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Dr. Reality Steve

This first one is referencing the first email in last week’s “Dr. Reality Steve” column in which a woman was having an affair with a guy, broke it off, is in a new relationship, but still feels the need to talk to her affair guy.”

Hi Steve,

Wow. I just got done reading the first letter in your Dr. Reality Steve column and I felt compelled to write you. I am the broadcaster turned Psych student. 🙂 My career path changed after my husband and I went through a tumultuous time in our marriage a few years ago. We both re-committed and I have dedicated my life to helping others in need. My husband and I also run a marriage ministry that helps couples in need, and we do counseling, as well. Which brings me to my next point.

The girl in the e-mail FRUSTRATES ME!! You gave some good advice but here is what people have to remember about affairs (and something you can ponder for future advice columns), you can equate them to life on “The Bachelor.” It’s a fantasy world! This “Mike” guy was a fantasy for her. She could have all of the good sex (because it was forbidden and secretive is why it was so good), he could wine and dine her, they could trade racy e-mails and texts, and that’s it. Sexy, sexy. It’s LUST. Let me say it again, LUST, LUST, LUST. Do you really think this passionate sex and soul mate connection would’ve continued when they left their spouses and moved in together? H to the NO! During the affair she wasn’t having to pick up his dirty socks, clean the toilet after he got sick, pay the bills together, deal with kid stuff, all she was having to do is have great sex and do the fun things in a relationship. It was a fantasy, not reality. I would be willing to bet that if they had gotten married, it would’ve ended in divorce and the cause for that divorce would be because of one of them cheating. 50% of first marriages end in divorce, 60 something percent of 2nd marriages end in divorce, and 70 percent of 3rd marriages end in divorce. Get my drift? It’s time to wake up and get out of la la land people!

One more thing, she needs to have a NO CONTACT rule with him. When trying to end an affair you have to do this. No texts, calls, e-mails, etc. The first bump in her new marriage and she will be back in this guys arms. Nothing good can come of this, especially now that she has kids from 2 different marriages and the kids are the ones that end up suffering the most.

Whew. Needed to get that off my chest. Do what you will with it and keep up the good work!

Comment: Thanks. I agree with all of that. Hopefully the person who sent in that email happens to be reading what you just wrote.
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Hey Steve,

I hope it’s not weird that a guy is emailing you since all the emails I see are mostly from women, but I could use a guy’s opinion on this who doesn’t know me or anything about my situation.

I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years. I’m 36 and she’s 31. We are serious and we’ve talked about marriage and are close to it. We have a great relationship, and she’s an amazing girl and I have nothing to complain about.

Well about 6 months ago her father passed away and it was hard for her and her family. I was there for her through everything and did everything I could to be there for her and try to understand even though it’s hard to truly understand when someone has a parent die unless you’ve been through it (which I haven’t). Yet I did everything I could for her and tried to be there for her. If I did anything wrong I have no idea what I did.

So this is where my problem comes in. I feel like ever since her dad passed she’s been distant and almost pushing me away. I sometimes worry she’s getting depressed but she seems fine around her girl friends. She still laughs with them and hangs out with them. But around me she has less to say and seems very serious all the time (she is normally a real funny girl). After 6 months its not like we’re close to breaking up or anything but she’s just not the same person. And I don’t know what to do about it. I was almost ready to propose but now I feel like she’s so distant that I don’t even know if she’d say yes. Do you think she might be depressed or did I do something wrong? I know she’s not cheating or anything like that. And she’s still working her same career and everything else in her life seems normal again. It’s like it’s just me. But I hope not. What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Comment: Hey, a dude emailed me. This has gotta be a first for “Dr. Reality Steve,” no? It doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong. She went through the loss of a parent, and I have no idea what’s that like, so it’s pretty impossible to give you a good assessment of your situation. Maybe it’s just the up and downs of grieving where she’s normal with her friends, but different around you. Have you told her this? What’s been her response? I think this is something you need to ask her since I haven’t experienced the loss of a loved one. Sorry I couldn’t be more help, but, maybe you guys should go to counseling. Maybe that will get her to open up more about why things seemed to have changed between the two of you.
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Hi Dr. Steve,

So I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 years and when we first got together, he was more interested in playing the field then being in a relationship with me. His cousin (a male) who was visiting town and got to know me, ended up convincing him that he would lose me if he didn’t want a relationship, and he smartened up and we’ve been dating since. Since then, the cousin and I have been friends, and I’ve always had a soft spot for him because he was a good guy. He had a girlfriend during that time, so we didn’t speak much (he lives in another state). But after he and his girlfriend broke up, he started calling me (which was somewhat unusual because we would just text once in a while). He would call about once a week for a year, and I really enjoyed our conversations, which were usually at least an hour. My boyfriend has no problem with it because he loves us and trusts us. Even when I would go to his state for some other reason, I would make time to hang out with just him and it was really nice. There was some flirting at times, but we both would never act on it. We just enjoyed each other’s company.

However, he ended up getting a new girlfriend and it didn’t change things for the first couple months, but now that they are serious (dating over a year), it seems like he has gradually cut me out! I feel like I just got used for company or something while he was single, and now has no desire to be friends with me. Before, he’d call me all the time, like while he was driving home at night, or grocery shopping, or waiting an airport, and now, he never does, but if I call him, he will pick up and we’ll talk about 10 minutes before he ends the conversation with some excuse. I have met the girlfriend and she seems nice and we got along, but do you think she told him to distance himself from me? Or, has he just fallen madly in love with her and therefore sees no reason or has no time to maintain a friendship with any other girls? He knows I care about him a lot and I’ve been there for him for some tough times, and I see him like my family. But now I just miss him a lot, and only talk to him once a month (if that), and that’s if I make the effort to call! What do you think I should do? Should I just stop calling him as well and just give up on the relationship, or should I mention it to him the next time I talk to him how I miss him and how’s changed with the new girlfriend (I am not leaning towards this option because it seems clingy). Either way, what do you think has happened, and as well, what should I do? By the way, he still has time to call my boyfriend almost every week, where as before, he would call me all the time and not him as much. So it doesn’t have to do with the fact that he’s mega busy. I just miss talking to him and want to know what has changed!

Comment: I think this is just a product of someone getting a significant other and pretty much cutting out a lot of people in their lives. It happens. We’ve all done it. If he wants to talk to you more, he will. But something tells me either he just feels guilty doing it, regardless of how platonic your relationship is, or he’s just one of those people. Or a combination of the two. I’d stop calling him.

If he breaks up with his girlfriend at some point, then is back on hounding you with phone calls and texts, then maybe give him a little sh*t about how he cut you out and now that he’s single, he’s back. Tell him you didn’t appreciate it, and if he gets another girlfriend again, you’d hope he doesn’t do it again.
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Dr. Steve,

I have a lot of guy friends but they never give me unbiased advice and you seem to be really good at this stuff so here goes:

Guy #1: I have been running into my college boyfriend a lot lately (we work near each other) so we agreed to have drinks. We dated just after college for a year (we’re in our 30s now) and he just stopped calling without explanation. At the time I didn’t care because I was young and I didn’t know what I wanted anyway. A few years later, we reconnected but it turned into an FWB situation which I didn’t want so he stopped calling me in that capacity. We remained on good terms.

He got married a few years later and we lost touch. About two years ago, he asked a mutual friend about me and was I still single and they needed to set me up with someone, I’m too awesome of a girl to be alone. And something like when he was younger he let a lot of good ones go. I didn’t read too much into those comments because I was hearing this through another friend so who knows what really was said.

Now he’s separated four years and like I said, we met for drinks recently about a month ago. He was talking about his ex and all the drama and he said something like he married her because she was the first girl he met that made him want to get married. That stung because he dated her after he dated me twice. After drinks he asked me to go away with him the following weekend with all his friends and his family. I already had plans but told him to call me on the way back so we can have dinner. I also told him I was seeing someone, it wasn’t serious, and I didn’t know how I felt about the guy (I have since moved on). He didn’t call but did call me last week to meet again for drinks. He said he was staying in the city (he was going to a sports game and didn’t want to drive back to the city for work the next day). He said I could crash if I wanted to. I’m not interested in an FWB so I simply said that night wasn’t good for me so he wants to reschedule drinks for next Friday–no mention of staying over.

I don’t want to be this guy’s fallback girl and I don’t want to waste my time. Should I even bother going for drinks again considering both times he asked me to stay over and he waited weeks to ask me out again?

Guy #2: I met this foreign guy on the beach over Labor Day weekend. We hung out all weekend and I made it clear I was not a hook up kind of girl. He hung out with me anyway and then got my number, made two dates with me but then never called. A few weeks ago, I was bored and looked him on Facebook. He accepted my friend request and turns out he moved to yet another country. He’s trying to get back to the U.S. and said he wants to meet up for drinks when he comes back. Considering he never called me, and I probably should have let that go, is it a bad idea to meet him for drinks? Won’t he think it’s for a hook up since I contacted him?

Guy #3: A mutual friend was in town from out of state with a few of her friends and she introduced me a few weeks ago to a friend of hers who lives in my town. We all spent several days together and he appeared to be interested—even asked me out several times in front of all the friends ( I said yes). I really thought we clicked, we even made out the last night. But he never called!! So my mutual friend urged me to call him (which I never do if a guy doesn’t call because 99% of the time it’s because he’s not interested and I get an awkward response if I do). He, as expected, gave me an awkward response and then blew me off. She told me he moved to my city several months ago with his girlfriend. They broke up, he lost his job, and now he has to renew his lease or move. Also—my friend really oversold me. She told him I modeled when I was in my early 20s and I recently started my own business and am doing very well financially. Usually I don’t tell guys that or when I do, it’s much later on once they know me and realize I’m just a regular down-to-earth girl. My guess is he didn’t call because of his situation unless he’s simply not interested. Which makes no sense because then why would he ask me out three times over a long weekend?!? In my experience, if it’s bad timing, he usually starts dating the woman he meets right after the timing improves. I am always a victim of bad timing and it sucks. Of course I’m most into guy #3 because we seemed to really hit it off. What are the chances he calls when his situation improves and if so, isn’t he kind of a jerk for blowing me off in the first place? Should I just forget it?

Comment: Guy #1: You’re his fall ball girl and he wants to bang you. Nothing more, nothing less. If you’re horny and lonely, call him. Anything else, don’t expect sh*t from him.

Guy #2: Why even bother? Unless you want some free drinks (even that’s not guaranteed), I don’t even see the point of meeting up with him.

Guy #3: Forget him.

You’ve really met some quality guys here…ha ha. Find someone that actually calls you back, follows up on dates, and wants you for more than a piece of ass.
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Dr. Reality Steve,

This isn’t a “love” question but I would appreciate if you addressed it.

I recently got engaged and I’m trying to figure out my bridal party. I have been friends with a girl since we were in kindergarten. We went to elementary and middle school together but different high school, college and grad schools. We have maintained a close relationship up until a year and a half/almost two years ago. We have always had a relationship where sometimes we didn’t talk for a month or so in college but then we would call and pick up where we left off and at other times we would talk daily.

However, almost two years ago a series of small, minor events took place and I realized she just wasn’t being there for me the way I wish she had been. Growing up I was always there for her, when her parents divorced, when she was suicidal I talked her into getting counseling, when she had a “whore” stage I didn’t approve but when she got hurt I was there for her, and when her sorority sister died. During all these times I would call and ask her how she was, etc. My dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer and she would never call and ask how I was doing. I don’t think I am an attention whore but this rubbed me the wrong way. But then several small things happened and the final straw was me taking her on a weekend vacation free (i even paid food and drinks) in exchange for asking for help while she was there. She never helped and was rude to my boyfriend the whole time. We have been dating 7 years and she has always been openly jealous of our relationship. I decided to cut off communication with her and we have had little contact since. Outside of birthday/holiday texts and a few others there was not much. Again, I was frustrated that she didn’t try harder to save our friendship. She would initiate contact the first couple months but then gave up.

At Christmas time I asked her to meet up for dinner because I wanted to give her a second shot and I just wasn’t ready to let a 20 + year friendship fail so quick. We have texted about once a week since.

This is my question: I have two sisters and a sister in law and I always envisioned picking her as my maid of honor so I wouldn’t have to choose a sister. Now, I’m questioning whether she should be in my wedding. I need one extra bridesmaid to make an even match with the groomsmen so I’m tempted to ask her to be in my wedding as a bridesmaid (maid of honor is out of the question). I’m worried if I don’t put her in my bridal party it will totally sabotage a long term friendship that could have been otherwise fixable. Obviously a big consideration is her jealousy of my relationship with my fiancé and her resentment for being single.

Comment: Sounds like a lot of trouble if she’s part of your wedding. The decision is yours. Based on what you told me, she’s a pretty sh**ty friend and doesn’t deserve to be part of your big day, but that’s just me. You seem to know what you’re getting with her, so it’s just a matter if you want to deal with it. Your call. I wouldn’t if I were you.
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Dear Dr. Reality Steve,

I really hope you can help!

The story is this – my senior year of college I started dating this great guy. We stayed together for almost 3 years, but I was unhappy with how the relationship was going towards the end of year 3 (more fighting than good times, different goals) and ended it. Not so long after we broke up I met a new guy, also super awesome. We have been together ever since – going on 2.5 years.

The problem is this — I think about this ex a lot. It seems crazy since I ended it, but I seem to think about him at least once a day. I am attending grad school in the city he grew up in and where we hung out a lot, so everything seems to remind me of him. For the first year after we broke up this guy was still having a hard time with our breakup, but he has since moved on and is recently engaged. I frequently find myself thinking of good times, bad times, songs we liked, great dates, our favorite stories. I think of him when we haven’t seen each other in awhile, I get jealous and weird on the occasions when I randomly bump into him and his fiancée.

My ex essentially cut all ties (as best we could living in the same place, and having mutual friends) after I ended it and I have only spoken to him on a few occasions in the past few years. Now that he is engaged, this whole thing feels truly over. But I just can’t stop the memories and feelings from coming back at random times of the day. But like I mentioned above – I am dating a great guy, who actually knows about all of this and has been super supportive, and I just want this all to go away like something out of Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.

So my question is this – is this in any way normal? After all this time? After I ended it? Are there just some people you always miss? I think I’m crazy and feel so guilty (I really do love my boyfriend and I hope this situation isn’t some sign that we are doomed). My friends are so tired of hearing about this and my regrets and the unresolved feelings.

I appreciate any insight from fresh eyes.

Comment: Sure you’ll always miss people who were major parts of your life. Just don’t let it affect your current relationship. You’ve said you have a great boyfriend, this guy is engaged, and you rarely ever talk to him. Yes, it is kinda weird you’re obsessing about him as much as you are. You need to do whatever you can to put him out of your mind and focus on your relationship. He’s taken, he’s about to get married, and you’re in a relationship. Let it go. Nothing is gonna happen. Maybe you blew it by breaking up with him in the first place, maybe you didn’t, but the bottom line is you’ve both moved on. I don’t see where this would be coming from. Definitely weird. Just don’t let it affect your current relationship.
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Hi, Dr. Steve.

This is not a question about a specific incident so much as relationships in general. You seem to have no problem being brutally honest with people and I think that’s something that I really need. When I broach this topic with friends it’s very clear that they have no idea what to say to me. End disclaimer…

Anyway, I am a 25 year old woman who has never really dated before. I’m not even remotely religious so it’s not about anything like that and I don’t think that I’m unattractive. I’ve had plenty of offers from different men over the years, but none really stuck out to me as anything special. I went on a few sporadic dates mostly because my friends begged me to try it, but I mostly felt bored. Nothing about them challenged or excited me… or made me feel anything like what my friends described feeling with their respective guys. Recently a friend of mine was complaining about how it’d been a year since he’d dated anyone seriously and finding a relationship basically dominated his thoughts. He said something along the lines of, “But you must know what that’s like… You’re always single”. The thing is, I have no idea what that’s like. I’ve never been in a relationship so I honestly have no clue what I’m missing to miss it. I just don’t think that way. When I was younger – like high school to twenty-two – there was usually some guy I’d have a crush on, but I’d never really pursue it or mention it to anyone. It just seemed a bit pointless, I guess.

Most of my female friends come to me for relationship advice despite my complete and total lack of experience because I’m pretty good at understanding people (save myself, apparently) and watching the crap they go through infuriates me. Most if not all of them allow guys to treat them like absolute crap. My guy friends often run around like crazy people dating girls who are subserviant and vapid to their faces and absolute bitches behind their backs. In my opinion the never-ending, dramatic relationship issues of my friends – and the high failure rate of relationships I’ve seen between most of the former generation as well – all stem from getting involved and serious before these people know who they are and what they want. They come to partially define themselves by their relationship status rather than asking themselves who they’d like to be as an individual. I can’t understand that for the life of me and I think my disinterest in relationships stems from that. I’ve done everything a bit backwards and at my own pace and I’m actually only a few months away from finishing my bachelor’s degree (finally). I’m starting to feel like I’m totally over my normal, adolescent insecurities and really comfortable with who I am as a person. I think that within the next two or three years I will be ready to try to figure all of that love stuff out.

Here is my big concern, though: I’ve spent years feeling almost superior to my friends in a way because instead of wasting my time crying over some relationship that would never work, I focused on myself and being the best version of me. I feel like I’m almost that person now, but it occurs to me that I’m basically a decade behind everyone in my demographic. I honestly never really stopped to think about it much – what I might be missing out on – until this year, really. I’m concerned that when I do decide to date more seriously I won’t have any idea what I’m doing or I’ll be an absolutely terrible person to date because I’ll have the knowledge level of a fifteen year old. I’m confident that I know what mistakes to avoid making, – like being clingy, needy, and crazy won’t be a problem for me at all – but it’ll be the hardest thing in the world to adjust my life to include another person. Plus, I’ve had people tell me before – particularly my guy friends – that I give off a total vibe of being unapproachable in that regard. Now that some friends are beginning to settle down or really start looking, I’m nervous that I’ve missed my chance. Was avoiding relationships – or never really trying, I guess – to figure out my own life a huge mistake? I’m I way too far behind? Is there even a guy in their mid to late 20s who would be into dating a girl who’s never really dated before? I hate to think that my lack of interest in this area previously means I’ll be like Steve Carrell in 40 Year Old Virgin some day. I’m kind of thinking maybe I would like to meet a guy I could be happy with, but if I haven’t even managed to meet a kind-of- likely candidate in 25 years who also seems interested in me then how likely is it that I could ever find someone? I’m worried that I’ve allowed myself to become pathetic and a complete lost cause.

Thanks, Dr. Steve. Please help me understand if I’ve ruined my chances at being happy and “normal”…

Comment: Whether or not avoiding relationships trying to figure out your own life was a huge mistake or not doesn’t matter – you did. You’re gonna have to start somewhere. Dating takes time and experience. Yes, you’re definitely behind the 8 ball, but doesn’t mean you’ll suck at it.

I’m being 100% honest when I say this – you definitely like guys, right? I mean, I have to ask considering your lack of experience in that situation. Who knows? Maybe the reason you haven’t dated any and don’t find any appealing is because you aren’t attracted to them? If you’re definitely not attracted to women, then you can’t force yourself to like certain guys and what not. Hard to say exactly what’s going on there, but it sounds like you just need to realize that not everyone dates in the same time frame and pattern and don’t beat yourself up over it. When it happens, it happens.
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Dr. Reality Steve,

I’m hoping you could give me some advice on how to improve my relationship. I’m a 33 year old woman, and I’ve been dating my boyfriend, who is also 33 for about a year and a half. We’ve known each other since we were little and even had crushes on each other while we were in high school, but we never dated and barely even talked until a year & a half ago, he and I spoke on Facebook, and decided to meet up. Since that day, we have been together ever since. In the beginning, it was absolutely amazing, but of course most relationships are, aren’t they? We were inseparable, and he moved in with me after only a month of dating. We’re still living together now.

My boyfriend is a really great guy. He’s honest, he’s caring & he’s trustworthy. I know that anything I needed, he would do for me. But we’re in such a rut and I’m starting to resent him. I want to save the relationship, but the longer I’m with him, the more bored I am and the more I feel like this isn’t what I signed up for. I know he loves me, but I can’t imagine that he’s happy, but I know he’ll never leave me. We never fight, but that’s just because he confuses being a nice guy with being a doormat- he will never bring up anything I do that might make him mad. We never fight, and if we do, it’s because I start it- he would never say a thing. He isn’t good with money, and isn’t the smartest guy in the world, but he’s got a good heart, he just lets everyone walk all over him. It makes me feel like I have to be in charge all the time and that’s not what I want. And we never have sex. I mean EVER. I used to be mad about it, but at this point, I don’t even want it anymore. In a year and a half of living together, we’ve had sex maybe 20 times. It’s usually less than once a month. I’m not feeling attracted to him anymore, because although he’s a healthy 33 yr old, he acts like a 90 yr old- he’s always falling asleep while doing anything, his back always hurts, he’s always feeling pitiful & sick. I just want to tell him to grow up, be more positive, do something with his life, but any time I do, he just pouts for weeks at a time. I don’t want to lose him because I know he is a good man, and has a good heart and has so much more potential, but at this moment, I spend most nights on the couch because I don’t even want to be close to him anymore. Our relationship was so good for a while, and my family & friends all love him, we are compatible in a lot of ways. But how do I tell him how miserable I am with the way things are in our relationship & really change it without hurting his feelings? Last time we argued, he got so upset that he ended up in the hospital for a week due to anxiety. I’m not an evil bitch, so I don’t understand how I make him so upset that he becomes hospitalized- he’s just that sensitive.He went to therapy for a while and was prescribed medication and seemed better but now he’s all “woe is me” & sick all the time again & I just don’t know what to do anymore. Any advice for how to make him man up without hurting his feelings?

Comment: Arguing and having disagreements is part of any relationship. It’s impossible to agree with someone on everything you do. If you’re arguing every single day, that’s a different story. Then your relationship sucks. But every once in a while it’s needed, and it’s healthy. Sometimes it’s tough to break things off with someone that you know has nothing wrong with them and are great people, but the bottom line is, if you’re not happy, you’re not happy. If it’s been this way for a while now, and you can’t even stand to look at the guy so much that you’re sleeping on the couch and avoiding him at all costs, looks like this relationship is over, and you just don’t know how to go about ending it. Breakups are never easy. They’re the worst. Especially with someone who really hasn’t done anything wrong, but it sounds like you guys are pretty much done. You just need to come up with the strength to tell him.
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Hi Steve,

I read your Ask Dr. Reality Steve Column from last week (I know I’m behind) and I have to agree with what you were saying about people wanting advice from a neutral party. I grew up in the era of AOL and when I was teenager I “met” a boy my age in a chat room and we became friends online. We gave each other advice all the time. He was that one person that I could go to, that didn’t know the parties involved that could see things that I didn’t want to see and give me sound advice. He saved me countless times from embarrassment by saying you know what, he’s just not that into you! It’s nice that you’re there to help people like that on a larger scale.

Anyway, Steve, I need some advice, and I’m hoping you can help. I don’t know who else to ask. A friend of a friend sent me an invite to a charity event that she is sponsoring. I’ve heard my friend speaking about and it sounds like it will be a nice event, but because it’s purpose is to raise money for charity it is really expensive to attend. What is the proper etiquette to decline going? I really can’t afford to go. Should I just ignore the invite completely or send back the RSVP card with a can’t attend? The only reason that I’m hesitant to send the card back with a no is that the response line says: I cannot attend, please accept my donation of _____. It’s a wonderful organization, but not one that I would usually support. Can you give me any advice on how to proceed? I will see my friend’s friend again regardless if I go or not. If I do have to send a donation, how much do you think is appropriate?

Thank you for any help you can give.

Comment: Ha ha…now people are coming to me with etiquette questions. Isn’t there some lady who’s the equivalent of “Dear Abby” but only answers etiquette questions? I think there is, but I couldn’t tell you her name. I just know I’ve skimmed it before. Anyway, this one is fairly easy I think. You RSVP saying you can’t attend. Don’t feel obligated to donate if you don’t want to. But if you really feel that bad about saying no and not giving any money, then give them $5 or $10 or $20. Unless that type of money is gonna put you out, there’s nothing wrong with making a small donation. Sure, it won’t be anywhere near what other big donors are bringing in, but whatever. That’s not your concern. If you were the CEO of a giant corporation and donated $5, then yeah, maybe it’d look kinda silly. But you’re not. So either just RSVP saying no and leaving that line blank and donate nothing, or throw in $5 or $10.
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Hey Steve. I have a relationship question for ya.

Here is the info:

In November of last year my cousin got a new job at a local clothing store. I started visiting her there a lot because we are very close and it is near where I work. I met a guy at her job who also worked there. We flirted a lot and he finally added me on facebook and we started talking on there and texting. The relationship never went past flirting and I kind of started to question whether he liked me or not. Then he told me he was moving to Colorado for a few months (Im in Alabama) to take care of his elderly aunt while his cousin was out of the country. He told me he would be back in the south (georgia) in March and we would definitely hang out when he got back. He still never hinted that it would be like a date though. So we continued to talk/text for a few weeks after he moved but then he just stopped. I was kind of disappointed but got over it because we werent getting to hang out anyway. Then I saw on Facebook that he had added a bunch of pictures with the same girl. I figured it was his girlfriend and realized at that point he probably wasn’t coming back in March. So we hadn’t spoken since December until a few nights ago. He texted me really late at night and asked how I was doing. I was really skeptical at first but then he called me and we talked for a long time, around 3 hours. He told me that when he was here he wanted to ask me out but he felt that I was out of his league. Then he told me he was coming back like he had planned and wanted to stop and see me on his way through. I want to see him…

I really liked him when he was here and wanted him to ask me out. But I’m kind of uncertain if I should for several reasons. First of all, I don’t have the highest self esteem in the world. I mean I know I’m a cute girl but he keeps telling me how gorgeous I am and I’m kind of wondering if he remembers me as prettier than I am and I don’t want to meet up with him and then him be disappointed. Second, I don’t want to be like a pit stop to hook up with on his way home. I am a college student, pretty studious and he knows that I’m not the one-night-stand type. I called his coworker who he was pretty close with before he moved and asked him if he had ever said anything about me (to make sure he wasn’t just looking for a hook up) and he told me that the guy talked about me a lot before he moved. He told him that I was the “girl you aim for”. I think that’s really sweet but I’m just cautious. Before he moved he never even hinted at a relationship with me but now he talks about it openly. I don’t want to be hurt, but I really like the guy. I just don’t know if I should meet up with him and risk it, or tell him I can’t and just get over him like I did the first time.

Comment: You won’t know unless you try. Go out with him, see how it goes, and take it from there. You’re overanalyzing it without ever having gone out with the guy. If you go out, and things go smoothly, then you continue to date and see what happens. If you go out with him, and he’s just some horny guy looking to get laid, then you’ll know he’s a douche and that’ll answer your question and you never have to talk to him again. But you won’t know any of this until you go out with him.

The good thing is he’s pursuing you and has talked about you to others. Don’t beat yourself up over the self-esteem issues. Take it as a compliment and appreciate that he’s saying these things about you. I doubt you look drastically different from when he knew you back in November, so just go with it and have fun.
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  1. ccrider

    March 19, 2013 at 8:20 AM

    Karyn…..count me in for the whole “pick the F4” thing! I’m not filling out a March Madness bracket this year so maybe doing this will help fill the void. 🙂

  2. randais

    March 19, 2013 at 9:20 AM

    I’m not emailing him, besides he reads these comments, just acts like he doesn’t. BUT if BP is cancelled, he’s going to need to find another way drum up additional traffic on this site. Maybe they’re cancelling BP to hit RS where it counts…just kidding, but it could definitely cut into his income.

  3. jacey

    March 19, 2013 at 9:26 AM

    Dear Kelly Pickler – Girl, your body is sick! You’ve got great form and elegance in your movement, too. I think you’re going to be a contender for that cheeky trophy. But — GF, don’t know if you were channeling Halle Berry with that haircut, but you got Sandy Duncan. You’re 26 and you look like you’re pushing 40 from the neck up. And ease off the make-up, too. I know you’re a country star, but less is definitely more. You’re fantastic looking au naturale.

  4. texas

    March 19, 2013 at 9:27 AM

    That sounds like fun to have final 4 picks or F1 picks, though I’m sure I would suck at it. I do wonder if people would just create a bunch of usernames and then guess a bunch of different guys. It would be easy to “cheat” that way. Probably wouldn’t really matter though, since I doubt RS would offer any sort of prize even if he did make a page to post picks on.

    I can’t get a good feel for Desiree and who she is and what she’s like. She seems sweet and fun, but there’s something reserved about her. She seems hard to really get to know, though TV anyway. It would be tough for me to make any sort of decent guess, even if there are a few guys who are easy to rule out.

  5. texas

    March 19, 2013 at 9:28 AM

    through TV

  6. lucky

    March 19, 2013 at 9:38 AM

    I don’t like Des (except I thought it was cool that she climbed a tree) and I stopped watching the Bach/ette show. There is so little content in the 2 hours and my time is too valuable to waste. They’re all the same (both the lead and the contestants), only the names are changed. Even the drama is the same and the characters are all the same. It’s a stale show. Just compare it to Burning Love and you’ll see the difference in the content that they fill in 12-15 minutes. I still read Steve’s comments because he’s very entertaining and the video clips he embeds are fun (I don’t have time to search the web for the stuff he includes). Plus, Steve keeps my knowledge of new vocabulary words current if you know what I mean.

  7. goosiegirl

    March 19, 2013 at 9:44 AM

    Jacey, I heard Kellie Pickler shaved her head last year to support a friend with cancer. Also, the makeup was probably put on by the show’s make-up artists, which for ballroom, is usually pretty heavy. That combined with her pale skin probably doesn’t help.

  8. jacey

    March 19, 2013 at 10:43 AM

    Yes, @goosiegirl. I’m aware that Kellie Pickler shaved her head in solidarity with a friend going through chemo. That was six months ago. It’s not the short hair, but the way it’s styled. Are you forgetting there are several other women on the show including the co-host, pros, and contestants with more complimentary makeup? Same makeup crew. To your point, perhaps the pale skin is a contributing factor, but it’s not like that there isn’t loads of options available for all hues. She’s young and gorgeous. No sense in looking forty long before she gets there.

  9. jacey

    March 19, 2013 at 10:50 AM

    and btw… She got robbed on that score last night. It sucks being 1st out of the gate. She was better than that “21” Sean Lowe got ’19’ for Pete’s sake and he’s not even in the same league with her — though he did a bit better than I thought he would.

  10. kasey31

    March 19, 2013 at 11:17 AM

    haha karynr, i say if he gives u a snarky response, then we all agree to cast our f4 (for those that want to participate) in a future column that we all agree on. someone can keep track of the predictions, and there ya go! we dont need steve ; )

  11. karynr

    March 19, 2013 at 1:45 PM

    I’ll send him an email later tonight. Wish me luck. I’m really not in the mood for a snarky, condescending reply. In fact, at one point a year or two ago, he told me to never email him again. I have once since then with a quick question and he was pretty decent, but I’ll suck it up and do it again.

  12. karynr

    March 19, 2013 at 1:52 PM

    We could put our four picks in a specially designated column/section, specifically for this contest, if RS agrees. If this gets out to some of the other blogs, it could be great business for his site. But, he hates being told how to change the way he does business, which I respect. We could always just designate RS’s column that lists all contestants to be the one for entries. We can just use the comments section.
    Winner gets Maddie!!!! Just kidding. I’d settle for the satisfaction of getting it right!

  13. kasey31

    March 19, 2013 at 2:21 PM

    yes, karyn.. if all else fails, i think we should just cast our predictions in one column (comment section).. i didnt win anything, but the satisfaction of getting it right was pretty cool!

  14. randais

    March 19, 2013 at 2:25 PM

    DWTS
    I don’t love Kelly’s hair either but she’s a good dancer.
    Victor & Lindsey, I don’t know boxing, at all but how cute is Lindsey?
    Ingo/Kim, I’ll bet he improves. He’s very athletic and I just think he’s going to get better.
    Lisa and Gelb…Lisa who? I could watch Gelb all day. Of course she got Jiggy some airtime.
    DL and Cheryl, DL’s funny, the song was hilarious, on the upside, doesn’t look like we’ll have to watch Cheryl for long ;).They got killed by the scores.
    Zendaya and Val, so funny moment at the beginning of the dance when she was facing the wrong way and Val turned her around but how awkward was the initial stance where she appeared to be holding her boob? No sure if that was intentional or not, but it WAS distasteful. On the other hand, I loved her costume (very tasteful), more “costume” than skin and she IS a great dancer.
    Sean and Pita, cheesy but he should outlast DL.It was painful to watch but very cute that Catherine and his mom were sitting next to each other cheering him on.
    Alexandra & Mark, HATED her costume. He boobs were coming out and Bruno wasn’t exaggerating when he said she “was busting out”. It wasn’t flattering. Gymnasts are muscular and that costume accentuated it. She was an ok dancer.
    Dorothy and Tristan, loved their set, her dress AND the song. I think she has a lot of promise. I believe ice skaters ARE naturals unlike exbachelors.
    Wynonna and Tony, I was surprised she couldn’t shimmy better than but I didn’t think she was awful. I loved that her family was there supporting her too and how her mom was soliciting votes for her.
    Andy and Sharna, well first of all, she’s gorgeous. I didn’t think he was horrible. I loved her attentiveness to him and to his reactions.
    Jacoby & Karina, football playah can move! I think he’ll improve and I enjoyed watching.

    Sorry for the long post. I may even vote this season, if for no other reason than to get rid of the riff raff bach. ;D

  15. Athena

    March 19, 2013 at 3:07 PM

    @randais and DWTS: great recap! I thought watching Sean was kind of painful, just as I suspected it would be, but then again it’s not like anyone is asking me to be on the show OR that I’d be able to do any better.

  16. randais

    March 19, 2013 at 3:59 PM

    Thanks Athena, sorry it was long winded.

    **The Following**
    I caved, one more try.
    Glad I did, the gore wasn’t at all “turned down” but the extra stuff was much less noticeable. My favorite lines of the episode: Ryan to Joe – “Sorry about your friends, they’re…..dead. Joe’s response – “It’s ok, I’ve got more”. Jacob finally killed. Paul was going downhill….fast and it wasn’t looking good for him. He convinced Jacob, that Jacob still “owed him”. I was sure he was talking about Jacob killing his own mom since the boys showed up at Jacobs parents where his mom stumbled upon them, but he wasn’t. Jacob smothered Paul. Jacob also finally contacted Roderick (anyone seeing shades of John Boy Walton in this character?). Roderick sent him the address of the “compound” so he could reunite with Emma who is starting to fixate on Joe. This is unlikely to thrill Emma, she’s quite insane. Roderick’s good, I’m worried he may be almost sane, that would be a twist.
    I’ll be back next week.

  17. karynr

    March 19, 2013 at 4:06 PM

    kasey…why not just run the final four contest on the column that introduces all the contestants? The deadline can be no later then the day before the following Tuesday column? That way, RS doesn’t really need to be involved. I really think it would be best to not make any suggestions regarding this creation of his. I’d help track and tally, and anyone else who wants to help keep it going, feel free. I have no doubt I’ll suck, but it will be fun guessing.

  18. Athena

    March 19, 2013 at 6:13 PM

    @ The Following: randais, I had to skip your post after reading just the first line or so because I’m one week behind due to DWTS and no DVR where I am. Last week’s episode was horribly gory and I was about to agree with the earlier posts saying that it was just too much. I really don’t need or want to see that kind of blood lust. If last night really wasn’t so bad, I’ll give it one more try.

  19. elizabeth82

    March 19, 2013 at 7:05 PM

    Now that there’s no Bach, I’m down to just watching Arias trial coverage and the Bible miniseries on the History Channel. When is DWTS gonna go off the air already, ha? Good news about Bach Pad biting the dust–what a trashy show.

    I like the F4 reader predictions idea, but I don’t know how good I’ll be at guessing based on just their looks and bio info (before season actually starts). Plus I’ll probably be biased by who I think is cute and that may not be her taste, ha.

  20. kasey31

    March 19, 2013 at 7:06 PM

    karyn- yes, yes, yes!!! i will help, too! agreed, deadline will be the tues after the men have all been introduced.. that will give everyone a little while to get a “feel” for who they want to choose.. and im definitely willing to help keep track of everyone’s predictioins, too.. if all else fails, we can mark down the column date and always refer back to it once the spoilers are posted..

    i agree that asking steve to get involved probably isnt the best idea.. he has a lot going on with des’s season starting up, and i think we can handle this!

  21. kasey31

    March 19, 2013 at 7:16 PM

    elizabeth, dont get me started on the arias trial! are u watching? what do u think about the doctor and the trial overall?? this doctor looks like a complete idiot to me.. so unprofessional, but i guess this was the best they could get.. her defense seems to be falling apart at the seams with every passing day, and i love watching it happen.. i pray she is found guilty.

    **the following**
    randais, is it really not that bad? bc i agree with previous posters, i could hardly stomach all of the blood and gore.. way too much for me. but i like the show, i like the plot, the acting is pretty good, i love kevin bacon, i think its a unique storyline, and i dont want to give up on it.. but if its going to continue to be that gory, i just cant. the scene that did it for me was the flashback of joe kiling that girl strapped down to the table..
    but i trust u, so ill give this last mondays episode one more try..

  22. elizabeth82

    March 19, 2013 at 9:46 PM

    @kasey: You mean the psychologist? Since he’s not a dr. 😉 He’s not coming across as convincing at all. She ought to be found guilty. . .

  23. karynr

    March 20, 2013 at 4:03 AM

    *Arias Trial*
    Doc Samuels is a typical defense attorney ho. He doesn’t make a very clear case, and if this is the best Nurmi can do, she’s a goner. I’m usually not so cynical about someone possibly losing their life, but she gives me the creeps big time. My son wanted to drive down to the courthouse to see if he could get in one day, and I told him their were probably lines around the block of people with the same thoughts. I would NOT want to be in that courtroom with the evil girl, grieving family and Juan Martinez’s high, hostile energy!

  24. karynr

    March 20, 2013 at 4:08 AM

    meant there not their, second time used.

    Deal Kasey…..I guess we’re officially leading the contest.

    Watching DWTS right now. Back later with my thoughts. Like you all just can’t wait….HAH….LOL.

  25. randais

    March 20, 2013 at 6:23 AM

    Athena & Kasey – I don’t want to mislead you, there is still “gore”. Warning – the diner scene. What I didn’t miss in this weeks episode was the sexual aspect, especially as it related to killing. I just felt the story line was bit more palatable than last weeks and thus, more interesting.

    Elizabeth – I want to watch The Bible too, but I think I’ll wait until it’s finished airing and try to catch it all in one fell swoop. My husband has been watching and he said they took a lot of liberties in this weeks episode but past episodes seemed to have been based more fatually. Either way, I’m hearing very little negative about the series and look forward to watching.

  26. velatria

    March 20, 2013 at 7:23 AM

    I’m actually disappointed that BP is cancelled….it would mean that I will have to do some (gasp) work in the house now that Bachelor is over.

    Who have watched Grimm on NBC here?

  27. ccrider

    March 20, 2013 at 8:11 AM

    Randais and anyone else wanting to watch The Bible. Yes, they have taken liberties but not to the point of changing any outcome or the meaning of the story. Most of the liberties being taken are additions that aren’t mentioned in the Bible….doesn’t mean they didn’t happen but one would have to suppose that if they did happen then this is how it went down. (does that even make sense? it does in my mind!) 🙂

    I’ll admit it…..I watched Splash last night. It was somewhat interesting to hear the back stories of these people and watch them make at least a little progress from practicing to performing. But whats up with the judges giving points for just trying?? They’re ALL trying! I felt sorry for Keshia because (in my opinion) she was a lot better than Kareem and Louie. But oh well….she probably doesn’t have as much entertainment value to the show as Kareem and Louie do.

  28. elizabeth82

    March 20, 2013 at 8:16 AM

    *The Bible miniseries*
    @randais: I missed the first two episodes (or is it four? depends on if you count each hour as an ep) and was disappointed that I can’t catch them online through the History Channel website. I was hoping they’d have them up there. They do have five-min. recap videos of them, though. I’d prefer to catch it all in a row, too, but don’t know if they’ll reair. DVD set’s a whopping $60! Although the series purports to cover Genesis through Revelation, it doesn’t cover everything; interesting to see what they choose to leave out. I find the series entertaining and visually impressive. She hasn’t come on yet, but I’m not really looking forward to Roma Downey and her overly-plastic-surgeried face as the older Mary mother of Jesus. It’s SO distracting to look at her now; she should have left well enough alone.

  29. JovisMom

    March 20, 2013 at 8:22 AM

    Those who are watching The Bible have you noticed how the ACTOR playing The Devil looks just like Obama. I say ACTOR because I have read articles on how the liberals and Obama supporters are up in arms over it…..I think it is rather fitting. LOL!!

  30. jacey

    March 20, 2013 at 8:50 AM

    Actually… there *was* more blood lust on the latest installment of “The Following.” A couple women with the same name as Joe’s wife were murdered — one with a spear in a crowded restaurant, and another thrown from the window of her apartment and was shown in a pool of blood on the pavement below. There was an attempt on a third, but Ryan saved her. The bright spot of the night — if you can call it that — was when Ryan shot that blonde chick with the ponytail (Joe’s Hench woman). I found myself cheering. Finally, a bit of comeuppance. I’ll tune in next week just to see how Emma handles Jacob’s return to the group. I wanna see some conflicts among those head cases. One psycho can’t be enough to maintain unity with a pack of homicidal drones. Where’s the dissension???

  31. randais

    March 20, 2013 at 8:52 AM

    **SMASH**
    I still love this show but when it first aired I was curious how one broadway musical could “keep up the interest”, I guess now that there are actually three shows (including off Broadway) involved, that could be the answer. What gets confusing is keeping up with all the switches. People quitting one show, falling into another, I wouldn’t mind something just a bit more consistent. Maybe that’s unrealistic in this setting, I’m clearly not that familiar with the world of Broadway acting. I also wonder, where do these people get paychecks from? Only one of these shows is actually performing to audiences. I know the backing/financing covers payroll, during rehearsals, etc, but the cost of living in NYC is astronomical! Hard to believe they’re making a living. Just hard for me to comprehend, working on a “HOPE”. A hope that something you’re investing so much time and effort in, is going to take off. Still love this world (Broadway) and this show, the story lines are interesting and entertaining and NOT GORY! ;D

    P.S. the ONE show I WON’T be watching is Hannibal (interesting how that rhymes with cannibal, right?)

  32. randais

    March 20, 2013 at 8:59 AM

    Jovis – “like”

    Jacey – Not sure if I’d totally agree. As I said previously, there is still a lot of “gore” but I still did find this episode much more watchable than last weeks. I guess when an episode is ALL inclusive (gore, sex, sex induced by gore, etc) then I go on overload. Also, for me personally (even though this hasn’t happened recently), if you include ANY harm or hurt to an animal, I’m done. Also, the “dissension” there seems to be quite a bit of it in my opinion, Roderick and Emma is a perfect example. This has the potential to get good.

  33. karynr

    March 20, 2013 at 10:14 AM

    DWTS
    Insomnia is great when you have a bunch of stuff on your dvr to watch!
    My top choices after watching the first dances are: Dorothy-I grew up watching her, so she holds a special place in my heart. Plus, it sounds like we went through the same battle 5 years ago! Very graceful.
    Kelly-What an kooky, fun, nice person. Great body and lots of potential.
    Zendaya-has the potential to take it all….at 16!
    Ingo-I used to be hooked on AMC/OLTL/GH years ago and thought he was hot. I still wouldn’t kick him out of bed. Sexy as h*** in my opinion, though I tend to think of him as Jax. He’ll be around for a while.
    Jacoby-HOT…HOT…HOT. Had to take a cold shower after watching him. He’ll be here for a while.

    Everyone else was middle of the pack, with DL and Wynonna bringing up the rear. I feel for her since she’s been through so much lately, but both need to go soon. She sure is a strong lady, or so she seems.

    Sean didn’t do as badly as I thought he would. At first, I predicted one of the first three to go. Now he may last about 4-5 weeks.

  34. jacey

    March 20, 2013 at 10:39 AM

    @randais, guess it depends on your level of tolerance… There was plenty of blood, though they did leave more to the imagination. Let’s tally the body count during this week’s installment… this includes murders in flashbacks

    1) Claire Matthews – high-power speared to death.
    2) Claire Matthews – Thrown from a 8+ story window. Mangled body shown in pool of blood on the sidewalk.
    3) Flashback – Gagged Girl repeatedly stabbed to death
    4) Jacob smothers his psycho partner. Okay — that was a mercy killing.
    5) “Mr Helper” at the carnival
    6) The cop assisting Claire #3.
    7) Psycho *itch Louisa shot by Ryan. Okay. That was a clean kill, though very glad to see her nailed finally.

    I think what made this week more tolerable for me — as I stated previously — is they scored a couple for the good guys this time around.

    And you’re right… there is dissension — of the evil variety. Besides Jacob, I would like to see someone have some semblance of a conscience or hesitancy. Although, now he has killed, too. If that’s the direction they’re going with him, would love to see him squeeze the life out of Emma. Or — it’d be perfectly poetic if, in frustration, Joe Carrol strangled her to death. Oh, he likes to cutting, doesn’t he?

  35. Athena

    March 20, 2013 at 12:19 PM

    @ The Following: For me, to be honest, it’s all about Kevin Bacon. And, IMO, he’s not in enough scenes at present to motivate me to try to staunch the nausea all the violence causes. Give me more beef – ahem, I mean pork, or give me the remote!

  36. kasey31

    March 20, 2013 at 12:28 PM

    **the following**
    i think the slow, drawn out killings are the ones that really bother me, also depends on the brutality of the killings (not that any killing isnt brutal).. and im with randais, if one animal gets hurt or killed, im done.

  37. jacey

    March 20, 2013 at 1:37 PM

    If the producers of The Bible are going for accuracy in their story telling, they should have depicted Lucifer, the Light Bearer, according to scripture. The Bible says his heart was lifted up “because of his beauty”. He likely retains a good percentage of that. He was an angel after all… perfect… created by God’s own hands. When he appeared to Jesus in the wilderness, he did so as an angel of light … beguiling. I can take a very educated guess at where the images we’re all accustomed got their genesis, but it ain’t so, people.

  38. randais

    March 20, 2013 at 5:18 PM

    @jacey – I lol’d at, “If that’s the direction they’re going with him, would love to see him squeeze the life out of Emma.” and I couldn’t agree more. He could pop her like the pimple that she is. Too graphic?

  39. jacey

    March 20, 2013 at 6:49 PM

    @randais – Not too graphic. In lock step with the nature of the show. Wouldn’t it be great if it happened sooner than later?
    Or even better if Claire takes her out? You know, for kidnapping her son.

    At any rate… Oh please, writers. Kill off Emma!!!

  40. kasey31

    March 20, 2013 at 7:14 PM

    *the followngi**
    HATE the character emma, but i do have to say that she plays that role brilliantly…

  41. rob22

    March 21, 2013 at 7:58 AM

    I’ve been really busy…. just checking in to see if SeanCat has broken up yet. Did Sean receive a binder listing Catherine’s sexual history or has a former choir boy accused Sean of fondling him…. anything like that?

  42. rob22

    March 21, 2013 at 8:13 AM

    BTW: for those emailing RS, if you can’t handle a sarcastic, dismissive response and roll with it, then don’t send the email. It’s like entering a rattlesnake nest and expecting not to get bit.

  43. randais

    March 21, 2013 at 10:23 AM

    @rob – nailed it.

  44. randais

    March 21, 2013 at 11:45 AM

    Nashville – rerun last night :\

    **Idol**
    I actually really liked Devin last night. I mean I still liked the girls too, but Devin stood out for me.

  45. liz123

    March 21, 2013 at 11:54 AM

    Are any of you watching All Star Celebrity Apprentice? I just love that show!! Omarosa is one cold-hearted bitch. Have you guys heard that Omarosa is suing Latoya Jackson for saying she “probably pulled the plug on Michael Clarke Duncan”?? I’ve actually enjoyed Latoya this season b/c she’s constantly throwing out little quips like that! I hope anybody wins but O, though my favs are Lil John & Trace Adkins. Anybody heard any spoilers on this season yet? I’ve searched, but haven’t found anything. I know there isn’t a winner yet, but spoilers usually have it narrowed down to 2 by the time the finale airs.

  46. oyoung1117

    March 21, 2013 at 12:45 PM

    I am totally in for the final four predictions. We should just do it under the Desiree’s guys category column.
    I already have a favorite, but my favorites always get kicked out at 4 or 3.

  47. randais

    March 21, 2013 at 1:59 PM

    liz – I’m watching. I can’t stand Omarosa either but I didn’t think Latoya played smart, in fact I think she made one of the stupidiest moves EVER in the history of this show by NOT taking “O” in with her. So while I will give her “sweet” I can NOT give her “smart”. I will also, give Lotoya entertaining, because I thoroughly enjoyed her onryness (yup, made that one up) AND her calling out the “O”. Also, I heard that “O” threatened to sue her but that has been followed up with any action….yet.

  48. randais

    March 21, 2013 at 1:59 PM

    has NOT been followed up…ffs

  49. liz123

    March 21, 2013 at 2:58 PM

    @randais, yeah, I just finished watching the episode (my kids & job & husband watching “Into the Wormhole with Morgan Freeman” keeps me consistently behind on my DVR, LOL!) & Toy definitely worded it that in a way that is probably going to keep Omarosa from being able to take legal action. I think both times she said that she said “Omarosa probably pulled the plug” & it was obviously tongue-in-cheek which is probably going to kill O’s case.

    **DWTS**
    Just now watching Monday’s show (see above on why I’m SO behind) & boy oh boy Kellie Pickler can dance!! Although her poor hair looked horrible, I guess there’s only so much you can do with hair in the midst of growing out. I’m a native Nashvillian & even though Kellie’s only a Nashville-transplant, I can’t help but root for her when she says she’s bringing the trophy back here to us! <3 Go Kellie go!!!! I'll definitely be voting this season (& never have in the past).

  50. kasey31

    March 21, 2013 at 5:21 PM

    liz, love kellie on dwts! shes adorable…im rooting for her and zandaya, i think they are both beautiful dancers 🙂

    oyoung, thats a good idea to post under “des’s guys” i guess we would just need to make sure theres a definite deadline… but i like that idea, that would make it easier to reference back to also.. and easier to keep track of.. thanks!

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