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The Bachelorette Recap – 5/30/11 Including an In Depth Look at the Bentley Situation

So here’s an excerpt from what Chris Harrison said about Bentley in his Blog today:

“Many of you have asked why we allowed Bentley to stay on the show and why I along with the producers didn’t warn her about him. I usually stay pretty impartial while talking to the Bachelor or Bachelorette. I am free to give my opinion but I don’t think it’s my place to ever tell anybody on or off TV what to do and who to love or not to love. I give my opinion and ask probing questions that will help get my point across, but I really think its important for the person to figure things out for themselves and it’s presumptuous to think I know what’s best for them. With that said, this was not the case with Bentley. Ashley will attest to the fact that I told her that first night she might want to nip this in the bud and send him packing, or at the very least be extremely careful with this guy. She convinced me and everybody else that she was going to give him a chance and follow her gut. Once the show starts I can and did continue to warn her and talk to her about this guy. (You’ll see more of my deliberations with her in future episodes.) To say Bentley is not here for the right reasons is a gross understatement. But it seemed the more I warned Ashley and told her to run for the hills, the more she protected and defended him. At some point you have to let the person find out for him or herself what the truth really is.

Let me be very clear the things he said about Ashley and his feelings for her weren’t cute and they weren’t funny. They were out of line and disrespectful. He knew for a fact he wasn’t into Ashley and wanted nothing to do with her, yet he continued to lead her on emotionally and physically as well, and that in my book is not cool. Bentley played Ashley this week and got a rose on the group date. As you saw in the preview things come to a head and unravel in a major way next week. We’ve had so-called bad guys or villains on this show before but we’ve never had anything like this. What you will see next week will easily be one of the most talked about moments ever. There won’t be one viewer that won’t have a very strong opinion about what unfolds. We’ve had plenty of dramatic moments over the years and I even joke about using that word all the time. This is different and it is nothing to joke about. You will see the wheels completely come off this ride for Ashley – so much so we came very close to having to shut down production on our show. There was a very real chance that Ashley was done and so was this season. It was a mess, and you will see every bit of it next Monday night.”

What a load of garbage. Are you kidding me? Almost shut down production? That’s laughable. And if you did, it was through no fault of your own. You cast him. He didn’t just magically run onto the show and start spouting off all these insults towards Ashley. I swear, the more Chris and this show talk about him and what a bad seed Bentley was, the worse they look. Bentley played a joke on everyone, and ABC is acting like there was nothing they could’ve done to stop it. Ridiculous.

As for Ashley, look what she wrote about Bentley in her blog today:

“In closing, I want to say that I learn so much about these men from watching the episodes – the good, the bad and the ugly. The most important thing I told myself from the start was that I would always be open with the way I feel, even if there was the potential to be hurt. I said that I wouldn’t want to look back with regrets. Even as I cringe through some of the things that Bentley said throughout filming, I wouldn’t change the way I was, because in that moment it was the way I felt. Everyone is responsible for their own honesty and accountability – and if he wasn’t willing to give me at least that, he is in the wrong. No regrets!”

Pretty much exactly what I said earlier. It’s obvious Ashley was upset at the time, and now she doesn’t give a sh**. Why would she? This all happened two months ago. Her actions, and her crying, and her meltdown all happened because she had no idea what Bentley was saying behind her back. Sure, I guess I you can fault her for not putting more stock into the notice she received from Michelle Money regarding Bentley, but at the time, the guy was charming the socks off her so she had no reason to believe anything other than what he was presenting her face-to-face. I can only judge a person by how they treat me. If they’re a horrible person, and lie behind my back, and talk sh** about me without me knowing, but they’re sincere and nice to me, that’s all I can go off. If they really are that other person, I’ll eventually find out. And Ashley did. So why all the fuss?

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  1. finerthings

    May 31, 2011 at 10:36 AM

    Dear Readers,

    Why would you be polite and wish me a happy birthday when I don’t know you? F*ck off.

    Reality Steve

    😀 Steve, you are just a big dummy, aren’tcha?

  2. finerthings

    May 31, 2011 at 11:01 AM

    Ok, onto the good stuff. I agree with you entirely about Bentley. I find it pretty hilarious and entertaining, which is what it’s supposed to be.

    West. Freaks. Me. Out. I really tried to give the guy a chance after I read the articles about him or whatever. But honestly, I feel like everything he says makes my skin crawl. Just the way he talks about Ashley…I don’t know. He’s a creeper. Plus, I trust a mother’s instinct a lot. If his wife’s mom thinks he was involved in her death, I’m inclined to believe there was more going on there than a seizure.

    I like JP the best at this moment.

    Every time Ashley says “Perrfaaaact” with her stupid cheerleader affected-ness it reminds me how much I disliked her on Brad’s season. Other than that, she’s been quite tolerable.

  3. mommyof2

    May 31, 2011 at 11:25 AM

    I said the same thing about the tragic deaths in the cast-mates lives seeming to be a new pre-requisite. It’s depressing having to feel sorry for everyone as opposed to one or two people. It kind of makes you feel less sympathetic towards anyone now if everyone has a tragic past. It’s too early to tell who I think has the best connection w/ Ashley or who I like the best, but from what I’ve seen so far, I like Ben C. and JP.

    Bentley’s an a**; I just wish he would realize that the way he treats women will have an impact on how his young daughter will expect to be treated by men. Even if he treats her perfectly, she’ll see how he treats other women (including her mom, grandmom, etc..), and that’s how she’ll think she’s suppose to be treated by other men (disrespectfully). Some men are so stupid to even realize that the people they love most are hurt by the way they treat others. He needs to lead by example and treat all women respectfully if he wants his own daughter to expect to be treated that way as well. Hopefully he’ll realize this sooner rather than later or that Cozy will someday have an amazing stepfather who she will look up to instead- or an amazing grandfather on her mom’s side who does this. I’m guessing that Bentley’s treatment of women is a direct reflection of how his father treated his mother. So sad…

  4. HeidiT

    May 31, 2011 at 11:34 AM

    Aside from the Toss the Dice move I believe Ben threw in the sprinkler, Hey, at least he wasn’t making the pizza and doing the Qtip. Typical drunk guy at the club the one humping the floor thinking he’s got moves and all the women want to dance with him. NOT.

    As for Bentley, like I said after the first episode, if she’s stupid enough to keep him around after being warned by MM then she’s an idiot. Enough said.

  5. Sunnyside422

    May 31, 2011 at 12:54 PM

    Was not impressed when Ashley was with Brad and less so now. Bow legged, rail thin, no rear, goofy giggles (she’s 26???)BUT she is following the script to a T, saying all the prescripted dialog we have been subjected to season after season.

    Most of the men with the exception of JP and William are not in the least good looking. Who groomed these clowns anyway?! My early vote for the final one is….JP. Sexy and from the little shown thus far, seems fairly normal.

    With the huge budget ABC has for this show…can’t they find different musical selections? Same boring music played at the “romantic” interludes show after show. Really? Nothing original to offer?

    I believe the men are coached to say that Ashley is beautiful, sexy and hot. No way is this little muffin any of the above.

    Bentley’s remarks remind me of the way Wes was screwed by the show and his remarks spliced and diced. Can’t believe Bentley is as stupid as we’ve been allowed to see.

  6. Southern Bella

    May 31, 2011 at 1:03 PM

    Do you all really think Ashley is in the dark about Bentley? It’s quite obvious that she (and everybody else) is playing along. She was practically holding in her laughter when she was “begging” him to stick around. Go back and watch it.

    It’s called a SCRIPT, people!

  7. nattyfoo

    May 31, 2011 at 1:05 PM

    I’ve never left a comment before, but I have a pressing question… BTW, I have been reading your blog for years. Thanks for the great insight.

    You stated that Bentley is a devout Mormon, but correct me if I am wrong… and I may be, but in the initial casting video he did, didn’t he have a refrigerator full of beer? I thought I saw that in his video… I might have to go back and watch it. Just wondered if you saw that as well.


  8. dutchgrl11

    May 31, 2011 at 1:17 PM

    DEAR STEVE: I was pretty shocked when I read your opening paragraph…the back-handed compliment thanking people for their bday wishes. You said 75% from people you don’t know and that you don’t “understand” that concept. HOW FUCKING RUDE! People read your blog and while they don’t know you personally, they are being nice. No wonder you’re single with that attitude! Truth be told, one reads your blog to get the spoilers, not for your great writing ability. A big portion of it is all about you and how great you are and how Bachelor execs are scared of you, yada yada…
    Your blog REEKS of ego and self promotion.

  9. Holly in SoCal

    May 31, 2011 at 6:04 PM

    If Bentley was truly a “devout” Mormon, then how does he justify playing with Ashley’s feelings like he did and lying and deceiving her? Even if this was all set-up in advance by the producers/writers, he still couldn’t justify saying those mean things about her if he was truly a Mormon. The bible teaches just the opposite of his behavior, whether it was contrived or not. Besides, shouldn’t he be seeking out a fellow Mormon lady to be his wife…not someone that is not of his belief system? There is nothing in his religion that would justify him doing what he is doing (even if for money) or acting the way he is. If I were a Mormon…I’d be horrified to be represented that way. Just the same way that Michelle Money brought shame to her religion (if she truly is a Mormon). Shame on both of them.

  10. ebayrae

    May 31, 2011 at 7:05 PM

    I’m with dutchgrl11. Who actually gives such a backhanded “thank you” to their readers? I’m trying to figure out who the bigger douche is: you…or Bentley.

    I can tell you right now that Bentley is NOT Strict Mormon. If you were a Mormon–you’d be able to tell because there are some obvious indications. Just because he doesn’t drink alcohol doesn’t mean he actually lives the way a “strict” Mormon would. I actually laughed out loud when you wrote that he wasn’t even allowed to hold it on camera…where did you come up with this “doctrine”? Just thought you’d like to know for the future so you sound a little more informed before you make a fool of yourself.

  11. scrantonicity

    May 31, 2011 at 7:22 PM

    I know this is wrong to say but Ames looks like he was one gene short of ending up on Little People, Big World. His head definitely looks more suited to little arms and legs.

  12. Reason

    May 31, 2011 at 8:56 PM

    Assuming Bentley’s ITM video was available, then you can prove if Chris Harrison is lying by asking him one question: If he was so concerned about informing Ashley, why didn’t he show her Bentley’s ITM footage? By choosing to withhold those videos from Ashley, it would prove the producers are more interested in ratings than helping her make a decision about marriage. But we already knew that…

  13. loca4linda2

    June 1, 2011 at 3:00 AM

    So, don’t you think the coin Ashley tossed to see if what’s his name, was staying was doubled sided with his pic? come on! Also, do you know if Bentley gets more $ than the other contestants?

  14. hordac

    June 1, 2011 at 11:56 AM

    I will reserve judgment as to whether Ashley is playing a role here too with regards to Bentley’s dissing her until I see the next episode where she freaks out. I think we will be able to tell whether she is acting or not. Now, having said that, if she was unaware of the extent of his disdain for her than I am really disappointed in this show for subjecting her to what he is saying. I agree with you Steve, it makes ABC look horrible and Chris H. is just trying to make himself look like some good guy trying to warn her now. I don’t care whether she is happily engaged now or not. It has GOT to hurt her to hear this stuff. I don’t think its a case of editing all the way either. Sure maybe some, but him descibing the kiss?? How can that possibly relate to anything else?? I must confess though, that it does make the season interesting and I am gasping with shock after I hear his ITM’s!! ABC, evil but wise I tell you! I really hope you are happy though Ashley, what he is saying about you can’t go down very well and I would hate to have to sit through something like this myself personally.

  15. sweetness34

    June 1, 2011 at 12:33 PM

    I think the one problem with Chris H.’s comment is that it’s completely inconsistent with the company line of the past few seasons. Chris H. was a large part of the storyline to “expose” Rozlyn on Jake’s season and then “expose” Justin Rego on Ali’s season.

    The whole meat of the Justin storyline was that Chris H. wanted to inform Ali that Justin wasn’t there for the right reasons. However, the line with Bentley is, “well, we sort of warned her, but we try to stay out of these things….” Yeah, OK.

  16. Trish

    June 1, 2011 at 2:07 PM

    Dutchgirl11 wrote:

    A big portion of it is all about you and how great you are and how Bachelor execs are scared of you, yada yada… Your blog REEKS of ego and self promotion.

    Truer words were never spoken.

    Reality Steve is a far bigger phony than the shows he writes about. The truth is, he’d love to have a job on the Bachelor as producer in charge of the hypocrisy and deceit he otherwise attempts to expose each week. Sadly, guys him and the yahoos at votefortheworst have been unable to land their dream jobs on reality television, so they take to internet with their petty blah blah blah. Get a real job.

  17. serpephone

    June 1, 2011 at 4:08 PM

    How do the readers know it’s Steve’s birthday?


    anyways, I am just happy Reality Steve is older than me!


  18. strike9

    June 1, 2011 at 8:28 PM

    Didn’t like Ashley in Brad’s season. Trying to like her now, but she’s making it very hard because she laughs at EVERYTHING. I mean, things that aren’t even supposed to be funny. For instance – on her first date with William, when the lame Vegas groupies shout “we love you Ashley!”, she does the annoying laugh. Really. That’s funny? Later when Blake tells her that two dentists together would be twice as perfect, more stupid laughter. What? Mickey is surprised by a concert. HA HA HA HA HA.

    Maybe I’d be okay with the inappropriate laughter if she had a cute laugh, but she so doesn’t.

  19. Angie L

    June 2, 2011 at 11:36 AM

    Love your take on a lot of issues relative to the show. I’m a Mormon like Bentley and he being a “STRICT Mormon” is a total NONSENSE. Strict Mormons take seriously how they come across to everyone: they know that they, in every way, represent the church so they’ll watch their language, their conduct … and they can be rather picky as to whom they want to associate themselves with. He is a Mormon but I doubt he is a devout one. Also, there’s this impression that the Church forces ‘things’ on us. Contrary to what most believe about us _ ‘Free Agency’ is an EXTREMELY IMPORTANT PRINCIPLE in the church _ in fact, it constitutes the core beliefs of this religion starting from the time one enters the waters of baptism…. A member is a free-agent who becomes a member because he or she chooses to be so. We are free to choose the path we want to walk on …. The church educates us what will help us spiritually and it is up to us to take/reject those advices. I understand where Bentley’s coming from. I don’t think he is emotionally over his divorce … the break-up of that relationship and he is acting these out these frustrations even bitterness. I hope he’ll find peace soon. Happiness can become very elusive when ‘forgiveness’ hasn’t taken place. He needs to embrace the loss as a learning and growing experience and move on!

    As regards Ashley being with JP, I think he is a great choice … and I hope things work out for them. Thanks for posting your blog. I enjoy your opinion.

  20. NWpdx

    June 2, 2011 at 6:02 PM

    I was glad to see other readers were equally as put off by how snippy “Reality Steve” was about his birthday greetings! For someone who relies on readers to come to his site, that was really short sighted, but I have a feeling he doesn’t really give a sh*t about the readers, just his ego. He obviously doesn’t appreciate the readers he has as he won’t even answer other questions other than “how do you know” as another person posted. If it weren’t for spoilers why come to the site?

  21. BachFan15

    June 2, 2011 at 8:57 PM

    Reality Steve is a douche. A friend of mine went out with him awhile back, and he’s a total loser. Dude is constantly on his phone thinking he’s a celebrity, even a the dinner table, and he’s bad in bed. I always crack up when I read his ego rants, knowing what I know.

    I only read for the spoilers, he’s not even witty anymore.

  22. KESam

    June 3, 2011 at 5:04 AM

    Bentley is SO going to be on Bachelor Pad…if not this one, the next one. Mike Fleiss will not be able to resist.

  23. finerthings

    June 3, 2011 at 5:15 AM

    Angie, I really liked your post. Thanks for showing a compassionate heart for someone…even when they’re behaving badly. It’s refreshing. <3

  24. Mozart

    June 3, 2011 at 3:37 PM

    The producers most probably now want Bentley also for “Bachelor Pad”. 🙁 They are most likely thinking, “What drama! What excitement! What a gold mine! What thousands of more viewers we would have!”
    The producers, I imagine, are thinking of rationalizations they could use with the public to get them off the hook for capitalizing on Bentley’s probably being cast.
    They certainly know that if they don’t come up with a convincing story, there would be a tremendous backlash by an angry public for using Bentley yet again.
    I don’t know offhand what yarn the producers will spin to try to take the blame off themselves, but I think they will come up with something, although, I don’t think the public will buy it.

  25. Mozart

    June 3, 2011 at 3:47 PM

    P.S. I think I know what the producers will concoct to make Bentley acceptable for “The Bachelor Pad”.
    They might say that Chris Harrison got in touch with Bentley, and Bentley broke down and sobbed that he was so very sorry! He feels so terrible for the hurt he had caused Ashley, and that he really liked Ashley and has learned his lesson!
    He would add that he greatly repented at his church and has begged his Heavenly Father for forgiveness for the tremendous hurt that he has caused.”
    Chris H. might say that it is only fair to give this guy another chance….. 😉

  26. BentleyApologists

    June 4, 2011 at 6:19 AM

    Reality Steve you got a great blog. You have nailed what is actually the reality in the show. Stop by and check out our blog defending Bentley. I think you’ll like it.

  27. pace45

    June 6, 2011 at 9:46 PM

    Steve I know the how the show manipulates the contestants, and is probably doing the same to Bentley, but acting like this guy is innocent? Cmon now, I live around a ton of true mormans, and not one of them would play it along knowing they didn’t like the person. And also the fact that he is darn near trying to make love to the girl with how forward he is, true mormans don’t do that. That being said I think he is one of the best characters ever because half the guys feel the same, they just never say it, Ashley is not attractive whatsoever, so all these guys falling in love with her? ya right. Bentley is brilliant and tells the truth in the fact that, yes he just wants to win, that’s why these relationships always crumble. So do your thing Bentley, I just wish you would have strung it out longer.

  28. thehollywoodknow

    June 20, 2011 at 8:21 AM

    Former contestants weigh in on the return of The Bachelorette bad boy Bentley, the show’s reasoning, and what it all means for Ashley Hebert.

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