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Soo….I rooted for Kacie B on Ben’s season, but this season found her ridiculous, annoying, and totally stupid. I’m glad you had already spoiled her exit so I didn’t have to worry about feeling uncomfortable for weeks to come. Anyhoo…my question is this: Do you think Sarah’s dog wondered why that driveway was wet?

Comment: According to Sean’s blog on, Leo relieved himself in the limo on the ride to the mansion, so, I guess once he got to the driveway, he couldn’t add to its wetness. Would’ve been nice.

Hi RS,

I think it’s time we have a Sean Lowe meme. There’s been Tebow’ing,
Michaela is not impressed, and of course, T’eo’ing . . . but I now
submit to you the “Sean Lowe loves that” meme, with a big close-up of
his goofy grin. How many times did you hear him say that in this
week’s episode? And the episode before that, and before that, and . .
. It’s always the same formula. Girl says “x” about herself, and
Sean replies, with his big grin, “I love that.” I’m waiting for a
girl to say something like “I hate puppies and small children” and for
Sean to reply automatically “I love that.” The possibilities are
endless here.

Comment: I hadn’t even noticed that until I read this email. Now I’ll look for it every episode. That’s a given.

I have a question: Has the word “meme” been used for a while, or is this some new, hip word that a lot more social media sites are using? I swear I can’t really ever remember seeing that word used, and now it seems like I’m seeing it all the time. Or maybe I haven’t been looking in the right places.


Just wanted to say that I read the column each week just for the hilarity that is this show. I wish you the best of luck in your battles with the network and production company. Keep doing what you’re doing!

Regarding your column this week- I am by no means an EMT either but I am a manager at a waterpark and well people end up getting hurt. Anyways what I wanted to say is that, yes even if an EMT has you all backboarded and collared up, you can refuse treatment and they let you go. I’ve seen an employee with a long history of random seizures and concussions, totally knock themselves out for a few seconds, get on the backboard and all the way into the ambulance, only to reject going to the hospital just as the doors are closing on the ambulance. What they didn’t show are the forms that they usually make you sign showing that you refused to go, that pretty much state that they aren’t responsible should your condition worsen. They did show the EMT saying something like “You realize by not going, your condition could worsen?” In our waterpark setting should something like that happen you have to sign our forms as well as the forms from the ambulance stating that you refused to go.

Also, there are two things I wanted to point out from last night. Now I was all about the Magic Mountain date and helping the children meet for the first time, but you’d think that since they played this whole these two girls have been friends but have never met card they’d seem a little bit excited to see each other? The way it was edited it was like the one girl getting out of the limo then the other just hugging her like it was no big deal?!

Finally, being from the waterpark/amusement background have you ever been to a amusement park and read the warning signs that are in front of every single ride? Don’t ride if your pregnant. Don’t ride if you have a heart condition. Don’t ride if you get seizures. Don’t ride if you get motion sickness, etc… Do you really think it was probably a good idea to show 2 terminally ill people riding extreme roller coasters and such? I honestly can’t believe 6 flags was okay with them showing them riding those rides. Granted it was a giant free commercial for a company billions (yes billions) of dollars in debt, but still.

Comment: Thanks to all the EMT’s of the world for your insight. I’m a better man now because of it, and if I come in contact with someone who I believe to be injured but doesn’t want my help, I won’t force them to do anything.

I know this show tells some whopper lies in its editing, voice overs, and promos. And we are well aware it’s the job of the people behind-the-scenes of this show to basically exploit you as a contestant, get them to trust you like they’re your best friend, only to turn around and make them look like whatever “character” you want to make them look like. Not to mention, this show doesn’t give a rat’s ass about you once your season over. But with all that said, I can’t imagine that Emily & Brianna story from Monday night was made up in any way. If it was, then these people should all rot in hell considering how poorly they would’ve exploited these girls. I can’t imagine something like the Starlight Foundation would make that up either, regardless of the publicity it generated for them Monday night. So on this topic, although I’m sure Emily & Brianna spoke numerous times and had probably seen each other on Skype or Facetime, I’ll say the show told the truth about their relationship and they’d never met before.

I’m guessing Emily and Brianna would have not been able to ride those rides if it was somehow putting their life in danger. Honestly I don’t even remember, but were they terminally ill? I didn’t think they were. I don’t remember hearing that.

Has there ever been a season where the “winner” is as hidden as Catherine is this season? We’re three episodes in and we barely know the woman exists. Anyone who says they don’t know spoilers but puts her in their top three is lying to their readers.

Comment: Not in recent memory, no. It’s obvious why she’s being hidden at this point, so it is what it is.

Hi Steve!

Thanks for the great Bachelor commentary and spoilers. I know you hear it all the time but they make the season tolerable! As you touched on in today’s column, I noticed SO many editing mistakes on this week’s show. One strange one that I noticed had to do with one of AshLee’s ITMs regarding her date. After the day at the theme park, they show a clip of AshLee crying about how much the day meant to those 2 girls. Strangely, the ITM showed her at the mansion, in broad daylight, in that awful dress she wore on the date. She and Sean were at the theme park all day and into the night so I’m not sure when else she would have had a daylight ITM in that dress, at the mansion, except for before the date. This raises the question of how she would have known about the girls and what the date was going to entail. Do the producers tell the girls what their date will be beforehand? Did AshLee just turn on the waterworks beforehand for a compelling ITM? I’m curious to hear your thoughts on that. It seems like very often girls are asked to reflect on things that happened weeks ago (Desiree and Catherine this week, for example), but this seemed weird since it appeared that AshLee was talking about a date that hadn’t happened yet.

Comment: I’m not gonna go back and look at the episode to see if this is accurate, I’ll just take your word for it. Yes, AshLee could’ve easily filmed an ITM before they left for Magic Mountain talking about the date. I wouldn’t put it past them. I’ve never actually asked past contestants who’ve been on dates if they were told the day of where they were headed, and if they were, did they just have to act surprised. What I do know is when they start traveling and you see the women arriving at hotels and such, that’s usually done the day after they get there and they have to pretend they’re arriving for the first time, so I guess it’s not far fetched to think that maybe some people are told about dates right before they leave for them. Or maybe AshLee was just crying talking about her life and maybe you mistook it for her talking about what Emily & Brianna have been through. I really don’t want to go watch that again.

Hi, Steve,

I’m a little sad that your blog didn’t reference Donna Martin’s brilliant assault on a pickpocketer on senior skip day 1993 at Magic Mountain.

Comment: Completely forgot about that. I feel like I didn’t do my job now and I should be punished for it. However, still nothing beats the Griswald’s holding the park hostage. And now knowing they filmed the whole amusement park scene four months after filming initially wrapped makes it even better.

Hey Steve!

Love the blog, long time reader and major fan. I find myself having to defend your spoilers to some of my coworkers who just aren’t so sure..and smirk at the “purists” I work with that are in “bachelor pools” betting on who will stick around from week to week and don’t want to know the ending, etc. After this week however I found myself a bit concerned and interested how exactly the producers feel they will be able to create the clip sequence of all the dreamy memories that Catherine and Sean have experienced together over their extensive time of courtship… when they have seemingly intentionally cut out most of their interactions thus far. So to my question: even those most of these couples are doomed to fail anyway, do you think that it is going to be more difficult than in past seasons for them to make believe that they are the real deal and “in love” when we’re already three weeks in and we’ve seen about 20 seconds of them actually interacting so far? Don’t get me wrong, totally 1000% am on board with what you’re puttin out there saying he picks her, just curious if you recall in past seasons the lead choosing their person from what seems like the “back of the pack” early on in the season (or so they would have us think).

Hope to get a response…or not..I don’t care. You’re busy. haha anyway keep up the great work!

Comment: There’s absolutely no doubt they’ve kept Catherine hidden from the public, moreso than any final person chosen in recent seasons and I’m sure it’s because the spoiler has been out since Nov. 26th. With that said, as long as Sean and Catherine are happy together when they film the ATFR and do the talk show rounds as a happy couple, that’s what people will judge them on. Or at least they should. Don’t bother looking into anything that really happens on the show. That’s fantasy land. We will see if they’ll make it once the season stops airing, and their relationship becomes public and they are a normal couple.

Hey Steve,

Thanks again for the snark and the insights about the Bachelor(ette) (Pad) shows.

Is there any reason Roberto wasn’t chosen to be the next Bachelor instead of Sean?
–Judging by the I admit unscientific poll of wife and her numerous girlfriends, he was preferred.
–At least a few online tabloids declared he would be, but their accuracy is of course questionable.
–I would think ABC would jump at the chance to put a more ethnic Bachelor on, just to satisfy those who gripe that there are not enough ethnic people on these shows.

Or did Roberto connect with some other lady and turn it down?

You are about the only trustworthy source out there; tell us what went down with respect to Roberto and thanks for setting us straight.

Comment: All I know is they were hard after Roberto in June to do it and he was interested. I do not know what happened, and anything I guess is pure speculation. Maybe they felt an overwhelming pressure to cast someone from Emily’s season so they turned their attention away from him. Maybe he wanted more money than they were willing to give him. We know he started messing around and took trips with Chelsie from “Survivor” around August, so maybe he changed his mind. Those are all possibilities. But when I reported back in June that it was his gig to lose, that’s because it’s what I was told. Things changed, and it became Sean. I’m not 100% sure why.

Hi Steve,

Tierra: I hope her neck, her back, her ***** and her crack are ok.”

I asked my husband just this past week if he remembered this song (I thought I was the only one) and if he knew what the actual words were. (He didn’t)

You could not have used it any better. Awesome. Just Awesome. That is all.

Comment: I’m glad someone appreciates the humor in bad rap songs from the 90’s, yet, I’m shocked it was a woman who was the one who recognized the song.

Hi Steve,

I noticed that on the beach volleyball date the girls were all wearing the same swimsuits with the same logo on the front. Is the Bachelor now agreeing to advertise brands on their show? I know on “The Challenge” the participants all wear Under Armour, but I thought it was funny seeing it on Bachelor.

Also, I actually watched the rest of Bachelor after I read your recap today. I’m with you 100% on that fall being fake. The noises or “bangs” did not sound like someone falling, and she also didn’t scream out or cry. If you fall down stairs, it would evoke more emotion and more pain!! Those steps looked like concrete tiles, definitely not carpet!

Comment: The bikini’s are part of the gift bag everyone gets when they’re cast on the show. And the whole Tierra falling down the steps scene will be speculated about until someone comes forward to talk about it. Who knows what really happened? The only people there were the other girls and cameramen.

Hi Steve,

Hope things are going well for you. Did you happen to see the bit on Extra with Emily interviewing Sean? It was obviously nothing too compelling, but I thought the comment from Emily about Sean sending home most of the blondes on the first night was interesting.

Non-Bachelor related…but what’s your take on Idol so far? The drama is clearly being played up between Nicki and Mariah, but maybe the new judges will actually offer some decent critiques this season.

Thanks for everything that you do. You truly make a ridiculous show bearable by shedding light on things that us viewers would otherwise not be aware of.

Comment: Yes, I did see Emily interviewing Sean at the mansion during the TCA party to celebrate 25 years of the “Bachelor.” Probably a bit awkward for both of them I’d imagine. Especially when if you look throughout Sean’s dating history, plus coupled with his first night eliminations this season, along with things he’s directly said, just because he’s a blonde haired blue-eyed guy doesn’t mean that’s his type as well. In fact, it’s obvious it’s not.

Hi Steve –

it’s gotten to the point where I’m watching the show and I’m thinking, wow Steve’s gonna get a kick out of how stupid this was, haha. Just wanted to point out, what the f*ck was the point of Sean bringing a rose when talking to Kacie? I understand the producers convincing Sean to do that for suspense purposes, but wow, that was just awful and coldhearted against Kacie for letting her think she was getting that rose and rubbing it in her face that Sean just ‘conveniently forgot to place it down, oops haha sorry!’. Absolutely ridiculous (yet I continue to watch each episode to read your column the next day). great job on pointing out the editing fails.

Comment: I really don’t know why he brought a rose outside with him. That didn’t make much sense. Maybe if he doesn’t bring one, it kills any suspense and pretty much guarantees he’s letting her go? Maybe he just forgot since he was holding it in his hand already when he asked Kacie to step outside? Maybe it was glued to his hand? Maybe 1-800-FLOWERS has a deal with the show that roses must get “x” amount of screen time? The possibilities are endless.

Hey Steve,

I basically just sent you this email to let you know that my friends and I love you.
Your witty, sarcastic, and hilarious sense of humor when you write is seriously amazing.
You give us girls who are constantly busy being 22 year old English majors or in medical school something to laugh about on Tuesday afternoons. It’s greatly appreciated!

We’re huge fans of Lindsay and Des. Even though we haven’t seen much from Catherine,
it’s somewhat confusing or maybe even mind boggling as to why Sean wouldn’t pick one of them over Catherine. We also found it interesting that Lindsay and Sean’s brother-in-law follow one another on Instagram. They have actually “liked” quite a few of one another’s pictures too. It’s embarrassingly funny how the producers are suing you,
but yet Sean’s brother-in-law is basically confirming he’s met Lindsay and she makes it to the final two.

Comment: I had no idea Sean’s brother-in-law followed Lindsay on Instagram, let alone “liked” any of her pictures. Even though we know Lindsay is in final two, I wouldn’t say him “liking” her pictures is an indictment on him that confirms he met her. It’s easy to say it’s an indictment because we know the family did, but, for the unspoiled viewer who sees that, it could be he’s just a big fan of the show and is watching just like everyone else and decided to like her picture, nothing more nothing less. In the meantime, he should probably start liking all of Selma’s self pics just to even things out.

Back tomorrow with your “Dr. Reality Steve” column. Send all emails to: To follow me on Twitter, it’s: Instagram name is “RealitySteve,” or join my Reality Steve Facebook Fan Page. Talk to you tomorrow.

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  1. iheartvino

    January 23, 2013 at 10:09 AM

    I liked this batch of emails. Big props to the person who sent in the comment about Senior Skip Day on 90210- I had forgotten all about that one and I’m a big 90210 Junkie. Can’t believe I didn’t think of that on Monday during the Magic Mountain scenes.

    Totally random, but what’s up with some of the newer ads on this site? I just saw one asking me if I’d like to receive email updates from President Clinton. Ummm… NO. (And it’s not stemming from another site I visited.)

  2. lucky

    January 23, 2013 at 10:19 AM

    Around the time of the first lawsuit, there were ads all over Steve’s website for the Bachelor (and the question was “why is abc advertising on RS while he’s getting sued at the same time”). RS explained that he has no control over what ads are placed. I forget exactly the ad-sale-terminology but it sounded like the site sells blocks of ads and that different ads are placed in different markets. It’s probably in a reader email about a year ago.

  3. iheartvino

    January 23, 2013 at 10:23 AM

    Thanks Lucky, I wasn’t implying that I was under the impression that Steve had any control over the ads. I just found the Clinton ad amusing particularly because I’m a conservative. 🙂

  4. chloeparise

    January 23, 2013 at 10:37 AM

    …”We’re huge fans of Lindsay and Des. Even though we haven’t seen much from Catherine, it’s somewhat confusing or maybe even mind boggling as to why Sean wouldn’t pick one of them over Catherine..”

    Now, THAT made a lot of sense…lol;)

    And of course Sean is saying he fell in love with multiple woman and how hard the decision was…etc..
    I mean, I am sure the producers would be extremely happy with him if he´d wound up saying “You know, I knew without a doubt who I was going to marry after episodes 7, but I couldn´t dump the 3 other girls right there and then.”… Creating suspense (see: editing out Catherine…I just hope that this “masterplan” doesn´t backfire, because I can´t imagine S/C being to happy about it, I guess.)

    Also, I don´t know, but Sean does not strike me as someone who would propose to his F1 while being potentially in love with a bunch of other girls… He could just say that he likes her the most and he would like to give a relationship a shot…
    Plenty of other Bachelors did that before, actually….
    So yeah, I do believe that he pretty much has had his mind(heart) made up if he indeed proposed to Cat.

  5. Sunnyside422

    January 23, 2013 at 10:38 AM

    Steve commented that Sean and Emily will never ever hook up that they were not each other’s type. Question for Steve:
    what exactly is Emily’s type? The buff bar owner didn’t fill the bill, the millionaire, fun guy didn’t, so what/who is her type? Wish he’d answer that one cause I think any guy who would continue to adore Emily and treat her in her accustomed Princess ways would be one I’d say was her type.

  6. Dianne

    January 23, 2013 at 12:19 PM

    @Sunnyside. I think as long as a) he pays absolutely no attention to anything but her would work, b) is filthy rich therefore she’s able to have anything she could possibly want c) is a so-called “good daddy” to her little girl, d) never gets angry, upset, out of line etc. e) pretty much a Ken doll to her pretending to be Barbie. THAT is probably what Emily is looking for. Pretty pathetic, isn’t it?

  7. iheartvino

    January 23, 2013 at 12:56 PM

    Dianne, your description of what Emily looks for in a guy is spot on, but you forgot to mention that she would also like to find a guy who wouldn’t mind her occasional sexting with another dude.

  8. bigfatwoman

    January 23, 2013 at 7:17 PM

    As for me, I just don’t find Amanda all that “creepy” as Desiree calls her. I think she’s very pretty, may be a little odd, but hardly creepy. I’m sure she’s also a victim of selective editing.

    I don’t know…..unless someone is huddled in a corner chanting to themselves, I think one woman calling another woman “creepy” on national television is in poor form and kinda tacky. I think Desiree needs to show a little more integrity and be above the name calling. Like, get over it girl. Enough already.

  9. kasey31

    January 23, 2013 at 9:28 PM

    steve seemed to be in a good mood today, not griping about having to answer the same question multiple times.. thanks, steve! there were some good questions asked, different from the norm..

  10. kasey31

    January 23, 2013 at 10:44 PM

    iheart- haha.. that clinton ad is ironic for u.. and about as strange as smokey the bear telling me to “get my smokey on,” while reminding me that i am the only one who can prevent wildfires.. thats putting a lot of pressure on me, no?

  11. heliofan

    January 24, 2013 at 2:37 AM

    Is anyone going to watch the Te’o interview on Katie today? I’m taping it. Don’t really think it will answer our questions but it should ne interesting.

  12. Dianne

    January 24, 2013 at 6:05 AM

    @iheart..LOL!! Sorry, forgot that very important element that Barbie..errrr..Emily is looking for in a man..hahahaha! Love it!

  13. freeasabird

    January 24, 2013 at 6:48 AM

    Let’s all hope kasey31 was able to sleep last night. Big day ahead being she is “the only one who can prevent wildfires.” That’s way too much pressure to put on one person. I’d be happy to help but I guess Smokey doesn’t think I can handle it. Maybe he will show up later. Good luck!

  14. kasey31

    January 24, 2013 at 7:44 AM

    freeasabird- haha, thankfully its raining in cali, but what about the rest of the country? there is only one “me!”

    heliofan- im recording it, too.. i want to see him look katie in the face and say he had nothing to do with it..

    ok, back to fighting fires! have a good day everyone! : )

  15. Sunnyside422

    January 24, 2013 at 2:59 PM

    Yup Dianne, I’d have to agree with everything you detailed as Emily’s ideal man. Pretty much a robot would do the trick. Or maybe someone who is into superficial as much as she is. She has perfected the role playing…little Southern belle and all.

    Since her has not found anyone in 9 years since she got pregnant maybe most men are looking for more reality in their women and she fails big time.

  16. karynr

    January 24, 2013 at 3:40 PM

    A robot with deep pockets and the ability to ignore high-maintenance whining and behaviors….bless her heart.

    Urban Dictionary definition of bless her/your heart:

    1. This is a term used by the people of the southern United States particularly near the Gulf of Mexico to express to someone that they are an idiot without saying such harsh words.

  17. kasey31

    January 24, 2013 at 7:25 PM

    karynr- haha, so true!

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