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Bachelorette 6 Recap – 7/19/10 Including The Truth Behind Frank’s Exit

Remember, for this seasons spoilers, click on the either of the two links under the banner above (Part 1 & Part 2) for all your answers regarding what happens this season. Part 1 has had my thoughts on everything that went down with Frank for the last couple months and nothing has changed.

A couple things to clear up from last Wednesday’s post that addressed the preview clip which ABC put out regarding Frank’s visit to Nicole. If you go back to the Part 1 spoilers where I talk about Frank, I said that Frank filmed his segment with Nicole after Ali left his hometown, but before he went to Tahiti. That’s what I knew. What a lot of you seem to be forgetting (or may not even know), is how the shooting of the show is done once they’re down to the final four guys. I remember a few seasons back in a post I explained this, but for the life of me, I can’t remember which one it was, so I will explain again.

Once they are down to the final four, these guys are secluded from EVERYONE, even each other. In fact, from the time of the final four all the way down to the final two, you never even are able to speak to anyone else on the show outside of the Bachelor/ette. How? Lets take this season for example (but it’s like this every season), once down to four, Kirk, Roberto, Chris, and Frank are placed in four separate hotels with only their handlers. They don’t go home and chill for a week with family and friends waiting for Ali to show up. They are absolutely secluded from each other in separate LA hotels. Once it’s their turn for the hometown, they’re flown out with their handlers, and STILL not allowed to see family. They are put up in a hotel in their hometown until their date begins. So Ali and Roberto’s date begins, they play baseball, have a picnic, and when they walk into Roberto’s house to meet his family, that’s the first time Roberto is seeing his family since he’s been back as well. Wash, rinse, and repeat for the other three dates. Once the date is over, Ali leaves, the guys do not stay at their parents house in their old bed, no, they are taken back to their hotel in town, flown back to LA the next day, back to their hotel with their handler and just wait everything out until the rose ceremony comes up.

So what do they do? Nothing. Basically all they can do is use the gym, rent movies, or go to the movies – all with their handler. Remember, at this time, the show obviously isn’t airing, so people have no idea who these guys are, but still, they are kept under lock and key that they don’t go crazy on their phone and internet talking to a bunch of people. So if you have the first hometown, you have a long ass wait afterwards. Usually around a week or so. And if you have the last one, like Frank, you’re waiting a week or more with nothing to do but basically think about your ex-girlfriend some more. So yeah, it’s starting to make a little more sense now, isn’t it? Final four rose ceremony comes, these guys are brought into the room one at a time, arriving in separate cars, and once in there, not allowed to say a word to each other. You can’t be like, “Hey man, how was your hometown? Ali and I did this, this, and this.” Nope. It’s like the freakin’ CIA. They don’t want any of them conversing for fear of info getting out that might influence the outcome. (Now tonight, you may have seen Chris say a little something to Roberto when he showed up, but there was nothing at stake since they were both getting roses). That big fat guy with the cap is there monitoring everything and makes sure no one talks to each other other than pleasantries. Once the elimination ends, all the guys go back to their hotels, and are flown on separate flights on different days, out to Tahiti. Once again, not all flying out on one flight shooting the breeze talking about Ali and their hometowns. Three separate flights all on different days. In fact, you don’t go out there until it’s your turn for your day with Ali. So Roberto goes first, then Chris, and while they’re gone, that’s when Frank was flown back to Chicago for his meeting with Nicole. So hopefully now you understand.

I will be doing another call-in internet talk show this Thursday night at 10pm EST/7pm PST, as I will be a guest of Olivia Wilder’s very popular internet talk show. She had Tenley and Jeremy on about a month ago and got a huge response, so when she asked me to do it, I decided it’d be a good idea. Everyone who listens will be able to call in and ask pretty much whatever you want. I will have the link and call-in number here on the site this Thursday night so you’ll be able to listen by just coming back here. Looking forward to doing it and hearing all of your questions. It’s been a few months since we’ve done one of these and I’m excited. Hope to hear from a lot of you. Here is a facebook reminder with an awful crop job done on an old picture…ha ha

Reality Steve Joins Olivia Wilder

Finally, something to mention about last Wednesday’s column. I said that there has been an instance where I was wrong about something I posted and that I would share it either sometime during “Bachelor Pad” or afterwards. A few of you seemed to assume that it had to do with Ali’s season. Go back and read what I wrote. Nowhere did I say it had to do with Ali’s season. Why? Because it didn’t. So why not mention it now? Because I feel it’s important enough to where it should stand on its own. I don’t want to bring it up during the height of Ali’s season because I think it’ll lose its effect. I misreported something that I was quite careless about, I’m embarrassed by it, and I’m going to own up to my mistake. Unlike most people on the internet who run with stuff, and when its not true, they either never admit to their mistake or you never hear from them again. This also isn’t going to be some one sentence apology thrown into a column. This is going to be a one-on-one interview with someone from the show to tell everyone when I made the mistake, how I made it, why I made it, followed by an apology to this person. So just wanted to clear that up for people thinking I was covering myself just in case Ali’s engaged. Nope. My mistake had nothing to do with this season and I stand by what I posted it on June 21st, and haven’t backed off since. Ali is single.

If you want to read the uneventful happenings at the “Men Tell All” taping this past weekend, then skip down to the next post to read those. Despite what the previews showed, no, Justin wasn’t there. Obviously for the unspoiled audience, they want people to think he’s there so they’ll tune in. He wasn’t. They did the same thing last season when they promoted Jake would confront Rozlyn for the first time since her elimination, and we all know he never did. It’s just hype. Like when they show Jake going off in an ITM last season and walking off which never aired, clips a couple weeks ago possibly making you think Ty was in Tahiti, cop car/ambulance lights early on this season, and aerial shots of cop cars outside of house. Just a way to make you think something major happens when it doesn’t. It’s like a given they will do that every season, and this one is no different. On to last night…

-Maybe they’ve done it before on the overnight dates, but if they did, I don’t remember. Starting out the show with a recap of each guy and their mini-journey to get where they are with Ali? Really? I thought they did that in the final episode. Hmmmm. Not sure. Regardless, that’s how last night started out and we get to see Chris at the top of his LA hotel, smiling, deep in thought, and nodding continuously at…uhhhh…I have no idea. Exactly what was he nodding at? If I know LA like I do, and I could sort of pinpoint where Chris was, my guess is as he was overlooking LA from the top of his hotel with a giant grin on his face nodding uncontrollably, my guess is he was able to see the Spearmint Rhino strip club next to Staples Center from where he was. Hey, just a guess on my part. But that’d sure have me nodding and grinning from ear to ear. You know, because I heard it’s a really cool place with private champagne rooms and…forget it.

-Roberto is shown packing in his hotel room and talking about his excitement for Tahiti. So we see him stuff a couple shirts in there, a few pairs of shorts, and wait for it, wait for it…a Lion King CD! Hey Roberto, I know you had some very intimate moments with Ali up on stage during your time on the Lion King, but something tells me you won’t be blaring “Hakuna Matata” in your headphones on the way to Tahiti, so cut it out with the nostalgic smile as you pack away the CD. Roberto: “Ali is unlike any women I’ve ever met.” Well, of course except for Gabrielle, the girl you were dating before you left for the show, never told her you were going on and she found out by turning on her TV since you didn’t bother to even tell after you got back. Awwwww, too bad. Of course I believe that all these guys have chicks back home that they could hook right back up with when filming ends. It’s just a matter of how much you believe their story. As for Gabrielle? Eh. No idea so I’m not gonna begin to speculate. But would it surprise me if it was true? Of course not. Nothing surprises me when it comes to this show, and I hope it doesn’t for you either.

-Of course as we see Frank getting ready in his hotel room, he informs us that something has been weighing on his mind that he hasn’t told Ali (or the viewing audience yet), and that’s that he’s been thinking of his ex-girlfriend Nicole. Yes, this is the first time in nine episodes the show has mentioned an ex-girlfriend Nicole, so to the unspoiled, this comes as a shocker. However, as mentioned in Part 1 of the spoilers, Frank had told producers about Nicole long before this episode. He wanted to tell Ali about her as far back as NY. But, that wouldn’t make for good TV. Essentially Frank knew he wanted to leave for a while, but wasn’t allowed to. It was finally agreed upon that, “Ok Frank, we’ll let you tell Ali about Nicole. But you’ll do it on our terms. You will tell her in Tahiti, and we will film you getting back with Nicole to make it more dramatic.” Basically, tit for tat. They let him leave, but not under his circumstances. He was going to do it in a way that would make it the most dramatic exit possible. And as you saw, it pretty much was. I’m on Team Frank. Pretty much because I know most of the angry housewives all hate him now, so I feel bad for him. By no means does that mean I’m not on Team Ali, I’m just saying I felt bad for the guy last night. This show has no care in the world for its contestants and they will exploit them as much as they can to get what they want.

-For those that choose to believe the first time Frank brought up Nicole to the producers was after he received the rose and found out he was going to Tahiti, I’ve got some land to sell you. Just like they knew they had the Jessica storyline back home with Justin and waited until after his 2-on-1 with Kasey to play it, they knew as early as New York that there was potential with the Nicole storyline. They just figured having him leave in Tahiti to say he still loved an ex-girlfriend wouldn’t be enough unless they showed him struggling with his feelings and talking to her. You know the ironic thing in all this? All Frank really did last night was basically choose Nicole over Ali. Nothing more, nothing less. The guy made a decision to be with someone he felt more secure with rather than risk something with Ali. No different than what Ali does at every rose ceremony when she chooses some guys over others.

-If you say, “Well no, because he wasn’t honest with her. He should’ve told her that right when he first started thinking he wanted to be with his ex.” If they would’ve let him, he would’ve. He wasn’t allowed to. If you say, “Well, why did he wait until Tahiti?” Again, I’ll tell you that it wasn’t his choice. He has no say in something like that. It was great, dramatic television last night, and that’s exactly what they wanted. And the fact he’s still together with Nicole right now seems to me the guy made the right decision. But lets say the guy ends up marrying her someday, you still gonna hate him for leaving Ali when he did? Of course you won’t. Hell, when they tape the “After the Final Rose” this weekend, I’m sure Ali’s over it too. I can’t imagine two months after the fact, and knowing he’s still with Nicole, that Ali is still pining for him. Frank chose Nicole over Ali. End of story. Who am I to tell him he’s an idiot? The guy would rather go with the sure thing than try some phony relationship on a show where it basically never works out between the final couple. Do you blame him?

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  1. swamp witch

    July 23, 2010 at 2:00 AM

    I forgot to mention that I think Ali is stunning even though she has, indeed, put on a few pounds. I do get tired of her laughing at every inane comment, but she probably does it to keep sane.

    I don’t know where people get off saying Chris or any of the others are too good for Ali. It sounds like the green monster of jealousy rearing its ugly head. None of us know her, and there is no way we can know what she is really like from this farcical show.

  2. realitybytes

    July 23, 2010 at 7:09 AM

    I’m actually surprised no one has mentioned this one yet:
    Frank = Woody Allen

  3. chelly-chan

    July 23, 2010 at 7:20 AM

    “Stunning” is not a word I would use for Ali’s looks. She is “cute” in a Doris Day sort of way.
    She has an odd nose and not the best mouth. Now GIA – I thought her looks were STUNNING.
    Gia is also very feminine which Ali is not. Ali is like a tomboy. Maybe this tomboy aspect appeals to many men but I think most men prefer feminine women.

  4. Lucetto

    July 23, 2010 at 9:51 PM

    Good for you KBO !!! Hopefully Chris is reading this blog and saying : hum, where can I get that beer ???
    On another note, just a question, did Reality Steve say they were filming the after the final rose ceremony on saturday ? I thought it was tape live after we see the last episode on tv???

  5. LetsBowl

    July 24, 2010 at 4:44 AM

    I apologize if you’ve answered this before, but is it part of the contract or a production rule that everyone has to say “I’m falling in love with Bachelor/Bachelorette?” B/c EVERYONE says that. Do they just do that so if they get dumped, they don’t have to look back on saying they were “in love” or so they don’t feel like they were lying about being in love, or what? Because I am happily “in love” with my boyfriend, and I never once told him I was “falling in love” with him when we were getting to that “in love” point. What’s up with that?

  6. Fergie

    July 24, 2010 at 8:48 AM

    I agree with Sunnyside, MindyM, and LatinLover. Roberto looks and humbleness is refreshing. I’ll take him sweat and all! Sunnyside comments are identical to what I think. Just to add a few more comments … I am still hopeful Ali picked Roberto and R. Steve winning streak of being dead on point has ended as far as the actual ending of who Ali picks or if she picks anyone at all. I have seen a couple of interviews with Ali and she of course is very tight lip with what happens at the end of the Rose Ceremony. She flirts with all of the possibilities even the one that she picks no one. That possibility is too close to her telling the world and breaching her contract though. When Ali was interviewed on “Ellens” show she came out with pep in her step smiling like someone in love to me. Actually during all the interviews I’ve seen she appears happy. Ali lit up in the presence of Roberto and I believe her feelings may have been more than just physical. I read on Ali’s comments on the Bacherlorette that her FS with Roberto they talked, “just talked” until early morning then they snuck out and went to her place on the island. That maybe where the real deal happened if at all.

    Had Frank stayed in the game, I believe it would have came down to Frank and Roberto. Considering how giddy Ali is around Roberto, I believe she would have picked Roberto in the end. Roberto (unfamiliar and she’s not use to) unless she coward out and would have picked Frank in the end who was familiar and safe (that’s exactly what Frank did when he went back to Nichole, he started getting terrified when he kept seeing Ali kissing different guys). Ali is adventusome so that’s why I say she would have picked Roberto (At lease I am hoping she would have been smart enough to do so).

    Steve, I am still hoping that the show planted some boguss plants out there to give you just enough accurate info except the end. Oh and by the way, I too am hoping sweet Chris L. is the next bachelor on a quest with 25 women then we’ll get to see another side of him we didn’t really get a chance to see because we were consume with his grievence.

    P.S.: Whatever the final ending on August 2 … we’ll get to see if Ali picked love and family or once again her career.

  7. MindyM

    July 24, 2010 at 12:16 PM

    I dislike it when people assume that other women are jealous if they say that Chris and Roberto are too good for Ali. What makes anyone think that comments has to do with looks? Some people really get touchy here when it comes to being protective of someone they do not even know. Chill out!

    This is not about looks or being jealous of Ali! I am much older than her, so it’s not like we are in a competition. I just see what I see, that’s all. She seems very immature, superficial and totally not ready to settle down. I have no problem with her looks. She is a pretty girl, more like a Doris Day type as a few have pointed out. Roberto certainly seems to be attracted to her and so does Chris! I question her judgement for falling for a nerdy, insecure, neurotic guy like Frank! Here she has two quality guys in Roberto and Chris, and she breaks down sobbing because pathetic Frank wants to run back to his safety net, otherwise known as Nicole? Come on! She has a lot of growing up to do!


    Thanks for your kind words. You have had a similar experience to Chris and live near him, so one never knows! I am sure you are one of many who have come to love this guy. I don’t get annoyed by Chris talking about his mother, because that’s normal. I lost my father two and half years ago, but he lived to get old and had a full life. It was still difficult. It is always hard to lose a parent, no matter when it happens. Steve loves to tease people about becoming so invested in this show and the people involved, but I can see how it happens. We identify with them and what they have been through in life. We do get emotionally invested, because it’s life being played out right before our eyes. Even if it is manipulated and all that we see is not real, we are still drawn into the intrigue and drama. That’s why this show is still around.

    I hope you find your happiness, whether you meet up with Chris or another great guy.

    While some are hoping that TPTB have found a way to fool Steve, I just don’t see it happening. If I didn’t already know the spoilers, I would think that Ali chooses Roberto. They have this intense attraction that is definitely real. I can see her connection with Chris, but not the kind of physical heat she has with Roberto. Now, that doesn’t always make for a lasting relationship, but it’s a good start!

    The bottom line is that I have no reason to doubt Steve’s sources at this point. They haven’t been wrong yet, so until they are I will have to accept the fact that in the end Ali is single. As Steve said, how she gets there is something that we will have to watch to find out.

  8. CaSurfLady

    July 24, 2010 at 2:12 PM

    I want to know what man she does pick. and Why she let Ty


    July 24, 2010 at 9:12 PM

    Gonna keep this short and sweet…
    -Thrilled to be posting on Reality Steve’s Hallowed Ground… .”long time follower, first time “speaker upper,” so to speak…
    -Really don’t get the Frank bashing… Quirky? yes. Someone compared him to Woody Allen like that was a bad thing. Sure, he married his adopted stepdaughter, but before that he was fucking hilarious and he still is a brillian director. I’ll bet 98% of you would put “sense of humor” as the most attractive quality you’re looking for…(I remember Jillian did… and Tristan got a hoot out of Bob…) if not, then thanks for leaving the Franks of the world for people like me…
    -I think Frank was very honest with his exit. I believe RS that he wanted to go earlier. When he was allowed to say his good byes, I think he did it with integrity.
    That’s all. I love this web site and the postings. And whoever turned me on to “Eudie Tuesday,” thank you for that!Don’t really care how this all ends, although I am dreading watching Chris be hurt… My dream is to live on Cape Cod, but I’m married… Otherwise…

  10. CS1972

    July 24, 2010 at 9:59 PM

    @LetsBowl: As far as I know, the Bachelor/ette (Ali, Jake, etc.) can’t say certain things to the contestants, definitely anything related to “falling in love”. I’m pretty sure it’s in their contract, because when the “choice” is made, the Bachelor/ette sometimes says something like “I can finally tell you now, I love you” or whatever. Now as far as the contestants, I guess they can say what they want… I think… didn’t Chris say “I love you” when they were rolling in the grass? I don’t know. I just know the Bach/ette can’t say certain things.

  11. MindyM

    July 25, 2010 at 7:32 PM

    I also had another comment for those who have been critical of Ali for being so upset that Frank left her for his ex-girlfriend. In their eyes, Ali leaving on Jake’s season for her job is pretty much the same thing! I do not agree! It’s one thing for someone to leave because of work, but quite another to leave for a girlfriend/boyfriend. As it happens, I never really believed that Ali left Jake for her job. I thought it was all a clever ploy on behalf of TPTB to set her up to find true happiness as the next Bachelorette.

    What some people also seem to forget is the premise of the show. It’s up to the bachelor/bachelorette to do the choosing. Those who are vying for his/her affections are supposed to be doing so in good faith, not with a backup girlfriend waiting at home in the wings. I have no idea why Frank went on the show, but I do believe that it had nothing whatsoever to do with finding real love. If he wanted to leave sooner because of his feelings for his girlfriend, then maybe he should have found a way to do it or read the fine print in the contract before he signed on the dotted line.

    I don’t think Frank has integrity, is even witty or funny or even remotely appealing. I will gladly leave him for other women. Good luck Nicole! I think he was stupid, selfish, clumsy and unbearably neurotic the whole time he was on the show. I don’t hate him, because he’s not worth the energy. Hopefully, he will now find a real job, maybe manage to get some connections from his stint on the show so that he can actually become a screenwriter and quickly fade into obscurity. At least he made some money going so far on the show, so in his eyes it wasn’t a total loss.

    I will just never understand how Ali could have taken Frank seriously and allowed herself to be devastated by his leaving. Frank would never have a chance against Roberto and Chris and even he knew it! So he made the safe choice. God bless and good riddance.

    I also think that we should not think that we really know Roberto and Chris. As appealing as they appear to be, we haven’t met them and had a real conversation with either of them. No one is perfect. In that sense, I think Steve is right when he says that people become hugely invested in these people, as they we really know them. Roberto and Chris are two of the most popular, most well-liked bachelors ever to grace this show and that is quite an accomplishment. If we saw them in real life, we might not put them on a pedestal.

    I think everyone is going to come out of this just fine. People shouldn’t worry about Chris, because he has gotten his feet wet in the dating scene, even if it was in front of millions of viewers. Now he can move on and eventually find real love. Roberto has his own career goals, is confident and grounded and will definitely have no problem attracting tons of women. Ali will get her shot at a career in show biz. So all’s well that ends well!

  12. salina30

    July 26, 2010 at 8:36 PM

    Just listened to your interview on Olivia Wilder Times… great interview! You are so right though, I never really watch the show any more I just come straight to your site and read it. I love how you input your opinion and tell exactly the way it goes down. Truly an unrealistic show and I’m glad you’re able to show people that. Keep it up!

  13. TravelGuy

    July 26, 2010 at 9:10 PM

    Steve…I just have to say THANK YOU for doing your recaps. My wife loves the show. Me? Never liked it. Alas, I live in a loft so there is no escaping when the show is on. However, while she watches I crank up the tunes in the headphones and read your blog. Why follow your blog if I can’t stand the show? Because your take and humor on the ridiculousness of the show is GREAT and I find myself cracking up several times while reading each post. Keep up the great work!!

  14. d.kraker

    July 27, 2010 at 5:36 PM

    Hi, I’ve just started reading your blog, but have watched every Bachelor/ette show. It’s getting worse every year. When watching The Men Tell All last night, they showed bloopers of the show. The guys and Ali were themselves. They were not robots. It was hilarious when Ali saw the rat. Why can’t they show things like that? That’s what I would like to see throughout the whole season, people just being themselves. Everyone says the exact same thing every year. If I hear “amazing” one more time, well, I don’t know what I might do. Anyway, keep up the good work.

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