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Dr. Reality Steve

“Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” & Brad Womack Speaks

Ahhhh, so in high school, he was Jeff with two “f’s,” but once he became a big boy and riding skateboards wearing jean jackets, he took off one “f.” Got it. That was Jef’s 9th grade picture from Pine View High School in St. George, Utah. Quite the looker. At least the bouffant hairstyle hadn’t emerged yet. I guess he just figured it’d look cooler in 2012 when he was CEO of a company. I see.

Few things to get to today before the “Reader Emails,” and “Dr. Reality Steve,” which are on the lighter side this week. Reminder tonight I will be back with another live video blog at 9PM EST/6PM PST talking all things “Bachelorette.” Don’t have the episode-by-episode spoilers yet, and I’m really contemplating how important they are at this point. Why? Well, when ABC issues a press release every Tuesday of the upcoming episode, they basically tell you everything that’s going to happen outside of who got the group date rose and who gets eliminated. Look at the episode description for next Monday’s episode that they released two days ago. Pretty much tells you everything you need to know:

“Episode 802” – This is no ordinary Bachelorette, as the 19 remaining men find out when they are “tested” from the start about how they might fit into Emily’s world as a dad, as well as working at a charity event that is near and dear to her heart. Now ensconced in the sprawling 12,000-square foot mansion in Emily’s hometown of Charlotte, the men quickly learn that roses will be at stake on the one group date and on two individual dates. However, the competition is revved up when they learn that not all the men will get dates before the next rose ceremony, so the bachelors must take advantage of every opportunity to score points with the Bachelorette. A special concert by hit country music trio Gloriana and a charming, scene-stealing romp with the acclaimed Muppets, featuring Kermit and Miss Piggy, at the charity event are real delights. But after careful deliberation, Emily must eliminate three men, as she starts to try and make her fairytale come true, on “The Bachelorette,” MONDAY, MAY 21 (9:01-11:00 p.m., ET), on the ABC Television Network.

On Monday, May 28, the program moves to its regular time period of 8:00-10:01 p.m., ET.

Ryan is ecstatic when he finds out that he gets the first date of the season. After a quick visit with her girlfriends, Emily arrives at the mansion to take Ryan away for what he thinks will be a glamorous day of fun. But Emily has other plans, as she takes him to her home and instructs him in the everyday task of baking cookies for Ricki’s soccer team. Will he pass the “test”? Later that night, Emily looks stunning as she scoops Ryan up in a sleek Aston Martin and brings him to a romantic dinner spot. After walking a red carpet lined with adoring fans, Emily and Ryan have a secluded fireside table where they discuss relationships and their potential future over dinner. Then things turn intimate even though the couple are the in middle of a crowd, as they are serenaded in a special concert by popular country band Gloriana, featuring their hit single “(Kissed You) Good Night.” But is there enough romance for Ryan to get the rose?

The next day, 13 bachelors take to the stage and join Emily and the beloved Muppets for a live performance benefitting The Ricky Hendrick Centers for Intensive Care at The Levine Children’s Hospital. The men split up in groups to rehearse, but one man has a serious case of performance panic. He explains the problem to Emily and musters up enough courage to go on, but how will he feel when Miss Piggy targets him during the show? The men also get a pleasant surprise when they see Ricki for the first time as she joins her mother and The Muppets in a special performance. That evening at the swank after party, the competition for Emily’s attention heats up: Chris is all smiles as the Bachelorette gushes over his looks; Stevie treats her to a slow dance but gets interrupted by the overconfident Kalon; and Jef finally starts to open up to Emily, but will she find him too guarded?

The next day is a dream come true for Joe, as Emily meets him at a private jet and they’re off to West Virginia to the exquisite Greenbriar resort, which holds many childhood memories for the Bachelorette, who spent time there with her family. The scene is set for the two to have an extravagant dinner in a grand ballroom. They recite their individual dreams for the future in front of the famous “love clock,” but is Joe ready for life with a single mom and her daughter?

Meanwhile, back at the mansion, a poolside fight breaks out between Doug and Kalon. They almost come to blows when Doug’s fathering practices are questioned.

The following night at home, Ricki helps Emily as she gets dressed for her next rose ceremony. Arriving at the mansion, everyone wants the Bachelorette’s time at the cocktail party, particularly those men who didn’t get a date. Arie reveals to Emily that he once dated a woman with two children. Ryan, even though he already has had an individual date, monopolizes her time, as another man is dying to tell her that he has a son.

At the end of the night after a dramatic rose ceremony, 16 men remain to battle for Emily’s heart.

So, we all knew about Ryan’s date back on March 16th when it was happening since everyone and their mothers were posting pictures and videos on FB and Twitter as it was happening. I gave you the spoilers for the Muppets date in a tweet a few hours after it had ended, then wrote a column the next day that you can see in this link. As for the Greenbriar Resort date, the only thing I didn’t know was who was on it, but when the first promo of the season aired, you could see it was Joe.

There are a few things this season that I’ve yet to find out, and I when I do I will spill them, but ABC has been spoiling their own episodes a week in advance for the last couple of seasons now, so, it’s kind of becoming a moot point. Any behind-the-scenes stuff I get I will forward on to you, and I will put together an episode-by-episode summary as soon as I can. I’m just saying it’s becoming less and less important as ABC does it themselves a week in advance, but I’ll still do it.

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  1. Dianne

    May 17, 2012 at 9:54 AM

    David, looks like Wes???!!! I sure as heck don’t see it, and I know know how anyone possibly could. They look as different as night and day.
    Amazing how so, sooo many women are bashing the looks of Emily’s bachelors. They’re all very attractive (except Kalon..eek!). Look, some may not be model-material, but I’m sure that’s what Emily specified. She certainly doesn’t want any of the men to look better than her..hahaha!!

  2. Dianne

    May 17, 2012 at 9:55 AM

    oops…sorry..the above second line should read “don’t know”.

  3. JovisMom

    May 17, 2012 at 10:03 AM

    Wasn’t this ask Steve question, a comment in Monday’s column?

    “Did I see on the screen that Brent, the one with six kids, was 41? If so, does that make him–by far–he oldest actual contestant ever on a Bachelor/ette show? (Obviously, the granny introducing her granddaughter to Ben from last season doesn’t count). I don’t think they have ever had anyone older than 36.”

    Hmmmm that’s odd. I actually like the fact that these guys are older, 41 and a few in their mid 30’s. It’s a better fit for a mom.

  4. DallasMs

    May 17, 2012 at 10:09 AM

    I have to admit…my opinion of Emily SKYROCKETED with that preview shown were she tells Kalon to GET THE FUCK OUT of here. If there wasn’t fire in her belly with that comment…in front of the entire group…I’ve never seen it. GO EM. Show ’em that Southern Girls have got fire.

  5. heather_joy

    May 17, 2012 at 12:37 PM

    Wonder what happened to the other f. Maybe this is like Frank from Ali’s season wearing glasses? Weird

  6. bigfatwoman

    May 17, 2012 at 3:22 PM

    Hard to believe that someone would intentionally drop an ‘F’ from a common name like Jeff.

    Since it is typically spelled with two F’s…perhaps it was a typo in the high school yearbook.

    Don’t make assumptions Steve. I assume you’re really bad in bed….

  7. aatxcutie

    May 17, 2012 at 3:42 PM

    Steve, you don’t have to repeat yourself so much, we get it. Posting the episode-by-episode summary isn’t as important anymore as you say – BECAUSE YOU NO LONGER GET THAT INFORMATION!!!

    I know you think your readers are all stupid, but most of us can read between the lines quite well.

  8. cindersmom

    May 17, 2012 at 11:56 PM

    I’m surprised at Emily’s comment to Kalon to GTFO. Five years from now when Ricki repeats that back to her, she’ll wonder where the heck she got that from.
    And as far as the Bachelor franchise leaking so many spoilers: maybe it’s their attorney’s advice to make Steve less necessary (as in ‘if we tell them everything, no one will have to go to Steve’s site to get information’). Then once Steve’s audience goes away, they can stop revealing so many spoilers …

  9. Mars

    May 18, 2012 at 1:12 AM

    Know what I think re Maria’s ouster on DWTS? I honestly feel she irritated most people. She kind of irritated me at first because she’s so in-your-face and loud! Clearly that’s not what the viewers want in a contestant (remember Sheri?). I mean, look at the history of winners – at least the female ones. The women who win are very demure. So I think Maria’s loud, over-the-top reaction on Monday turned voters off. I thought it was funny! Also the fact Maria’s boyfriend was revealed (who knew?), thereby killing the fantasy she and Derek were falling in love, could not have helped either. Thus the audience dumped her with a thumbs down. That’s how I read it anyway.

  10. Dianne

    May 18, 2012 at 5:38 AM

    Isn’t it amazing that Steve suddenly decides that it’s not necessary to post the Bachelorette spoilers. Ummmm..can we say co-incidence? I’m really disapointed in you Steve. I’ve been following you for 8 years, and now that you’re in some hot-water with the lawsuit, you’ve decided to choke. Too bad you feel the need to give into ABC.

  11. liz123

    May 18, 2012 at 6:50 AM

    I don’t think RS really gets the point of his own episode by episode spoilers. Yes, ABC “spoils” what’s going to happen on the next episode as far as who gets dates, where the dates take place, etc, but what RS gives us & ABC doesn’t is who gets the boot, who gets a rose. That’s why people come here. Does he not get that? Or does he just not have that info so he’s going to minimize the importance of it? Hmmm.

    Another point in response to cindersmom- I don’t know if you’re the mom to an actual child or a furry child (since I assumed incorrectly that jovismom had an actual child & was wrong), but most moms are not perfect. Most moms continue to use foul language on occasion when their children are not present. And most moms would definitely use foul language when someone has insulted their child (which I hear Kalon was guilty of). I think Ricki will probably be pretty proud of her Mom’s ferocious defense of her when she someday gets to watch the show (Emily has said she won’t let her see it until she’s much older). I really don’t care one iota about everyone’s opinion of Emily, her language, or her parenting- she’s a character on TV, after all. My defense of her is more a defense of Mom’s around the world who are expected to suddenly be perfect human beings b/c they birthed a child. Guess what– we’re NOT!

  12. quesara

    May 18, 2012 at 8:08 AM

    I totally agree with DallasMs on opinions of Emily skyrocketing when she tells Kalon to GTFO on that preview. First time she has ever shown that she might be more than a bobble-head Barbie! There might be hope for her and this season yet. And if anyone insulted my kid like that I would swear on national TV too, and Ricki will understand that when she ever finds out.

  13. BrookeForester

    May 18, 2012 at 8:46 AM

    You cannot look at how a name is spelled in a yearbook and assume that’s how it was spelled. My name is changed all the time by people who think it is wrong. Someone at the yearbook publishing place probably thought that he had to be spelled with two “f”s and changed it on their own.

    I sure miss the days when Steve’s blogs were written as humorous recaps…..

  14. CaliGirl

    May 18, 2012 at 9:25 AM

    I agree with Dianne. I’ve been spending some time on the Bach and Bachelorette Forum msg board (yes I am that lame, I’ll admit it, lol) and have been doing a lot of defending of Steve. I’ve been a loyal reader of his for years but I agree that the timing is just too coincidental this year. The more time that goes by, the more I’m having to wonder if it’s true that his sources are intentionally not going to him because of the lawsuit.

    Correct me if I’m wrong, but in the past any time the correct F1 was leaked elsewhere first, didn’t Steve correct himself within hours or the very next day? Jef has been leaked as the F1 on those boards for over a week now and I find it strange that Steve still hasn’t been able to either confirm or discredit that. Who knows, maybe I’m naive and the Jef spoilers are all wrong, I guess time will tell. I guess I just miss the days where Steve wasn’t so bitter and was the go-to guy for all the spoiler info we wanted, before anyone else had it. Hopefully he’ll still come through with more details soon.

  15. sandy

    May 18, 2012 at 9:51 AM

    It really doesn’t matter who she picks anyways it’s all fake and they never last. Jesse C. says the Bachlorette/Bachelor pick the final 4 on the first night after the cocktail party and the producers script the show around the others.

    But I still believe RS before any anonymous poster on a message board that has nothing to lose if their guess is wrong. The final 2 or 3 has been out for a while, it would be quite obvious she is not picking the pretty boy Sean, too obvious to pick the race care driver Arie, so it fits the show to pick the skateboarder boy in the end. Not that hard to me.

    If Love_Me is so adament that they are correct, then lets see their face, their name, and standby their credibility… But we all know that would never happen. They may have guessed right, I don’t know, but we shall see soon enough.

  16. Christie75

    May 18, 2012 at 12:15 PM

    Steve – You answer the same questions that people ask time and time again, why should the episode spoilers be any different. Please keep them coming. I love when the spoilers and recaps are full of witty matter how sophomoric they are. It was the whole reason I started reading in the first place.

  17. johannablue

    May 18, 2012 at 2:38 PM

    I have been reading Reality Steve’s spoilers for many, many years and I for the life of me cannot understand why there are readers making comments such as what aatxcutie makes…. Really???? Are you just commenting so that you can be seen/read??? The lawsuit that Steve is involved in is very serious and for those of you who are commenting that he is “bothered by” or “his sources not giving him information anymore”; Steve is actually still putting himself out there by simply giving us what he does. Steve is defending himself and in addition, our right to free speech people… You know, that right you have to login and comment on his “spoilers”…. We should praise Steve for standing up and continuing to “spoil” the show. Just because he has not given us a detailed version of every date…. every kiss…..every stupid scene that will play out on this show does not mean anything other than he is being careful, which he should! He is NOT putting anything out there that is conjecture or speculation; he never has so why would he start now? He is being guided by his attorney and since he is the one being sued, I think we should respect that it’s his name, his life, and his livelihood that’s at risk, not ours. Steve you keep on keepin’ on and I for one will keep reading. You are witty, charismatic, funny, entertaining, and at times harsh when warranted, but that is why we come here. Dr. Reality Steve is something else all together. It’s unimaginable that people actually write some of what they do, totally unrelated to the website, but whatever! Just give Steve a break people; he is here for entertainment purposes. He’s not here to satisfy everyone’s curiosity about why he does things the way he does. If you don’t like what he has to say, or if he is not giving you the information you want, then go somewhere else and find it yourself. Stop bashing the man who is simply trying to make watching this series a little more interesting.

  18. liz123

    May 18, 2012 at 2:46 PM

    Actually, our ability to comment here has absolutely zero, nada, nil to do with “free speech”, but thank you for your enlightening us on the constitution, johannablue. <— Sarcasm- for those who don't get it. Steve can block anyone from commenting at any time. When you say totally uneducated things like that, it pretty much takes the thunder out of absolutely any other statement you make.

  19. sandy

    May 18, 2012 at 3:18 PM

    Thank you johannaBlue! You make perfect sense to me.

  20. aatxcutie

    May 18, 2012 at 3:47 PM

    @joblue, you make it hard to read through your entire post when it all runs together.

    I comment because I feel like it, not because I want to be seen/heard. You have a problem with my freedom of speech, that’s your problem. I ave a problem reading through your long winded comment, that’s my problem.

    Steve’s not getting episode info anymore, so all of a sudden he finds them unimportant. Really? How transparent does a guy need to be before everyone sees through his blog, or lack thereof?

  21. Amy

    May 19, 2012 at 3:44 PM

    @aatxcutie ……drama queen that craves attention. Get a life, really girl. So tired of seeing your name on Steve’s blog.

  22. aatxcutie

    May 19, 2012 at 5:29 PM

    @amy, thrilled that I get to you so much. Thanks for the attention.

  23. sandy

    May 20, 2012 at 4:45 AM

    Geez what happened to this blog. Aren’t we suppose to be commenting about RS spoilers or lack of.

  24. JovisMom

    May 21, 2012 at 5:26 AM

    aatxcutie – Is an idiot!!! I bet she is single, fat, and ugly… Whey else put “cutie” in her name…. She needs some kind of reassurance.. She is also a confused liar and needs to keep her story straight. Get a life aatx… You need to stop bashing people….I am also tired of seeing your name on here. GO AWAY!

  25. aatxcutie

    May 21, 2012 at 3:59 PM

    Oh Jovi, how I wish.

    My hubby’s called me cutie for years, I’m not changing for you, and I’m not going away because you’re sick of me.

    I just returned from a week in France (without needing a DONATE button), so I already have a pretty good life and don’t need to “get one”.

  26. reddla

    May 21, 2012 at 4:08 PM

    I used to come here for the spoilers but now all I read is hate in Steve’s posts. For example, why all the hate on this Jef guy? He did nothing wrong the first episode. Seems almost like Steve is jealous of these people. And whatever the case may be, who wants a life where all you do is write about people that disgust you. Kind of pathetic.

  27. reddla

    May 21, 2012 at 4:47 PM

    Oh and aatxcutie, love your commentary. Keep it coming.

  28. karynr

    May 31, 2012 at 7:02 AM

    I haven’t been on here in a while and miss the comments. They’re much better than anything else on this site the past year or so. I’ve been coming here for years, but the blatant rudeness and ignorance of RS is over-the-top lately, but I think it’s funny. I didn’t find it funny after receiving some really rude, very stupid responses from RS. I think I’ve emailed him maybe 3 times in all the years he’s been in existence, and I just put his rudeness down to ignorance. Isn’t it funny that someone who deals with so many people doesn’t even like people. But, like mom always used to say, “you have to like yourself first!”

    And of course he’s bad in bed. I’d bet my next paycheck on that one. He doesn’t take well to feedback, so he probably hasn’t learned a damn thing about women all these years.

    No, I’m not a hater. Just someone who think’s RS’s self-importance is really funny. He was useful/necessary in the past, but everyone else is getting the info online 5 min. after he posts, so if he offends you that much, do what I did. I avoided his site for a few weeks, laughed at myself and read everyone else’s spoilers moments after he posted.

    And to the person who attacks spelling/grammar issues, GET OVER IT. You make it unpleasant to come on here, and if I have two min. to spear and jump on the site, I don’t really care if I hit a wrong key, missed a comma, etc. Take the pole out of your butt, honey.

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