t know the dynamic of the Murray’s household religion.

2. Eric Hill was in one of the bloopers on Mondays episode. Interesting that they didn’t mention him all episode but included a blooper of him. Nope. Name never came up once at the taping.

3. The ultrasound had to be one of the WORST moments in TV history. It was uncomfortable on every level and frankly I expect more from JP and Ashley. I just don’t get why they tried to make people think they didn’t know? So silly and beyond stupid. I can’t imagine they were paid by ABC to do that were they? Of course they were paid. Every couple that’s asked to come back on a “Tell All” show is paid for their appearance. None of them would show up otherwise. Kinda like how there isn’t a single person in the 25 member cast of “Bachelor in Paradise” that would’ve ever gone on that show if they weren’t paid to do so. No way. Not with not knowing what the hell the show would be about and no cash prize. I mean, maybe one or two would’ve done it just to be on TV again, but the majority solely went because they were paid.

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  1. JovisMom

    July 24, 2014 at 10:47 AM

    To the first emailer… I had the EXACT SAME THING happen to me. Granted we were together twice as long and I am 10 years older than you….He did the same thing. Out of the blue, no explaintaion, and cut me off, etc… THOUGHT he was the greatest boyfriend…. It hurt I know but it has been 9 months now, and guess what? I met someone else. This guy treats me 100% better than the previous one. My ex never bought me flowers and said he never would, I get a new bouquet from this guy every week. My ex never told me I was beautiful, new guy says it everyday, a few times a day. So I am telling you it takes some time but it does get easier… Maybe you should write that letter (and also add how he made you feel and how hurt you are), but don’t send it. Seal it in an evnvople and give it to a close friend… In a few months ask that friend for the letter back.. I promise you, you will read it and not believe how far you have come. Also it is ok to cry, watch romantic movies, and listen to sappy music. You will be OK I promise. The next guy will be even better because of what you learned about yourself and relationship from your ex. Good luck to you!

  2. angelfish

    July 24, 2014 at 11:27 AM

    So if somebody that JUST got married “unblocks” you from her Facebook, I’d say that’s somebody that would really love a nice wedding gift from you. *LOL* I wouldn’t bother. Anybody that dumps a friend with no explanation, combined with outright nastiness deserves nothing in my book.

    Charlotte on “Sex and the City” said It takes half the total time you went out with someone to get over them. By that calculation, the 1st letter writer should have moved on at least 6 months ago. Seriously, time to let it GO!

  3. tia89

    July 24, 2014 at 11:34 AM

    Hoping the Arie rumors are true because I personally find Chris to be incredibly boring and dull and his season would basically be Andi’s season x2. He just doesn’t seem to have much of a personality. Arie just seems like he would be a way better fit for the role of Bachelor if purely from an entertainment standpoint. Who cares of he truly doesn’t want a wife. The majority of these people with maybe the exclusion of Sean go on this for other reasons anyways. Arie would be no different but atleast he’s more interesting to watch.

  4. maddie86

    July 24, 2014 at 11:43 AM

    Chris honestly seems like a nice guy who is ready to settle down but I don’t see him being an interesting bachelor to follow. He may bore us all although most of the drama usually comes from the contestants anyways. They should just pick Arie, as sleazy as he’s turned out to be, he’ll out on a hell of a show. Because finding love has always been secondary on The Bachelor (minus one or two contestants).

  5. vessel

    July 24, 2014 at 12:43 PM

    I thought I was happy about Chris being the Bachelor and I was prepared to settle in for a season of farm talk and ghost in the graveyard, but Arie changes everything. I’m not a fan of his or anything, but he’ll be different for sure. I in no way think he’s ready to stop tom-catting around and settle down with one woman but who cares? I want entertainment and he can be as shallow as he wants, fine by me. Hope he gets it, but ugh, poor Chris if he doesn’t. Oh well…

  6. bigfatwoman

    July 24, 2014 at 1:55 PM

    I am not a fan of Arie the person, but I will settle for him if it means Chris is forced to bypass this train wreck show. Save yourself now Chris.

  7. linds

    July 24, 2014 at 3:24 PM

    If Arie is the bachelor it will be the first time since Deanna’s season that I won’t watch. He grosses me out for some reason. I was so excited at the thought of Chris being the Bachelor, because he seems like the real deal… Then again I think he is way too good for this show. I would much rather watch him though! I don’t want to waste my evenings watching Arie suck face with every single girl while he pretends to want more than that. No one will buy it!

  8. mariet

    July 24, 2014 at 4:26 PM

    And people bought that Juan Pablo (and countless others) wanted more than that? Wow. I think Arie would be just as entertaining as Juan Pablo. Should be hilarious. Can’t wait for the beat down from Chris on ATFR– Do you love her? DO YOU LOVE HER?!
    When Chris H. asked Chris S. how he expected to meet someone, I was shouting, dating apps, dude! And please, he’s not out there sitting on tractor in the middle of nowhere. He’s a businessman. Plenty of connections, especially now.

  9. Athena

    July 24, 2014 at 6:25 PM

    Would Arie be one of those Bachelor’s we’d love to hate?

  10. LynnMJ

    July 24, 2014 at 7:44 PM

    I have a feeling, even if Chris doesn’t get the gig, he won’t have any trouble finding women who would love to be with him.

  11. rob22

    July 24, 2014 at 8:15 PM

    Arie? I guess he could go for Bob Guiney’s record and maybe do a two on one with Jef during the first cocktail party. Then perhaps tongue down all 25 girls. What a free for all that would be.

  12. karynr

    July 25, 2014 at 6:24 AM

    I think Arie would be a great choice. Chris is okay, but I don’t find him great looking, and have no idea if there’s a personality in there somewhere. I didn’t see or hear enough to know if the guy can carry the show. Arie would be a hoot and I’ll bet ratings would be excellent. If he is chosen, the only thing I wouldn’t look forward to is RS putting him down week after week after week….. That will get very old, very fast!

  13. heliofan

    July 25, 2014 at 8:27 AM

    I really hope it’s Arie Jr. I have always been a big fan of his dad’s. My son and I go to some IndyCar races and I have met Arie Jr. a couple of times. He is very personable and extremely good looking….even better than TV. I know he wouldn’t be there for the “right reasons” but he sure would be fun to watch!

  14. rob22

    July 25, 2014 at 10:03 AM

    With Arie, you essentially get a more intelligent, English speaking version of Huan Pah-Blow. Both are in it for the fame and tail and neither one has a real job. Granted, we won’t be hearing “ees OK”, seeing randomly CAPITALIZED tweets & have an ex girlfriend that lives with him and his kid type thing going on. But Arie carries with him all his snapchat pics of him with underage girls, the wreckage of various franchise related hookups and the aura of a trust fund kid. Nonetheless, if JPBlow’s ratings were good, I’m sure Arie could deliver something similar. Probably a better choice over Old McDonald.

  15. Cndgirl

    July 25, 2014 at 10:19 AM

    Found the viewpoint of the person writing in that said hearing the line ‘I have good credit’ to be a rather outdated view of a marriage. While there is a definite valid point about financial security, in this day and age that’s not only the man’s ‘domain’. Andi, as trained as a lawyer, is obviously a smart woman, likely in good credit standing herself – and quite likely financially independent. Maybe what she needs to complete her is emotional security, not financial. If the genders were switched in that statement, would there be that strong of a reaction if it was the woman living at home? Times have changed. Not saying financial aspects aren’t important, they most definitely are, but whose responsibility it is has changed.

    Maybe Chris had more money, but if she doesn’t love him then how would that end up being a happy marriage?

  16. strick432

    July 28, 2014 at 11:29 AM

    I think Steve is a secret Fifty Shades of Grey fan and has read all the books…..just sayin’.

  17. angelfish

    July 28, 2014 at 3:51 PM

    The Bachelorette Facebook page published the supposed mystery letter. Definitely seems to be from Nick.

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