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The Bachelorette 7 - Ashley

Your Finale & “After the Final Rose” Spoilers – 7/27/11 & Are Ben Flajnik and His Buddy the Next Samberg/Timberlake Duo?

For all your episode-by-episode spoilers of Ashleys season, either click on the “Bachelorette Ashley Spoilers” link at the top of the page, or click here. Also, your episode-by-episode spoilers for “Bachelor Pad 2” are now also in a link at the top of the page, or or click here. You’ve been warned.

Here’s the basics of what you need to know regarding what’s going to air on Monday night. There’s the 2-hour finale then the 1-hour “After the Final Rose”, which was just taped.

The Finale:

-JP meets Ashley’s family first, and like I said yesterday, her sister Chrystie has a hard time seeing him with her sister. She’s really hard on JP to the point of almost bringing the guy to tears. Questioned why he’s 34 and still single (Uh oh. I’m 36 and still single. Must be no hope for me). JP tells Ashley what her sister said that’s what leads to their conversation of her calling her a bitch. JP none too happy that Ashley’s sister attacked him the way she did and was being so judgmental.

-Family meets and Ben and Chrystie really likes him. Ben even tells Chrystie he’s in love with Ashley. Then Ben and Ashley go walking on the beach which is where the shot of them together that Life and Style had in last week’s magazine came from.

-Both guys shown picking out Neil Lane rings so he can get his free advertisement on the show. No shocker there.

-Final rose ceremony time and Ben is out first. He ends up getting down on one knee and proposing to Ashley. Ashley eventually says no. Ben is shocked and thought Ashley was gonna say yes. He walks away from the podium and she chases after him. She tries to console him but he’s not too thrilled telling her not to sugar coat things, and this isn’t gonna end well because nothing good ever does. Ben leaves and isn’t too happy. Ashley cries, gathers herself, and waits for JP.

-JP arrives on a seaplane, tells her he loves her, she tells him she’s wanted to tell him the same thing for so long, he gets down on one knee and proposes and she says “yes.”

-Favorite part for me: The fact that REO Speedwagon’s “Can’t Fight This Feeling” (their song from the skating rink), plays over the clips of them together hugging, kissing, spinning around, and making out in the water.

“After the Final Rose” Show

-Ben comes out first. Still didn’t know why Ashley didn’t choose him. Thinks that he was more of the risk and JP was a safer choice because of his lifestyle and being on the east coast.

-Ashley comes out, Ben comments about her ring, and he asks what was missing between them. Ashley said she followed her heart instead of her head. She thinks Ben is more like her since they have similar personalities and are closer in age…but that JP always had her heart.

-JP comes out and it’s typical of the final couple. Well, except for Brad and Emily last season that was a little bit tense. But a lot of kissing, hugging, happiness all around, etc. They say they’ve Skyped pretty much every day they haven’t been together, and nothing that happened during the season did anything to change each others feelings for one another.

-Ashley’s sister is in the audience and ends up joining them on stage. She apologizes to JP for being so judgmental and knows he’s right for her sister. Says she didn’t want him to take anything personal but that she was just being a protective older sister. They hug it out, bitches.

-Ashley still has to finish up dental school but says she’s moving to NYC next month, looking for work, and they are getting a place together.

-ABC gives the new couple another trip to Fiji on their dime as their gift. Geez, didn’t they just give Jason and Molly a tent? Or did they give them a trip too? Can’t remember. Whatever the case, JP and Ashley get another free trip to Fiji.

The End.

So I’m curious how many people are still doubting what I told them was going to happen back on June 1st? Funny, after Ali and Roberto’s season, people were saying that I’d never get another spoiler again from this show and that was the end of me. Might’ve been the stupidest thing I’ve ever read. Especially considering ever since that season, you have known what was going to happen going into every episode of “Bachelor Pad 1”, Brad’s season, Ashley’s season, and now “Bachelor Pad” 2″ by coming to this site. Sorry, but I’m not going anywhere anytime soon. I will continue to talk about and spoil the show, and haters will continue to talk about me. That’s the way it works, and I’d have it no other way, so keep it comin’.

One final nugget that I’m sure you’ll enjoy. Or think is repulsive, one of the two. Apparently this video was made a couple years ago when Ben F. and his buddy thought they’d follow in the footsteps of Andy Samberg and Justin Timberlake’s Digital Short’s on “Saturday Night Live” and be the next comedy duo to make up a comical song about sex. This one is entitled “Cream Dream.” I’m sure you can guess what this entails. There is profanity in case you have virgin ears. Click on the link below to see the video:

“Cream Dream” –

I’ll give Ben this: At least this shows he actually has somewhat of a personality. However, the Samberg/Timberlake duo were able to make songs without blatantly dropping f-bombs, and talking about wet dreams all while squirting lotion around for the visual effect. Whatever the case, here’s a video I’m guessing he didn’t want me to get my hands on, but fortunately, I did. Or maybe he doesn’t care that it’s out. Who knows? Hope you enjoyed that brilliance.

Back tomorrow with your “Reader Emails.” Send your emails to: To follow me on Twitter, it’s: Or join my Reality Steve Facebook Fan Page. See you tomorrow.



  1. mja

    July 27, 2011 at 8:17 AM

    I’m sorry that Ashley let Ben propose, and only after that told him that he wasn’t the one. She has been so quick to eliminate people she didn’t know where right that I’m surprised about this. But… didn’t Deanna get in trouble for letting Jason propose, and then Jason got to be the next Bachelor? Or am I misremembering who that was?

  2. mja

    July 27, 2011 at 8:18 AM

    where = were in my previous post.

  3. livelovelaugh1992

    July 27, 2011 at 9:02 AM

    Reality Steve have you heard anything about who will be the next Bachelor?

  4. DawsMA

    July 27, 2011 at 9:26 AM

    mja, I think Jason dropped to one knee and then Deanna told him to get up, but still caught flack for it since she let him even get to one knee. I bet viewers will attack Ashley for letting Ben get all the way through his proposal first! It does seem kind of cruel.

    livelovelaugh1992, I hope you are joking with him.

    Ridiculous video of Ben. Definitely not funny like JT and AS. Trying too hard! But awesome that it’s out there. I hope Ashley and Britt see it and have a laugh.

  5. mja

    July 27, 2011 at 9:28 AM

    Thanks, DawsMA — I think you are right.

    I didn’t watch the video, and may not.

  6. BLT

    July 27, 2011 at 9:30 AM

    Never doubted you for a minute, Steve! Omg….Cream Dream. How on earth did you find that? You’re the man!

  7. mommyof2

    July 27, 2011 at 10:30 AM

    I’m wondering if Natalie Getz (last year’s Bachelor Pad winner) reads Reality Steve and the comments section. I stated in the comments of the last RS post that Ben looked so much better with his new hair cut AND that he looked like a Disney character on his overnight date in the flowy, see-through shirt. I read her Style blog today, and she compared Ben to the Disney character Gaston and said he looked much hotter w/ his hair cut. Either she reads RS, or Natalie and I think alike (except she didn’t like the Disney look, whereas I did!). Anyway, she also seems to like Ames’ looks like me, so maybe we just think alike. Then again, I wouldn’t be surprised if tons of other people also think Ben looks better with his new hair cut (still longish, but a little shorter) and who think he looked like a Disney hero in that shirt. So, it could be just a coincidence.

  8. mommyof2

    July 27, 2011 at 10:40 AM

    Oh, and I agree that that was NOT class for Ashley to allow Ben to propose if she knew she wasn’t going to choose him. I’m actually surprised she let him get that far. She will definitely catch a lot of heat for not intervening so he could save face. I’m disappointed in her.

    I’m thinking she was being a little selfish and needed to hear him propose to her for her own security since so many guys chose to leave her this season. She may have been fearful that JP wouldn’t propose, so at least she could show that someone wanted her if JP didn’t. This is complete speculation, of course. I hope she and JP work out in the end and that Ben finds his special someone, too.

    I’m kind of wondering if Ashley’s insecurity stems from her sister’s constant negative attitude towards Ashley and if her sister has put Ashley down throughout her life under the guise of “protecting” her, when in reality, she doesn’t want her sister to be happy. Why else would she be so bitchy to JP if it was obvious that Ashley and JP were in love? She should be supportive of Ashley (unless Ashley brought someone like Bentley home). Maybe Ashley’s sister’s attitude towards Ashley throughout her life has made Ashley insecure. At least it’s obvious that Ashley is honest and has a good heart, even if she does have insecurities, poor judgment (Bentley), and made some mistakes (like letting a great guy like Ben propose when she knew she wasn’t going to choose him). But, nobody’s perfect.

  9. BLT

    July 27, 2011 at 10:55 AM

    I agree – Ashley let Ben propose to ease her severe insecurities. She needed at least 2 proposals to make up for being dumped 3 times!

  10. Small_Peanut

    July 27, 2011 at 10:56 AM

    I’m surprised by how many people think the entire Bentley story was “for real” and not manufactured by Fleiss (sorry, you have to create drama which equals ratings, no man especially a father is that cruel, not buying it”) and she was probably told by the producers that she had to let Ben propose this way CLIPS or PHOTOS get out of Ben on one knee with the ring to magazines so peeps think it’s him. She probably felt sick to her stomach but it’s what she signed up for – she was TOLD to let him propose. Sorry, she’s in love w/JP and it wasn’t because she was insecure she needed to hear it, c’mon! When you’re in love you’re far from insecure, you’re high on life and you feel like crap having to let another DOWN! Just my opinion for what it’s worth. Thanks.

  11. Sunnyside422

    July 27, 2011 at 11:30 AM

    I agree with the above poster! I am convinced with Ali letting Chris go before the rose ceremony/proposal and thus shortening the program considerably, the producers informed Ashley she had to let Ben propose and then dump him. I just can’t believe she was so hard hearted as he is basically a good guy…just not the one for her. She was hot for JP from the very beginning, believed the crap “B” spewed for a period of time but got on track again with JP. He was her comfort zone…she admitted it…thoughout and has been steady and sure of his desire for her. Lucky girl.

    I wish Ashley and JP the best and hope they do find a long lasting future.

    I think Ben needs to grow up a bit more and loosen the ties his mom and sister have on him. I hope that they really are not that cold in real life and editing made it look that way.

  12. Nobody

    July 27, 2011 at 11:49 AM

    I’m probably in the minority here, but I firmly believe that all the drama involving Bentley was manufactured by ABC. I don’t believe for a moment that Ashley was ever upset about Bentley leaving, and her crying episodes seemed extremely fake and forced. I feel it was all staged solely for the dramatic effect.

    Think about it, if she was really into JP from the beginning like she is now saying, then what was with all the crap concerning Bentley? Easy…. It was fake, manufactured drama. She was merely following ABC’s script they had for this season.

  13. crysamadex

    July 27, 2011 at 12:01 PM

    Not sure if anyone has brought it up, but I am pretty sure Ashley’s sister was on the show Extreme Couponing. It shows her and her ex husband and their two kids.

  14. jenniferboston1

    July 27, 2011 at 12:52 PM

    @crysamadex yes, Ashley’s sister was on Extreme couponing.

    1) That video that Ben made was horrible, in poor taste and low-class (nothing like AS and JT).

    2)ITA, that it was a sad choice to let Ben get as far as proposing. Why would Ashley let it go that far?

    3)When Ali let Chris go beforehand..that’s when I actually warmed up to Ali!

  15. kashoo

    July 27, 2011 at 1:22 PM

    Yes Steve your ability to leech all of these spoilers from the forum that posted them 2 days ago is beyond impressive! But even if you didn’t get them from there, they still had the entire recap up well before you could even tweet about it.

  16. brandygilbert

    July 27, 2011 at 2:13 PM

    It happens every year that the Bachelorette gets 2 proposals. Anyone who watches the show knows this, so I don’t understand why ya’ll are bashing Ashley? Makes no sense to me…

    I don’t think she did it for her own insecurities. If anything, the producers wanted her to do it, to extend the show, etc. I’m sure Ashley would have preferred not having him propose.

  17. morrigan0

    July 27, 2011 at 2:32 PM

    I would love to know the forum spoilers were leeched from, if you have info why are you holding out? I kind of expected a video like that from Ben,he has his moments. I think he could have been quite a good match for Ashley and was probably edited more tame than fun-i.e. who knows how many outtakes of him being silly we didn’t see.

    It is douche-y of Ashley to let Ben finish a proposal even if only for tv UNLESS she’d pre-warned him, the same for Bentley. I do not know or care if either were planned by producers but I have a comment for the poster above who commented that “no man especially a father” would treat a woman the way Bentley treated Ashley “Join us in the real world”. People can be unbelievable assholes in much the same way people that look like complete hard asses can be civilized, kind people. The same way parents can kill their kids both men and women can be awful, just because you wouldn’t do it or can’t fathom it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen day in an out.

    And congrats to the person who made up a whole background story about Ashley’s insecurity relating to her sister. You must be very insightful to have picked that up based upon someone else’s recap of events you did not witness, I’m sure you’ll be quoted in the next tabloid article about Ashley 🙂

  18. hordac

    July 27, 2011 at 2:35 PM

    Agree that Ashley was forced by producers to have Ben go through with the proposal. She may be insecure, but she is not cruel and I’m sure if it WERE up to her, she would have let him go earlier. She seems honest to me and is conscious of minimizing the hurt for the guys she lets go. Ali was the first to let F2 down beforehand and they probably allowed it because it was new and they wanted to see how it would all pan out. Don’t you think that every Bachette would want to do this otherwise? No way would they allow it every season. Even they must realize its all recycled way too much and probably like to get a bit of different from time to time to keep viewers thinking that they may see a surprise once in awhile. But, the drama of that final proposal with the last two is the money shot for them, lets face it.

    Although I think JP is really hot, there was certainly a glimmer of a control issue when Ashley was dating the others with Ben not getting in until morning (or was it Constant Sleep? Geez I just can’t distinguish between the two!)and he couldn’t even sit still. Bit of a red flag. Hey, also, what happened to big religious difference between Ashley and Constant Sleep, it was totally edited out, or a non-issue?? Seems to me they just were not into each other and he said as much.

    Also, regarding Natalie reading the comments here. I think it is a pretty safe bet that most of the people involved in this franchise lurk around here. Hi all! Ashley and JP, if you are reading this, I wish you all the best. I do think you guys make a really nice couple and I hope you can beat the odds on this one. If not, at least enjoy some great sex LOL!! Your chemistry leaps off the screen.

  19. nhpp

    July 27, 2011 at 3:10 PM

    Did anyone notice a tatoo on Ashley’s wrist? Maybe she has it all along but I’m not sure. I just noticed it in the last episode (overnight dates)

    Anyway, I thought this season was very obvious who she was going to pick at the end. It’s like the producer is not even trying to hide it.

    A comment on JP’s jealousy…I think it would be hard for anyone who is falling hard for a girl to watch her dating/kissing/etc other guys so I wouldn’t give him too hard a time about it.

    It seems like out of all the bachelor/bachelorette seasons, the bachelorette rules in terms of couples staying together/married.

    Love your blog Steve…and all the spoilers! Can’t wait to see how the ending unfolds!

  20. roma

    July 27, 2011 at 3:27 PM

    Steve, I have appreciated your spoilers over the years and your blog makes me laugh sometimes… but please give credit where credit is due. These spoilers are almost word for word taken from another Bachelor spoiler board online. These spoilers have been on the internet for two days. Give credit where credit is due, Steve.

  21. morrigan0

    July 27, 2011 at 3:31 PM

    I thought it’d be the tattoo she got on the Bachelor with a few other girls but apparently that’s on her ankle. So here’s the story on the wrist tat courtesy of google: Ashley also has a tattoo on her wrist that reads “Crazy Beautiful.” Chrystie tells us that Ashley got this first tattoo in college when her best friend accompanied her to the parlor.

  22. niana

    July 27, 2011 at 3:32 PM

    For anyone interested in joining the board that these spoilers were taken from –

    Lots of fun, snark and many amazing members (and clearly, Steve is on the board as well 😉 )

    Hope to see you all there!

  23. intofocus

    July 27, 2011 at 3:35 PM

    Interesting how you want other sources to cite your blog when they copy what you say. Yet your blog today was copied from

    They had all of this information days before.

    Next time, give credit where it’s due honey! 🙂

  24. rs607

    July 27, 2011 at 3:37 PM

    Thank you for this!!! I’m so freakin’ happy!!!! You’re awesome & the man!

  25. wisewords

    July 27, 2011 at 4:33 PM

    Hey ya’all…just a reminder that Steve has said on numerous occasions that he does not read these comments. So if you have criticism or compliments directed towards RealtySteve, best to write him directly.

  26. jessi

    July 28, 2011 at 5:55 AM

    the cream dream video has been taken down!! nooooo lol

  27. canada girl

    July 28, 2011 at 9:12 AM

    I actually think that there has been some seasons where the bachelorette dose not let the guy propose…but I do no 100% remember. I think that Ashley should not have let him propose. However it dose not really matter now as she is with J.P.
    It is interesting that her sister disliked him so much, not sure what made her like Ben over him. I personally like Ben a little more than JP but he seems to be a nice guy and they really like eachother (just hope JP’s jealousy is done with as that can me a little scary down the line) anyways I think that her sister may be the one that has lead to Ashley’s insecurities as Mommyof2 has said. That makes alot of sense. I was not a fan of her sister last season. I like Ashley and I think that they way her sister treats her is not right…but will have to watch and see

  28. wisewords

    July 28, 2011 at 3:33 PM

    Interesting how RS has started referring to those who criticize him as “the haters” while he has an entire weekly post dedicated to making fun of his readers.

  29. AATxCutee

    July 28, 2011 at 4:23 PM

    High Five wisewords… because that’s exactly what he does. Posts people’s emails and makes fun of them with his ridiculously stupid answers. I don’t believe for a minute he doesn’t read these comments, he’s the most self-absorbed person. A little twit who thinks he’s taken on ABC and WINNING. Uh, sorry to burst your bubble Stevie…

  30. ltrain127

    July 28, 2011 at 9:07 PM

    I do think your show recaps are entertaining. Who doesn’t like a little sarcasm? Your whole pat yourself on the back, I got it right again thing kind of baffles me a bit.

    It’s quite simple. The show is shot. Someone tells you what happens and you post it. Not exactly rocket science. I could see giving yourself a pat on the back if you had a crystal ball or were sneaking around in bushes or something but you just wait for someone to tell you.

    Stick to the sarcasm, deflate the ego.

  31. mommyof2

    July 29, 2011 at 6:52 AM

    I agree that Ashley letting Ben propose could be b/c the producers told her to do it. Even though I feel she is somewhat insecure, she does seem to have a really honest, good heart, which was why I was surprised she let Ben propose. But, I could see the producers telling her she has to so as to keep the viewers speculating.

    Also, as far as “making up” the backstory of her sister making her insecure, I did mention that it was pure speculation based upon clips we’ve seen of upcoming episodes, which means I could be completely wrong, of course. Just speculation. I hope I’m wrong, b/c I would rather Ashley have a sister who is supportive and wants Ashley to be happy. But, as someone mentioned above, I wouldn’t be surprised if a tabloid did make up a story like my speculation, and run with it as true, which is just sad and wrong. Speculating is one thing, but writing a story based on pure speculation and saying it’s true is abhorrent.

  32. mommyof2

    July 29, 2011 at 7:11 AM

    By the way, anyone watching the new series on CMT called “Sweet Home Alabama”? It’s basically The Bachelorette, but the girl is a southerner who has several country/southern guys and several city guys to choose from for her dates and eliminations. They don’t go on exotic dates, but rather everyone has to do some sort of southern task (this week, they had to herd cattle). Next week, she goes to NYC with 3 of the city guys, so it’ll be more about her out of her element. It’s kind of funny, actually. RS would have a great time making fun of this show. The guys are hilarious! I can’t help but like the country guys so much more.

  33. ekmadel

    July 29, 2011 at 10:16 AM

    Steve rocks. Knowing what’s happening and getting steve’s sarcastic input along side it is the only worthwhile part of the show.

  34. Sunnyside422

    July 29, 2011 at 10:50 AM

    I totally agree ekmandel! I have enjoyed Steve for years now and if I didn’t have his blog, I couldn’t laugh at this show half as much! Just keep on going Steve…regardless of the harsh comments. You do as you do and we’ll keep reading. And you are definitely not over the hill at 36…somewhere there is a lady just waiting for someone with your sense of humor and style.

  35. lexasmygirl

    July 29, 2011 at 11:55 AM

    I kind of like Ben and I have always enjoyed Steve’s sarcasm, but lately it’s sounding more mean spirited than sarcastic.

    I understand it with Bentley. He makes J.R. Ewing look like Mother Theresa. But what has Ben ever done? He’s the only one, along with JP who did not bad mouth Ashley after she told them all about Bentley. He seems genuinely to care about her. And while I may not think it’s a good match, this guy is only 28 years old. That’s kind of young and still in some ways immature.

    I can’t hold his immaturity against him.

    But I don’t care who it is. That kind of video…unnecessary to post on a public board. Even if it’s Bentley or Michelle Money or any former hated Bachelor/Bachelorette person.

    Sarcasm is good and funny. Being mean spirited in my book is not.

  36. RSaddict

    July 29, 2011 at 7:34 PM

    Wisewords and AA Txcutee- Reality Steve makes fun of reader emails bc some people clearly email him without even reading his blogs… And, if they put themselves in that position and ask a question that has been asked (and answered) a hundred times on this site, they should expect to be ridiculed! — Just saying…

  37. JenJen

    July 30, 2011 at 8:37 AM


    Steve may claim he doesn’t read the comments but I assure you that he does. I know this because my roommate has been banned here twice for snarking on him in the commentary. He’s good at dishing it out and insulting his readers, but not so great at taking it. But hey it’s his blog, he can do as he pleases.

  38. morrigan0

    July 30, 2011 at 8:12 PM

    I enjoyed the interview linked to through twitter but I found it odd that anyone would think of RS as anything but nice. I guess sarcasm is lost on many more people than I first thought.

  39. morrigan0

    July 30, 2011 at 8:15 PM

    Also…’s kinda odd that you have to be signed into that other site in order to view/confirm anything. Needless to say I didn’t sign up. I don’t register for access to news when it’s available perfectly free at many other sites AND I don’t take these shows seriously enough to worry about a few days notice one way or another.

  40. wisewords

    July 31, 2011 at 7:11 PM

    niana and intofocus,
    do tell where you found that information on the bachandbachettefans site. With the hundreds of pages of posts with big graphics and animated smileys, that post is really hard to find.

    JenJen, are you saying that RS is a liar? 🙂 Ha ha well you could be right. Or I wonder if a reader reported it to the site admin? Most of these type of sites have a reporting mechanism for inappropriate posts. ‘cept I’ve never seen anything really inappropriate here. If your roommate got banned from posting here, most likely we have a case of the pot (RS) calling the kettle “black”!!

  41. AATxCutee

    August 1, 2011 at 8:09 PM

    Everybody get ready for Stevie to let us all know how awesome he is. Gag.

  42. megan100

    August 1, 2011 at 10:36 PM

    Reality Steve as next bachelor! Who agrees???

  43. JenJen

    August 2, 2011 at 7:23 AM

    @WiseWords – I hesitate to call him a liar, but I know that (back then at least) he read the comments. The site’s gotten bigger now so he may have stopped.

    But yeah my roommate did get banned. Well actually WordPress has no ban mechanism, so it was more like her account got deleted (something like four times,she kept coming back lol) because she insulted Steve in her posts. It was never anything worse than what he says in his blog about other people, but well it’s his blog. I guess he can do as he pleases.

  44. Gidget

    August 2, 2011 at 8:08 AM

    I wouldn’t be surprised if Natalie was reading comments on boards and then re-using them. I read her blog once and it was pretty much incoherent and full of spelling and grammar errors.

  45. realityb_1107

    August 2, 2011 at 10:50 AM

    the whole Ben being “unclassy” because of his video he made, get over yourselves people. I doubt he was trying to become anything because of that. Judging by what we all saw on the show, it was probably him just having fun but he probably had more means to do a better quality video rather than just a friend video taping. Saying he needs to loosen up? People are too judgmental. I thought it was hilarious. And also didn’t Steve say he did it a couple of years ago? Geez people, lighten up!

  46. qwe627866212

    August 8, 2011 at 10:34 PM

    Toast your awesome friends, Welcome to my entertainment stand

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