Reality Steve

Dr. Reality Steve

“Reader Emails”, More Goofy Ben Pictures, and the Return of Dr. Reality Steve

Hi Steve,

Huge long-term fan here. I write a reality column for our local newspaper, and for the record, I ALWAYS give you major props any time I refer to news garnered from your site or Twitter page. So my question is, how annoying is it that actual reporters and media sources run with info they obviously obtained from you, and not give you any credit? I know you have referenced this phenomenon before, and although you are good-natured about it, I guess I just wanted to say how unfair I think it is.

Also I had a laugh today when reading an interview with Chris Harrison, and when asked whether Emily was indeed the next Bachelorette, all he would say is that she could be but he doesn’t know who it is yet, but that would be soooo cool if she was already on board. As if he would not know the lead, even if it were already official. Who does this dude think he is fooling?

Oh, and one of your reader questions this week had to do with whether there were any fans left who actually watch the show believing love can be found, and I just had to comment that I know a handful of these viewers myself and knowing what I know (thanks primarily to you), I have to bite my tongue to keep from ruining the magic for them. It’s like pretending there is a Santa. Well, we all know most Santas are just creepy mall-dwelling weirdos tricking innocent people into believing a farce for profit (Mikey Fleiss, anyone)?

Keep up the great work Steve!

Comment: Oh, trust me. There are plenty out there who still think this show is a love story. You’ll see one of their emails later.

As I mentioned in the beginning of this column, it is what it is at this point. I don’t expect tabloids to give me credit because they don’t want to direct readers to somewhere else that’s beaten them to every Bachelor, Bachelorette, and Bachelor Pad spoiler for the last 3 years. If people want to get their information from those sites, all the power to them. Just know that you’ll be behind. Those tabloids have relationships with ABC because they want exclusive photos, and interviews, etc. Which is why they’ll never spoil the show. They only care about finding ex’s, friends, co-workers, etc of the contestants to talk sh** about them. That’s what makes those magazines go, not spoilers. If they don’t want to give me credit for something I report weeks before them, it’s fine. I know I had it before them and that’s all that matters.

Of course Chris knew that Emily was gonna be the “Bachelorette.” But since ABC hasn’t announced it officially, he can’t say anything. But even the answer he did give should’ve tipped anyone off who was doubting it.

Hi Steve,

I know you’ve answered the question millions of times about how late rose ceremonies go and you’ve said that they can take hours. But I don’t remember reading where you explain why they take so long. All we see of what makes it a “ceremony” is the bachelor/bachelorette says a few generic words and then says a name, gives them a rose, a hug and the person walks back in place. How can this possibly take so long? Is it because, as you’ve said, the bachelor/bachelorette needs to leave the room to be told which name to say next? Still, I just have trouble fathoming what takes so long!

Comment: Well, the ones in the first couple episodes take the longest just because of the numbers game. You’ve got 25 girls there the first night. You need to do 25 limo exits, Ben has to find time in the cocktail party to talk to 25 different women, then at some point, all those women are going off to film their ITM’s. Then the rose ceremony comes around and he’s got to…nope, not gonna do it. You know how it works on night one. I’ve answered it too many times.

Reality Steve,

This is the first time I’m writing to you. Love your site and love
reading the spoilers. My husband and friends hate that I read but I
enjoy knowing what happens. Knowing the spoilers helps with the

One of my questions is in regards to Courtney. Why would ABC paint
her as the villian if they know she’s the winner in the end? Like you
said, it’s going to be VERY difficult for them to sell Ben and
Courtney being engaged. It’s like Jakes season with Vienna. No one
liked her and they had a heck of a time selling them to the public.
It just seems like it would be easier for them in the end. They’re just
shooting themselves in the foot.

My second thought it about the news that Emily is the new
Bachelorette. I think Emily is beautiful inside and out and really
deserves to find true love but she was SOOO boring on Brads season.
She’s shy, doesn’t talk much and I could not see her making out with
15 random guys. Good luck with that one ABC. I really hope her guys
bring some drama to keep me awake every Monday. And what was wrong
with Lindzi or Kacie? I think a lot of America has forgotten about Emily.
If you don’t read tabloids, etc, she’s old news. Lindzi and Kacie getting dumped
is fresh. Emily’s season was over a year ago now. I loved Emily but I
would much rather have seen Kacie or Lindzi, someone new. But that’s my
opinion and like you said everyone has something different to say.

Would love to know your prospective on both these questions/statements.

Comment: I think they’re going for shock value with Courtney at this point. If that’s the way she acted, then they’re gonna show it. But just keep a close eye on all the times she’s with Ben. She hasn’t mentioned any of the other girls when she’s with him, hasn’t talked about her relationship with them to him, and basically just kisses Ben’s ass and sucks up to him when they’re alone. That’s what Ben is seeing. Just like Ashley wasn’t seeing what Bentley was saying about her and everyone was screaming for her not to give him a rose, she could only go off how Bentley was around her. Same deal with Ben. Every time he’s with Courtney, he’s gushing.

Do I think Emily is the best choice they could’ve made for Bachelorette? No. I’ve said that. Not because she’s changed her mind or anything like that. That’s her issue that she’s gonna have to answer to. But just the face that she’s a single mother (the first female lead they’ve had who is one) and I think she has to set a different standard than her predecessors. She definitely is more on the quiet side, not as outgoing, not as spunky as any of the previous Bachelorettes. So I do think her as a lead won’t be as entertaining as previous women, but, doesn’t mean her season won’t be. They’ll get their drama whether Emily gives it to them or not.

But yes, I would’ve rather seen Kacie or Lindzi as the next Bachelorette personally.

Hey there…I wanted to know who films the “bio” videos about the contestants. It seems very proffesional, so I’d be surprised if it’s done by the girls themselves. But if it is done by ABC, why did they video a bunch of girls who were sent home the first night and both girls who were sent home the 2nd week. (Jenna and Shawntel). How do they decided who to film? If they did not know who will be eliminated when at the time of filming, they still chose to show it to everyone. Just wondering if you know anything on this subject and what your thoughts are.


Comment: The bios are shot by ABC camera crews. They are sent off to these peoples hometowns once they’re officially cast on the show and the producer basically comes up with the “theme” for that hometown, which essentially is already setting that person’s “character” on the show. Remember Courtney’s? “I’m a model, I’m very competitive, I don’t care about what the other girls think of me, I can see myself married, I want a 2 carat ring.” You get the picture.

They showed 9 girls hometown videos in that first episode, but many more were filmed. They just pick and choose the ones they want to show. I don’t know the thought process behind which ones ultimately they decide to go with, but just know that for the most part, your top 3 or 4 girls will usually have a hometown video shown in episode 1.

Hi Steve –

A year or two ago, in one of your Steve/Maddie videos, you mentioned that she knows she must eat her treat in a particular room. I LOL’d during this week’s video when you gave her the treat, and she ran off so fast she left a blur-mark on the screen. My question is: how did you train her to know where you wanted her to eat that treat?

Comment: Hmmmmm…good question. I don’t remember actually training her to do that. But she basically is on my bed all day long. My bed is her home. She doesn’t sleep anywhere else, so, that’s where she feels most comfortable with. The only time she’ll eat a treat NOT in my room, is if when she takes off sprinting it falls out of her mouth – then she’ll eat it right where she dropped it. Won’t pick it up and continue into the room, nope. She’ll eat it right there. No rhyme or reason to why she does that other than, well, she’s a dog.

Reality Steve,

I can’t help but notice how docile and obedient Maddie seems to be. Can you share what you would consider to be the most important training tips, or things you have done to train Maddie?

Also, what breed is she?

Comment: She’s been that way since I adopted her. Her paperwork says she’s a beagle mix, but I don’t see much beagle in her. Her features look to be more of a bigger dachshund. When you adopt a dog, you read the little story written about them on the cage, and the story I was given was that she was turned in by a family who had an 8 year old son with asthma, and their doctor said it’d be best to give her up. Maybe it’s true, maybe it isn’t, but I tend to think there’s more to that story. I think Maddie was abused or neglected by her previous owners, whoever they were. I’ve had her almost 4 years now (March 15th, 2008), and she’s still very quiet, very skittish around other people until she gets to know them, and is very much an indoor dog. She doesn’t fetch, doesn’t chase anything, and really doesn’t like being outside. She’ll go for walks, and we’ll go to the dog park, but she kinda does her own thing. Other dogs come sniff her and it seems like she doesn’t really seem to care. She just goes off on her own.

But I wouldn’t have it any other way. She is the best purchase I’ve ever made in my life.

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  1. lillithcsks

    January 19, 2012 at 8:28 AM

    So what is Bentley’s twitter account?

  2. carol

    January 19, 2012 at 10:34 AM

    One of the big reasons that Emily was announced early as the next bachelorette is because applicants have to be interested in dating/marrying someone with a child. Lots of guys throw up the hand when it comes to Jiffy Family.

  3. rs607

    January 19, 2012 at 11:37 AM

    They recasted Mary Delgado and she “won” that season – you can call their twisted sick drunken violent rel that have put her in jail twice winning.

  4. rs607

    January 19, 2012 at 11:39 AM

    I forgot the most important word “IF” at the beg. of “you can call their twisted…” in the post above.

  5. crumpet

    January 19, 2012 at 8:43 PM

    Jenna worked at Lucky magazine (not on the editorial side) until relatively recently, so yeah she’s not really a blogger.

  6. caitlyn

    January 20, 2012 at 11:00 AM

    Steve I disagree with one comment. You call Ben a “giant goofball”. I call Ben a drunken party boy, along the lines of Charlie O’Connel and Ed Swiderski, same type of guy, will never commit to a real relationship. The booze and the parties always come before a woman for these dbags.
    Great column, this show is so boring with Apeface as the lead.

  7. caitlyn

    January 20, 2012 at 11:06 AM

    I hope your planning on buying JP and Ashley a wedding gift and staying true to your word. I’ts gonna happen.

  8. xxznat

    January 20, 2012 at 12:56 PM

    to the girl whos bf would buy her a ring., I suggest u ask your bf why it seems lik he is not that interested and just ok bout ur wedding.

  9. karynr

    January 20, 2012 at 2:43 PM

    Drunken high school party boy. I wouldn’t even elevate him to college level.

  10. JenJen

    January 22, 2012 at 11:14 PM

    Are you EVER going to get over the fact that no one is going to credit you as being the first source? You mention it EVERY SINGLE TIME it happens. Seriously, Steve, just get past it. Unless you really are just out for fame.

  11. Dianne

    January 23, 2012 at 7:05 AM

    @JenJen..hun?? What are you on about?

  12. Dianne

    January 23, 2012 at 7:16 AM

    oh gosh no!! I live in Toronto, ON, Canada, and am totally not looking forward to this:–the-bachelor-canada-debuts-next-fall

  13. locondcoco

    January 23, 2012 at 12:58 PM

    JenJen, completely agree. To say that “its fine with me” that those other sites dont credit him, yet to go on and on and on (and on) about how little credibility it has, etc, etc clearly shows that it is NOT fine with RS.

  14. mommyof2

    January 23, 2012 at 1:13 PM

    I’m behind on the Bachelor episodes b/c I watched Alcatraz last Mon. Instead, but I watched the Bachelor on Sun. B/c it came on ABC in the afternoon. I cannot believe how those women reacted when Shawntel arrived. They were mean girls for sure- just so rude and vicious! I now think it would’ve been AWESOME if they had Ben’s sister, Julia, arrive instead, acting like another contestant trying to win Ben’s affections. Working undercover, she could report back to Ben what some of these girls are REALLY like. Now that would’ve been fun to watch!

  15. CaliGirl

    January 23, 2012 at 1:27 PM

    mommyof2, I LOVE that idea! That would be kind of gross to see Ben’s sister flirt with him and vie for his affection even if she was pretending. But that still would have been entertaining. The show needs to try SOMETHING different for a change!!

  16. wisewords

    January 23, 2012 at 4:22 PM

    I have often wondered why RS feels the need to constantly complain (ad nauseum) about readers asking him the same questions. Apparently they really bother him. And he expects us–the readers of his blog–to go back and read every entry he’s ever made so we won’t ask him a question he answered before. Really???

    This business about “I won’t create an FAQ page because people wouldn’t read it anyway” is a bunch of bunk. At the very least, he could just ignore the questions. How easy is that?

    Ah, but I know I am asking too much of our sophomoric Steve. Complaining and rambling on and on is all part of the RealitySteve M.O.

  17. Jessica Rabbit-DFW/HHH

    January 23, 2012 at 8:10 PM

    why is courtney such a d-bag? and why does she keep doing that smirky sideways thing with her mouth?

  18. nora j

    January 23, 2012 at 10:54 PM

    I still can’t believe Courtney will be the final girl. She’s a bitch and they are letting us all see it. She is worse than Vienna…actually I feel like they hid some of Vienna’s bitchiness to us cuz i actually felt sorry for her and thought Ali was the bitch that season. Anyway I haven’t seen the producers allow that kind of edit for the F1 ever…either she really isn’t the F1 or there is a first time for everything…or maybe the edit isn’t that bad but I’m biased cuz I just can’t stand Courtney’s personality.

  19. nora j

    January 23, 2012 at 10:57 PM

    btw I knew Emily wanted to be the bachelorette. She was lying when she said she had no interest in it. She was just waiting for the hype of breaking up with Brad to die down. Subconsciously or actually consciously she knew there was a good chance she would do it but just not right after she broke up with Brad.

  20. apm22

    January 24, 2012 at 7:59 AM

    You don’t give credit to where you got your sources so why should the magazine covers. And not everyone reads your site, by the way. Also, Mary Delgado was a contestant on two seasons of the bachelor.

  21. sourpuss

    January 25, 2012 at 7:24 AM

    Courtney ought to be checked for a new disease called well-rehearsed Tourette’s Syndrome.

  22. gege

    January 26, 2012 at 8:43 AM

    Watched Australian Tennis — Nadal reminded me of a very very handsome Ben – Nadal is MUCH smarter though!

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