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“Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” Live Video Blog Tonight, and Pictures of the Final Two In Switzerland

Here are some more reader questions– note that there are a lot of them, but they actually are from myself plus my two sisters, as a joint email. Feel free to just pick and choose, and ignore some of them at whim, as I know this is a loooong email.

1) If anyone doubts your finale spoilers, they really shouldn’t have after the skinny dipping spectacle. Even if Ben wanted to pick Linzdi and her horses in the end, do you think he even could have? Can you imagine the “After the Final Rose” trainwreck- with Lindzi having dumped him by then (after seeing Ben’s underwater action), and with Courtney there giving him crap for going that far with her and then choosing another girl? I think he got trapped by his hormones and basically picked Courtney as his final one, on that skinny dipping episode. Most anti-climactic finale ever, even without your spoilers, in my opinion. Thoughts?

2) Why did they decide to go with Emily Maynard, over a current girl from this season– does she just have such a large fanbase, that it was better to go with her over someone that would be more currently recognized? Or do you think it was just a factor of the final four from this season being less interesting or less liked by the viewing public? Do any of the final four from this season feel ripped off (according to your intel), or did the girls from this season all say no (like Chris from Ali’s season did, thus them shopping in the Brad Womack dept, again)? They don’t usually go ‘back’ like this, to dig from previous seasons… were any of the girls from this season even asked or considered?

3) Why are there so many more “Bachelor” seasons than “Bachelorettes”? Wasn’t Trista’s baby-talk season right after Alex Michael’s, since she was the runner up to Amanda, there? Now they seem to do Bachelor-Bachelorette in succession, but why did they not do this back then? Did Trista’s season tank, rating wise, so they stuck with the Bachelors for a while, and if so, why did this change? I know they always went with “new” Bachelors back then, but it seemed the Bachelorettes were always cast-offs, so why wouldn’t they at least do one Bachlorette for each Bachelor season? Is it a ratings thing?

4) Will Shawntel Newton be on The Women Tell All, to have her say (*cough*Promote her book*cough*)?

5) You realize your fans are going to bombard Emily once she is allowed on twitter, with requests for her to go on a date with you, right? How do you feel about this? 😉 Would you consider it, even if she’d be a long distance romance?

6) During your trial, are you required to give up your sources? I assumed they’d ask you to provide that information, to prove that you aren’t in fact seducing people with cash, to violate confidentiality agreements…. Will you have to give that up, and if so, what does that mean for the future of spoiling, if the names get out (or if Fleiss then goes to the named people)?

7) Is traffic on your site at an all time high– not only given that you’d get more attention from the lawsuit, but also because you now have a live webshow that is number one on vokle, and because you’re just doing ‘more’ for your fans in terms of posts, updates and Dr. Reality Steve? You must have an all time high, readership….Is all of the new stuff you’re delivering for your fans, and the amount of time you’re spending on your blog, a consequence of you now doing this ‘full time’? This isn’t meant to stroke your ego– it’s a genuine question.

PS: Just as an aside and not necessarily for printing, given I know you get enough rabid fan mail (as well as hater mail) as it is. But I wanted to say that I’ve really noticed you delivering for your fans this year– your recaps have never been funnier, your reader emails columns never longer, I love the rebirth of Dr. Reality Steve, and the web show is hilarious and much better than Gossip With Getz and Reality Smackdown, to say the least. Just wanted to say THANKS– it’s great to have all of this stuff to read and follow, to get us through the lull and boredom of the work week. Your fans have really noticed how much ‘extra’ you are giving this year, and whether or not you are tired of hearing it, I thought i’d say the same.

Comment: 1) Yes, I think the finale will be anti-climactic because by the time it airs, I’ll have had who he picks out there for 3 months, and everyone pretty much saw it play out on TV that couldn’t be anyone BUT Courtney. But the ATFR show will be the main attraction because of the tabloid rumors and speculation about the their relationship status now. Both of them will have a lot to answer to.

2) Emily was chosen because she’s one of the more popular bachelorettes in the history of this show. People are infatuated with her and her life, which is why we were hearing about her 4 or 5 months after her season ended.

No idea if any of Ben’s girls are upset they weren’t chosen. They all have a bit of ego, we all do, so yeah, I’m sure some of them were bummed they couldn’t be the next Bachelorette. That’s natural. But nothing out of the ordinary.

3) They did two “Bachelor” seasons before the first “Bachelorette” with Trista. Then they did rotated seasons for two seasons when they did Meredith, then Jen Scheft. After Jen Scheft (whose season was a disaster), I think they did like 3 or 4 “Bachelors” before they brought the “Bachelorette” back with DeAnna. Ever since DeAnna’s season, they do one of each every year.

4) No idea if Shawntel will be there. Wouldn’t surprise me if she was, wouldn’t surprise me if she wasn’t.

5) If that’s what my fans want to do, then I can’t stop them. But I don’t think they will, to be honest. Kinda tough to answer a question like that when I don’t know a thing about her and vice versa. I don’t count what I see on TV. Sure, I like what I see, but I’m guessing there’s a lot more to her than that. She’s beautiful, smart, and seems normal (well other than appearing on this show in the first place). There are plenty of guys that will be after her once this is over, including tons from this franchise. She will have no problem finding a date.

6) Who says I’m going to trial? I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: is going nowhere. It’s business as usual on this site.

7) Well my traffic has gone up every single season since Jake’s, so it’s tough to pinpoint one thing in particular that’s driving it. Just every time a new season rolls around, people know where to come to get all the best information regarding spoilers, stories, commentary, etc. Word of mouth plays a big role as well. The more people tell other people who tell other people, etc the more eyeballs come to the site. I like to compare seasons to each other since they all air at the same time (Bachelor: January-March, Bachelorette: May-August). Jake’s season was big in 2010, then Brad’s season’s numbers absolutely destroyed Jake’s season’s numbers. So going into to Ben’s season, I was just hoping to duplicate the numbers we got for Brad’s season, or improve by a little bit. It’s not even close. We are doubling and tripling Brad’s season’s numbers. I’m shocked.

And thanks for the kind words. I’m glad we added the live video blog. That’s fun. And Dr. Reality Steve, even though it was a little light this week, has been a good addition as well. In the offseason, I hope to continue both of them, all while giving you updates on what’s happening with Emily’s filming.

I’m sorry if you addressed this, but was there ever an explanation for the scoreboard error shown in the baseball game?

Red: 5 1 0 2 2
Blue: 3 3 1 2

Blue team should have won after the 3rd inning…..

Comment: None. No explanation whatsoever. Don’t know what to tell ya. You make an unbelievable point and the game should’ve been stopped immediately making the blue team winners. A travesty!

We had two people send in raps about me. Are they better than Emily’s? Hmmmmmm….

Hey Steve,

I thought it would be funny to write you a rap, since you seem to really dig that. It’s no where near as good as Emily’s – I’m not that smart. Nonetheless, I hope you at least give it a small chuckle, since you’ve given me so many!

Thanks for all you do,

Reality Steve, that’s his name,
And unlocking bachelor spoilers, is his game.
Love him or hate him, he still sucks you in,
Can’t wait ‘til his Tuesday blogs begin.
He’s funny, he’s quirky, he’s super sarcastic,
He rips the show apart when all the girls go spastic.
Sometimes he gets pompous and even a little bratty,
But how can you not dig him and dog Maddie?
Answering the same questions gets annoying, I bet –
Like, hey I can’t figure it out, why is the pavement wet?
Do they give the girls make-up and provide their clothes?
I can’t find it anywhere, who gets the final rose?
I have an idea, how about you create a FAQ page?
23 seasons later, I think we’re past that stage.
He moves on without grace and answers with wit,
All those eye rolling questions, they’ll never quit.
So viewers watch the show, and think it’s a love story,
Then Steve tells how it really is in all his true glory.
The bachelor is edited, repetitive and makes us laugh
Chris Harrison is such a dork, but on his behalf…

He makes a ton of money for barely sayin’ a word,
And when he shows his math skills, it sounds absurd.
Mike Fleiss is even worse, but I’ll take his money, too,
Best believe, Me and Reality Steve could run this zoo!
So if you want the facts, nothing false, nothing fake,
Come to his site, because it takes the cake.
There’s nothing better out there, it’s the bomb,
One simple click –

Or you also had this one…


So you were raving about DJ Em and her lyrical skills so i thought i would give you 18 bars all about you! It may not be as articulate as DJ Em but here is my best shot at it. Keep spoiling!

Let me tell you what I know about Reality Steve,
He’s got them spoilers on the Bachelor and Bachelorette for me.

If you can’t take a joke don’t even go to his site,
The way he clowns on all the leads has me laughing all night.

Every Tuesday I read the column and it is nothing less than hilarious,
All the skewed, slanted details are super vicarious.

Let me not forget to mention he can get a bit sophomoric,
If you do something stupid what he writes about you….historic.

His latest little craze is shawty DJ Eminemly,
A blonde that raps and majors in Epidemiology.

Em… yeah her flow is alright, but her minds not on the ball,
She’s letting Courtney skinny dip with her man and fondle his balls.

But enough about DJ Em let’s get back to the spoiler king,
His sources will never be revealed the art of good reporting.

Reality Steve is the #1 source for spoilers if you want to hear all the dirt,
If you want to miss out on accurate information…Alert you better avert.

Reality Steve here’s 18 bars all for you and it was pretty easy,
If I made you fall in love I expect you down on one knee.

Oh shot out to Maddie, how could I forget to mention your dog,
The column is even better when you bring her up in your blog.

Comment: Very nice effort ladies. I really appreciate it. Looks like Emily is gonna have to step her game up “8 Mile” style to compete with that. Lets see if she can. Or not.


On the 2 on 1 dates, is there just a cameraman there with them, or is there a producer there with them helping to “direct”?. It seems like it would be hard to have any personal conversation with a whole bunch of people around your table or what have you.

Comment: There’s cameramen and producers. Nothing about this show reflects normal dating life. This surprises you?


Really enjoy your sight and your video blog too .

I believe you’re “spot on” about Ben & Courtney. It’s Lindzi getting into the helicopter you can tell by the hair color. The Promo shows Lindzi walking up and it’s the exact same dress that’s getting into the helicopter. ABC seems to always show the 2 runner up’s footage in promos. That means Courtney WINS !

Do you know how many lead bachelor, bachelorette are married? Andrew Firestone , Jen Schefft , Trista, Bob G. (was married ,now divorced) & Jason are a few I have heard of. Any others?

Even though they were not leads on the bachelor bachelorette series, will Kiptyn & Tenley make it down the aisle?

Comment: Yes, I’m spot on. Have been since I told you about this month’s ago. The pics that were released yesterday that I posted today I guess are just some concrete proof for the non-believers. Sure, it doesn’t show who Ben proposes to, but considering you can visually see now that Courtney and Lindzi are the final two, do you think I’ve gotten everything else about this season correct, but am wrong about who he got engaged to? Me neither. It’s Courtney, and has been since Nov. 16th.

I can’t remember off the top of my head how many are married, but it’s not many. Firestone is, Jen Scheft is, Trista is, Bob Guiney was but got divorced, Jason obviously, DeAnna just got married…those are the only ones popping into my head right now. Probably more.

Yes, Kiptyn and Tenley are still together. Ask him when he plans on popping the question. I have no idea.

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  1. Dianne

    February 16, 2012 at 12:29 PM

    I dunno, call me crazy, but don’t the pictures above of Courtney look more like professional modelling pictures (especially with the camera guy right behind her)?

    Also, I cannot belive ANYONE thought the story Steve told about the spider biting Courtney was for real!

  2. karynr

    February 16, 2012 at 12:49 PM

    I thought the same thing earlier. They look like professional modeling photos, but I’m sure they have hair and make-up people at their disposal to prepare for Final Rose (and take PR pictures).

    I also agree about the spider biting story. I was laughing quite heartily at that one and find it hard to believe someone would take it seriously.

  3. ChristineO

    February 16, 2012 at 1:15 PM

    “they’ve had some problems” DUDE!! the girl is a complete nutjob! seriously just plain crazy!! ya think he got it by now?? I know he is a bit slow but c’mon!!! LMAO

  4. AJ13

    February 16, 2012 at 1:41 PM

    The more I read the reader e-mail columns, the less I enjoy them and I’ll tell you why: I understand why you are a condescending jackwagon to the e-mailers that ask the ridiculously dumb questions (Did the tarantula really bite Courtney, is Emily the next B’ette etc.), because as Reality Steve, that is part of your ‘schtick’. However, even with the e-mailers who ask legitmate well-thought out questions, you are a condescending dismissive know-it-all jackwagon. You are the king of saying ‘that’s a stupid question’ in a hundred different ways without actually saying it. I don’t know if I’m in the minority here, but it bothers me. Just remember: You didn’t start getting a huge following until you obtained a source to leak spoilers…without them, your site traffic would be what it was before you had a source; practically non-existent. I just think you should treat your followers with more respect. Just a little constructive criticism that I doubt you’ll consider, because the only opinion that matters is your own, right? Sheesh, end rant.

  5. jfore

    February 16, 2012 at 1:48 PM

    I have avoided this site all season because I wanted to be surprised! lol But every week I get more and more annoyed that Courtney is still there and now I just read he PICKS her! OMG what an IDIOT…that’ll last a minute.

  6. cindy01

    February 16, 2012 at 1:54 PM

    Not surprised one bit that they’re having problems but of course like Steve says we won’t find out the real truth until the reunion shows….boy, ABC’s ratings are going to go thru the roof when they air.
    I do have to say that the pic of Courtney in Switzerland is absolutely gorgeous….what a shame that she acted the way she did in front of millions of people. Just think what an advantage it would have been for her if she would have acted like a normal human being on the show, I bet then her phone would be ringing off the hook with modeling gigs. I wonder if her career has been tarnished now with all this negativity in the media about her.
    I will bet you money that at the reunion shows Ben will anounce they’re not together anymore.

  7. MAC

    February 16, 2012 at 2:03 PM

    Ben’s nipples are freaking repulsive!! I almost feel bad for him. This season is so boring..Emily’s season will probably be even more boring. Guess I’m looking forward to Bachelor Pad.

    Also wanted to point out – re: the dna/blood test – isn’t it possible that the current husband and the ex she cheated with could have the same blood types?? Just saying. It’s not like there’s 50+ blood types in existence! According to the all-knowing Wikipedia, 37% of the US population is O+.

  8. karynr

    February 16, 2012 at 2:47 PM

    I’ve been reading a lot of breaking-type news this afternoon and wonder if the ATFR is going to be without one of the “winners”, or will it be a nasty free for all? This should be interesting. He’s mortified, but definitely an a##wipe, and would she show her face on national television after the past few weeks.

    Whoever made the comment about how positive her exposure could have been was so right. If she wouldn’t have been so damn narcicisstic and mean, she could have had offers pouring in, regardless of “winning” or not. How ignorant.

  9. wisewords

    February 16, 2012 at 4:26 PM

    Well said, AJ13. (We need a *like* button for good comments here!)

  10. georgiegirl

    February 16, 2012 at 4:53 PM

    Why is anyone assuming that Courtney ISN’T getting bombarded with modeling offers? I doubt they care if a model is a nice person or not. I think they pick models mostly because they are “unique” looking. Courtney is definitely unique looking. Unique as in almost alien.

  11. missmeghan

    February 16, 2012 at 5:12 PM

    I also agree AJ13. While i love the humor steve brings to this ridiculous show, he doesn’t show much appreciation for his fans that have made him successful. Last week he basically told us all off for hating on Courtney and to get a life and I notice the condescension in some of his e-mails as well. Stay real Steve! You have a lot of fans that love and appreciate all that you do- don’t put us down.

  12. mchrisb

    February 16, 2012 at 5:49 PM

    Like others here, apparently, I was avoiding RS so that I could be surprised but the longer Courtney has stayed, the more I’ve wanted to come here and now, here I am. Since reading RS’ final spoiler, I’ve been trying to think of an up-side to Nitwit Ben choosing oh-so-ugly-on-the-inside-Courtney and I think I have it! Now, Ben has to sit and watch how vile and disgusting Courtney acted throughout. Less Blakely and the girl that made out with her, most of the women this season had some class and dignity, like Kacie B! Ben would have been so lucky to have taken Kacie or Rachel or Emily or anyone but Courtney back to Sonoma with him! Side note: poor Jamie O., I could have included you in my list of dignity keepers but … you know.

    Well, Ben, you play, you pay – have fun with half of Hollywood’s reject left-overs(Courtney)! Kacie B, Rachel, Emily, etc – count your blessings! I imagine that you feel like Chantal from Brad’s season – like you dodged a bullet!

  13. Dianne

    February 17, 2012 at 7:03 AM

    AJ13, you are TOTALLY the minority! If you don’t like what Steve puts out, then don’t read, and don’t comment. Steve Rules!!!!!!

  14. jnalya

    February 17, 2012 at 7:51 AM

    Aj13 you are right on the money. Definitely their are persons who ask ridiculous questions and I truly understand his witty and condescending attitude about it. But there are persons who are asking genuine questions and he seem almost annoyed or tired of typing or something. I love this site I am here almost every Tuesdays and Thursdays but there is always room for improvement. The improvement is answering person’s geniune questions like you want too.

  15. mixingmel

    February 17, 2012 at 11:55 AM

    I think this show will always be a complete joke unless they quite asking people that are obviously seeking “publicity” to be on their show in the first place and start asking the normal “joe/missy” What I mean by that is make it more real with real people have a matching chemistry locator like e-harmony or “match chemistry” to locate possible individuals that might be a fit FOR ONE. Just because someone is “hot” and has a good job is not an indicator of a good potential relationship,yea they help but these people that are placed on the show are OBVIOUSLY seeking publicity. They are obviously not interested in an actual relationship because they don’t even ask the most basic questions of one another and like Ben’s case was just out for a good time (based on his connection with Courtney, I mean REALLY?? if he was that immature to even PICK her then he is not ready and is not even capable of seeing/picking out a lasting true “partner”.) He is swatting at pretty flies catching them and then deciding if they are right there’s no rhyme or reason to his choices. And I don’t buy; well “Courtney was there to connect with “Ben” BS and why she couldn’t get along with others EVEN if she was dating the same man! Getting along with people you don’t necessarily like IS A VALUED life skill! If someone can’t connect/get along with anyone other than the person they are trying to “seek” then they have connection issues and mental shallowness which are not good qualities to have in a future companion. Courtney was the essence of “have a good time, in the moment” connection, which is perfect for the relationship incompetent person (Ben) that is out for a good time. GOOD CALL ASHLEY!!!

    There should also be challenges within the show that offer a “dimension” of “team-work” AND “communication”, and I DO NOT mean like the bachelor pad OMG how stupid is THAT SHOW. Someone should come up with a real version of this show it would have so much potential. Bachelor and Bachelorette will always be a complete bomb and a complete stupid waste of peoples time until they get a real dose of “realism” to it.

    Also, I think its sleazy to allow them to kiss each other or have intimate contact with one another until the end, its just trashy, I mean COMMON!

  16. mixingmel

    February 17, 2012 at 12:05 PM

    Oh, and one more thing. Courtney is UGLY and has a mouth of a lizzard…. Just had to say that! What is wrong with that girls mouth besides her insane personality??? She’s gross all the way around, sleezy ho.

  17. locondcoco

    February 17, 2012 at 12:17 PM

    Completely agree with AJ13. As much as I appreciate all the insite and info that RS provides, it does not give him the right to treat his loyal readers the way he does. You know whats more annoying than getting a repeat question? Reading RS repeat every post about how he’s had the spoilers right MOST of the time, how he always has them first and months before the first episode even airs, how no one credits him for the info, and how he can’t believe people still question him when he’s been pretty spot on with every spoiler. Thats nice. We know that. Thats why we’re here. We hate repetition as much as you do, Steve. Stop repeating yourself and we’ll stop it with the repeated questions.

  18. Sue

    February 17, 2012 at 1:02 PM

    Two things:

    1. Can anyone tell me who Kellie Raspberry is that a reader said RS should date?

    2. For those who think RS is kind of a jerk in answering reader emails or in promoting himself in his column, what do you think about his Dr. Reality Steve responses? I’ve been pleasantly surprised at what a nice, reasonable, considerate guy he seems to be — definitely a kinder, gentler RS! Now I’m wondering if that is the REAL Steve and if Reality Steve is just a character he’s putting out there.

  19. dketch

    February 17, 2012 at 4:42 PM

    I just got round to reading Sunday’s NYTimes – article called “The Roses! The Romance! The Roasts!” and it quotes Mike Fleiss as saying: “I try not to take it too seriously, whether people are saying ‘this is my favorite season’ or ‘I’m never watching this show again’ – WHAT I LOOK AT IS THE SHEER VOLUME OF THE RESPONSE.” That just goes to show you – he doesn’t care what the viewers think – you can hate Courtney, love her, or anything else about the show, but as long as whatever they put on the show, if it stirs up a big response (as it is definitely doing with the whole Courtney thing), that’s all he cares about. RS has had this show – and Fleiss – pegged from the beginning!

  20. keekster

    February 18, 2012 at 2:00 PM

    Ummmm Hello? “Reality” Steve is not always accurate. I seem to recall a “I know with 100% certainty” result he shared that was completely WRONG.

    And I agree with the masses – I rarely come here because of the condescending know it all attitude!

  21. nikkineel

    February 18, 2012 at 11:33 PM

    My friend just ran into a friend of Ben Fs. Sounds like its a little dicey w/ Courtney.

  22. nikkineel

    February 18, 2012 at 11:34 PM

    I just cant wait until Ben takes Courtney home to his family!!! His mom and sister in their pearl necklaces…they are gonna die! This is gonna be much better than JP and Ashley H

  23. JovisMom

    February 20, 2012 at 10:15 AM

    @ Sue – Kellie Raspberry is a radio personality on Kiss 106.1 (or Kidd Kraddick in the norning) a radio station in Dallas/Ft Woth. If you go to you can see pics of her and even listen to the phone. I know this because I live in Dallas.

    I also completely agree w\ you on your second point.

  24. JovisMom

    February 20, 2012 at 10:15 AM

    * listen to the show

    Sorry 🙂

  25. mirabelleglass67

    February 20, 2012 at 7:55 PM

    Dear ABC please be more aware of the sequence in which you replay your “reality” footage. On more than one occasion i have noticed “movie” mistakes in the bachelor alone. Most recently tonight. example: when ben goes on courtneys home town date you show them meeting the parents first then doing the fake wedding but during scenes at her home they are both already wearing their grass rings. Now this would be ok seeing as tv is meant to portray things to be in a more appealing morder BUT while they are walking to their picnik WITHOUT the rings ben says to coutney that her parents are good people( or something to that affect)

  26. mirabelleglass67

    February 20, 2012 at 8:01 PM

    Phone commenting messed me up but my point is that if you want us to believe in your so called reality shows then dont make it so damn obvious that you’re rigging things up and telling them what to say. seems like production companies are so focused on pulling in reviews that they have yet to hire a decent editor to actually catch those things. lame

  27. russellsfan

    February 21, 2012 at 7:08 AM

    I think her lips are injected with collagen. Her mother’s top lip is very thin. It would explain the odd mouth thing Courtney has.

  28. mags1022

    February 21, 2012 at 7:50 AM

    I too agree with AJ13…fans spend their time writing out questions and visiting the site and should get a thoughtful answer (or an answer period) to their questions. I love the site…keeps me entertained but I don’t think fans should be belittled for actually participating in the conversation.

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