Man this Amy Schumer stuff is kinda getting out of control, no? I mean yes, she was great on the show and I could watch her ripping on these guys for days, but lets tap the brakes a bit on Amy becoming the next “Bachelorette.” I don’t see that happening at all. Amy doesn’t need the “Bachelorette” for one. They need her way more than she needs them. Plus, just like Kimmel last season, in that short small role, they can shine. Amy can’t be the “Bachelorette” cracking jokes all season because I doubt anyone would take her seriously – even her. I don’t think she could keep a straight face doing that show. When we see Amy, we want to see her in her element. Watching her for 11 weeks pretend to try and fall for a bunch of personal trainers and bartenders? Please. It wouldn’t be the least bit believable. This is all just hype off her appearance Monday to keep people talking. Amy Schumer is not gonna be the next “Bachelorette.” No chance, no how.
With my 40th birthday party a week from today in Vegas, I decided to add a little trivia game for those in attendance with prizes to the winner. The tough part of doing “Bachelor/ette” trivia is, this is my job. I know this stuff like the back of my hand. So to me, the questions are easy. But come next Friday night when you won’t be able to google this stuff and you have only a selected amount of time to answer, it’ll definitely be harder, but how much? Example. This isn’t one of the questions next week, but there are some that are kind of along these lines:
“Which season had a Muay Thai boxing group date?”
Now, if you didn’t know you could easily google it and find out. I’m sure a lot of you know it’s Ashley’s season, but will those in attendance be able to remember that off the top of their head. We’ll see. Whoever wins the contest will get a mention in next week’s column, so I guess they have that to look forward to. I’ll probably Periscope the trivia game next Friday night as well so if you want to watch at home you can see how you’d fare. Although you’ll have an advantage since you’d be able to Google the answers.
Don’t forget the live video chat is back tonight at 9:00pm EST/6:00pm PST. I’ll be taking your questions on all things “Bachelorette” and anything else you want to talk about. We can even talk UnREAL if you’d like. I don’t want to spoil it for you guys, but I can give you some insight to the season from what I’ve seen so far. Come back to the site around 4:00pm CST and you can begin asking your questions.
Here’s a clip from Monday’s episode when the Sumo wrestlers come and wake the guys up:
Dr. Reality Steve
Ok…I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 10 months now. We talk about things like getting married, buying a house, having kids, etc. I truly believe he loves me and I do him.
Last night, he was logged into his Gmail account and I saw that he had messaged his former girlfriend yesterday morning. I didn’t confront him about it because I felt bad…I’d inadvertently seen the message but purposefully opened the thread and read it. The conversation was innocuous enough. He asked her how she’d been lately; she said fine/busy; she asked the same and he answered in kind. That’s it…end of convo.
The thing that bothered me was…1.) He called her “Roo”…I’m assuming this is a nickname that he used to use for her. 2.) I hadn’t heard from him all day when he usually at least texts me, and yet he reached out to her when he saw that she was online.
Anyways, I know I’m hyper-sensitive because I’ve been cheated on in the past (with an ex-) and it’s something that I constantly fear…not just with him, but with anyone I’ve dated. But, seriously…”Roo”. WTF? Do you think that this is something I should be concerned with or should I just chalk it up to them still being on decent terms and move on?
Comment: First and foremost, the fact your boyfriend calls his ex “Roo” in the first place is grounds for a break up. That’s just silly and dumb and his manhood is immediately thrown into question.
It’s a slippery slope when reading emails and/or texts of your significant other. If you don’t want to know, then don’t read. And if you do read, just know you might find stuff you didn’t want to. What he wrote does seem innocent enough, but if after 10 months this is even the first you’ve heard of him contacting his ex, you can probably bet this wasn’t the first email he’s sent her since you guys have been together. Nor the last.
With that in mind, I would just keep it filed away for now because it’s not like he cheated on you or anything. But I’m sure it set off a red flag for you. Are you going to tell him you saw it?
If I were you, I’d lay low for now but keep your eyes open.
I hope he has a better nickname for you.
Dear Dr. Reality Steve,
Beginning of January I ‘met’ on Tinder a guy that we’ll call Kevin (he’s 28 years old and I am 26). We matched while he was in Switzerland (the country I live in) visiting a friend and he left to go back to LA, where he lives and is from, the day after we started talking so we never met in person. But we started to text everyday, watched movies at the same time despite the time difference (I know so cheesy), send lists of our favorite movies to each other with little comments explaining why we liked the movie or why it was special to us, started to flirt, etc. After a while we decided it would be awesome to meet in person as we had this great connection and felt we had known each other forever. I had a week off in Easter and had never been to California so I booked a flight to go see him. It was great timing because I learned I got accepted to Berkeley and UCLA to do my master of Law so it was a great opportunity for me to visit the 2 universities and see if I would like life in California.
It might sound crazy to go meet someone I had never met in person or even video chat with but I really wanted to see what could happened and felt I would regret it if I didn’t do it. (Also his sister had been in a well-known reality show I used to watch so I was reassured about who he was and as he is in the movie industry it was easy to check if what he was saying about producing movies was right ahah)
Things got a little complicated as in the middle of February I reconnected via Tinder (I know it’s there again) with a guy, let’s call him Derek (he will be 29 years old this year), who had been in my class at university. We talked briefly on Tinder and then met one evening at a club. After that we started hanging out once or twice a week.
I told him I was leaving for LA a few days before I was actually leaving (I left the 1st of April) to visit universities and see Kevin. He knew Kevin and I were texting quite a bit but I told him Kevin was just a friend and didn’t really feel like telling him: ‘Hey! I’m leaving to see a guy I never saw in person!’
He told me he would be pissed if something happened between Kevin and I so I asked him if that meant we were boyfriend-girlfriend and he said no, that it was too early to talk about that. He also told me that he was still on Tinder but ‘just to look at some profiles for fun’.
I left for LA and things were awesome with Kevin! He came to pick me up at the airport with flowers and a cute sign, we kissed right away, danced like crazy people on some Taylor Swift’s songs, went to concerts, hang out with his roommates and friends, etc. basically the week was great, it felt like I had known him forever and we acted like a couple. He also said he would come in August to Switzerland for my best friend’s wedding.
While I was in LA, Derek texted a lot and after a few days asked if we could be exclusive. I said we should talk about this when I was back in Switzerland and he answered that I was the one pressuring him to be exclusive so he didn’t get why I was not excited he was asking.
When I got back to Switzerland I told Derek that I had sex with Kevin and he said that he never felt what he did for me except with one of his ex, that I would have gotten along great with his mother, that I ruined everything, that he was just on Tinder to check if I was, that he said we weren’t exclusive before I left because it was a test to see if I could be faithful to him, that I just slept with Kevin to pay for my stay in LA, that he would have put a lot of principles he had away to go out with me (like he said normally he would never go out with someone he slept with on the first date), that I disgusted him, etc.
Don’t ask why but after that we still saw each other and it was always great for a few days and then he would say that he could never forgive me for what I had done, that he didn’t want to see me again, but then we would miss each other and still hang out again. I must say I got to really like him during this time, we laughed and talked a lot, went to restaurants, movies, etc. and prior for me leaving to LA we would just hang out in his room.
This lasted from mid-April to last week. Last week I went to his place and he was mad again (even though the day before he told me we should go to Paris for the week end and that loved spending time with me), couldn’t accept what I had done and he basically took my phone, locked himself in a room and read all of my texts concerning Kevin so he discovered I had slept with him more than once and he then called me a whore, literally threw me a couple of times through a room and hit me. He then threw all my stuff (and myself) out of his apartment. I was so shocked as I never ever had anyone been violent toward me physically and verbally like that. We haven’t talked since then.
Concerning Kevin, I heard once from him since I got back from LA and then no news. Silence. Nothing. Nada. I asked for some explanations as we always told each other we would be honest and not disappear from each other life without at least explaining why we would stop talking because I had suffered from guys doing that to me in the past but he never answered my texts or email. What do you think happened? How can someone be so invested, say he’s honest, plan to come visit soon, etc. and then do that?
The thing is since then I am feeling guilty about the messages Derek read (in some of them I was saying to friends I liked Kevin more than him, etc. but it was from when I was in LA and I really grew into liking Derek after spending more time with him since I got back) and I feel that maybe he was the ‘man of my life’ or something crazy like that! Even though he told me a couple of times I was always lucky in my professional life (which is not luck, I just work very hard), that he tried twice to find an internship but failed and that meant the exterior world hates him, that he always has relationships problems (one of his ex got an abortion and the other was bipolar and had to go to a mental hospital), etc. He also has debts but doesn’t search for a job and just works a couple hours a week at his dad office. He also said he was concerned with the world and I was a superficial person for liking to read gossips and watch reality-tv (I do but I also do charity work and am concerned with helping people) and that so many people in his family were very talented but had no recognition while some people like Rihanna were famous (I have no clue why I remember he specifically mentioned her, but here you go with useless details), that I was way to friendly with people, emotionally immature, etc.
He also said he knew that I had slept with Kevin because on a picture I posted of us on the beach our towels were ‘too close’ to each other…
So I really don’t get why since everything happened I really miss him and am jealous imagining him with other girls… I just have this little voice in my head saying that if I didn’t do things with Kevin, my relationship with Derek would have been perfect and that we would have had the best of time. Which if I am rational can’t be true because he is a violent person (he told me he had been violent once with his ex) and kept putting me down with his remarks. I just always go back to: but if I hadn’t slept with Kevin, he would not have said that or acted that way and he would be super nice and things would be great.
What do you think about the whole situation and the fact I never got any news from Kevin?
Also I will read the comments so anyone who has an opinion on all of this mess feel free to write!
Sorry for this very long email!
Shaken Sad Swiss
Comment: The alliterations are back! Even from other countries!
Ok, Derek threw you and hit you. That’s assault. I’d stay far away from that guy as possible no matter how many times he says he’s sorry and no matter how many times he begs for you back. He’s a loser and doesn’t deserve your time. Don’t beat yourself up over what you did with Kevin for a week in LA thinking that if you didn’t things would be good with Derek. 1) You could do whatever you want with Kevin because before you left, Derek even told you you weren’t a couple. 2) His actions after you got back of taking your phone and locking himself away so he could read your texts is ridiculous and bat sh** crazy. That’s looney town and you should never have anything to do with him ever again. Don’t begin to feel guilty about how Derek acted after finding out about Kevin. He’s the issue, not you.
Unfortunately for the Kevin guy, I think he just had his fun with you but now that he’s in LA and you’re thousands of miles away, you’re not a priority. I’m guessing you’re one of many girls on his list.
My friends and I are on confused on this one, so I thought we’d toss it your way for a male opinion. Last July (yes, almost a year ago), I went on the perfect first date after texting/chatting with a guy I met online for about a month.. There was dinner, drinks, kissing at Grand Central Station, and as the Bachelor would call it- “a connection”. It was great because I knew we were both into it, and I had finally come to the philosophy that I didn’t want to force anything- so I would follow the guy’s lead. He texted me several times each day afterwards letting me know he really liked me/was excited to see me again soon. We made plans for about a week later, but the day prior one of his friends from college passed away and he cancelled. Then he faded away, calling me about a month later to apologize for dropping off saying timing wasn’t right, he was going through a lot with his friend’s death. I understood, we stopped chatting, and then a month or so later I found out he had a new girlfriend. Since we met just the one time, and had only been talking a month or so- I wasn’t too upset and just sort of forgot he existed.
Then in February he randomly texted me to see how things were going- asking some prying ‘who are you dating’ questions- I was pretty evasive and didn’t ask him anything about his personal life figuring he just wanted to tell me he had a girlfriend… Fast forward to today (with no texts since that one day in February), he contacted me again to ‘see how things are’ and to ask me out for drinks (I checked- still has the same girlfriend). I am pretty confused by the whole thing. I am pretty sure going out for drinks is a bad idea- but I am intrigued by the whole thing, so I decided to write you instead to get your opinion.
Confused in Connecticut
Comment: Creep. Why would you agree to meet up with a guy who you know has a girlfriend? What’s the point? You guys aren’t long lost friends who he wants to catch up with. From what I gathered, you’ve met him once in your life and have exchanged texts. Yeah, he wants to meet you for drinks because he wants to hook up. He doesn’t know that you know he has a girlfriend, so he’s gonna try to see what he can get away with.
I’d steer clear of him. Drama.
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