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Michelle, Emily’s NASCAR Date, Tabloid News & Our Biggest “Reader Emails” Yet

For episode-by-episode spoilers of Brad’s season, click on the link above that says “Bachelor Brad Spoilers”. It has a breakdown of every date, rose, and elimination, all the way down to Brad’s final choice. However, there will be spoilers talked about throughout the course of this column. You’ve been warned.

Let me hit on the Wes and Vienna thing one final time before putting it to rest. So the rumor hit the tabloids that they’re an “item”. Whatever that means. If I printed something every time I heard who might’ve hooked up or is seeing each other from this show, that’s all this site would turn in to. The reason I referenced this rumor was because I knew I could go directly to the source. In case you didn’t come back to the site Tuesday night, when I asked Wes if there was anything going between he and Vienna considering they had spent time together last week, his response was:

Wes: “Nah, there’s nothing going on there. Vienna and I are just friends. We hung this weekend, but there was a bunch of people with us. I just met her on Friday night for the first time.”

When I emailed Vienna (first time I’d ever contacted her in my life), she said, “No comment.”

Gia then threw her two cents in with, “Wes is a snake who only cares about himself and uses people to try to get another 15 minutes of fame, so this doesn’t shock me about him at all.”

As I mentioned numerous times in the past, Wes and Gia were never an exclusive couple. They liked each other, they hung out, saw each other when they could, and that was that. People thinking that they were on the verge of marriage after what they saw on “Bachelor Pad” were just misinformed. Two different people with conflicting schedules that don’t live anywhere near each other. Just wasn’t gonna work. However, after Wes saw Gia’s response to him, he called me to respond to what she said. This is the last of it. Of course I could keep getting responses from people, but I figure this is enough at this point. She took a shot at him, so I’d let him respond. Here’s his response:

Wes: “Gia is a sweetheart and I have nothing but love for her. I’m sorry that she feels that way.”

Do what you want with that. I consider them both friends, and regardless of how they feel about each other, it’s not like I’m gonna sit here and choose sides. They both treat me well and that’s all I care about. If they have problems with each other, they can work it out on their own. Doesn’t change my opinion of either of them. So that’s that.

The reason I’ve been alluding to stuff getting out in the tabloids for the last 2-3 months is because I knew it would. If you didn’t see the Life & Style story on Michelle from this past Wednesday, here’s the link:

Yes, I was well aware that she had an affair with Carlos Boozer back when I confirmed her as a contestant on Oct. 27th. But it wasn’t my place to let people know. I would’ve gotten doubters, I would’ve gotten people saying you don’t know her, blah blah blah. Bottom line was, you’re right. I don’t know her. But I did know that the story was true and that it wasn’t a rumor. And it’s not like Life & Style printed speculation. Hell, Michelle ADMITTED to it. So I at least give her credit for that. Granted, I don’t believe for a second she didn’t know Boozer was married since it’s pretty easy to find info on a famous professional athlete, but hey, not my concern. Running from that story would’ve made it worse for her, since plenty of people in the Salt Lake area were well aware of her affair with Carlos. However, the strange thing to me is that she actually GAVE an interview. Your contract clearly states you can’t talk to the media until after your final episode airs. Michelle still has three episodes left before she leaves. And to a tabloid? Bizarre. So either ABC is behind it and approved this so she could get out in front of the story and create more interest in the show, or Michelle pulled a Wes/Rozlyn/Rego when they did their interviews with me and said “F*** it. I don’t care what my contract says. I’m doing this anyway.” Not sure. I just know according to her contract, she wasn’t supposed to do that. So we’ll see if she suffers any consequences because of it. My guess? She won’t. Just like none of the others did.

And if the Michelle story alone wasn’t bad enough, this pretty much makes Carlos Boozer the worst human ever. Not that I come to expect anything less from a pro athlete (Really? A pro athlete lied about his marital status? Shocking!), but considering all he and wife Cece went through back in 2007, this guy now makes me sick to my stomach. If you’ve got 13 minutes of your day to spare, check out this feature ESPN did on him in 2009. Then know he carried on an affair with Michelle while his wife was living in Florida tending to their children less than two years after this. I wouldn’t be expecting your “Father of the Year” plaque anytime soon, Carlos. Unreal.

As for the “Brad was dating Bettina up until he left for the show” rumor? Please. Might be the stupidest thing I’ve heard. That is definitely NOT true. I don’t know why Bettina said that it was. Totally delusional if she did. There was nothing going on between those two before the show, especially in the way that the tabloid made it seem. Totally ridiculous and bogus story. Don’t know why Bettina said that.

I can’t be any more clear when I say this. Michelle’s story is just the beginning. More is coming in the following weeks, and it’s not pretty. For ANYONE involved this season. Everyone is fair game. Hey, you go on a reality show, you better realize that every person you once knew is gonna come out of the woodwork and stuff about your past is going to get out. What you’re seeing on TV is not real. You don’t know a thing about these people and what they’ve done. Stuff coming out will have you questioning the sincerity of everyone involved. Could I have spilled this a while back? Sure. But why? Where does that get me? Just a bunch of more emails asking me “How do you know this is true?”, “Where did you hear this?”, “Are you sure?” There’s no point. Let the tabloids find out about it, which they have, and let them run with it. I’ll comment after it comes out. Some is speculation, some is fact, but there is plenty to go around. And I’m a big believer in “Where’s there’s smoke, there’s fire.” So watch out, because it’s coming.

Before we get to the emails, let me quickly talk about Emily’s NASCAR group date airing on Monday’s episode. Already people are up in arms about this, ABC has already released a statement, a NASCAR spokesperson has released a statement, and even Chris Harrison has addressed it. Look people, calm down. This is being blown way out of proportion if you ask me. I don’t care what you think, what the media thinks, or what I think about putting Emily on the NASCAR date. If EMILY wasn’t bothered by it, then why the hell should we be? She’s the one involved. She’s the one who suffered the tragedy. People are getting their panties in a wad about something that doesn’t concern them. It’s not like Emily hasn’t been to a racetrack since Ricky’s death. Hell, the girl DATED Dale Earnhardt Jr after Ricky died, AND, she even had jobs in the NASCAR world since the death. So don’t sit here and say it’s wrong to put her on a NASCAR track for a date when, by all accounts, she was fine with it. Geez. I don’t understand the mentality of some people when it comes to this stuff. If it doesn’t bother the person actually involved, it certainly shouldn’t bother you. This is such a non-story, I’m sorry. She’s a big girl. I’m guessing she can handle herself.

Some good emails this week. I think there’s some good information in here you may or may not know about. Oh sure, there’s a couple doozies in there from the braindead, but it does seem like crazy ones are starting to go away. Either people are scared to ask me stuff now knowing it could show up in Friday’s emails, or they’re just starting to understand the ridiculousness of this show. Either way, I’m hoping these email responses are funny and informative for you. Here we go:

Steve, in your December 8 blog post, you write “A couple girls this season better buckle their chin straps. It’s not going to be a fun ride to have your name dragged through the mud for the next four months and not be able to defend themselves until they’re booted off.”

When can we expect this to happen? Haven’t seen anything in the US Weeklys of the world (yet). Or have I already missed something?

Comment: Obviously I received this email before Wednesday when the Michelle story broke. That was one of them. And yeah, the fact that she spoke to a tabloid before she’s off the show still has me scratching my head. Total breach of contract, but whatever. I’ll say it til I’m blue in the face like I’ve said for the past few months: The drama this season will be off camera, in the tabloids, with things coming out about the people on this show. It’s not happening on screen. And it’s gonna hit like a freight train running over a tricycle. Not exaggerating. There is some explosive stuff on the horizon. Stuff I could’ve told you about three months ago, but that’s not my job. I’m not a tabloid, and I’m not about to be breaking stories about people’s pasts. Once it’s out, I’ll comment. It’s worse than you probably think it is.

Hey Steve,

Okay, this may be a really silly, confusing question, but after reading your blog this week [which is fantastic, btw] and the pun you made about a reserved Emily opening up to Brad with “cameramen inches away from her face”, it made me ponder again with this show. How legitimately close are the cameras to the contestants? If it’s really just a cameraman standing a mere few feet from almost every scene, then this show couldn’t be more the epitome of disingenuous acting, not like it ever wasn’t, anyway. In other words, do the producers not even try to bait some genuine dialogue? Sorry, I’m just not familiar with how this stuff works.

Comment: See, here’s the dilemma. A lot of you always ask, “Why don’t they talk about things normal couples would talk about. Hobbies, likes and dislikes, future plans, etc.” The answer is: Because that’s boring television. It’s a TV show. Look at it this way. If you’re in a relationship right now with someone, think back to your first date. Do you think it’d be riveting television if cameras followed you the whole night as you guys got to know each other? Of course it wouldn’t. Laughing at each others stupid jokes, saying you like the same things, being all nervous and uncomfortable. Well, same thing applies here. No one wants to hear that stuff. They want them to talk about the other people in the house, and they want them to talk about drama, etc. You can claim all you want about “Ohhh, we want to see two people falling in love.” Bullsh**. No you don’t. You want to hear drunk women trashing other women or pretending throw elbows at them during ITM’s.

Dear Steve,

Since it seems that everyone who writes you says they love your columns, I will just let you make that assumption as well, you are correct.

I am enjoying your new Friday column but, I must say, I am worried about your readers and your sanity for that matter. I am not sure how you deal with all of the asinine comments that people send you. I personally hate to repeat myself and it even annoys me when I see you having to repeat to careless readers things you have clearly said in previous columns.

My suggestion is an IQ test before people can enter your website. I am thinking similar to the “You Must Be This Height” signs on a rollercoaster.

I think you have a good judge of character. I love the comments you make about Ali, Melissa, Jake, etc. I am curious to see how Emily’s character plays out this season because the way the show is portraying her character it reminds me a lot of how the show played up Jake back in Jillian’s season as some kind of Mr. Perfect and we all know how much of a jerk he turned out to be.

Comment: The emails column is like the best idea I ever had. Now I get to share with everyone with what I deal with on a daily basis. I’m used to it by now, but I figured I’d start sharing. It’s not that bad. It’s much more fun to answer these people publicly than privately anyway.

Emily? Yes, I’m curious to see how it plays out as well. Just remember for the 1000th time, this is a TV show. Not everything is as seems. Is she a monster? No, I wouldn’t say that. But there’s more to the story. It’s coming.


You have said that the bachelor/bachelorettes get no information about the contestants before the show. But, do they get names and pictures? I think it would be difficult to learn everyone’s names so quickly. We see the bachelor/bachelorette in the deliberation room with all the framed photos, so I thought maybe they also got to see those before the show begins just to help them learn the names.

Also, in how many seasons have people known who the bachelor/bachelorette was going to be before casting started? If I remember correctly, for Bob Guiney’s season there were women who applied because they wanted to meet Bob.

Comment: Names and pictures? Like they gave Brad a pop quiz telling him to put the name by the face? Ha ha. No, that doesn’t happen. After the first night, you only need to know 20. And you figure, the hot ones (or the ones you know who’ll be around a while, you no doubt remember their names). It’s the Lindsay’s, the Meghan, and the Marissa’s of this season that maybe he had a hard time with. Who knows? You’re watching days and days of footage crammed into a two hour span. Trust me, it’s probably not as hard as you think.

As for how many seasons of the 21 did the contestants know beforehand going in who the lead was? I have no idea. But I’m sure plenty of message board dorks probably know the answer to that one. Their life depends on it.

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  1. StaceyZ

    January 28, 2011 at 1:05 PM

    Curious why they dont have a black bachelor /bachelorette ?
    Or any other nationalities ?


  2. ella

    January 29, 2011 at 2:39 AM

    Staceyz, We have a black president and he takes up more than enough TV time, if you want to see more black people on tv, watch COPS.

  3. Athena

    January 29, 2011 at 4:37 PM

    ella, Racism is alive and well…inside YOU! This response is pathetic.

  4. bebe

    January 30, 2011 at 11:04 AM

    It’s funny how people can ask why isn’t there a black this or that, but if we asked why there weren’t more white people playing basketball or football, or why aren’t there more white people in this or that business, they would be considered racist. Ever think that maybe there just wasn’t an opportunity yet? And when you have a group of 30 white women, usually only one or two have kids. In a group of 25-30 black men/women, they’d all have at least one kid, and who is going to watch all of their kids for up to 6 weeks? Think about it. And yes, racism is alive and well here in the USA. Against ALL races, not just blacks. Stop trying to change everyone else and change yourself.

  5. bebe

    January 30, 2011 at 11:07 AM

    And for the record, there are just as many white people on Cops as there are black people. And Spanish people. And it’s my favorite show second only to the Bachelor/ette.

  6. adria921

    January 30, 2011 at 4:20 PM

    and not only do almost all black women have several kids, they usually have had them fathered by different men and they seldom have even been married!

  7. Dianne

    January 31, 2011 at 6:06 AM

    ummmm..people?? Since when did Steve’s blog become a forum for discussing black/white/hispanic etc? Knock off the racism crap and use this site for what it’s supposed to be used for. Take your “racism” garbage elsewhere.

  8. mommyof2

    January 31, 2011 at 8:30 AM

    I agree with Dianne. Many of these comments are hateful and not to mention, off-topic. I think StacyZ’s question, however, is relevant. My guess would be that they cast white women since they figured A.) their chosen bachelor may prefer dating a white woman B.) white women may prefer dating their chosen bachelor C.) the show’s audience is predominately made up of white viewers, rather than other races D.) they decided not to be PC about everything anymore since other shows are losing their political correctness as well. Just my hunch, but I figure C.) would be the top reason.

    StacyZ’s question was definitely relevant since every other season of the Bachelor/ette has included one or more contestants who were either black, hispanic, Asian, or something else. It was probably more of an observation on StacyZ’s part that this season, they omitted other races. No need for so many of you to go off on a tangent about how many kids white and black women have, which shows have more black people on them, etc… Completely ignorant, hateful, and classless. (Although, I have to agree that our current president- of whom I am not a fan- takes up too much TV time, but I don’t think it’s b/c he’s black. Ridiculous.).

  9. Dianne

    January 31, 2011 at 9:14 AM

    Right on, mommy, and thank you!

  10. LynnMJ

    January 31, 2011 at 5:35 PM

    Thanks, Dianne.

  11. bebe

    January 31, 2011 at 8:28 PM

    The Stacey chick brought up the race issue! It’s completely irrelevant! Who cares what color their skin is, love doesn’t care about your skin color.

  12. taz1102

    January 31, 2011 at 9:00 PM

    Is it just me or do Chantal and Brad have absolutely no chemistry? It is extremely awkward between the two of them and Chantal seems like a pushy, stage 5 clinger. He pauses abruptly every time she cries and looks @ her with an uncomfortable stare. I don’t see this lasting long…

  13. gtogblog

    February 1, 2011 at 9:16 AM

    Great recap. Here another hilarious one by the guys at GTOG:

  14. adria921

    February 1, 2011 at 9:44 AM

    Mommy & Dianne you two should get married.

  15. Dianne

    February 1, 2011 at 10:07 AM

    Who says we’re not already, adria??

  16. Cyndra

    February 6, 2011 at 10:08 AM

    So as far as Michelle is concerned. My take on her is she’s an actress planted into the show to stir up controversy and to make the season more “colorful”. If you all don’t beleive me take a look at this trailer for a movie she stars in that hmmmmmmm was filmed long before this season of the bachelor was even filmed!

    Hairdresser my arse!!!

  17. jorgiegirl

    February 7, 2011 at 8:43 PM

    @ Cyndra…and it makes even more sense knowing she’s from SLC and the promo page you posted indicates the novel can be purchased from Deseret Books. As if not enough, her IMBd page quotes one reader, “It looks like an Alpha lady with a crazy streak is what captures Brad Womack’s attention the most completely. Either that, or she’s a really good actress playing a future stalker and Brad Womack has been let in on the ratings secret by producers.”

  18. Kelsie

    February 8, 2011 at 11:10 AM

    almost all black women do not have kids and if you surveyed 25-30 black people, all of them WOULD NOT have kids @ Bebe & Adria. You two are clearly racist. Do a higher percentage of black single women have kids when compared to white single women? yes but concluding that “almost all black women” have kids is a factually and statistically inaccurate statement. This is not the forum to spew your racist bigotry. Join the KKK.

  19. bebe

    February 19, 2011 at 5:30 PM

    Keslie…just because i stated something it is assumed i am a racist and should join the KKK? so a black person saying a generalization about white people would classify them as a racist…lots of black racists around i guess then. check out comedy central, all of those people are racists, right?
    and you are right, not ALL of them would have kids. but MOST of them would. check some stats out on line. won’t be too hard to find…not just blacks, minorities in general.
    that’s not being racist, that’s being a realist. there is a difference, but usually only those of us who are educated understand it. i stopped seeing the world through rose-colored glasses a long time ago…you should too. not everyone is equal. money=power, no matter what your race is unfortunately.

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