Okay, so I have this friend. We’re only friends, but recently I’ve had a feeling that he might be starting to see us as a little more. The whole month on December and now in January, he has been texting me practically everyday for no reason but just to talk. He also sends me pictures on Snapchat just as frequently and out of nowhere. Every time I see I’ve gotten a message from him, I get this urgggg feeling because I feel so bad because I don’t want to hurt him.
I mean, he really is a great guy. Plus he goes to the same church as me and has the same values and beliefs and everything which is the absolute most important thing to me. I mean, he’s not that bad looking and I really do like him as a person and a friend, but not at all to that extent. He’s a great guy, but not my great guy. I just don’t feel anything like that for him.
Of course I always answer his messages because I don’t mind talking to him and I don’t want to ignore him since I have to see him six out of seven days of the week in person so it would make it kind of awkward.
How do I know if I’m leading him on? And maybe he doesn’t even like me like that and I’m just reading all of this the wrong way. He even texts me goodnight and uses smiley faces, but I just… Urgggg, I don’t know… And I’m not the kind of person to just come out and ask him how he feels so I can’t do that to find out. Even when we’re texting and run out of things to talk about, he still keeps trying to think up other topics and everything to try and keep the conversation going. This is obvious to me because I’ve been in that situation before.
But anyway, I just really don’t want to break any hearts.. I’ve never done it before and I don’t want to start now. :/
Please help!! Thank you so much for listening Steve! Means a lot.
Comment: You probably just need to come out and ask him why he sends you stuff now every day when he never used to. And the fact that he uses emoticons before bed is a reason in and of itself to change your number tomorrow and never speak to him again. But hey, that’s just me.
As much as you don’t want to break any hearts, unless you want this situation to go away, you’re pretty much gonna have to. Or else deal with a guy sending emoticons until the end of time. Good luck with that.
Dear Doctor Reality Steve,
First off i would just like to say that I love what you have to say about reality T.V. especially what you have to say about the Bachelor Shows! You are super funny and you tell things like they are. Recently I have been wondering about some girls in my life though. I have these three great girls in my life (and for their sake i will use fake names) Blakley Tay and Riley! So me and Blakley had a thing 2 years ago but it was very short lived. She was the one breaking up with me. We are grew apart for a while but recently we have gone on a date, some flirting went on but nothing to huge. I see her almost every day since we go to school together but she sends a lot of mixed signals, some times it seems as though she tries to avoid me. Then next is Tay! Her and I have been friends for a while. She is however in and awkward relationship with a friend of mine. My friend switches back and forth between Tay and this other girl, however Tay still likes him. Me and her flirt a fair amount. Last is Riley! She to is a great friend of mine and me and her talk quite a bit. We don’t hang out as much as Tay and Blaykley. She talks about this boy she has a crush on a lot, but sometimes she will send me mixed signals almost as if she would go for me. I have feelings for all of these girls and I would love to become more than friends with one if possible. What do you think? I’m good with going for any of these girls, but I’m also fine with just staying friends if that seems best! Also do you have any tips for how to take it to the next level with any of these girls? I would love to hear what you have to say!
Comment: This is straight outta high school. Gotta be. Hey! Bang all of them! Tay! Blakley! Riley! You totally should. All your bros at lunch time will think you’re the coolest.
How to take it to the next level with these girls? It doesn’t even sound like you’ve gotten out of the dugout with any of them. You have to swing the bat first before you can at least start running to first base. Go out on a date, take them to dinner, then make out in the car afterwards. Start there and see where it leads.
Dr. Reality Steve,
My boyfriend made fun of me on his blog. He interviewed me about the fiscal cliff and taped me on his phone I was kind of not taking it seriously and joking a little bit because I thought we were just joking around and I didnt know he was going to put the interview on his blog. I was really surprised that it was there and when I looked at the blog entry it was totally making me look dumb. He knows that I’m not interested in politics and that I wasn’t really taking it seriously and he didn’t tell it was going on his site. The point he was making is that young people don’t care. And I’m not really sure how to take it because part of me actually did think it was funny and I actually laughed at the video but then it stung a little too, because in the comments section people were saying that I’m dumb as a box of rocks and I don’t know who these people are, I don’t know if they know my boyfriend and the fact that he used it and made me look dumb to prove a point kind of hurts. I also feel totally weird about the fact that he didn’t ask me if he could put a video of me on the internet. What should I do? I know I need to address it but I don’t know how, because he’s the type of person who will just say “it’s just a joke, don’t you think it’s funny?” and I like his sense of humor and we go well together because we can accommodate each others personality flaws, it’s part of being in a relationship, but there is a threshold for everything and I really feel that he crossed the line. I want to know in your honest opinion if you think he’s a jerk and I should break up with him and if not then how should I address it?
Comment: Basically you got pranked and you don’t know how you feel. Considering I don’t know what blog this is, or what his readership is, for all I know, very few people saw this and you shouldn’t be concerned. If you’re gonna break up with him over this, then there are other reasons I’m unaware of in your relationship since I wouldn’t consider this a break up “offense” in the least bit.
What are you most mad at? That he posted it without you knowing? The way you looked in the video? What exactly did he write to set up the video? I guess maybe after he taped you he could’ve said, “Look, I recorded that to prove a point about the fiscal cliff that people young people don’t care. Is it cool to post it?” If he would’ve done that, would you have said yes? If so, then I guess he should’ve asked first. But I don’t think this is an issue to break up over. Are people laughing at you because of it? Can they contact you now because of what he did? If people are commenting or whatever, just don’t read it. Tell him you would’ve liked if he asked you first and that you’re bothered. If he responds with, “Well, I knew if I would’ve asked you, you would’ve said no,” then that was a sh*tty thing to do.