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Hi Steve,

Do you know if the Bachelorette gets an opinion on which ring her final guy picks?
Alternatively, does the final girl on the Bachelor get a say/opinion?


Comment: I’m sure they meet with Neil Lane before the season talking about what they like, but Neil still makes about 4 – 6 rings that the guys pick from.

Hey Steve! Thanks for the great recaps for Bachelor in Paradise. (As much as my brain is rotting from watching this mess, it is a guilty pleasure.). A few questions:

(1) Are Graham and AshLee any more than just friends as of episode 2? They seem to nit even interact. They hadn’t kissed before episode 3.

(2) Everyone seems to love Graham. Why not make him the Bachelor? Because it’s Chris.

(3) I know Michelle is now with Cody, but was she ever in the running for the Bachelorette? No.

Hey, Steve,

Love your website and spoilers! As I read over the e-mails today, I couldn’t help but provide info for two of them.

For the reader searching for the turtle backpack that Ben was sporting, my daughter and I saw them in Hot Topic. They’re Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle backpacks.

As for the weird necklaces that all the guys were wearing, I wondered if they weren’t holding their microphones. I didn’t see mic packs on the guys when they had swim trunks on. Maybe I’m wrong, but that was the only thing that would explain those necklaces.

Thanks, and keep writing! I look forward to your column and e-mails each week!

Comment: Yes, that is one email I got a lot this week. I was made aware that the guys necklaces are microphones since they’re shirtless so much. Makes sense.

In your reader emails last week somebody commented on the necklaces all the guys are wearing on BIP. If you look closely I think that they are hiding a microphone. When you get a back shot of a guy they have a cord running up their back from their shorts/swim suit to their neck. Since the guys are not wearing shirts a whole lot they needed somewhere to put their microphones so they used necklaces. Just something I noticed on last Monday’s episode.

Comment: Aaaaaaaaannd there’s #2.

Hello Steve. Just read your reader emails column where someone wrote in about their dog with separation anxiety and just wanted to let you and the reader know you should look into crate training. My dog has separation anxiety as well and my first year with him was awful he destroyed everything and would scream the whole time. Finally i got him a little kennel to keep him in when i leave and now he’s totally OK with me leaving. It took a a few times for him to get used to the kennel but he loves it now. I put his favorite blanket and a pad in there and always give him food or a treat. Hope it helps!

Comment: Maddie has a crate, but having her for 6 years now, she doesn’t see it as a punishment. Of course, I could put her in there before I leave at night. I’ve done it at times, but then I feel bad, and I’ll stop. Then I’ll go out 3, 4, maybe 5 times and come home and she won’t have destroyed anything and I think she’s ok. But then on that 6th time she will. So since I never know when she’s going to eat anything, do I crate her EVERY time I go out, or on occasion? That is the question.

Did you read the article shortly after Emily’s season started where Kacie B talked about getting passed up for the bachelorette and how unfair it was that Emily got it instead of one of Ben’s girls? I never saw what you thought of that. Do you think one of Ben’s girls should have gotten it? She also commented about how she would have loved to get to date Sean. Interesting to think how things might be different now if Kacie had gotten the gig, picked Sean and left the Bachelor gig for someone like Jef or Arie.

Comment: I never saw Kacie say that. Pretty irrelevant now since she’s married.

Hi Steve,

I am a bit confused. I heard Chris Harrison say in an inteview that Chris and Des’ wedding was next on the docket and that he hoped to have it televised. Then, I read two articles that claim that the wedding is in January and that ABC hasn’t made any decision on airing Chris and Des’ wedding yet. Is there any chance that ABC would change its mind about airing the wedding?

Comment: I have not heard anything of the such. It’s not being televised by ABC.

Dear Steve,

A while back I asked you a question about if Kate from LOST was the Bachelorette and her order of eliminations based off the male characters from the show. I have another LOST question:

Which of the characters from LOST are the Chris Bukowski and Michelle Money types that would want to appear on BP or BIP in your opinion?

Comment: Charlie for sure. Fame whore. I could see Kate doing it. Mr. Eko because he doesn’t seem like he’s been too lucky with the ladies. Daniel Faraday for the complete weirdness factor. And probably Miles because he could read everyone’s mind. Wasn’t that his power? I already forgot.

Hey Steve

Long time reader first time emailer

I love your spoilers and enjoy the show more because of them so thanks. Just have a few question regarding bachelor in paradise:

1. How did you feel about marquels comment to Michelle that she drank too much?? I felt it was kind of out of place considering he was drinking a glass of red at the time.

2. What’s up with Ashlee going on the show having her eyes just set on GRAHAM she’s a weirdo am I right!?

Thanks for all the great work keep it up!

Comment: Some women know what they want, I guess.

Hi Steve, sorry to hear you’re not feeling well. At least the technical difficulties are giving you a night to rest. Hope you feel better soon!

Anyway, here’s the question I had on the Spreecast. I’ve seen emails or the one-off questions in the chat about spoilers or updates for shows you don’t watch. Has anyone ever tried to give you spoilers to shows outside of the Bachelor franchise? I’m assuming you wouldn’t do due diligence on it or post it, just curious if it ever happens. If it has, which shows?

As a follow up, do you think there’s a possibility for you to run this sort of site (spoilers and sarcastic recaps) for any other shows once the Bachelor stops airing?


Comment: One time years ago I got some spoilers to a show but I had no idea if they were legit or not. It was so long ago, I don’t even remember what the show was. I know it was one I didn’t watch.

I don’t think I’m ever going to get consistent spoilers for any other reality show on television.


I’ve been reading your blog since Jason’s season, but have never sent an e- mail. I noticed some people have asked about the necklaces the guys are wearing this season on BIP. I don’t tweet, but follow some of the contestants on Twitter. I noticed fans asking them about the necklaces, and some of the guys tweeted that they fought wearing them, but had to b/c they were their microphones for the show for when they weren’t wearing a shirt. Just thought I’d let you know this completely inconsequential and minor detail! Keep spoiling!

Comment: #3.

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  1. bigfatwoman

    August 21, 2014 at 10:14 AM

    To the woman with the daughter being strung along…..

    she needs to stop responding…..he likes keeping women (several I’m sure) on the hook and your daughter needs to stop playing along. I’m sure if she knew how many women he randomly texts at various times, she would feel like a fool.

  2. c104

    August 21, 2014 at 10:58 AM

    Since you asked about crate training, yes, you should leave Maddie in the crate every time you leave. You might have to work on short periods of time first. It’s about consistency and security for her. It’s not supposed to be a punishment. It’s supposed to be her home, her den. Lots of stuff on line about successful crate training. Good luck! It will help her.

    As for the email from a long-time fan questioning whether the contestants can sight see abroad, I don’t remember the answer either. Why bother to publish the question if you’re just going to express your confusion on why they don’t already know? We don’t commit every word to memory. In fact, I’ve forgotten who some of the leads are. 😉 To that person: No, generally, the contestants not on dates are holed up in their hotels. There have been exceptions, though. On Emily’s season, some of the guys went to church on Easter. Who knows? Things may have changed some in the last season, too.

  3. jessicat

    August 21, 2014 at 11:43 AM

    Hmmm…my email was included but part of it was missine. Also, he didn’t answer one of my questions properly. I asked about the previews for the upcoming epiosde where they show that AshLee said something terrible and shocking to Graham (everyone was saying stuff to AshLee like “how could you say that to him?”), and Steven answered about something to do with the rose ceremony. I wanted to know what AshLee had said to Graham that was so awful.

  4. jessicat

    August 21, 2014 at 11:43 AM


  5. vessel

    August 21, 2014 at 12:47 PM

    @Jessicat, I’d ask him again for his live chat tonight. He often only partially answers my questions, too.

  6. jessicat

    August 21, 2014 at 12:57 PM

    Thanks vessel.

  7. cjscjs711

    August 21, 2014 at 10:42 PM

    The gal with the flaky dude – neither seems all that into the other. There’s some attraction, admiration, friendship – something on that level. As long as she’s not head over heels, where’s the harm. As long as the guy’s not stalking her in some sick way – no harm. With the internet, these kinds of I’m-bored-who’s-around-to-talk-to relationships are common. If she was ‘being an Elise’ about the guy, THAT would be cause for concern……

  8. JovisMom

    August 22, 2014 at 6:49 AM

    Does anyone remember what Erica Rose said to/about Steve that was so awful? I remember reading it but have forgot.

  9. mariet

    August 22, 2014 at 8:21 AM

    I believe she double crossed him and got him in trouble with ABC.

  10. rob22

    August 22, 2014 at 2:19 PM

    Yes, Erica Rose ratted RS out and got him sued. Lots of integrity with that one. Maybe RS shouldn’t have been doing what he was doing, but Erica Rose literally copied up to him with the purpose being to nail him for MF. Low.

  11. calichamp

    August 24, 2014 at 10:36 AM

    I love that MamaDs is a must stop in MB. good call!

  12. cjscjs711

    August 24, 2014 at 9:42 PM

    So right about the guys laugh. I tried turning the volume down ……

  13. amac

    August 25, 2014 at 8:18 AM

    Re: Courtenay reading her own audio book
    I enjoy listening to audio books all the time; the worst ones to listen to are when the author reads their own work. Best ones are when actors are hired.
    Not hopeful after hearing this, just saying…

  14. rob22

    August 25, 2014 at 12:41 PM

    I agree. I had a book on tape that Hank Aaron read… His own autobiography. He sounded only slightly annoyed when describing the racism he had to deal with…. Because he was reading the words, and that stirred a little emotion, but I’m sure not the same emotion as when he talks about that stuff at a dinner party.

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