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“Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” Is Roberto the Next Bachelor, & US Weekly Is At It Again

I just was emailing to ask who ends up marrying Emily. It has been bugging me because I wondering who it is!

Comment: Shhhhhhh, don’t tell anyone. It’s Brad. Top secret. They are in seclusion right now as we speak and the finale will blow everyone’s socks off. They fly to South Africa, Brad proposes again, she says yes, and like an episode of Groundhog Day, they’ll be broken up again in 3 months. Just don’t tell anyone. I don’t want it getting out yet.

Congratulations Steve!

You must be so relieved to have that crazy lawsuit over and done with. Read your statement and I think you’re a pretty stand up guy. You admitted your mistake, you didn’t drag others down to benefit yourself and not many people do that nowadays. Most people do try to place the blame elsewhere and never once did you do that. Kudos to you! Your parents should be so proud, they raised a fine young man.

Comment: Thank you. And my parents thank you. Why would I place the blame anywhere else? I was the one that sent the emails. I could never hide that fact. I just couldn’t talk about it for 7 months because we had no idea if a settlement was going to be reached, and they were continuing to the discovery process because we challenged jurisdiction. My lawyers didn’t think I should be sued in California. I could not give the Plaintiffs any ammunition while this case was going on, which is why I couldn’t say anything. We didn’t know if there’d be a settlement or if this case would eventually go to trial, so I could not afford to say anything that could be used against me. The only thing I could state publicly was what they had released publicly when the story first broke, were the emails that they leaked to the press. And the way they leaked the emails, they made it seem that all I do is pay contestants, so I was able to dispute that for the last 7 months. I knew I’d never paid anyone and that’s why I kept saying it.

Hi Steve,

I have a few questions for you.

1. It seems that ABC is planning on having Michael Stagliano be the next Bachelor. Why else would that have him be on BP3, and why else would he go on it? Even if he gets into the finals, no one will ever vote for him because he already won.

2. I have never been able to wrap my head around Vienna being Jake’s final choice on his season. I know you have started that each season the producers cast about 5 or so legit contestants, and the others are filler for drama and storyline purposes. Was she one of these contestants who happened to “win” at the end?

3. Regarding the Arie situation, is it possible that he was pursued by Cassie Lambert repeatedly to be on the show, but finally agreed to this season because he in fact, wanted to meet and have a chance with Emily?

4. What is with Ali and all of her wishy-washy intel? Last season she claimed to have inside scoop that Ben picked Lindzi. Now on Emily’s season, one week she is saying Arie wins, and now she says he doesn’t.

I have to agree with you and your comments about Emily asking bold and realistic questions on the show. I feel like she is really getting down to important issues with the guys, while the past bachelorettes all spewed out a bunch of rehearsed bubbly lines. This is SO much more interesting and entertaining, and I applaud her for speaking her mind and never beating around the busy (take note single women!). This leads me to my final question …

5. On dates do the lead and contestants ever talk about normal date things, like, what television shows do you watch, what is your favorite restaurant, etc? Everything seems so deep, without even tapping into the “are we compatible” stuff.

Comment: 1) Michael is not going to be the next Bachelor. Roberto is.

2) You’ll have to ask Jake why he picked Vienna. I have no idea.

3) I don’t buy that’s the reason, no. Arie was on the show this season strictly to promote his fledging racing career and increase his brand name. Nothing else.

4) Not sure. I haven’t read her blog. But here’s a little tip: All the former contestants that write blogs, they don’t know any inside information. They’re watching it just like the rest of us. I’m sure they’re aware of the rumors and spoilers out there, but they don’t know any behind the scenes of what went down this season. It’s just their opinion on what they see in the episode.

5) I’m sure they do, but that’s not interesting television, so it doesn’t get shown.


Big fan of your column. My question is regarding the numerous past contestants that blog weekly….You have to assume these girls (i.e. Ashley H, Alli, Ashley S, etc), read your site. I can’t imagine that they don’t, and if they said that they didn’t, I’d think they are lying. With the info that you have shared with Arie, do you find it strange that they are still fawning over him, and almost each one of them has him pegged to be F2 or the winner?

Comment: I’m sure they just think he’s attractive and that’s why they’re saying what they are. They’re not going to address in detail what I said about him because they can’t. None of these former contestants are ever allowed to acknowledge me or my site in any of their blogs. Which is fine. And maybe they don’t believe, or want to believe, what I wrote about Arie, which is fine as well. I know it to be true.

Good morning Steve,

In your episode recap on Tuesday, you linked to the plaintiff’s statement to the media on The Hollywood Reporter. The article gave the statement as “We have resolved our dispute with Reality Steve and are pleased he has agreed to have no further contact whatsoever with any of the cast, crew or employees of The Bachelor,” Warner Bros. tells THR in a statement.” (emphasis mine).

In your statement on your website yesterday, you said “…I had to agree to state on this website that neither I, nor Reality Steve, LLC would โ€œinitiateโ€ contact, directly or Indirectly, with any Cast, Crew, and/or other Employees of the Bachelor concerning any non-public details of the Bachelor series.”

These two statements seem to be conflicting. One says no contact at all, the other seems to say you just can’t be the one to start it.

Can you offer any clarification?

Comment: Absolutely. What I wrote in the first paragraph of yesterday’s column is an exact cut and paste from the agreement that I signed with them. What they released in their statement to the public? I do not see that exact wording anywhere in our agreement. Their statement was very vague, and frankly, could’ve been taken more than one way. They seemed to kinda summarize a 14 page agreement into one nice little sentence that isn’t entirely accurate. But hey, I know what the settlement says, I will abide by it, and there won’t be any future problems. That’s all that matters.

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  1. katyforella

    June 10, 2012 at 9:47 AM

    Hi everyone!! I just wanted to let you know that I know for a 100% certainty who Emily’s final pick is!!!!!! I’m going to remain anonymous and also not reveal how I got this information, because the person who told me, told me not to tell anyone. (That person only found out through complete luck/coincidence.) I don’t want to get her/him in trouble!!!! Anyway, I debated whether to post this, but I can’t keep a secret lol. Okay, Emily’s final pick is SEAN!!!!!! Also, from what I hear (I don’t know Sean personally), he is an absolutely amazing guy – smart, funny, talented, sincere, moral. Enough good things cannot be said about him. ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. hotchacha

    June 10, 2012 at 9:38 PM

    @Katy – That same person told ME TOO!! OMG. LOL. XOXO #crazy

  3. CaliGirl

    June 11, 2012 at 8:11 AM

    @hotchacha, my thoughts exactly. Maybe someone passed her a note in study hall and that’s how she found out who Emily picked. Like, OMG!!


  4. Athena

    June 11, 2012 at 11:12 AM

    I’ve managed to avoid temptation and haven’t watched until breaking down and watching last weeks show online yesterday. I’m as curious as the next guy/gal as to who she picks, but I will say that I found Sean to be the cutest of the final 3. Having only watched one episode though, “cuteness” certainly wouldn’t be enough to base a real relationship on, so, who knows…

  5. reallife

    June 12, 2012 at 7:09 AM

    WOW – haven’t been here in a while. A lot has changed.
    Like this is now a self-promotion blog. Enjoyed it much more before you became such a diva. Wow.

  6. shalley88

    June 12, 2012 at 9:23 AM

    Did you all notice how Emily asked Sean when he was going to “drop the bomb” and tell her he has 7 children”!!!!! How hypocritical!!! Then the next day she is so offended when someone suggests her child may be an issue. Wow. That is the pot calling the kettle black..she would obviously have an issue with someone that had children…out of her own mouth!!!

  7. solo5

    June 15, 2012 at 11:52 AM

    I just want to give a little insight that may shed light on a couple of your questions/complaints(Steve) with regard to Jef Holm. I grew up in the same town as Steve, knew his family, and went on a few dates with him when we were younger (like 9 years younger). I haven’t seen him in a few years, so I don’t claim in the least to know him inside and out. However, when it comes to the culture around here (in Utah), even in our largest city, the social network is like that of a small town. Everyone knows everyone, especially the entrepreneurs. More new businesses come out of Utah than almost anywhere else, and it’s because of a ton of young, flashy, ambitious young people attending all of the universities in these parts. It doesn’t surprise me at all that Michelle Money’s brother happens to “know” Jef… Jef owns a business that has caught the attention of all of the twenty-somethings in the area. Michelle knows everyone. All of the “beautiful people” of SLC have all been to parties together and networked at business functions. So I don’t necessarily think there had to be any kind of conspiracy going on just because Doug was talking to Jef. Everyone knows everyone around here.
    Also, as far as other comments you made regarding what Jef said to Emily on their 1-on-1, mainly in the “Egg”- he is genuinely a kind hearted, gentle guy, and he grew up in a very very conservative environment. Even though he doesn’t consider himself an active member of the Mormon church, our culture for members of the church and otherwise is very traditional, and women are treated with a ton of respect. So the stuff he was saying, although trite and cheesy, was pretty legit. Family is king out here, and although Jef is relatively young, almost every one of his friends is married with children. At 27 years old myself, it is the norm to have most of my friends be mothers of 2. Regardless of his religious affiliation, it is deeply embedded in our area that starting a family at our age is something to be looked forward to and sought after. He has a close relationship with his family, and I’m sure they are eager for him to “settle down”, as 28 and single in these parts is bordering on scary. So, I honestly think a guy like Jef is more “prepared” to be a father than most of the other guys there. His surroundings allow for it, and it wouldn’t be a huge leap lifestyle-wise since he already has a ton of friends doing the whole kid thing. Also, his clothes, as much as you hate them, are all the rage here and in other areas of the west. It’s indie-hipster, and even though I’m not into it, it’s not like he’s way off in “I make my own rules”-land. Walk around Salt Lake City on an afternoon and you’ll see plenty of corporate guys dressed like that. Think what you will about Utah and Mormons, but I just wanted you to be able to understand why Jef is the way he is, why he’s different from the rest of the guys, and why it’s not an act- it’s very on par with men in this area.

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