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The Bachelor 16 - Ben

Notes from the “Women Tell All”

It’s amazing how impatient some people can be. I said it last Tuesday in the column, and I reiterated it again in Thursday’s column that I did not know when I was going to get my “Women Tell All” information. Could’ve been Friday night, could’ve been Saturday, could’ve been Sunday. Regardless, it’s amazing how many people still ask, “When are you posting the ‘Women Tell All’ spoilers?” Oh, I don’t know. How about when I have them? I got a little info on Saturday, but I knew there was more out there, so I waited until I could get as much as I could. If there’s more I get tonight or in the next few days, I’ll include it in tomorrow’s column, but as I also stated last week, there’s just not much to spoil on a show like this. So here are all the notes/spoilers I was able to gather from the taping up to this point.

A lot has been said over the past couple weeks in the tabloids, internet sites, etc regarding all these crazy things that seem to be happening behind the scenes. Just know that none of it is true. As I’ve stated since Dec. 14th, Ben is engaged to Courtney, he’s been engaged to her since Nov. 16th in Switzerland, they’ve stayed engaged ever since, they are still engaged as we speak, and all the other garbage you read in the tabloids is just that – garbage. Just a way to sell magazines and trying to take focus away from the spoiler that’s been out there for two months already. I know a lot of you are upset with the ending, but you’re gonna have to accept it because it’s true and these two are still together, and you will have yet more confirmation of t

-The girls in attendance were Monica, Brittney, Erika, Elyse, Jenna, Rachel, Kacie B, Jamie, Jennifer, Amber T, Jaclyn, Samantha, Blakeley, Emily, Nicki, and Casey S

-If you follow me on Twitter, you know that on Friday I tweeted they somehow got Courtney to show up for the taping, which she did. Lindzi was not in attendance.

-Courtney was pretty much under attack by the girls for the most part, but was actually pretty quiet throughout. Apologized for her behavior and defended herself as much as she could. Sounds like a lot of the girls weren’t buying it and kept going after her, forcing Chris Harrison to step in numerous times basically telling them to shut up and quit talking over each other.

-Emily and Courtney had their say over the fight on the show, and apparently it wasn’t nearly as bad as people might suspect it could’ve been, although both Emily and Courtney ended up crying at some point. Courtney admitted she didn’t handle it right when Emily apologized to her.

-Samantha seemed to be the one to voice her opinion the loudest about Courtney being very aggressive, calling her names, and being obnoxious – basically exactly what she’s been doing on her Facebook fan page and Twitter account the last two weeks. That chick is totally trying way too hard to keep her name in the limelight for someone that no one really gives a sh** about. However, you can pretty much pencil her in for “Bachelor Pad 3.” She’s a trainwreck.

-While Courtney was on the hot seat, there was a girl who actually went up and gave her a hug, but I’m not sure yet who it was.

-Chris Harrison was VERY sick during filming. Breaks were taken and Chris actually was given an injection of some sort at one point.

-At one point during filming, Monica actually pulled out a tampon and asked Jenna if she’d accept the final tampon. No idea if that will make air.

-Ben took the hot seat and was confronted by the girls as well, and apparently defended things he did, but all in all, wasn’t nearly as juicy as expected. The women were hard on him, but he gave a lot of canned, robotic answers.

-The after party was at Las Palmas, where Ames and Ryan Park were the first ones to get dibs on the new “fresh meat” this season. Ames is a piece of work. Dude, nobody cares that you went to the party and took pictures with every single person there and had to show us on your Twitter account. Talk about a guy milking his fame. Geesh. Make it a little less obvious. And enough with the photo shopping backgrounds too. What an odd bird.

-Saturday afternoon was a “Bachelor Gives Back” event at the Sheraton LAX with the Boys and Girls Club with free arts, where pretty much all them stuck around and painted arts and crafts with kids. I’m sure this will be shown next Monday as well.

-Saturday night, the women went to Katsuya in LA where Ames and Michael Stagliano joined in. So to all the other bachelors from past seasons, just know that Ames, Ryan, and Michael Stagliano have already laid the ground work for who they’re going after. You’ve got some catching up to do.

-As we speak, most of the girls are still out in LA partying. They are headed out tonight again in LA, and I’m sure Ames and Michael will be tagging along if I had to guess. Go get em’ guys!

ADDED: As mentioned in Thursday’s live video blog, and we heard Chris say in his voice over for next week, I just forgot to throw in this column, but Shawntel does come to “Women Tell All” to talk about coming on the show, and, probably to plug her book.

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  1. bordergirl6

    February 27, 2012 at 5:30 PM

    I have followed you quite regularly in the past couple years, love your collumns, keep up the good work! I think Ben & Courtney deserve each other. And Monica is a biatch!

  2. AJ13

    February 27, 2012 at 5:36 PM

    Just to comment on your updates on the guys who are there. I’m going to come out and say it, and I know it won’t be a popular opinion since a lot of people like him, but Ames is kind of a creep. I don’t know, something about how he handled himself in Ashley’s season was really creepy. As for Ryan, he does a lot of charity work and is very involved, so that doesn’t surprise me. As for Stags…I guess he has FINALLY moved on from Holly…as long as he stays away from Emily and sticks to the trampy, pageant/sorority types (Casey, Samantha), it’s all good.

  3. shouldbeworking

    February 27, 2012 at 7:12 PM

    Just watching the Nicki portion of the overnight dates. It’s so painful. Does she not get that he’s not really interested in her? She’s trying so hard, it feels fake. I feel sorry for her.

  4. Ellieanne

    February 27, 2012 at 7:48 PM

    Did anyone notice on tonight’s show that Courtney’s ITM about how she treated the girls, and how it must have hurt Ben, was filmed in front of the same “wrought iron” background (backlit pink) that Emily, Ali and Ashley filmed their ITM’s for The Bachelorette? Tells me that producers got Ben and Courtney back to the studio to film new ITM’s, wearing what they wore on their overnight date, to make Courtney look repentent, and to make it look like it was filmed in Switzerland, but it wasn’t. Can Courtney brush her hair out of her face more often, please?

    Also, Ben’s body language with Nicki and, especially, Lindzi (in the hot tub) showed he had NO interest in those two at all. He didn’t interact with them at all. I’ll be interested to see WTA now that I know they manipulate the ITM’s post production. But, everyone probably knew that already. Sigh.

  5. AJ13

    February 27, 2012 at 8:58 PM

    Ellieanne: I’m starting to believe that’s just Ben’s personality characteristic traits coming through: apathetic, monotone, unexcitable, unemotional…the casual observer would believe that he’s not interested in ANY of these women. Even with Courtney, he seems like he’d rather be anywhere else. He’s just a cold fish…completely the opposite of Brad, who, at least compared to other Bachelor edits, wore his emotions on his sleeve. I think Ben just isn’t a very compelling individual…I find Emily Maynard to be the same way, so sit tight Bachelor/ette fans, it’s going to be a long 2012.

  6. ncox10021

    February 28, 2012 at 3:51 AM

    Ames is so weird!

  7. millie924

    February 28, 2012 at 5:50 AM

    Does 3 seconds ever go by where Courtney is not touching her hair? She cannot talk without her hand brushing her hair back. It’s like she’s petting herself. Also – you can tell by the way she kisses Ben that she is not that into him. They go in for a kiss and instead of her moving into him and wanting more, she pulls away from him after the kiss is over. He is constantly wanting more and she just goes in for what seems like a friendly hug or a little kiss on the cheek. Her body l anguage says a lot.

  8. bigfatwoman

    February 28, 2012 at 7:25 AM

    AJ13 — totally agree about Ames. I’ve always thought he was creepy. As Steve said, he is an odd bird. I personally think he’s gay and really trying hard to convince himself otherwise….thus the odd behavior. Either that or he’s brain damaged.

    I also agree that Ben’s season is super boring. He’s just not a dynamic or charismatic person….and yes, Emily Maynard will be the exact same way. They need a Courtney/Bentley type character to liven her season up.

    I think what it all boils down to is self-confidence. Neither Ben or Emily seems totally comfortable in their own skin. There is no self-assured quiet confidence, WHATSOEVER.

    Brad had it and so did Ashley.

  9. jsmith1177

    February 28, 2012 at 7:43 AM

    bigfatwoman –

    “Brad had it and so did Ashley”. Um…. did you watch the same show everyone else did? Because Ashley was a wreck throughout her season, constantly questioning herself and looking like she had low self esteem. Not really the example of great confidence.

  10. bigfatwoman

    February 28, 2012 at 8:56 AM

    jsmith1177 –

    you’re right. I wasn’t thinking about the total picture of Ashley. Maybe it’s just that I found her so likable.

  11. rubylu

    February 28, 2012 at 9:34 AM

    I’ve read several times about how people liked Ashley, and quite honestly, she annoyed the crap out of me. From her constantly saying “like” all the time, to picking her teeth, to her weird infatuation with Bentley and not being able to let it go for the first half of her season.

    As for this season, I was never really all that excited about Ben, but I did think he was, from Ashley’s season, pretty genuine and I honestly loved how he handled being dumped. “B***h, I got nothing to say to you after you made me get down on one knee and THEN told me no, so screw you, I’m going home.” Then we get to see how kinda boring he is and just like every other frat boy. Thinking with Little Ben and never listening to the warnings of other girls. If it was just one girl warning him, hmm maybe it was clashing personalities, but when it’s more than one, and Courtney herself even saying that she doesn’t make friends well with girls, then it’s a red flag.

    I know all that’s been said a number of times before… it’s just me saying I’m not surprised by the outcome and disappointed more and more with this show. Steve is the only reason I watch anymore. I’m also not surprised that little Courtney clammed up at the WTA when confronted with everyone. Because she’s got nothing to say and nothing she does say can redeem her. I’m WAAAY more interested in seeing the ATFR when they’re seated together… although, something tells me Chris won’t ask the questions we all want answers to.

  12. goodgirls

    February 28, 2012 at 3:17 PM

    I applaud Steve Carbone for making this a lucrative job. How many can say they started a blog and make a decent salary from it. Must be nice to make your own hours and be at home or travel wherever with your laptop and conduct business. Way to go Steve and keep up the great work on the spoilers and summarys:-)

  13. michelle55

    February 28, 2012 at 5:56 PM

    Dude, I love your columns and I am grateful that you do them, especially when you don’t have to. But my gosh are you a smartass! Sheesh.

  14. russellsfan

    February 29, 2012 at 11:34 AM

    Petting herself, I love that. I’ve done a complete turn around. I love Courtney and not Ben. I’m loving all her one liners.

  15. ishouldbeembarrassed

    February 29, 2012 at 4:46 PM

    Okay, so here’s some questions. Why did Ben say to Lindzi when he asked her to go to the fantasy sweet, “It’s the key to my heart.” but never said anything remotely romantic to Courtney? And why isn’t Lindzi at the Women Tell All, but Courtney is? And wasn’t it just a little to easy to get a leak on who Ben proposed to this time? All the editing has pointed overly obviously to Courtney, even Courtney’s photo was propped up on three books in the middle, and Lindzi’s was down on the desk level just before the rose ceremony. Are they pulling off a coup here and have been misleading everyone? (I really, really hope so!)

  16. ishouldbeembarrassed

    February 29, 2012 at 4:57 PM

    Ellieanne, hey, good for you on your details! There’s another tidbit that feels manipulative!

  17. karynr

    March 1, 2012 at 2:06 PM

    I’m dying to know if Courtney used her line on Ben in PR or the Fantasy Suite….”are you ready for your date with destiny?”

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