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“Dr. Reality Steve” & the Tabloids Beginning to Ramp Up Their Coverage

It’s around that time of the season (two weeks away from the finale), where the tabloids have to ramp up their stories and headlines to grab people’s attention. And yes, sometimes they are right about things. But today’s “Star” magazine headline about how Sean has been “cheating” on Catherine with Emily, and that he still has feelings for her, are completely ridiculous and 100% untrue. Totally ridiculous. They know that interest is high in the show right now, we’re nearing the end of the season, so if they don’t put something on their cover about it, they’ll be behind their competitors who are all covering it. So before I get asked 875 different times, “Is it true Sean is cheating with Emily,” the answer is “no.” I read the story this morning. There’s no factual basis, no specific times, dates, and locations where this “cheating” could’ve possibly taken place, and it’s basically just one of their attention grabbing stories. As I’ve said plenty of times since November 26th, Sean got engaged to Catherine in Thailand on Nov. 17th, they are still engaged to this day, and things are going fine. By “going fine” I mean, they aren’t broken up yet, so I guess that’s a good thing. I obviously don’t know either of these two or have spoken to them, but I know they haven’t broken up, so I’m assuming things are going fine.

One thing that I wanted to mention rather than include it in the “Reader Emails” since I got asked quite a bit about it, is Chris Harrison referencing the “3 Hour Live Finale” on the 11th. Same thing as Emily’s season. No, that doesn’t mean the ENTIRE three hours is live. It means they’re gonna show the normal 2 hour finale from Thailand that was taped back in November, then when it’s over, have a live ATFR show, like they did with Emily’s season. It’s just easier to call it a “3 Hour Live Finale” rather than “…and in two weeks, our 2 hour finale which is taped, followed by a live 1 hour After the Final Rose show.” Semantics.

Speaking of Chris Harrison, I got a kick out of two internet postings yesterday. It’s funny to see him write his blog, then the same day, his weekly interview with Robyn Ross goes up, and it’s almost like two different people. In the blog, he pretends like the “Women Tell All” episode hadn’t taped yet and he didn’t know what happened, yet, in the interview, he answers specific questions about what happened at the taping. So silly. Even if he wrote the blog before he taped the WTA, it shouldn’t matter. Chris, you can edit a paragraph to make it seem like it already took place instead of saying this:

“As I mentioned, next Monday night is The Women Tell All. This is a truly unique season with so many different stories, so I’m really looking forward to this. I know you all want to hear from Sarah and find out how she’s doing. Desiree will get to talk about that dreadful hometown date and her brother. But of course the woman I’m looking most to sitting down with is Tierra. I really want to hear her side of the story and find out what she was thinking and if she’s learned anything from this experience.”

Since on the same exact day, an interview you’ve done has you saying this regarding the WTA: Was she still upset at Women Tell All?
There was tension — it was awkward. I haven’t seen the final cut, but I hope they show a very awkward moment that none of us knew about or saw coming when AshLee and Sean started talking.

Anything else you can say about Women Tell All?
One of my favorite interviews was Sarah. She’s so eloquent… when she expresses herself, and I just wanted to grab her and hug her and tell her it’s OK. But that’s exactly what she doesn’t want because everybody tells her that. But that was definitely the most heartfelt moment.

What about Tierra?
She didn’t quite “get it” as much as I wish she had. She still stuck to her guns, played the victim, [and] said it wasn’t her, it was the girls. As hard as I tried, I don’t think I ever got through to her.

Just wanted to throw this out there for the people who’ve missed it the numerous times I’ve tweeted it and written about it. I DO NOT KNOW WHO WROTE THE LETTER. Got it? Let me say it again in case you missed it. I DO NOT KNOW WHO WROTE THE LETTER. Again. I DO NOT KNOW WHO WROTE THE LETTER. In fact, here you go: I DO NOT KNOW WHO WROTE THE LETTER. I DO NOT KNOW WHO WROTE THE LETTER. I DO NOT KNOW WHO WROTE THE LETTER. I DO NOT KNOW WHO WROTE THE LETTER. I DO NOT KNOW WHO WROTE THE LETTER. I DO NOT KNOW WHO WROTE THE LETTER. I DO NOT KNOW WHO WROTE THE LETTER. There. That’s 10 times I said it. Lets see how many people after today STILL ask me, “Hey RS, great column. Read it all the time. Did you see that Sean receives a letter at the final rose ceremony? Who is that from?” Oh, it’s coming. No doubt in my mind. Which will be even funnier.

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  1. iheartvino

    February 27, 2013 at 9:31 AM

    haha can you picture Chris actually saying “Tune in on Monday for our 2 hour finale, which was taped in Nov., followed by our live After the Final Rose show, which will be live.” Imagine how different the show would be if they actually explained stuff like that. Hilarious. I’m dumbfounded by the amount of people who are actually thinking the actual finale would be live.

  2. velatria

    February 27, 2013 at 9:43 AM

    Iheartvino, I used to believe the actual finale were shown live until I ran into Steve’s spoiler site for the first time during Bachelor Pad 2. Thank goodness for that!!! I became one of Steve’s fan since. I did not watch or read the spoiler during Ben’s season because I didn’t like his oily and nasty hair haha. I also skipped Emily’s season.

  3. velatria

    February 27, 2013 at 9:44 AM


  4. robinl333

    February 27, 2013 at 10:00 AM

    Did you see that Sean receives a letter at the final rose ceremony? Who is that from?!?! LOL I’m kidding! Love love love your website and all the spot on info!

  5. iheartvino

    February 27, 2013 at 10:01 AM

    Velatria, I think more people believed that in the past, but now it’s all over the media these days- tabloids at the grocery store, gossip sites, they talk about it on the radio, etc.. It’s just hard for me to believe that so many people still think they are filming the rejection and proposal episode live. I’m with ya on Ben’s hair– gross!!

  6. serene

    February 27, 2013 at 10:33 AM

    Who knows what is really going on behind the scenes. But I still think that Sean has never gotten over Emily yet. He is putting a lot of his own experiences from that past Bachelorette season into this current Bachelor. Whether Sean is cheating or not, he hasn’t gotten over Emily yet, let along the fact it hasn’t even been two years since they broke up.

  7. karynr

    February 27, 2013 at 10:43 AM

    To the woman with the sister involved with the NFL guy, RS is right on target. My older brother has been one of the #1 sports guys in Denver for many years, and he says they’re all major skirt chasers when they’re on the road. He’s traveled with the Bronco’s and other teams many times over the years and has some interesting stories to tell.

  8. jackie22

    February 27, 2013 at 11:08 AM

    Just read the bachelorette will be revealed on The Finale.
    However, they have a link posted that RS thinks it is Lindsey. Maybe if these, ‘reporters’ read the column, they would understand RS doesn’t think this anymore!

  9. mrsd

    February 27, 2013 at 11:21 AM

    I think think the letter is from his Mother.

  10. realitycheck

    February 27, 2013 at 11:36 AM

    haha whoever says Sean is not over Emily needs to get their head examine if this thought reflects their thinking process in their dating life. “It has not been 2 years?” really…and they were dating exclusively for 4 years? 5 years? good lord! He was sharing-“dating” Emily with a bunch of his best friends for 7 weeks top. Probably just one week after the initial shock of elimination he was already over her. Let be real: Emily is booty-call material for high profile guys (Dale, Matt, come on, you don’t think they want that baggage called Rickie). Frankly, guys want to sleep with her but that’s about it: she is not wifey material. Period. All the guys on her season realized that a long time ago. Now they just need to get over their bruised egos that got tricked into “falling in love” with Emily by producers of the show.

  11. lucky

    February 27, 2013 at 11:42 AM

    Probably Emily “leaked” the fake “cheating” scandal with Sean. She can’t take being out of the limelight.

    I wouldn’t care if Sean did pick Lindsey. It would make more sense and they’d have beautiful babies.

    ***jodi arias***
    Radaronline streams the trial live. HNL has so many breaks its ridiculous. Plus Radaronline doesn’t block the lurid details / words of the taped phone sex. I’m no prude, but it is pretty graphic. Today, it looked like jodi was laughing when they re-played the phone sex. Or maybe she was reminiscing. I thought it was funny each time the prosecutor repeated the text jodi wrote: “f*** like a hot schoolgirl” or something like that.
    I hadn’t seen the police report, but she did say that she “can’t remember” what happened after she shot him. But she does remember washing her stuff off with the Costco bottled water in the desert and all the million details for every other fabrication. You can’t script this stuff.

  12. velatria

    February 27, 2013 at 11:43 AM

    Wow, RealityCheck, you just crushed my romantic heart…. Just kidding!! After RS spoiled this TV Reality Romance, I enjoy watching this even more. I wish now that I’ve watched Emily’s season. It seems to be so controversial.

  13. JovisMom

    February 27, 2013 at 11:47 AM

    To the emailer w\ the first date and the guy not paying… All I have to say is this. You get what you pay for….. You met a guy on Ok Cupid which is free (just like PlentyofFish)…. from what I have been told guys on those websites go on for booty calls and aren’t like for anything serious. I met my boyfriend on match. We have been together for over a year now. I did match and eharmony for a while (preferred match 100% more then eharmony). The guys on these websites are more sincere. Also like the other emailer the ones on these webites are less likely to lie about what they look like…. Trust me, shell out the $60 (+/-) a month, look for coupons on line for these webites. You will be grateful you did.

  14. ccrider

    February 27, 2013 at 12:11 PM

    Also to the emailer about the guy not buying her a drink on their first “date”. I did the online dating thing (Plenty Of Fish) and never, ever “expected” the guy to pay for anything at the first meeting. In fact, there were a couple of times when I paid because he drove across town to meet me. And being that I’m in Houston, across town is quite a lengthy drive. I also never thought of the first meeting as a date….it’s just a meeting. To me, the first date would be if you agree to meet again for something more than just drinks/coffee/lunch. POF has some real interesting people out there but I eventually met the most wonderful man and we’ve been together for over a year and a half. To me, it was all about expectations…..if you don’t expect too much then you won’t be disappointed….but then again, you can end up being pleasantly surprised.

  15. slaurae

    February 27, 2013 at 12:17 PM


    Actually I met my husband on OKCupid almost 5 years ago and we have been married a year and a half. I signed up for it, he messaged me 3 hours later, I gave him my phone number, we met 4 days later in person, and by the end of that weekend we were officially boyfriend and girlfriend. here we are 5 years later and happier then I ever thought I could be.

  16. iheartvino

    February 27, 2013 at 12:39 PM

    @Jovi (and any other women doing the online dating thing) just PLEASE be careful. I have heard too many bad stories from people and one hit really close to home, my sister. She met a guy on Match, ended up marrying him, and then over the recent years his true colors came out. He had lied to her for years about many things and she divorced him last year and is still in therapy dealing with the abuse he put her through. Was that directly linked to the fact that she met him online? Of course not, but it’s way easier to hide your true colors online and much easier to reel someone in by telling them what they want to hear. I have known many who didn’t find out the truth til sometimes 2-3 years later.

    I know there are some success stories and I truly hope your guy is one of the “good” ones, but just be careful and smart, ladies!! Never can be too careful. All the guys I know of that ever did Match used it just to hook up. They admitted to telling the girl they wanted something serious, were looking for marriage, etc. Not trying to be a Debbie Downer here, but just being realistic.

  17. ccrider

    February 27, 2013 at 1:27 PM

    iheart…..thanks for caring and for reminding us to be careful!

  18. jessicus

    February 27, 2013 at 1:50 PM

    Dr. Steve,

    Amazing advice once again. The letter that REALLY hit home with me was the one where the woman was dating a divorced father with serious problems. You advised her to realistically ask herself if this is what she wanted in a future husband, and not to beat herself up if it wasn’t.

    I just want to say THANK YOU for saying what you did. My ex-husband sounded a LOT like this guy (only add on to that, occasional explosive temper, history of being attracted to underage girls, and a few more unsavory things). I struggled for a very long time whether or not to leave him, because “other than that,” he and I had a really good relationship and we actually loved each other a lot.

    Sitting here years later, now married to a much better man that I’m crazy about (with none of the aforementioned problems), I want to speak to this lady and say, “I’ve been there and I get it. You are a compassionate person, you love this guy, and you can’t imagine hurting someone you care about this much. But please realize – a spouse is not a lost puppy. It’s not your job to “save him” – to take care of him and his problems. You deserve real happiness with someone you can admire, and who will add as much joy to your life as you add to his. Don’t settle for less!”

  19. liz123

    February 27, 2013 at 1:59 PM

    I have to agree with RS & karynr on the NFL guy. I have a very close friend who started in the NFL for 8 years, has a Superbowl Ring & all that stuff. I know for a fact that something like 90% of those guys are “chasing skirts” for the majority of their downtime. Almost all of them do it on a regular basis & the ones who don’t are pressured until most of them eventually do slip up at least once. Unless you’re willing to stand by while this goes on & wait around until the guy is past his “prime” & retires & comes home to you & the brood you’ve raised for him while he was off playing ball & screwing women, then being in a relationship with one of these guys is accepting that as a fact of life. Honestly, though, it doesn’t even sound like this guy wants to even pretend to be faithful to her, so it’s totally a one-sided “saving” of the relationship in an environment that doesn’t nurture family relationships to begin with. She needs to run fast the other way if she wants a monogamous & healthy relationship!!

  20. megmac22

    February 27, 2013 at 2:01 PM

    So Steve, who wrote the letter?? I tease, I tease. I have a theory – Sean’s mom wrote the letter telling him she had changed her mind about him proposing to one of the girls, and giving him her blessing. I’m sure everyone saw the promo Monday night where Sean’s mom is crying saying she doesn’t want him to propose to anyone because it’s such a serious thing. Maybe she had a change of heart. That’s just my theory…who knows who really wrote it.

  21. allybow

    February 27, 2013 at 2:07 PM

    So I still haven’t watched Monday’s Bach. (I usually read the column first) But – I thought Steve was being sarcastic and joking about AshLee talking about her ring size and pref. Until I read the comments on the last blog and saw others talking about that. She actually did!!?? OMG. CRAZY!

  22. megmac22

    February 27, 2013 at 2:16 PM

    Sorry – I just read the comments from yesterday’s column and realized other people had the same prediction about the letter being from Sean’s mom. I really should read everything before I post my “groundbreaking” theories!

  23. bostoncpa

    February 27, 2013 at 2:21 PM

    @iheartvino I think that’s a problem that’s not just related to online dating… My ex was like that, except he started showing his true colors after we got engaged. I’m very glad it was before we got married; I can’t imagine life with someone who has such a controlling and possessive personality (not to mention some other unsavory traits). I didn’t meet him online.

    One of my best friends married someone she met on OKC, and I have guy friends who were looking for a serious relationship on OKC (and were just as discouraged by some of the women on there).

  24. serene

    February 27, 2013 at 2:33 PM

    I heard its also good to demand references from at least 3 people so they can vouch for the guy being legit or not.

  25. allybow

    February 27, 2013 at 2:37 PM

    refrences for online dating? that’s actually a smart idea

  26. iheartvino

    February 27, 2013 at 2:40 PM

    Steve, Karyn, and Liz are absolutely correct about NFL players. I honestly don’t feel all that sorry for women that get cheated on by their professional athlete husbands. It doesn’t make it right by any means, but the majority of those women knew what they were signing up for, in my opinion. If not, then they have rose colored glasses on thinking their husbands will be the exception.

  27. karynr

    February 27, 2013 at 3:23 PM

    When I used to do the online dating thing I always checked them out on the Superior Court website before meeting them. One time I canceled a date on someone who had a long record of drug arrests, and another time the guy wasn’t even divorced (he, of course, told me he was). I always met them in a very public place and usually during a lunch hour, which gave me a very limited amount of time. I also had my son do what i called “save me” calls occasionally. He’d call me about an hour into the date, and if it wasn’t going well, I told the guy I had to get home because my son needed me.

  28. elizabeth82

    February 27, 2013 at 6:38 PM

    People hounding Steve for who wrote the letter obviously aren’t reading his columns, where he always says he doesn’t know. Also, he would’ve spoiled it if he did know. Smh.

    When it was made clear during “Sean Tells All” that Catherine has been giving him notes throughout the season, I thought it was from her. But the speculation that it’s from his mom isn’t a bad guess given what we see from the preview with her thinking he shouldn’t propose. But I think it’s more likely that she’d be reinforcing that opinion than giving her blessing since the preview makes it seem that he’s upset after reading it (but it’s likely that’s the deceptive editing ABC loves to do in their previews–they might be showing him being upset after rejecting Lindsay than after reading the letter). What about it being from Lindsay? Maybe she realizes he isn’t going to choose her and she declines the final meeting with him. Or maybe she’s professing her feelings of love for him and it’s hard for him to read knowing he’s going to reject her. Kind of fun to speculate.

  29. lucky

    February 27, 2013 at 7:32 PM

    *** jodi arias***

    wow – what a day! She’s a scary person. Watch this woman.

  30. ironside

    February 27, 2013 at 8:08 PM

    elizabeth: There are preview pictures on the ABC website of Lindsay in a gown apparently heading to meet Sean. So I think it’s safe to say that she did not write the note. I’ve read others opinions that it may be Catherine’s mom giving her blessing to Sean to ask Catherine to marry him. I think that Sean’s mom might be a good guess too, but I’m also inclined to believe that Sean and his mom will reach an understanding before she leaves him.

    The letter itself is illegible except for the first word “Sean” and does appear to be computer printed with some sort of cursive font. So, I don’t think it’s from either of the final two women.

  31. vicky

    February 27, 2013 at 8:22 PM

    My poor husband often has to sit through this silly show with me, but the other night we both had a good laugh! It was when someone’s tweet popped up during the rose ceremony that said “‘Phuket’! Roses for everyone!”

  32. kasey31

    February 27, 2013 at 9:56 PM

    **jodi arias**
    jess, sorry im hoping you see this.. actually, i would start with day 20 bc thats where she goes into detail about her “self defense” claim.. day 21 starts with the cross exam.. everything before that is kind of boring.. ill post this on the previous blog just in case u miss it!

  33. kasey31

    February 27, 2013 at 10:57 PM

    **jodi arias- lucky**
    lucky, dont forget, she also remebers when she was on the phone with her bf when she was 15, what time it was, and who was calling on the other line and what they said.. she remembers what her first bf was wearing when she saw him at the fair and how he motioned her over to him.. she remembers the first flavor of ice cream she tried as a child, the color she first painted her nails, where she was and who she was with the very first time she got a flat tire… she remembers what brand of jeans she wore to her first day of 6th grade.. BUT she doesnt remember anything about the killing bc she “blacked out” uh huh. her memory is selective and self serving for sure.. i love how the prosecutor doesnt let her ramble on.. during direct, i was pulling my hair out! and she has quite the mouth and attitude for someone who is so timid, dont u think?

  34. elizabeth82

    February 27, 2013 at 11:52 PM

    @ironside, Didn’t see those preview pics, and oh yeah, forgot about the possibility of Cath’s mom! But how does an apparently computer-generated cursive font prove it’s from neither of the final two women?

    *jodi arias*
    Obviously guilty. Can we get to the end of this already? She’s a pathological liar; Travis’s friends who interacted with her felt she was cold/empty; she stabbed him 9 times in the back; most disturbing thing in the last day of testimony is how much she’s smiling and giggling on the stand. She seems to love wielding over the prosecutor having to describe her sexual escapades.

  35. kasey31

    February 28, 2013 at 6:15 AM

    agreed, elizabeth.. she is one sick individual. very sick.

  36. jen224

    February 28, 2013 at 7:47 AM

    ** jodi arias **
    I see it your post, I’m looking back now. Thank you! What happened to her story that she gave on 48 hours? Did she have ANY explanation about why she made that up?

  37. ironside

    February 28, 2013 at 8:19 AM

    elizabeth: It’s my understanding that the women have no access to computers. Catherine supposedly has been handwriting Sean letters all season. I think handwritten is more romantic and personal myself. I think it’s also possible that Catherine’s sisters may have sent it as well.

  38. geraldo

    February 28, 2013 at 9:40 AM

    Anyone else see Leslie Hughes surface on Millionaire Matchmaker (Episode 7 The Return of Robin Kassner)? Three women are brought in for one of the interviews to pick women for the cocktail party to potentially date Bradley, the bizarre doctor-lawyer and there she is. Brief interviews of two of the other women are shown on tv and one in told to come to the cocktail party but we only see Leslie briefly. She did not make it once again. Lucky in poker (perhaps) but unluckly in love (or is it fame?)

  39. karynr

    February 28, 2013 at 4:23 PM

    You can’t believe a word that comes out of Jodi Arias’ mouth. I have such a hard time watching her and thinking of what she did. It just gives me the chills.

  40. kasey31

    February 28, 2013 at 7:46 PM

    **jodi arias**
    jen- she said she was too scared to say what really happened (which makes zero sense).. she never really explained why she lied but did say that she didnt want to be caught and prosecuted for it.. she is a dangerous person, and its scary that there are ppl out there who stand by her, still.

  41. kasey31

    February 28, 2013 at 7:51 PM

    elizabeth- youre so right.. it was really creepy! theres nothing behind her eyes.. ppl get caught up in her beauty, but everyone and anyone who has known her has said that there was something very off about her… everyone! i know if i killed someone in self defense, id have friends, family members, co workers standing up for me and my character.. shes had no one vouch for her as a person, as she seemed to give everyone the creeps..

  42. velatria

    March 1, 2013 at 11:30 AM

    I think the one mistake about Casey Anthony’s case was…… They seek death penalty. I believe that if they lowered it down to life in prison, maybe….just maybe she might have been indicted. I hope this Jodi Arias won’t be another Casey Anthony “circus”. I hope they will find this woman guilty.

  43. kasey31

    March 4, 2013 at 8:04 PM

    veatria- thats not true.. they were seeking the death penalty, but they jury could have come back with a lighter sentence.. even if they found her guilty, they could have suggested a life sentence..

  44. kasey31

    March 4, 2013 at 8:04 PM

    *velatria, sorry,

  45. velatria

    March 5, 2013 at 10:43 AM

    Kasey in my opinion, the death penalty may have “somewhat” affected the jurors’s decision in a sense that they don’t want to send a human being to death based only circumstantial evidence presented.

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