-I enjoyed the fact that the last half hour of this show was basically a recap of what we saw the previous 90 minutes. Nothing Ben and Chris discussed in their deliberation was of any importance other than him telling Chris, “Well, Kacie’s parents don’t think she should live with her fiancé before marriage. Uhhhh, I see myself living with my fiancé, so, I guess that’s where compromise comes in.” Only to see him dump her minutes later. Yeah, that’s never gonna work for him.
-Rose ceremony time. Man, we didn’t even get the proverbial shot of each girl arriving in a car and being walked in by Chris as a voice over of Ben talks about their journey. They must really want to get this over with. Ben: “My heart is beating out of my chest…making this so personal…incredible week…thank you being open and honest…difficult decision I have to make…eye opening week for me…especially when Kacie’s parents told me I can’t make whoopee to their daughter before marriage on a daily basis. Deal breaker. Sorry.”
Courtney: She sure likes to hop, skip, and jump to get her roses, doesn’t she?
Lindzi: Harry Cox is growing with excitement over this.
“Ladies, Ben, it’s the final rose tonight. When you’re ready. I was here just 12 seconds ago, but I had to remind you that when there’s four women, and two roses were already given out, that means there’s only one left. I sure hope you guys realize how important I am to this franchise.”
Nicki: This is rhetorical question, but it’d be interesting to know in all previous seasons during the hometown date rose ceremony how many the girl who got the last rose was the one eliminated the next episode?
I thought it was quite bizarre that Ben never said a word to Kacie about why he sent her home. All he did was apologize. Now, I’m sure he told her why, but for whatever reason, we never saw it. I’m guessing that has to do with him telling her next week when she shows up in Switzerland. Has to be. Why else wouldn’t they show him at least giving her one reason why didn’t think it’d work. Whatever the case, Kacie had a nice little meltdown in the limo. Crying hysterically, we got a:
“I had no clue this was coming. I’m so upset. What does he want? It’s not me. I thought it was me. I was stupid. Why am I not good enough? I don’t get it. This is why I don’t love. I loved him and I don’t know what to do now. What the f**k happened???!!!….What the f**k happened???!!!”
Whoa, easy there potty mouth. As I said in the column, I think Kacie is trying to convince herself she was in love with Ben, but I don’t think she really was. I thought reading Ali’s blog today she made an excellent point regarding women’s feelings on this show. Even though she was referring to Lindzi in this paragraph, I think this is exactly what you can say happened to Kacie.
“…I can promise you that 95 percent of the people who go on this show really don’t believe they can fall in love while on the show, so it’s surprising when they do. However, sometimes that love is a little exaggerated in your mind because you’re in this fantasy world where all you do is talk about and think about the bachelor. Looking back, I can confidently say that I was never in love with Jake. I thought he was a nice person, but I was so in love with the idea of falling in love on the show that I made myself believe that I loved him. I remember going home after the show and feeling like I never even really knew Jake because he never felt like a part of my life. It was almost like it was all a dream; it’s hard to explain. That being said, I absolutely did find love on The Bachelorette so I know it’s possible. Basically what I’m trying to say is I’m not sure if Lindzi is really in love with Ben or in love with the idea of Ben. Only time will tell. But I do think that Ben is falling in love with Lindzi.”
Couldn’t have said it better myself. And this coming from someone’s who’s been through this. Twice.
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