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The Bachelorette 5 - Jillian

The Emails and My Final Thoughts…For Now

So plenty of you have been asking where I’ve been and why I haven’t weighed in since the “US Weekly” and other tabloid stories broke about Ed’s ex’s, Lindsey Johnson and Bethany Steffen. Last time I posted was two days before that article came out and I gave you all my thoughts. In a nutshell, I said that Ed had a lot of explaining to do, and if he chose not to explain himself and ignore all the accusations (which he has), then plenty of people will be questioning their relationship. And they are. Since all this stuff broke, Ed and Jillian have stood firm by saying their relationship is strong, Jillian believes Ed’s side (whatever that is), and that they are moving past all these allegations. Fine. I’ve got no problem with that whatsoever. But it doesn’t mean I won’t talk about it some more.

Both Ed and Jillian have categorized Lindsey and Bethany’s allegations as “ridiculous”, “nonsense”, and “totally untrue”. Which is fine. But what part is untrue? That these women even exist? Because we know that’s not the case. That the emails they provided were completely made up? Never specified that. Based on everything I’ve read from both Ed and Jillian, they’re just standing by the “none of its true, Ed’s told me about both women, I trust him, and that’s all you need to know”. Ok, fine. But I’m guessing if Ed told her about both women, he told her his side of things. Do I honestly think that Ed sat Jillian down and said, “Ok, look. Three weeks before I went on the show, I told Bethany in an email I didn’t want to do the show and wasn’t attracted to you. Then during the first few weeks of filming, I was in contact with Lindsey telling her I wanted to come home, I missed her, and that I really wasn’t into you.” Probably not. As I said in my last post, they can address the allegations by the “it’s not true” card, but when both women were being very specific about emails, texts, and conversations, that’s really not good enough.

I have reached out to both Ed and Jillian personally, and they both have gotten back to me. Very nice couple, seem to be very happy with each other, and are laughing at everything that’s gone on since the show ended. Weird, but whatever. It’s what they’re choosing to do. Like I said, it’s their prerogative to handle it this way and let it eventually die down. Both of them politely declined my request to speak with them, which I can respect. But even with the decline, they had only one request, and that was that they would like RealitySteve.com merchandise. I sh** you not. Ed wants a hat, and Jillian wants a shirt. I’m still scratching my head as to why, but hey, they must be GIANT fans of mine, so I’ve obliged. Now, I only have one request to the two of them. Be sure to wear it during any publicity photos. That’d be wonderful. Anyway, that’s where I stood with both Ed and Jillian up until this past weekend. I figured everything that had played out in the media was all you needed to know, Lindsey and Bethany feel jilted by what happened, but they’ve both since moved on, so there wasn’t much else to talk about.

Lo and behold, guess what shows up in my email inbox over the weekend? That’s right, the full email exchange between Ed and Lindsey right before he left during the middle of the show. Yes, we saw some of the quotes in “US Weekly”, which I’m guessing a lot of you doubted the validity of. Well, you probably shouldn’t anymore. Sure, I’m guessing a lot of JED’s fans will say these are made up, but honestly, when you read this exchange, do you really think two people went through all the trouble to make this all up? C’mon people. I know you like living in fantasy land when it comes to this show, but please, the emails are pretty self explanatory. Lindsey contacts him while he’s still on the show (supposedly something that isn’t allowed to happen), Ed contacts her back (yet another thing that’s supposedly not allowed to happen), and they are planning to do things when he gets back home. Remember, this exchange happens right before he leaves when he tells us that work wants him to come back, and he feels obligated. And if people question how I got the emails, just remember last season, I had the Jason/Melissa email exchange that happened after they taped the ATFR 1, which Melissa confirmed on “Ellen” was legit.

So why would I not run Jason & Melissa’s email exchange but am running Ed’s emails to Lindsey and Bethany? Well, one main reason. Those girls weren’t on the show. A lot of you dislike them and think they’re making everything up anyway, so why not? This, I would assume, is the basis for why both of them were so shocked at everything that went down. And also when I received this last one over the weekend, I didn’t feel conflicted whatsoever to run them because of the stance that Ed and Jillian have taken since Day 1 of this fiasco. They don’t seem to care about any allegations brought against him, Jillian is 100% behind him, and that’s that. I’ve reached out to both Lindsey and Bethany, and have not heard back from either one. I can’t imagine they’d be too upset since this is only giving evidence to support their story. Before now, all you saw were quotes in a tabloid magazine. Now you’re seeing the exact email exchange. Make your decision from there.

However, being the very gracious human being that I am, and since both Jillian and Ed are soon to be RealitySteve.com merchandise owners, I figured I would give Ed a head’s up and tell him I was going to run the emails. Any comments that he would like to make regarding them, I would gladly put in today’s column. Here was his response:

From: “Edward R. Swiderski III”
Date: Sat, 22 Aug 2009 15:05:20 -0500
To: steve@realitysteve.com
Subject: RE: Where are our T’s???

Go with it Steve-o! After all, god put you here to report on reality TV and that’s certainly something to be proud of. It’s your duty!

p.s. where are our T’s?

ed

Sounded good enough for me. Don’t ask me why he wants a bunch of people to see this email exchange that doesn’t necessarily cast him in the greatest of light, but hey, “Go with it Steve-O!” You got it, Eddie. It’s my duty, right? Whether or not the guy was being sarcastic, the bottom line is I gave him an opportunity to tell me not to run them, and not only did he not choose to go that route, he seems rather excited about the whole thing. Still kinda scratching my head as to why, especially considering this is something he wrote DURING the course of filming the show within the first couple weeks, which fits exactly the time line he told Lindsey and Bethany about before he left to do the show. In case you didn’t read the stories they told, Ed allegedly told both of them he was gonna go do the show, but only for a couple weeks because that’s all his work would allow, and that it would be “for us”. And that’s exactly what he did. So hey, I guess he didn’t lie about that. Filming started March 24th or 25th, and these emails were sent to Lindsey between April 10th and April 12th. Now first up is the email exchange with Bethany, three weeks before leaving to do the show. She sends him an email laying out her feeling about the whole thing and then he gives his response. Tell me if you think this girl is just some random girl he’s dating on the side or if it’s a little more serious than that. Probably want to read from the bottom up.

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From: Ed Swiderski
Sent: Thursday, March 05, 2009 12:01 PM
To: Bethany Steffen
Subject: RE:

Babe: this is great email. And I appreciate it.

You worry too much! Let’s talk about it in person ok?

You know I never took this thing seriously. In addition, I’ve let the Director know that I would be doing the show for the wrong reasons as I am not, in any way, attracted to the chick.

It’s still about a 25% chance of me going, though it’s seriously the last thing I’m thinking about right now!

From: Bethany Steffen
Sent: Thursday, March 05, 2009 11:31 AM
To: Ed Swiderski
Subject:

Ok..I’m no good at talking about my feelings, so here goes nothing…

Here’s how I see it:

a) This is obviously an amazing opportunity that will undoubtedly be once in a lifetime. What a great story you’ll have for the rest of your life and who knows what doors it may lead to.

b) But with every decision in life there are multiple ways it could go. A few I’ve thought of as my mind has been racing over the last couple days include: First way: you go on show, hang out for a few weeks, get your face on TV, enjoy a little limelight. Maybe you get noticed out and about in Chicago afterwards, get an article in the paper, but undoubtedly forgotten about by the end of summer. Second way: you go on show, get wrapped up in the excitement, “fall” for the girl, hit it off with her, lose at the final rose ceremony, and BAM…you’re the next bachelor. That would just be my luck.

c) I would obviously think that the first way is the most likely way it will go. My buddy Wagner in AZ had a friend Jenni, who was on the last Bachelor, and she was actually was in the final 2. That is pretty much the way it went for her afterwards. She had fun with it, got invited to bars and things like that but she wasn’t the same person. If you go on that show you will get attention. Men like attention and I’m sure girls will be all over you. Your ego may grow and it all comes down to how you will handle the attention. And of course what happens with us afterwards depends on how I handle that attention

By the way you worded your text the other night it sounds as if you mean, “hey, I’m willing to not go on this stupid show b/c I like you a lot” (Side note: why wouldn’t you? I’m great.) I guess all I can do is be honest about my feelings towards you and obviously, I like you; a lot. I respect you, admire your worth ethic and your success and passion really turn me on. I love hanging out with you, we really get along and I know it’s early, but I think we could really be a power couple someday; taking over the Chicago technology scene J

Ed, this is a great opportunity, potentially life altering, and I’m not going to be the one to make the decision for you. I can’t really say that I’m going to support you either way you decide because I’ve watched the show and you could end up doing some things or saying some things on national TV that would not be kosher for someone who has someone back home that is waiting. If you go, in my mind, it says to me…”I’m doing this for me, I’m not going to worry how it effects you, I’ll worry about that later”. So, Ed, do what you think is best for you, but understand I will do what’s best for me at the same time. If you go, I’m very skeptical and doubtful that things will ever be the same with us.

In conclusion, you know if it were me and I was unattached, I’d go in a heartbeat; but right now, a little piece of my heart is attached to you.

That’s how I feel,

Bethany

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Now, here is the exchange between he and Lindsey while he was on the show (I’ve purposely “x”‘d out Lindsey’s email address in these so certain crazies out there don’t go all “Laurel” on her). Once again, tell me if you honestly think Ed is making all this up, or this was staged, or its completely fabricated.

——Original Message——
From: Ed Swiderski
To: ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com
Subject: RE: Muddy Buddy Race – August 2, 2009
Sent: Apr 12, 2009 8:38 PM

Message

And honestly I have not had fun since I’ve been here, it really has nothing to do with her anyway. In fact we only have seen her a few times.

I think about you all the time and can’t wait to see you.

——Original Message——
From: Ed Swiderski
To: ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com
Subject: RE: Muddy Buddy Race – August 2, 2009
Sent: Apr 12, 2009 8:35 PM

Message

You’re right and I miss you dearly. I love you.

I’m letting them know tonight. Hopefully they’ll get me home tomorrow.

From: ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com [mailto:ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com]
Sent: Saturday, April 11, 2009 11:21 PM
To: Ed Swiderski
Subject: Re: Muddy Buddy Race – August 2, 2009

Why isn’t it that easy? If you don’t come home tomorrow are u bound there the entire 6 weeks? I can’t do this, ed. I’m sick to my stomach constantly. If you’re going to be there longer u HAVE to tell me asap. It’s not fair. You promised 2 weeks. Promised. She doesn’t deserve to have ur attention any longer. This isn’t right. You being there isn’t right. How r u pretending? Are u pretending? Come back to me. Please. Screw f’ing abc. If you want to come home to me it shouldn’t be that hard. Should it?

I’m just having a really tough time with this. I miss you.
Sent via BlackBerry by AT&T

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From: Ed Swiderski
Date: Sat, 11 Apr 2009 14:43:37 -0700
To: ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com
Subject: RE: Muddy Buddy Race – August 2, 2009

Trying, though it’s not that easy. This is a complete mind f*ck!!!

From: ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com [mailto:ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com]
Sent: Saturday, April 11, 2009 4:36 PM
To: Ed Swiderski
Subject: Re: Muddy Buddy Race – August 2, 2009

U have to!! Plz.
Sent via BlackBerry by AT&T

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From: Ed Swiderski
Date: Sat, 11 Apr 2009 14:35:37 -0700
To: ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com
Subject: RE: Muddy Buddy Race – August 2, 2009

Trying to leave tomorrow, hopefully I can pull it off.

From: ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com [mailto:ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com]
Sent: Friday, April 10, 2009 6:38 PM
To: Ed Swiderski
Subject: Re: Muddy Buddy Race – August 2, 2009

Are u done?? Will it be this weekend? I’m dying:(
Sent via BlackBerry by AT&T

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From: Ed Swiderski
Date: Fri, 10 Apr 2009 16:36:57 -0700
To: ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com
Subject: RE: Muddy Buddy Race – August 2, 2009

I don’t know. I’ll call you as soon as I get my phone back.

From: ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com [mailto:ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com]
Sent: Friday, April 10, 2009 6:30 PM
To: Ed Swiderski
Subject: Re: Muddy Buddy Race – August 2, 2009

Ah, yes!!! When u coming home???????
Sent via BlackBerry by AT&T

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From: Ed Swiderski
Date: Fri, 10 Apr 2009 16:28:11 -0700
To: Lindsey Johnson
Subject: RE: Muddy Buddy Race – August 2, 2009

Yes.

I’m going to molest you when I get home. Can you pick me up?

From: Lindsey Johnson [mailto:ljohnson@xxxxxxx.com]
Sent: Friday, April 10, 2009 11:42 AM
To: Ed Swiderski
Subject: Muddy Buddy Race – August 2, 2009

Would you want to do this??? Let’s!!!!!!

http://www.muddybuddy.com/events.php?id=7

Sent via BlackBerry by AT&T

Remember, this is the last email exchange we have from Ed to either Lindsey or Bethany. So with that said, let’s lay out the facts based on what we’ve seen in emails.

-Three weeks before leaving to do the show, March 5th, in an email to Bethany, he specifically states that he “would be doing the show for the wrong reasons as I am not, in any way, attracted to this chick.”

-He then leaves to do the show telling both women he’s only interested in doing it for 2 weeks because that’s all work will allow (per both Lindsey and Bethany to “US Weekly”).

-This is then corroborated by his email exchange with Lindsey in which he is pretty much at the 2 week point, says he’s not having any fun, says he wants to come home, says he misses Lindsey, practically begging to leave, wants her to pick him up, calls the show a mind f**k, and that he wants to molest her.

So that’s where we stand in terms of email and texting proof that’s come to light. So Ed goes home, both women at that point say they saw him, hung out with him, and slept with him (unbeknownst to each other) during the period in which he was back in Chicago. Lindsey says they went to a wedding together (which friends of theirs have corroborated), and she spent the last four or five days with him before he told her he was leaving again for a business trip to “Texas”, which in reality, ended up being Spain and Hawaii. Let’s just stop right here at this point.

As for Bethany’s email, I think it’s safe to say these were two people that were more than casually dating before he left for the show. She did say it was “early”, and by all accounts, I heard they started dating in January of this year, so they were a few months in when he left. Sounds about right. The thing I found interesting about their exchange is she laid everything out on the table for him about how she was feeling, and rather than dismiss her as some crazy b**ch where he could’ve gone, “Whoa! Back up there, honey. Didn’t see that coming”, he comforted her, told her not to worry, said he wasn’t even thinking about the show, on and on and on. His response to her says a hell of a lot more than what she wrote him. Kinda shows that its not like this chick was stalking him. They were both into each other in March and were definitely more than just friends before he left for the show. If I were her, I probably just would’ve taken out the “I can see us being a power couple in Chicago” part. Ha ha. That was funny.

So here’s a guy that three weeks before leaving for the show, wanted no part of it. Admittedly wasn’t into the chick they cast, obviously was seeing someone back home that he was very much involved with (two people actually), but for whatever reason, was convinced to come on. My question is, why was ABC insisting on casting a guy who 3 weeks before filming, didn’t want to be there? If he’s telling ABC, “Oh, I can’t wait to do it”, but then on the flip side saying what he said to Bethany in the email, well then he’s a two-faced liar. We don’t know what he was saying to ABC, we only have his response to Bethany’s email. And that email was about as clear as day. He didn’t want to do it and told the director as such. Yet, three weeks later, he leaves to do the show. You tell me: What made the guy change his mind? The incentive of being able to use his computer and/or phone? Seems to be at least one incentive if you ask me.

I just can’t wrap my head around why a guy who clearly didn’t want to be on the show was cast anyway? Was ABC that desperate because guys were dropping like flies? Did they have a plan for him all along? Just doesn’t make much sense. Unless of course he was telling ABC how excited he was to do it, then telling Bethany the complete opposite. Wouldn’t be that far fetched. However, if we are to take him at his word for what he said to Bethany in his email, then there’s a reason he was cast on the show. I guess only he and a few others know what that reason is. All we can do is speculate. I know I will. Kind of an inquisitive person in case you couldn’t tell.

Let’s discuss Lindsey and Bethany for a minute. Not knowing either of them, I find it hard to believe they would throw this stuff out there if it wasn’t true. Of course, Chris Harrison will tell you that it’s because they were paid to tell their story. Yeah. And? Because they were paid to tell their story that all the sudden makes it not true? So anyone who’s ever been paid to tell their story either in a book, or in a magazine, is now a liar? Not saying everything they say is the gospel, but to automatically dismiss their story because money was exchanged is just ignorant. In fact, “US Weekly” was going to run the story whether or not Lindsey or Bethany spoke to them, that’s all but been confirmed. All the girls did was apparently fill them in on the details. What would you have rather seen: An “US Weekly” story with no proof of emails, texts, phone calls, etc and just a bunch of “sources say”, “a friend close to the situation”, and “an insider confirms”, or, them telling their stories and citing specific dates, locations, and conversations? I much prefer the latter, thank you.

Both women said what they said to “US Weekly” and I’m sure a lot of you questioned it, but these two emails were essentially what they were referring to. Seems to me Ed completely had both girls believing that the other one didn’t even exist, started doing the show for fun, and two weeks in STILL didn’t want to be there and wanted to come home to “molest” Lindsey. Nice. How romantic of him. At this point, I’m trying to figure out where Ed gets off thinking that nobody would find out about this. In one interview I read, Lindsey even told him, “Look, the magazines are calling me and want my story. I’m going to tell them what happened”, and just as Ed said to me, he gave her the go-ahead. Told her to tell her side rather than letting the tabloids make up their own story. And you thought the Jason/Molly/Melissa fiasco was weird. I’m telling you, I don’t think it could’ve gotten more bizarre than that, but this season I think takes the cake. I have no idea what the hell is going on here. What I do know is something isn’t right. And I think a lot of you can see that as well.

You’ve heard Lindsey and Bethany’s story from the time he left to go back on the show to where we are now. He kept in contact with each of them, but not nearly as much. He said he was going to Texas, when he really didn’t. He gets back from filming in Hawaii, an engaged man mind you, yet according to Lindsey, on June 4th, they slept together after she confronted him with, “Are you the final one?” When the guy answered with, “What do you think?”, she took that as a “no”, and they slept together. Obviously, if she’s over at his apartment after being invited, why would she have any reason to believe the guy was engaged and the final guy? Told you this story was bizarre.

I’m even fine if Ed and Jillian don’t want to speak with me on record. In fact, I even respect it. I’d throw the whole kitchen sink at them. They need to be asked specific questions like, “Ed, both women have email exchanges with you before and during filming. Can you explain them?” Not, “Hey, what is your reaction to these allegations?” Those are so easy to brush off without getting into specifics, as you can see by how they’ve answered everything thus far. Why can’t Ed answer, “Hey, did you send a text to Bethany that said, ‘Bring the beer and condoms’.” If you didn’t, why does she have one that says you did? How about, “Lindsey says you slept with her AFTER you got home from filming in Hawaii, on June 4th, at your apartment. If it didn’t happen the way she said it, explain how you think it happened.” Or how about to Jillian, “If you’re claiming that you’re not even reading these allegations from both women, then how can you say you know everything that happened? What exactly has Ed told you about both Lindsey and Bethany?” Because for my dollar, you can bet your ass whatever he told Jillian, he probably left out a few parts. Or ten. That’s all I’m asking is for someone to be held accountable and to answer the tougher questions.

Who I would be curious to hear from is ABC/Next Entertainment in all this. The fact that one individual from the show was allowed to make personal emails while filming should be a giant red flag. The show, and specifically Chris Harrison, prides themselves on saying these guys are isolated from the outside world and aren’t allowed to talk to anybody. So not only was the “final guy” contacting work, he was basically sending sexual emails to a woman he was seeing back home. How come no one from the network or Next Entertainment is commenting on this? It’s not like Lindsey and Bethany are just alleging Ed did this. They have the proof. They’ve shown the emails to the tabloids, and now for the first time, you are seeing them in email form. And if ABC/Next Entertainment actually were to say they had no idea who Ed was contacting, well, I find that hard to believe. This is the show that wants you to believe everything you’re seeing is real, and all they do is turn on the cameras, and you see a love story play out. Uh huh. It’d be nice if someone stepped up to the plate and copped to what really went on.

One thing Lindsey kept referencing in her “US Weekly” interview was that Ed kept telling her, “Wait until July 20th (essentially when the show was over), and I’ll be able to explain everything.” Actually Ed, the show’s finale aired the 27th, but whatever. Anyway, him constantly telling her to just be patient and wait til the show was over so he could explain himself makes things even MORE confusing in my eyes. Ummmm, you were engaged at that point. How would Lindsey (and Bethany for that matter) understand things better when they see the finale and the guy who’s been stringing them along, is not only the final guy, but he’s engaged? What exactly were you going to explain at that point? I would’ve respected the guy a hell of a lot more if after he got back from filming, he cut off ALL contact with both women, left them both high and dry, and if they tried to contact him, he would just say, “Sorry. Lose my number. I’ve moved on.” But still, even after getting back from Hawaii as an engaged man, he’s telling them he has an explanation for all this and just to wait until the finale airs? Too bad we never got to hear that explanation because I’m dying to know what the hell that would’ve been. Both women moved on and don’t speak to him anymore, or else I guess we would’ve heard this explanation. I have no idea what it could’ve been though.

So where we stand right now, as far as I know, Jillian is set to move in with Ed in about a week. Both Lindsey and Bethany have moved on and are over the whole situation. You probably even saw in this past week’s “US Weekly” that Lindsey is dating the former roommate of Andrew Firestone. Small world we live in. If I come across anything else, I will share it with you, but it seems like this will be the last straw on this topic. What else can be said? It’s basically come down to whose side do you believe? If Ed was so into Jillian and had to come back on the show because he couldn’t stop thinking of her and felt he made a mistake, why in the time that he was home did he sleep with both women and basically act like a single guy? Was he committed to Jillian at that point? No. Did he really do anything wrong when he was home other than enjoy himself with two girls he was seeing? I guess not really. However, from the time he showed up back on the show claiming he couldn’t stop thinking of Jillian, that’s where I think people can question his sincerity. Look at the emails. Look at the timeline of the emails. How does one go from the emotional state he was in before AND during the middle of filming to the emotional state he’s in now in regards to being engaged and about to move Jillian in? It’s a question that’s probably gonna go unanswered for a while. But it sure is fun to speculate about.

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98 Comments

  1. mamak

    August 24, 2009 at 1:28 PM

    Wow, what an awesome blog. Anyway Steve, I have been reading your blogs for sometime now, but just decided to register. I am baffled by this whole situation. I know it is fake and how can two people fall in love in 6 weeks when there are so many other people involved. I have always thought that but I watch because I do think it can be funny and some good entertainment.

    The emails look and sound very real and yet Ed does not seem to care about it. Perhaps because he was such a player that these are all true. Perhaps he really did fall for Jillian and perhaps Jillian feels it really wasn’t cheating since she was swapping spit with how many other guys? Anyway, I love your thoughts and wanted to post. Looking forward to the next one.

  2. bbjd

    August 24, 2009 at 1:43 PM

    Great blog, if I’m Jillian what this comes down to is this: there are only 2 good answers to how these e-mails and texts exist from Ed – 1. someone hacked my e-mail OR 2. someone hacked my text messaging. If so, if I’m Ed I’m all over it and getting to the bottom of how this happened and what other damage has been done to my credit, etc. If that is not the answer, Jillian, move on. Once the limelight wears off and Ed is no longer in the spotlight I guarantee you he’ll do the same to you as he did to these girls.

  3. Polar

    August 24, 2009 at 2:10 PM

    I think with this information that people will tend to believe the girls story over Ed due to the fact that we don’t have his story. Nobody can defend or even explain what Ed did because we don’t know. Extremely happy I stumble on your site last season. I am now a fan of RS.

  4. coccinelle

    August 24, 2009 at 2:15 PM

    I don’t get it. You say they are really laughing about all this and don’t seem to care ? Why then did she admit on Good Morning America that she had been crying all morning about it ?… Just weird.
    And annoying, because I really like that guy’s personnality and sense of humor as we saw him on the show, and not especially the sexual pervert he appears to be on emails (have you noticed he’s the only one laughing at the rose ceremony where Wes finally gets dismissed and says he’s gonna go back home and have a lot of sex ?)
    Anyway… Steve, you must know someone at ABC who knows something, right ? What about the next bachelor ? Any info ?
    Thanks anyway for the blog !

  5. DeeCee

    August 24, 2009 at 2:22 PM

    Kudos, RS, for your restraint all along in reacting to the Jed story….

    Guess there’s a cover for every pot?? Odd that I once thought Ed’s present “cover” would’ve fit Reid…. Do NOT think that anymore….

  6. Teresa

    August 24, 2009 at 2:38 PM

    Sounds like he’s the kind of guy who is bad at breaking off relationships. Likes to keep girls hanging on just in case he wants to go back to them. And as far as him not being attracted to Jillian at first, he apparently has gotten over that, lol.

  7. pinky1013

    August 24, 2009 at 2:40 PM

    Steve, I love the blog! Discovering you a few months ago has made this season of the Bachelorette 100% more entertaining…I curse myself for watching the end of Brad’s season causing me to be sucked into what happened next with DeAnna, Jason, and Jill’s seasons. I’m sure because of you will now end up watching the next Bachelor.

    Maybe I’ve been burned or have just become jaded, but I see Ed acting like a fairly typical guy (no I am not accusing all guys of this behavior), crude jokes and all. Exes can, and quite a few will, come back with some bad timing. He will hit on you to see how far he can get, even if he has a gf. When things are going wrong for him, or he’s bored…he will crawl out of the woodwork for some entertainment. It didn’t seem either of these girls had a commitment relation with Ed during the show, so I’m not sure why they were so trusting of him knowing the situation?

    Red flag one for Lindsey and Bethany…your supposed man or ex man, or whatever he was to you at the time is going on a reality DATING show! They both were aware of that. I would drop a guy in a hot second the minute he broke that news. Bethany was fairly dead on with her analyzation of possible outcomes, but a letter like that to any man in my opinion is like the eulogy at the funeral of that relationship.

    Either way for the two exes, I would imagine no matter how early a guy gets kicked off, suddenly he becomes a lot sexier in the eyes of other ladies. I would think that any guy that gets chosen to be on these shows has at least some bit of charisma and/or good looks to be chosen, and that probably attracts quite a number of women to begin with. Basically forget about him when he comes back, even if he only gets his 15 minutes of fame. If he left you to do the show, who’s to say he won’t leave you to enjoy the new attention?

    In regards to Jillian and whoever else goes on these shows…how often to people find long lasting love, in the matter of a few months in the midst of dating multiple people or dating someone else dating multiple people? From everything I’ve read, it doesn’t seem like they get that much actual time together. Maybe I’m not much of a romantic, but that’s just crazy, entertaining to watch, but crazy to believe it is true. In my opinion reality tv dating is manufactured love that has a small possible chance for a real, long lasting, happy relationship. Also big red flag to Jill, although she may not have known, Ed seems to have rarely been single in the half a decade or so. I would avoid a guy that was still so newly out of a very long term relationship. Either way, she made her choice and she’s sticking to it. I’m sure she has her reasons and I’m pretty impressed with the way they seem to be handling it and moving forward.

  8. kygirl93

    August 24, 2009 at 2:43 PM

    coccinelle :I don’t get it. You say they are really laughing about all this and don’t seem to care ? Why then did she admit on Good Morning America that she had been crying all morning about it ?… Just weird.And annoying, because P>

    She did not say she was crying on GMA, she said that in an article for a Canadian newspaper, and she said it was because she couldn’t believe the gils would do something hurtful to her, because she would not have done anything purposefully hurtful to anyone. Basically, she never said that she was crying about WHAT THEY SAID only THAT THEY SAID IT.

    And Steve-O, while I appreciate your posting these things in their entirety, this is really no news on the Lindsey front, and no news of consequence on the Bethany front, since her email exchange was from over a month before filming started. My thinking is that the reason Jill and Ed are so blase’ about your posting these is that 1) she has already seen them, 2) if you don’t post them now, then someone else will later, so might as well get it over with, and 3) they really truly do not care. Jill was saying some pretty comparable things to the other guys on the show that were televised, so I am thinking they are just way, way over the drama and are truly just laughing it off now. No big mystery in that.

  9. happybunny09

    August 24, 2009 at 2:50 PM

    Wow RS your professional treatment of the subject matter is commendable.

    My two unanswered questions:
    1. How does Ed keeps attracting women that are far too good and should be far too smart for him? He really needs to enter politics if he’s that good at lying.

    2. The biggest unsolved mystery is just what game or games was ABC/Next pulling this season, on Jillian, on Ed, or how complicit were JED in this game which might explain the whole nonchalance. Was Ed a ringer in the true sense from Day One. [I am convinced with no proof just gut that Ambre Lake who won Rock of Love 2 was a ringer from Day 1 because she is the only person in VH1 history of their dating reality shows to seem to have an after show relationship with the star]

    I can’t get over the feeling we’ve all been played and I will be very disapopointed if Jillian has a bigger role in all of this than any of us can imagine. Or they know they are playing make believe, they get along well enough for as long as they need to play out the charade.

  10. Small_Peanut

    August 24, 2009 at 4:28 PM

    Either Jillian is really naive when it comes to love or she’s a sell-out and Ed was paid to be her fall-back guy if she wasn’t into marrying any of the other contestants on the show…..which I have very little respect for her (and I believe to be true). She may have been paid off herself and I get the money (especially in this economy) but I don’t get selling your soul and that’s what she’s doing—compromising her integrity and to me, no price tag on that. The reason it’s fishy, if it smells like a FISH, it usually is a FISH. Where there is smoke, we have fire…..rumors start FOR A REASON. The bachelor is getting so scripted it’s beyond making our heads spin…what will happen next season? Will the bachelor leave his bride-to-be because he’s secretly in the closet? I wouldn’t put it past the franchise. Ed wrote them and said he couldn’t leave, no doubt because of a contract in which he was PAID a lump sum. They break up by Halloween – that’s my timeline for their fake relationship. Any woman with half a brain (if this was a real scenario) would want to find out the truth NOT be aloof and pretend it does not exist, that’s not how our species is wired…..therefore I believe it’s a fake relationship for the sake of the show. Look how she was with the Wes and alleged GF….she confronted WES/Jake – she was a mess but she was probably PAID to be that way. Now she’s all happy and believes him? Yeah right! Give me a break.
    Also, Jillian CAN’T move to America and work, she’s a Canadian citizen……she needs a working Visa and that takes TIME if she can get a working visa….

  11. mandy181

    August 24, 2009 at 4:31 PM

    The emails don’t really give any more damning information. I think Ed has explained to Jill that he wasn’t attracted to her in the beginning but fell in love with her over time. That happens all the time in real life. What really would be more damning is some type of proof that he slept with Lindsey after coming home from Hawaii, other than he said, she said. Time will tell if they stay together but I’m guessing not.

  12. ysk

    August 24, 2009 at 7:23 PM

    So, Steve. Why do you think the emails sent to the girls say from Ed Swiderski yet the one to you was from Edward R. Swiderski III ? Any thoughts on that…..2 email addresses maybe or perhaps something just isn’t quite right. In any event, the truth probably lies somewhere between what the girls are saying and what isn’t being said at all. Yet,. it does appear that Ed and Jillian are genuine at the moment. So why don’t we all leave them to try to find what they just might both be looking for and what everyone needs. Love and companionship.

  13. jerim

    August 24, 2009 at 7:54 PM

    Hi again Steve- Really enjoyed reading your blog. You were fair to all parties concerned. I don’t know why, perhaps I’m just a romantic at heart, but although I think Ed was completely wrong in stringing these 2 ladies along, I still think perhaps he felt like he had no choice with the lawsuit hanging over him. He knew if he dumped them, they would go to the press before they did and all he** would break loose with ABC. I believe he told Jillian most of the truth in the FS and they decided to just go forward from there. I also believe that Ed did NOT have any attraction to Jillian during the first 2 weeks as he said he “hardly saw her”. He did it strictly for fame. BUT I do believe that when he had to go back because he had also told his boss it would only be 2 weeks, he felt it was all over for him with the show. I think he went back to his “life” with Lindsay & Bethany, neither of whom he was 100% committed to, and while “with” them, started to realize that he couldn’t get Jillian out of his head for whatever reason. I think he decided that since he just wasn’t that committed to either of the other 2 and kept thinking about Jillian, that he needed to ask the producers to allow him back. They saw a “twist” that they could capitalize on, and allowed him back since they saw a connection from Jillian when she sobbed all night after he left. I honestly believe that once he got back, they were given much more time together in which they developed some true feelings. Ed still was NOT completely sure IF Jillian would chose him and foolishly kept the girls on the side, in case. Shame on him but don’t think that is different from what lots of men would do. Once Ed came down to the final 3, there were no more e-mails that I can see, he answered evasivly(sp?) when Lindsay asked if he were in the final 3. And I hate to say it, but Bethany was a lot smarter than Lindsay. When she saw him at the bar with Lindsay, she broke off with him and wanted her things back from his apartment. Lindsay, on the other had, who had found “another woman’s things in his apartment”, “suitcases that said Spain & Hawaii” and his comment “what do you think?” to her question if he was in the finals, just tells me that this girl had her head in the sand. Maybe he slept with her at that point (which I doubt) because I think he was trying to say to her “be smart and open your eyes”. I believe he is saying that it is a lie that he slept with her while engaged when he spoke on GMA. However, since US Weekly was going to run with the article, I can see why the gfs took the opportunity to cash in. And I believe the magazine may have added the “he slept with her AFTER….” just to take an otherwise not severely significant article and turn it into a “bombshell”, what they needed to sell it.
    I think Ed & Jillian look to be in love and serious about having a life together. I, for one, hope they do as I saw what I thought was a sincere attraction evolving into love once he returned to the show. Only time will tell who is right and who is wrong. But thanks so much for your blog. Only think, please tell Jeremy to stay out of the future crises of the Bachelor/ette. I always thought of him as a sophisticated guy and then after all this, felt like he was a gossiper. You have a reason with your site since the beginning – he doesn’t and he is ruining his otherwise good reputation. JMHO

  14. DeeCee

    August 24, 2009 at 9:00 PM

    Was referred to a tweet RS got from a girl named erika…. verry interesting (twitter.com; search @RealitySteve)

    Not surprised by it, though…

  15. mamma mia

    August 24, 2009 at 9:20 PM

    Reality Steve,

    Thank you for your take on the Jillian and Ed situation. I have been reading every blog I can about this. I especially appreciate your belief in Bethany and Lindsey’s version of events. I know that Bethany’s version of the story is true because I am her mom. I have seen the e-mails and texts. They are there, unaltered and legit.I was asked for motherly advice all throughout this ordeal. I was sent the e-mail that you have posted on your site. How did you get it? This has been a surreal experience for our family. We are from a small town in Iowa and were not prepared for the hoopla surrounding this story. In fact, Bethany’s preference was to stay out of this entirely, but once her name was published, she felt as though she had no choice. She WAS NOT looking for her fifteen minutes of fame as so many bloggers have suggested. She has turned down offers for television interviews. She wants this to be behind her. Her parents and granparents would probably not have chosen to have her “beer and condoms” story to have been published for the whole world to see, but the truth is the truth. I agree with the people on this site that think that ABC has done a disservice to Jillian. She appears to have come on the show for “all the right reasons”, yet it seems as though a few chips have been stacked against her with regards to some of the bachelors. As I watched the season and had all the background information about what Ed had told Bethany regarding his intentions, I felt like the show was being unfair to Jillian because producers on the show knew what Ed’s intentions were. If Ed really told Bethany and the producers the same thing. HE IS a silver-tongued devil as it would appear. Time will tell what happens to Jillian and Ed. I am just glad that he and my daughter are no longer!!!!

  16. jacqui

    August 24, 2009 at 10:03 PM

    I think Jerim has hit the nail on the head. I suggest if Jillian and Ed have moved on, then it is time for all of us to do so as well. If you missed the photos check out http://www.flyphotography.com Beautiful photos of Ed and Jillian in Kelowna at her cousin’s wedding last week.

    What I got out of the emails is that they were not that serious. Bethany says ‘I like you a lot’. Hardly getting engaged at the end of the year material which is what she told Us Magazine.

    Ed’s initial behavior is very typical of so many men/boys! I am sure the ladies ignored a million red flags. We often do. I have seen it happen so many times and have done it myself. Time to move on! We all make mistakes.

  17. cubbieblue Kristin

    August 24, 2009 at 10:25 PM

    Jacqui-Bethany said “I like you a lot.” LINDSEY was the one that said Ed said he wanted to get engaged to her by the end of the yr. You got them mixed up.

    Anyway, this whole thing is bizarre to say the least. I don’t care if Ed fell in love w/ Jillian after the fact and he is madly in love w/ her, IF he wrote these emails and texts, I think he is scum. Just the way he writes is disgusting. Could he honestly see Reid writing something like “bring the beer and condoms”? I don’t. No I don’t know Reid in real life but he doesn’t seem to be that type of guy. Ed is weird. I don’t understand Jillian. I don’t care if he’s said he wrote the emails but he is totally over these 2 girls and he is in love w/ her now… something inside my gut would still tell me that this guy has questionable integrity. Who wants to end up with a guy like that? I know I wouldn’t. I would always be wondering what he’s doing b/c if he can essentially cheat on his 2 girlfriends to go on a dating show then what’s to say he wouldn’t do it to me? he seems like a real smooth talker which I’ve had the pleasure of being w/ a few guys like this. They can’t be trusted! He’s not to be trusted. He’s smooth and he knows he can get away w/ it.
    Another thing I have heard on the message boards is that Jillian was so distraught after Ed left the 1st time that she wouldn’t come out of her room which made taping very difficult. Is it possible that the producers called good ole Eddie back up after he left and offered him more money if he would come back so Jillian would start acting normal again? I don’t know.
    This whole thing just stinks to high heaven. And what’s up with ABC flying to Chicago to see ED and his friends? I’ve never heard of such a thing. HE texted Bethany “we’re going to show them (Producers) what we’re made of!” What made him think he was soooo special?? GIMME A BREAK! I wonder if Reality Steve was able to ask Ed any questions about what happened at all when he had his email exchanges w/ him. I sure would have been tempted to ask him a question or two.

  18. cubbieblue Kristin

    August 24, 2009 at 10:36 PM

    To add…. for Jillian and Ed to be so blase about this entire thing… there has to be more to the story. I want to hear THEM tell us what it is. Like Jillian saying “the reason I believe Ed is… b/c his computer got hacked” or … or.. (HMMM.. geez I can’t come up with an excuse.) Or Ed, “I know for certain none of this is true b/c I told Lindsay and Bethany both when I got home from Hawaii that I couldn’t see either of them anymore b/c I was F1 and engaged. I didn’t have sex w/ Lindsay like she is telling everyone we did b/c I was committed to Jillian. As a matter of fact I can prove I was with Jillian the night of the alleged sex with Lindsey.” BUT WE HAVEN’T HEARD ANYTHING LIKE THIS. No explanations from Ed. Saying nothing might as well be admitting to guilt, IMO. Why doesn’t he want to defend himself?? Yes there are those that say he doesn’t NEED to defend himself, but I think he does.
    Maybe the real reason neither Jillian or Ed care is b/c they know their whole relationship is just a publicity stunt and they will break up in a few months anyways after they both get all the limelight they need.

  19. cubbieblue Kristin

    August 24, 2009 at 10:40 PM

    Mama Mia, if you are indeed Bethany’s mom, I wish her and your entire family all the best and that this whole nightmare is over soon. She’s lucky to not have someone like Ed in her life.

  20. lemon

    August 24, 2009 at 10:57 PM

    Someone on twitter posted to Steve:

    Ed is cheater, met him at Hunt Club in Chicago sat.night, tried to hook up with my sis & was smoking cigs out of nose. Douche

    me again… hahaha that totally sounds like Ed “Jenga Farts” Swiderski too, I can just see him smoking cigs out of his nose to impress the chicks — because he’s the type of douche who thinks that IS impressive. Bet he wears Ed Hardy tshirts too. laugh!

    I think the most likely explanation for all this mess is that Ed and Jill are faking this for the publicity and money and they’ll announce a break-up in 4-6 months. No big deal.

  21. lemon

    August 24, 2009 at 11:06 PM

    I do want Bethany and Lindsey to know I believe their stories and I am sorry Ed happened to them. I was in a relationship with a user and cheater and he totally played me, so I understand how it can happen. You want to believe the best in people, especially someone you really like a lot or love. When he says all the right things it’s easy to believe you’re just being silly for having doubts and he’s actually being sincere and honest.

    If anyone thinks they are too smart for it to happen to them, you just haven’t met the wrong guy yet. Consider yourself lucky! Those guys know what to say to get everything they want, and if someone catches them they just move on to the next victim.

  22. abs

    August 25, 2009 at 12:54 AM

    More speculation…Ed is paid handsomely to do the show because the producers want him and are willing to overlook his reluctance, girlfriends, whatever. He freaks after two weeks and leaves. ABC decides they want him back and pay him even more handsomely to do it. We know that whatever comes out of their mouths is scripted, so that’s how you get from sleeping with 2 girlfriends at home and standing at the door telling Jillian that he couldn’t stop thinking of her. From there, maybe they really did fall in love. Maybe Ed’s return home made it clear to him that neither women in Chicago were right for him. Maybe he didn’t mind throwing them under the bus for the right amount of money.

    Just speculation, but I don’t think we’re looking at the whole picture without trying to factor ABC into the equation.

  23. Gazillion

    August 25, 2009 at 12:54 AM

    It’s SO obvious what’s going on. Every couple on this show has stayed together for at least one month. And maybe Jillian really liked Ed more than the other guys. Who knows?

    But it’s pretty obvious that the show is paying Jillian and Ed to stay together for a specified period. That’s why neither of them seem to care about the emails.

  24. petunia

    August 25, 2009 at 1:19 AM

    lemon and abs – I agree. Ed was paid to be on the show he was never a serious contestant, and I think Jillian knew it all along. Ed was the guy she was supposed to pick if she didn’t fall in love with anyone else. So now Ed and Jillian have to fake an engagement and then break up after a few months. Just like Deanna and Jesse did, and like Jason and Molly will.
    Every once in a while, on the show, someone falls in love for real. When it doesn’t happen, they have a fall-back plan. Ed is Plan B. He told his real girlfriend to just wait and see. What he meant was that he wasn’t going to get picked, it wasn’t the plan. And he’d be coming home. But Jillian chickened out and picked the guy who was just acting, both of them knowing the “engagement” wasn’t real.

  25. jawbreaker

    August 25, 2009 at 7:06 AM

    Steve….you need a girlfriend. Please find one!

  26. Jojojo

    August 25, 2009 at 12:56 PM

    I agree, Steve, this situation just doesn’t make sense! Let’s remember that Ed’s texts to Lindsey take place AFTER his one-on-one date with Jill. So, even after he spent time w/ her on the date and furthermore in the mansion, he still wanted out. There has been speculation that Jill & Ed were intimate in the mansion (thus explaining Jill’s over-the-top reaction to his leaving). If this is true, Ed sampled the merchandise (Jill) and STILL wanted to leave and go back to his “real” life. Therefore, his return smells of being producer driven and smells even further of $$$. And we digress from there! So, IMO, it now comes down to whether Jill is totally being duped by Ed and truly loves him OR whether she is in on an “engagement scheme/storyline” for the $$$. The next few weeks may prove to be interesting as we watch these two. Her move to Chicago may very well be a little suffocating for dear Ed so time will tell how this will play out. Thanks RS for sharing the info you received, as there are many still following the storyline that seems to not quite be finished…

  27. riored

    August 25, 2009 at 1:19 PM

    Like so many other commenters, I think Ed was Jillian’s “Plan B,” and they’re just playing their roles. I’m willing to bet that there will be a huge breakup, just in time to hype the next season of The Bachelor.

  28. sesmigs

    August 25, 2009 at 1:27 PM

    Why – with so much going on when he got home… did he go back???

  29. mja

    August 25, 2009 at 1:37 PM

    Steve, I noticed that you didn’t say who sent you the emails. maybe you don’t want to divulge your sources, but you didn’t even allude to the source. So how do you know they are accurate? (I believe they could be accurate, but am just wondering.) Mama Mia says the Bethany emails are accurate… but that comment was posted after the fact.

    Overall, this whole thing is a sad mess — but I have to say I’ve really enjoyed following the whole thing. Now, though, it’s getting older so I hope that at least the Reality Roundup posts will return soon. I’m not watching any reality or competition shows at the moment, except for HGTV Design Star (which I doubt that Steve watches)… still, I would enjoy Reality Roundup if it were to appear.

  30. Sophie-Anne

    August 25, 2009 at 1:40 PM

    Sounds like Ed had two girls he was involved with before he left for the show, and it sounds like he continued to string them along during the show in case Jillian didn’t pick him. The emails and texts clearly show that Ed was not serious about a relationship with either one of them, especially Lindsay who he talks to with the least respect of all. The long email by Bethany about him being on The Bachelorette makes her look pathetic. If she didn’t leak this herself, I have no idea why she confessed to it.

    Ladies, if your man leaves to be on this show, you can be absolutely certain he is not serious about your relationship! There is no gray area – unless you are hell bent to create one in your imagination.

    As far as Jillian and Ed – who knows? Maybe he fell in love and he’s serious now. Maybe they’re waiting out the right amount of time before they break up. Time will tell.

  31. happybunny09

    August 25, 2009 at 2:01 PM

    I disagree Sophie. Ed had a business that went defunct before he started working for Microsoft. You wanna bet that Ed has some outstanding debt he needed to clear up. There are a lot of Chicago Bachelor/ette alumni including Natalie the bartender at one of Ed’s favourite hangouts, Sushi Samba. Need money Ed have we got an idea for you for a fun way to score some nice cash and party your way to it.

    If anyone has followed any of the VH1 dating reality shows which yes are fake and don’t try to hide it anymore Hoops, the winner of Flavour of Love 1, had a boyfriend all along, she had no intention of hooking up with Flav she was out for the $250,000 prize oh yeah they never mentioned that on the show that the winner scored $250,000 but when you think about you’d have to pay women at least that much to be in the same room with Flav. Now the Bachelor is not that lucrative for the contestants themselves, not usually, but it has the same kind of promotional opportunties. Then when Hoops did I Love Money she was open about the fact she had the same boyfriend since high school and she won another $250,000. Though Real from Real Chance of Love was crushing on her, but that was just more acting, please. She even got a proposal, bwah.

    Nice way to make a cool half million? Boyfriend is happy – he’s reaping the benefits. So if you think these shows are fake or you see it is a good way to make money and Ed was saying I am doing this for us babe you could see how a smooth operator might suck you in.

    Same thing happened on Rock of Love. The winner, Jesse had a boyfriend all along, she also had no intention of hooking with Bret Michaels, she too had planned along at taking the money and sharing with the boyfriend, and in fact I think the boyfriend taunted Bret before the reunion show where it was apparent Jesse was not the least bit interested in Bret, told him he should have picked Heather the stripper. She was a fine actress because she had me fooled, I was rooting for her.

    In Ed’s case, if you assume he’s always been a player, I have to wonder if he was really itching to be the next Bachelor but the TPTB had different plans for our man. To his dismay though I am sure he will milk or perhaps already has his Bachelorette notoriety with all the ladies who, believe it or not, will be throwing themselves at Ed, just as Bethany predicted.

    Bethany’s email indicated to me a very smart, logical analytical yet thoughtful mind and Ed’s more the fool for letting that one go methinks. You have to keep in mind not everyone is a fanatic about the show and knows every single detail from every season, not like us nutters, bwah.

  32. Jojojo

    August 25, 2009 at 2:10 PM

    It seems Ed’s motivation to do the show (other than perhaps his 15 mins) was $$$. His initial intentions may have been only to stay for two weeks and get whatever $$$ he could for simply appearing. What he didn’t count on was Jillian considering him a frontrunner. This resulted in his return to the show – completely producer driven. Not only would TPTB threaten w/ the contract, but they would remind him that more $$$ could come his way – there are additional payouts for being in the F4, with F1 payout being the largest. On a side note, it was rumored that Wes was guaranteed an F4 slot – $$$ payout for him. Keep this in mind when you are considering why Jillian kept him so long on the show. Her “interest” in Wes could have been producer driven as well??? Wes grew on me, particularly post-show when his side of the story came out.

  33. MtnDweller

    August 25, 2009 at 2:19 PM

    Reality Steve: Help me to understand the time line after the Final Rose Ceremony (FRC). Ed goes home, and sleeps with Lindsey on June 4th. Lindsey asks him if he is the “Final One.” Ed says, “Wait until July 20th, and I’ll be able to explain everything.” Jillian says that after the FRC, they spent every day together, expect about 5 days. Lindsey and Bethany did not come forward until after the airing of the last episode (After the Final Rose), which was in early August. Where did Ed say he would be from June 4th until the last episode aired (June 4th – July 27th) or had he broken up with both of these women?

  34. mamak

    August 25, 2009 at 2:58 PM

    My mom always used to say that there were three sides to every story.

    1) his side
    2) her side
    3) the truth

  35. mamma mia

    August 25, 2009 at 3:41 PM

    I REALLY am Bethany’s mom. She did not leak this e-mail. She is NOT interested in perpetuating this story. I know I am her mom, but she is an intelligent young woman who trusted the wrong guy. She’ll probably be upset with me for posting, but a mother’s love wants to defend my daughter. He told her there was nothing to worry about, she was” worrying too much” after she sent that heartfelt e-mail. Ed was portraying to her that he was the fun, adventurous type and thought going on the show would be a fun adventure, nothing more. He even led her on to believe it would probably be hard to do the show because he wasn’t sure his work would allow it. Hind sight is 20-20, you know. Now she knows what a smooth talker he was. Lindsey and Bethany were duped by a guy who said whatever he needed to say to suit the moment. All I can say is if ABC and the producers were not aware of all of Ed’s antics, then they must feel duped as well.

  36. palm

    August 25, 2009 at 4:47 PM

    Did Ed leak the emails? I think so.

    The more this goes on the more “fame” he gets, not to mention appearance fees at those provincial, cheesy bars in Chicago he hangs out at.

  37. Sophia Kay

    August 25, 2009 at 5:52 PM

    I just think it boils down to iron clad contracts and money. I would bet that they both are contractually required, regardless of what really happens, to remain a couple and act like a couple for a certain period of time. Similar contractual requirements have been leaked previously regarding past participants. I suspect there is money tied to it as well and there may be “bonus” money for “staying” together for a specified longer timeframe. I suspect Ed was one of those Bachelor’s that it was leaked out before the season started that was paid early on to sign on to do the show.. I don’t buy it…..

  38. je2

    August 25, 2009 at 9:34 PM

    Who cares? You didn’t like people dumping on your man Wes – leave Jillian and Ed alone. It is over – why should YOU care? How does it affect anyone else but Ed and Jillian? Why the hell extend anyone’s 15 minutes of fame. Lordy, even the relatives are posting – certainly they should know enough to keep their mouths shut. I may not care for a whole bunch of Bachelor cast members, but there is no reason that I can see for dumping on anyone after the show is over.

  39. petunia

    August 25, 2009 at 10:56 PM

    je2 – it’s not a mater of “dumping on people”. It’s all about exposing the show for the fake it is.
    Like happybunny says above – there’s a financial incentive. Ed was not really interested in Jillian, and I bet he still isn’t. He went on the show because he was promised some money. He didn’t think he was going to get chosen, he went along for the ride, and he was never a serious contender anyway. The producers pop for a diamond ring, so what the hell, he gets a ring. the engagement is fake, the whole show is fake.
    once in a while they might get a true “happy ending” where two people fall in love and live happily ever after.
    But ever since Brad’s season – when people were PISSED that there was no happy ending – the show has to manufacture the story to give the audience what they want.
    only, some of us can see through it.
    When Ed told Jillian he had to leave the show for work, he was ACTING. And so was Jillian. It was a scene from a play, and the script had been written y someone else.

  40. gabriella703

    August 26, 2009 at 12:23 AM

    I am astounded by the amount of people that: (1) think these women are lying to get small amounts of dollars and media attention when it subjects them to tons of criticism and ridicule from crazy JED fans; (2) think that after all the evidence that has come out that Ed is still some great catch; (3) think Jillian is a great woman for standing by her man; and (4) continue to dump all this crap all over the internet.

    (1) Why would these women lie? It is not like the story is flattering to them. They were in love, or falling in love, lied to and all of these rumors were flying around the internet before the final rose ceremony. The story would have been published anyway, and this way, at least they got to say their piece.
    (2) Ed appears to be disgusting. I liked some of his edit on the Bachelorette and was even embarassed for him when they insinuated that he had problems in the bedroom. Now, all of that is clear. Everything that he has done post show and reflecting back (like when he freaked out about the girlfriend rumors – he said something like – that must be completely fabricated! whereas others said this was probably told to someone in confidence). Botttom line – even if he all of a sudden “loves” Jillian – he is not someone I would want to date, love or have a family with given his past history of lies, deception and terrible treatment of women.
    (3) I’ve always liked Jillian. She was my absolute favorite from day 1 with Jason and I loved her throughout this season. She just made a bad choice. No one can admit it. Even if she knows what a scum Ed is and thinks he is a new man, I still question her judgment at this point. What? You are ready to get married and have children with someone like Ed? Maybe not.
    (4) JED lovers need to address all of the things that have come to light. You can’t just call everyone a liar. The only reason I am interested is because I want to know who the next bachelor is and am occasionally bored at work or tied to home because I am a mom. And I suppose JED should be left alone – BUT they both went on a reality tv show!! Ed likes to call himself “Hollywood Ed.” I think they (or at least ED) was well aware that this would all be an issue. Or – he may not be so smart. U of M is definitely the better school in Michigan.

    So, thanks Reality Steve. I’ve become a fan. And will be reading your column when the Bachelor returns.

    PS. Have to say this – I hope it’s Reid…

    PPS. Wow, I didn’t know I cared so much…

  41. MtnDweller

    August 26, 2009 at 12:23 AM

    Found the answer to my question “Where did Ed tell Lindsey and Bethany he was between May 24th and July 27th when he was away seeing Jillian over the summer: http://topreasonstolovethebachelor.blogspot.com/2009/07/ed-and-jillian-harris-blog.html

    Here is what Jillian said in her blog, “As I type this, we are off to our FIRST outing in public, hopefully just wings and beer! I am so excited and so eager to get my normal little life back. Ed and I have spent the summer together (every two weeks for five days at a time) and it truly does keep on getting better and better. We have so much fun together, know one another so well and find ourselves so comfortable with each other. We have learned so much about one another and I am loving every minute of it.”

  42. chick-in-heels

    August 26, 2009 at 9:08 AM

    Its not as difficult as we may think to figure out what Ed could use as his reasoning with Jillian regarding contact with these two ladies. Wouldn’t it be easy enough to just say he was hanging onto them in case Jillian ended up breaking his heart??? I’d lay money that’s the route he went with – envoke Jillian’s sympathy.. right? When you’ve been wronged in a relationship – especially publicly – I think it’s instinct to want to believe you were not screwed over. I hope the fog clears for Jillian and that she moves on to brighter days without that dud.

  43. Teresa

    August 26, 2009 at 1:07 PM

    “It’s all about exposing the show for the fake it is”.———— Not so much, we have known this for a long time.

  44. happybunny09

    August 26, 2009 at 2:46 PM

    Well Teresa if you check a certain Pro Ed site, they haven’t got the memo. They think Ed could walk on water, he is the bestest dreamiest catch in the history of the show and Ed and Jillian are Romeo and Juliet, a love eternal. It goggles the mind.

  45. cubbieblue Kristin

    August 26, 2009 at 2:48 PM

    lemon :
    Someone on twitter posted to Steve:
    Ed is cheater, met him at Hunt Club in Chicago sat.night, tried to hook up with my sis & was smoking cigs out of nose. Douche
    me again… hahaha that totally sounds like Ed “Jenga Farts” Swiderski too, I can just see him smoking cigs out of his nose to impress the chicks — because he’s the type of douche who thinks that IS impressive. Bet he wears Ed Hardy tshirts too. laugh!

    I think the most likely explanation for all this mess is that Ed and Jill are faking this for the publicity and money and they’ll announce a break-up in 4-6 months. No big deal.

    I get that impression too. I work in Chicago.. will have to start hanging out at cheesy places like the Hunt Club too (no offense if you like it there) and see if I see good ‘ole Ed. If that is indeed thru, no way is he w/ Jillian. It’s for publicity then.

    The only thing that makes me sad about that is that she wasted everyone’s time by choosing Ed instead of Reid b/c it REALLY looked like Reid had fallen for Jillian. Do you guys think that was all false too? What I’m saying is she could have just picked Reid instead if she knew Ed was such an idiot.

  46. happybunny09

    August 26, 2009 at 2:49 PM

    yikes that is “boggles” the mind, Freudian or Googlian slip.

  47. cubbieblue Kristin

    August 26, 2009 at 3:27 PM

    lemon :
    Someone on twitter posted to Steve:
    Ed is cheater, met him at Hunt Club in Chicago sat.night, tried to hook up with my sis & was smoking cigs out of nose. Douche
    me again… hahaha that totally sounds like Ed “Jenga Farts” Swiderski too, I can just see him smoking cigs out of his nose to impress the chicks — because he’s the type of douche who thinks that IS impressive. Bet he wears Ed Hardy tshirts too. laugh!
    I think the most likely explanation for all this mess is that Ed and Jill are faking this for the publicity and money and they’ll announce a break-up in 4-6 months. No big deal.

    LOL! Good ole Ed. If this is true…. they’re definitely in it for publicity. I work in Chicago, I should go back to cheesy places like Hunt Club (no offense if you like it there). Maybe I’ll see good ole Ed there. LOL.

    My thought is if Jillian knew he was a douchebag and they would just break up in 3 mo’s anyway, why not just pick Reid then? Reid certainly appeared to have real feelings for her. Or was that all a lie too?

  48. cubbieblue Kristin

    August 26, 2009 at 3:30 PM

    sorry for the dup post.

  49. Mozart

    August 26, 2009 at 3:43 PM

    cubbieblue Kristin :

    lemon :Someone on twitter posted to Steve:Ed is cheater, met him at Hunt Club in Chicago sat.night, tried to hook up with my sis & was smoking cigs out of nose. Doucheme again… hahaha that totally sounds like Ed “Jenga Farts” Swiderski too, I can just see him smoking cigs out of his nose to impress the chicks — because he’s the type of douche who thinks that IS impressive. Bet he wears Ed Hardy tshirts too. laugh!
    I think the most likely explanation for all this mess is that Ed and Jill are faking this for the publicity and money and they’ll announce a break-up in 4-6 months. No big deal.

    I get that impression too. I work in Chicago.. will have to start hanging out at cheesy places like the Hunt Club too (no offense if you like it there) and see if I see good ‘ole Ed. If that is indeed thru, no way is he w/ Jillian. It’s for publicity then.
    The only thing that makes me sad about that is that she wasted everyone’s time by choosing Ed instead of Reid b/c it REALLY looked like Reid had fallen for Jillian. Do you guys think that was all false too? What I’m saying is she could have just picked Reid instead if she knew Ed was such an idiot.

    I saw that……It’s so sad. I really like that site and have friends there….and I was a huge “JEDI” too…..until all these revelations about Ed went public with the US Weekly articles and became known by the public.
    I can’t believe that with all this public knowledge about Ed now….that fans can totally ignore this and continue to “swoon” over Ed – as though none of this had happened…… 🙁

  50. Mozart

    August 26, 2009 at 3:46 PM

    “Well Teresa if you check a certain Pro Ed site, they haven’t got the memo. They think Ed could walk on water, he is the bestest dreamiest catch in the history of the show and Ed and Jillian are Romeo and Juliet, a love eternal. It goggles the mind”

    Oops!~ This is the quote- above – that I thought I had copied and pasted.

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