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“Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” & Another Contestant Confirmed for the “Bachelor”

Here are your “Reader Emails” for the week. Not many, but enjoy what you can.

Hey! Why do you think Neil lane stil comes onto the show to give the rings? Is someone watching and thinking oh that’s so pretty let me spend god knows how much on a diamond Ring now? Personally I think his rings are bad luck. The poor dude gets his time wasted every season. Unless abc buys the rings from him and keeps them in a safe when they break up? That’s a lotta diamond rings stuffing up a safe. Thoughts?

Comment: You’ll have to ask Neil on that one. I’m guessing it just has to do with advertising. Is the average lonely housewife that this show caters to gonna go out and buy a crazy $50k ring? Of course not. But it’s not about selling rings. It’s about brand marketing. He wants his name out there just as much as the next person. I think most somewhat intelligent people can distinguish that the rings on this show are over-the-top and their success rate doesn’t hinge on how many rings he should sell in the future.


Just wondering if you saw wedding video from Holly & Blake. Would love to hear your comments on it in your next blog.

Comment: No, never saw it. Nor do I plan to. I don’t see the point.

Hey Reality Steve,

One simple question: when the hell do these BP contestants eat? You practically never see them eat a thing especially when they’re on 1 on 1 dates. I think Ed putting a bite of salad in his mouth on Monday’s episode is the only time I’ve seen someone eat.

Comment: They during the other 100 of hours of footage you don’t see. The 2-hour episode (more like 80 minutes when you factor in 40 minutes of commercials), is over a 3 day period. So they’re showing you 80 minutes of 72 hours of footage. They’re eating. ABC just isn’t showing it. As they shouldn’t. I don’t know about you, but watching people eat isn’t interesting television to me, which is why we rarely see it on any of their shows.

What wedding gift would you sent to Emily and Jeff? What do you send to someone who already has everything? (A jumbo size mirror so they can look at themselves more lol?)

What gift will you send Blakley and Tony if they really make it down the isle.

Do you think Erica Rose will ever get married lol?!

Do you ever snack on chips or ever eat like crap ever now that you’re on Insanity?

I was at the gym tonight and I saw former Bachelor, Jesse Palmer, on ESPN. Think he’ll ever get married? Or Dr. Travis Stork. Think he’ll ever find the right girl after writing “Don’t be that girl” when no women is good enough for him

Comment: 1) Not that I’m worried in the least about having to buy them a gift, but if I have to, I’ll just find their registry and get them something off there.

2) I don’t buy gifts for “Bachelor Pad” couples. This has been explained in the past as to why.

3) I have no idea.

4) I’ve basically cut out all unhealthy snacks since I started Insanity, which was very difficult for me to do. And I try to limit myself to one crap meal a week. At the most two. Which is another huge step for me considering I was eating crap meals probably 10-14 times a week before. The actual Insanity workout will definitely help you, but if you don’t change your diet along with it, you’re not going to get the exact results you need. Sure I’m working out harder and more often than I ever have, but I’m also eating 100x better than I used to. Honestly, that’s been the most difficult part for me. Not saying the workouts aren’t difficult, because they are beyond difficult, however the more I’ve done them, the better in shape I’m getting and I guess you could say they become “easier,” for lack of a better word, than when I first started. But not indulging on the foods that I loved for years has definitely been the hardest part. Only a week and a half left and I’ve completed my 60 day Insanity. Never thought I’d ever do it.

5) I don’t know what Jesse Palmer’s status is with the ladies, but I’m guessing he’s not having much trouble pulling chicks. Travis Stork got married recently.

So I was just reading your twitter feed and it made me laugh. That Kelsey person said u were rude then called u an asshole……Umm what does that make her?! Some people…love your responses to that whole thing too!!

P.S. in one of your recent blogs u mentioned Bel Biv Devoe and Jodeci who I also loved listening to when I was younger (still do) so have u heard of Jango radio? If not It’s awesome. U can customize your own stations. I’m listening to 112 radio and they play all music similar to them. Listening to Blackstreet right now. Talk about a throw back.

Comment: Yeah, I had a little fun last Friday night or whenever it was that Arie lied to everyone by telling them he chose racing over being the “Bachelor.” It was so comical to read something so preposterous, and I knew it would get all of his fans panties in a bunch, so I just had fun with it. And based on the reaction I got from them, they all pretty much proved my point I said in my initial email. Like I’ve said 1,000 times: Some people take this show and these people waaaaaaaaaay too seriously.

I’m still trying to determine my favorite Bel Biv Devoe song. I think a lot of people will probably say “Poison” since that song was their first big hit. But I think I might have to go with “Do Me.” I mean, can you really go wrong with lyrics of “You can do me in the morning, you can do me in the night, you can do me when you wanna do me…” Didn’t think so.

I haven’t been watching Pad And just reading your blogs so perhaps I missed it. if not, why hasn’t ABC been playing up the wedding of holly and Blake? I would have thought that was good publicity for the show?

Comment: They don’t seem to play up any of the relationships that come from “Bachelor Pad.” Sure, they’ll talk about it occasionally, but it’s not like those couples are invited to any of the “Tell All” shows or the “ATFR.” “Bachelor Pad” is essentially the red headed step child of the “Bachelor” and “Bachelorette” in case you haven’t noticed.

Hi Reality Steve,

I’m watching the Bachelor Pad Sister Christian challenge and I have to admit I’m dying laughing. Honestly, do these people have a shred of dignity left? I just feel bad for Night Ranger! Sarah sounds like a cat dying!

You have mentioned quite a few times recently that the challenges are set up to favor certain contestants. My question is how far in advance are the challenges decided? Was this challenge created because the producers had planned on Michael Stagliano still competing at this stage in the competition, and it was set up to favor him to enter the finals?

Thanks for all you do! You keep me cracking up on Tuesdays and Thursdays!

Comment: I’m sure everything is thought out before the season, but I don’t think they know exactly who will win each one. I mean, would you have predicted the Weatherman winning a pie eating challenge? I certainly wouldn’t have.

No doubt Michael and Rachel would’ve won the final challenge if he was still around. Then again, as I said Tuesday, I don’t think Michael and Rachel would’ve ever won this season because I don’t think people would’ve voted Michael to win the money two years in a row.

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  1. Athena

    September 6, 2012 at 5:46 AM

    The first RS letter, the one from the domestic violence expert, was spot-on. And even though Steve acknowledges she (?) knows a lot more about the subject than he does, he then makes a final comment about the neighbor simply minding her own business – exactly the OPPOSITE of what the expert was recommending. Steve Steve Steve – you missed the boat here. Reread the letter from the expert. Please. And, same for anyone else here who suspects a friend, acquaintance, neighbor, etc. might be in an abusive relationship.

  2. karynr

    September 6, 2012 at 6:12 AM

    Athena, you are absolutely right. That was terrible advice, Steve! Do not stay out of it. Pick up the phone and call the authorities immediately. You could be saving a life. Too many people, especially children, have ended up dead because of people minding their own business.

    I don’t mind the corny letters, the ones written by Steve, etc., but I do mind the poor advice given on serious issues such as this one. Steve would be smart to avoid letters about serious subjects. He has no right giving advice.

  3. karynr

    September 6, 2012 at 6:19 AM

    I don’t get all the hate towards Blakely. Out of all the women in the house this season, she handled herself much better than most. She seems like the type of person who might be a aggressive, but would be a loyal, loving friend. Sure, the Fleissdb gave her a terrible edit on the Bach, but I really don’t get all the negativity. Am I missing something, or is it just the typical bad edit and everyone jumping on the hate bandwagon? I like Blakely. And the comment from the writer about child protective services was so uncalled for in regards to Blakely. That was a terrible thing to say about someone you don’t know personally.

  4. laney2012

    September 6, 2012 at 6:26 AM

    I couldn’t read the first Dr. RS. I don’t do well with an infinite paragraph.

  5. c104

    September 6, 2012 at 7:24 AM

    Wrong again, Steve. Mike Holm was on the hometown date. Jef introduced him at the beginning to Emily. He also sat at the end of the table in the group shot. Get your facts straight.

  6. nicoco21184

    September 6, 2012 at 7:32 AM

    This girl from Portland- how can she possibly want to advance her modeling career when she is only 5’3″? Get famous- yes. Advance modeling career? What career?

  7. readformindlessentertainmentandnothingelse

    September 6, 2012 at 7:44 AM

    I would bet money on the fact that Nick and Chris had a little deal and ended up splitting the money…that’s my guess. Doesn’t matter if it’s right or not, just thought I’d throw it out there.

  8. Sunnyside422

    September 6, 2012 at 8:42 AM

    The second pic of Jordyn looks a lot like Ashley Hebert. Of course this 23 year old is looking for a husband!! Smile.

  9. kasey31

    September 6, 2012 at 8:55 AM

    yea, terrible advice! people do realize that steve isnt actually a dr., right? agree with karynr and athena, that was a very serious subject matter, and he tells her to stay out of it?! i get that she contacted him, but come on! how old is he? his response is disappointing to say the least… if anyone ever suspects any type of abuse, call! it’s much better to be safe than sorry..

    @c104- youre right.. after i read the tabloids, i went back and rewatched jefs portion of the hometown date.. mike was absolutely present!

  10. punka

    September 6, 2012 at 9:02 AM

    I do find it very ironic that a show like Bachelor Pad, which is mostly just a summer T&A hook-up show, has had more success at putting couples together that might actually get married or last than the Bachelor/Bachelorette has had. It is the elephant in the room with the show for sure.

    I think those couples are ignored simply because it puts a spotlight on the total lack of success with teh franchise actually helping build lasting reltaionships, since it has zero to do with that. It is about the ratings, and the illusion of love.

  11. krb31

    September 6, 2012 at 11:39 AM

    to the girl who’s dealing with the guy never saying “i love you”, i have a friend whose boyfriend waited 2.5 years to say it… AND NOW HE WON’T STOP! it’s cute… she’s like “hey can you pass the salt” and he says “ok. i love you”… and apparently his brother didn’t even ever say it to his girlfriend/fiance until the night before their wedding, and that was after about 3 years

  12. rsizthebest

    September 6, 2012 at 4:07 PM

    I’ll second that to the girl who’s dealing with the guy never saying “I love you” – sometimes a guy knows it after the girl does; no strike that, usually the guy knows it after the girl does. Just let the guy have a couple of years. But really most guys know secretly after about 6 months. So if you are waiting too much longer, that’s a bad sign. And after the love proclamation, after that and a couple of years, an ultimatum is usually behind a marriage proposal, because, yes, that’s how many marriage unions get created. When guys know they are about to lose you, the one that cares gets on his knees and if he doesn’t? Well, there’s the door.

  13. beara

    September 7, 2012 at 1:57 PM

    I’m thinking it is Paige & Chris B. You guys need to follow twitter to get a clue on what is going on! Chris went to Minnesota and visited with Paige’s family (and visited some fan who is in a wheelchair) and now Paige is going to Marlyand for Chris’ restaurant opening! Can I get a confirm RS?

  14. beara

    September 7, 2012 at 1:58 PM

    I referencing the superfan / regular couple as asked by one of the emails.

  15. chloesmoma

    September 7, 2012 at 6:05 PM

    In regards to the question asked about Jef’s hometown date and whether his brother was in attendance. Steve AND Mike were there, if you go to Youtube and watch the episode you will see him at the beginning and the end (he is the big guy with the hat) Jef introduces him and tells Em when they are sitting on the hay bale that Mike and Steve will be there. I saw them on GMA this morning and was sorta shocked that they have kissed and made up. I would not be speaking to my sibling if they betrayed me in that way…I don’t know what to think about these 2 anymore. I know they appear to be all lovey dovey in public but I am not sold….Just sayin

  16. doll

    September 7, 2012 at 7:11 PM

    karynr, I totally agree with you about Blakely. I like her too. I’ve been rooting for her all along. I also get the feeling that she would be a good, trustworthy friend. And just because she was a Hooter’s waitress doesn’t mean she can’t be a good wife and stepmother. I really hope she and Tony can make a go of it.

  17. lcs85

    September 7, 2012 at 9:18 PM

    @Punka I think Kalon explained it really well in his conference interview last week about why there are more successful relationships from BP then from the regular shows.

    “ABC sets out to form these couples and let people fall in love, but as crazy as it may seem, Bachelor Pad is actually a much, much healthier environment for that. I know that’s hard to believe considering what goes on there, but you actually get to spend time with that person that you are interested in every day, all day long. You’re not spending incremental time with them for 15 minutes here, 20 minutes there, and then going back to a house full of crazy people that are all competing for the same person… I think getting to spend time with someone, that’s really how you get to know them. So it was much, much easier for us to form and develop a healthy relationship in that environment, believe it or not.”

  18. stacyh20

    September 9, 2012 at 9:03 AM

    Steve didn’t seem quite as negative in this posting! let’s hope it keeps going that way!

  19. kasey31

    September 10, 2012 at 9:04 PM

    could jamie have possibly looked anymore disgusted and jealous of blakely and tony? she is just one of those friends, girls u know what i mean.. the one who can manipulate a converstation so the focus somehow always ends up on them, who has a hard time being happy for other people, and who can turn the happiest moments in your life into a self pitty party for her..

    if anyone recorded tonight’s episode, go back and pause it on jamie’s face right before tony actually proposes and you’ll see exactly what im talking about.. haha…

  20. iheartvino

    September 10, 2012 at 9:28 PM

    Kasey, I just went back and watched that scene again and you’re right!! Also, couldn’t someone have told Jamie that it’s not Halloween yet?!

  21. kasey31

    September 10, 2012 at 9:35 PM

    @iheart- i heart you! xoxo

  22. DawsMA

    September 10, 2012 at 10:40 PM

    Right on about Jamie, I noticed her look of disgust in that moment too. Sour grapes! She really does seem socially awkward, as Jaclyn pointed out.

    As for her abundance of accessories, I think it was Zsa Zsa Gabor who once said something like, once we have on all our accessories and are ready to head out, remove one item and you’ll be good to go. In Jamie’s case she could stand to remove about five. I loved all the Twitter comments about bedazzling and false eyelashes. The best was someone referring to her headpiece as a rhinestone thong!

    So more importantly, who is this couple RS is referring to anyway? Chris and Paige? Chris and Rachel? Chris and someone? Someone and someone? So confused!

  23. kasey31

    September 11, 2012 at 8:13 AM

    @dawsma- i think it’s chris and paige opening up a restaurant with a few other people?

  24. randais

    September 11, 2012 at 8:21 AM

    It never ceases to amaze me that, not only do people ACTUALLY WRITE these ‘letters” to RS in hopes of getting good/quality info, but EVEN MORE that people read them. I personally can’t stomach them. The idea that RS has the experience/knowledge/education to qualify him to answer these pitiful people intelligently, is absurd.

    Moving on, I have to give credit where credit is due. While I stopped watching Trashelor Pad WEEKS ago, I did catch it online this morning just to see if RS got it right…he did. Kudos RS. The show is trash, it depicts human beings in the worst light possible, it highlights their greed/lack of common sense and morals/duplicity/hypocrisy, not to mention their HORRIBLE taste in fashion. What’s interesting about that? BUT you got it RS, so hats off to you.

  25. strick432

    September 11, 2012 at 8:28 AM

    I know what happens on the show but I missed it and didn’t get to DVR it. Can you go to the ABC website and watch the entire episode?

  26. kasey31

    September 11, 2012 at 9:11 AM

    @strucj432- yes u can watch it online..

  27. kasey31

    September 11, 2012 at 9:11 AM

    @strick432 sorry! haha..

  28. truebachelorfan4ever

    September 11, 2012 at 10:04 AM

    Not 100% on this because I don’t care for Roberto and wouldn’t watch a bachelor w/ him as the lead therefore have not really been that interested on what has been written about him being the lead thus far, but from what I do recall, Steve had said a few months ago that Roberto would 100% be the next bachelor and now it seems as if he is slowly backing away from that stance?

    As for the BP, anyone else think what….omg I am blanking on his name…Kevin? Nope Nick, I think, did is hillarious? His comments on why he did it were totally spot on, Rachel did treat him like garbage and show him zero respect and I have no problem with what he did, poor Rachel I do feel for her that she would have been upset when Michael left, but she did show her true colors when she treated Nick with little to no respect because he was not one of the “cool” kids, when really all she needed to do was to focus on the game for a week or 2 more and see where things were at with Michael when it was over. Thoughts?

  29. ashella

    September 11, 2012 at 1:08 PM

    @truebachelorfan4ever Shortly after Roberto signed on for the next Bachelor, there were stories that he was demanding more money… at the same time, Sean started to pull on the audience’s heart strings. So now Steve thinks it’s up in the air that they could have ditched Roberto because of his requests for more money and gone with Sean since everyone seems to love him. But yea, it does sound like RS is trying to keep it open where depending on who they pick he could say “I told you it was Roberto months ago” or “I told you that they were ditching Roberto because he wanted too much money” just like he always gets irritated at the tabloids for doing.

  30. truebachelorfan4ever

    September 11, 2012 at 1:19 PM

    The more I think about it I think it will be Nick after what he pulled gettting the full 250K last night, because I just think that Sean would be way to boring a lead, and that 25 of the type of good girls that he would be interested in (ala Tenley) would not bring much drama either,

  31. msangie

    September 11, 2012 at 6:22 PM

    @punka — bachelor/bachelorette’s goal isn’t to produce a lasting couple. it’s actually surprising that they’ve had any success. On bp, potential couples get to hang out together for the duration of the show. Contrast that with how much time the lead spends with his/her final choice during the bachelor/bachelorette.

  32. russg

    September 12, 2012 at 6:09 AM

    Nick is my hero, thanks to him for making us little guys that are not part of the clique feel good. Been there and done that when u are with a woman that wants to talk about someone else all night and you are a captive audience until the date ends. I didn’t win $250K but I did get drop her off at the end of her driveway and never have to look at her butter face. again.

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