Reality Steve

The Bachelor 13 - Jason

Reality Steve Q&A Session

So there’s been a lot of talk over the last week regarding the information that I have. Tons of theories being floated around, people dissecting things I’ve said, and everything else you can imagine. This Q&A is going to clear the air on a few topics I think are important. Will it reveal what I know? Not really. That’s not the point of this. In fact, some answers will be quite vague. But I’ll address some questions that have arisen and will eliminate some of the ridiculous theories I’ve heard. These questions are ones that have been asked to me either by email, on a message board, or through Facebook. Let’s make one thing clear: Remember, I am the one choosing which questions to answer. My answers are my answers, and they are purposely worded very carefully. With that said, all these answers are 100% the truth. I hope this helps.

1. “Does DeAnna have anything to do with the outcome of the show or what you know?”

Reality Steve: Go back to the second to last paragraph of the first column of the season, 1/5/09. I gave you your answer back then. If you don’t feel like reading it, here’s a quick summary: DeAnna comes back to give Jason advice, she’s not interested in trying to win him back, and she’s there to collect a paycheck because she’s a publicity whore. The End.

2. “Where are you getting your information from and are you going to eventually reveal it in the final column?”

RS: You won’t need me to tell you where I got my information from because my final column will all make sense. You’ll just realize I have been right every step of the way. From all my clues that I will eventually explain, to having all your questions answered, the final column will reveal everything. Where I got it from won’t matter at that point. I think the column will be convincing enough.

3. “Are the screen caps people have been going crazy about (i.e. the pinky ring, the freckles, the dress) misleading us in any way?”

RS: They could be. Then again, they could not. It depends.

4. “Is Jason with somebody who is not one of the 25 bachelorettes?”

RS: That one I can’t answer. Doesn’t mean he is, doesn’t mean he isn’t. I just choose not to answer that one to keep a little suspense involved. Think about it: If I said, “Nope, it’s none of them”, that would really eliminate a lot of guesses. If I said, “Yes it is”, then you would know its one of the 25 women.

5. “Are you being paid by ABC, or anyone for that matter, to be doing this?”

RS: Without a doubt, 100%, I can honestly say the answer to this question is “Hell no. I wish.” Of course ABC is loving this since its drawing attention to their show, but I’m not getting paid by anyone or any company. Like I’ve said, I’ve never really been a spoiler site. But when I got this information that very few people had, I figured I’d go with it. Is it drawing more readers to my site? Sure it is. But do you see any ad banners anywhere on my page? Didn’t think so. So how am I making any money through extra hits to my site with no advertising anywhere? I’m not making a cent off this. Although, I probably should be considering the buzz its created. Maybe I’m the idiot for not capitalizing on this. In fact, yes, I am an idiot for not prostituting myself out to the highest bidder. Whatever the case, no, I’m not getting paid. I’m doing this all because I have information and I want to keep people in suspense before releasing it. That’s all.

6. “Why aren’t you telling us anything before the finale? Why don’t you just tell us what you know now?”

RS: A couple reasons. What fun is that to tell you now? Look, as much as you people want to know, there are ten times as many people who don’t want to know and would rather watch the show. Plus, I think it’ll actually be better to watch the finale, read my column, then go back and piece everything together (how I said it, when I said it, etc). Kinda fun. Stuff that may be confusing now (like the clues), or may not make sense, will all make sense in the end. Like an episode of “Lost.” I’m telling you, blame Carlton Cuse and Damon Lindelof, co-executive producers of “Lost”, for me doing this. I’ve really become a fan of their way of storytelling and I thought I’d have fun trying to mimic it in my own way. Am I half as good as writers as they are? Of course not. Never claimed to be. But I know what happens in the finale this season, just like they do with their show, so they can write their seasons accordingly dropping in clues and hints, just like I will, that’ll all make sense in the end.

Secondly, from what I can gather, ABC is not done completely editing the final episodes. If I reveal this now, who knows what they’re capable of doing? They could do re-shoots, they could edit someone or something to look completely different, they could change things up and then I’d look like a jackass. I’m not taking that chance. Let them play it out how I think they’re going to play it out, and let me tell my story. Then make your judgment from there.

7. “Why isn’t ABC promoting the hell out of this “bombshell?”

RS: Don’t know. Don’t care. I don’t work for them. Never have. Maybe they will as we get closer to the finale. Remember, we are still a month away from the finale airing. We have hometown dates airing next week, Feb. 9th. Overnight dates on Feb. 16th. “Women Tell All” on Feb. 23rd. So that places the finale on Mon, March 2nd. That’s the schedule I think they’re going with. Unless they decide to air the WTA right after the overnight dates, which would then move the finale up to Feb. 23rd. Maybe that’s been decided, maybe it hasn’t. But I’m going off the assumption the WTA episode will have its own week, with the finale the next week on March 2nd.

8. “Does your ‘Save the cheerleader, save the world’ reference have to do with anything or have any significance?”

RS: This has been one of my favorite running guesses so far. No, it doesn’t. Not at all. Go back and read what I wrote. I was essentially saying that just like how “Heroes” had a slogan for their first season, the “Bachelor” should have one for this season. And that slogan should be, “Not everything is as seems.” I guess I shouldn’t have used “Save the cheerleader, save the world” as an example considering we have a former Dallas Cowboy cheerleader on the show. So, I can see where you might’ve mistaken that as a clue, but no, it has nothing to do with anything. I was just saying that this season should have a tag or slogan attached to it. How about, just like “Jaws” had a slogan, “Just when you thought it was safe to go back in the water”, the tagline for this season of the “Bachelor” should be, “Not everything is as seems.” There. I should’ve written that. You people are funny though.

9. “Is Jason gay? Is there a woman who used to be a man somewhere on the show?” (Yes, people are asking this)

RS: I can’t believe I’m even answering these two questions. No and no.

10. “Has anything we’ve seen so far have you worried that maybe what you think you know may not end up happening?”

RS: Nope. Everything seems to be on course. But who knows? ABC is known to be tricky.

11. “Did Jason and Melissa know each other before the show started?”

RS: As far as I know, no, they didn’t.

12. “How has this big ‘bombshell’ you claim to have not gotten out yet?”

RS: I don’t know. It might eventually. I think bits and pieces can get leaked here and there just like it has in all past seasons. But what to believe, and what not to believe, is the more pressing matter. What to take as fact, and what to take as hearsay, is the hard part to distinguish. There are so many rumors and guesses floating around out there, how do you know what to believe? Hell, even I’m being misquoted on websites. I’m reading stuff saying, “Reality Steve says (this)”, and I’m like, “I don’t even remember saying that. Where do people get this from?” Plus, as I’ve said, there are very few people who know everything. There is a story here to tell, and I’m going to tell it as best I can.

13. “There’s a theory on the FORT boards that’s claiming they’ve figured it out. Have they?”

RS: As of this writing, I have not seen anything on there that has figured it out. And frankly, a lot of them aren’t close. It’s not easy to. Here’s something for ya’. I’ll even throw the FORT boards a bone. Here is the most reasonable post I’ve seen on there. I cut and pasted it just for you. Not saying it’s accurate, not saying they don’t know anything, I’m just saying this person has their head on straight. Here’s what they wrote:

“From this I am just saying I am keeping my eyes open as to who may end up with Jason. The edit always tells us what is going on or what is not looking right. We have the screen caps that maybe we are interpreting incorrectly, or maybe not. Right now all I know is that Jason’s edit is not fitting of someone looking for “true love.”

I do think that Reality Steve does know something, and that something will result in an explosive final rose ceremony. What we have so far is that no one returns that was previously dismissed, it does not involve DeAnna, the F2 is not reconsidered, and there is an eye-popping back story that we will find out about the day after the FRC. Are production staff somehow involved?

Until we actually see the final rose ceremony it is all just speculation in my book.”

See, they threw some stuff out there that I haven’t commented on one way or another. Hence the reason I’m saying don’t read too much into it. I’m just using it as an example because I think this person is taking the right approach, which is, “Let’s just wait and see.” When I tell you what I know, I think a lot of you will be thankful that I was honest with you from the get-go. I can’t believe some of you think I am actually going through all this trouble to, in the end, basically tell you I’ve got nothing. Or I heard a rumor. Or that a friend, of a cousin, of an uncle once removed whose brother-in-law told me something and I thought I’d make a big deal out of it and share it. Please. I have better things to do. I’ve done episode recaps for now fifteen seasons of this show (11 of the 13 “Bachelors”, and all 4 “Bachelorettes”). I would not throw almost 7 years of doing this for fun out the window, and lose all my credibility, just for a publicity stunt. I have been nothing but honest from the beginning, and will continue to prove that.

It’s amazing how many people are hoping I fail on this. These people are telling other people that I know nothing, even though I’ve said from the get-so it’ll all be revealed after the finale. How can you judge what I have to say before I’ve ever said it? How are you so positive I don’t know anything? Based on what? I’m throwing out clues, I’m doing Q&A’s. You really don’t think I know anything? You really think I’m doing this for my own personal enjoyment only to say “fooled you” at the end? I’m not a guy that hides behind some anonymous name on a message board. I have a MySpace page with info and pictures on it, a Facebook page with info and pictures on it, I give my email address is in every column I write, hell, I even did the “25 Random Things” about me this past weekend on Facebook. What you see is what you get. I’ve got nothing to hide. Ask 99% of people who email me, and they’ll tell you I always write them back. This isn’t the Wizard of Oz and I’m not behind some curtain and you’ll never get to really know who I am. It’s all right there out in the open. I’m basically one of the easiest guys to get a hold of. So hear me out after the finale. If you still think that, well, you’re not too bright. I’ll let my column do the talking for me.

The funny thing is, I never intended for people to get mad and bothered by this. Sure, when I first posted about the exclusive news last week, it came off as “I know something you don’t know, doo-da, doo-da”. But anyone who’s read my column with any regularity knows I can be a pompous, sarcastic ass at times. It’s part of who I am. I’ve never hid that fact. But if you took offense to my approach, I apologize. I’m dead serious when I tell you I’m doing this all for fun. It’s a game. I’m gonna give clues, you’re gonna guess, then in the end, the final reveal will happen and it’ll be a giant party! I never expected it to get nasty where people were questioning anything and saying I’m a fraud, a jerk, etc. I mean, wow. It’s a TV show. For the next month, this is game. A puzzle. Let’s have fun with it, people.

14. “On the ABC message boards, a thread entitled ‘The Finale is a Shocker’, has been removed. It was all about your blog and this “exclusive” news you say you have. Tons of people were reading it and commenting. Any explanation as to why it was removed?”

RS: I wasn’t aware of that. Maybe ABC is scared I might actually be on to something here.

15. “How is Jason going to come out looking when this is all said and done? Is the audience going to be happy or upset with him after the final rose ceremony?”

RS: I don’t know. I’m not the audience. Speaking personally, I could care less how the show ends up. I just want to tell what I know. Although, I’m glad Nikki got sent home. At least maybe I have a chance now. Ha ha.

16. “Do you have any relationship whatsoever with Jason?”

RS: No. I have never met, spoken to, emailed, or had any contact whatsoever with our bachelor, Jason Mesnick. I can’t be any more clearer than that.

17. “Is there one big thing we’re missing in what you’ve written, or are we missing a bunch of things?”

RS: I’d say most of you are missing a lot of things, but there is one major thing that nobody has caught on to yet that’s pretty big.

18. “Do you think Chris Harrison would ever do an interview with you?”

RS: If there was one person in this shows history I would like to talk to, it’d be him. Not to discuss the information I have about this season, but just to talk about his experience through the years. The guy has a lot to say, he’s been through it all, and we can see some of that come out on his blog at The door is always open on my end to do an interview. I think it’d be fun. Would he do it though? I doubt it.

19. “Is there any correlation to you being friends with Jeremy, Jeremy currently dating a Dallas Cowboy cheerleader, Jeremy being friends with Jason, and Melissa being a former Cowboy cheerleader?”

RS: Ha ha. Like I didn’t know this question was coming. I expected this to be brought up probably more than any other topic. The answer is, “None whatsoever.”

20. I decided to remove the last question, and replace it with something regarding yesterday’s clue of “K Moon/Rebecca.” After reading everything that I’ve read over the last 24 hours, I think it’s safe to say that my clue is working. Some really good guesses thus far. And some really odd ones. And for the record, someone out there may actually decipher what the clue is eventually, but tying it in to what it has to do with the finale is a completely different story. Every one of the clues has to do with something regarding the finale. Once again, it’ll all make sense down the line. That’s the reason for the clues. When you look back at them, you’ll understand what it is I was getting at. Here’s one statement I’ll make regarding yesterdays clue: It is not an anagram. Sorry to disappoint. Also, the backslash being used in “K Moon/Rebecca” represents separation between the two. What a nice guy. I said I wouldn’t answer any questions about the clue and I just answered two.

(Side Note: To “MelJayFan2009” who had comment #129 yesterday. Holy crap! That’s a hell of theory. Quite some thought you put into that. But my answer to question #1, and the fact that I’m telling you “K Moon/Rebecca” is not an anagram kills your theory completely. “A” for effort though. I couldn’t have come up with that in a million years).

Look, the clues are going to be difficult, I’m warning you ahead of time. Everybody will come up with their own meanings for them, just like you have for “K Moon/Rebecca”. It’s going to take some really creative thinking to figure them out, and even then, piecing them with how they tie in with the finale is even harder. That’s the key. Each clue will play a part in the finale somehow. Good clues aren’t meant to be solved. If I give you a clue, and you solve it immediately and figure out everything, then that wasn’t a good clue. Clues are meant to be looked back upon, after everything is said and done, and you go, “Oh, I get it now. Didn’t pick up on it back then. Make sense.” That’s the role of these clues. I’m using the clues as a way for me to tell my story, just like “Lost” does. Once you realize all the clues had something to do with the finale, and that I’ve been giving you them for over a month, it’ll be pretty impossible not to believe I knew stuff when I did. Not only will the clues help me tell my story, they will also be a convincing argument as to why I posted when I did that I had “exclusive” news. Remember, my original post last Tuesday night said I had “exclusive” news. Not a single site on the internet reported that. You heard it here first. Well, my clues are going to back up my “exclusive” news. For the last time, trust me, it’ll all make sense when my column posts.

Hope this Q&A cleared up some things for you. And I cannot stress this enough. I’m having fun with this, and I suggest you look at it the same way. Quit being so bitter, watch the rest of the season play out, and save your judgment til it’s all over. If you don’t want to look into the clues, then just read the column. If you don’t like the column, then don’t read it. Some of the things I’ve seen written about my approach have been just mind boggling. It’s my site. Last time I checked, I can pretty much write it however I want. I promise you that everything I’ve written, and everything still to be written, will all be explained after the finale and make sense. I seriously have just geeked out over “Lost” this season and that is the single motivation I have for doing the clues the next four weeks. Nothing more than that. I like to write obviously, and this is a different way to present my column. Any questions, comments, emails, guesses, praises, criticisms, feel free to email me at See you next week.



  1. Skarlet

    February 10, 2009 at 2:00 PM

    I don’t know why no one agrees with me that Becky is Rebecca from Sleepless in Seattle. I think the 2 lovers agree to meet up in Montreal, which happens to be the most romantic place in Canada.

  2. Heidiho

    February 10, 2009 at 2:31 PM

    Well I discovered a jewish kosher symbol called Half Moon K. Back in 1997 there was some sort of copyright infringement that led to some court battle…so my theory is that

    K Moon represents a battle of religions Jewish vs non-Jewish and since none the 3 remailing girls are Jewish, Jason picks a jewish girl by the name of Rebecca…maybe some of the Rebecca’s mentioned above are in fact jewish?

    I am leaning towards Jason picking Mellisa but because she is not Jewish, her parents are completely against the proposal. Jason realizing family is everything, and having connection with a jewish Rebecca, decides to marry her.

    And at the end Mazel tov!

  3. MickeyLee

    February 10, 2009 at 3:40 PM

    “Montreal”, I bet 2/3 means that maybe Jason sends a girl home next week, and there are two left, but he realizes after Deanna’s visit that he loves F3 more and brings her back. Maybe that is Jillian because she went back to Canada, and he goes there to propose to her. Hmmm?

  4. heather

    February 10, 2009 at 10:49 PM

    Kudos to you for continuing this “clue” giving. I completely understand the logic behind it all…. don’t ruin the show and give everyone the inside info but for the sake of proving yourself and standing behind your name show everyone that you are not talking nonsense. If I were ever priviledge to inside info (which I wouldn’t be), I would do EXACTLY the same thing! I think those trying to solve the clues are driving themselves mad, although some of the theories are quite interesting. Keep it up!

  5. Elizabeth

    February 11, 2009 at 9:34 PM

    Re: Steve’s clues

    If (big if!) RS is using the WHO, WHAT, WHEN, WHERE, WHY and HOW theory. Granted it’s even in that order (is that the normal order for those questions?) then so far it’s:

    Who=K Moon

    Some of those clues seem to align with that theory quite well…..


    February 17, 2009 at 3:01 AM

    I think in the final rose ceremony, it’s edited so maybe we don’t see who he picks. The “crying” on the balcony is the big dilemma.

    AFTRC, it’s in the trades that they take a “This is Your Life” look at “how” Jason falls in love with the two women.

    We find out LIVE who he picks in the end. I think ABC is changing the format.

    In a radio interview, Jason said that his fiance and him have not discussed her moving to Seattle. WTF? You’re getting married and you haven’t discussed living arrangements.

    This may be why. ABC makes the Bachelor wait to ask his girl to marry him, to make sure they are still in love. After the four months of waiting, etc.

  7. Anonymous

    February 17, 2009 at 2:05 PM

    Seriously Steve. I don’t know who is being more dramatic. Chris Harrison, Fleiss or you. So instead of just posting what you know right here on your blog, you are going to make a production out of it by filming it and posting it on YouTube. This is the most ridculous thing I have ever heard. Just spit it out already and stop being such a drama queen. I swear, Fleiss should hire you as a Chris Harrison’s left shoe.

  8. peggy

    February 18, 2009 at 9:11 PM

    I saw jason at the airport in September- he loked quite annoyed and wasnt friendly AT ALL!!! i belive everything ou are saying because he a=is as fake as they get

  9. Jack

    February 23, 2009 at 3:17 AM

    You ARE an idiot, and you DON’T know anything, and you keep changing your story, and you keep DELETING any comments you don’t like. Why the HELL would you slander Jason’s character without conclusive proof. You’re an ASSHOLE, and I HOPE to goodness that Jason SUES your fat ass!

  10. testo

    February 23, 2009 at 7:57 AM


  11. test4

    February 23, 2009 at 7:58 AM


  12. Just reading

    February 23, 2009 at 3:24 PM

    Was over at the FORT (took me awhile to figure out what it meant). Some folks think ABC execs read this stuff, or set RS up somehow..too funny..I doubt they have the read this..I dont think Fleiss is that huis name is THAT smart enuf to foll us with enuf to “leak” this to drive up way..

    Go RS GO!

  13. Just reading

    February 23, 2009 at 3:55 PM


    come..go for a long walk on a short pier you twit..if you dont like what he says..


  14. fern

    February 24, 2009 at 2:41 AM

    Dude. I’m going to laugh my ass off if you are wrong! Either you or Melissa is going to be hating life next week. Personally, I hope it’s you. Not that you don’t seem like an o.k. guy. (in an odd sort of guy-who-is-far-too-obsessed-with-chick-t.v.-to-be-straight kind of way) But, it would be hilarious if you spent a half an hour taping that and you end up being wrong. Way more funny than what you have predicted for Melissa. Nice dog, though.

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