Reality Steve


My Statement Regarding the Lawsuit

On June 1, 2012, the producers of The Bachelor Series finally dismissed their frivolous lawsuit against me. However, to get the suit dismissed, I had to agree to state on this website that neither I, nor Reality Steve, LLC would “initiate” contact, directly or Indirectly, with any Cast, Crew, and/or other Employees of the Bachelor concerning any non-public details of the Bachelor series.

This all began last October/November when I contacted three of Ben’s girls – Jaclyn Swartz, Casey Shteamer, and Emily O’Brien – via email and offered them compensation in return for information regarding the show. Why those three? I had Jaclyn and Emily’s emails by just doing a Google search, and Casey S I contacted through Facebook when I saw her page was turned on shortly after she returned home from filming. I left Casey S one email on her Facebook page (because I knew about the boyfriend situation and wanted to see if I could get her side of the story), when I didn’t hear back, three days later I went to send her another email and her Facebook page was shut off. That’s the only contact I’d had with her. Both Jaclyn and Emily received my emails and both responded back to me within 24 hours telling me they couldn’t help me out because they didn’t want to get in trouble. I prodded with a few more emails after that to each of them (which have been highly publicized when the story first broke), yet, neither of them took me up on my offer. I never paid either of them for anything, nor did either of them give me any information.

On November 22nd 2011, I received an email from the lawyers representing the production company behind the “Bachelor” series notifying me, among other things, that (this is a direct cut and paste from that email):

We currently are in possession of evidence of your attempts to induce former participants from the Bachelor Series to breach their contracts with NZK Productions, Inc. for the sole purpose of divulging highly confidential story-lines and information on your website. Specifically, we have several emails from participants wherein you admit you are aware of their confidentiality obligations, and nonetheless offer them compensation to disclose information in breach of their contract.

We further understand that you intend to post more confidential information imminently, i.e. spoilers, on your website regarding the upcoming season of “The Bachelor.” We must assume that the disclosure of such information is the product of your campaign to interfere with our participants contracts.”

When I received the email, I immediately contacted my lawyers asking what I should do. I knew that none of the information I had received and was going to spoil had come from any of the three girls I contacted, nor did it come from anyone under contract. Hell, their lawyers even used the word “assume” in their email. They assumed because they had the emails of me offering to pay their contestants for information, that that’s where my spoilers must’ve come from. Well, they assumed wrong. Until the end of time, myself, Jaclyn, Casey S, and Emily will tell you til we’re blue in the face that neither of them ever gave me any spoilers about their season. They were too scared to get in trouble. And even after offering monetary compensation to them, they still didn’t tell me a thing. Was there anything illegal about offering money for information? No. Was it a dumb decision on my part? Seven months later and with a fat legal bill I have hanging over my head, I’d say the answer to that would be “yes.” I was coming off a successful and profitable year on my website and I just figured “Why not just go directly to one of the contestants and see if they’ll tell me something if I offer them money?” It was a stupid, dumb, idiotic move on my part that ended up backfiring. I’d never done it before, and I’ll never do it again. Do I wish Jaclyn, Emily, and Casey S hadn’t turned over my emails? Of course. Am I mad at them for it? Not at all. Sure, I was asking myself why they did it, but it doesn’t matter. I shouldn’t have sent the emails in the first place. I mean, did you see what I wrote about Emily all last season? Knowing full well that since November she had turned over my emails, I never held it against her and she’s still one of my favorite contestants ever on this show.

The biggest point of contention I want to make out of this whole lawsuit is that I have never paid anyone for any information I’ve ever given on this site. Did I try to last season? Yes. Was I successful? No. I emailed three girls, offered compensation, and was rejected by two of them, with the other never even bothering to respond. The ironic thing is, as you know because I said it many times, I had the beginning and ending to Ben’s season nailed. Go look at the spoilers in case you forgot. It was the middle episodes – Utah, Puerto Rico, Panama, and Belize – that my information was a little sketchy, and that’s what I was looking to fill in, and that’s what I wanted to see if Jaclyn, Emily, or Casey S would help me with. If people under contract were feeding me information, wouldn’t I have every detail of every single season nailed down and never be wrong about anything ever?

When the story broke, of course the producers leaked the contents of my emails to those three girls to make it look like I’ve been doing this every season to every contestant I could get a hold of. Absolutely 100% false. What they didn’t care to reveal to the public in that initial story, was that on November 23rd (the day after receiving my first notice about them being in possession of the emails), I immediately wrote Jaclyn, Casey S, and Emily an email back stating,

“This is to notify you that I have received a letter from attorneys for the production and distribution companies for The Bachelor program threatening to sue me if I were to publish confidential information about the show that you allegedly provided to me. This will confirm that you have NOT provided me with any confidential information about the show. Additionally, I hereby withdraw any prior request that you do so. Best wishes with the show.”

I immediately backed off and that was that. Trust me, if I were to have paid any of them, or I had gotten my spoilers from either of them, and their lawyers were now in possession of those emails, I would’ve responded to the suit differently. But I knew my spoilers didn’t come from them, so I continued on as usual.

On December 5th I tweeted out that I was going to be revealing the final four to Ben’s season the next day. Within hours, my lawyers received an email from opposing counsel stating that if I were to go ahead and do this, they would take further action. Since I knew that info didn’t come from anyone under contract, I spoiled the final four the next day. Then the paperwork arrived that they had filed a lawsuit against me in California Federal Court for “tortious interference.” A week later, I spoiled the ending of Ben’s season because, once again, I knew it wasn’t given to me by anyone under contract, and what were they gonna do? Sue me? They already had.

So that’s how it all started. These last seven months have been pretty taxing on me for the sole reason that I knew I didn’t do anything wrong, but, that I was going up against a corporation that had way deeper pockets than me. I knew in the long run I couldn’t compete with them financially. I needed to make a decision that was best for me and for I saw where this was headed, how many more months and hours my lawyers would have to spend defending this, and the costs behind it. The opposing side was going to continue to drag this through the legal system because money isn’t an issue for them. I thought, as well as my lawyers, that we eventually would’ve won this case. There was no tortious interference done here. There was no money exchanged with those women, there was no information exchanged with those women, and I don’t think there’s any way they could’ve proven I damaged their show. If anything, what I do only adds viewership to their show. They know that, I know that, and you know that. If I knew 1000% that I’d win a countersuit and win my legal fees back, of course I would’ve continued to fight it. But there was no guarantee of that and I wasn’t willing to take that chance. Do I sit and fight this for possibly another 9-12 months, rack up an enormous legal bill and win the case, or cut my losses now, sign an agreement that allows me to continue to do what I do, and just deal with what my legal fee balance is now, knowing it won’t increase? I did not want to be a 37 year old guy with a six-figure legal bill hanging over my head, so I did what I felt was right. Since January, opposing counsel has been sending over numerous Settlement agreements they wanted me to sign, but I wasn’t comfortable with the language they were using. Which is why I continued to fight as long as I did and asked for donations. I wasn’t going to sign something I wasn’t comfortable with, but every day this case continued, the more the legal fees increased. They were trying to get me to sign something that completely favored them, and ultimately, would end up being the end of I refused to back down and sign something like that.

However, in this latest Agreement, they conceded a few things they hadn’t before, I conceded a few things, and I felt comfortable signing it. I can continue to do what I do, I don’t owe their side a penny, and continues on. If this Agreement that I just signed was presented to me six months ago, I would’ve signed it then. That’s how confident I feel in it. There’s really no need to get into all the specific details of the Agreement, other than to say I plan to abide by it, and as long as I do, there won’t be any future litigation brought against me. This Agreement does not prevent me from spoiling the show, and I will continue to do so like I have for the past three years.

Thank you to everyone for your patience in this matter. I know you probably have a lot of questions, and I will answer what I feel I can, but because the production company behind “The Bachelor” have already filed a frivolous lawsuit against me, I do not want to give them an alleged excuse to file another. I will abide by the agreement that I signed and not initiate contact with people under contract about non-public information concerning the show. Other than that, it will be business as usual. Thanks to all those who donated to my legal defense fund over the last few months. It definitely helped making a dent into what I owe my lawyers and to hold out for a more acceptable agreement, but I will take it from here and pay the remaining balance myself.

Thanks for your time, and I’ll be back tomorrow with “Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” the reports circulating about Roberto as the next “Bachelor,” plus US Weekly attacking Emily in this week’s issue. See you then.



  1. elizabeth82

    June 6, 2012 at 1:30 PM

    More thoughts: I understand the distinction between paying someone for spoilers and spoiling the show that way and trying and failing and getting other (allegedly unpaid) sources, but the way Steve managed to not outright lie just seems like splitting hairs. Maybe I’m being overly disappointed or whatever, but dishonesty in any form bothers me–because it wasn’t necessary! If he didn’t emphatically state he didn’t give anyone money, would he not have received donations? Is that why? Why couldn’t he have realized he’d made his own bed and lie in it?

  2. liz123

    June 6, 2012 at 1:37 PM

    I think that people are confusing legally wrong with morally wrong. I don’t even think it was necessarily morally wrong for Steve to offer money up to contestants who were under contract. Like others have said, that was up to the person under contract to decide. What I do think was morally wrong was to mislead and flat out lie to your readers to get donations. He flat out stated that he never offered up money in exchange for info which obviously was a bold-faced lie. That’s beyond sleazy. He’s no better than the douchebags from the show that he criticizes so regularly. It’s really sad that there are people who would defend that kind of behavior.

  3. okey dokey

    June 6, 2012 at 1:43 PM

    I’m torn on this one too. I rarely comment on here but I do read all of Steve’s updates and enjoy them. I don’t think that is going to change. Maybe what I feel most is sorry for Steve. To me he is saying he got too big for his britches, decided out of greed to try something different and offer money for information. Yes all within legal rights but it doesn’t sit well with me and it sounds like in hindsight it doesn’t sit well with him either. It took a lot for him to come out and share that he did offer money to the 3 girls from Ben’s season. For that I commend him and I hope that he listens to his moral compass a bit more moving forward.

    I think he also withheld some pertinent information from his readers regarding the offering of the money. My guess is that he was advised by his attorneys to not admit that. So was it okay for him to ask for donations? I don’t know. I can’t imagine what the legal bills were looking like but I also can’t help but think he had to know that people that would donate would be under the assumption that not only did he never pay for information but he never OFFERED to. I also stand by what I thought at the time – for me I’d be foolish to donate money to defend a lawsuit. Any lawsuit. Because in every law suit there are confidential documents etc that can’t or won’t be released until heard in court. So I guess overall Steve had a moral lapse and those that donated did so out of their own free will and have no room to complain.

  4. scavanau

    June 6, 2012 at 1:49 PM

    Steve has written before that he ignores haters. He really must have a teflon skin because he just doesn’t seem to care what people write about him. Maybe he’ll just continue to add scores and scores of readers who hate him and love to post how much they hate him every week.

  5. aatxcutie

    June 6, 2012 at 2:01 PM

    @rollingeyes and @Dianne, I don’t comment any more than others do, my opinions and my name just irritate you more. So, ignore what I say!!!

    So, let’s talk about the show. I got nothing… you? It seems that given Steve was less than honest with the very people that pay his bills (and his legal fees) it’s a little bigger news than what Emily, Doug, Ryan, Jef and Sean did on Monday. I didn’t donate based on principle, and yet I still feel duped by RS. He lied… that’s kind of hard to overlook whether his attorney told him to, or not. He could have just stayed silent – but that’s not his style – he’s got too much to prove. Ugh, broken record. Sorry all

  6. bigfatwoman

    June 6, 2012 at 2:37 PM

    I’m a prostitute and I get busted on the streets for it.

    I cry innocent to friends and family and stick my hand out for legal assistance because I NEVER exchanged sex for money.

    Donations from sympathetic family/friends roll in….

    Case is dismissed…. because no one took me up on my offer of prostitution and therefore no money or sex was ever exchanged. Does that make me innocent?…I guess. Does that make me a low life for not telling my friends and family the whole story before they opened their wallets…..YES IT DOES.

  7. oyoung1117

    June 6, 2012 at 2:40 PM

    I find all of this drama very interesting, which is why I watch The Bachelor, which is what brought me here in the first place. Steve is one shady mofo that is for sure. He has always come off that way in his blogs, but now that we know a few of the actual details behind one his deals to get these spoilers we know for sure. Guy is shady. As for the donations, well I would have never in this lifetime donated to a cause of a sleazy internet blogger specializing in a TV show that I am embarrassed to watch when there are much more urgent and important causes just a few clicks away, so I feel bad for absolutely no one that feels “duped” thinking it was about free speech. Making yourself think that donating to this defense fund was important for even a moment, let alone long enough for you to pull out your credit card and donate shows that you are asking to be conned.
    The thing is, I like Reality Steve for the services he provides. Funny recaps, interesting details behind the scenes, and especially for the spoilers. He has definitely had recaps that have disappointed in the humor department, a few of his spoilers have been late and/or wrong, and his explanations of the details behind the scenes can become yawnfests and a little to arrogant to read. But I keep coming back because for enhances the show. He makes my guilty pleasure (The Bachelor) more entertaining and longer lasting (posting stuff all week, not just monday nights). It doesn’t matter how insufferable his arrogance can become, or how icky his sleaziness can be, I will come back to this site and click away putting money in his pockets because he has a product that I want more of: this stupidly brilliant show. As long as he has this I will be back.
    That is why all that really matters to me about this issue (other than for the drama value) is that this new settlement will not keep him from giving me my spoilers.

  8. ccway

    June 6, 2012 at 2:56 PM

    Do you think that could have been the plan all along? To drag him throught the mud financially while only costing them pennies in comparison. After he’s racked up thousands of dollars in attorney fees, just get him to admit what he did and they drop it?

    To me, whether he offer to pay them or not is irrelevant. The fact is, he lied about it. He didn’t just omit the fact, he stated that he never offered anyone money in exchange for information. If this going to hurt him? Financially, I would think so. He obviously hasn’t had any spoilers this season, so, it could potentially hurt his business.

  9. SherryfromD

    June 6, 2012 at 3:09 PM

    Steve seems to think he can continue to do what he does and deliver spoilers even though he can no longer “initiate” contact, directly or Indirectly, with any Cast, Crew, and/or other Employees of the Bachelor. So where the hell is he getting his info then if not from anyone that was on the show or working on the show? Or since it says that he can’t initiate, does that mean that if cast/crew/employees initiate/contact him first with the info, then that is ok? Just wondering how he will still be able to provide spoilers with the current agreement.

  10. Fassero

    June 6, 2012 at 4:11 PM

    Actually, I don’t really care that he offered money for information from contestants. Lots of “serious” media outlets do it often (but pretend otherwise) and what tabloids do is well known. What really kills me is Steve offered money to contestants knowing, as he repeats often, the incestuous nature of contestants, including with producers. I mean, geez, surely he reads all the contestants, past and present, the include Elan Gale, Cassie Lambert, and “Fleissmeister” in their Twitter exchanges, no?

    How does this pertain to the case? Not much. However, Steve’s really big mistake was soliciting donations for his case while conveniently concealing that, indeed, he DID offer contestants money for information. Yes, he’s technically right that (as far as we know) he didn’t actually pay anyone. But he made offers knowing full well the nature of their confidentially agreements (even copies of which he has boasted often about being in receipt of) while making it seem to potential donors that he doesn’t even engage in such tactics. In that part of the Statement of Claim, the production companies were certainly correct even if, conceivably, the damages they would be entitled to might have been zero or a nominal $1.

    What bugs me the most, and I don’t even care what the reason, is that he offered money to anybody to begin with. This is the guy over the years who merely got information by simply offering contestants an open forum to state their case without edit. Remember Wes Hayden? Rego? (even though Rated R lied)? The effort to reach out to Rozlyn Papa? Heck, go way back to when he had DeAnna Pappas (from where I think he got the confidentiality agreement) and Holly Durst model his T-shirts. And for what? To fill in answers to a bunch of in-house junk few outside of masochists would be interested in him going on for two pages about? Most people just like the spoilage of who gets eliminated when, who are the final three, who wins, and the assorted “out of left field” events (leave the show, ass kicked out the door etc.).

    Contrition is fine and dandy but it is genuine or only because he had to commit to a statement to settle the case? This is on par with Brad’s second go-around when Steve barked up and down with certainty that Chantal O’Brien won over Emily Maynard than pretty much had to force himself to admit he screwed up the afternoon the final episode aired. In fact, it’s worse. No Steve – the case wasn’t “frivolous”. You did most of what was claimed when you made it look you like you never even attempted to engage in the behavior alleged. Then solicited donations to help on the pretext of the First Amendment. You’ve become a much bigger celebrity than you were six years ago and with it comes responsibility to be careful. This is two major flubs. You’re still a fun read and all but, to be honest, you know the three strikes analogy. You love ripping tabloids and that chat forum for guessing or stealing stuff from you without attribution. But this was really a case of stooping to their level when many a reader thought you were above. Think about it.

  11. dmayo22

    June 6, 2012 at 4:25 PM

    It’s so stupid to see so many people outraged and calling someone they never met shady and a liar. He never lied. He repeatedly said that he never paid anyone money in exchange for information and that is the truth. He didn’t say that he never offered anyone money. That would have been a lie if he did, but he didn’t say that. It’s just now he revealed that he tried to and people are bent out of shape. He never lied about trying to because he never said that he didn’t try to offer money. He only said that he never paid anyone, which is the truth. Get it? People are just pissed off because it’s something that he never mentioned. He made a mistake and had bad judgement and he will surely never do it again because of what it has cost him and the agreement he signed doesn’t stop him from getting spoilers because he has said time and time again that he doesn’t get the information from employees or contestants anyway so not initiating contact with those people doesn’t make a difference. End of story. Get over it.

  12. cammie99

    June 6, 2012 at 4:59 PM

    I used to come here for the spoilers and occasional laughs. Now I come for the comments. I literally LOL @ some of the things you people get your panties in a wad over. That some of you (Dianne and Rolling, listen up!) think I, and others like me, sit behind our computers engulfed in hatred and negativity and bang out our “hater” responses while fuming at the nostrils and cursing the world is hi-freakin-larious to me! To the contrary, and what some of you will never grasp, is that we more often think “it’s only a matter of time until Dianne pulls her head out of Steve’s ass long enough to roll in and offer her daily does of “RS is almighty, he can do no wrong, now go away hater!” comment. To that end, she never fails!

    If aaxtcutie, maxi, and others like us had a dollar for every time we heard “why do you post here, why don’t you just leave already” OR “you do know that every time you post your hater comments you are lining Steve’s pockets”…..well, we’d have enough dollars for a great dinner and round of margaritas!


  13. carol1975

    June 6, 2012 at 5:25 PM

    The bottom line is, if Steve had been more likable, more humble and less of an egotistical douchebag, he would have had more people on his side in that whole lawsuit situation, and less people judging him every step of the way.
    You reap what you sow.

  14. annieo

    June 6, 2012 at 6:38 PM

    I don’t give a rats ass if he offered to pay them. No harm no foul. They didn’t accept. He’s not writing to be someone’s moral compass. He’s just giving details of a show that some of us don’t care to watch but because we are innately nosy and love a happy ending or watching train wrecks will read Steve for all the details. Keep the spoilers coming and thanks Steve.

  15. jrt4me247

    June 6, 2012 at 6:43 PM

    I literally just registered on here just so I can leave a comment. I have been a fan of realitysteve for years. I never felt the need to comment before this but I just had to say something. I am so shocked at this post. I honestly cannot believe that Steve manipulated his readers to pay for his lawsuit. True he did not actually pay anyone, but intent has to count for something! For someone who always wants to expose this show for what it really is and who is always harping on what is “real’ I am just floored. How could he think that a simple play on words would not matter to us.

    From Steve himself 3/14/12:
    “One point I wanted to mention about something he wrote and that is where Matthew speculates “But the fact of the matter is even if everything the plaintiffs claim of Carbone is true, so what?” in reference to the claim from the plaintiffs alleging that I paid people under contract to give me non-public information. The allegation is not true. While I definitely agree with his position, I am here to say that I do not pay people for non-public information that I post on my site. Just wanted to make that point absolutely clear.”

    You made that perfectly clear! You do not pay people, but you try to! If Mike Fleiss did anything like this Steve would be all over him for it!!!!

    I know this is just a blog and it’s not that serious but I can’t help feeling duped. I am a long time reader and have made dozens of my friends and family members readers as well! I honestly would not care at all if Steve never asked for donations. I just feel like it was wrong on his part only because he was witholding the most important part!

    I am disgusted. The End.

  16. lucky

    June 6, 2012 at 7:31 PM

    The way Steve writes, how can anyone have thought the guy was a saint? Morals? Ha..even though I love his “advice” to high schoolers, sometimes I cringe at what these kids are reading. He is silly, funny, and sophomoric. The guy is an entreprenuer. Can you imagine what would happen if he couldn’t spoil a season? He’d lose not only his job, but his company and his career. Because all of the networks and journalists get “scoops” and “exclusives” by paying a fee, I don’t think he did anything wrong. Was it distasteful? Sure – but let’s please put it in perspective and be done with it. Let’s please talk about the gold-digger Emily and did she pull a Brad and not pick anyone?

  17. lucky

    June 6, 2012 at 7:33 PM

    p.s. I know none of these people – not Steve or any of the bach/bachelorettes.

  18. lorbirdie

    June 6, 2012 at 8:01 PM

    I’ve never posted a comment here, and I’m not a “lover” or a “hater” since there seem to be two camps here. I do speak my mind, and I did register specifically to clarify one point, however. Many are claiming that Steve has done nothing illegal (shady or immoral perhaps but not illegal.) Tortious interference: it is against the law for someone to try and convince (or convince) another person to breach a contract.

    A contract existed, Steve knew the contract existed and Steve tried to induce a breach of that contract to get information. Even if he hadn’t offered money in those emails, he would have been attempting to induce a contractual breach – he was trying to get contestants to break their confidentiality agreements and provide information. I’m sure he would prefer to get that info without paying for it, and in the end he admits he asked for money.

    It doesn’t matter; either way, he is a third party interfering with a contract. In reading the legal documents of the case, tortious interference (intentional interference in contractual relations) was the central allegation of the lawsuit.

  19. aatxcutie

    June 6, 2012 at 8:19 PM

    @cammie, you so rock!

  20. aatxcutie

    June 6, 2012 at 8:24 PM

    Hmmmmmmmmmm, video blog is going to be interesting tomorrow night… however he usually finds a way to BS around the question.

  21. elizabeth82

    June 6, 2012 at 9:48 PM

    Notice he didn’t mention anything about video blog tomorrow night, so I wonder if he’s doing one.

  22. Susan

    June 6, 2012 at 10:22 PM

    Yes, I’m a fan and donated. I’ve read his blogs for as long as I can remember. I will keep reading his spoilers.

    That said, Wow, talk about a change of tune. Saying just because he actually hadn’t paid them he never lied. WTH??? That’s a total load of crap. He deliberately mislead. It would have been better to say nothing than to deny it for months and then come out and try to spin it like he has.

    It just puts him on the same level as the people he keeps trashing. I’ll keep reading, just like I keep watching the Bachelor. He’s learned a very expensive lesson because I’m sure his legal bills are astronomical, but at least we now know how he’s been getting all this information for so long. I have a feeling his sources are going to be really drying up now.

  23. athena22733

    June 6, 2012 at 11:05 PM

    Steve is claiming that all he cares about is he doesn’t owe ABC any $ & he gets to keep doing what he does on this site. HOWEVER, he HASN’T been spoiling this season AT ALL!!! He hasn’t spoiled final rose, not even final 2! Episonde spoilers were publicly known events pieced together by Steve. This all just shows us that it was a member of the crew who was spoiling the season & they are now spooked! Also, Steve ATTACKS anyone who questions his intentions or says anything negative to him. On twitter, so many people were congratulating him yet he focused ONLY on the people who were saying negative things. He HAS stated he NEVER offered $, & all the suckers who gave him $ are learning their lesson now! Final word is Steve will no longer b able to spoil the seasons 1st, PERIOD! I’m sure he will read spoilers on other sites & report them on here but no more exclusives!

  24. duckquack

    June 6, 2012 at 11:57 PM

    quack quack… comes the duck…hello my friends…
    let me break it down for you…

    steve would ask the contestants of the current season what is going on, and the eliminations….as he did with ben’s season…

    so who did he get from brad’s season to tell him what happens?……ashley spivey is good friends with him….jackie, you have to think of the girls that lasted until f3…..

    on ali’s season he said she never picks anyone, but he had the episode per episode spoilers…
    rego, craig r, or kasey kahl…more than likely kasey kahl pocketed a few $ and gave steve the spoilers of who leaves and what the dates were about.

    jake’s season…………tenley for sure blabbered to steve….gia….blabbered for a designer bag

    and this is how it goes….plus he has friends who are friends of those friends currently on the season

  25. Athena

    June 7, 2012 at 5:29 AM

    I’ll wait and see what happens from here on out. I enjoyed his recaps even before the spoilers. I hope his spoiler sources resurface, but even if they don’t, I still will enjoy reading. I suspect though, that if he can’t regain his standing as the premier spoiler of the show he may have to find another day job.

    I don’t understand the glee that some are expressing…I continually scratch my head at the finger pointing that so amuses you. In my experience, just about every time I’ve gotten self-righteous, I’ve quickly found myself standing in my own self-made s$(t. Life is short – let’s enjoy being kind to each other…

    ps: lest anyone get confused, athena22733 and I are not the same person. I suspect neither of us would want our thoughts to be assigned to the other.

  26. JovisMom

    June 7, 2012 at 6:20 AM

    Just heard on the radio that apparently Emily isn’t sweet as pie like a lot of people think…. She made all these crazy demands as the Bachelorette and said she wanted $750K to do it. (Ashley got $30k last year they said) She is also hardly on speaking terms with the Hendrick family. She was NOT engaged to Ricki’s father when he died, they spun it that way to make it seem better. Just something I heard that I thought ya’ll would be interested in.

  27. mja

    June 7, 2012 at 6:26 AM

    For those wondering about Roberto possibly being the next Bachelor, EW site is saying “not so fast.”

    Also, Steve tweeted two days ago that he had no confirmation of the story about Roberto that Life & Style had published.

    Interesting that EW mentions that if Roberto were selected as Bachelor, it would be the first time a show had a “non-white star.” (Their words.) And ABC just happens to have a lawsuit against them regarding lack of racial minorities being chosen as lead on the Bachelor/ette series. Don’t know if there is a connection in their minds, but it’s interesting. If he is not selected, I wonder why did Life & Style come out with the story when they did?

  28. ttobes

    June 7, 2012 at 6:38 AM

    There was no lie. He didn’t say he never offered $$. He stated he never PAID anyone for information. That’s true.

    Props for honesty. Anyone sitting behind a computer spewing off hate and negativity for someone they’ve never met needs higher priorities in life. Go outside and play – it’s summer!

    I’m certain that anyone who donated $$ did so to ensure that Steve can keep doing what he does – entertaining his followers with commentary.

    I read these posts because they’re funny and well-written. I’d hate to see the site go down just as much as all of you who claim to be so disgusted. You’re still here reading the blogs. I’m disappointed to see so much self-righteousness in all of these comments. This is a positive thing – RealitySteve isn’t going anywhere.

  29. JovisMom

    June 7, 2012 at 6:43 AM

    @ mja- Interesting point about why they would chose Roberto (a non white lead). Roberto is soooo dreamy! I don’t like the fact that this would be the second time in a row that they have chosen the “winner” as a lead after their relationship w\ the past lead didn’t pan out. I know the will recycle someone and it won’t be anyone new. If Sean doesn’t win Emily’s season he would be a great Bachelor!

  30. Dianne

    June 7, 2012 at 7:52 AM

    @JovisMom – I read the same stuff about Emily, and then some! Apparently, she isn’t the “sweet as pie” individual she’s portraying, she’s a manipulative you-know-what, and everything is all about her. She insisted ABC pay for both her and Ricki, and if Ricki wasn’t going to be included in everything, then neither was she. She also made them give her the vehicle she was driving around in on her 1 on 1 with Ryan..and on and on. I honestly feel sorry for whoever she chooses, especially if it’s Jef. I honestly think the reason she’ll likely choose Jef is because he’s such a softie, and she can bend him to accomodate her in any way she likes.

  31. JovisMom

    June 7, 2012 at 8:00 AM

    @ Dianne – That’s it!!! I don’t like Jef, but you are 100000000% right! If she does pick him that is the reason behind it! He is a softie and to nail a beautiful girl like Emily he’d do anything to keep her!

  32. karynr

    June 7, 2012 at 8:08 AM

    I agree with the person who said “it doesn’t matter how insufferable and sleazy his is, I’ll still come back for the entertaining reading.” And he is insufferable and sleazy.

    The comments are the enjoyable part these days. Everything else is crap. Just think, if RS goes away, maybe another spoiler blog will pop up and be even better. After all, don’t you catch more flies with honey? A nicer person might be able to get more and better information. In fact, someone who treats others with respect and dignity would probably be able to do a much better job. Let’s face the fact that his writing has been going downhill and is no longer funny. It’s whiny, narcissistic, with tones of major jealousy when talking about some of the male contestants.

    This guy is a disgusting human being. He’s proven it over and over and over again. And a lie is a lie, whether it is by omission or not. He’s a liar.

    I’ve been reading RS since he started this site, and will continue to do so, but I also have the right to say he is a lying, nasty slimeball.

    I, of course, did not donate, but am very curious about where the money is now. He mentions Vegas quite often and I hope the money is in the pockets of the lawyers, not sitting in RS’s account waiting for his next gambling binge.

    For those of you ready to attack, don’t forget to drink your kool-aid first.

  33. JovisMom

    June 7, 2012 at 8:46 AM

    I’m having a really hard time w\ how hard people are on Steve w\ this. Enough already! The ones who seem to be the most upset and calling him slime ball, liar, etc also state that they didn’t donate. Why do you care so much then? He didn’t lie. He said “I never paid someone for information”, and he didn’t. He asked for it, and I applaude him for doing so. Was it dumb, looking back on it no. But at the time he was trying to make a huge effort to get us the best spoilers yet!!! He did it for us (his readers) in mind. Remember that when you start to bash him. I donated (not much $20) and I could care less if he puts it on a black jack table this weekend. My theroy with money is that don’t spend it if you can’t afford it. I have a feeling though every penny went to lawyers. He probably still has some expenses that weren’t covered by the $10k or however much it was. This is a free site and he could charge it if he wanted to. I wonder if the haters and bashers would still come to the site if they had to pay for the spoilers.

  34. Amy

    June 7, 2012 at 8:48 AM

    Just so you all know, copies of the emails Steve sent the girls were leaked on the internet shortly after the law suit began and before he set up the donate button. I’m not saying he didn’t lie. I’m saying it was obvious he HAD offered up money.

  35. ccway

    June 7, 2012 at 9:02 AM

    Restating I’m neither a lover nor a hater….Heck no I wouldn’t pay to come on this site, there have been NO SPOILERS this season. Anything that Steve has ‘spoiled’ has been on other sites first. I’m not angry with him by any sense of the imagination, don’t know him, don’t care; however, I am point out the FACT that he did, indeed, lie saying that he never OFFERED money in exchange for information. Yes, he did OFFER money.

    PS. Both Athena’s rock! Everyone does. Love reading the comments and insights of everyone…

  36. bigfatwoman

    June 7, 2012 at 9:09 AM


    What do you mean, “he did it for us”….are you serious? He did it so he can continue to make a living through his website. Let’s not paint him to be a crusader. This is a business for Steve, plain and simple.

    It really doesn’t matter that Steve wasn’t able to follow through with paying former contestants. What he did was shady, pure and simple. The fact that he left this fact out when he starting asking for donations, simply makes him a person lacking in integrity. If he had spelled out the full story, most people would not have donated — and he knew that.

    I will still read his blog because I like the spoilers.

    You really see what people are made of when life presents them a challenge — and Steve failed this one miserably….but yet he can’t even admit that….a sad reflection on who he is.

  37. liz123

    June 7, 2012 at 9:17 AM

    @JovisMom, I’ll give you your answer- there is no way I would pay to read this site. Maybe in the “old” days, I would’ve. Now, though, he has very few spoilers (certainly not the ones we all care about) & his recaps are horrible. They’re not funny. They are bitchy & narcissistic. Plus, it would be very hard for him to charge b/c one person could pay & then spread any spoiler info RS does get across the web to others for free.

    I hope for RS’s sake, he is able to continue getting spoilers. If not, this site is going down quick. The recaps are worthless. RS is a jerk. And the only thing keeping most of us coming back is debating in this comment section (and *that* is the sole reason he doesn’t ban me & aatxcutie & maxi & cammie99). Now that the lawsuit is over, there won’t be much of the banter in this comment section going on either so he better hope those spoilers can keep coming or he’s in trouble. I have a hard time feeling sorry for someone who treats his readers like lowlifes & lies outright to them for money. Make no mistake, a lie of omission is still a lie no matter how you spin it.

    Oh & btw, I promise you, he could give a flying freak less about you, JovisMom. You said “he did it for us”. He didn’t offer up money for spoilers b/c he cares about you! It’s honestly kind of sad that you think he did it for you. He did it for himself- ultimately to line his own pockets.

  38. JovisMom

    June 7, 2012 at 9:22 AM

    @ bigfatwoman – I ment he “Did it for us” yes as well as for himself…. We get great spoilers, he gets money from all the hits, its win win.
    @ liz – Who cares about some of the spoilers, like who has a girlfriend at home, or who gets sent home on the 1 on 1 date. I think most people just care about the F4 and the F1. That’s the whole point of the show! Who gets engaged! The rest is just fluff. I gone to appreciate the different details he gets out but if going forward all we get is the F4 or F1 I wouldn’t mind at all.

  39. duckyglass

    June 7, 2012 at 9:24 AM

    I donated to Steve’s cause and don’t have a single regret. I couldn’t care less if he offered to pay people for info or that he “lied” to get money. I get to come to this site a few times a week and get some laughs. These people in the world who get to take a few months off and vie for everlasting love mesmerize me. There is no way I could take a leave from my 9-5 to do that and still expect to be employed, so the temporary loss of reality and a few laughs is beyond entertaining for me. Hell, I tip my bartender more each week for less entertainment. I am also quite entertained by those of you who are so self-righteously perturbed by all of this. Your lives must be AMAZING!

  40. liz123

    June 7, 2012 at 9:25 AM

    @JovisMom, exactly! That’s exactly what I meant when I said: ” Now, though, he has very few spoilers (certainly not the ones we all care about)”. The “ones we all care about” are the F4 and especially the F1- just like you said!!! We agree on that. And those are precisely the spoilers that Steve does not have this season, so no way I’m going to pay when it seems he very well might not be able to get the important spoilers anymore.

  41. jawbreaker

    June 7, 2012 at 9:28 AM

    Am glad he has taken the DONATE button off.

  42. CaliGirl

    June 7, 2012 at 9:36 AM

    Look, bottom line is that a lot of us, including myself, feel misled by Steve about the lawsuit. Before yesterday’s column, did he technically lie about whether or not he OFFERED money? I don’t think so, but I could be wrong. I don’t have time to go back and read every single tweet or post. But based on how he repeatedly called the lawsuit “baseless” and “frivilous,” I was led to believe the whole thing was ridiculous and that they were throwing false accusations at him.

    I really am interested in what Matthew Chan has to say about all of this. I wonder if he would have spent so much of his time and energy defending Steve if he knew that the offers had been made. True, Steve never asked Chan to do any of that, but still…

    And if the spoilers about Jef being the F1 turn out to be true, it will be even more clear to me that his sources aren’t going to him the way they did before. I’ve always been “Team Steve” and appreciate that he opened up to us all yesterday about the lawsuit, but I hope for his sake and the readers that he will go back to writing humorous columns and spoilers when possible.

  43. addicted2rs

    June 7, 2012 at 9:36 AM

    For those of you who are saying he is not offering spoilers, he has told you who is going on each of the dates and who gets the roses and who goes home for the rest of the season up to F3.

    ABC is not releasing that information on their press releases.

    I give him credit for offering many spoilers.

  44. CaliGirl

    June 7, 2012 at 9:43 AM

    Addicted2rs- true, you’re right, some of that info was not listed anywhere else. Bach and Bachelorette Fan Forum had a lot of those episode-by-episode spoilers posted in various places though, FYI.

    I think the main thing people are noticing is the absence of the F3 down to F1 details. We had those by now for Ben’s, Ashley’s, Brad’s (albeit wrong until a day or so before the finale aired), and Ali’s. (wrong too, but he got it right before it aired which is what really matter IMO)

  45. aatxcutie

    June 7, 2012 at 11:45 AM

    @Liz, that is so freaking right. Steve didn’t do it for us, he did it for himself, and most likely to get another of his jabs at ABC.

  46. cammie99

    June 7, 2012 at 4:45 PM

    Liz….awesome post! I agree wholeheartedly with everything you said!

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