Reality Steve


Holly Durst Interview

It’s finally here, my interview I recorded last week with former bachelorette during Matt Grant’s season, Holly Durst. Of course, many of you probably remember her more as the girl who dated Jesse after DeAnna did. Or, you may have heard she was voted “Hollywood Prom Queen 2009”, hence the picture in the tiara. I don’t really know what that is. We get to the bottom of all that during the course of this 45 minute interview.

Let’s make one thing clear: Up until a few weeks ago, I had never had any contact with Holly. Through the wonderful world of Facebook and Twitter, we’ve been able to keep in touch and I asked her to do an interview. She did not volunteer, and in fact, was reluctant at first to do anything. I’m glad she did.

I think Holly might be a little misunderstood in most circles. It’s apparent by reading some comments, and hearing the outrage that she even did the interview that some of you are pinning Holly as a fame whore who just wants to bring Jesse down. Not true. Of course, if I’m gonna have her on to interview, I’m going to ask about the rumors that circulated while these two were dating, and she answers them. You can make your own decision from there. Personally, I thought she was very candid, but in a respectful way. If you’ve already formed your opinion about Holly, then nothing she says or does will ever be good enough in your mind, which is fine. I found her to be funny, insightful, and definitely feels a little slighted by how she’s been portrayed. Since everything began with Jesse, seems like no one has really ever heard her background story and her side of what went on. This is now her chance to tell her side of things. Quite interesting.

In addition, we get to hear numerous other things like how she cast for the “Bachelor”, is she still friends with Matt, what’s her deal with looking up women’s skirts, the friendship she has built up with DeAnna Pappas, and most importantly, the infamous Vegas trip from a couple months ago with former bachelors and bachelorettes, her past relationship with Justin Guarini. My feeling was probably like most of yours regarding her and Justin. I think you’ll be surprised to what she has to say. Click the link below to hear the interview. Hope you enjoy it.

Interview with Holly Durst



  1. HH

    June 25, 2009 at 12:51 PM

    lemon :
    One more thing, Holly made a good point: Jesse fans were all about hating DeAnna and loving Holly during that relationship, now they’re hating on Holly. Seems childish to hate an ex-girlfriend (someone you used to claim was perfect for him, a total sweetheart, etc) just because she’s no longer dating your celebrity crush.

    LEMON – why be such a BITTER LEMON …followed your own advise to Holly too much that she does not need a man to be happy?

  2. HH

    June 25, 2009 at 1:23 PM

    YodaKnows :
    HOLLY DUUUUUUUUU-RST. One day, one week, one month- it takes 2 to tango and Miss DUUUUUUUUU-RST you joined in the dance!

    If people want to count (and I agree – what is the point?) then they should count correctly: DeAnna broke up with Jesse on Nov. 2nd. Jesse stayed in Colorado. Holly was in California. There were the Rocky Mountains between them for that “DANCE”. Later in November Jesse flew into LA not for Holly but for Shaw White’s party (Nov. 13th). Mid-November was the first time those two were even in the same US STATE – to share a dinner in LA.

  3. immature

    June 25, 2009 at 1:25 PM

    This is such a farce. Let’s look at a few facts, or at least the stuff Holly claims are facts…the evidence happens to send a reasonable person in the to realize differently:
    1. Holly doesn’t want publicity. Really? Let’s see look at her recent dating life as an example. She dates that Justin guy, then goes on the Bachelor, then dates Jesse…has she dated anyone in the last few years who isn’t associated with publicity, like a normal person? The Hollywood Prom Queen thing. Not even sure what this is, it sounds completely stupid to me but at any rate I’m assuming it involves some publicity and little miss I hate cameras sure was lobbying to get voted prom queen…maybe she really is trying to relive High School. Does she have any friends who aren’t associated with the Bachelor season/s who she actually still sees/hangs out with/communicates with. By looking at her twitter page it’s ALL about the bachelor stuff. This woman (and I use the term loosely) likes publicity plenty. Actually, there is really nothing wrong with that except if you are going to do an interview where you say you want the truth to come out then tell the truth, when you don’t it calls all other statements into question.
    2. Holly had an ulcer from dating Jesse because of everything he did to her. Clearly Holly wasn’t diagnosed with an ulcer by a physician because if she had been she would have known that an ulcer is caused by bacteria and not stress…the stress thing is an old wives take and ulcers are now treated by antibiotics. Maybe Holly did have an upset tunny the whole time she was dating Jesse, but a more likely cause is her diet and maybe she should cut down on the junk food instead of blaming her health issues on someone else. Based on medical fact, and what I heard in the interview Holly was either exaggerating or lying about the ulcer thing, again how can we believe you tell the truth unless you tell the truth?
    3. Holly implied that Jesse is evil and that none of us could possibly understand what he did to her…except of course DeAnna…based on what? Some road rage? That’s the only example that she could give despite the drama and hyperbole coming out of her mouth? Apparently this woman has never driven in NY or Boston where road rage is a part of life. Grow up Holly. Jesse very well may have been a horrible boyfriend and you clearly weren’t meant to be, but really do we need the drama. Unless he threatened you or harmed you physically or was emotionally abusive the drama is completely ridiculous and immature.
    4. Holly told Jesse he needed to take more time after DeAnna to be in a relationship. Is this a revelation that came to her AFTER she went on the Bachelor a month after breaking up with the “love of her life?” Did Jesse hold a gun to her head and force her to continue the relationship? Does this woman have a single original though or the ability to make an independent decision? If she really believed that why the hell was she dating him?
    5. Holly is so much like DeAnna. Maybe, but clearly Holly is a very insecure woman. She said she watched DeAnna’s season and loved it. She wants to BE DeAnna. Holly needs to get a backbone and stop being a follower. In the course of a year this woman has completely let the Bachelor and DeAnna take over he life. Her friends…DeAnnna and people from the season. Her Ex, DeAnna’s ex-fiancee..sheesh. Holly go get a life away from these people. Figure out who you are and build a life, keep these people as friends if you want them but build a life that isn’t reliant on some silly television show and a high school game.
    6. The Vegas trip. Seriously? Does she really believe her explanation of this was good? Let me get this straight. Jesse sets up a Vegas trip for the guys from past seasons. DeAnna supposedly has to work there, so her and Holly decide to jump in the car, head to Vegas, contact folks who are going to be there with Jesse and ask to go out together. She seemed quite proud of the fact that some of the contestants chose to hang with her and DeAnna one night…I’m sure that made them feel very powerful and met their needs for attention. Then they tell Jesse to behave like an adult and all of them go out together. Here’s a hint Holly and DeAnna. Here is how true adults would have behaved. IF DeAnna had to be in Vegas anyway she would have gone down, done her job ALONE and left without expecting to interact with an ex-boyfriend/fiancee’s party. The two of you would have recognized that you aren’t friends with your ex and left him to do his thing without getting involved…this is how real adults behave and would have been respectful to the other guys who were there as a result of Jesse organizing a get-together. If you wanted to party with these “friends” set up your own get-together and do it then. Why would you expect that your ex would want to hang with you at his party months after breaking up? This is a huge red flag to me as far as where your heads are at and the level of your maturity.
    7. RS couldn’t have been more of a suck-up if he tried. Who is this guy? If he really believed half of the stuff he said and she said, he must be single because he is either totally clueless or so in awe of these two that he is blind!

  4. immature

    June 25, 2009 at 1:35 PM

    Oh one more thing. Someone PLEASE explain how twitter works to miss I hate publicity Holly. She has a public twitter page, the only thing blocking Jesse from her twitter page does is prevent Jesse from reading when he is signed on as himself. I personally don’t have a twitter page and am able to access Holly’s anyway. Hence, yes Holly Jesse can access your page despite being blocked and he sure could have gotten whatever you said he couldn’t have from your twitter page…try it…sign out of twitter. Google twitter + Holly Durst…yup there you are my dear…DUH!

  5. mja

    June 25, 2009 at 1:58 PM

    Patti, I only posted about Jake in this comment thread because others did. I’ll stop posting on this thread after this message.

    josi, I loved your comment: “I am bored at work but not that bored where I’m gonna go and compare screen plays from Chuck Norris’ movie.” 🙂 🙂 Very good point! I did say I had “very little doubt” that it was him, so I wasn’t disagreeing with you. I’m just the kind of person who likes visual evidence. I guess I should take that kind of discussion over to the FORT site, however.

  6. josi

    June 25, 2009 at 2:08 PM

    @mja-haha thanks, I am sarcastic at times. 🙂 I actually tried to find you visual but couldn’t. Sorry hunny… 🙂

  7. Penguin

    June 25, 2009 at 2:37 PM

    If you go to Holly’s Twitter page, for the 2nd day in a row, she’s saying that she has to go to work, since everyone is saying she needs to find a job. What is this Work? Does anyone know?

  8. teegoogles

    June 25, 2009 at 2:44 PM

    Wow, Steve – I gotta say that you lose a lot of credibility if you don’t bash on this like you would anything else Bachelor-related. I know you’re kinda friends now with Holly and DeAnna, but seriously? Yes, she seems sweet, but that’s about the only nice thing I can say after listening to that …

  9. yer wan

    June 25, 2009 at 3:49 PM

    Loved when she dropped that little pearl of wisdom about two thirds of the way through the interview, her Mum always advised her….If you don`t have something nice to say then don`t say anything at all!!!

  10. catherine a

    June 25, 2009 at 4:27 PM

    I have to wonder, was this the same Reality Steve who writes this column (known for his ‘sarcastic, slanted, sophomoric and skewed perspective’) who did this interview? Omg, I thought he said this would not be about jesse-bashing, but that’s all it was, and he seemed to concur/accept everything Ho said with no comment (i.e., when she said how Jesse always compared her to Deanna, and instead of asking for specifics, he says something goofy/lovestruck like ‘boy, that’s not a great way to treat you’). With the babbling, incoherent dribble(‘what was the question?’) coming out of Ho’s mouth, it was just a ripe playing field for RS to create some great audio – totally blew it….Horrible, painful interview that I had to end before I pulled out a gun and shot myself – wow, RS, you should stick to the writing and AWAY from the interviews – you obviously become very disoriented/distracted in front of women like ho…..

  11. Patti

    June 25, 2009 at 6:16 PM

    Off topic: Michael Jackson is dead

  12. ottoniana

    June 25, 2009 at 6:17 PM

    RS: Yes Jesse has done more interviews HOWEVER – does he EVER talk about Deanna and Holly? No. And here you immature dorks are talking about ulcers (which are not caused by 3-month stressful relationships by the way – but COULD however be caused by eating McDonalds every day?)

    This WHOLE interview was about Jesse. Good god girls – get over yourselves – Holly – if you didn’t want to be on Extra, why did you? Come on your Twitter said not too long ago that you were auditioning for more reality shows!!! Stop the lies lady, everyone knows it.

    Also – you say you have NOT trash talked Jesse? HOLY MAN – are you serious? That’s all you did this whole interview!!! AND – you said in this interview “better than the last one” about Deanna’s new boyfriend – tell the truth Holly – you said “better than the last short pale one” – so if that isn’t trash talking, I don’t know what is!!!!

    Whatever, these girls are OBVIOUSLY BITTER that Jesse could care less about them. I have no idea what Jesse is doing or not doing, I am not a “jesse” fan – i am an anti-highschool girls crap. What’s hilarious is you ‘don’t want to be on camera’ – i’d say you look super happy in all those pics/camera shots – ‘private girl’ – ‘prom queen’ and twittering every step you take with your reality TV friends. So strange. You and DeYAAAAWWWNNA are such hypocrits. Too bad you guys have no idea how to have class and be ladies.

    Good luck to you!

  13. ottoniana

    June 25, 2009 at 6:18 PM

    p.s. People don’t “hate” you because you are not with Jesse or because you are friends with Deanna. People dislike you (and Deanna) because you teaming up – like highschool chicks to trash talk your ex. I recently broke up with my ex, it was a bad relationship and hey – I have not yet grabbed my phone to call up his ex’s – that is Childish!!!!

  14. cvendel

    June 25, 2009 at 6:33 PM

    Most of you are Holly haters because she is very attractive and somewhat simple (ie only deserving recongition because she is a pretty blonde). I found Holly’s interview eye-opening in terms of the caliber of Jesse (very low). Just goes to show that ppl enter the show when they need help in their careers and that it all. I also agree about RS flirting with her. But in the end she was just a goofy girl and undeserving of all this jealousy. If she eats fast food so much, how is she so slender? I don’t believe it for a second.

  15. jawbreaker

    June 26, 2009 at 8:46 AM

    Holly has always reminded me of Goldie Hawn . She has the same smile and giggle!

  16. HH

    June 26, 2009 at 11:20 AM

    Really??? Persistent stomach problems (btw – PRE-dating ever meeting Jesse)…talking to Reality Steve is not the cure…the time would have been better spent seeing a gastroenterologist.

  17. Shmily

    June 26, 2009 at 3:38 PM

    I didn’t know much about Holly before this interview, I enjoyed hearing her story, she seemed very sincere.

  18. bbs165

    June 26, 2009 at 5:34 PM

    I personally didn’t find the interview as bad as all of the HATERS on this board did. It was a phone conversation, what did you expect? A sit down with Matt Lauer? It’s funny how transparent people are, nobody is really going to read your hateful comments and then think “huh, you are right..I never thought about it like that before, she IS a fame-wh*re”. Nope, we’re just going to see right through you as the bitter loons you are acting like. Seriously folks, to take it so seriously is ridiculous. She is just a girl who was on the Bachelor. Listening in meant you were obviously interested for some reason and you are pretty sad if you did so just to ridicule and make hateful comments on a message board. I agree with Steve, to waste half your day responding to anybody who is neutral or disagrees with you on this board is almost as sad as Jason excusing the biggest boneheaded move in Bach history in a recent radio interview. I thought Holly seemed to be sincere and honest, which is more than I can say for her ex boyfriend, the not even remotely cute Jesse! Good talk guys…

  19. ibhaleybug

    June 26, 2009 at 8:46 PM

    That’s because the spelling was butchered. It’s Landrum and Pavelka.

    ::backs away slowly::

  20. yer wan

    June 27, 2009 at 3:29 AM

    Seriously? It takes all the hateful, transparent, nutters on this message board a half a day to compose a response, that`s seriously ridiculous! With regard to the Holly Durst interview, there is absolutely no doubt in my mind that this girl was being 100% sincere and honest when she was telling us about her ex…apparently he gave her an ulcer and was a dangerous driver! There was no malice in her words,she WAS quite sweet and she DOES have a fairly infectious laugh.However,Miss Holly wasted no opportunity to tell us how saintly she is (in that she never says anything about someone unless it is something good and apparently she is a good person, meanwhile she lambasted her ex for the entire interview…this IMHO constitues a hypocrite!) Just thought I would post a comment even though that is not of much importance to RS….as long as we all keep reading and listening that will do nicely.

  21. ChicaM

    June 29, 2009 at 11:22 AM

    By deleting my previous post, Reality Steve proves that “he can dish it”, but he can’t take it!! The truth must hurt. Booo!!!

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