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“Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” ATFR Notes, News on Emily’s Season, & the Reaction to Tuesday’s Column

Back with a live video blog tonight 9PM EST/6PM PST, with a special guest that will be joining me for the last half. I’m going to set the show for an hour tonight, with the first half taking your questions, and the last half, I’ll bring on the guest to talk about things that I’m sure plenty of you will want to hear. And I’m sure she will take questions as well. Ok, it’s my mother. She’s in town visiting, and it’s only right that I put her on. I just need to make sure she doesn’t start rolling with all the embarrassing stories she likes to tell about me. God help us. I apologize in advance and will do my damndest she doesn’t start reeling those off. This could be fun or a complete disaster. We shall see.

Wanted to give people an update on Emily’s season. As you can see from the picture to the right, Emily started shooting her intro video yesterday in Charlotte. Looks like she’s having a fake lunch with all her friends, laughing, giggling, and telling stories about Brad. I don’t know. But I do want to make people aware that Emily’s seasons spoilers will definitely be different than season’s past. There will be plenty of stuff popping up on the internet and Twitter that other people see and here about before I do, just because filming is not happening in a city of 8 million people like LA. This picture was taken by the Twitter account of Audrina Bigos (@AudrinaBigos) who’s a reporter for the FOX news affiliate in Charlotte. Obviously people are going to see and hear things before I do, so I will do my best to keep up with what I hear.

Basically what I’ll do is when I post my column, so you don’t have to sit there and scour random peoples Twitter accounts etc, most of this stuff gets emailed to me at some point anyway, so I will basically gather all the information from one column to the next and present what I’ve heard and where the info is coming from. Sure, I’ll have other information that I find out by myself, but I have no problem crediting people on Twitter who post pics of filming, because obviously they’ll probably have it before I do. Another Twitter account that’s been pretty up-to-date with some Emily info is Charlotte Paparazzo (@CelebsinCLT). I believe they were the ones who first gave the address out of the house on Marvin Road back at the end of January. So I will follow them during filming, and maybe if any others pop up, and just report back what I’m hearing on Twitter and Facebook, along with giving you info I know about. I do know that Emily will be filmed this Friday using horses from the Blue Wave Stable ( to shoot an upcoming piece. Probably also for her intro video. And if horses are used during the season, it will be provided by this company. They posted about it last week on their Facebook Fan Page

As for the ATFR taping, I have a few details to fill you in on, but not much that the tabloids haven’t already covered. There’s zero suspense left. Ben is engaged to Courtney, he gave her the ring, he re-proposed, she said yes, and they were in the safehouse in LA from Sunday night through yesterday getting their groove on. Monday was their photo shoot with “People” magazine that will be the cover story next week. And for all those wondering why “People” magazine will never ever credit me with anything regarding this show, you should have your answer now.

Here’s what else I can tell you:

-Emily Maynard was NOT at the ATFR taping. I guess they figured running her promo during the middle of the episode two weeks ago got enough people knowing she’s the next “Bachelorette,” they didn’t feel the need to bring her on again and talk about it.

-Ashley and JP did NOT set a wedding date. They came on, talked about their relationship, how happy they are, etc. But any reports that they gave a date is not true. They are moving to New Jersey as you’ve probably seen, since Ashley has gotten a job in Philly, so they decided to split the difference so that each will commute.

-Courtney and Ben did address the problems they had over these last four months, including when he apparently did not call on Valentine’s Day. There was no “absolute 100% breakup,” but there were tough times where I don’t think either thought it was going to last.

-The wedding dress photo shoot last week that Courtney did was purposely done in direct response to take attention away from Ben and the tabloid attacks he was getting about the alleged cheating. This was addressed on the show.

-Ben does address the scandalous pictures and does swear that the women in the pictures were just friends, and also not taken at the time they were claimed to have been taken. He says he never cheated on Courtney. Obviously I wasn’t there, so we’ll have to see exactly how he explained them, but he claims he never cheated.

-As for the media tour for Ben and Courtney – it ain’t happening. I’ve been told neither of them want to do it, they’re basically obligated to do the “People” magazine story, but once the finale airs, they will not be doing a media tour and making the rounds. They have shot down all requests and are going to try and work on their relationship. I’m sure small things will pop up here and there, but in terms of going on all the talk shows, and pimping themselves out to every microphone stuck in there face, I was told it’s not going to happen. They are staying away from all media due to the fact that, well, the media has done nothing but publicly rip both of them for the last four months. Makes sense. Probably a good thing.

-Courtney will be spending more time up in San Francisco, and slowly but surely, will start looking for places together with Ben. She wants to move out of LA and start her life with him. They sure are trying to make it work at least. Who knows if it will.

-I have no idea what Lindzi said when she was up there, and at this point, I honestly don’t care. She’s been a background player all season. I’m sure she gave the, “It was tough watching it back, I remember that day, brings back emotions, but I’m happy he’s moved on, blah blah blah.” I mean, what else can she say?

As for Blake’s tweet on Monday night, since he deleted it like a coward because he was getting so much flak for it, I can’t re-print it. Basically he alluded to the fact that watching Courtney cry was like a repeat of Michelle Money crying, and hash tagged it with her being fake and looking for sympathy and not a real person. UPDATE: Here was the tweet from Blake to Michelle Monday night:

“@BlakeMJulian: the upcoming tears about to flow from Courtney’s eyes will redeem her. #Michellemoney #stillfake”.

To which Michelle immediately struck back, along with numerous other supporters of her, and he took it down. Blake, you did this during “Bachelor Pad” season constantly trying to defend yourself and your edit on Twitter (not to mention calling people out), and it didn’t work then. Do you not learn your lesson? You will NEVER win a Twitter war. EVER. It’s impossible. No matter what you say, especially if it’s about someone a majority of the people like, people are going to attack you for it. How do you not see this by now? Deleting your tweet, in my mind, was just as bad as what you wrote. For a guy who’s in love and getting married in 3 months, you’re spending an awful lot of time on people that don’t matter to you. Let it go. I swear, this guy seems to be the most bitter man in the “Bachelor” franchise. Is he ever NOT complaining about something when it comes to this show? Turn the page. Either stay off Twitter all together, or actually have the balls to stand by what you say. Good luck with your nuptials. We’re all on pins and needles waiting for that to happen (And yes, I’m fully expecting this to get back to him and for him to go after me on Twitter. And I won’t respond. I’ve said what I needed to say. Good riddance).

And now for what a lot of you are probably wondering, and what’s my reaction to all the negative feedback from Tuesday’s column. I’m not going to win this battle. You can’t rationalize with people who already have that much hate for something they read, so no sense in trying. I’m not going to apologize for anything I wrote. I’m not going to take any of it back. It is what it is. As I’ve said every season, the “Women Tell All” is not a regular column. There are no ridiculous dates, or people giving cheesy ridiculous lines. There’s much less to make fun of during that show, and I never do. It’s usually a small summary of what happened on stage, plus my thoughts on the season in general. I can’t remember the last WTA column I did that was funny. I wasn’t trying to be. I write what I write. Sometimes it’s funny, sometimes it isn’t. If people want to take issue with what I wrote, go ahead. But it’s not changing what I do. Once I was alerted to a lot of the negative feedback, I went to the comments section and read the first five comments. Whatever. I kinda chuckled at them to be honest. It rolls off my back. If I changed the way I write my column based on negative reaction, I’d be doing myself a disservice. Not going to happen. I don’t write my column to get a bunch of comments, good or bad. You can’t please everybody. I know this. Been doing this long enough. Only thing I will say is the negative comments that I did read, just goes to show that people take what I say waaay too seriously and personal sometimes. It happens. I blame their parents. Moving on…

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  1. liz123

    March 8, 2012 at 10:07 AM

    I’m so glad Steve told his readers that there are a huge # of high school & college kids writing to him/ visiting his site. That explains so very much.

  2. bigfatwoman

    March 8, 2012 at 10:10 AM

    I’m going to finish out this ridiculous Ben & Courtney season…..visit again once to find out who wins Emily’s season….and then I’m done.

    I just realized today…..this column/Steve is a downer.


  3. freckledsmile99

    March 8, 2012 at 10:25 AM

    You rock. That’s all I’m saying.

  4. skpfla

    March 8, 2012 at 10:39 AM

    I only wish the biggest problem in my life was the fact that a free website that I voluntarily choose to read makes me mad. And continue to go back again and again to revisit the pain. Here’s a thought, do not read the blog. Now, your biggest problem in life is solved. Man, I should charge money for this advice!

  5. karirosepink

    March 8, 2012 at 10:41 AM

    I just started reading today’s column and was surprised to read your mention of all the negative comments in your last column. Seriously people if you don’t like what Reality Steve writes then DON’T READ IT! If you have a problem with his sarcastic, condescending sense of humor then go read Chris Harrison’s blog instead. Most people come here to make fun of the show and all the people who are so obsessed with it and think it’s real. If Steve wasn’t sarcastic, funny and condescending I would never read his column every week. Keep doing what you do Steve, there will always be haters and I’m sure all the haters actually bring more traffic to your site anyway. Seriously how boring would this blog be if all you did was re-cap and not comment on any of the ridiculousness that this show is? Is that not the point of your whole blog??? I can see why you get irritated with all the stupid people out there!

  6. jnalya

    March 8, 2012 at 10:46 AM

    Your reply is brought to you by the letter “Q” and the number, oh I don’t know….32. I think that your attitude still suck and you really need a humble pill. I too will only be visiting this site for spoilers.

  7. jessesgirlie

    March 8, 2012 at 11:40 AM

    Remember this from the Howard Stern movie…
    Researcher: The average Howard Stern fan listens for – are you ready for this? – an hour and twenty minutes.’
    Pig Vomit: ‘Okay, fine. But what about the people who hate Stern?’
    Researcher: ‘Good point. The average Stern hater listens for two and a half hours a day.’

    I think Reality Steve is going to be just fine 🙂
    For those saying they are ONLY just going to come here for the Spoilers..this IS a spoilers site. You’re still visiting the site, you’re hopefully just not going to bombard all the fans with your negitive comments. Thanks for doing us all a favor.

  8. liz123

    March 8, 2012 at 11:58 AM

    karirosepink, who is upset that Steve is making fun of the show? Just wondering which comment section you’re reading. Enlighten me please. Tell me ONE.single.person who has commented that they are offended that Steve is pointing out the ridiculousness of the show. Again, you don’t get it. Dur.

  9. carol1975

    March 8, 2012 at 12:37 PM

    Jessiesgirlie, are you really comparing Steve to Howard Stern? Seriously?

  10. jessesgirlie

    March 8, 2012 at 12:43 PM

    noooo im not. But there are many who have said that they are done with the site, yet they continue to come back and post. I wouldn’t be surprised if those who have claimed to be leaving the site spend more time on it then those who actually like what Steve has to say.

  11. cointreaux

    March 8, 2012 at 12:45 PM

    Just read the comments on the previous column. That’s an eyeopener.

  12. liz123

    March 8, 2012 at 12:50 PM

    FTR, I haven’t ever said that I’m leaving. Actually, these comments are more entertaining than Steve’s blog has EVER been. I know every single one of you posting in this comment section agrees with me even if your nose is stuck too far up Steve’s ass to admit it.

  13. carol1975

    March 8, 2012 at 1:25 PM

    I agree with you Liz123. I also enjoy the comments more than the actual blog.

  14. punka

    March 8, 2012 at 3:33 PM

    Steve needs to reach out to Emily O’Brien and see if she will write him a RealitySteve rap. This needs to happen. Plus–I have a secret thing for her.

    Get on this RS.

  15. vin233

    March 8, 2012 at 4:06 PM

    skpfla – Totally agree with you. That’s exactly what I said on the last column.

    Lots of people with too much time on their hands and obviously not enough world experience to let a little thing like a blogger’s supposedly decreasing level of humour in his posts get them down.

    Ooooohhhh – there are people that are ONLY going to come here for the spoilers from now on? I’m sure Steve’s shaking in his boots while he makes his living doing something that obviously others are just jealous that they didn’t think of doing first!

  16. Rita_la

    March 8, 2012 at 4:18 PM

    For anyone who’d like a funny take on the WTA episode, go here: I hear the bloggers read and respond to the comments too. West Lee just posted a short, funny, interesting take on the WTA… so it CAN be done!

  17. liz123

    March 8, 2012 at 4:56 PM

    Bwahahaha!! “Not enough world experience”??? Okay, sweetheart. You have no idea. I don’t recall anybody saying that this was their biggest problem in life. I don’t recall anyone saying they were losing sleep over it. I think women just like to bitch & bicker back & forth. It’s entertaining. Obviously, you agree. You’re commenting, aren’t you? I will, however, confess to having too much time on my hands– when I’m at work that is & need a distraction from the things I do there that give me zero “world experience”. You must also have too much time on your hands b/c you are also commenting & not even on the blogger that you have some familiarity with. You’re commenting on complete & total strangers & your assessment of their life experiences… or lack thereof. Come on, pot calling the kettle black, dontchathink?

  18. aatxcutie

    March 8, 2012 at 7:01 PM

    Are you guys for real? Steve sucks, he knows it, but will never admit it. And he quit his job to become a full time blogger?

    And to the person that makes up a bazillion different names to post here, get a clue. When you have to put a word in all caps to make your point, at least don’t do the same thing under all the other names you have here.

  19. aatxcutie

    March 8, 2012 at 7:05 PM

    Hey Steve, fine if you want to insult all of us even after all the negative comments, but really, now you’re blaming our parents? Douche!

  20. cthomas885

    March 8, 2012 at 7:28 PM

    What I’m going to start doing, and what I suggest others do, is create a google alert for “Reality Steve”. Plenty of other people read his site then write the highlights (the spoilers we care about) and that way we don’t have to read the other stuff we don’t care for. Win Win

  21. wisewords

    March 8, 2012 at 8:05 PM

    Thanks for the link, Rita. LOVED Ashley Spivey’s picture blog. Natalie Getz’s was very entertaining also.

  22. Athena

    March 8, 2012 at 8:38 PM

    aatxcutie – Humor alert: IMO, the line about blaming the parents was the most hilarious one in the whole column.

  23. judes32

    March 9, 2012 at 11:21 AM

    I registered just to post this comment. I have been long time reader for RealitySteve. And I am so over his arrogance, attitude, and rudeness to his readers. Goodbye Steve. I’m heading over to Ashley Spivey’s blog. She is funny and witty without being rude. You could learn a thing or two from her.

  24. becla12

    March 9, 2012 at 1:35 PM

    I never comment but today i will. I think I made one comment about maybe putting ur videos on YouTube so that people w/iPads could watch.
    #1 To the point page 2 6th email down I’m sorry does that make me crazy? (how much time did u take out of ur day to email Steve hypocrite)!
    #2 if you got it flaunt it. Steve u have a great site and get the best info. Comeon now where can u go and find out the whole show before it even airs? I give u a pat on the back! ( and that doesn’t mean I have my nose up his ???)
    #3 It’s thier parents fault! The funniest thing I heard all day and I completely agree.Lmao ( back to the email I guess I think I know you now and I’m crazy) ! Hehehe

  25. vin233

    March 9, 2012 at 3:51 PM

    Ummmm…to whomever talked about the all caps for one word, that’s common internet lingo for stressing an important point when “bold” isn’t available.

    And no, I don’t have a lot of free time, so I use it wisely — friends, family, working out and reading things that I find amusing and make me laugh. Hence the reason for coming to this site. It baffles me why people will continually come back to something that makes them angry. That’s where the “no world experience” comes in. Doing the same thing over and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. Decided you’re unhappy with Steve’s style of writing? Don’t read it.

    I really only have one rule in life: do things that make you happy. For me that includes reading bloggers that I enjoy. Not waste time on ideas/actions/blogs that upset me.

    Oops…just broke my own rule to reply to a snarky, bitter person. There’s 90 seconds of my life I’ll never get back. Oh well. I’ll make the exception just this once.

  26. AJ13

    March 9, 2012 at 7:35 PM

    Forget Spoilers. Forget the Vlog. Forget reader e-mails. The only reason left to come to this site is to read the comments section. So awesome. For everything else, WetPaint.

  27. cangel44

    March 10, 2012 at 8:19 AM

    I am not sure why there are so many haters. I thought I missed something so I re-read the blog. I still do not understand where all the hate came from. There was nothing wrong with his blog.

  28. liz123

    March 10, 2012 at 12:31 PM

    Wait, so when someone is bitter & snarky you don’t wanna waste time on them (even though you just did?), but when Steve is bitter & snarky it’s freaking hilarious. Ooookay. Your logic is amazing. I can’t speak for anyone else, but for me, Steve’s new writing style hasn’t made me angry. If it did, I wouldn’t be back & I wouldn’t need you commenters or Steve or anyone else to tell me I shouldn’t come back. I personally just think it sucks & I have every right to say so. I hope it’s just a momentary lapse. Oh & if I only did things that made me happy, my life would probably actually suck pretty bad- I’d probably be living in a tent on a beach somewhere, I’d have no life savings, & who knows where my kids would be. Sounds like you’re pretty young & have very little “world experience” yourself if your *only* rule in life is to do what makes you happy. Sorry, I’m not taking advice on how to behave in a blogger’s comment section from someone who is probably half my age with half my life experience. Thanks, but no thanks.

  29. vin233

    March 10, 2012 at 9:49 PM

    Hahahaha. Half your age? Doubtful.

    I too have a career, husband, kids, life savings, etc., etc. Just learned in my “short time” that some things are worth getting so upset over, and plowing through tough items should be saved for real world issues, not bitching about a blogger. You need to enjoy things and not be so uptight. Sorry that your panties are in a bunch.

    Bitter and snarky [self proclaimed] laced with humour & info = enjoyable. Bitter and snarky because you feel the need to be ignorant on a message board = worth responding to. It actually makes me laugh (oops…sorry for being optimistic. Must be my “young age” showing again…LOL). I guess if I’m finding humour in all of this, I’m not actually breaking my rule after all. Sweet.

    PS – cangel44: totally agree with you. I can imagine that all of these haters are the types that get over emotional when someone looks at them the ‘wrong’ way too. Didn’t see anything wrong with his posts, but then again, I’m not one to get too upset over things that don’t really matter. Even the hateful responses are funny to me…

  30. carol1975

    March 11, 2012 at 6:22 PM

    Does it say anywhere that the comment section is for positive comments only? Didn’t think so. Bad and good feedback come with having a blog and putting it out there for people to read. Get over it.
    People who get upset over negative comments are no better than those who respond negatively to Steve’s blog. We are all people and are entitled to our own opinions. If Steve didn’t want “haters” he wouldn’t have a comment thread.
    He loves getting people to talk about his site. Bad publicity is better than no publicity at all.

  31. rubylu

    March 12, 2012 at 8:48 AM

    I miss reading RS’s blog for a few days and look at what I missed! Such drama in the comment threads! I’m laughing so hard at all this bickering because I can’t believe “grown women” are bickering in the first place, on a blog about The Bachelor’s spoilers. Perhaps this is why Courtney didn’t have many girl friends as I know it’s why I don’t… you’re all so mean and catty to each other. Get a life!

  32. JovisMom

    March 12, 2012 at 9:02 AM

    I’m not going to say get a life becasue that’s just rude, but seriously people getting so bent out of shape over a blog and these comments?! That’s just crazy!! Stop it all of you! You are stessing yourself out! You are all going to get premature wrinkles and high blood pressure. Let’s just leave the comment page to just that, comments on the SHOW!!! How much of a witch Courtney is, the bad editting and slip ups. So much more fun that way! God I read all of these and first thing that came to mind was HIGH SCHOOL MEAN GIRLS!

  33. missannmcd

    March 12, 2012 at 1:00 PM

    vin233 on March 9, 2012 at 3:51 PM said:
    ” Doing the same thing over and expecting different results is the definition of insanity.”

    Stolen right from Alcoholics Anonymous- think we know where your head it at…

  34. missannmcd

    March 12, 2012 at 1:02 PM

    I’m not going to say get a life becasue that’s just rude, but seriously people getting so bent out of shape over a blog and these comments?! That’s just crazy!! Stop it all of you! You are stessing yourself out! You are all going to get premature wrinkles and high blood pressure. Let’s just leave the comment page to just that, comments on the SHOW!!! How much of a witch Courtney is, the bad editting and slip ups. So much more fun that way! God I read all of these and first thing that came to mind was HIGH SCHOOL MEAN GIRLS!

    Awww. we’re just poking fun and insulting one another like our great sarcastic leader, RS. ROFL!

  35. liz123

    March 12, 2012 at 1:48 PM

    The thing is, I’m actually not getting upset or angry at all. And I’m not a “hater”. I don’t hate anyone at all, actually– especially people I don’t know. I rather enjoy the back & forth in the comment section or I wouldn’t participate in it. I dislike some of the ways in which Steve’s writing has changed, but that does not equal anger to me. And as far as being angry about the comments here- nah, it’s not my style. And, like I said, I rather enjoy the back & forth & the debate. I’m not sure if you & I define ignorant the same way (i.e., uneducated), but if we do I’m not sure what qualifies you or anyone else to comment on a stranger’s level of education based on a few paragraphs in a comment section.*That’s* how a true mean girl behaves. Congrats. You’re in the club.

  36. liz123

    March 12, 2012 at 2:02 PM

    Oh & I think you’re mistaking me for someone else, vin2333. That or you just felt the need to say something untrue to have a reason to make another snide comment toward me. I haven’t been bitter or had my panties in a bunch at all- not towards you or Steve or anyone else. All I’ve said is that his new writing style is not as good as it used to be & I don’t enjoy it as much as I used to & his constant self congratulations is getting old. Those are really fairly minor things to say. If that’s bitter & snarky, then your world must be filled with unicorns shitting rainbows where everything you encounter is positive & covered in glitter. Can I come to glitter/unicorn/rainbow land with you?!?! (Don’t even try to deny it. That made you laugh- at least a little. Now can I be in the bitter and snarky [self proclaimed] laced with humor & info club?) And don’t call me ignorant when you’re the one who added an extra ‘u’ to the word humor, thanks.

  37. realitycarrie

    March 12, 2012 at 2:22 PM

    I’ve been loving your site since you spoiled ATFR for Jason’s season. I’m shocked Courtney and Ben aren’t doing publicity after the show, especially Courtney. Although I remember Melissa Rycroft saying she wasn’t doing any publicity after Ellen and People, but she ended up on Dancing with the Stars and still won’t go away.

  38. vin233

    March 15, 2012 at 10:25 PM

    Haha, you did make me laugh liz123, on several occasions. Partly ‘cuz of your funny rainbows comment, and partly ‘cuz you took such offense to an initial comment that was never directed at you. After you replied, I replied, and so forth…don’t know why you felt the need to jump all over me in the first place.

    The funniest part? That you accused me of being ignorant, but are obviously unaware that many countries in the world outside of the US use different spellings for many words. Here in Canada, “humour” has a u…thanks to our British heritage.

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