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“Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” & Another Contestant Confirmed

Only about 15 “Reader Emails” this week and 4 “Dr. Reality Steve” questions. These will start to pick up in the upcoming weeks considering we are getting closer and closer to the premiere and that’s when more and more people will be heading back to the site in droves. But until then, here’s all the emails I’ve accumulated in the last 2 weeks.

Hey Steve,

I realize you don’t write too much about American Idol but I wanted to let you know what my thoughts were last week when frontrunner Jessica Sanchez was almost kicked off the show. Being a loser and watching AI since season 1, they’ve only introduced the “judges save” in the past few seasons, which is that the judges can save any contestant from elimination until they reach the top 5. Of course, last week on AI, they saved Jessica Sanchez so she will be back next week. But looking at the bottom three last week – Joshua Ledet (another front runner) and Elise Testone (someone who has been in the bottom 3 a few times this season), my intuition is that there is no way that both Joshua and Jessica could possibly be in the bottom 3 together.

When I really sat down and thought about these things WAY TOO HARD considering that we’re talking about a reality TV show here, I came to the assumption that American Idol probably brought on the judges save so that once a season, they can ruffle everyone’s feathers by CLAIMING that one of the frontrunners got the lowest votes because with that judges save, they won’t lose the contestant. The after effects will cause everyone the following week to FLOCK to vote. I mean, they never break down the numbers for us and tell us how many each contestant gets, so really, what’s to stop them from doing something like that? I know AI isn’t your specialty but have you ever heard a theory like this about that show before?

I also realized I am only thinking about this because of being a faithful Reality Steve reader for years. Thanks for doing what you do. I am sorry for all the grief you’re getting from ABC – here’s one more fan really rooting on your side and hoping that when ABC loses their suit against you, you file one right back at them to win back all of the money that you’ve lost in legal fees. Stick it to them, Steve!

Comment: “American Idol” is too big of a reality show to be fixing their contest. I don’t see that as possible. I don’t think it’s far fetched this season, or any season, that a person who’s a favorite – for one week – might get the lowest amount of votes. Seems to happen every season. Voters get complacent and think someone is safe, singers have a bad night, that person becomes less likable, etc. So no, I don’t think that was fixed.


I’ve seen a ton of twitter and facebook activity from Ali about her new show and the rounds she made on the morning shows and talk shows etc etc.

I also read your articles and pick up the references to the twitter and FB activity of former contestants from the franchise.

With all that being said, it got me to thinking, especially in light of the many comments by people to these feeds, what is the difference between legitimately leveraging social media for a career and abusing media to stay in the public conversation for upcoming castings etc?

What constitutes a fame whore and what is the line, in your opinion, that they cross? What constitutes a legitimate talent that is trying to start a career in entertainment?

Comment: I think pretty much all of them are fame whores to a certain extent, but it varies from person to person. Is someone who got eliminated night one that you’ve never seen at a reunion or never hear from again a fame whore? Absolutely not. But there are a few people I can think of that had very little impact on the season that they were on, yet show up at every event, tweet about stuff, post FB pictures all the time of who they’re hanging out with, etc. Lets face it, you have to be a bit of a narcissist to go on this show in the first place. But then it just gets worse for some people because they see all the attention they get once the show airs, and they run with it.

Lets face it, this show made these people, whether they want to accept it or not. Without this show, none of us would know who these people are, and plenty of them have been given numerous opportunities once the show ended just because of who they were on the show. When people start abusing that, and only going to places if they get comped bottle service, or will only attend things if it’s paid for, that’s just absurd. And plenty of them do. They tend to forget where they came from, they get a little taste of what the “fame” is like, and that’s all they want anymore. It’s pretty disgusting. Hey, I may be a hotel snob like I admitted in my video blog last week, but at least I pay for my hotel rooms and have no problem doing so.

Hello Steve,

I love your site and check it often. I watch your vlogs on Friday morning at work. Thank you for helping my days go faster.

Anyway, of an afternoon I listen to TMZ Live. A few weeks ago they had Matt Grant on there and he talked about how the Bachelor series strongly pushes for an engagement. He talked about how he really did not want to propose to anyone but felt he had to. Then this week when it all broke about the lawsuit being brought against The Bachelor series and ABC they interviewed the one African American girl from his season. She said that she felt the only reason she was kept on the series as long as she was is because Grant was not from America. Since the show is not diverse in casting do you think what she said had some truth to it?

Comment: I didn’t see Marshawna’s interview, but I don’t really understand her answer. If you’re translating what she’s saying correctly, she said that she felt the only reason they kept her on was because Matt wasn’t from America? What does one have to do with the other? I don’t see the correlation.

But I have heard Matt be more vocal about his season recently and basically admitted he never in a million years should’ve chosen Shayne, and without saying it, essentially says he was told to for storyline purposes.

Hey Steve

I have a question that I don’t recall you getting asked a lot. How close are the cameras to the contestants when they are on dates (particularly when they are sitting down having dinner/kissing on the beach/or any intimate setting)? Do the camera people set up at distance and then just zoom in, or are they right there? If they are really close, I don’t see how any of these people could have any sort of conversation without it being really awkward.

Comment: I mean, if you turned your head would you hit them with your face? No. But they are pretty damn close. You’ve seen some of the pictures I’ve posted of dates in progress and you can see the cameras within a few feet of them.

Hi steve,

How do people know that the group in the airport are for the bachelorette? I mean there are never tv cameras there and I’m sure they dont have tags identifying them. I’m not doubting your info at all. Just curious.

Comment: Good question. They must’ve read my site beforehand, noticed pictures of the guys I’d posted, knew that filming was in a certain area, and put 2 and 2 together. And I think people are just curious by nature. I know when I’m at an airport and I see a group of people traveling together (especially if it’s a bunch of guys of roughly the same build), I’m always trying to think what sports team they could be.

Hi Steve,

Love you…can’t wait each week to read your columns and see your Vlog too!!!

My question is….why does it seem like filming of The Bachelorette is so much faster then The Bachelor…is it really or does it just seem that way because there is so much less time between filming and airing of the show????

Comment: It’s not. Ben’s season started filming Sept. 20th and ended Nov. 16th. Emily’s season started filming March 14th and will end probably the first week of May, if not into the second week. What’s funny is with this show, it takes them roughly one month of filming to get from 25 people down to 4, but then it takes 3-4 weeks to get from 4 people down to 1.

The “Bachelor” season always ends filming November then starts airing the first week of January. Has been that way for the last 5 seasons. The last five “Bachelorette” seasons have started filming mid March and end filming in the beginning of May. The difference is their season has started at the end of May (this season is a little earlier on the 14th so it won’t have to compete against the Olympics I’m assuming), so there’s only a couple weeks between end of filming and first episode. The “Bachelor” is 6 weeks from end of filming to first episode.

Hi Steve!

First of all love your spoilers and your show! My name is Bo and I’m from Holland, and I noticed one of Emely’s guys is from ‘s Hertogenbosch! I don’t know where his parents live, but if they still live in Holland and they get to make it to the hometown dates, I’d be more than happy to play your personal Dutch spy. I’d just need details because I don’t actually live in ‘s Hertogenbosch buts it’s easy for me to get there. So, whenever you might need my help (even with translation from dutch websites), just let me know.

Comment: Unfortunately Bo, Arie’s hometown date was Tuesday and it was in Arizona. They did not fly to Hertogenbosch. But hey, thanks for lookin’ out. Maybe next season.

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  1. cangel44

    April 26, 2012 at 9:59 PM

    That whole Arie and Cassie thing was probally a set-up. The producers knew with Emily they were not going to get that steamy overnight dates so to make up for it they would cast Arie knowing Steve would give his name, allowing the hometown families to do the dirty work and rat him out. Honestly thats why his date wasnt last, if it were he could comfront her. We all know whoever told her was a family member of the other three. Either she sends him home before the rose ceremony or Chris sends him home. It will be my guess she wont be at the cocktail party/rose ceremony and her quest for love will be in jeopardy. Like I said before just because she is Emily doesn’t mean its going to be a happy ending for her and she wont be subjected to the torture of editing. I know I’d be upset if my handler dated my husband and pretended like they did not know each other.

  2. Athena

    April 27, 2012 at 5:13 AM

    Call me completely cynical, but what I see happening is the classic “boy meets girl, they fall in love, outside forces intervene making girl doubt boy, boy wins her back, and they live happily ever after” until the cameras stop rolling. Every love story we’ve ever seen has this same formula. It gives the little bit of added “punch” that this season needs, Ari can be both the hero and villain, and poor beautiful (insipid) Emily can be the damsel in distress.

    Their scenario seems tailor made. If the reveal had happened earlier, then I think he’d be out, but not at the point that she’s fallen for him. (All of this presumes that in her mind at this point “he’s the one”.)

  3. kd1981

    April 27, 2012 at 6:34 AM

    I’m really confused…did I miss something? I agree they won’t get the steamy over night dates (if they get an over night date at all.)
    Are you saying who ever told her – meaning that Arie and Cassie dated? I’m very confused please make me understand!

  4. competentyes

    April 27, 2012 at 11:07 AM

    @kd1981… Watch the first 3 minutes of the video blog from last night and you will get it

  5. cangel44

    April 27, 2012 at 2:18 PM

    @KD all you need to do is google ARIE LUYENDYK and a photo pops up with him and Cassie Lambert…the producer of the lead. They date a few years back, its not recent but they dated. This information came out right before they left for hometowns. I assume the information was given to her on hometown dates. By this time she is way to invested in him, which will turn into a meltdown if they show it. Im sure if Chris doesnt send him home he will turn up at final RC to intervene with the final 2. My question is why isnt anybody calling Cassie on this issue on Twitter? She is on it. Imagine if your best friend did your husband before you were married and they never told you.

  6. maxi

    April 29, 2012 at 4:34 PM

    Steve tweeted that Chris went home at the last rose ceremony. Hmmmm, I honestly don’t see the appeal of the final 3!

  7. ncox10021

    May 2, 2012 at 3:48 AM

  8. russellsfan

    May 2, 2012 at 4:42 AM

    I checked out the pictures on the above mentioned website. What is with the hair? Is this the new guy style? I just want to put that hair down.

  9. gretchen

    July 12, 2012 at 3:10 PM

    Hi, I would like to know who pays for the engagement rings? The producers or the bachelors or both?

  10. gretchen

    July 12, 2012 at 3:25 PM

    I agree that Ari was a setup. The producers thought that he would be eliminated anyway because in the season with Brad Emily didn’t take too well to race car driving. Surprisingly she didn’t mind with Ari. So the producers had to find a new gun to kill the romance before the end. So they they told Emily about Ari’s relationship. I think they were never really thinking that the two would have that much chemistry.
    Emily did not cut Ari after the reviel, so now the producers have a dilemma. The last thing they want to happen this season is another split soon after the end of the show, they desperately need a success story and they know Ari isn’t in it for the long haul. According to what I’m reading in regard Emily being turned down by her first choice before the final rose tells me that Ari chickend out just in the nick of time because he does not have and never had a commitment in mind and that’s why Jef is the last man standing. I just hope that Jef can live with that.

  11. gretchen

    July 12, 2012 at 3:41 PM

    Adding to my last comment – it looked to me as if the family situation at Ari’s house was a set up to turn Emily off. I lived for many years in Europe and people just don’t act this way with visitors unless they have very poor language abilities. Ari’s parents live since a long time in the US, speak perfect English and know exactly that this is rude. (speaking in a different language to exclude a guest). Especially in front of rolling cameras. I think they all worked really hard to turn Emily gently off Ari. It didn’t work and now the producers must have been scrambling for a timely solution.

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