Reality Steve

The Bachelor 13 - Jason

Some Final Thoughts on Tonight’s “Shocker”

So as we head into a “shocking” finale that I’ve waited six weeks for, a couple thoughts about everything in general.

As for the Megan interview, I was able to recover some of the audio, but I can’t upload it now. So what I’m doing is transcribing the last 35 minutes we did so you can read my questions and her answers in a nutshell. I will have that up either later tonight or in tomorrow’s column.

Let’s start with another interview conducted this weekend by none other than, you guessed it, Can’t say I’d ever think in a million years they’d want to talk to me, but hey, I enjoyed it. The author is a big fan of mine, they’re based here in the DFW metroplex, and she wanted to get my story out there. I think the one thing about this interview you’ll find different is its actually about me, not the news I broke. That’s been covered ad nauseum and I think you all know about what happens tonight. No, this one is just about me, my background, and what makes me tick. I think. Take a look for yourself. Here’s the link:

Who is Reality Steve?

UPDATE: Looks like the problem is fixed and everyone should be able to access the link now, which is why I took down the other post where I cut and pasted the interview.

As for tonight, I think a lot of people have gotten on me for attacking Jason and Molly’s character throughout this whole process, and really, I don’t think I have. Do I think what he did was wrong? Yes. Does that make him a bad person? Depends on how you look at it. I think he’s a decent guy, but a horrible decision maker and easily manipulated. Let’s face it, Jason Mesnick, in the last 12 months:

-Proposed to DeAnna and got rejected
-Agreed to sign on for another reality show where 25 girls would chase him
-Proposed to Melissa and she accepted
-Two months later, changes his mind, dumps her on national TV, and starts up with yet another girl, Molly

I mean, the guy seems to be like a kid in a candy store. He doesn’t know what he wants. I don’t see that as being the “catch” that ABC is making him out to be, I’m sorry. I think he’s one of those guys that probably didn’t date a lot before he got married, got divorced, felt pretty down about the whole thing, had an opportunity to come on this show, got dumped by DeAnna, then does this season, only to be manipulated and do what he was told. I think this guy just tries to please too many people and doesn’t take a stand for himself. Is that a character assassination? I don’t think so. I think it’s a character flaw that he has. We all have character flaws. Hell, I know I do. But I also know that I never would’ve done this to Melissa, or any woman for that matter.

The bottom line is this regarding Jasons character: Regardless of if he had a “change of heart” and “couldn’t take his mind off Molly”, Jason DID NOT have to break up with Melissa on camera and embarrass her like that. Period. End of story. Yes, he’s under contract to ABC to create a story and a show here, but if he puts his foot down and refuses to dump her at the ATFR 1 taping, it could’ve happened. But he didn’t. And that is one of the things I “couldn’t wrap my head around.” He chose to embarrass her instead of breaking up with her off camera. So judge his character based on that.

As for Molly, hey, I’ve said this from day one, I DID NOT KNOW what her role was in all this. I know she knew something, but at what point and how much is the million dollar question. When I first broke the news, I was convinced Molly didn’t know anything when she left New Zealand. And I still believe that. After I heard about what went down at the ATFR 1 taping, I figured she was pretty upset and left New Zealand pretty unhappy. I ruled out Jason telling her before the final rose ceremony, “Ok, here’s what’s gonna happen. I’m gonna dump you, pick Melissa, but take you back in two months. Got it? Ok, now act all upset tomorrow.” No, I don’t think that happened at all. I think she thought she had a good chance to be picked, but when she wasn’t, was devastated and left New Zealand scorned and upset.

It wasn’t until about 3 weeks ago that I started hearing rumors about Jason and Molly seeing each other on weekends he wasn’t with Melissa, which then started to make sense. Only problem, once again, is I can’t prove it. In fact, no one can other than Jason, Molly, and those closely involved with the show. And they’ll never admit to it because that makes them guilty. Especially when Jason denies to Melissa tonight he ever had contact with Molly in the two months he and her were engaged. I think he’s lying. C’mon, no guy would break off an engagement with someone in “hoping” that a girl he dumped two months earlier would give him a second chance. He had to be pretty confident Molly would take him back. And the only way that’s possible is if they had contact. C’mon people. Take off the blinders and think outside the box. It’s not that far fetched. This is a TV show. It’s drama. They can do whatever they want with these people once they sign up. Are you really believing these two never spoke in two months? Sure, they’re going to play it off as she’s shocked, she’s got a ton of questions, but she never stopped loving him and is willing to try, but just like the rest of the season, it just seems something is fishy about all this. I asked Megan in our interview point blank, “As a woman, if that were you, and you’d had no contact with the guy for two months, and he just dumped his fiance, would you take him back that quickly?” Megan’s response: “OMG. Are you crazy?”

Plus, Jasons story in all this is that he was in love with two women. Ok, I’ll even give you that, buddy. You love both of them. Up until that morning of the final rose ceremony, you’re completely torn about the two. So if you’re THAT conflicted about who to choose, why then a proposal? The “Bachelor” stipulates that you are by no means necessary forced to propose to someone. It’s encouraged, but you’re not obligated to. Yet again, I think he’s trying to please too many people here. ABC would like a proposal, so he gave them one. Melissa I’m sure would’ve loved to be proposed to, so he did. It just doesn’t make sense. The guy had a degree in psychology, am I right? How can he think proposing when he was that torn between two women would be the right idea? He will tell us til the end of time that he went with his heart, and truly thought Melissa and he would be together forever when he proposed. I’m sorry, but I don’t believe that. I will always believe Jason knew he wanted to be with Molly in the end and was told to pick Melissa in a plan that would lead to this “shocking” ending, and he agreed to do it.

As for his appearance on the “View” this past Friday, pretty bland. He didn’t say anything that surprised me. Of course he’s gonna say the show isn’t scripted. Uhhhh, admitting that it is would essentially kill the show as we know it. It’s funny, Jason first comes out and says, “Look, I know there’s tons of rumors floating around out there, I don’t even have time to read all them. They’re crazy. I don’t even follow what’s being said on the internet. BUT, I do want to kill one theory and that’s that the show is scripted. It’s not. This is completely real.” Gee, how convenient? He doesn’t follow any of the rumors going around, yet, he decides to squelch the one that’d be the most damaging to the show? How nice. It’s also funny that at the beginning of the season, he’s screaming from the mountaintops “I’m engaged! Yippee!” But all interviews recently, with “People”, the “View”, the “Women Tell All” show, and it’s, “I’m extremely happy. You’re just gonna have to watch and see what happens.” Very telling.

So I just wanted to get these thought out there before we watch everything tonight. I will definitely come back tomorrow with some more thoughts after watching, and will have the last part of the Megan interview up if its not up later tonight, plus, I’m working on some other things for this week. As for the emails, I’m still deciding on what to do. I want to see how tonight and tomorrow play out, and then I’ll make a decision. Any questions, comments, emails, praises, criticisms, last ditch crazy ass theories that you might have, feel free to email me at Check back later today for the last half of the Megan interview. If not, it’ll be in tomorrow’s column. Until then. March 2nd is finally here! Woo hoo!



  1. alysonbrown13

    March 3, 2009 at 1:30 AM

    #779… PREACH IT!! Could NOT have said it better myself!!!

  2. sprite

    March 3, 2009 at 1:30 AM

    #797 Owl

    Wow you’re good…and fast. That’s why I thought you were thinking the same thing as me. I didn’t think you would just come up with that on such short notice. Congrats!!

  3. Mars

    March 3, 2009 at 1:31 AM


    I’m watching this on the west coast right now and cannot believe what a fake and horrible actor this douche is!! I feel horrible for Melissa. I am absolutely convinced this whole thing was plotted. You could tell he was faking it during the FRC. He bever loved her. Notice how he’s cried for himself and he’s cried for Molly, BUT HE NEVER CRIED FOR MELISSA! The whole time she was being crushed he just put these walls up and tuned out – he never felt any compassion for her. He is such a DOG and liar!! He definitely has been talking to Molly. NO question. And Chris was wrong – Jason does not come out looking good. He looks like absolute shit IMO!

    Oh brother! Now he’s crying to Chris. Gimme a fucking break! All he’s concerned about is trying to save his reputation. Yeah, good luck with that. OMG there has never been anyone more evil than this dirtbag on the show.

  4. CrazyWorld

    March 3, 2009 at 1:31 AM

    798- CH asked Jason before Melissa came on stage and then asked Melissa on stage if she knew why she was there and she did comment she kinda knew. I sense from tonights programming that all were well informed of the outcome.. Melissa wasn’t wearing the engagement ring either, where she pull it out of ????…

  5. Kam

    March 3, 2009 at 1:32 AM

    LOL #701 No they are not on the list.

  6. The Original TCB

    March 3, 2009 at 1:33 AM

    I really hate the way Molly reacted to Jason when she wasn’t picked. She kept saying she was just so shocked! Can’t believe it, you are making a huge mistake, so shocked blah blah blah. Like she just could not believe that there was a chance that he had something with someone other than her. I thought it was so conceited and rude towards Melissa. Then at the ATFR they showed even more dialogue between her and Jason that we didn’t see. Her saying that Melissa will wake up one day….etc, etc. She was actually foreshadowing what Jason would do!

  7. owl

    March 3, 2009 at 1:33 AM

    After all this…and we still have a ATFR#2 tommorow!

    I’m already getting angry about that stupid tent gift that Chris is supposed to give Molly & Jason.

    It’s almost like they are laughing at everyone for not knowing when Jason & Molly really fell in love. Mean.

    And why is Chris “So proud of Jason?”

    Two Words:

    L O W C L A S S

  8. Melanie222

    March 3, 2009 at 1:34 AM

    Even the ABC News broadcaster here on the West Coast, doing a commercial news update seemed shocked. She used a kinda cheesy segway though. “Quite an intense bachelor tonight. Speaking of trainwrecks….” LOL I was like OMG!

  9. TK

    March 3, 2009 at 1:35 AM

    OMG, it is SO obvious that CH, Jason, and Molly were in the know. It is also obvious that Molly and Jason have been seeing each other. Molly is a terrible actor! Molly can’t stop smiling. Not the actions of a girl who was heartbroken and about to see the man who broke her heart.

    I feel terrible for Melissa. I was hoping that she was also in the “know” so that she wasn’t really in so much pain. But I do believe that she was completely blindsided.

    RS was 100% right.

  10. christina87

    March 3, 2009 at 1:37 AM

    i am so glad this is all being revealed….molly knew all along…

  11. singleladee

    March 3, 2009 at 1:38 AM

    molly says, all she wanted was to knock on my door and say he wants me back..
    and guess what?
    he is going to come and say he wants her!!
    let me guess!!
    he is going to swing her around

    who wrote the script? lol
    i hope abs owns up to the scam.

  12. The Original TCB

    March 3, 2009 at 1:38 AM

    And how ’bout Jason’s entire family being so protective, grilling everyone to make sure that their little Jason doesn’t get brokenhearted. Everyone involved on every show always puts the bachelor or the bachelorette choosing, their needs above everyone else. As if every “contestant” has to be “good enough” for them. Like they are Mr. or Miss Perfect and anyone would just be so lucky to have a chance at them. ugh!

  13. alysonbrown13

    March 3, 2009 at 1:39 AM


  14. CrazyWorld

    March 3, 2009 at 1:41 AM

    807- LOL @ the tent gift, how so pathetic !!! seriously how could they even think that ‘ us ‘ viewers are so stupid !! The tent date sealed the deal on Jason and Molly’s relationship. After that it has been all FAKE !!!

  15. christina87

    March 3, 2009 at 1:42 AM


  16. ajd

    March 3, 2009 at 1:42 AM

    WTF.. I won’t be watching Tuesday night. As a matter of fact, I won’t be watching anymore of TB from here on out. I refuse to be a number on their rating scales. That was just cold hearted and wrong. Jason is nothing but SCUM.. shame on him and anyone else involved in this disgusting finale.

  17. aspittle

    March 3, 2009 at 1:43 AM

    Jason and Molly seemed to be looking at the camera alot during the FRC in a sort of weird way.
    I find it hard to believe anything Jason has to say, I think he and Molly were in contact afterwards. He seemed pretty confident Molly would take him back. I do not think he would want to be embarassed in front of the cameras by being rejected by her.
    Melissa said she felt he wasn’t being truthful, and that was also part of her anger towards him. Would he have dumped her if Molly wouldn’t take him back?

  18. CrazyWorld

    March 3, 2009 at 1:45 AM

    812 – yea that entire family protective scenerio was so gross, I kept thinking why is this entire show focussed only on ” JASON” what about the women getting hurt though this process ?? disgusting all I can say !

  19. freakinwow

    March 3, 2009 at 1:45 AM

    Fleiss is a scumbag.

    Bottom line, they taped the ATFR sometime in January. They were “so concerned” that they decided to have a closed set. Bullsh*t. And then they broadcast it to millions of people. Seems like they could have re-taped the following day with only Jason and Molly. Fleiss is scum. He is the point person behind all of this.

    Jason is also a scumbag. No morality about him at all. Watching him on Kimmel … he’s his usual “listen to how insightful I am” … and “feel sorry for me”.

    Down with ABC, Fleiss, and Jason.

  20. lela

    March 3, 2009 at 1:45 AM

    They sold their souls… all of them. For fame, $$$ and ratings. Was it that Melissa’s parents are the only sane ones in the group… refusing to take part in this disaster? Surely if any of this was real, the break-up would have happened in private. I give the Molly-Jason relationship < 6 months. Poor Ty will encounter yet another failed relationship… great example.

  21. ellieJ

    March 3, 2009 at 1:46 AM

    The fact that Jason kissed Molly right after he broke up with Mellisa was disgusting.UGGGGGGGGGGH.

    I feel for you Mellisa and calling him a ba****d wasn’t enough in my opinion. :((((

    Nice job Steve and thank you for your scoop.Posting the Emails is a great idea. :))

  22. pleasurepalate

    March 3, 2009 at 1:46 AM

    Watching Molly & Jason is sooooo painful. They’re so fake!

  23. CrazyWorld

    March 3, 2009 at 1:47 AM

    817- I totally agree, can’t believe Jason and Molly didn’t have contact as stated !

  24. The Original TCB

    March 3, 2009 at 1:49 AM

    818. CrazyWorld Yeah, like he is just such a catch. Please.

  25. singleladee

    March 3, 2009 at 1:50 AM

    822 I agree. Molly’s laughs is giving me a headache. Why would a woman smile so much after being told she is sloppy seconds? How did Jason become so ugly looking so quick? He appeared so hot before RS.

  26. The Original TCB

    March 3, 2009 at 1:51 AM

    That kid wanted nothing to do with her lol

  27. CrazyWorld

    March 3, 2009 at 1:51 AM

    820 – u hit the nail on the coffin ! . There is something really ‘ fishy ‘ as to why no showing of Melissa’s parents whatsoever. That is so unnormal of a parent who really cares about their daughter . In particular since she is so serious with a man whom she tells u she wants to marry and you’ve not met him??? That is so unusual and draws alot of suspicion and I cannot believe that telephone conversation was legit either..

  28. Kam

    March 3, 2009 at 1:53 AM

    #816 I won’t be watching tomorrow either, didn’t watch Kimmel and won’t watch any show that Jason and Molly appear on. I will come here to read others take on tomorrow and on the Ellen shows. I will not watch this franchise any longer. They just went too far this time with a complete sham and set up ending that frankly insults the audience;s intelligence thinking we would believe Molly & Jason’s horrid attempts at acting.

  29. singleladee

    March 3, 2009 at 1:54 AM

    I just saw Molly and Jason kiss. barfs!!!

  30. The Original TCB

    March 3, 2009 at 1:54 AM

    well I guess I’ll see ya’ll after Trainwreck part 2 🙂

  31. Mars

    March 3, 2009 at 1:55 AM

    Jason is showing absolutely no nervousness or fear waiting for Molly to respond to his declaration of “love.”.

    So planned, so fake! He looks so smug and confident right now. Like Steve said neither of them would risk this without knowing what woud happen.

    Plus all these edits and cutaways are very suspicious. Nice director’s cut, Fleiss!

  32. Fan

    March 3, 2009 at 1:55 AM

    Steve, I am so thankful that you warned us of this ending. Otherwise I would have been totally shocked and feel out of my chair!

    I don’t know why I felt so strongly that you were right, but I did and defended you and your information from day one. I just could tell it was the truth.

    So, I”m cooking up a big pot of crow, ready to serve up the multitudes.

  33. palm

    March 3, 2009 at 1:55 AM

    Does Chris Harrison look high or drunk or something??

    Maybe he’s so excited to finally get screen time he went out and celebrated early!

  34. lauram

    March 3, 2009 at 1:55 AM

    the best part of the entire 3 hours, the only couple seconds that made the night worth watching was when melissa called him a bastard!!! that was awesome

  35. owl

    March 3, 2009 at 1:56 AM

    This is going to be hard, because tonight’s show was full of bad lines, but for me Jason’s line to Molly during ATFR#1 was probably the worst:

    “I was hoping we could have a shot, see if we could go out for coffee or a drink and see where things…,”


    Just say NO to tentage.


  36. CrazyWorld

    March 3, 2009 at 1:56 AM

    If that telephone convo between Jason and Melissa’s parents are genuine then why no audio of the conversation??? … Previously, we were told that her parents didn’t want to be on camera ,this was only a telephone conversation, geeeeeez.

  37. Yankee

    March 3, 2009 at 1:57 AM

    That was a classless debacle from beginning to end. WTF was Jason thinking agreeing to do breka on tv?! And Molly looked like she was reading off of cue cards.

  38. Mars

    March 3, 2009 at 1:58 AM

    Oh, ha-ha-ha!

    “My place” he calls it. As if!! He doesn’t own a mansion in Los Angeles. Deusional scum!!

  39. singleladee

    March 3, 2009 at 1:58 AM

    I think Jason should have to dig up the crow and eat it for womanizing women on tv

  40. CrazyWorld

    March 3, 2009 at 1:59 AM

    834- loved that comment from Melissa also, he deserves it !!

  41. cubbieblue Kristin

    March 3, 2009 at 2:00 AM

    Okay just watched and re-watched Jason on Jimmy Kimmel. He was a total dick. He gave himself away 1st by being so defensive. 2nd he said when he was on Kimmel’s show at the beginning of January, he was still with Melissa and very happy. Okay… fastforward…. later in the interview he said that he decided their “chemistry” wasn’t right. SO you’re trying to tell me he decided this w/in the span of 2 wks time?! YEAH RIGHT. Because if I remember correctly he filmed the ATFR1 around Jan 23, right? So that’s only about 2-3 wks after claiming to be so happy on 1st Jimmy Kimmel show. Plus he said when the ATFR1 was taped, he and Melissa already “weren’t together.” It just doesn’t add up at all. He’s making himself look like a total ass on national television. That’s what I know.

  42. Erika

    March 3, 2009 at 2:02 AM

    Way to go Reality Steve – I call that sweet vindication!

    Well done! BRAVO!

  43. palm

    March 3, 2009 at 2:02 AM

    Overall that was pretty hysterical, but kind of sad because I don’t think the show can ever recover from it….I think the days of Trista and Merideth are over.

  44. CrazyWorld

    March 3, 2009 at 2:02 AM

    841- he is a total A##

  45. cubbieblue Kristin

    March 3, 2009 at 2:03 AM

    Chris Harrison irritated me tonight on the ATFR because he kept smirking and asking stupid questions and was just downright stupid, IMO. I’m no fan of his anymore. He asked Molly “what if jason changed his mind?” Never has he asked a F2 this question. Plus he kept recapping like it was so common-place and not emotional for the parties involved. Like as soon as Melissa stormed off, he sits down to “remind” Jason that Molly is backstage “just so you know” and you can have “your chance with her.” Man, gimme a break!

  46. Mars

    March 3, 2009 at 2:03 AM

    Enjoy that loser, Molly!

    Good times!

  47. CrazyWorld

    March 3, 2009 at 2:06 AM

    Tomorrow nite and it’s over, thank God, good night all !

  48. LaLa

    March 3, 2009 at 2:07 AM

    Wow, I was reading as everyone was writting about it. But now after watching it myself and KNOWING the ending already, I am still stunned! Jason is such an asshole. I dont care what he says. Following his heart blah blah blah. Are you kidding me? I wanted to hit him in his face when he broke it off with Melissa. Ugh!!!!
    And what is with Molly, she looked like crap.

    Im not a Molly hater, but still, she looked really bad…

  49. cubbieblue Kristin

    March 3, 2009 at 2:08 AM

    #834 yes I agree, the ONLY part of ATFR that was worth anything was Melissa calling Jason a bastard. #835 yes Jason’s stupid lines to Molly about “let’s get some coffee… or a drink…” SOOOOO LAME!

  50. poopoo

    March 3, 2009 at 2:08 AM

    Ah yes! Let’s get the most lovable bachelor ever and turn him into a piece of shit. What turds they are. And yet we watch.

    Steve VERY IMPORTANT question. Why do you say this show is 0 for 12 when we have Trista and Ryan? What was your take on their season? Frankly, I personally liked Ryan but felt Trista was going for Charlie and was pleasantly surprised when she chose Ryan. Things have worked out rather well for them. Any comments? Thanks.

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