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“Reader Emails” Including an Update on the Vegan Donut Situation

An update on the donut situation. Within 2 hours of posting my column yesterday, I had at least 5 emails from people telling me that I should try vegan donuts, including two people who specifically asked me, “Is the vegan donut store you’re talking about Vegan Treats in Bethelem, PA? You HAVE to try them.” Yes, that is the store that contacted me, and since there’s been such an insistence that I try these apparently delicious donuts, I have emailed the owner back and asked for a box to be sent. They emailed me back this morning and the donuts are on their way. Oh gosh. Lets just keep this on the down low. I don’t need Miss Chocolate Bar, Miss Glazed Twist, Miss Chocolate Rainbow Sprinkle, and Mrs. Cinnamon Roll (yes, she’s married), to know I’m cheating on them. Wouldn’t be good. I’ll let you know what I think of the donuts after I taste them.

A quick moment of silence this morning for Conrad Bain (aka Mr. Drummond from “Diff’rent Strokes) who passed away at the age of 89 according to reports. You were the best Mr. D. Granted, I wasn’t too fond of how you took in that young little wife towards the end of your run and we had to deal with that insufferable step-son of yours, Sam, but the way you handled the Gooch, and Willis dating Janet Jackson in her early years was superb. Although nothing can ever top the scene of you wanting to rip the guy’s head off that kidnapped Sam. Oh, and I liked the way you handled the pedophile that was touching Dudley inappropriately. RIP Mr. D. You will be missed.

Ratings are in for Monday’s episode and they went from 6.8 million viewers in the premiere (up against the ALA/ND game), to 7.4 million Monday night, and went from a 2.3 to a 2.4 in Adults 18-49. That might not mean much to anyone who isn’t a TV nerd like myself, but, respectable numbers for the show and pretty much what they’ll average all season.

One of the larger “Reader Email” bags we’ve had in a while. Plenty to get to today so enjoy…

Hi Steve,

This is my first time emailing you, although I’ve wanted to for a while… especially since you wrote about Insanity. I’m doing Insanity too and I’m obsessed. I finished the 60 days, and started over again, so I’m just finishing week 1 of month 2, for the second time. I was wondering what you did after you finished?

Anyway, I just wanted to drop a note to show you some support and tell you I, along with the other females in my office, love reading your site! I think you are hilarious, entertaining and pretty much always right. Thank you for making the Bachelor more fun to watch.

I happen to come across Ali’s blog after the first episode of Sean’s season aired and I thought it was pretty lame that she predicted what girls would make it to the end (I don’t even remember who else she said besides Catherine). Like you said, the first episode showed NOTHING between Sean and Catherine (obviously), yet somehow Ali can tell there is something there and she will be there in the end? I’m guessing Ali, along with others, read your site, which is how she could ever say at this point that Catherine will be in the final 4. That’s annoying, but I bet you are used to it.

One more comment: love that you mention your dog sometimes. Always a good thing when someone promotes adoption.

Thanks for everything!

Comments: Funny you ask about Insanity. I have the next two videos: Asylum and Asylum 2 and have yet to start either. The reason was because I slacked off after I completed the 60 day Insanity, so now I’m about to start going into a 2 week Insanity program so I’m at least somewhat up to speed before I start Asylum. I’ve actually watched a couple videos on Asylum without actually having done the workouts because I wanted to see what I was in for. Please pray for me. If you thought Month 2 of Insanity was ridiculous, it doesn’t compare to Asylum or Asylum 2. Those are a joke.

It’s impossible to say who reads my site directly, but essentially ever contestant on this show is aware of who I am and what I do. Whether they read every word on Tuesdays, or skim through it, or their friends relay what I’m saying to them, most of them are aware of the spoilers I gave. Well, except Trista who claims she doesn’t read me and doesn’t want to know from anyone. Which is fine. To each their own. But as for the others, I’m guessing most, if not all, are aware of what I’ve reported this season, whether they heard it directly or indirectly.

We’re two months away from my 5 year anniversary of adopting Maddie. Wow. Five years. Cray-zee.

Love your column- at this point I just watch the show so I can read
you column the next day. I read in a magazine a couple of months ago
that JP and Ashley had a cash bar at their wedding. Not sure if that
is true, but if so, did they have to do this? Seems kind of odd that
ABC paid for their wedding but no one could pay for the bar. I
couldn’t remember if that was how it worked at Trista and Ryan’s

Comment: Yes, I heard there was like a 2 hour window during the reception where they went to cash bar. No idea why, but plenty of people weren’t thrilled, so they went back to open bar once people complained.

I wonder if ABC purposely left out any interaction between Catherine and Sean to make viewers think you are wrong. Funny how much influence you must have even in their editing room. They obviously left out a lot of Sean’s interaction with the girls since we didn’t see why he gave roses to the one who got them before the ceremony. He didn’t give them to every girl he talked to so he must’ve liked the ones he did.

Comment: I’m sure there’s a rhyme and reason as to why Catherine hasn’t been shown much in the first two episodes. Not too hard to figure out why.

Love you, love the show, but I have a question. While I have no reason to doubt that Sean and Catherine are “engaged,” these two could not be more different. Sean is a red-meat eating Christian conservative from Texas and Catherine is a vegan from Seattle, WA (and most likely a liberal). I’ve never heard of a “conservative/Republican” vegan from the west coast. Personally, I know that I could never date a vegan or a liberal. Am I the only one that thinks there is no way these two will stay together 3 months after the show ends?

Comment: Impossible to predict how long they’ll stay together. I honestly have no idea. Is that track record good? No. No “Bachelor” has ever married the final girl that he chose in the end, so although Sean seems to be the “most sincere Bachelor we’ve ever had,” that can only go so far. The bottom line is no one watching this show outside of their respective families has a clue about anything having to do with their relationship. How many times they’ve met up, what they did, where they were, what they talked about, etc. So speculating is pointless. I’m just going to stick with “they won’t get married” until someone in this “Bachelor” franchise proves me wrong and actually marries the girl he chose. They haven’t produced one yet. If Sean does, then props to him and I’ll be sure to get them a lovely gift.


I just read Arie’s tweet on his top three choices for Sean: Catherine, Desiree, and Selma. I was so indignant and had to express my outrage immediately. WTF?! What look in Catherine’s eyes??? He could have put her at least third. Jesus. So obvious he read your blog and found out she was the final one. If I had no information, I would’ve said Taryn should be on his list since Sean told her coming out of the limo that she looked beautiful and offered her a rose despite not having talked to her at the cocktail hour.
Also, I know Emily and Jef are done, but with is with the repeated Us Weekly “articles” that she’s not over him and he keeps trying to get back with her? Any inside info?
Thanks, and happy new year (and sorry about the renewed lawsuit),

Comment: So that’s now two former contestants who blogged or tweeted after the first episode that Catherine was a front runner, even though they basically showed nothing. They know what’s up.


Wondering if you saw the man’s shoe back up when the contestant fell down those couple of steps on Monday’s show. You could see she was going to go down and instead of trying to steady her like most people would you can see the person stepped back.

Thanks for all spoilers and making the show interesting to watch.

Comment: No, I missed that but not surprising. I’m surprised he didn’t stick his foot out and to trip her himself.

Hi RS,

Long-time reader. Your column gets better and better. Thanks for the laughs.

You may know this; you may not have the slightest clue. How many girls/guys audition to be a cast member each season?

Comment: No idea. Quite a few. They keep a database of everyone who’s ever applied and made final casting. Some people who were finalists on one season might get cast on a different season, so it’s kinda hard to say with every new season, how many new people apply. Only those directly involved with the casting process would know the numbers to that.

so generally speaking (not sean), do the leads sleep with all of the contestants? i think you’ve said not prior to the final 3 b/c of the cameras being there 24/7. i know all of america probably just assumes everyone does have sex in the fantasy suite every time, but do you have any idea? i just can’t fathom hooking up with three people three nights in a row knownig i can only pick one in the end. i mean wouldn’t you feel like such a dope for putting out and then getting sent home (nikki from ben’s season??)? do the leads have the human decency to only sleep with their favorite one and just spend time together off camera with the other two? am i just really naive?

sorry if this is a redundant question. i’ve only been following you for a little over a year. you are wildly entertaining though!! thank you for what you do.

Comment: Yes, plenty of leads have slept with more than one person during the overnights. It varies from season to season and person to person in regards to who made the final 3. There’ll never be any physical proof that ever gets out so it’s basically just word of mouth, and since we know a lot of these people talk once their season is over, it’s been made known who kinda slept with who. But going back over 24 previous seasons and dissecting each one to determine who slept with who and when? That might be a bit much. But yeah, plenty of sex has happened on the overnight dates.

Hi Steve I love the fact you are always looking for the truth and not so much a lie. I do have a question for you. What do you think about letting an older gentlemen do The Bachelor? A retired service member from the Military doing the show for the Military? I got a response from Jesse on Reality smackdown and he is all for an older gentlemen! He feels that is what the show needs. I love to hear your view on it. Thanks for your time.

Comment: They’d never do it because they’d lose a ton of viewership. Unfortunately, this franchise is so used to casting mid 20’s to early 30’s coeds, and that’s what works for them. Outside of Byron’s season, they’ve never strayed from that. People like watching attractive people on television. That’s just a fact. Hence the reason that “More to Love” bombed in the ratings. And hence the reason that on most of your other favorite scripted shows, it’s usually somewhat attractive people in the lead roles. That’s just the way society works.

what do you think of lesley m? i think she is very cute, she reminds me a little of emily obrien.

Comment: Like her a lot. Probably my third favorite right now, although, she doesn’t remind me of Emily at all. Then again, you’re talking to the guy who’s had a crush on Emily for a year now, so, maybe that’s a bit unfair. Looks-wise, I don’t think they look anything alike though. Demeanor I haven’t really seen a resemblance yet, but maybe I’m missing something.

Have you caught the new edition of Joe Schmo? What did you think of Lorenzo Lamas?

Comment: Absolutely. Outside of Idol starting back up tonight, couldn’t have been more excited for the return of the “Joe Schmo” show. Hilarious concept, perfectly executed, and Chase was a perfect casting job considering how clueless he is to it all. That’s the reason why “Joe Schmo” had to wait so long in betweens seasons. With social media now, and so many reality shows out there, it’s kinda hard to find a person out there who is clueless to the concept. They did a great job with Chase because he’s completely oblivious to what’s going on. Lorenzo was hilarious in those first two episodes with his European pouch. I just wish he was eliminated at the first eviction ceremony.

Hey Steve,

One Bachelor-related comment, and one non-Bachelor related question.

1. A friend of a friend was on a reality show several years back called Beauty and the Geek. She’s a very pretty (definitely in the “prettiest girl in the room” category), petite, fit, and super sweet white girl; you take one look at her and you see why they cast her. We live in Chicago, and there are apparently a ton of reality tv people here. A few weeks ago, my friend went with her to some reality tv alumni meet up at a bar here in the city. Homegirl is crushing on some bro who was on the Bachelor a few seasons back who would be there and she wanted to see him.

The story my friend told about what went down next basically sums up what you say about these people’s character: it’s questionable at best, non existent at worst. Some of the women were nice; most were not. One of the (lesser attractive) women there – also a Bachelor alum – very condescendingly asked my friend “well what reality show were *you* on?” Seriously. Because getting wasted on Bachelor Pad is akin to feeding orphaned Somali children or, God, even creating the world’s greatest vibrator. When my friend said she wasn’t, the bottom of the barrel reject rolled her eyes and straight up ignored my friend. And the guy they went to see basically treated the girl like dong – ignoring her, giving other girls attention, being an overall tool, etc.

Not only are these people proud to be on this (wildly entertaining) sh*t show, they treat it deserves the highest respect. Pathetic. I would give you names (because…like I care) but none were given. So, there’s that.

2. ND-Bama was miserable. AJ Mccarron looked like Payton Manning against ND’s “top defense.” What a joke. Just curious – what are your feelings on the 4-game playoff? Personally, I feel it’s a baby step in the right direction but still will be overall ineffective in curbing controversies. Someone’s getting snubbed unless its a legit nfl-style postseason tournament. I get that they’re sponsors, tv deals and money involved, but still. How do you feel about this?

Comment: 1. Preachin’ the choir. There are probably 100 more stories where that came from. This show changes A LOT of people. Sad.

2. 4 game playoff is better than the BCS, that’s for sure. Step in the right direction definitely, but will it solve all the problems? Of course not. I don’t think anything will other than a 32 team playoff, and that’ll never happen. If you do 4 teams, the team finishing 5th will bitch. 8 teams, and the team finishing 9th will bitch. And so on and so forth. Even 16 teams wouldn’t be enough, because it’s not far fetched to say that the 17th ranked team in the nation couldn’t win a couple games and advance. Especially if maybe they had an injury at the beginning of the season, but won 8, 9, maybe 10 in a row to end the season. You just never know. It’ll never be a perfect system, but I’ll take a 4 team playoff over what the BCS has given us all these years. It’s mind blowing some of the national championship matchups we’ve missed out on since it’s inception because of what the BCS computers spit out.

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  1. ironside

    January 16, 2013 at 9:56 AM

    I remember being a “deer in the headlights” procrastinator when it came to asking a girl out on a first date. Once, when I really really really liked this girl I got the nerve to ask her out by having a couple strong drinks and going up to her and talking to her. She admitted to me later that she didn’t know what to make of that but that she felt that I was cute, nice and funny, so she gave me a chance. I ended up marrying that girl. I can relate to what happened to Lindsay. She was there to meet Sean. Maybe she was nervous, maybe she was bored, but I liked her the minute she stepped out of the limo. And she is HOT!!!

  2. DawsMA

    January 16, 2013 at 10:44 AM

    Cool story, ironside! I think Lindsay was probably pressured by producers to wear the wedding dress, felt silly, drank a bit too much, and wasn’t herself. It happens. 🙂

    As for the vegan donuts, I can predict that RS will characteristically say they were decent but he prefers regular donuts. I can’t see him raving or raving one way or another about them. Doesn’t seem like a guy who can ever admit he was wrong!

  3. JovisMom

    January 16, 2013 at 10:47 AM

    LOL Ironside that’s funny!!!! Nothing like a little liquid courage!

  4. chloeparise

    January 16, 2013 at 1:14 PM

    Just to set the records straight, the twitter which was mentioned above is not Catherine´s twitter (@catherinegiudic) IS FAKE!!!… @clmgiudici is her real twitter account….you know, if you wanna check it out…;)

  5. gunmetablack

    January 16, 2013 at 1:31 PM

    I don’t find the Catherine and Sean relationship to be sincere or true love at all. I only think its preselected to get more $$ for the show, because they can reach out to a more broader audience (The East Asian American and African American audience) . AKA a bigger audience and more advertisements and sponsorships to keep a show that fails at it goals running. The show was already experiencing controversy last season for not having a black Bachelor, so they just wanted to deceptively answer that issue. Although I would not count an East Asian american as counting to address this issue because they are model minorities.

  6. chloeparise

    January 16, 2013 at 2:46 PM

    You already shared this widely educated opinion of yours in Steve´s last post, I refrained from commenting on it and will continue to do so….
    Yet let it be said how utterly ridiculous I think it is to say, that their relationship is not genuine or real after having only seen about 30 seconds of footage of them interacting, up to this point.
    And since they make extra sure to show as little as possible of her, I find it hard to believe that there are all too many people, of any kind of race for the matter, who watch the show solely because of her..(at least not yet)

  7. bachelorfan1

    January 16, 2013 at 7:00 PM

    In regard to the email about leslie m lookn like leslie m, I disagree also but she does totally remind me of chantel o from brad’s season(who was a much better match for him than emily). They have very similar facial features especially the cheecks n smile n kinda same demeanor when speaking.

  8. bachelorfan1

    January 16, 2013 at 7:31 PM

    Also to the person who emaild the question about seans ex-girfriend. They have a slide-show of her in her cowboys cheerleading outfit on wetpaint. She didn’t look to have that dark of skin tone to me but she’s very pretty.

  9. dutchgirl

    January 16, 2013 at 11:24 PM

    Being from Holland, I can attest to the fact that Dutch guys are the best kissers. Even though Arie’s advice was light-hearted, sYAWN should have paid attention to his kissing advice. Also, the comment “Steve, I only watch the show because of your blog” is about as old as Chris Harrison saying “this is the most dramatic rose ceremony yet”.

  10. randais

    January 17, 2013 at 5:49 AM

    @dutch – ditto! I actually don’t “watch” this show much anymore. Sometimes I have it on in the background while I’m doing something else, sometimes I don’t but making a point to catch this show for any reason doesn’t interest me much anymore and I certainly wouldn’t just because of this blog. I’m here solely due to the company :D.

    So did everyone think the “fued” between Mariah and Nikki was a bit overblown? Well at least so far, they don’t seem to be all that confrontational with each other but there were a couple of moments and perhaps they are just getting warmed up. How about that one girl, from NJ I believe, in fact a farm in NJ, who pulled out a country song then hit them with one of Nikki’s rap songs? Do I have my facts straight? Anyway, what a surprise! And the guy that has tried out 7 times? You’d think he’d get a hint. Anyway done with NYC and off to Chicago tonight, looking forward to new “talent” OR “whacko’s” as the case may be :D.

  11. randais

    January 17, 2013 at 6:33 AM

    Speaking of San Diego, same city where this episode starts out with Rayna’s and Juliette’s tour performing. The whole episode just seems to emphasize how Rayna is missing having Deacon playing in the band. Even her manager is getting it….”is anyone I find you going to be good enough?”… She even tries to turn Liam into Deacon. But you gotta give Liam credit, he is quite possibly the sharpest knife in this drawer and he calls it like he sees it. Rayna seems to make her choice (about her marriage) by heading home to celebrate with hubby on his win.

    There’s clearly no love lost between Deacon and the new band, well at least between him and Cy/Sy? anyway. I like a new story line, Gunner’s “family obligation” (his convict brother), who in the end, apparently hasn’t changed his colors since his stint in the “big house”. Big shocker, his brother sings too!

    Seems like at first we’re seeing a different Scarlett, all “take charge” with Gunner, she even brought her bag to work! But then we see the “victim” again, does this girl have “take advantage of me” written all over her that only skeezy predator types can see? I have zero respect for this character and even if she begins to show a glimmer of hope that she does have a brain, she immediately falls back into her “easy mark” persona. It’s pitiful.

    Did Juliette get her hair cut? Different look for her. Of course Sean wants an annulment, here’s what I’m not sure of, I thought you could only get an annulment if the marriage had NOT been “consumated”. Yes, no? Anyone?

    Stupid Avery, is starting to grow a brain, seemingly. His new cougar, Marilyn, is thinking with “his” small head too :\ . Smartest thing he ever did was take charge with Dominick and sign the contract.

  12. karynr

    January 17, 2013 at 6:55 AM

    dutchgirl, he sure didn’t take Arie’s kissing advice. Syawn (love it) does not seem to know how to kiss well.

  13. randais

    January 17, 2013 at 7:03 AM

    Correction – consummated

  14. elizabeth82

    January 17, 2013 at 11:18 AM

    Lol @ dutchgirl re. “I only watch this show because of your blog, Steve.” We get it. Haha.

  15. jillbeau

    January 17, 2013 at 11:27 AM

    No offense to any posters here or the person who asked the question…but the talk on here about not dating someone because they are a vegetarian or vegan just seems strange to me. I could see it the other way around…meaning if someone is a vegetarian for moral reasons, they might not want to date someone who eats meat. As someone who does eat meat, I could not see that being an issue for me, ever. I have friends who are in vegetarian/non-vegetarian relationships which are working out just fine. Maybe it’s us crazy northerners…who knows? 🙂

  16. karynr

    January 18, 2013 at 3:13 AM

    Randais, I’m not sure if the contentious behavior between Mariah and Nicki is manufactured drama or not. The word behind the scenes is they can’t stand each other. But of course this can be played up considerably, to add some drama to the judging panel. So far, Mariah seemns like the nice softie, Keith is honest with the contestants in a kind way, Nicki gives honest feedback in a respectful way and Randy is just Randy. IMO he should have been off the show a few seasons ago. I don’t think he add’s much anymore, and hasn’t for a while. I guess the Mariah/Nickie situation will be interesting to watch. At least Nicki was a little easier to take the past two nights. She didn’t get on my nerves as much.

  17. randais

    January 18, 2013 at 5:54 AM

    @karyn – I agree with your assessments, so far. Except, I’m still annoyed with Nikki’s voice…it’s so nasally. I like Keith’s contributions and I’m finding Mariah’s comments more substantial than expected….

  18. kasey31

    January 18, 2013 at 3:44 PM

    i’ve been reading the debate on relationships between meat eaters and vegans/vegetarians, and i honestly think it depends on the couple and how strongly they feel about the issue. if catherine is a hard-core vegan and cannot stand to be around people that eat meat, then yes, i can see a problem. but from my experiences, most vegetarians dont mind if someone else around them is eating meat.. so, i really dont see an issue if they dont have an issue with it.. seems like a silly debate..

    @gunmetalblack- u, sir, are strange.

    **american idol**
    i was only able to watch parts of it, but i was pleasantly surprised by nickis feedback.. i think it will be an interesting season, but the first few weeks are always the best!

  19. karynr

    January 21, 2013 at 8:58 AM

    I watched last Thurs. night’s show last night and am really impressed with the new judging panel. Everyone seems to add something valid, and no one is being too nice or too harsh. So far, so good! The Mariah/Nicki back-and-forth is funny, but is it real? Mariah carries herself very well and trieds hard to ignore Nickie’s jabs. But are Nickie’s jabs part of the entertainment, or is she just a quirky brat? Her critiques are certainly good.

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