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The Bachelor 13 - Jason

No Really, These are the Final FINAL Thoughts plus Melissa on “DWTS”

Ahhhhh, what a week. So many peoples stories have changed, the latest on Melissa joining “Dancing with the Stars” tonight, and finally we’ve heard the last of Tatiana Del Toro (at least I hope so). Let’s put some final FINAL thoughts together on this “Bachelor” season and just move on. It’s over, it’s done with, everyone’s changing their stories now, it’s a farce. Like I told you it was back on Jan. 27th. Before we get to that though, a couple notes regarding the site.

Over the next two months, there will be changes to the site. Still working out the kinks, as you saw last week we tried a different format, but a lot of things are happening right now and I want to make sure this site looks good when we roll everything out. So there might be some days the look of it changes, and there might be some days that it’s down, but just know its all temporary. I hope to have everything finalized and done by May 18th, which is the start of Jillians season of the “Bachelorette”. So any craziness in between now and then, just bear with me. It looks like the merchandising is definitely going to happen, I just need to figure out what products we are going to launch with, plus, some people want to advertise, and the current format we’re in doesn’t make it easy, which is why we’ll probably be giving the site a new look.

It’s not like I broke the Bachelor “shocker” back in January so all this could happen. Far from it. What’s happening now is a result of me being credible with my news, and the thing I’m most proud of, is how many emails I’ve gotten over the last few weeks from people saying they had never even heard of the site before and now they’re a fan. I’ve always wanted more and more people to find, but I did a terrible job of marketing it, which is to say I did nothing. If breaking this seasons ending gave me notoriety, so be it. But those that have been with me for the last seven years know I’ve been loyal to giving you consistent “Bachelor” updates, plus my opinions on a myriad of things. Now, I’m just going to do it more often. Especially with “Idol” about to begin its final rounds, “Survivor” up and running, “Celebrity Apprentice” being a trainwreck I can’t not watch, and the whole “Dancing with the Stars” thing. Hey, those that know me know that’s been one of my favorite shows since it started. Now, with the whole Melissa angle thrown in, obviously that adds a little extra to those that are “Bachelor” fans. Speaking of that, lets go back to last week, in particular, AFTER Tuesday nights show.

Really now, with all the chaos surrounding this past season of the “Bachelor”, I feel like after today, let’s just put it to rest. Some of you will always believe what you want to believe about the possible set up and conspiracy that I’ve alleged, and that’s fine. All I’ve ever wanted to do was present a case as for why I believe what I was told went down this season. You’re not a bad person if you don’t believe it, and those that do, aren’t conspiracy theorists or bad people either. They’re just realists. Ha ha. Anyway, what really bothered me last week after the ATFR 2 was the spin job that everyone was putting on this. Included in this spin job were ABC, Mike Fleiss, Jason, and even Melissa. On Wednesday, Jason immediately came out and said he broke up with Melissa on TV because he was “contractually obligated to.” Then Mike Fleiss immediately shot back with, “Uh, no you weren’t.” Then Jason spun it to, “Well, Melissa knew we were having problems and we were already broken up. We had ended things a week earlier.” Then Melissa on with Ellen Thursday says, “Yeah, the breakup was mutual, we were broken up. But what upset me was the lying. I asked him numerous times if it was about Molly and he said ‘no’. Then we get on TV to tape the ATFR 1 and he informs me it is.” Then Jason the next day on Ellen says, “Yeah, I wasn’t contractually obligated. I felt I was doing what the producers wanted me to do, and I take full responsibility for that. If I could take anything back, it was that I did it on camera. She didn’t need to go through that.” Well gee, ya’ think?

Look, Jason did exactly what he needed to do last week, which is apologize for embarrassing her on television. He didn’t need to do that, he admits he didn’t need to do that, and says he’ll live with that decision for the rest of his life. Good. He should. And the fact that both of them are now saying, “Well, we were broken up before we went on that show” pretty much proves even more than not only is Jason a douchebag for doing it, but also that ABC was complicit in all of this as well. Bascially they’re saying, “Well, you guys broke up off camera, and we can’t have that. Come and shoot the ATFR 1 six weeks early so we can ‘re-create’ that breakup.” If ABC is saying Jason wasn’t contractually obligated to do that on camera, then ABC could’ve easily said, “No, no way. We’re not doing this to her.” But they chose not to because they wanted drama, and that’s exactly what they got.

Nice to see that Melissa admitted the emails I’d had in my possession for two weeks that I chose not to release were legitimate. Hey, I knew they were the whole time, but it was good to hear something I said finally proven correct. And I’m glad someone else chose to release them because I did not want that on my conscience anymore. I didn’t want my name attached to those emails. And considering they landed in my inbox from someone who’d never emailed once before, I had a good idea someone would release them. I’m sure it was passed around to a few people. I think the one thing those emails proved was Melissa knew there was something going on with Jason and Molly during the time they were together. That’s obvious. I think its obvious to everyone now, and that’s the one thing that Jason is continually lying about. Notice how he never addressed it in the emails both times she brought it up? Never confirmed or denied it, which was smart. Just left it alone. The minute he admits to it, is the minute he’s guilty for lying in front of America, which most people think he did anyway. Also makes ABC look horrible in that they allowed it to happen, and makes them liars too. That gave Jason an out to not address it in his emails back to her.

I find it funny that at first, ABC/Fleiss/Chris Harrison/Jason all were adamant that “No, no, no, no. They had no contact whatsoever in those two months he was engaged. Molly was taken by complete surprise and anyone who suggests otherwise is just plain wrong.” Yet now we’re hearing, “Oh wait, there was one phone call where he was just ‘checking’ on Molly.” Really? When he’s engaged to Melissa and spending time with her over the holidays? Of course, there are also numerous reports that Molly texted or called Jason while he was with Melissa, which she has said happened, but god no! Jason would never do such a thing! Whatever. Like I’ve said ever since I released the news about this season, it is going to be he said/she said til the end of time. You will either believe that he didn’t have contact with Molly and ABC wasn’t planning this ratings bonanza, or you can believe Melissa. It’s up to you. I’m pretty much done debating it at this point. By next week, no one will give a rats ass about Jason and Molly and how they’re doing. I thought the most telling thing between both Melissas appearance and Jason and Mollys appearance on “Ellen” was the fact that Melissa said he started pulling away “almost immediately” when they got back from taping. For a guy that claimed he tried so hard to make it work, I would think pulling away immediately isn’t supporting your case too much.

More questions:

Now he and Molly are doing a tourism video promoting New Zealand talking about that’s where they fell in love and what a great place it is? Huh? I thought when he left New Zealand, that’s when he was in love with Melissa? Did you see this thing? Unbelievable. Check it out:

Jason and Molly Pimp New Zealand

If Molly had no idea she what was going to happen at the ATFR 2, why was she talking about, “I stay up every night hoping Jason would change his mind and take me back?” No other Final Two girl in the history of that show has ever said that on the ATFR 2.

Why did Molly say during the ATFR 2 taping that she’s definitely moving to Seattle, and then on “Ellen” less than a week later when asked if she was moving, she says, “Eventually. We’re taking it day by day.” Shouldn’t that have been her original answer? Man, no one can keep their stories straight.

Why did Jason tell Molly, ten minutes roughly after he just dumped his fiance, “I’m falling in love with you?” If he didn’t have any contact with this woman in two months, can you technically be “falling in love with them?” Seems a little extreme. I would think you’d just leave it at, “I haven’t been able to keep my mind off you and I want to try this out.” Not, “I’m falling in love with you.” How could you? You haven’t spoken to her since New Zealand! Jason is King Contradictory right now.

And of course, he’s gone back and forth on at what point they broke up. He says it was a few days before the ATFR 1 taping, then he said it was a week, then he said in the beginning he shouldn’t have broken up with her, then changed it to, “she knew what was coming.” AAAAAAHHHHH!!!! This is all making my head hurt really. Stick to one story, buddy.

So this can be debated forever. Who do you believe, Jason or Melissa? Or neither? Either way, it doesn’t affect my life. I believe Melissa but it doesn’t mean you’re a horrible person if you don’t. If I were you, I’d put it past you, move on, and start discussing more important things. This is exactly what ABC wants, and that’s to have you talking about them weeks after the season ends. So I will put an end to it in this column if you promise to as well. Sure, I’ll continually make jokes til the end of time about this season and what a farce it was, but I’m done presenting my case for why I believe this was a set up. Let’s move on.

As I’m sure most of you have heard by now, Melissa is going to be an injury replacement for Nancy O’Dell on “Dancing with the Stars” beginning tonight. Nancy O’Dell dropped out on Thursday, and news broke yesterday that Melissa was asked to do it. Which means she’s had a whopping four days to practice. I’m really surprised by some of the response I’m hearing in regards to Melissa “selling out” or “only doing this because she wants to be famous.” Huh? Once again, people will have their opinions on this one way or another, but this is how I see it:

1. She’s a last second injury replacement, so this basically just fell into her lap. She didn’t go out seeking this. This isn’t something she’s been in negotiations for for weeks. Nancy O’Dell just dropped out on Thursday.

2. She has a dance background, it’s her passion, so it’s not like she’s going on “Fear Factor”, or some other stupid dating show just so she could be on TV. I think the fact she turned down being the next “Bachelorette” shows more about her character and motivations than accepting this gig does.

3. She knows she can do well because of her background, the public already likes her, and she immediately becomes one of the favorites. Why wouldn’t you enter a competition that you know you can win?

4. With Nancy O’Dell dropping out Thursday, this is the latest ANYONE has ever dropped out of DWTS by far. If they’re find a replacement and give them only four days of rehearsal, they’re not going to pick someone with ZERO dance experience because they’ll just get voted off the first week. So of course they had to find someone who could dance, and she fits the bill perfectly. It’s ABC crossover, her name has been out there the last week, and she can dance.

5. She told Ellen on Wednesday “I just wanna go back to Dallas, get back to a normal life, and get away from reality TV” or whatever she said. She didn’t know about this opportunity when she said that, so to call her a liar just seems ignorant. Unless you think she knew about this all along, which she couldn’t have, since they announced the DWTS cast back on Feb. 9th and she wasn’t a part of it.

6. As for her doing another ABC show, I don’t think that has much to do with anything. It’s not like this is being produced by Fleiss and his production company. This is a completely different animal. What would being scorned by ABC previously have to do with her appearing on this show? ABC the network necessarily didn’t screw her. It was Fleiss and his production company that did. Two totally different animals. I might have used the term “ABC” in past columns, but I was referring to Fleiss and Co.

Seems to me that the people hating on her are the ones who didn’t like her in the first place or thought she was in on this whole scheme with the “Bachelor.” So whatever she does, you’ll never change those peoples minds. She could have announced last week on “Ellen” that she’s taking a camera crew to Africa to feed a village of starving children, and her detractors would first ask, “Why are you taking a camera crew?” Can never win with some people. Look, I have no problem with Melissa doing this, but I can see plenty of people will. Whatever. To each their own. I hope she does well. I can’t imagine she won’t at least get to the finals. I mean, c’mon. Steve-O? David Alan Grier? She could’ve been given four hours to practice and she’d be better than them. People who hate her will cheer against her, and people who like her, won’t. It’s pretty simple. There’s no way she would tell America “My reality television days are behind me” if she knew she was gonna do this show, which she didn’t. I can’t believe people are getting on her for that. It’s dancing. It’s her passion. She can win. She’d be crazy not to.

Once again, let’s put all of our “Bachelor” related stuff behind us after today. Really, there’s nothing more to talk about. I’m moving on, and so should you. There are too many questions you will never get answers to unless your name is Jason Mesnick, Molly Malaney, Melissa Rycroft, Mike Fleiss, or Chris Harrison. I’ll be back Wednesday with a fresh new “Reality Roundup” breaking down week one of “American Idol” (I believe it’s Michael Jackson week), along with a few thoughts on more crap that I’m watching. As always, any questions, comments, emails, praises, criticisms, pre orders for your boy shorts (ha ha), feel free to email me at If you haven’t already joined the “I Love Reality Steve” Facebook group, you can always do that as well. Or just add me as a friend as there is a link to that down the right hand column. See you Wednesday.



  1. Dee

    March 10, 2009 at 1:54 PM

    #130 Seabiscuit
    Can you give us a link to Naomi’s blog? Thanks….

  2. jan

    March 10, 2009 at 2:28 PM

    #196..Thanks for posting…that was awesome and spot on in my opinion!

  3. bach mom

    March 10, 2009 at 2:48 PM

    I thought that a little humor was in order. ENJOY!!

  4. Cupcake

    March 10, 2009 at 2:52 PM

    162 – You made me laugh so loud I was afraid I’d wake up my napping toddler! 🙂

  5. whoknew

    March 10, 2009 at 3:03 PM

    Good post 196!

  6. suez

    March 10, 2009 at 3:48 PM

    I really think melissa will be in the top three of dwts this season. She has the fan base and the talent!!!! It’s Gilles, mel, and maybe shawn j..

  7. LizKay

    March 10, 2009 at 3:54 PM

    to #204, bach mom – thanks so much for posting. That is the funniest thing EVER. (And not far from the truth – lolol).

  8. smonteau

    March 10, 2009 at 4:00 PM

    Where is the Megan interview you’ve been promising us?

  9. Deegirl

    March 10, 2009 at 4:01 PM

    204 meet 196

  10. Sea Biscuit

    March 10, 2009 at 4:01 PM

    Hi Kelly h. #172 and Dee #201,

    Took me a while to find it, it’s actually from her MySpace Blogs – Melissa…Now Dancing With The Stars…YAY!!! – Naomi MySpace Blog

  11. Deegirl

    March 10, 2009 at 4:03 PM

    204 meet 181

  12. RelationshipRadloff

    March 10, 2009 at 4:09 PM

    To Jan (#203) and WhoKnew (#206), and Deegirl at 210, thank you for your comments and feedback!

    I’d love if you want to post that on my blog as well, since I have the same article up there! (

    Thanks so much!

    Jessica 🙂

  13. krei

    March 10, 2009 at 4:38 PM

    Thanks everbody for all of the links. I enjoyed all of them. I just don’t like Jason I never did, he always seemed like a snake to me. Jeremy was my favorite on the batchelorette. Molly the only thing I can say about her is I would not trust Jason if I was her. She can look forward to being dumped by him. Melissa was not my favorite. I loved Naomi but I knew he would not pick her. Thank God. I wish Melissa well and I hope she does not turn out to be a Deanna.

  14. canusaybrainwash

    March 10, 2009 at 4:43 PM

    I definitely think she will win DWTS!

  15. Dee

    March 10, 2009 at 4:47 PM

    #211 Sea Biscuit….thanks so much for providing the link….really appreciate it…

  16. TerriAnn

    March 10, 2009 at 5:24 PM

    I just watched the Bonnie Hunt interview with…oh you know.

    She made it pretty clear what she thinks about Jason didn’t she?!!

    I’ve only seen her show once since I work during the day…but I think she’s my new favorite talk show host. She did an incredible job with cross examining..i mean interviewing him!

  17. HomersRealist

    March 10, 2009 at 5:42 PM

    I just read this on Comcast’s blog about DWTS – too funny, literally LOL….

    “New drinking game: Every time Carrie Ann INAAABA nonsensically complains about imaginary lifts that mean nothing whatsoever, do a shot! ”

    The only photos are of Lil Kim “Hey all you girls in the Pen” and MELISSA!

    Go Mel!

  18. GeorgiaPeach43

    March 10, 2009 at 7:36 PM

    Danny Gokey is the 2009 American Idol and if he doesn’t win, this show will be a joke, just like The Bachelor!! He made me smile watching him sing and dance..all the sorrow he’s been fhrough and he projects joy. God Bless Danny!!! Rock on, Danny….America loves you!

  19. colleen

    March 10, 2009 at 8:17 PM

    I totally agree, GeorgiaPeach! He’s just amazing!

  20. LizKay

    March 10, 2009 at 9:01 PM

    Also liked Adam….he’s not my usual type of singer, but thought he did great tonight. I’d love to see a Danny/Adam final.

  21. colleen

    March 10, 2009 at 9:06 PM

    Wow, I was just coming back to say that! Great minds!

  22. GeorgiaPeach43

    March 10, 2009 at 10:16 PM

    Colleen and LizKay, I also really like Adam. I’mnot keen on his hair style, but he’s very handsome and a great performer. Danny/Adam are my top 2 favs. I don’t see a girl winning AI this year.

  23. jawbreaker

    March 10, 2009 at 11:14 PM

    Wasn’t Melissa fantastic?

  24. jawbreaker

    March 10, 2009 at 11:16 PM


  25. lyz

    March 11, 2009 at 2:48 PM

    The first Bachelor, Alex Michel, gives an interview and discusses HIS experience picking a bachelorette.


  26. suez

    March 11, 2009 at 3:33 PM

    227 IYZ.. Great interview. I will always remember Alex as the first bachelor. Nice link.

  27. birdie

    March 11, 2009 at 10:30 PM

    Just watching Chelsey Lately and she said Jason’s NOT an account executive but actually sells cell phones at the mall in Seattle and that’s why he collects child support from his wife. She apparently makes a lot more money than he does. Anyone know anything about this???

  28. The Original TCB

    March 12, 2009 at 1:31 AM

    ok I watched the Alex Michel interview and she has to be the most annoying interviewer I have ever seen. Can you interrupt him 750 More times? Ugh!!!! The guy that came on to talk was just as bad! Alex seemed very real and honest. His voice sounds so gay though. Literally.
    I remember being glad he didn’t pick Trista. I think I am the only one on earth.

  29. mrgreen523

    March 12, 2009 at 9:06 AM

    did anyone see this adorable video with Mel and Tony?

  30. jan

    March 12, 2009 at 2:56 PM

    #229. Birdie….I saw that on Chelsea Lately too. Does anyone know anything about it? It was a story about Jason’s house being foreclosed…that he lives with his brother because he can’t afford to live on his own and is “only” a saleman NOT an “Account Executive” whos ex-wife pays HIM child support because he doesn’t make a lot of money.

    It’s a good thing they got the tent…they might need to live in it!

  31. suez

    March 12, 2009 at 3:35 PM

    Mrgreen… Thanks for the mel and tony link!!!

  32. GeorgiaPeach43

    March 16, 2009 at 8:50 PM

    Mellisa looks like she’s 1/2 black and 1/2 white. Her boyfriend was in the audience..this was all such a set up..enough to gag me.

  33. lighthearted09

    May 1, 2009 at 7:25 PM

    nevermind…i deleted my may 1st blog which talked about sorry 😛

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