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“Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” & Another Contestant Confirmed for the “Bachelor”

Hey Steve,

A three part question

1) Do you know when an how often, do the staff of the bachelor/ette/pad franchise take breaks from shooting and working ? I read they work 16 hour days. And it seems not a lot of time to spend with their families. Seems like a very strenuous schedule.

2) What does Chris Harrison do the rest of the time, when he is not on camera ?

3) Does Chris Harrison have any opinions on your site ?

Comment: 1) The “Bachelor” films from September thru November. The “Bachelorette” films from March to May. “Bachelor Pad” takes 2 ½-3 weeks to film in June. So yes, there’s pre and post production involved with every show and scouting locations, but in terms of actual time spent shooting the shows? In 52 weeks out of the year, they’re only shooting for about 20 weeks. Ask most people who work in television production and they’ll tell you the hours are ridiculous. It’s certainly not just this show. That’s the entertainment business for you.

2) Sits in the control room, watches footages, talks to producers, etc. When they’re on location, judging by his tweets, he’ll golf, eat comped meals, and hang out with family. Well, when he was married he did. I’m guessing now he probably trolls for skirt on location.

3) I’m sure he does, but I doubt he’ll ever share those opinions publicly. But he’s well aware of what my site is about, as are all of them. Sh**, they watch it like a hawk now ever since the lawsuit. Those people are aware of every single word I write. Hey, at least they’re paying attention. When they’re not paying attention, that’s when I should worry. I matter to them, as much as they don’t want to admit it publicly, and I’m proud of that considering what this blog was 9 years ago.

Hey Steve!

Enjoy your blog and all things Bachelor even though most of the show is pretty ridiculous. I guess its an escape of reality for 2 hours on a Monday night that I enjoy. I have been watching the show since the 2nd season.

Anyways, not sure if you can answer this but wondering why Jaclyn was crying (the ugliest cry I have seen) when Blakely left and then following that up with a post on Twitter on how upset she was when she left? Did I miss something here? In the first episode all she did was talk about how much she hated her and that Blakely thinks they are friends but she can’t stand her. Yet she had an alliance with her which I am sure was just going along with the group and never said much about her after that and they seemed friends. I realize it could be a case of acting or playing up a role or whatever but wanted to be sure I didn’t miss something that they made amends somewhere cuz it didn’t really make sense.

Comment: I think I remember reading Jaclyn in a conference call saying that yes, she did acknowledge at the beginning of the season she didn’t like Blakeley, but over the course of filming, she got to know her on a level that she never knew before. So I guess that’s why she was sad to see her go.

What? You mention Sarah’s bruise on her leg during her makeout session with Chris, but not the massive herpes outbreak on her lip? Looks to me like she spent some time with Spinal Tap (a reference ¾ of your audience won’t get).

Also, probably not much chance, but any chance Rachel’s boobs get to be the next Bachelorette? With all of the drama that they suffered during BP, America really fell in love with her boobs, and I think they would make an excellent Bachelorette.

Comment: This made me laugh. And I will stand by what I said a couple weeks ago. I still think Rachel is the best looking girl they had this season.


Few questions for you:

-I couldn’t find the episode, but who from Jef’s family was on his hometown date? I was curious if his brother Mike (the one speaking to tabloids) was on the date or not. If he wasn’t there, maybe that substantiates Jef’s claim that he’s on the outskirts of the family. Or were there more people in his family, besides parents, who weren’t there?

– When you say that a couple will never get married, is that just based on your opinion from the show or from “inside information” that you get? I’m just curious since it seems like you’re generally correct but people who just watch the show are wrong. Also, any scoop on JP and Ashley’s wedding? It seems at this point it’s turning a little Ali and Roberto, in that they keep pushing it off which makes me wonder if things are on the rocks.

-In a previous column you mentioned that a Bachelor alum and Bachelor fan from BP3 are still seeing each other after the show, is that Reid and Paige? Or is there another pairing that we didn’t get to see.

Comment: 1) Mike was not on the hometown date.

2) Yeah, I’d say I am generally correct. And yes, it’s because I know things that other people don’t know. But can I talk about all of it? Of course not. I’ll just continue to say that Jef and Emily will never get married and leave it at that. I don’t care if people disagree with me or not.

Last I heard, JP and Ashley’s wedding was possibly going to happen before the end of this year, but don’t know how solid that information was.

3) No, Reid is not seeing Paige.

I thought the spelling bee episode was by far the worst and last night proved I was wrong. Karaoke to “Sister Christian” is the single most painful thing I have watched in Bachelor Pad history. Night Ranger is pathetic and hearing the song again and again was a horror. I don’t blame any of the contestants for butchering the song. It’s a lame song. Night Ranger isn’t even a cool 80s band that people care to hear covers of – they were a one hit wonder at best. I hope they enjoy the royalty check. My ears continue to bleed.

The only thing keeping me hanging on til the finale is your spoilers. They give me hope that we will finally see something fresh – Nick taking it all. I am actually very impressed with him. He has stayed off the radar this entire time and then talked Rachel down from the ledge more than once. He basically got her to vote against her best friend and alliance, and rightly so. This is a game. He rocks! It is the only thing I am looking forward to because I will be holding back vomit watching Tony propose to Blakely. Someone call Child Protective Services! On second thought, they won’t even make it to the altar but I guarantee you one or both of them will be back for BP4.

Comment: I think I’m going to enjoy Monday’s finale. Not necessarily because I’m gonna laugh at Rachel or anything for what happens, but just that we are gonna see something that we haven’t seen yet. And seeing Rachel pretty upset about it will be different than what we got the first two seasons.

Um. I don’t get it. Why do not many people seem mad at Nick for what he did with the money? Look, I obviously get it’s a “reality show” and it’s stupid. But this is REAL money. And I completely agree, whether you like her or not, that Rachel deserved the money just as much, if not more, than Nick. The end. There is no way he would have actually won if he wasn’t partnered with Rachel.

To be honest, I think it’s really gross what he did. Rachel went along with him and kept Chris and Sarah so they would win. And then he, knowing that Rachel is a nice person and would choose “share”, decided to exploit her niceness (word?) and keep all of the money.

Anyways, do you think he really did keep the money? Or is this a producer stunt for ratings and he and Rachel are actually sharing the money on the down-low (yes, down-low)?

Comment: As far as I know he did. Sure there could be backhanded deals going on that the public doesn’t know about, but I haven’t heard anything of the such.

Now last season? The worst kept secret amongst this show was that Holly & Michael and Michelle & Graham agreed even before the finale that they’d split the money, so in essence, it didn’t matter who won. It was split four ways.

Hey Steve,

Love your site! I look forward to Tuesdays and Thursdays.

Now onto the pie. I decided this year I would make a peach pie for my county fair. It took hours and I didn’t even get a participation ribbon! Not easy. On a good note, I discovered that pie crust is way better when made with vodka.

Comment: Peach and apple pie are my favorites. And if you can make French applie pie, even better. Send me some.

Hi Steve!

For one, I gotta say I am loving how Nick was pretty much invisible most of the season, and he is rockin’ it to the end. Good job!

About Nick: on Ashley Spivey’s recap, she has a picture of Nick flexing his muscles, and his arm tattoo is blurred out. Why? It wasn’t blurred out on the show.

(Do you know what his tattoo says? I couldn’t read it on my small TV.)

Oh yes, and I have one more question for you: Why can RumorFix use information from previous Bachelor Nation contestants, and you can’t? What’s the diff?

Is it simply because Fleissy Baby hates you?

Comment: I already deleted Monday’s episode, but it looked like a whole paragraph on his arm. I don’t know what it says.

That’s a good question that I don’t know the answer to. Well, I do know the answer, but it’s long and drawn out and something I don’t want to get into.


Sorry if this has been covered in the past but I’m wondering if The Bachelor/ette is usually a surprise to the contestants? Everyone seemed to know it was going to be Emily, but in other seasons, such as Ashley’s, the men seemed to have no idea who would be standing there when they exited the limos.

Comment: Emily was the exception. They publicly announced her as the “Bachelorette” in January and her season didn’t start filming til March. Everyone else they usually don’t announce publicly until much closer to air time.

But to say that the people getting out of the limo’s have NO idea who the lead will be all depends on how much you think these contestants don’t read blogs or the internet. I think they all have an idea of who it is, if not knowing exactly who it is once they arrive in LA and get sequestered before filming begins.

Hi Steve,

I noticed that your last name is Carbone. Are you in any way related to Gina Carbone who writes for WetPaint?

Just wondering. I’ve noticed that you and WetPaint seem to have a pretty cordial relationship, and I thought the similarity was interesting.

Have a great day!

Comment: No. We’re not related.

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  1. Athena

    September 6, 2012 at 5:46 AM

    The first RS letter, the one from the domestic violence expert, was spot-on. And even though Steve acknowledges she (?) knows a lot more about the subject than he does, he then makes a final comment about the neighbor simply minding her own business – exactly the OPPOSITE of what the expert was recommending. Steve Steve Steve – you missed the boat here. Reread the letter from the expert. Please. And, same for anyone else here who suspects a friend, acquaintance, neighbor, etc. might be in an abusive relationship.

  2. karynr

    September 6, 2012 at 6:12 AM

    Athena, you are absolutely right. That was terrible advice, Steve! Do not stay out of it. Pick up the phone and call the authorities immediately. You could be saving a life. Too many people, especially children, have ended up dead because of people minding their own business.

    I don’t mind the corny letters, the ones written by Steve, etc., but I do mind the poor advice given on serious issues such as this one. Steve would be smart to avoid letters about serious subjects. He has no right giving advice.

  3. karynr

    September 6, 2012 at 6:19 AM

    I don’t get all the hate towards Blakely. Out of all the women in the house this season, she handled herself much better than most. She seems like the type of person who might be a aggressive, but would be a loyal, loving friend. Sure, the Fleissdb gave her a terrible edit on the Bach, but I really don’t get all the negativity. Am I missing something, or is it just the typical bad edit and everyone jumping on the hate bandwagon? I like Blakely. And the comment from the writer about child protective services was so uncalled for in regards to Blakely. That was a terrible thing to say about someone you don’t know personally.

  4. laney2012

    September 6, 2012 at 6:26 AM

    I couldn’t read the first Dr. RS. I don’t do well with an infinite paragraph.

  5. c104

    September 6, 2012 at 7:24 AM

    Wrong again, Steve. Mike Holm was on the hometown date. Jef introduced him at the beginning to Emily. He also sat at the end of the table in the group shot. Get your facts straight.

  6. nicoco21184

    September 6, 2012 at 7:32 AM

    This girl from Portland- how can she possibly want to advance her modeling career when she is only 5’3″? Get famous- yes. Advance modeling career? What career?

  7. readformindlessentertainmentandnothingelse

    September 6, 2012 at 7:44 AM

    I would bet money on the fact that Nick and Chris had a little deal and ended up splitting the money…that’s my guess. Doesn’t matter if it’s right or not, just thought I’d throw it out there.

  8. Sunnyside422

    September 6, 2012 at 8:42 AM

    The second pic of Jordyn looks a lot like Ashley Hebert. Of course this 23 year old is looking for a husband!! Smile.

  9. kasey31

    September 6, 2012 at 8:55 AM

    yea, terrible advice! people do realize that steve isnt actually a dr., right? agree with karynr and athena, that was a very serious subject matter, and he tells her to stay out of it?! i get that she contacted him, but come on! how old is he? his response is disappointing to say the least… if anyone ever suspects any type of abuse, call! it’s much better to be safe than sorry..

    @c104- youre right.. after i read the tabloids, i went back and rewatched jefs portion of the hometown date.. mike was absolutely present!

  10. punka

    September 6, 2012 at 9:02 AM

    I do find it very ironic that a show like Bachelor Pad, which is mostly just a summer T&A hook-up show, has had more success at putting couples together that might actually get married or last than the Bachelor/Bachelorette has had. It is the elephant in the room with the show for sure.

    I think those couples are ignored simply because it puts a spotlight on the total lack of success with teh franchise actually helping build lasting reltaionships, since it has zero to do with that. It is about the ratings, and the illusion of love.

  11. krb31

    September 6, 2012 at 11:39 AM

    to the girl who’s dealing with the guy never saying “i love you”, i have a friend whose boyfriend waited 2.5 years to say it… AND NOW HE WON’T STOP! it’s cute… she’s like “hey can you pass the salt” and he says “ok. i love you”… and apparently his brother didn’t even ever say it to his girlfriend/fiance until the night before their wedding, and that was after about 3 years

  12. rsizthebest

    September 6, 2012 at 4:07 PM

    I’ll second that to the girl who’s dealing with the guy never saying “I love you” – sometimes a guy knows it after the girl does; no strike that, usually the guy knows it after the girl does. Just let the guy have a couple of years. But really most guys know secretly after about 6 months. So if you are waiting too much longer, that’s a bad sign. And after the love proclamation, after that and a couple of years, an ultimatum is usually behind a marriage proposal, because, yes, that’s how many marriage unions get created. When guys know they are about to lose you, the one that cares gets on his knees and if he doesn’t? Well, there’s the door.

  13. beara

    September 7, 2012 at 1:57 PM

    I’m thinking it is Paige & Chris B. You guys need to follow twitter to get a clue on what is going on! Chris went to Minnesota and visited with Paige’s family (and visited some fan who is in a wheelchair) and now Paige is going to Marlyand for Chris’ restaurant opening! Can I get a confirm RS?

  14. beara

    September 7, 2012 at 1:58 PM

    I referencing the superfan / regular couple as asked by one of the emails.

  15. chloesmoma

    September 7, 2012 at 6:05 PM

    In regards to the question asked about Jef’s hometown date and whether his brother was in attendance. Steve AND Mike were there, if you go to Youtube and watch the episode you will see him at the beginning and the end (he is the big guy with the hat) Jef introduces him and tells Em when they are sitting on the hay bale that Mike and Steve will be there. I saw them on GMA this morning and was sorta shocked that they have kissed and made up. I would not be speaking to my sibling if they betrayed me in that way…I don’t know what to think about these 2 anymore. I know they appear to be all lovey dovey in public but I am not sold….Just sayin

  16. doll

    September 7, 2012 at 7:11 PM

    karynr, I totally agree with you about Blakely. I like her too. I’ve been rooting for her all along. I also get the feeling that she would be a good, trustworthy friend. And just because she was a Hooter’s waitress doesn’t mean she can’t be a good wife and stepmother. I really hope she and Tony can make a go of it.

  17. lcs85

    September 7, 2012 at 9:18 PM

    @Punka I think Kalon explained it really well in his conference interview last week about why there are more successful relationships from BP then from the regular shows.

    “ABC sets out to form these couples and let people fall in love, but as crazy as it may seem, Bachelor Pad is actually a much, much healthier environment for that. I know that’s hard to believe considering what goes on there, but you actually get to spend time with that person that you are interested in every day, all day long. You’re not spending incremental time with them for 15 minutes here, 20 minutes there, and then going back to a house full of crazy people that are all competing for the same person… I think getting to spend time with someone, that’s really how you get to know them. So it was much, much easier for us to form and develop a healthy relationship in that environment, believe it or not.”

  18. stacyh20

    September 9, 2012 at 9:03 AM

    Steve didn’t seem quite as negative in this posting! let’s hope it keeps going that way!

  19. kasey31

    September 10, 2012 at 9:04 PM

    could jamie have possibly looked anymore disgusted and jealous of blakely and tony? she is just one of those friends, girls u know what i mean.. the one who can manipulate a converstation so the focus somehow always ends up on them, who has a hard time being happy for other people, and who can turn the happiest moments in your life into a self pitty party for her..

    if anyone recorded tonight’s episode, go back and pause it on jamie’s face right before tony actually proposes and you’ll see exactly what im talking about.. haha…

  20. iheartvino

    September 10, 2012 at 9:28 PM

    Kasey, I just went back and watched that scene again and you’re right!! Also, couldn’t someone have told Jamie that it’s not Halloween yet?!

  21. kasey31

    September 10, 2012 at 9:35 PM

    @iheart- i heart you! xoxo

  22. DawsMA

    September 10, 2012 at 10:40 PM

    Right on about Jamie, I noticed her look of disgust in that moment too. Sour grapes! She really does seem socially awkward, as Jaclyn pointed out.

    As for her abundance of accessories, I think it was Zsa Zsa Gabor who once said something like, once we have on all our accessories and are ready to head out, remove one item and you’ll be good to go. In Jamie’s case she could stand to remove about five. I loved all the Twitter comments about bedazzling and false eyelashes. The best was someone referring to her headpiece as a rhinestone thong!

    So more importantly, who is this couple RS is referring to anyway? Chris and Paige? Chris and Rachel? Chris and someone? Someone and someone? So confused!

  23. kasey31

    September 11, 2012 at 8:13 AM

    @dawsma- i think it’s chris and paige opening up a restaurant with a few other people?

  24. randais

    September 11, 2012 at 8:21 AM

    It never ceases to amaze me that, not only do people ACTUALLY WRITE these ‘letters” to RS in hopes of getting good/quality info, but EVEN MORE that people read them. I personally can’t stomach them. The idea that RS has the experience/knowledge/education to qualify him to answer these pitiful people intelligently, is absurd.

    Moving on, I have to give credit where credit is due. While I stopped watching Trashelor Pad WEEKS ago, I did catch it online this morning just to see if RS got it right…he did. Kudos RS. The show is trash, it depicts human beings in the worst light possible, it highlights their greed/lack of common sense and morals/duplicity/hypocrisy, not to mention their HORRIBLE taste in fashion. What’s interesting about that? BUT you got it RS, so hats off to you.

  25. strick432

    September 11, 2012 at 8:28 AM

    I know what happens on the show but I missed it and didn’t get to DVR it. Can you go to the ABC website and watch the entire episode?

  26. kasey31

    September 11, 2012 at 9:11 AM

    @strucj432- yes u can watch it online..

  27. kasey31

    September 11, 2012 at 9:11 AM

    @strick432 sorry! haha..

  28. truebachelorfan4ever

    September 11, 2012 at 10:04 AM

    Not 100% on this because I don’t care for Roberto and wouldn’t watch a bachelor w/ him as the lead therefore have not really been that interested on what has been written about him being the lead thus far, but from what I do recall, Steve had said a few months ago that Roberto would 100% be the next bachelor and now it seems as if he is slowly backing away from that stance?

    As for the BP, anyone else think what….omg I am blanking on his name…Kevin? Nope Nick, I think, did is hillarious? His comments on why he did it were totally spot on, Rachel did treat him like garbage and show him zero respect and I have no problem with what he did, poor Rachel I do feel for her that she would have been upset when Michael left, but she did show her true colors when she treated Nick with little to no respect because he was not one of the “cool” kids, when really all she needed to do was to focus on the game for a week or 2 more and see where things were at with Michael when it was over. Thoughts?

  29. ashella

    September 11, 2012 at 1:08 PM

    @truebachelorfan4ever Shortly after Roberto signed on for the next Bachelor, there were stories that he was demanding more money… at the same time, Sean started to pull on the audience’s heart strings. So now Steve thinks it’s up in the air that they could have ditched Roberto because of his requests for more money and gone with Sean since everyone seems to love him. But yea, it does sound like RS is trying to keep it open where depending on who they pick he could say “I told you it was Roberto months ago” or “I told you that they were ditching Roberto because he wanted too much money” just like he always gets irritated at the tabloids for doing.

  30. truebachelorfan4ever

    September 11, 2012 at 1:19 PM

    The more I think about it I think it will be Nick after what he pulled gettting the full 250K last night, because I just think that Sean would be way to boring a lead, and that 25 of the type of good girls that he would be interested in (ala Tenley) would not bring much drama either,

  31. msangie

    September 11, 2012 at 6:22 PM

    @punka — bachelor/bachelorette’s goal isn’t to produce a lasting couple. it’s actually surprising that they’ve had any success. On bp, potential couples get to hang out together for the duration of the show. Contrast that with how much time the lead spends with his/her final choice during the bachelor/bachelorette.

  32. russg

    September 12, 2012 at 6:09 AM

    Nick is my hero, thanks to him for making us little guys that are not part of the clique feel good. Been there and done that when u are with a woman that wants to talk about someone else all night and you are a captive audience until the date ends. I didn’t win $250K but I did get drop her off at the end of her driveway and never have to look at her butter face. again.

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