Ok, so I’m a little late. Sorry. Just needed to find the time and motivation to sit down and hash this thing out. First things first, if you follow me on Twitter or Facebook, you saw me mention last week that I got dressed up for Halloween for the first time in probably 20 years this past weekend. Good times. Happy Hour lasted till the wee hours of the morning. No, I didn’t go as Jake. I thought it was rather obvious who I went as, but I’d say 75% of the people who came up to me asked, “Are you Octodad?” Huh? Who the hell is Octodad? Once I pointed out the Bluetooth, the earrings (which you can’t see in the pics), the Ed Hardy shirt, the eight kids, and the lovely inscription on the back, they seemed to guess correctly.

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So I’ve gotten this bit of info regarding a girl who was cast to be on this season with Jake. I emphasize “was”. This particular girl was flown out to LA to be one of the 25 bachelorettes. The afternoon of the meet-and-greets, she was upstairs getting ready, then came down to film her ITM (in the moment). When she sat down, her handler gave her a piece of paper with lines to memorize. She was told to memorize those lines and say them when they started filming. What was she supposed to say to the camera? “When I first saw Jake, I fell in love. I can’t wait to fly away with him someday.” The girl basically told her handler, “No, I’m not saying this. I haven’t even met the guy yet.” The handler told her she had to, and that they’d just run it after she met him. The girl said no. Back and forth they went, until the girl just decided she didn’t want to do the show anymore and walked out, got her stuff, and left the show.

Now, obviously no one will ever see this when the season starts. This girl will never be on camera since she’s not one of the 25 bachelorettes. She left before the filming started. When the show flys all the girls out for the beginning of filming, they bring in more than 25 girls just in case something like this happens. Wasn’t the first time it happened, and it certainly won’t be the last. But just know it happened this season. Kinda funny that now they are actually telling people exact lines to say instead of just putting them together and saying, “Here, talk about this.” Look, we’ve always known the show wasn’t real and I think a lot of people have come to accept that. But my problem has always been that they constantly are trying to tell us it is. That they just “throw 25 women in a house, roll the cameras, and drama ensues.” Uhhhh, not quite. “Here, read these lines about how much you love Jake even though you haven’t met him yet” is a bit much, don’t you think? So when you’re watching the first episode this season, and you hear girls falling all over Jake talking about how great he is and they are so in love, just know that those were filmed before they even met him, and that the girls saying that were basically ones who just agreed to do whatever the producers told them to. As opposed to the other girl I just told you about who basically stood up for herself and realized how ridiculous the whole thing was.

Had a great night last Wednesday night at the Dallas Stars hockey game with Jeremy, Tanner, and Kiptyn. Tanner has basically turned into a rock star from his appearance on the show. I think more women were interested in talking to him than watching the game. My first chance to ever meet or talk to Kiptyn. Glad to see that he got to witness his first hockey game. No need to go into details about what was talked about and all the shenanigans that transpired that night. Some things are better left unsaid. All good guys, we had a great time, and I’m guessing in the near future, we’ll be dropping more drinks and catching falling drunk women back there in no time. I will say this on Tanner’s behalf: I think he and I watch the same exact shows. After going through his recorded shows on his DVR, I could’ve sworn it looked like an exact replica of mine. The city of Dallas belongs to Tanner Pope. We’re just all lucky he lets us live in it. Daddy is a rock star, no doubt.

So did you see this article last week in “People” magazine regarding Ed and Jillian? Interesting to say the least. Why some reporter decided to ask them about Jillian’s lingerie collection is beyond me. Of course Ed, being a man who has such a way with words (”I want to molest you when I get home”, “Bring the beer and condoms”), had this to say when asked what’s the sexiest thing a woman could wear. “No panties.” Ok, first off, he didn’t even answer the question. The question asked the sexiest thing a woman could wear, and he responded with something that she SHOULDN’T wear. Secondly Ed, it’s perfectly normal for you like it when your girlfriend goes panty-less. Especially when they don’t tell you about it beforehand. I just tend to think that’s not the answer you want to give to a magazine read by millions of people. Showing some tact would be nice, but I guess then consider the source and everything we’ve read and heard about the guy. Maybe that’s just who he is. But c’mon buddy. Probably not the answer you needed to give in that situation. By all means you can think it, but personally, I just wouldn’t have expressed it to “People” magazine. To each their own.

So the biggest news in the last week regarding this show was the engagement in New Zealand of Jason and Molly. Before I give my comments, I actually found this amusing, which is odd, since I didn’t think Regis Philbin has done anything funny in 20 years. But the re-enactment of the Jason/Melissa break up gave me a good chuckle. Here it is:

Lets first off talk about the engagement itself. Congrats to those two. If it works for them, then so be it. Personally would I have done the engagement back in New Zealand and immediately had the tabloids reporting it? No. I thought they wanted this all to go away? I understand most Jason & Molly fans are thinking more like, “Awwww, he proposed where they had their first date. So romantic.” But for as much as those two got criticized for everything that happened, and I was front and center leading that charge, I guess I would’ve just laid a little low and not made such a presentation out of it. The proposal back in New Zealand, pictures ready immediately, cover of “US Weekly” saying you’re not the “villain”, etc. Look, I get that he wanted to do it back where he says he should’ve done it in the first place. I just wouldn’t of if I’m trying to distance myself from everything that happened. Their words say they are, but the actions don’t.

With that said, I’m going to share something with everyone that very few people know. When Jillian’s season ended, I actually got in touch with Jason and we finally had a man-to-man talk about everything that went down. He shared his side, and I shared mine. Do we agree on everything? No. He was very persuasive in what he said, and I told him how I felt about how everything played out. Til the end of time, we will both agree to disagree on the events that happened while he was on the show. I feel my sources had no reason to lie to me, and he says that’s not how it went down. I’m fine with that. I don’t hate the guy. Never did. I just expressed to him I think he could’ve handled the whole situation completely different. But that’s yesterday’s news. It happened almost a year ago. He’s moved on, he’s happy, he’s engaged, Melissa’s moved on, she’s engaged, so who am I to harp on it anymore? It’s put to rest. We both said what we needed to say to each other, and I think both of us came out with a better understanding. I emailed him after I heard about the engagement congratulating him and Molly, and he responded with a thank you. I’ll admit, I was rather harsh on the guy for a good two months. Sure he deserved some of it, but probably not as much as I gave.

I don’t think Jason and I will ever be golfing buddies, and I’m certainly not expecting any sort of invite to the wedding, but for those that think I’m out to ruin peoples lives and constantly make fun of them, well, I just don’t think you understand the site and how I write. That’s ok. It’s not for everyone. I’m glad Jason and I hashed things out for the most part. Who am I rain on he and Molly’s parade? Hey, at least they got engaged as opposed to most of these couples who don’t even get that far. Personally, I just wish he’d stop going to the “I’m not a villain” card and just let everything that happened on the show go. No matter what he says or does, people are still going to hate him regardless. It’s almost like he’s trying to please everyone and that’s just impossible. He’s got his fans, and he should just enjoy them. The haters will be there no matter what he says. But telling people again his side of what happened just isn’t what needs to be done now.

I will say that what he told “US Weekly” about having to confront Molly on TV rather than lose her to the “Bachelorette” was exactly what he told me a couple months ago, so, I at least give him some credit for keeping his stories straight. We can debate that until the end of time (and I think I did on the phone), but regardless, it’s over and done with. They’re engaged, Molly’s moved to Seattle, she found a job, and they’re happy. In the end, I guess that’s all that matters, right? No need to bring them up anymore until their wedding or if there’s some nasty breakup. So good luck to the two of them. Been a pretty crazy year, but it seems like they’re happy and moving on. Good. Now I can too.

Yes, in case you haven’t heard the news, both Holly and DeAnna are dating the Stagliano brothers. Holly of course is still dating Michael from Jillian’s season, and DeAnna has been dating Stephen Stagliano for a good month. I really have no idea what to make of all this. Good luck to the four of them. I’m sure the world will be a better place with Holly Durst and DeAnna Pappas as sister-in-laws someday. Oh my. Somewhere Jesse Csincsak is gathering former contestants for another reunion, making sure video cameras are rolling, and shaking his head.

As far as the “Bachelor/ette” reunion cruise from LA to Mexico last weekend, I don’t think it’s going to be its own show. Probably just like the Vegas reunion, I’m sure there’ll be footage popping up somewhere on a “Men Tell All” episode. When I saw Kiptyn last Wednesday, he mentioned that he was going on it. As were Wes, Jesse Kovacs, Jesse Csincsak, Robby D, and a few others. That’s about all I know. Pictures are already all over facebook if you want to go look for them.

One final note on the “Bachelor”, it was announced yesterday that this season is going to be the first one in HD. Outstanding. So are we actually going to get to see the implant scars this season? Or the botox injections? I cannot wait. Jake is already claiming that his wife is one of the 25 women cast for the show. And now that we’ll get all their physical defects in HD, can this season possibly get any better? I highly doubt it. To see him get down on one knee and propose to some goody two-shoes, church going, southern belle might be the highlight of my 2010. Then to watch them celebrate by letting off a bunch of white doves and going crazy with the milk and cookies, can that possibly be topped? “The Bachelor: On the Wings of Love” beginning January 4th. Get your barf bags ready, it’s gonna be a bumpy ride.

I wanted to cover more this week, but I’m tired, I have a long day ahead of me, and I still need some catching up to do on some shows. So next week we’ll return with “Reality Roundup” as I cover “Survivor”, “Dancing with the Stars”, the new “Celebrity Apprentice” cast, “Sex Rehab”, the “Ruins”, plus some other tidbits. Also, the interview with former “Survivor: Micronesia” and “Fans vs Favorites” Eliza Orlins will be happening soon as well, so stay tuned for that. To follow me on Twitter or become a friend on Facebook, scroll down the right hand column and find the corresponding link under “My Stuff”. Any questions, comments, emails, praises, criticisms, or opinions, feel free to email me at steve@realitysteve.com. Until next week…

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So here is our DeAnna Pappas interview conducted Thursday, June 18th. Because we wanted to have a little fun with it, 30 minutes in to the interview, I surprise DeAnna by bringing in Jeremy from her season. Well, I didn’t really bring him in since he was sitting next to me the whole time. We just had him start talking for the first time after I got in a good half hour with DeAnna. Then about five minutes after bringing Jeremy on, we conference in Holly Durst, and the last 45 minutes or so are with the four of us. So I’m warning you now, if you’re looking for hard hitting journalism when the four of us are all on together, uhhhhh, forget it. Not even close. It gets pretty juvenile, but, I think you’ll enjoy hearing the three of them interact. And I apologize beforehand that Jeremy and I had to share one microphone in the studio, and he sometimes forgets to speak into it, so his voice is a little faint at times.

So here’s how it breaks down:

Interview with DeAnna (about the first 30 min): Among other things we talk about are her role on the “Lifetime” show “Get Married”, does she have a boyfriend right now, a brief mention of her stint on the “Bachelor” with Brad Womack, how she came to be the “Bachelorette”, deciding between her final four of Graham, Jeremy, Jason, and Jesse, including, who was her original final two going to be and why did it change, her role of showing up in New Zealand last season during Jason’s “Bachelor”, the YouTube video Jesse put out, plus, she answers some tough questions regarding her breakup with Jesse about as well as she could, plus much more.

Jeremy and DeAnna (about the next 5 minutes): These two get about five minutes together while I fiddle around trying to get Holly on the phone. She even tells Jeremy, yet again, why she let him go on the show.

Jeremy, DeAnna, and Holly (about the next 45 minutes): As I mentioned, this is pretty much a gigglefest. Although, we do find out a few things: How many women from the “Bachelor/ette” series has Jeremy made out with? How many men from the series has Holly made out with? (I’m not sure they answered honestly). Holly and DeAnna tell us who is a better kisser, Jeremy or Jesse? Jeremy tells us who’s a better kisser, Holly or DeAnna? (See, I told you this gets pretty juvenile). What guys would Holly and DeAnna pick as their final four from Jillians season? What does DeAnna think of Jason falling in love with three different women in a span of six months (DeAnna, Melissa, and Molly)? What tabloid rumor was the funniest one they heard about themselves? Who is President of the Twitter clique? What nicknames have been unilaterally decided for all of us? Yeah, it’s all there in a 45 minute screw off session. Entertaining, but completely silly. Hope you all enjoy the interview with DeAnna and friends. It was a good time all around and I thank all three of them for coming on. To listen to the interview, click on this link:

DeAnna Pappas Interview

A couple final notes. Some of you made mention of some negative comments being deleted under the Holly Durst interview. Let me clarify what happened. I have no problem if you choose to leave negative comments. Hell, all you have to do is look at the 70 or left about Holly’s interview to know that over 3/4 of them are of the negative variety. If I didn’t like them, then I’d delete them and I’d only leave the positive ones up. Not gonna happen. You can speak your mind about whatever you want. I don’t necessarily agree, but you can voice your opinion. However, two comments were deleted, but they were for reasons I’d rather not get into. Those people know who they are, they know why they were deleted, and I’ll just leave it at that. I’m all for expressing opinions, but the minute someone completely crosses over the line and takes it to an extreme that even I can’t believe, that’s where I have to put an end to it. It’s a comment board, people. Calm down. So just know there were two that were deleted for reasons I felt necessary, and that’s that.

And lastly, I haven’t seen it reported on any of the news sites yet, but according to the “Dallas Morning News” this morning, Melissa Rycroft got engaged over the weekend to boyfriend Tye Strickland. Here’s the link to the article. Sounds like they are speculating, and I’ve yet to hear it from any other site, but just wanted to share:

Melissa May Be Engaged

As always, as questions, comments, feedback, praises, criticisms, feel free to email me at steve@realitysteve.com. Back tomorrow with your “Bachelorette” recap and an update regarding the merchandise store. See you then.

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It’s finally here, my interview I recorded last week with former bachelorette during Matt Grant’s season, Holly Durst. Of course, many of you probably remember her more as the girl who dated Jesse after DeAnna did. Or, you may have heard she was voted “Hollywood Prom Queen 2009″, hence the picture in the tiara. I don’t really know what that is. We get to the bottom of all that during the course of this 45 minute interview.

Let’s make one thing clear: Up until a few weeks ago, I had never had any contact with Holly. Through the wonderful world of Facebook and Twitter, we’ve been able to keep in touch and I asked her to do an interview. She did not volunteer, and in fact, was reluctant at first to do anything. I’m glad she did.

I think Holly might be a little misunderstood in most circles. It’s apparent by reading some comments, and hearing the outrage that she even did the interview that some of you are pinning Holly as a fame whore who just wants to bring Jesse down. Not true. Of course, if I’m gonna have her on to interview, I’m going to ask about the rumors that circulated while these two were dating, and she answers them. You can make your own decision from there. Personally, I thought she was very candid, but in a respectful way. If you’ve already formed your opinion about Holly, then nothing she says or does will ever be good enough in your mind, which is fine. I found her to be funny, insightful, and definitely feels a little slighted by how she’s been portrayed. Since everything began with Jesse, seems like no one has really ever heard her background story and her side of what went on. This is now her chance to tell her side of things. Quite interesting.

In addition, we get to hear numerous other things like how she cast for the “Bachelor”, is she still friends with Matt, what’s her deal with looking up women’s skirts, the friendship she has built up with DeAnna Pappas, and most importantly, the infamous Vegas trip from a couple months ago with former bachelors and bachelorettes, her past relationship with Justin Guarini. My feeling was probably like most of yours regarding her and Justin. I think you’ll be surprised to what she has to say. Click the link below to hear the interview. Hope you enjoy it.

Interview with Holly Durst

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Anyone who’s been following me on Twitter the last few days could’ve probably figured this out, but I have spoken with both women and both are excited about doing interviews for the site. Immediately I want to make it known that these interviews are not going to be all about their “Bachelor” experiences. Both their seasons are almost a year old now, a lot of the same questions have been beaten to death, so I’m looking for something a little different. Oh trust me, they are going to get asked the questions you want to hear. I’m just not gonna focus the whole interview on their “Bachelor” experiences, since I feel its a tad outdated.

You may be asking, “Then why are you interviewing them?” I’ll tell you. After having spoke to both of these women, I feel they have a lot more to them in regards to their pre and post “Bachelor” life. I guarantee you that you’ll be surprised by what you hear. If you’re looking for this to be a rip job on the “Bachelor” and them spilling a bunch of show secrets, sorry, it’s not gonna happen. DeAnna has plenty more to say than that. She is fully aware of the grief I’ve given her over the last year regarding her season and her life, so, this is going to be her chance to put me in my place. Bring it on! Like her or not, DeAnna Pappas is probably the most talked about female in “Bachelor/ette” show history, so what better place for her to tell her side of things, than on RealitySteve.com.

Holly Durst is a wild card. She’s no longer under contract with ABC, so she can probably speak a little more freely, however lets remember something very important: She was on Matt Grant’s season and frankly none of us really cared about him. I think you will all enjoy Hollys story, and, just like editing can create any character they want, the media seems to have done the same with her. Listen to what she has to say before judging. I certainly pre-judged, no doubt. There wasn’t anyone more skeptical about her than me, and then I spoke to her. Trust me when I tell you we will address what you want to know.

Of course, the #1 thing on most people minds regarding both these women is their past relationship with Jesse Csincsak. Holly dated Jesse right after DeAnna did, and now Holly and DeAnna are really good friends. So is this just a ploy for them to come on and tear into Jesse? No. But if you think I’m having both of these women on and am NOT going to ask them about Jesse, you’re crazy. It will be addressed and I think you’ll be surprised in what they have to say. I even read someone saying that whatever Holly says will be what DeAnna is telling her to say, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Holly has plenty of her own personal experiences regarding Jesse to share and that is what she plans on doing. We’ve heard from Jesse on these matters, but when was the last interview you saw with Holly on the matter to get her side? You’ll hear that shortly.

As for DeAnna, we will talk about her relationship with Jesse, and she will tell us whatever she feels we need to know. Jesse’s claims that she was only affectionate on camera, their public breakup at an airport, his sobbing You Tube video, what was the deal with her and Holly showing in during a recent Vegas trip supposedly planned by Jesse, etc. DeAnna will have plenty to say about all this and more. I hope you the readers know me well enough by now to know that I’m not interviewing DeAnna Pappas so I can lob softball questions at her all day long. She will be called out on stuff that I having been writing about her, and I’m truly interested to hear what she has to say. As now the co-host of “Get Married” (airing on the “Lifetime” channel Monday-Friday at 7:30am) her life has certainly changed over the past year since the Brad Womack and Jesse Csincsak days and I’m very curious to find out more about it.

No doubt people are going to pre-judge before even hearing the interviews. I get that. Hell, I certainly did. I think you’ll all be pleasantly surprised. So stay tuned for those in the upcoming weeks here on RealitySteve.com. Very much looking forward to having a candid interview with both women. They will be recorded audio interviews, so uhhhh, make sure your speakers work on your computer.

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So “People” magazine is a day late and a dollar short. As first reported here on Realitysteve.com yesterday, there was a “Bachelor”-type reunion a couple weekends ago in Breckenridge, Colorado with former bachelors from DeAnna’s season. People magazine decided to run their “scoop” today about how Jesse is currently “involved” with Holly Durst, from Matt Grants season of the “Bachelor: London Calling.” Here’s the story they’re currently running:

“The Bachelorettes’ Jesse Csincsak Hits the Slopes With a New Gal Pal”

Well, Reality Steve will do you one better “People”. So not only did I tell you about Jesse and Holly yesterday (It actually would’ve been in last weeks column before getting deleted), I’ve got a few more exclusive pics from that weekend event. Just remember who tells you things first. We do. All one of us here at Realitysteve.com. I will now go pat myself on the back even more.

Breckenridge photos

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Man, I love being right. Especially when DeAnna’s minions came running to my comment board a couple weeks ago when I made a rather harmless comment about how weird I thought their website was. How they constantly talked about how in love they were, and kept us up to date on all their appearances, etc. Gee, I guess that’s all for naught now, huh? Why don’t you people listen to me? Seriously. How long have I been covering this show? And how many freakin’ times have I told you NEVER to buy into the end result. I love, love, love how those commenters a few weeks ago were so sure that these two were in love, and I was just bitter, and they were the best couple ever. Well, what can I say? You people are idiots. Sorry. What do you have to say for yourself now? Exactly. Nothing. That’s ok. I really never understood in the first place why, if you hate my column so much, and hated my opinion on DeAnna and Jesse why you would waste any time in your day to post a comment? No one’s forcing you to come to my site. No one’s forcing you to read my brilliance. Just because you thought they were cute together had no bearing on whether or not they stayed together. That’s the point you seemed to miss. DeAnna proved herself to be a fraud. She’s completely out for herself, wants to be part of Hollywood, and cut Jesse off the minute she realized he can’t further her career. And you think I’m the only one who has these opinions? Not quite. How about Chris Harrison, who probably knows her pretty well at this point wouldn’t you think? Here’s what Host Chris said yesterday:

“DeAnna has been getting bad advice from people like paparazzi guys, and other people that she’s been running into that have filled her head with, you know, these dreams that she’s going to come to Hollywood and make it big and do all this stuff. And I think her head’s getting a little bigger than it should and I think that’s led to this as well.” Ouch. Yeah, she was totally into Jesse.

Think that’s not a good enough attack on her character? How about what Jesse said:

“The only time she was touchy feely with me was around the cameras.” Great girl. Sure she’s not out looking to make it in Hollywood. This woman seems totally grounded and not bitten by the Hollywood bug at all.

How about the fact that she dropped the “I love you, but I’m not in love with you” line on him? WHAT???!!! This is the same exact girl, that for every appearance we saw these two since the show ended, was gushing about how in love she was, she’d found her soulmate, on and on and on all this nonsense became when we all knew it would end. Look, I know people break up. It happens. But for someone as overtly confident as she was that this was the man of her dreams, and the father of her children, and her soulmate, to just out and out dump the guy after 6 months together pretty much shows you what type of woman she is. Basically what I’ve been saying from Day 1 with her. A publicity hound who wants to have a career in Hollywood and will step on as many toes as she can to do it.

So not only did she dump him at the airport when he was picking up her bags, but she even leaked it to the press before it was supposed to be:

“She told some of our business associates today first… I didn’t know this had been released today. We had agreed after she broke up with me… that we would put together a statement and have it released.” Oops. Yeah, let me guess, it just slipped, right DeAnna? Fraud. I don’t like basking in other peoples misfortunes, well, yes I do, but I actually feel bad for this guy. Got totally used by this chick, and now he’s getting embarrassed nationally.

Here’s one of my favorite parts. Jesse says that DeAnna told him she wanted to move to Los Angeles and was unwilling to go to counseling with him. She told him, “I’m not willing to try anymore”. Wow. Where do I begin? First off, she told him she wanted to move to Los Angeles. No, not surprising since that’s kinda where you need to live if you want to be in the entertainment industry. But wasn’t this the same chick, that in EVERY SINGLE INTERVIEW since the show ended, kept talking about how she needed to be close to family, and they were going to spend some time in Atlanta, and some time in Colorado? Nice. A liar too.

And she’s not willing to try anymore? You mean, the man of your dreams, your future soulmate, the greatest guy in the world that you gushed over in every interview, suddenly after six months you gave up on? You see what I’m getting at here? She was NEVER into Jesse from the moment she accepted his proposal. She was into the idea of TV, and magazine shoots, and potential job opportunities. For christ sakes, her own fiance admitted that the only time she would be affectionate with him was when the cameras were on? What more proof do you need?

If you haven’t seen it already, here’s Jesse giving everyone the lowdown on www.deannaandjesse.com (I’m guessing that’s not going to be a site much longer)

But probably my favorite quote came from DeAnna when she ran her mouth to “In Touch” yesterday. Here was her quote:

“I really felt like I was going to spend the rest of my life with him. I thought he was my fairy-tale ending. But after the show was over and we settled in to our normal lives, I slowly came to realize that we are two totally different people and it wasn’t going to work out.” Ho-lee crap. Wait a second, when the show ended and you guys were making the rounds on all the talk show circuits, you kept emphasizing how Jesse wasn’t your type at all, you never thought you’d pick him, but he grew on you, and now you realized this was the man you were going to spend the rest of your life with. I guess when you said “rest of your life”, you meant “six months”. Didn’t I constantly mention in the column this year that these two couldn’t possibly be any more different if they tried? Not saying that opposites can’t attract, but for her to use their being completely different as such a positive quality, then to turn around 6 months later and use it as one of the main reasons for the breakup, is ridiculous. She’s a chick that doesn’t know what she wants. Shocker. Where have I seen that before?

Everyone has a right to change their mind about a person. I get that. It’s just that in DeAnna’s case, she went out of her way in every single tv and radio appearance to constantly tell us how much she was in love with this man and yada yada yada. If they would’ve broken up after a couple years, I wouldn’t be this harsh on her. Or if they would’ve gotten married and then divorced, no, I wouldn’t have nearly been this cynical. But when I have people emailing me and leaving comments about how wrong I am, and that Jesse and DeAnna are in love, and I’m just cyncial, well, I take pleasure in yesterday’s news and you’re damn right I’m gloating. This wasn’t a breakup after a long, hard, rocky road together. She dumped him because the facade was over. She was never nearly as into him as she led people to believe, and I think Host Chris and Jesse’s comments prove that. If all the DeAnna minions would just give me a nice, warm apology, I would stop gloating. But since I know that’ll never happen since these people are basically posting anonymously on message boards calling me out when my email address is readily available, I figured I come on here today and destroy your little princess for the fraud she is. Jesse did nothing wrong. You bet your ass I believe he’s in love with her. I said it once the show ended that she’s completely out of his league – he admitted as much in every interview they did, constantly saying how he couldn’t believe she picked him. However, he needs to back away from the “I’d give her a second chance” stuff. No dude. Drop it. She’s yesterday’s news. You don’t need a woman like that around.

Yes, people have MySpace pages and Facebook pages. And of course, if you’re in a relationship or married, usually you have a lot of pictures on there of your significant other. However, this show has had 16 seasons (12 Bachelors and 4 Bachelorettes), and this was the first time that the final couple started their own website afterwards. Both Jesse and DeAnna have MySpace pages, yet, they felt the need to still put up a page that posted every print interview they did, every radio appearance they did, where they were headed next, family photos, etc. Was that necessary if you weren’t out for publicity? Of course not. Do me a favor. Go to the “About Us” section on www.deannaandjesse.com (once again, probably not a site that’s gonna be up much longer). What is the first sentence you see under there? I’ll tell you what it is in case you have difficulty reading what they printed in bold letters. This is ripped exactly from their website in the FIRST sentence they wrote in their “About Us” section:

DeAnna and Jesse are STILL ENGAGED and very much IN LOVE! What? Who writes that? Why not just be a normal couple, not announce where you were going or what you’ll be eating for breakfast, and just live your lives? Oh wait, I know why. Because you wanted to let the paparazzi know where you were at all times just in case you happened to be in a bikini on a beach or at a carwash and you could stage a fake photo shoot. Yeah, and they weren’t trying their damndest to prove to people they weren’t phony. Nice effort.

Look at DeAnna’s timeline regarding her feelings towards Jesse. When he first came out of the limo, she admitted she was not attracted to him and that he is not the type of guy she normally dates. Then six weeks later, she’s saying how much in love she was, that they were soulmates, and she was meant to spend the rest of her life with him. Then six months after that, she says “we’re two different people”. C’mon people. Do we need any further proof about this woman? It’s all right there in front of your face. She put on an act for the cameras and for the media to gain attention. In the interview I did with Jeremy, I even mentioned it then about how odd it was that she went from admitting to not being attracted to the guy, nor was he her type, to calling him her soulmate and the man to spend the rest of her life with after six weeks. It just seemed way too convenient for her. It’s almost like she chose the one who’d be the easiest to get rid of. She wanted so desperately to find someone after the Brad incident, that she probably tried to convince herself Jesse was the one, when in reality, she knew all along he wasn’t. Which is fine. Fourteen of these 16 couples have never made it, with Byron and Mary hanging on by the skin of their teeth. But just don’t go over-the-top and tell everyone how great your life is, and how this is the man of your dreams, etc. If they would’ve just taken the high road, said something to the effect of, “We’re gonna enjoy our time together and see where this goes”, I would not have come on here today ripping her a new one. But sorry, the situation called for it. And let’s not even get started about what this woman said over and over about what happened with Brad, only to come back and pull this. Talk about leading someone on. Hey pot, this is the kettle calling.

So in the final analysis, I’ll say this. You people need to listen to me more. I’ve said it a thousand times in this column, and I’ll say it another thousand times. If you actually watch this show for a love story, you have serious problems. There’s a reason I make fun of this show on a consistent basis, because that’s what it’s on for. Most people going on the show are using it to further their career in something. With that said, I actually think Jason might be our first Bachelor ever who isn’t, which is why I’m more looking forward to his season than any in recent memory. I’m very curious as to how it plays out. Sure, there’ll be women on there just looking to make a name for themself, but, it still could be a good season. Will we get a marriage? Who knows? But I’d say the odds are much better with Jason than any recent Bachelor or Bachelorette. Hurry up, DeAnna. Your 15 minutes are running out. I guess we’ll be seeing you doing extra work and print modeling for the next 5 years. Good luck with that.

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-Wanted to update everyone on a couple things happening on the site. Within the next week, we should have two new interviews up. One is Bachelor/ette related, and the other is from a completely different reality show that I’ve rarely talked about on this site but I’ve watched every season of. I’ve been in contact with Brad Womack and he is 100% confirmed for the interview. However, he just recently underwent a minor surgery and he’s laid up the rest of the week, but he says next week he’s in. As for the other interview, I’d rather not jinx it. I’m guessing most of you won’t even care about this person, but I do since this show has always been one of my favorites and it’s something I’ve been into since I was a little kid. If you can go back and find a mention of it in a previous column, you’ll probably guess who it is. All I’ll say is that its a female. I’ve gotten in touch with her management company and just waiting to lock down a time.

-As for Jeremy, he and I played golf this week and let me clarify a few things that some people may have misconstrued during the interview:

-No, Jeremy did not sleep with DeAnna. I know he said, “Even if I did, that’s something between DeAnna and I”, trust me, he didn’t. So enough of that.

-Some of you are questioning if he didn’t see any of the episodes how can he comment on things he said and saw. Jeremy saw a few of the episodes in full, and had a lot of other ones that people told him about things that were shown. No, he did not sit down and watch every show, study the screencaps, take notes, and run to message boards like most viewers do. If he wasn’t busy, he watched them, but wasn’t too thrilled on re-living the whole experience. As you could tell, he was definitely hurt by what happened, so if he came across it, he’d watch it. If he didn’t, he had friends and family telling him what they saw.

-As of Wednesday, August 13th, despite rumors that Jason has already been picked to be the next Bachelor, I can confirm that nothing has been decided just yet. Could happen fairly soon though since I’m told they want to start filming in October with a late January start date.

-Let’s always keep in mind that the “Bachelor/ette” is an entertainment show first, and a love story second. Or third. When I read things like “How did he not see the connection between Jesse and DeAnna”, and “The way she looked at Jesse was different than how she looked at any of the other guys”, I just have to chuckle.

-Chef-Boy-Ar-Robert was actually the first guy in the house to call Jeremy out. I believe he called Jeremy a douchebag. Robert had a pretty high opinion of himself at the house in case you couldn’t tell, and well, he still does.

-There are plenty of you that are Jason fans and will scream from the mountaintops that Jason should be the next Bachelor. Which is fine. I’m not saying I’d be against it at all. Hell, I don’t think Jeremy would be against it considering how good of friends they’ve become. I understand there will always be pro-Jason fans and pro-Jeremy fans. I think the interview definitely showed a different side that maybe didn’t come across on the show. That was the purpose of the interview and maybe getting to hear about some things that you might not have known about before. Some of you want to hear Jason’s side of things. I’ll definitely see if I can make that happen. Wouldn’t mind interviewing him at all.

-All in all, the interview came off really well, I’d say 90% of the reaction has been positive, and Jeremy has also heard good things on his end. I have a feeling that won’t be the last time you’ll be hearing Jeremy on Realitysteve.com. Even if he isn’t the next Bachelor, I’m guessing we can have him on to comment every once in a while on the next season, whether it be Jason or someone else.

-If you still would like to see Jeremy as the next Bachelor, you can:

1) Call and leave a message at 866-739-3150
2) Email kellicastingthebachelor@yahoo.com and tell her why Jeremy would make the best choice

-And last but not least, I shot a 91. Jeremy? I think he was a tad higher than that.

Keep checking the site for the latest news and interviews. Until next time….

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So it wasn’t too hard to figure out. Jeremy lives in Dallas. I live right outside of Dallas. Thankfully ABC didn’t get involved and this interview was able to come off. This looooooong interview I might add. Let’s just say you’re gonna probably need to download this to your ipod considering it’s an hour and a half long. I think at one point I might’ve asked him his social security number. There are a few audio glitches in the last half of the interview that I apologize for. Didn’t realize that happened until I listened back. However, Jeremy was very open and candid about his whole experience on the show. I think we pretty much covered everything that was important. And if I forgot something, it’s probably something he told me off mike that I forgot to re-ask. Listening back to it, there were some topics we didn’t really cover like DeAnna’s blow up at the BBQ, Robert’s popped collar, and a couple others. But there were plenty of other goodies Jeremy had for us: So what was his deal with Ron? Did he fall in love with DeAnna? How did he feel DeAnna led him on? How upset was he about getting eliminated? What made him decide to go back and try and talk to her after being eliminated? Was it difficult for him to open up about his parents? Why does he want to be the next Bachelor? Did he think Jesse had any chance of being the final one? Is he dating Chelsea? All this and much, much more in a tell all interview that you can listen to by clicking here. So click on the link and listen through your computer, or right click and download it to your itunes. Probably your best bet considering its length. It may take a few seconds to start up since the interview is so long, so just be patient.

I want to thank Jeremy for taking the time to do this. To come up to the studio on a Tuesday night and spend a couple of hours and talk about something he’s probably been beaten to death with ad nauseum is pretty commendable. One of the reasons for the interview other than finding out a little more about what happened this season, is that there’s still a chance Jeremy can be the next Bachelor. I can without question say that after spending a couple hours with Jeremy last weekend, and then hanging with him last night, I’ve officially joined Team Jeremy. I might even go create some t-shirts. They’d definitely out sell “Team LC” or “Team Heidi” shirts. All I wanted to do was give the guy a forum to give his side of things and let you be the judge. Listen to the interview and form your own opinions, but I think you’ll see he’s one of the more genuine guys to ever go on the show. ABC still hasn’t made their decision, the word is its down to Jeremy and Jason, so you still have a voice. Post on the message boards, sign petitions, call ABC, email ABC, visit Jeremys MySpace page (www.myspace.com/jcapromos) and voice your opinion. Jeremy would like to be the next Bachelor and I think after listening to the guy, maybe you’ll agree too. He pretty much sold me, and lets face it, I’m not the easiest person in the world to convince that anything about this show is legit. Couldn’t have been a nicer guy and I definitely think he’s in it for the right reasons.

So listen to the interview, hear what Jeremy has to say, leave your comments afterwards, and let’s see if the power of Realitysteve.com can get Jeremy on as the next Bachelor. Enjoy…

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-For those of you that are familiar with the column, you know I don’t do a regular recap of the finale. It’s more a summary of what we saw throughout the course of the season and comments about the end result and eventual failed relationship we’ll be hearing about soon enough. I expect nothing different this season. This season has definitely been a bit different than past seasons in that, I’ve never heard so many rumors about the finale, what’s true and what isn’t, and how many different scenarios we’ve heard of what really went down. Here’s what I know. I was told over a month ago that the final four were Jeremy, Jason, Jesse, and Graham. I was also told with 100% certainty that Graham went home after the hometown dates, and Jeremy after the overnight dates. I was then told that Jason was DeAnna’s final pick, but that’s wasn’t 100% confirmed. Although, after hearing it was him, I watched the rest of the show thinking it was him in my head and wrote accordingly. I didn’t really understand why she’d pick him since logisitically, it didn’t make any sense for her – someone who constantly reiterated how important being close to family was yet picking a guy with a 3 year old who lived in Seattle. So I always was skeptical in the back of my mind why she’d pick him. I didn’t care either way, I just didn’t think it made much sense.

-I do believe ABC went out of their way this year, more so than in others, to lean the editing heavily one way. Based on how each of them was edited, they really wanted to make everyone think Jason was getting picked. I mean, Jesse didn’t kiss her til the hometown dates, the guy admitted to his dad he wasn’t ready to get married in two weeks, and now we’re supposed to believe they’re madly in love, engaged, and ready to get married next year? Then last night, we see that he’s nervous around the family, the family is totally sold on Jason before Jesse, on and on and on it went about how Jesse isn’t her type, and Jesse isn’t someone the family really saw her with, yada yada yada. They laid it on pretty thick that it was gonna be Jason and as the show was going on last night, it became more and more obvious it was Jesse for the sole reason they’d never give it away that easily.

-Some of you may have heard the numerous rumors being thrown out there about this season. There are tons of them, and I was going to write them all out and you could pick and choose which ones you believe and which ones you don’t, but honestly, I don’t even care at this point. Let me tell you something: Do you realize how easy it is to start a rumor on a message board? All you have to do is sign on under a lame screen name, have the title of your thread be “I KNOW WHO SHE PICKS….”, then in your post, talk about how you know someone very close to someone on the show, and make up a whole bunch of stuff that sounds like it could be legit. People will start believing you, trust me. So it does get kinda difficult knowing who’s telling the truth and who isn’t. If you go to certain boards right now and look back at past posts, there are people that will swear up and down that DeAnna picked Jason. And there are those who swear she picked Jesse. Well obviously, only one of them is right. I just don’t know why people feel the need to run to message boards to post things. Anything I hear, I tell my friends that are interested in the show. I don’t need to run to a message board to convince a bunch of people I don’t know. I don’t get it.

-I hope people who heard their was a “surprise” in the finale could see that it was Jeremy returning. First off, ABC’s press release last week promoting the 2 hour finale and “After the Final Rose” show stated that a “rejected Bachelor returns to make DeAnna’s decision more difficult”. Well, if Jeremy got eliminated in the Grand Bahamas, and the Final Rose Ceremony was taking place in the Grand Bahamas, and when you reach the final three, the guy who gets eliminated (in this case Jeremy), doesn’t get to go home until they’re done filming, well then of course it was gonna be Jeremy. They probably needed time to kill and told him, “Hey, go tell her she’s making a mistake and to take you back – we’re short about 10 minutes of film”. So needless to say, there was zero suspense when Jeremy returned and pleaded his case to take him back. Ummmmm, we saw Jason and Jesse at the Final Rose Ceremony in the previews last week. How is what Jeremy says going to have any effect on that? Dumb. I thought it made Jeremy look worse. Of course, one of the rumors floating around is Jeremy was tricked into doing that. Wouldn’t put it past them. Wouldn’t be the first time and most certainly wouldn’t be the last. And apparently Jeremy isn’t that distraught over DeAnna since other rumors have him canoodling with Chelsea in recent weeks. I guess that whole “lean-against-a-tree-get-down-on-my-knee-and-cry” deal over DeAnna has kinda passed, don’t ya think?

-One thing I found interesting about the finale was the gift that each guy got for DeAnna. Jesse went with the standard “book of pictures”. Hasn’t every guy made that for a girl at some point in his life? I know I have. Although, when I gave it to her, I didn’t sit there and read it to her like she was a 3rd grader. Sorry. I thought Jesse’s gift was boring and unoriginal. However, I actually thought Jason’s gift was kinda neat. Call me cheesy, but at least some thought went into it. It was creative, he actually took more than 5 minutes to make it, and it seemed genuine. I give him points for that. I usually always feel sorry for the final person who gets dumped on this show (well, except for DeAnna), and it was no different last night with Jason. He actually seems like a good guy. I still don’t know why he’d choose to leave his son for 6 weeks to go on a reality dating show, but whatever. I think most people, whether they were a fan of Jason or not, had to feel sorry for the guy last night. That was brutal. Letting him get down on one knee about to propose and then telling him no? Ouch. DeAnna said “everything happened so fast”, well, what we saw was he got up to the podium, and before anyone spoke, within five seconds he was on his knee. Is there a reason DeAnna didn’t start speaking right away and lay it all out there? Maybe she didn’t know he was about to kneel down, but then again, he wouldn’t have kneeled down if you’d already told him you weren’t in love with him.

-And didn’t you find it a little bit strange that Jason asked DeAnna’s dad for her hand in marriage the first time he met them, Jesse didn’t, and DeAnna’s family made a big deal out of that fact? Then what happened? The very next time he saw them Jesse asked. Something tells me Jesse had no intention of ever asking her father for permission, probably because he didn’t know any better, but he was told, “Hey, ummmm, buddy, if you want to propose to this chick, you might want to ask her father first. Kinda the right thing to do.” I just found that all too convenient that he didn’t do it at first, there was a big discussion about it, and Walla!, he does it in the next scene. Remember, the show has a story to tell. I’m guessing that was part of it. All a little too convenient for me.

-The “ATFR” show was interesting because, well, it was taped last Tuesday. Outside of family, everyone in the audience was a paid attendee that was sworn to secrecy. But obviously, it’s impossible that every single person who attended would keep their mouth shut. So that’s how things get leaked and that’s how on Wednesday, the original information I had of her picking Jason changed to Jesse. Kinda hard to dispute someone who attended the taping and I no reason not to believe what they were telling me. But there’s always that 1% in the back of my mind that thought they could’ve been making it up. So yeah, any speculation up until the taping of the “ATFR” was just that – speculation. But after that show was taped last Tuesday, that obviously had the outcome open to the public, no matter how hard they tried to keep it in.

-I didn’t understand Host Chris telling DeAnna and Jesse’s family last night, “This is the first time you’ve known your children are engaged”. Huh? First off, DeAnna said last week on the “Men Tell All” she was happy and engaged. I’m sure they watched that. And secondly, if they’re flying Jesse’s family out there for the show, wouldn’t that be kind of a hint? I guess technically they could’ve flown his AND Jason’s family out, and they had to watch the finale there to see which of their sons got picked, but since they never showed us a shot of Jason’s disappointed family, or elated family if you want to look at it another way, then I just assumed Jesse’s family was the only one there and they obviously knew beforehand. Please. DeAnna even said last week in an interview that her and her “fiance” talked all the time, and were able to meet up a few times in private for weekends together. Would Jesse’s parents really be that naive to think that he wasn’t going to see DeAnna? C’mon. They knew. As probably did most of his friends.

-Matt and Shayne are still together. Yawn. If any of you think that those two are ever walking down the aisle together, you’re nuts. No way is that happening. I think I’ve already explained myself on this one numerous times so no need to again, but just don’t ever get your hopes up for those two. They just seemed like a couple who met a couple weeks ago. Nothing about those two’s appearance last night made me think they were interested in getting married. Maybe it was the fact that he’s a skinhead now. Or that Shayne had on another god awful outfit. Or that they weren’t mounting each other the whole time like DeAnna and Jesse (more on that in a second). Not counting Shayne and Matt and DeAnna and Jesse, this show is 1-for-14 in producing a married couple. I think I’ll stick with the odds on this one and say it’s not going to happen. Andrew Firestone got married this weekend. Just not to Jen Scheft. He married the chick he met at the Playboy mansion who likes flashing her cans in movies. Her career is goin’ places. So congrats to those two. I’m sure they’re destined for a life of happiness til the end of time. Well, at least until he finds himself another Playboy bunny.

-My final analysis on Jesse and DeAnna, or as we should now call her, DeAnna Marie Csincsak. Enjoy that last name. For those that are thinking, “Wow. They really seemed to be in love last night”, let’s not forget, EVERY couple that’s ever appeared on the “After the Final Rose” show has looked happy and in love. And none of them have worked out. Because it’s the “Bachelorette”, and because I do think the women on this show take it a little more seriously than the guys, I think Jesse and DeAnna might last a little longer than our normal couples do. But not much. I still don’t think these two will get married, have three kids by the time she’s 30, and stay married “forever”, like both of them are claiming. It’s not me being cynical, it’s me being realistic. Unless ABC decides to televise their wedding like Trista and Ryan (which is a definite possibility), then they’ll go through with it – and then get divorced within a few years. The more they kept telling each other how much in love they were over and over and over again and kissing for the cameras makes me think it’s all that much more fake. It was like they were trying to prove a point to us. Really? Do you really need to show us every four seconds that you guys like each other? Thought that was totally unnecessary and over-the-top. Definitely seemed like they were trying to convince America right then and there, “See, we’re affectionate and tell each other ‘I love you’ so much, it’s destined we’ll be together forever.” Ok. You keep convincing yourselves of that. I’ll just continue to be skeptical. My approach with these two is no different than in any of the previous 15 seasons, and that is: I’ll believe it when I see it. They can say how happy and in love they are now, but wait until they begin to have a normal relationship and the cameras are off. Then we’ll see if they’re telling each other “I love you” every 1.9 seconds. God that was nauseating. Anyway, raise a glass to the new Mr. and Mrs. Jesse and DeAnna Csincsak. For now, at least.

UPDATE: I figured I’d mention this since many of you have emailed this since last night. One of the main rumors going around about this season is that DeAnna actually chose Jason, changed her mind, and the Final Rose Ceremony had to be re-shot. Now, even for a show as low as this, that seems like something awfully ridiculous to do. But then I started getting emails in the last 24 hrs telling me to go back and watch when DeAnna rejects Jason. The flowers in the background were changing colors scene by scene. And not because of camera angles, but because they were literally different colors and different bouquets. Here’s what I noticed, and you will too if you go back and watch:

What does this all mean? Maybe nothing. They do re-shoots in reality shows all the time. Maybe the microphone didn’t pick up certain sentences, maybe the wind blew DeAnna’s hair in her face, which is all possible. My only question is, why would the background flowers need changing unless it was shot on a completely different day? A re-shoot done an hour later, two hours later, 10 hours later, whatever, would still have the same set. What would be the point of changing out the flowers unless it was done on a different day? Maybe we’ll someday get an answer to this, maybe we won’t. You make your own judgment. I just figured I would present you with some evidence which may suggest what you’re seeing isn’t what’s really happening. Yet again.

-Keep checking back to the site periodically for updates, “Reality Roundups”, and “Dr. Reality Steve’s”. I promise, they’re coming. Probably gonna take a week or two off, but I’ll be back soon. Any questions, comments, queries, praises, criticisms, marriage/sex/love/relationship issues you have, feel free to email me at steve@realitysteve.com. Until next time…..

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-Ok, I’m a little confused as to what’s coming up with the “The Bachelorette” in the coming weeks. As we know, next week is the 2 hour finale, followed by an “After the Final Rose” show with Deanna, Jason and Jesse, and an nice update as to what Matt and Shayne have been up to since their season ended. My guess? A whole lot of nothing. Other than him moving out of her LA condo. However, a recent press release showed that on Monday night, July 14th, ABC will air something called “The Bachelorette: Engagement Party”. I have no idea what this is. I mean, I can probably guess that it’ll be a party celebrating DeAnna and whatever “J” she choses engagement. Probably filled with a lot of fluff and nonsense about an engagement that probably won’t lead to a wedding. Why are they gonna have an “After the Final Rose” show next week, followed by an “Engagement Party” episode the following week? And I highly doubt its an “Engagement Party” for Matt and Shayne considering the show is called “The Bachelorette: Engagement Party”.

-Even with two shows tonight, this recap will mainly cover the first hour since nothing too great happened in the “Men Tell All” episode. Well, except for when DeAnna turned into megab**ch, made the show all about her, and royally pissed off Graham and Jeremy to the point where they seem annoyed. More on that later. Anyway, this week started out with DeAnna completely, 100%, nonstop gushing about……no, not Brad….but Graham. “It was hard to let Graham go. I was falling in love with Graham. But Graham was a Brad. He couldn’t fully give me what I wanted. Graham was the one I thought would be the final one standing at the end. Now everything’s up in the air at this point…..because of Graham.” Gulp. Uhhhh, where do I begin? Other than the fact that she completely just made Jesse, Jason, and Jeremy lose their hard ons, I’ll ask this again: How could you be happy to hear that if you’re Jason or Jesse sitting sitting at home watching that? It’s like, she was so confident it was going to be Graham in the end, but then when she realized Graham wasn’t all about DeAnna, she dumped him. Which I’m fine with if that’s the way she felt. But I’m supposed to believe from that moment on, she immediately fell in love with Jason or Jesse? Please. Ain’t happening. She’s in love with the fact that she got proposed to, and she was proposed to because she basically told each guy in so many words, “If I’m keeping you around, you bet your sweet ass I’m expecting an engagement in the end.” So before everyone gets all sappy towards next week, if this show has taught us one thing, it’s this: Just because they’re engaged, doesn’t mean they’re going to get married.

-The overnight dates are set in the Grand Bahamas and Jeremy is up first. Or as she likes to call him, “The most perfect human being to ever walk the face of this earth.” Or something like that. Immediately she starts in on the date with her love for Graham. “I’m gonna do my best to put Graham behind me.” You do that, DeAnna. You know, considering he’s not around anymore since you sent him home. Might be a good idea to start concentrating one which one of these three you’re going to force a proposal out of. “My last two dates with Jeremy have been serious. I want to just enjoy my time with him. He’s perfect. I can totally see myself with him. And it doesn’t hurt that he’s beautiful.” Well, at least she said that to the camera. Ladies, never tell a guy he’s beautiful. You might think it’s a compliment, but we certainly don’t take it that way. The sunset overlooking the ocean is beautiful. A helicopter ride over a city is beautiful. Maddie is beautiful. Guys aren’t. We feel very emasculated when called beautiful so, ummmmm, stop it.

-So these two jet ski around the Bahamas then end up in the sand scissoring each other and not talking. Jeremy can’t think of anything so he says the first thing that pops into his head. “Ummmm, tell me something about you that I don’t know.” DeAnna: “I don’t know.” These two are really going somewhere. Very enlightening conversation. Of course, DeAnna then somehow manages to bring Graham back into the conversation when she tells us, “Graham’s gone, and now Jeremy’s not opening up.” You know what? Maybe he just doesn’t feel like it today. I mean, for christ sakes, the guy read you his journal from the day after his mother died on your last date. Does he constantly have to shower you with how much he’s into you in every waking second you’re with him? Maybe he woke up on the wrong side of the bed that day. Maybe he found out he’s now at 4% body fat instead of 3%. Maybe he ran out of hair product. Could be a lot of things. Don’t crucify the guy because he isn’t breaking out a laundry list of the all the qualities he loves about you and reading them one at a time. It’s ok that you guys just sit on the beach and chill. Save the talking for later. I’m with Jeremy on this one. Right here, bro. You and me. We’re boys. Let’s go have a drink at Suite together next weekend. On me. I’m kidding. I don’t think I’d be caught dead there.

-So they get to dinner and the riveting conversation continues. This was classic.

Jeremy: “Are you nervous?”
DeAnna: “Not at all. Are you nervous?”
Jeremy: “No.”
DeAnna: “Well, you’re not really being yourself.”
Jeremy: “So you think I’m not being myself, huh?”

Fascinating stuff, guys. Just fascinating. I’m guessing maybe it was at this point that DeAnna started thinking Jeremy wasn’t so perfect after all. The only thing he seemed to be perfect at was not talking. So as he feels this thing slipping away from him, he drops this one on her. “I would tell you that I’m falling in love with you, but it’s already happened.” Oh boy. That had to sting a little bit. Especially considering Jeremy doesn’t open up like that to anyone. You know how I know this? Because he’s mentioned it 682 times already. The guy who doesn’t open to anybody, just decided that, ON NATIONAL TELEVISION, he’d read his journal about his dead mother and then the following week, tell the same chick that he’s in love with her after knowing her for five weeks. That makes sense. I love how fake this show is.

-So DeAnna tells Jeremy next that she has a surprise for him. If Jeremy’s never seen an episode of this show, then yes, this is a surprise. I’m guessing he has, and when she handed him the card, he got a boner. He starts reading it. Hey, it’s from Host Chris. Seems like we haven’t heard or seen this guy in weeks. So how goes it, Chris? “Jeremy and DeAnna….Hope you are enjoying your stay in Barbados. Here’s the key to the room to go have hot monkey sex. We’ll make sure we turn the cameras off. Don’t make too much noise and wake other hotel guests.” I think that’s what it said. I forgot to write it down this time. Anyway, the minute Jeremy read the last word from the card, he was practically dragging her upstairs and taking off her clothes. At least that’s the way I interpreted it. They made out on the bed, he closed the door, and I’m guessing they made babies. Am I supposed to honestly believe that when the doors close on these overnight dates, these two sit in there and talk? Watch TV? Play footsies? Please.

-Next overnight date is with Jason. Jason is very excited because now DeAnna will see a different side of him. Everything’s kinda all focused around Ty thus far, so now he gets to let his guard down and show DeAnna his fun side. That is, until the first five seconds of the date when she asks him, “So did you tell Ty where you were going?” Why is that important? Is Ty going to have an opinion on this? “Dad, I really don’t need you going to Barbados. I heard its rainy season and I wouldn’t want you dealing with potential thunderstorms when you’re supposed to be finding out if this is gonna be my new mommy.” What DeAnna should have asked Jason right away was, “Hey, did Ty think my blue golf ball was stupid. Cuz everyone else seemed to think so. Especially Reality Steve.” I’m sure if we see Ty again on this show (and I’m willing to bet everything I own that we will), he’ll be forced to have that blue golf ball on him. And say something like, “I likes DeAnna. She’s pretty and funny. And she’s stinky poo poo.” I’ve come to realize every 3 year old I’ve ever encountered seems to relate everything to stinky poo poo. Or is that just my niece. Love her to death and am leaving for LA tomorrow to spend to the weekend with her, but, if I ask her one more time how old she’s gonna be on Thursday and she responds with, “I’m gonna be poo poo”, we may need to have a little talk. But I guess that’s what makes them so cute.

-DeAnna and Jason are going to go kayaking. Jason wants us to believe he’s a very outdoorsy kinda guy and that he’ll try everything at least once, but says he’s never been kayaking. And neither has DeAnna. You know what that means? Nothing but hijinx and hilarity is about to ensue. And by that I mean they don’t know how to paddle, they turn the wrong way, and everyone thinks its the funniest thing known to mankind. Except me. So yeah, that’s what happened. But he did get to make out with her in the kayak, so I guess he gets points for that. And just spending the day with DeAnna has helped Jason realize one thing. “The whole day has helped me fall in love with DeAnna even more.” That’s nice to know. Really, it is. But Jason, just so you know, a week ago, DeAnna was convinced she would be getting a ring from Graham. So now that you have her attention, I’m thinking she’s starting to feel she’s falling in love with you. After last night, when she was falling in love with Jeremy. And after tomorrow, when she’ll be falling in love with Jesse. You know, because her attention is on you guys now that she had to send the love of her life home in Graham.

-Over dinner, DeAnna brings up Ty again. “Have you taken Ty to the beach before?” Jason: “Yes. He loves the beach….but hey look, we can talk about Ty if you want, but lets talk about us.” Translation: So if I didn’t have a cute kid, would you even like me? This is kind of like “Jerry Maguire” revisited. Tom Cruise only likes that squishy-faced Renee Zellwegger because her cute kid says, “The human head weighs 8 pounds.” I have to hand it to Cameron Crowe for having the smarts to turn a sports movie into a chick flick. See, if “Jerry Maguire” doesn’t have all the “You had me at hello” parts to it, you wouldn’t be able to pay a chick to watch that movie. But because he did, he satisfied both parties. The men got to watch some football, and the women got to see their love story. As for me, I liked the movie, but didn’t love it. I’ve come to dislike pretty much everything Tom Cruise has ever been in now after seeing what a weirdo he’s turned into. The only thing good about “Jerry Maguire” nowadays is remembering the skit “Saturday Night Live” did when Renee Zellwegger was hosting where they pretended they were shooting a scene for the sequel. Jimmy Fallon was on his knees overacting his part as usual as Cruise, Renee played herself, and big, fat Horatio Sanz played the kid who had grown up since the first movie and wasn’t cute anymore. If you’ve seen it, you know what I’m talking about. It was funny, trust me. If I never hear “You had me at hello” again, I think I’ll be a happy man.

-It’s now Jason’s turn to read the fantasy suite card, and he does something that I don’t think I remember anyone in this shows history doing before. He stops during the middle of the reading and says, “Let’s go”. So he pretty much wasted no time in telling DeAnna, “Look, it’s been a tough road for me since my divorce. Tough to meet chicks, Ty’s always around, I just don’t get laid very often. Now I’ve got you by myself in the Bahamas, I think it’s time you let me give you the Angry Pirate.” Or something like that. Actually, what he said was, “Thank you for teaching me I can fall in love again. God knows after what happened with my ex, I never thought it’d be possible. Did you see our page on theknot.com? It’s really pretty. I had a shaved head, my ex looked taller than me, Bevin from Andy Baldwin’s season was a bridesmaid since her and my ex-wife are good friends, but I had to take the page down since once I got on this show, fans started signing my guest book and leaving nasty comments. I’ll show you sometime. Or you can go check out a message board. My whole previous marriage has pretty much been exposed.” Yet, the one thing we don’t seem to fully know for sure yet is why they got divorced. But what is known is that Jason and his ex have joint custody of Ty. He is very much a part of her life, and from what I’ve read, she was the one that watched Ty when Jason was off filming the show. I wonder what Jason’s ex thought of the blue golf ball?

-Commercial. I must talk about this since, well, it’s important. This month starts a new reality show “High School Musical” where, I’m assuming, they cast a teenager to make an appearance in “High School Musical 3 – We’re Gay Seniors Now”. Look, I’ve never seen either of the first two movies. All I know is that Zac Efron is destined to become the next George Michael, Ashley Tisdale had a nose job at 22 years old, and Vanessa Hudgens likes showing her nookie on the internet. All the power to them, they’re multi-millionaires before they hit their mid 20’s, but enough about the comparisons to that being the “Grease” of our generation. Not quite. I don’t see a Danny Zucko in that group. Or a Johnny Nogarelli. The T-Birds would be those kids asses the minute they started singing and dancing during the middle of gym class. And oh yeah, a great career move for Nick Lachey as he got stuck with the hosting gigs for this show. Who would’ve guessed five years ago that in 2008, Drew Lachey would be more relevant and popular than Nick? Sorry to see your marriage not work out, Nick. Or your career.

-Jesse’s turn to be wow’ed by DeAnna. They’re gonna go horse back riding, and that’s just about the best damn idea Jesse’s heard since, well, DeAnna’s last idea. Even though they aren’t hers. “‘We’re going horse back riding in the Bahamas. How rad is that? She never ceases to amaze me.” Of all the guys who say they’d never watched this show before coming on it, I’d definitely believe it if Jesse said that. He actually thinks DeAnna comes up with these brilliant date ideas. I bet he’s convinced she pays for all flights, hotels, and accommodations too? Someone needs to replace Jesse’s bong water and bring him up to date with reality. DeAnna is not the producer of this show. Nor is she the director. She’s told where to go, what to say, who to keep around, and who to choose in the end. Oh, and how long she’s supposed to stay together with someone she obviously isn’t in love with just to keep the charade going a little longer so the show doesn’t get egg on its face again. Anyway, while on horseback, as the horses go into the ocean, Jesse and DeAnna have a nice kiss. The last time I saw two people kissing in the ocean and horses were involved, I believe I had to use my credit card to watch the full thing. And it was with chicks. And they weren’t wearing anything. So needless to say, this wasn’t nearly as romantic for me as it was for them apparently.

-As they’re on the beach talking, Jesse has a question. “You’re potentially gonna be married to someone here in two weeks. Are you nervous?” DeAnna: “No. This is what I’ve waited for my whole life.” Really? No way! I wasn’t sure the first 1,200 times you told us, but now I’m convinced. That one sold me. Good job. DeAnna goes on to tell us how much Jesse has grown on her, and in turn, the reason why she’d never pick him in the end. “I would never have expected to like him so much. I look forward to spending more time with him.” So, once again, we’re expected to believe that a guy who admittedly isn’t the type she’d go for, and admittedly, someone she had doubts about whether she liked, is the guy she’ll want to be married too? Even after dumping the other guy who she expected to be there in the end? Yes, I see. It all makes perfect sense now.

-Over dinner, Jesse has some more questions for DeAnna that I found intriguing. He asks her again about how many kids she wants, “Two or Three?” DeAnna: “Three. I want three dammit. No more. No less. I’m having three.” Jesse: “Uhhhh, yes ma’am. And you want to have these right away, or do you want to wait….”. DeAnna: “No! Right away! By the time I’m 30! Don’t you understand my mom died when I was 12 so I’ve always wanted to be a young mother! Damn you! I put my heart on the line for you guys and you’re not taking it seriously!” Oops. Wrong episode. I was having BBQ flashbacks. Anyway, she reiterates once again that she wants three kids before she’s 30, but actually said this time, “I’d like three kids before I’m 30. It’s not like I have a plan or anything.” Sure you don’t, sweetie. Sure as hell didn’t sound that way when you were telling Jason on the Space Needle that you’d never heard of. I tend to believe that yes, DeAnna has a plan. And if you don’t plan on following that plan, then you have no business being in her life. Got that, Graham?

-Jesse also asks her about the living situation. He says he’s got to be living in “Breck” 3 months out of the year. “Breck” I’m guessing is the stoner version of “Breckenridge”. Got it. DeAnna kinda avoids this whole line of questioning basically confirming she has no interest in dealing with the cold 3 months out of the year. I don’t think she wanted to get too deep into the living situation because, well, ummmm, she has no interest in it. So she switches the subject. DeAnna: “So what do you plan on doing after snowboarding?” Jesse: “I’ve always thought at some point I’d like to be a sports agent.” Ummmm, don’t you have to be a lawyer to do that? And if you’re lawyer, doesn’t that mean years of law school? Can you see Jesse pounding the books for years in law school? Neither can I. This conversation got very awkward since she didn’t seem to jazzed about him living in Colorado for at least 3 months out of the year, she didn’t seem like she had any interest in being with him during those 3 months, and Jesse seems to be clueless on what it takes to be a sports agent. But hey, what do I know?

-Despite all this, Jesse is falling for DeAnna. “I’m falling for you so hard, and it scares the crap out of me.” Uh oh. Don’t know if that’s what DeAnna wants to hear. Might not be part her plan. Sucks to be you. So they’ve teased us all show with Jesse reading the overnight date card then saying, “I don’t know if I can do this without first meeting your dad?” To which DeAnna says, “Are you serious?” Please, please, please tell me nobody watching the show last night actually thought that this guy was going to pass up an overnight date because he hadn’t met her dad. And if you did, just lie to me and tell me you totally saw through all that editing. Please. She would’ve sent him home right then and there if he would’ve done that. Hell, I would’ve. If I’m the Bachelor, and I present an overnight suite card, and you turn me down, you’re going home. Especially if the other two already said yes and gave up the ass. Sorry. You’d have waaaaaaay too much catching up to do. Then again, I’m not the Bachelor, have no interest in being the Bachelor, and never will be the Bachelor, so I guess there’s nothing to worry about.

-Rose ceremony time. Once again, not very suspenseful having known what was going to happen for the last month or so, but I was interested in watching reaction from the guys. Speech time. “I care about all three of you….send one home….not easy….heart breaking…..and I so wish Graham wasn’t so closed off or else neither of you would even be here right now, he’d be down on one knee proposing, and we’d be on our way to making my three kids in three years.”

Jesse: Needless to say, when I found out this guy was in the final two back in mid-May, I was stunned. Still am.
Jason: I wasn’t stunned by him. Neither should you be.

-Now DeAnna has to explain to Mr. Perfect why she didn’t pick him despite all his perfectness and perfection in all things he does. “You are so perfect (shocker)….I’d be the luckiest woman in the world….I’m stupid for sending you home….we have such a bond that not many people have….I just didn’t want to confuse that bond with being in love.” I would’ve left all the “You’re perfect” crap out of there. I don’t think he really cares to hear that at this point. It just makes what you’re saying that much more stupid. When the chick couldn’t stop saying the word “perfect” for the last three episodes about the guy, you had to have known he wasn’t going to be the final one. That would’ve been too easy. It just didn’t make her sound all that smart. First she tells us the one guy who thought would be the final one she fell in love with she had to let go. Now she’s letting go of the one who she’s constantly called perfect. I don’t get it.

-Jeremy: “I’m hurt. I’ve never had my heart broken like this. Today could be one of the worst days I’ve ever had.” Yeah, he was pretty bummed. He claims to have been in love with her, she dumped him, didn’t really give him the greatest of reasons why, and now he has to face rejection. No guy likes doing that. Ever. But he kept his cool, got a little choked up, got in the limo and drove away. Sort of. He had the limo driver pull over so he could get out an lean against a tree. It looked like the limo driver stopped at the wall where Jason, Jesse, and DeAnna were on the other side of. I thought Jeremy was going to get on his tippy toes and peek over the wall at those three toasting each other. Now that would’ve been funny seeing him spying on them as they were all happy and he had a big frown on his face. Poor guy. Well, at least now he can head to the Ghost Bar and pick up on the pretentious golddiggers that hang there. I’m sure they’d love to head back to his place in Deep Ellum and have him read his journal to them.

“Men Tell All”

-It’s late, I have an early tee time this morning, and I’ve got a million errands to run today before leaving for California tomorrow, so I’m gonna keep my “Men Tell All” recap short. Very short. In case you’re curious, here’s what I have going for me today:

-7:00am tee time (maybe I should play with a blue ball, just for Ty’s sake)
-Get a haircut
-Drop Maddie off at her boarding place for the next 5 days (not something I’m looking forward to)
-1:00 chiropractors appointment
-2:30 work meeting
-Pick up dry cleaning
-Go to bank

Wow. I can’t remember the last time I had so much to do in one day. This will be the first time I’ve left Maddie at a boarding place while I’ve been away. Usually my dad watches her, but he’s coming on this trip as well. We went there last week to check it out and she seemed to like it, so I at least feel a little more comfortable now. It’s brand new, there aren’t a ton of dogs staying there, and her room isn’t the size of a dresser drawer. It’s clean, they take her for walks 8-10 times a day, and she’ll get a bath at some point. I don’t think she’ll love it because it’s not my bed she’ll be on 24/7, but she should be fine. If airlines didn’t make travelling with pets so difficult, I’d bring her with me all the time.

-Ok, so the first half hour of the show sucked. Nothing happened. Guys talked about their experiences, they showed clips we’d already seen, Jeremy and Graham came up to the hot seat and didn’t really say anything that I hadn’t heard them say already, and there was a bunch of fake, forced laughter. But then they brought DeAnna out, and that’s when things got fun. And awkward. Jeremy asked her: “When did you know it wasn’t me?” DeAnna: “After I had overnights with Jason and Jesse, I knew I was falling in love with them.” Ouch. Jeremy didn’t seem to take that too well. Probably wasn’t the answer he was looking for. There was about a five second awkwardness after that where they panned in on Jeremy’s face waiting for him to say something and he never did. So Host Chris did the next best thing….and moved on to Graham. Even better.

-Graham took the approach of, “Look, what happened on the show happened on the show. It’s over and done with, I’m happy she’s happy, there’s no need to bring up the past.” Uhhhhh, DeAnna didn’t care for that too much. Apparently she wanted to see Graham grovel over her, and she told him in so many words, “I really don’t care for the way you’re talking about things now like they don’t mean anything to you.” And then she made a comment about how she’s “definitely not 2nd guessing herself anymore”, and that she still didn’t believe he opened up to her, even though he claimed he did. What an absolute b**ch. The nerve of her for her to tell him how she thinks he should be acting. The guy is over you, woman. What’s he supposed to do three months after the fact? Talk about how wonderful and great you are and that he wishes you never let him go? The guy says he felt he opened up to you, and you don’t believe him. What else is he supposed to do? What a self-important, egotistical, beyotch she came across as last night. Wow. I thought it would’ve been outstanding if Jeremy and Graham would’ve got up and walked out on her. I’m sure that would’ve knocked her ego down a couple notches. Holy crap she made herself look terrible last night.

-One thing I want to point out from Grahams exit interview that I think some of you may find interesting. Listen to what he has to say about the editing.

Were you prepared to propose in two weeks?
Yeah, definitely. But, see, you go into the show prepared for the concept of marriage, but the variable in that is you don’t know the person when you go into it. And there were quite a few concerns that I had with her, and I’m sure she had just as many with me. I find it totally weird that she never talks about what she does for a living. She never does. She was just pretty content to talk about her feelings — 120 percent of the time.

Why is there something the audience are missing from what we are seeing? Jesse and DeAnna are so different and Jeremy and Jason seem much more the marrying kind.
I definitely would agree with you that Jason and Jeremy would make better partners with her to spend the rest of her life with. I don’t think you’re missing anything in the edit of Jesse – I think you might be missing something of the edit of DeAnna.

Did you ever talk about her life and her job?
You know, she and I talked about … mostly how I felt about her. [Laughs] I’m sure we talked about music sometimes. But, no, the time that you are given it’s pretty much revolving around the concept of the show and the relationship and where you are in the process and how you’re dealing with that. We didn’t talk day-to-day details too much, which is obviously kind of disturbing if you’re going to marry someone in that short period of time.

So yeah, you can tell that Graham was a little bothered by the way he was edited and the way DeAnna, apparently, wasn’t edited. It shows in this interview, and it showed by what we heard from him last night. He seems completely over the whole thing now, whereas she expected more from him like, “I just dumped you. You’re supposed to be more hurt than this?” No, honey. He just doesn’t dwell on things for months like you did with Brad.

-The only other eventful thing to take place during the show was Ryan the virgin calling her out for wanting so much attention. Or as he liked to call it, “OCD – Obsessive Compulsive DeAnna”. He didn’t understand why Jesse, who played the cool, mellow card the whole time and didn’t smother her, got to the final two, whereas Jeremy, who was all over her all the time, didn’t. Especially after she talked so much about needing a guy to open up to her. Even I’m confused now. Anyway, Ryan talked himself in circles and she basically shot him down with, “Well, I was attracted to Jesse and I wasn’t attracted to you. Had nothing to do with your approach. I just didn’t like you.” Oh, ok. Yet another graceful moment for her last night. I know what she intended to say, but that made her look a little high and mighty if you ask me.

-So next week, we get the 2 hr. finale followed by the “After the Final Rose” show. I’ll try and find out more information about this dumb ass “Engagement Party” show on the following Monday, but as of now, that’s what’s on ABC’s schedule. Everyone have a great 4th of July weekend, and of course as always, if you have any questions, comments, queries, criticisms, praises, or just wanna chat with such an outstanding guy, email me at steve@realitysteve.com. Until next week….

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