“Reader Emails” this week actually didn’t really include one single stupid question. Some questions might have obvious answers, but I’m amazed just when I think it seems like I’ve answered every question possible regarding this show, people have more. And stuff that I never would’ve even thought was remotely important to people apparently is. So with that said, here are this weeks emails:
I wanted to ask if you ever considered apologizing to any of the other female bachelor contestants on Brad’s second season besides Chantal? You were very apologetic to her which showed a lot of character but you never thought how you could have affected the other female contestants. I’m sure you’re probably thinking I’m referring to Emily but I am not. Hint: Ashley. As far as I know (I may be wrong)…I believe you were the one to broadcast that Emily will be the next bachelorette. Every guy turning in applications thought it was Emily because of all the media websites and entertainment channels saying it was going to be her (i suppose you were their reference). Believe me when I say A LOT of guys watch the bachelorette and go to your web site that don’t admit it to just anyone.
I get that this is just a show and it is hilarious how people get so into these reality tv relationships. But….the emotions are for real. I can’t help but think Ashley would have never been worried that everyone thought she should have been Emily when they stepped out of the limo if it weren’t for these guys actually being told it was going to be Emily by every website and entertainment channel there is from a very good source (you). I imagine it to be very humiliating for her. I’m sure she doesn’t care as much now since the season is over but she soon will have to talk about her insecurities relating to this topic come next episode on every late night show and Ellen-like day time show for a few weeks now despite the show already being over.
Maybe if you apologize it will open a line of communication between you and Ashley so you can score a date once her relationship is over with the winner.
Comment: I don’t think me reporting for two months that Brad was with Chantal and that the Bachelorette could be Emily had any effect whatsoever on Ashleys insecurities. And if it did, then this site has a hell of a lot more power than I ever imagined. I seriously don’t think that’s the case. She probably had those insecurities regardless just because she’s a woman and she can see how attractive Emily is. I don’t think that’s hard to figure out.
As for trying to score a date with her once her relationship with the winner is over? Nah, not what I’m looking for. Ashley seems like a great girl, very attractive, very energetic, but I’m not looking to date her, nor is she me I’m assuming.
Hey Steve, I was wondering-in the first episode when the guys are getting out of the limo: is what we see on TV the original, genuine, first meeting between ashley and the bachelors? Or do they do re-takes of it for any reason? If they do re-takes, what reason would they redo it for?
Comment: It’s the first time she’s actually seeing them in person, yes. Re-takes? Oh yeah, it happens. Not sure how often, but I know it does. I remember hearing the story about Jillians season where Dave Good had to re-shoot his limo exit a couple times because he kept busting up laughing. That seemed to work well for him considering he got the first impression rose from her.
I have been reading your blog for ages but have never written you yet. I absolutely love what you write and how you write it. What blows my mind is that there are STILL so many people out there who come to your site that just don’t get it! Why don’t they get that this is your site, you can write however you want and that you aren’t going to change your ways for them? I personally get your humor and I read it at work (shhhh….don’t tell my boss) and am literally laughing out loud sometimes! My co-workers must think I’m a little crazy but I will always tell them what I’m reading if they ask!
First, did you notice that on the group date in Vegas after half the guys were sent home that Ashley was wearing a yellow bikini top under her shirt yet they never went swimming that night? I wonder if it was too cold or something but I kept expecting it to turn into a pool scene! Do you think they tell her to always have a bathing suit on in case it is warm enough to swim? Or does she just dig wearing bikini’s around all the time under clothes? I would if I had her body! I know it’s a dumb thought but just an observation.
Second, I know all you have said about Bentley and how the show planted him or whatever and I know he is just on there for fame and they probably had a lot to do with him sticking around but I am just so over characters like him! Yeah, they want to stir up controversy but this is so old already and personally, I think he is nasty and not attractive at all, so I don’t see what Ashley sees in him anyway! I just don’t get the concept of him other than to get people to talk (and yes, I know people are talking and that is what they want). He is just so weird and gross! Blech.
Third, I know overall you think this show is very fake and such, but do you believe deep down that some guys may come on it with at least an open mind and actually do have real feelings for the girl (or for girls on the Bachelor having feelings for the guy) or do you think all emotions on the show are fake or contrived? I mean I know overall it is very fake but it does seem like there are a few guys who end up into her, much more than others and it does seem like some real emotion is there.
Fourth, I know you have said the rose ceremonies last until 4 or 5 a.m. sometimes. Do you know what happens the next day? Is that a day off from dates so everyone can sleep in and rest or do they get up at a normal time the next day and start with some dates right away? Sorry if this question bores you but I am interested in the logistics and didn’t know if you had ever received a sample schedule from a former contestant
Comment: 1) I’m sure there was supposed to be, or there actually was swimming or hot tub action on that date, they just never had time to show it for whatever reason. I did notice when she was talking to Bentley she had a yellow bikini top on under her shirt but they hadn’t shown anyone in the water on that date. The guys looked like they were cold outside, so, I’m guessing it was for a hot tub.
2) Bentley is weird and gross? That might be one of the nicer things people have said about him over the first few weeks.
3) I think some of the emotions are real, but more because of the environment they’re in as opposed to actually feeling that way towards a person. As I mentioned in Tuesdays column, when you are isolated from the rest of the world with no cell phone, internet, newspaper, TV, family, friends, etc and your only focus is on this one person not to mention tons of alcohol thrown in, then sure, I bet you think you’re falling for them harder than you really are. But like we’ve seen with so many past contestants on the “Bachelor”, where these women come on the show acting so in love over a guy that they barely know, then they get cut, and before you know it, they step off the plane back and they’re back together with their ex-boyfreind or are dating someone new. Happens way more often than not, and I think proves that their emotions on the show are just enhanced because of the environment they were in.
4) No, dates are always the same day that the rose ceremonies end. There’s not a lot of sleeping that goes on during this show, that’s for sure. Your nights are long, and then you’re always up early.