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“Dr. Reality Steve,” “Sean Tells All” Summary, Ratings News, & Desiree’s Brother Tweets

You know how every season, no matter who’s named the “Bachelor” or the “Bachelorette,” without fail, you’ll hear, “Ugh…why’d they cast THAT person! I’m never watching again!” Or maybe you’ll hear, “Are you kidding me? That person is so boring. No way they can carry a show,” or even my current favorite, “Why do they keep recycling contestants? Get someone new in there. We’re sick of the same people!” Uh huh. Any of you who uttered any of those thoughts when Sean was announced as the “Bachelor” over Arie catch the ratings for Monday night’s episode by any chance? 9.2 million people watched the hometown date episode. Not only was it the most watched episode this season, it was the most watched non-finale episode in 2 YEARS. That’s four seasons since they’ve had an episode more watched than Monday nights, outside of a finale. Can’t be because of the Tierra train wreck, she wasn’t on it. So save all your whining and bitching in a couple weeks when the next “Bachelorette” is named, and you claim you won’t watch if it’s someone you won’t like. People seem to think that because they don’t happen to like who is cast as the lead, then everyone else in America doesn’t either. Couldn’t be more wrong. 9.2 million people disagree with that sentiment, and trust me, I heard PLENTY of the anti-Sean remarks once he was made official, yet people still watch. Wash, rinse, repeat. Same. Thing. Every. Season.

Lets not forget the “Women Tell All” tapes this Friday in LA. There are mixed reports on whether Tierra is going to be appearing or not. When her brother babbled the engagement story to every media outlet that would listen to him last week, he said she hadn’t decided yet, and that ABC wants Tierra AND her fiancé to be on it. Might be kinda hard if you ask me, since I’ve never bought the fiancé story for a second. Chris Harrison in his blog has been alluding to the fact he can’t wait to talk to her at the WTA. Nothing will be official until Friday when they tape the show. Pretty much all speculation at this point. If/when I find out, I will let you know.

Also, let me make this perfectly clear for those that may have missed it when I tweeted it out, and the couple times I’ve mentioned it in my column since the promo first aired. So for those who asked me again on Twitter last night, and the numerous emails I’ve gotten last night and this morning about. I DO NOT KNOW WHO WROTE SEAN THE LETTER. When/if I find out, I will tell you. All I can tell you right now is that I’m 99.9% positive that letter isn’t nearly as important as the show is making it out to be. Sean is engaged to Catherine. So no matter who sent the letter, what it said, or when it was delivered, it doesn’t change the bottom line. If I find out who wrote it, I’ll let you know, but c’mon people, how many times has this show promoted something in a promo made out to be the biggest thing to ever happen in the history of the show that eventually turns out to be nothing? 100 times? 200 times?

Remember how I mentioned yesterday I’m guessing Desiree feels pretty stupid now for saying some of the stuff she did back in November when Sean booted her, and she’s probably over it? Well, here were her tweets from Monday night after the show aired:

@DesHartsock : Thanks for the love everyone. All things happen for a reason so don’t feel bad for me. Forgiveness leads to happiness. #bachelorwisdom xoxox

@DesHartsock : Men may come and go but family is there long after the show. #lovemyfam #yeseventheoutspokenbro #lifeliveson

@DesHartsock : You can’t ruin something that isn’t complete so be easy on my bro. A man who truly loved me would see past the family member I hardly see.

Yeah, sure seems really heartbroken now. If anything, it sounds like she dislikes Sean and the way he handled the situation. As for her brother, check out his genius tweets from yesterday. As of last night, he’d only sent two tweets and had 11 followers. These tweets were in response to what people wrote him:

@nate_hartsock83 : @G0LDENDIVA I wouldn’t do it any other way.#TruthNeverFails

@nate_hartsock83 : @Katiegirl71 If it was meant to be it would be, God has someone better for her! #TruthHurts

Nate Hartsock ladies and gentleman. The man, the myth, the legend.

Here are your deleted scenes from Monday that didn’t make the final cut. I knew AshLee’s date seemed weird considering when her and Sean left the dinner table, it was still day time, yet when they kissed and he finally left, it was nighttime. For whatever reason, they left out a whole segment of Sean meeting AshLee’s friends, which pretty much goes to show that AshLee is gone next. Why would you leave out the meeting with her friends if she was an important part of the remainder of the season? The second video is of Lindsay ring shopping with Sean, just not for engagement rings. And I’m still fascinated by how tiny she is and what a struggle and the uncomfortableness that must come with her trying to kiss him. She’s gonna need neck surgery with how much she has to bend it just for a peck.

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  1. jackie22

    February 20, 2013 at 9:36 AM

    I can think of something noteworthy – The random shower scene at the end of the episode! I almost turned the channel, but I am glad I didn’t. This made me laugh and made my night lol. What would be the reason for that? Guess that is just part of the reason he has 9.2 million viewers!

  2. ironside

    February 20, 2013 at 9:42 AM

    Shawntel’s All? Sounds morbid or kinky!!!

  3. jawbreaker

    February 20, 2013 at 9:44 AM

    The random shower scene was done for Jimmy Kimmel.

  4. deperlee

    February 20, 2013 at 9:46 AM

    Thought to mention- is it possible that ABC is playing two back-to-back nights of the bachelor in order to drum up viewership for that show ‘the taste?’ After all, the bachelor has been on after ‘the taste’ both weeks where two shows were played.

  5. paulaboots

    February 20, 2013 at 9:56 AM

    How do you get tickets to the WTA special this Friday? Where is it being taped and what time?

  6. serene

    February 20, 2013 at 9:58 AM

    Des’ brother for the next Bachelor, please!

  7. velatria

    February 20, 2013 at 9:58 AM

    Ohhh, I missed “the shower” thing, after the interview i went straight playing FarmVille. What was it all about? Or i will just view it on VOD tonight.

  8. velatria

    February 20, 2013 at 10:00 AM

    Serene, Des’ brother for Bachelor?? Ackkkkkk, that would take at least a year to groom him into a gentleman.

  9. iheartvino

    February 20, 2013 at 10:01 AM

    Velatria, the shower scene was just close-ups of Sean in the shower, and they had music playing in the background that sounded a lot like porn music.

  10. serene

    February 20, 2013 at 10:06 AM

    @ Velatria

    To each her own, but he exudes masculinity unlike these pretty boy Bachelors these few seasons. I only really liked Brad lol.

  11. serene

    February 20, 2013 at 10:08 AM

    Does anyone notice that so far this season, anyone that went against the Bachelor’s objectives was booted? First Kacee B last season cause of her parents being reserved against Ben and the Bachelor franchise, Selma for being self-respecting and saying “No” for jumping in an icy lake in a bikini, and now Desiree cause of Nate. Basically anyone that has anything to say against what the Bachelor producers want you to do.

  12. velatria

    February 20, 2013 at 10:18 AM

    Thanks iheartvino, you save me from going through watching the whole episode ( again) to the “shower thing”. Fast forward on VOD is not available.

  13. ironside

    February 20, 2013 at 10:23 AM

    Sean definitely “stepped in a pile” by throwing Nate under the bus in last night’s interview. Oh well, I hope Desiree doesn’t lower herself to that level on the WTA. My opinion of her changed the most over the course of the show. She grew on me and I really liked her a lot in the end. Stay classy Dez!!!

  14. megchelle

    February 20, 2013 at 10:33 AM

    I think the letter is probably from Catherine. I doubt it’s anything earth-shattering, but considering that they revealed she’s been giving him little dorky love notes all along, I would imagine it’s just a mushy letter from her to him.

  15. velatria

    February 20, 2013 at 10:46 AM


    When the person I’m rooting for gets the boot, it makes me sad because I invested some feelings into it. It’s just like in the sports, if your team losses to another team, you get sad too. I mean you follow the show every Monday night, parallel your sports team into that of their every game. Bachelor to me is like soap on TV. I know they’re not real (in the truest sense of it) but it’s a good past time for me on Monday nights. Heck, I even rooted for Emily/Amanda to pick Jack as the guy she will marry at the end of the show Revenge. I called Sean an idiot for not picking Des., why, she’s my favorite! Sure it won’t affect my life…. Two days after he dumped Des, I’m already over my “sadness”.


  16. megmac22

    February 20, 2013 at 11:17 AM

    I thought that the women were all contractually obligated to appear at the Women Tell All taping. I guess I didn’t realize Tierra actually has a choice. My guess is that she will show up to milk out a few more minutes of “fame” before fading into obscurity.

  17. kaybaby

    February 20, 2013 at 11:22 AM

    For the roommate of the girl with cancer, have you considered talking to douchebag directly? Someone should confront him using your roommate. Maybe a quick chat would embarrass him into leaving her alone.

  18. serene

    February 20, 2013 at 12:00 PM

    Does anyone here still like Sean after this season? lol

  19. JovisMom

    February 20, 2013 at 12:09 PM

    @ megmac22 – Not always the case… Bently didn’t got to the MTA on Ashley’s season, and HE was the one everyone was dying to see!!! I’m not sure if Tierra will go on… Maybe she saw what a crazy idiot she looked like on the show and is ashamed of herself and won’t go. Maybe she is a fame whore and will go on just to stretch her 15mins….

  20. skylerm

    February 20, 2013 at 12:10 PM

    Quit asking Steve about the letter. He has addressed it SEVERAL times. People need to start reading his blog. He doesn’t know who it’s from or what it’s about.

    My guess is, one of the final two just wrote a declaration of love to him and he got choked up. That’s it. It’s probably nothing earth shattering. In the unseen footage, Catherine gave Sean notes. I’m willing to bet you, she wrote him a note .. and it’s just a sweet love note from her.

    Either way, it’s not as serious as everyone is making it out to be.

  21. JovisMom

    February 20, 2013 at 12:12 PM

    @ megmac22 – I don’t think they HAVE to go on the tell all shows….Some will do it for an extra 15mins of fame, or maybe in Tierra’s case she is ashamed of herself because of how she acted and won’t go. I know there have been several examples but the one that sticks out the most to me is Bently not going on Ashley’s MTA show.

  22. punka

    February 20, 2013 at 12:17 PM

    I think the note will be from AshLee. She gets booted next, then makes her final pitch in a note before the Final 2 cutdown. Last ditch effort to sway him. The promos showed her saying that Sean was made for her and her soul mate, so thinking she is it.

    As to Des brother, he did act like a jackass. I think Sean was blunt and called it based upon how the brother acted. It was a fair comment. It looked like he was trying his best to sabotage Des, and it was really odd.

    Personally, I’d vote for Lesley over Des. Lesley was fun, but gun shy. That won’t be an issue if she is the Bachelorette since she won’t be the one having to put it out there–the guys will. The brownies clip sold me on her.

  23. agatha bee

    February 20, 2013 at 12:18 PM

    The letter didn’t seem to upset Sean too much! Probably nothing.

  24. lqcaps12

    February 20, 2013 at 12:42 PM

    Would you quit your bitchin/bashing of the franchise, it’s a bit depressing. Clearly it’s a stupid thing to watch and pretty everyone who goes on only does it to become famous, but would you quit hating on the show so much

  25. JovisMom

    February 20, 2013 at 12:57 PM

    Darn!!! Didn’t mean to post basiclaly the same thing twice!!! The first one said I was typing too fast and to slow down so I didn’t think it went through! LOL!

  26. FanofSteve

    February 20, 2013 at 1:32 PM

    To the girl who wants to be more than friends with the guy who kisses her but then says he just wants to be friends.

    He’s keeping you in reserve in case nothing “better” comes along.

    You’re worth more than being someone’s back-up plan. Move on and find someone who will actually treat you with respect.

  27. serene

    February 20, 2013 at 1:50 PM

    Didn’t Kacee B also leave after the hometown dates during the last season? And wasn’t she the season favorite? Weird cause it seems like Des is also the season favorite this time around and she gets eliminated after hometowns. Seems sort of formulaic lool.

  28. montrealaise

    February 20, 2013 at 1:59 PM

    To the woman who has only been married 6 months but her husband calls her “crazy” because she wants to spend Valentine’s Day with him: she should seriously consider ending the marriage now, before they have kids. No, I am not a fan of divorce, but I have seen too many women stay in bad marriages for far too long, hoping that things will get better – yet they only get worse.
    There are so many red flags here: he’s a tightwad, refusing to spend money on weekends with his wife because he wants to pay off the mortage in 5 years (who does that?) yet somehow finds the money to spend money with his friends, away from her. She has no input into how they spend their money, even though she is his wife.
    When she points out how unfair he is, he calls her “crazy”. Seriously?

  29. velatria

    February 20, 2013 at 2:01 PM

    I hope that Catherine and Sean’s relationship will last a loooooooooooong time just to prove us all wrong about her, hahaha!! Even though my favorite is Des, I have nothing against the girls except “Teirra-rist”.


  30. lucky

    February 20, 2013 at 2:03 PM

    Steve: I don’t know how you continue to keep entertaining us with this sh*t show, but another great column!

    FanOfSteve: I was thinking exactly the same thing about the girl who wants to be more than friends… “waiting for someone better to come along.”

    Survivor tonight – yay

  31. belle01

    February 20, 2013 at 3:03 PM

    I generally don’t post on here, but I was thinking as I was watching the promos for the finale about that letter.
    I think the letter is from Catherine’s mother giving her blessing for Sean to propose. When he was on the hometown date and asked her permission, she basically didn’t give him a response as she didn’t know how things would work out or where they would lead. So perhaps once he knew who he was proposing to, she sent the letter to say that he had her blessing?? Just a guess.

  32. bunbun

    February 20, 2013 at 4:40 PM

    @punka-I thought AshLee too and even maybe Des.

  33. jessica1

    February 20, 2013 at 5:10 PM

    JAWBREAKER – what do you mean; the shower scene was a lead-in to some silliness on Kimmel? I didn’t see….hmmm.

    And did I miss something about Arie and Selma? Did RS have info on them canoodling during filming?

    The hypocrisy of Selma’s no-kiss but film-topless and Sean’s Christianity but lots of beefcake shots – so weird.

  34. Kali

    February 20, 2013 at 5:39 PM

    To the girl who started her letter to Dr. Steve this way: Hopefully you can offer some insight and/or give some advice about my current situation. I’m 25 and trying online dating since I just moved to a new city and haven’t had much luck meeting guys. … There’s a two-word answer to your inquiry: he’s married. Turn around and run. Away. Fast.

  35. strick432

    February 20, 2013 at 5:43 PM

    Brandy on Idol = Tierra on Bachelorette – SHE IS SO GONE!!!!

  36. Kali

    February 20, 2013 at 5:48 PM

    And … To the girl who started her letter to Dr. Steve this way: “So my husband and I have been married for 6 months and together for 6 years. We’ve never gone on many vacations besides the friends camping trip since we’re young and until the last couple years were students and didn’t have much money.” … If I didn’t know better I’d think you married my ex. We were married for 35 years. Making and saving money was top on his list of priorities. He was also a control freak: he made me account for everything I ever purchased so he could document it. At the end of each calendar year he’d report to me exactly how much I had spent on shampoo, green beans, chicken, deli salad, toothpaste, etc., throughout the year. When we divorced he left me with no self-esteem, no self-worth, and a bunch of money (not willingly, but we live in a community property state). When a friend asked me how I felt about the divorce, I responded: relieved. Seems to me that’s where you and your husband are headed. Know there’s life afterwards, though; I’m happily married again.

  37. oyoung1117

    February 20, 2013 at 6:16 PM

    Velatria- well said. There is a huge difference between rooting for your favorite and hoping and caring that they win and actually having your life effected by the outcome. If I didn’t find myself saying “no!!!” To the TV when he sent Des home (even though I knew it was coming) then why should I watch it? I think RS is forgetting that he watches this because it is his job the rest of us no matter what scorn we say we have for it are clearly choosing to watch it for entertainment. And how can you watch a competition for entertainment and not have a little bit of a favorite? But I mean there is a difference between that and literally feeling bereft when Jef and Emily break up.

  38. randais

    February 20, 2013 at 6:24 PM

    Kree and Angela are really good too.

  39. randais

    February 20, 2013 at 6:26 PM

    Strick – Brandy didn’t do well tonight. Que sera sera (spelling?)

  40. Cndgirl

    February 20, 2013 at 9:18 PM

    *****HBO shows

    I think someone on here was asking if anyone watches Shameless, Californication, and House of Lies – I do! Love all 3.

  41. sunday

    February 21, 2013 at 4:20 AM

    In response to the email from the woman who is married only 6 months and her husband calls her crazy for her complaints…Steve was spot-on in his advice to you! You have an extremely controlling husband. I was married to my first husband for 14 yrs and not only was he unbelievably controlling with “allowing” me to spend time with friends, spend money, etc, he was abusive as well. Controlling issues are a MAJOR red flag like Steve said. Please, you must nip this in the bud now, or it will only get worse, not better. Perhaps your marriage is over before it has even really begun. Your husband is also selfish and self-centered. Thank God you do not have any children with him – Even if you end up seperating yourself from him, he might break down and beg you to come back…trust me, once he gets you back, he will strat his same ‘ol crap over again. You deserve better! Keep telling yourself that. Good luck, my friend. I wish you the best.

  42. randais

    February 21, 2013 at 5:00 AM

    lg – that’s what RS does. Accept it or leave it.

  43. megbird711

    February 21, 2013 at 6:41 AM

    I have to say, I am eating crow about Sean The Bachelor. I sure haven’t watched every episode and followed it as closely as I have in the past, but the girls make it interesting. He isn’t my favorite, but that is okay- it’s still entertaining. I really like Lindsay, so that’s worth watching for me. I liked Lesley too. Catherine is fine, Des is annoying but not terrible, Ashlee is fatal attractions-level crazy but cute. His final four were one of the best I’ve ever seen. I’m interested to see how the next few weeks shake out. Tierra will be at the WTA, attention whores don’t turn that stuff down.

  44. velatria

    February 21, 2013 at 7:27 AM

    Oyoung, thanks. Nice knowing I’m not alone with my feeling lol.

    Randais, thanks.

    Serena, to each his own indeed! As I said before, I regard this show as TV soap-only the players are real……….somewhat. I prefer to see gorgeous-looking Bachelor/ette(s) that came out of romance novels I read when I was young. I know I’m shallow and superficial, but if I waste my time on TV’s not-so-real Reality TV love story, they might as well fit the mold. This is my escape from the ugliness happening around me.

  45. agatha bee

    February 21, 2013 at 8:21 AM

    Exactly Reality TV is a great escape from MY OWN REALITY!!!! That’s why we watch!

    Go Kree!!!

  46. bostoncpa

    February 21, 2013 at 9:12 AM

    To the LW who has been married for 6 months with a controlling husband…

    I was in a similar boat, with my now ex-fiance. Our issues weren’t money related, he just thought the entire world was out to disrespect him and he at some point decided my opinion/input on any decisions is irrelevant. 3 days after I left, he did the exact thing he was so adamantly against just a week prior b/c it was what I wanted.

    When I started raising concerns that he doesn’t care what I think and that I feel like I don’t have a voice, he would tell me I’m crazy. Then, he told me I have an overinflated ego that’s ruining our relationship. I’m very glad I called it off before we actually got married. He’s been begging for me to come back, but after being away for just a month I realize it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. He claims he realized how badly he treated me, and that he’s sorry, but I just don’t think he’s capable of changing or being in a healthy partnership. Leaving is definitely tough, but if you have no other options, it’s better to do before there are kids involved.

  47. karynr

    February 22, 2013 at 11:07 AM

    @cndgirl, finally someone who watches the same Sunday night line-up. How about Breaking Bad, Nurse Jackie and The Big C?

    To the young lady who wants to be more than friends and he keeps backing away….one of the hardest things for any of us to acknowledge is when some is just not that into you. We’ve all be there at one time or another, whether it’s on one side or the other, but it’s either there or it isn’t. If something is meant to be it should happen naturally and not cause emotional distress.

    And I just have one thing to say about control issues…RUN! I lasted 7 years in a marriage to a verbally abusive control freak who is now, thankfully, across the country with wife number 4. I thought I was # 2 until about 1 year into them marriage! BUT, I have my wonderful son which made it all worth it. It’s a shame his dad hasn’t bothered to call him in about 5 years.

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