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More “Bachelor” News & “Reader Emails” – 1/14/11

For episode-by-episode spoilers of Brad’s season, click on the link above that says “Bachelor Brad Spoilers”. It has a breakdown of every date, rose, and elimination, all the way down to Brad’s final choice. However, there will be spoilers talked about throughout the course of this column. You’ve been warned.

This past Monday, Brad appeared on Kidd Kraddick’s morning radio show here in Dallas. Kidd has had me on probably five or six times in the past couple years to talk all things “Bachelor/ette” related, including giving the spoilers. So naturally once they had Brad on, they had to bring up the fact that Reality Steve has let out the spoilers the last few seasons, and see what his reaction was. Click on the following link and listen to this quick 1:30 second clip of Brad speaking about me on this past Monday’s show:

Brad on with Kidd Kraddick, 106.1 FM Dallas (1/10/11)

Well, thank you Brad. I agree with everything you said. Wanted to make one point of clarification in case you’re a little confused. When Brad said, “I do know Reality Steve”, he wasn’t inferring that we’ve hung out. As I’ve told you, I’ve never met Brad before. I believe he was insinuating, “I’m aware of who he is and what he does”. Am I a “really nice guy?” I mean, c’mon. That’s easy. Of course I am. Brad and I have talked one time, which was back after his finale aired three years ago. We were gonna do an interview, then something fell through and it didn’t happen. And when Brad says I’ve always been real nice to him, I think he’s referring to the fact that when all of the nutjob fans were crucifying him for dumping DeAnna and Jenni, I was front and center telling everyone it was my favorite finale ever and Brad did the right thing if that’s the way he felt. So yeah, I’ve never had anything against the guy. Was I surprised he decided to do this again? Sure. Am I still gonna crack on him and the show? Absolutely. But it doesn’t mean I don’t like the guy.

Probably my favorite part of the clip was Brad saying “the guy knows his business.” Very slick of him to follow that with a “but hey, that’s not a confirmation by any means”. He had to say that. I get it. But it was nice to see the actual lead from the show acknowledge that I know what the hell I’m doing. Of course, when someone asked Ali about me posting the spoilers back in December that Brad had chosen Chantal, she made a crack about me not being right about her and Roberto. Good one, Ali. Never thought you’d go there. Sure, one of these days I’d love to sit down and grab a beer with Brad when this is all said and done. Hell, maybe Chantal will even join us. But until then, just gonna have fun with this season, crack crude jokes, and wish them the best. When a couple gets married from this show, it’s the exception, not the rule. Am I cheering for Brad and Chantal to fail? Of course not. Just knowing about this show’s track record and awkward way to meet your future spouse, I just think the odds are stacked heavily against them. Maybe they’ll prove me wrong. Time will tell.

There’s been a lot of talk about the ratings for the first two episodes this season, and people are thinking the show is on the decline because the ratings are down. Let me explain something about TV ratings for those who don’t follow it as closely as I do. Overall, yes, the show’s numbers are down. It’s averaging about 8.5 million viewers for the first two episodes. The first two episodes of Jake’s season last year at this time averaged around 10.5. So it’s down a little, but that’s certainly no cause for alarm like it’s not gonna get renewed or picked up. Why? Here’s why:

-The show won it’s time slot Monday night with that 8.5 million, including Adults 18-49.
-It was also Monday night’s highest rated show in Adults 18-34
-Most importantly, it won EVERY key women demographic for the night (W18-34, W18-49, W25-54), winning Monday night for the 2nd week in a row for women 18-34.
-Also, it kept 97% of its audience that watched the premiere, and the second episode even went up a little in the Women 18-34 demo.

Anyone that knows anything about TV or TV ratings knows that advertisers target women. If you have a successful show that does well in any women’s demographic, you will stay on the air. That’s just the way it is. Women are much more influenced by what they see on TV than men are, any advertising executive will tell you that. So, just because the show’s overall audience is down (and remember, the show always builds it’s audience as the season progresses) doesn’t mean it’s on the decline. My website numbers are actually above what they were last season at this time through two episodes, so, there’s zero cause for alarm in my camp. The die hards are gonna watch the show regardless of who’s on it. That’s proven season after season after season and why this is the 21st installment of the franchise. Quick, someone name me any other reality show other than “Survivor” and “Real World”, that’s done 21 seasons? So let’s take a deep breath and calm down about this show being on the decline.

Hey, I’m here to help, right? Well, do you realize how many former contestants are blogging in some form about this show nowadays? I think the total count is up to six (at least of what I’ve come across), and that’s not counting Trista tweeting her thoughts throughout the show, or Ali doing whatever the hell she does for the E! channel. Currently, here’s the list (along with links) to what former contestants are saying about this show if you wanna check them out:

Natalie Getz blog:

Molly Mesnick video blog:

Jessie Sulidis blogs for TV Guide Canada:

DeAnna Pappas blog:

Krisily Kennedy blog:

Elizabeth Kitt blog (Geez Elizabeth, you’re as long winded as me):

On to this week’s reader emails. Another interesting bunch to say the least. Some decent questions, some dumb questions, some repetitive questions, and even one questioned answered by a former female contestant from this show. The reaction last week to the “Reader Email” was overwhelmingly positive, which was a good thing. However, it seemed like it spawned more ridiculous emails to me. Whatever the case, enjoy this week’s batch of nonsense:


Dear Steve,

You are dead ON regarding your perception of Ali Fedotowsky. While the “Bachelorette” was airing on TV, she would call the L.A. based photographers and tip them off to all her whereabouts. But now, she rebukes the street paps and calls Getty Images to photograph her every time she steps out the door. She must be getting a piece of the photo sales pie. She is dismissive and rude to any photographer except those at Getty. A hapless pedestrian with a crappy cell phone camera took a terrible quality photo of her and poor Roberto in San Diego with Police surrounding them. It was sold to TMZ.

She took immediately to twitter and bitched that the aforementioned person should “Get a life” and other unpleasant barbs. It was a nasty tweet, and she must have realized that her fake sugary image was in jeopardy, so she quickly took it down.

I could tell you much more, but I don’t want to burn any bridges as of yet. You are the first newsperson/blogger who can see right through this beeyotch! The gossipy creepy Ali who was jealous of Vienna on Jake’s season seems to be the real Ali., a hard boiled fame whore at best.

Comment: Can’t say it’s the first time I’ve heard this, and I’m sure it won’t be the last. If true, the idea of calling the paparazzi and telling them where you are is about as self-absorbed as you can get. Ever since this show, this chick is drowning in her own self-absorption, if that’s even a word. It is now. All I ask is for people to be real and to show their true colors. And it’s become clear over the past couple years, that this show changes people, and usually for the worst. Unfortunately, Ali isn’t the only one it’s changed, and she won’t be the last.

I’ll keep this short and sweet. Love your blogs. Your sophomoric humor is quite entertaining. Thank you for taking the time and enduring the patience from Bachelor and Bachelorette fans all over to keep up on the show. Second, what is your opinion on Love? Do you think everyone has a soulmate (more than one) or is it just by chance?

Comment: My opinion on love? Sweet. I’m the Love Doctor now. I mean, I believe in love. Sure. Do I think everyone has a soulmate? No. I don’t consider anyone I ever meet a soulmate, even if they happen to end up being my wife. Too strong of a word. It’s a guessing game. You meet someone you care for, you fall for, you marry. You could be married for 50 years. You might get divorced after one. They’re your best friend and they’re your wife. Or they could turn out to be a monster after your money and wealth. Calling any partner a soulmate is just someone trying to be overly dramatic. They’re not a soulmate. That’s a little too deep and only for hopeless romantics who live and breathe by this show’s “love story.”

I was reading on another site that Maksim Chmerkovskiy from DWTS was approached about being the Bachelor before the producers went with Brad. Is there any truth to this rumor?

Comment: Yeah, apparently there’s a “he said/she said” debate going on here. Maksim said he was offered the gig, and ABC said they only talked to him about it. We might be splitting hairs here. Maksim knows whether he received an offer or not. Maybe him saying he was “offered” it, was his way of saying they asked him if he’d be interested. Either way, I don’t see how ABC could ever have offered it to him considering Brad’s season filmed from Sept. 25th through right before Thanksgiving. That was smack dab in the middle of “Dancing with the Stars” last season. So I’m sure they approached him, gauged his interest, and moved on. I don’t see why this is even news.

However, Maksim IS the next “Bachelor” for the Ukranian version of the show. Apparently he’s already filmed it back in December. Now, I have gotten a lot of people who’ve asked me if I have spoilers on that season. Huh? Last time I checked, DirecTV doesn’t have access to Ukraine’s cable lineup channels. How in the world would I know spoilers to Maksim’s “Bachelor” season in the Ukraine? I don’t even know any spoilers to any other show in the US (well, other than I read months ago that Boston Rob and Russell were coming back for the next season of “Survivor”), so I’m not sure where people would think I’d know anything about something filmed and airing in the Ukraine. By the way, is the Ukrainian version of Chris Harrison just as much of a company man as our guy is out here?

Do all of the girls on the show pack enough clothes/dresses/formal attire for the entire length of the show, just “in case” they make it to the end? I know you’ve said that they aren’t allowed to leave the house, and I just wondered how they get new clothes, get their hair colored/nails done, etc. (I’m assuming they have people come in to do hair/nails/make-up)? Especially since the girls who make it all the way to the end seem to wear a different dress to every single rose ceremony and never seem to wear the same outfit more than once. That would be a lot of clothes to pack since most of the time when you see a girl leave and they come to get her bags, she only has like two or three. Anyways, I know it’s a silly question, but just wondered if you had any idea/info on that!? Hopefully I’m not the only other girl out there who has even thought about this.

Comment: This is a good question. One I pretty much think I knew the answer to, but, I figured why not ask someone who was actually on the show how she packed when she left. Here is the answer from an anonymous former female contestant:

“This is the #1 question I get asked!

Before you leave for the show, you are told to pack as if you will be there for the entire time. You are told that you may only bring 2 suitcases. We do NOT have people come in to do our hair, make-up or nails. Everyone has to do their own. On my season, we killed a lot of down time doing our nails. Some days we would do them twice because there was nothing else to do! Once you get to hometown dates, you are all separated and living out of a hotel room. At that point, your handler can take you out to shop or get your hair done (only if that’s necessary), but again, you cannot go out by yourself. Before you embark on a shopping trip, your handler gets in touch with the three other handlers to let them know which shopping center you will be at. The other three girls may not go that shopping center while you are there, in the chance that you will run in to one another.

I’ve never had to pack so strategically in my life, because you have to prepare for any type of weather condition. You don’t know where you will be traveling, so you need clothes for a tropical trip, or an Antarctic trip! There are 8 (?) rose ceremonies, so you need to pack 8 dresses! A lot of girls borrow from their friends at home, or buy new ones. But again, the show provides us with nothing!”

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  1. jwilt

    January 14, 2011 at 4:44 PM

    OMG – love your site. These “e-mails” you get are hilarious and at the same time unbelievable. I’m really not sure why you respond to some of them because obviously these people have a hard time reading. LOL

  2. baglawa

    January 14, 2011 at 5:16 PM

    Yay! Thanks for answering my question Steve!! XOXOXOXOXO

  3. jax71868

    January 14, 2011 at 6:43 PM

    Some of these people are totally clueless. They can’t see the links on your website and don’t realize that you put the disclaimer about spoilers in before every write up that you post. It’s a wonder they know how to use a computer at all. Oh well, I could always use some mindless entertainment and a good laugh. That’s why I watch this show in the first place. Keep up the good work, Steve.

  4. dori

    January 14, 2011 at 7:20 PM

    Your final response to reader emails is priceless.

  5. RapidlyBlinkingDeanna

    January 14, 2011 at 7:46 PM

    You may want to run your own spell-checks, Steve. In this week’s recap you use the word “incrusted” multiple times. Sorry, dude, it’s actually “encrusted.” YOU are welcome.

  6. Dianne

    January 14, 2011 at 7:53 PM

    *gasp* – Steve is human!! He actually made typing errors..the world is coming to an end!

    Chill out Rapidly..geesh!

  7. AA

    January 14, 2011 at 10:27 PM

    The title of Elizabeth Kitt’s blog is “Bachelor Blog of Roses”. The address to her blog is The typo is not Steve’s.

    Just saying.

  8. daisha11

    January 15, 2011 at 4:56 AM

    I know you heard that saying, your mouth will get you into something that your ass can’t get you out of. I believe you will understand that when the show ends and you’re wrong again. Chantal is not Brad’s final pick. Don’t be mad at Ali because she played you. You might ought to zip that mouth and stick to writing your sarcastic blog on the episodes. LOL

  9. josie

    January 15, 2011 at 5:53 PM

    Ahh bravissimo, Steve! Bravvisimo.

    This is the Steve I do so admire. Fantastic, intelligent, hilarious blog.

    It is rather irritating for you to have to repeat shit constantly. My favorite responses:

    1.) the one to the reader who asked who would win and would keep it a secret.

    2.) the one that asked where your spoilers were.

    You know Steve, you’re the only blogger I regularly follow. I know everyone blogs these days but not everyone knows how to do it right. But you do. The writing is succinct, clear, and laced with humor. It is compelling enough to keep the reader intrigued. It is not “work” to read it, but a nice break from work. Good job, Steve.

  10. dori

    January 16, 2011 at 3:57 AM

    @josie: I couldn’t agree with you more!

  11. DallasMs

    January 17, 2011 at 2:58 PM

    Are you sure Ashton Kutcher hasn’t found your site and decided to punk you with some of these questions? Seriously?

    I think some of these questions say, “hey, never read you or heard of you, but heard your name mentioned, found your column, but I’m far to busy to read it….give me cliff notes and answer me personally.”

    Happy viewing tonight!

  12. mommyof2

    January 17, 2011 at 4:35 PM

    That last e-mail and your response was absolutely HILARIOUS!!! I laughed so hard I was crying- almost as much as when I watched the last Modern Family episode when Mitchell and Cam realize that the little red-haired boy who they though could be Mitchell’s son was really a midget man and they gave him a present which was a baseball glove that says “Little Slugger” on it. OMG! If you don’t watch Modern Family, you’re missing out!

  13. CJH

    January 17, 2011 at 7:34 PM

    Steve, absolutely LOVE your site. Your entries crack me up every time I read them. Look forward to them every week. Thanks for the laughs!!

  14. Nikki_Sue

    January 17, 2011 at 8:25 PM

    Hey Steve! If ever you come to Milwaukee or Chicago for a viewing party let me be the first to buy you a drink. Thanks for the laughs man!


  15. Keiki

    January 17, 2011 at 9:33 PM

    Steve–I feel your pain. As a web designer I’m constantly shocked how people can'[t seem to use simple navigation. Even when the information they are looking for is front and center on the site, like your “spoilers.” Keep up the great commentary. Always enjoy it.

  16. randais

    January 18, 2011 at 1:44 AM

    Nope No Knock Knock joke…..oh and Michelle is certifiable.

  17. midwestRN

    January 18, 2011 at 4:38 AM

    I love your reader email posts – seriously, I can’t believe how stupid some people can be. It’s not hard science to freaking find out the spoilers. GEEZ PEOPLE!

    Keep the awesome posts up RealitySteve…love your spoilers!

  18. lulubell

    January 20, 2011 at 1:06 PM

    I find it weird/hard to believe that a show that controls SO much doesn’t have a wardrobe and hair/makeup department working with the girls. If for nothing else, than to ensure that they don’t clash or look bad on screen – the show is, after all, selling a fantasy. Plus, on Monday’s episode, when they filmed the action movie, all the girls came out of the house in matching yoga/workout gear. Not uniforms, but complimentary colors and textures so they didn’t clash on camera. I didn’t check for a sponsor credit at the end, but I assumed there had to be. Then again, we saw Chris L. wearing jeans and sneakers every rose ceremony last season, so I guess if they had wardrobe help on staff, that would have been the time to use it!

  19. awomanda

    January 26, 2011 at 8:04 PM

    I’m an advertising exec, and I will tell you — advertisers don’t target women because they’re more influenced by what they see on TV than men. That’s ridiculous. They target women because women do more of the shopping than men.

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