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Hey Steve!

Love the site! Quick question/thought

How the hell does Nicki/Nicky (however she spells it) get to the final 3? We have hardly seen clips from this girl except for last night and she hasn’t even had a 1-on-1 yet. Weird! Maybe she has big boob. I wouldn’t know, haven’t really been paying attention to that, but I am sure you would know! Keep up the great work! Thanks for all the spoilers!

Comment: Her relationship with Ben starts this week when she has the first 1-on-1 date. I don’t think Nicki’s boobs are that huge to the point where they overly stand out. As I said last week, none of the final 4 have implants. In fact, I don’t think any of the final 6 do when you throw in Rachel and Emily. This is a very implant-free season. Booooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

Reality Steve,

Love your blog…I know everyone else says that it makes the show better but it is true. Sometimes I want to stab myself in the eye after the show ends on Monday but your blog on Tuesday always makes me laugh!

What the hell is wrong with Courtney’s mouth?

Comment: Yeah, I’m not sure. Here’s what I do know about Courtney. That chick always has a drink in her hand. Maybe her mouth gets like that when she’s a little schmammered. You know how people get when their drunk. Slower speech, different mouth contortions – maybe she’s one of those.


I watch The Bachelor, like (hopefully) most of the other readers for the sole purpose of reading your column. It’s always a great way to break up a Tuesday. I’m pregnant with my first child, and I’m blown away by the frequency of bizarre dreams I have each night. They’re usually a very contorted version of one of the last several things I watch, read or think about at night. Last night, to my horror, I was a contestant on the Bachelor. When I woke up, though, I was laughing hysterically, because everything I said to other women (sorry, they were rackless and faceless), to the producers in my ITMs and to the lead was said basically so you would make fun of it on your site. I used every phrase from the early 90s I could come up with and wore hats from Blossom’s days on NBC. Thanks for creeping into my weird a*s dreams. Keep it up.

Comment: Ummmmm, you’re welcome?

Hey Steve,

Great blog. Question – how do the producers book travel for the contestants without knowing names in advance? Can they somehow just book “blocks” of tickets?

Comment: I’m sure it’s not that hard. They’re a major network show with a budget through the roof. Did you see this past Monday night on “ET” about 15 minutes before the show aired, they were saying that ONE season of the “Bachelor” brings in $178 million in ad revenues. $178 MILLION!!! And yet they’re worried about some piss-ant blogger from Texas giving spoilers? Geesh.

So with that kind of money, I’m sure they have tickets already set aside for flights knowing roughly how many they need for cast and crew, then they just fill in the names once they know. If it costs them a few extra bucks, so be it. I’m guessing they’ll survive.

Hi steve

big fan of your show.

this is random but i was just wondering if when the bachelor/bachelorette proposes do they get to choose who they talk to first, such as if they get to tell the person their dumping or marring first or second. if not do the producers change it up every year because it seems like the first person is usually given the boot.

Comment: This has differed throughout the years. Off the top of my head, I can’t remember for the life of me which seasons had the first person out of the limo be the “winner,” but its definitely happened. In recent seasons? No. I know at least every season since Jason’s, the first person out of the limo is the one going home. But back in the day, they used to mix it up. Nowadays, they don’t.

Love your site. So much fun reading it. Thanks for making me laugh until I cry and also for pointing out the obvious way the editors create personalities with their editing choices – look how Monica went from being completely crazy the first episode to one of the nicest girls in the house and how Blakely went from uber-Vamp to sorority sister, doing Emily’s highlights and all.

Now for my question (and I am prepared to be berated if you have answered these already):

1) Is it in the contract of the Bachelor/Bachelorette that they have to go off with someone who “interrupts”? I don’t think I have ever seen the Bachelor/ette say “no” when someone comes over and says “can I steal you?”, “mind if I interrupt?”.

2) Also, do the women have to act upset when they leave? Monica clearly had no interest in Ben and that crying at the end was bizarre and you have clearly told us that Samantha asked to leave and she said that she was upset about Ben in her departure (unless that is sound editing and she was actually talking about the producer)? Have you ever seen the actual contract? Now, that would be amazing to read.

As a general comment, Ben actually grew some tonight when he actually got mad at Emily for complaining about Courtney and was annoyed with Samantha (I think that was her name). As a man, can you please tell me, is it really that appealing to a man when a woman acts and talks in a little girl tone like Courtney does? Beauty aside, it just seems strange to me that men find that quality appealing.

Thanks and keep on writing. I’ll keep on reading.

Now if you would only spoil Survivor! Would love to know what really goes on behind-the-scenes of that show.

Comment: 1) Is it in the contract? No. Is it suggested that they do for dramatic effect? Yes.

2) No. Some women don’t act upset, but you rarely see them because that’s boring television. These women are so emotional, they’re drunk, they’re cranky, they just got dumped on national television, and they’re barely working on any sleep – I think that plays a huge role in why you see so many women crying when they shouldn’t be over a guy they don’t know. So many more factors come in to the tears at the end of the show with the dumpees, and mostly none of them have to do with because the lead doesn’t like them enough anymore to keep them around. A lot of it is producers asking them questions (which we don’t see) that have nothing to do with them getting dumped, but just any questions that the producers know will get them emotional. Then once the tears are already flowing, then they’ll ask, “So what’s it’s feel like to get dumped?” which makes it worse.

The “baby talk” question will be answered tonight.

I actually truly believe Frank and Ali are soul mates. can you pls give me some dirt on them???? PLEASEEEEEEE??? I don’t want to read anymore posts about his live in girlfriend dammit!

P.S On the subject of Ben and Courtney, do you think you might be wrong? Just say’!

Comment: Frank and Ali are soulmates? OOOOOOOOO-KAAAAAAAAYYYYY.

P.S. – No. Not a chance.

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  1. kdksigns

    January 26, 2012 at 5:28 PM


    We love you, but you really need to get some art on your walls. Everything is white and/or tan/brown. Whats with that?

  2. penguinfan01

    January 27, 2012 at 4:15 AM

    Steve, I am a huge fan of your blog and your video chats, and will stay that way. My comment is one that I sent you when you were so positive that Chantal was the pick. I am going to say it again, when this show leads you in one direction and makes it blatant that so and so is the pick, then it usually goes in the other direction. They are making it clear that Ben likes Courtney a lot. Watch your back, I am thinking it will go the other way. MF is very predictable, you already know that. Keep up the good work, I could not get through a show without your spoilers.

  3. karynr

    January 27, 2012 at 11:34 AM

    Thanks Steve. I wasn’t home last night, and have only watched half so far, but have to tell you Maddie is so adorable. Of course you already know that. She’s a helluva lot cuter than Courtney! And probably nice too!

  4. karynr

    January 27, 2012 at 11:35 AM

    nicer….in a hurry

  5. Dianne

    January 27, 2012 at 12:28 PM

    Awwwww..Maddie!! What a sweet pup!

  6. arp88

    January 28, 2012 at 8:16 PM

    That limo question is bothering me now. I remember the season – the first girl to arrive was chosen and they sent her up into the mansion while he dumped the other girl, who had to have the limo pull over so she could puke in the bushes on the way there. I can’t remember which Bachelor it was or who either of the women were!

  7. nyfanatic

    January 29, 2012 at 9:07 PM

    Hi Steve,

    Jesse Palmer’s season was the one when they had the winner come out of the limo first and then she watched from above in a house while he rejected the other girl (I don’t remember their names at all!).

  8. cangel44

    January 30, 2012 at 9:35 AM

    love your blog. I think that name remembering question is funny. I remember how they do it and how long those ceremonies last….and how many names are called at different intervals. I would spill the beans but I dont want t,,,you addressed it not that long ago.Had to of been within the last seasons before Ashley and Brads. Buuuut… I did forget…why is that pavement always wet at the meet and greets. LMAO

  9. Dianne

    January 30, 2012 at 11:15 AM

    ummmmm..nyfanatic..was it Jesse Palmer, or was it Andrew Firestone? I thought it was Andrew Firestone, Jenn was the girl that came out of the limo first and watched from the house.

  10. karynr

    January 30, 2012 at 11:32 AM

    It was Jesse Palmer. He chose a blonde and gave her a ticket to NY….no engagement ring. The other one, I think her name is Tara, puked on her way to rejection.

  11. karynr

    January 30, 2012 at 11:48 AM

    I think her name is Jessica (the blonde). That was a big nothing of a season!

  12. Dianne

    January 30, 2012 at 12:38 PM

    right, right, it was Jesse, and yes, Tara..that was her name ..she kept asking the driver to stop the car so she could throw up!

  13. sherry123

    January 30, 2012 at 5:18 PM

    Courtney is such an awful person. It only proves to me that men are blind when it comes to sex. She’s not good looking. Skinny, yes; pretty, NO!!! Yikes! She’s terrible. She’s cultivating a lot of BAD KARMA!

  14. princess1107

    January 31, 2012 at 9:37 AM

    It is very disappointing that Ben can not see the true Courtney that the other girls see. She is decietful and certainly not pretty or even cute. I have yet to figure out what Ben sees in her. He should have eliminated her in the beginning. She doesn’t show her true colors when she is with Ben. She definitely has a problem getting along with other people and is a different person around Ben. I am very disappointed that Ben would fall for someone of her character and that he can’t see through her. Casey B. is the sweetest and in my opinion the best pick for Ben. You can just see the chemistry when those two are together. The entire show seems to be about Courtney so I guess we should have known after the first few episodes. What a shame – the loser wins! How disappointing!!

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