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Bachelorette Desiree Spoilers

“Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” & More of Desiree’s Guys

In Tuesday’s column I had mentioned that since guys were arriving in LA this past Monday, there’s no way filming was gonna start Sunday. They never keep them sequestered that long, so I figured filming was gonna start tomorrow night. Well, I’m hearing it’s being moved up another day and filming for Desiree’s season actually begins tonight at the mansion, which is pretty much on schedule with when filming has begun the last 5 seasons so no real change.

A lot of emails in the last couple weeks asking about Lindsay and what was the reasoning behind her not becoming the “Bachelorette.” I never heard the reason, but after her conference call with the media on Tuesday, where she was gushing about a new boyfriend, I’m guessing that played a role in her not getting it. Just a hunch. That was the first I’d heard of that. Had no idea, nor do I have a clue who this guy is. Since she didn’t name him, maybe her and Tierra can double date now with their boyfriends-who-shall-remain-nameless-yet-we’ll-talk-about-them-publicly. Ummmm, ok.

I did a little research after the finale yesterday just to share with everyone regarding the lead’s and what they say after the finale. You know, I’ve said many times that we ALWAYS see the lead on the ATFR gushing about their choice, how in love they are, this is the person they’re going to marry, etc and they all end up breaking up. But still people seem to have short term memory when it comes to that because they only want to remember the latest couple and how in love they claim to be. So here is Sean’s blog from Tuesday after the finale aired. Says all the right things. Then again, so did Emily, Ben, and Brad in their final blogs. Check em’ out. Remember, all those people ended up breaking up, yet, look what they were writing the day after the finale aired.

Emily’s final blog
Ben’s final blog
Brad’s final blog

Just a little perspective for everyone, that’s all. You’re welcome.

Selma appeared back on Star 94.1 FM in San Diego after the finale to share her thoughts on the season in general. Quite a few interesting things to say, and she’s sort of become this season’s outspoken contestant. We haven’t heard many who have talked as openly in the public as she has, and I gotta say, it’s quite refreshing. The PC contestants who just say the same things and don’t speak outside the box when talking about the time on this show don’t interest me. These interviews most certainly do:

Also, “Burning Love” episode 10 is up, and for my money, this was easily their best episode to date. Hot Karl? Are you kidding me? Genius. Google it if you’re confused. Not to mention the return of Blaze, which has Julie all, ummmmm, damp.

On to the latest confirmed contestants for Desiree’s season. In case you didn’t see my tweet yesterday, Trevor and Erik are not contestants on their season. Lets just chalk it up to a couple jack offs screwing around and having a little fun. Hope you enjoyed your 5 minutes. Their profiles are down, and no one will remember them anyway, so I don’t really see what the pleasure people got out of that, but whatever. Must be lonely or something. There’s always a couple that sneak in there every season, so I apologize for not doing my due diligence on them. Which is ironic, because Trevor and Erik were the two guys I was questioning the most of the 8 I had posted Tuesday. Oh well. I will try not to let it happen again. Anyway, here are 3 more definitely on this season. More coming next week.

7. James Case: 27 or 28, Chicago, Illinois. Graduated Miami-OH University in 08′, also played football there. Currently works in advertising for BankRate, Inc. Not many updated pictures of the guy. His LinkedIn profile is still active.

I think you get the picture. Total meathead.

8. Juan Pablo Galavis: 31, New York City, professional soccer player. Dude even has his own Wikipedia page, even though there’s not much on it. Plenty of stuff to Google on him though. This rocket scientist even tweeted a picture of his plane ticket from NY to LA this past Monday. Gee, don’t make it too obvious. He has as much business being on this show to find a wife than I do. I’d be shocked if this guy isn’t the one most disliked by the other guys in the house. But hey, any guy that has a highlight video of himself set to Chumbawamba’s greatest hit, you gotta love.


9. Zack Kalter: 28, Newport Beach, CA. Finished his degree at USC in 2009, and got into web development. Now currently writing children’s books. You can read a mini bio on himhere. Even has a Pinterest page. Ummm, guys have Pinterest pages? I didn’t know that was legal. His Facebook is down, but Twitter is still up and has a link to his first children’s book.

Posted on his Twitter feed, he seems to really like Valentine’s Day. Or not:


10. Kasey Stewart: 29, San Luis Obispo, CA. Senior Art Director for a Digital Agency. A 6’5″ former high school basketball player at Victory Christian High School, then played one year of college ball at Oral Roberts University where his career stats weren’t that impressive. Divorced back in 2009 after two years of marriage Lindsey Labadie, who competed on a Christian singing reality show back in 2007. They had no kids (pic is with his niece). She used to own a cupcake bakery in Tulsa, but now lives in LA. Here’s her Twitter account, her LinkedIn page, and a blog that she hasn’t updated in a year. He comes from a big family, has three sisters and two brothers. One sister, Jennette, is married to Christian singer Ricardo Sanchez. His Facebook and Twitter are inactive right now, but his Instagram is still viewable.

Competed in a Tough Mudder competition last year….

…went skydiving

…and enjoys posting videos of French Bulldogs named Tux pleasuring themselves:


11. Brad McKinzie: Denver, CO. Accounting Specialist at Restaurant Solutions, Inc. B.A. in Accounting from University of Colorado at Denver and has a Masters in Business Administration from the University of Phoenix. Did he get that online? His LinkedIn page is still active. However, I’m much more impressed by his alter ago, DJ Mak. Awwwwwwwww yeah. Check mic one, mic two. You can ch-ch-ch-ch-check out DJ Mak on his fly MySpace page. I hope to God this guy came out of the limo rockin’ Beats by Dre headphones and scratching turntables. And oh yeah, he has a son named Mattex with a girl named Brittnee Nelson, whom he never married, and she works at Twin Peaks in Colorado. She’s on the right:

I’m sorry. You know I’m NEVER one to pre-judge, but this guy has player written all over him. Actually, let me correct myself. That’d be “PLAYA” in all caps and in a diamond encrusted chain wrapped around neck. Holla!


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  1. kasey31

    March 15, 2013 at 12:23 PM

    liz, cautiously optimistic is the perfect was to describe how i feel about them, too.. i, like iheart, feel like this is the first time in a long time there could be a “real” connection.. my world will certainly not come crashing down if these 2 dont work out, im just saying i think im actually buying it between them! and i agree, i think catherine is starting to get more comfortable being “live” on camera, as opposed to the bachelor where the interviews can be reshot or edited, more rehearsed..

  2. iheartvino

    March 15, 2013 at 12:45 PM

    Agree with kasey, I’m definitely not going to lose sleep over it if they don’t work, but I am rooting for them. Liz123, I don’t fault Sean for taking those opportunities either! If it’s good money and what he wants to do then more power to him. It would just be nice to hear less and less about them over time, especially after their wedding. (if it happens!) JP and Ashley seem to be doing well and I don’t hear their names all that often in the media anymore.

  3. jacey

    March 15, 2013 at 4:57 PM

    kasey31 on March 14, 2013 at 9:24 PM said:

    **the following**
    jacey, are u thinking some of this show seems pretty unrealistic? bc i completely agree..i love the show, but how found myself thinking many times, “yea right! that would never happen!”

    @Kasey31, Not just unrealistic, but seemingly underestimates the number of viewers’ brain cells. I’ve found myself thinking “give me a break ” multiple times per episode. And have you seen the Recaps? If the story lines weren’t so overblown, explaining them wouldn’t be necessary.

  4. aubry

    March 15, 2013 at 5:11 PM

    Come on ABC give Darlin Des a better bunch than this!!

  5. karynr

    March 15, 2013 at 5:42 PM

    I just picked up People Magazine and thought to myself, I doubt Catherine ever thought she’d be on the cover of People, with the words “No Sex Until: I Do under her picture. I find that pretty funny.

    Burning Love
    This weeks episode is hysterical.

  6. jacey

    March 15, 2013 at 6:28 PM

    Unless there’s some compelling drama, a la Ashley’s season, I won’t be watching “The Bachelorette.” That guy was a total douche, but dayum was the Bentley drama entertaining.

    Didn’t watch a moment of Emily’s season, so was not familiar with Sean before his. Actually, the last time I watched a female lead was Gillian’s season, and that was sparadic. Double standard? Probably. Then again, “The Bachelor” wouldn’t garner many Nielsen points from me either. All the tonsil hockey. It’s all cringe worthy, but it’s worse when a girl does it with a bunch of guys. In any case… Looking away is an auto-reflex. Ewwwww! Gross!

    Perhaps NBC’s offering “Ready For Love” will be deliver. We’ll see.

  7. kasey31

    March 15, 2013 at 9:10 PM

    ok.. question, friends- ive seen sean and catherine interview on gma and extra.. have they done any other interviews? am i missing any? i loved the one of them on extra.. catherine seemed much more relaxed than she did on gma..

  8. goosiegirl

    March 16, 2013 at 5:34 AM

    They did one on Huffington Post. Wetpaint has been pretty good with updates on articles.

  9. kasey31

    March 16, 2013 at 6:30 AM

    thanks, goosie!

  10. randais

    March 16, 2013 at 7:17 AM

    Jacey – “Ready For Love”, that makes two of us hoping for ANYthing more promising than the Bachwreck. Virtual high five :D.

    TAR and Revenge, Sunday. DWTS starts Monday, not sure if I’ll be watching, still deciding.

  11. Cndgirl

    March 16, 2013 at 10:47 AM

    **The Following and Revenge

    Folks that watch both of these might be interested to know the connection. Joe Caroll in the following was the artist that Victoria was in love with – one one that painted that picture of her (first season).

    In terms of believability – I think just about any show on tv (including reality) could be argued on how unrealistic there are in real life. What show would you say is realistic/believable? Isnt that the whole point – to entertain us? Truthfully, for a show to be believable, I would think it wold need to be a bit boring. Life is often filled with uneventful moments (in terms of tv events anyway)

  12. kasey31

    March 16, 2013 at 11:24 AM

    cndgrl, good eye! i mentioned that on here back when the following first started.. i was watching thinking, “where do i know this guy?” and then it hit me.. : )

  13. jasreen553

    March 16, 2013 at 11:49 AM

    Excited for the bachlorette season! Thanks for showing us some of the guys before the show airs! So far my number one pic is Kasey….funny dog video!

  14. jacey

    March 17, 2013 at 6:31 AM

    Cndgirl on March 16, 2013 at 10:47 AM said:
    In terms of believability – I think just about any show on tv (including reality) could be argued on how unrealistic there are in real life. What show would you say is realistic/believable? Isnt that the whole point – to entertain us? Truthfully, for a show to be believable, I would think it wold need to be a bit boring. Life is often filled with uneventful moments (in terms of tv events anyway)

    @Cndgirl, so you’re saying that it’s impossible to have a believable, well-written story line without loss of entertainment value? There is so much wrong with your logic, but I’ll just say one word at this point d-o-c-u-m-e-n-t-a-r-y … not to mention Docudramas/Reality shows like “Snapped”, Forensic, Files… Locked up Abroad. Shows with ripped-from-the-headlines storytelling such a the CSI, Law & Order franchises. You don’t have to totally suspend your common sense to watch these. And are they entertaining? Longevity would indicate an answer in the affirmative.

  15. Cndgirl

    March 17, 2013 at 11:57 AM

    I said just about, not all. Maybe I should have been more specific – I meant shows like the following, revenge, evolution, lost, 24, etc. – scripted tv shows. Obviously documentaries wouldn’t be in that category. also, reality shows like the bachelor, jersey shore, kardashians – where they are scripted for entertainment. Not the reality type shows on discovery, history. There is a line in there. I’m talking mainstream tv – I guess basically non cable.

    As for CSI – incredibly unrealistic for DNA tests to be done in hours. It takes weeks, months. Police work takes a long time, that show is not based in reality. You want to see an authentic police show, watch The Wire. Critics have said its the best most authentic police show ever made. And yes, at times, it seems very slow and sometimes boring.

  16. jacey

    March 17, 2013 at 12:17 PM

    @Cndgirl – Ay Caramba! Back away… say a week or two then come back and read your contribution. Then re-read what I said. I know you think you’re making perfect sense, but not really.

    Respond again if you like — Not into pain so I won’t be reading it. Happy viewing!

  17. ccrider

    March 18, 2013 at 6:24 AM

    Greetings all! I hope everyone had a fun and safe St. Patrick’s Day!

    What is this “Ready for Love” y’all are mentioning? What have I missed? Most of my TV watching is done via DVR so I skip thru all the commercials.

  18. Dianne

    March 18, 2013 at 6:25 AM

    LOL @ Steve’s description of Brad McKinzie! Holla indeed! You totally nailed it, Steve!

  19. lucky

    March 18, 2013 at 7:32 AM

    I think we should all pick Des’ final four once Steve gets all the names but before he lays out the season. Maybe after the first night when they are down to 20 or whatever the number is. I think Zack is really good looking. I’d put him in my final four.

  20. iheartvino

    March 18, 2013 at 8:14 AM

    Lucky, that would be fun to see if any of us were right with our predictions. I remember Kasey picked Catherine as her favorite based on the bios alone and then after Steve posted the final four she predicted Catherine as the final one. Maybe she’ll do the same this season? 🙂

    I couldn’t help laughing a few min ago- I’m on a plane and the two other people in my row are on their iPads too but they both are doing work. I’m sitting here watching Burning Love and now on RS. It’s definitely not a good idea to watch burning Love in public unless you want people giving you strange looks for laughing.

    Last night’s episode was so good! I had a feeling Eli couldn’t be trusted. And talk about a knife in Emily’s back by having Victoria make him the co-chair of the foundation instead of her. I had to rewind for a few parts to understand what was happening though, especially during the Conrad scenes. That man loves to whisper when he talks.

  21. JovisMom

    March 18, 2013 at 8:15 AM

    @ ccrider – Hi and Happy St Patty’s Day to you!!
    Ready For Love is a new reality dating show, I think it starts in like 3 weeks on ABC.
    I haven’t seen a preview in a couple of weeks but from what I recall it is like 3 “bachelors” and a few girls. I believe Eva Longoria is the host.

  22. ccrider

    March 18, 2013 at 8:31 AM

    Thanks Jovi! I found it on the NBC site and it premieres April 9. Guess I’ll have to tune in and watch it. 🙂

  23. jackie22

    March 18, 2013 at 8:32 AM

    Just read on Wet Paint that The Bachelor Pad will be cancelled this summer! 🙁

  24. Sunnyside422

    March 18, 2013 at 8:50 AM

    Saw that too! Awesome. One less trashy Fleiss show!

  25. Sunnyside422

    March 18, 2013 at 9:06 AM

    Lucky: I’ll also place Zack in the final 4…just for his looks alone. Hope he doesn’t turn out to be a douche.

    So many men have children and are unmarried. Can’t recall that occurring in previous seasons. I just hope Des can have an enjoyable season. I’m not looking for permanence with any of them…just that she has a good time throughout. She has the Ali personality…loads of smiles, fun, ready for anything type.

  26. randais

    March 18, 2013 at 9:07 AM

    Jackie – THANK YOU, for that promising piece of information! BP was just an extension of the current train wreck, Fleiss seems to thrive on.

    Ready For Love looks promising, I’m hoping for the best. There is a facebook page but here is the link for the nbc website:

  27. jackie22

    March 18, 2013 at 9:12 AM

    @randais – I’m only disappointed because I won’t be able to read RS’s recaps about it! HA!

  28. velatria

    March 18, 2013 at 9:34 AM

    I sure hope that Catherine and Sean’s relationship will last for a long long time and get married with children. They look very nice together. I like Sean a lot, and I’m actually liking Catherine more and more. I will be watching DWTS just because Sean will be there.

  29. randais

    March 18, 2013 at 10:28 AM

    Jackie – as long as we’re in agreement that the series itself won’t be missed.

    Vel – The LAST reason I’ll be watching DWTS is because Sean’s on it.

  30. velatria

    March 18, 2013 at 11:16 AM

    Hahaha I know how you feel because I’ve been there, and done that. I skipped watching Ben’s season on purpose because I coudn’t stand looking at his oily face and oily long hair. I skipped Emily’s because for some reason I don’t like her as well, and it was also aired during summer vacation.

  31. Athena

    March 18, 2013 at 12:09 PM

    DWTS: I predict that Sean gets the lowest scores of anyone there from the judges, but that because of fan support, he lasts a fairly long time. I will be very surprised if he has a single good-dancing-bone in his body. Then again, he was a more than decent athlete, so he’s got to have some physical prowess so it could be that I’m way off base. Anyone else have a prediction?

  32. ccrider

    March 18, 2013 at 12:41 PM

    DWTS: Athletes have always done VERY well on this show so I’m predicting that Sean at least holds his own. He has a really great teacher and that helps.

  33. karynr

    March 18, 2013 at 2:03 PM

    I like the idea of picking the final four. Once all the men are up, pick a deadline for entries, than let’s see if any of us, besides Kasey, are any good at it.

    I’m really glad BP has been cancelled, except for RS’s comments. Not to mention reading on here what everyone is thinking. Last season was really just plain gross. It’s time has come to an end.

    iheart…you’re brave for watching that at work! I thought last week’s episode was so funny.

  34. Sunnyside422

    March 18, 2013 at 2:11 PM

    Didn’t watch BP last season…just read RS’s comments and that was enough. I did see the finale when Nick won it all though. Loved it!

    As for Sean on DWTS, predict he won’t win it all unless there are some women out there who are ga ga over this rapidly balding, vapid guy and keep voting for him. I have zero interest in him on Dancing which is why I didn’t watch every episode of his season.

  35. randais

    March 18, 2013 at 3:53 PM

    Exit faux Amanda, enter foster brother Eli. I didn’t see that coming. It didn’t take him long to peg Emily as the real Amanda, see kids, tattoos are BAD ;D. Moving on, Eli’s pretty bad too or so his record would indicate. So “faux bro”, as Nolan deemed him, is ingratiating himself into the Graysons circle. Emily is intent on getting him out of town but apparently having Nolan expunge his record and donating 100K to the “cause” only serves to fund his agenda. He turns around and donates the check to the “new foundation” the Graysons are setting up in Amanda’s name while winning over Char and Vicky in the process. Getting himself appointed co chair of the foundation seals the deal, hey kids, we have a new “player” in this game!
    Daniel’s turning into a lush over his families manipulations and can’t buy into their plan to set up Aiden. Seems like there is at least one Grayson with a conscience. I love it when he goes to Emily to “unburden” and she is now manipulating him to bankrupt the Graysons…..
    Unfortunately, “The Falcon” has returned and EVEN Nolan can’t break his codes. More twists and turns, I love it.
    P.S. Can I PLEASE have Aiden’s new beach house?

    Is anyone watching Red Widow? I may or may not have gotten sucked in.

  36. kasey31

    March 18, 2013 at 4:19 PM

    iheart and karyn, yay!! someone remembered my catherine prediction!!! i mean, im not trying to toot my own horn, but toot toot!! ; )

    i said it awhile ago, thats probably the ONLY time that will ever happen to me.. where i predict the f1 before the spoilers are out.. doubt i could do it again, but it would be fun to try!

  37. randais

    March 18, 2013 at 4:21 PM

    Go for it Kasey, you’re one for one. My money’s on you.

  38. karynr

    March 18, 2013 at 4:24 PM

    Me too, Kasey!

    As far as Sean making it through the season, I predict he’s one of the first three eliminated. His Bach popularity will only take him so far, UNLESS he’s a lot better than any of us know! At least we won’t have to watch him kiss anyone…..GROSS.

  39. karynr

    March 18, 2013 at 4:26 PM

    sunnyside….when Nick won it all I was thrilled. That was one of the best moments in all Bach history!

  40. karynr

    March 18, 2013 at 4:27 PM

    randais…I tried Red Widow once and it didn’t grab me at all. i watched a few minutes the other day and i have no interest. There’s nothing outstanding about it….acting, writing, etc.

  41. Athena

    March 18, 2013 at 4:54 PM

    @karnyr: LOL re: the lack of having to watch him kissing on DWTS 🙂

  42. lucky

    March 18, 2013 at 6:29 PM

    Since B-Pad is cancelled, maybe Steve can create a section near the spoilers-Des’ guys- “Reader Picks” where registered users can enter their final four men. That way, he can drive up the number of users for his site and everyone’s picks will be in one place. He could leave it open for a week (without letting anyone else see other people’s picks) and then after he closes it, the final four are all in one place. Just think, he will also have a basis of who the public likes and/or dislikes. And, if there is a “winner” of the final four, he can offer something fun, like the winner gets to write a guest column on something bachelor related or attend a meet and greet. I’m sure I wouldn’t win, but I’d like the opportunity to do something fun. Anyone have any thoughts on this?

  43. velatria

    March 18, 2013 at 9:45 PM

    Sean needs a lot of work on DWTS. He looked stiff as a floorboard lol but still cute. At least he’s a lot better than the other men thete. And I love that Cat was there cheering on him.

  44. kasey31

    March 18, 2013 at 11:16 PM

    velatria, haha.. i know.. sean was terrible! but it was so cute to see catherine in the audience cheering him on.. poor sean, i hope he improves and doesnt make a fool of himself..hes still cute though..

    karyn, randais, iheart.. im totally in for trying to predict the f1 for des’s season..seans season was the only season i did that. there was just something about catherines picture that stood out to me, and i just happened to vocalize it on here and ended up being right.. it might be a bit harder to look at a picture of a man and say, “thats the one!” for some reason, but i will certainly try! i think it’s a great idea by lucky, and it will be fun!

  45. kasey31

    March 18, 2013 at 11:20 PM

    btw, where did everyone see that the bp has been cancelled? i swear i read through steves entire column.. i must have somehow missed it? not that im sad to see it go, what a ridiulous show that was.. cant believe it lasted 3 seasons!

  46. jackie22

    March 19, 2013 at 4:59 AM

    @kasey31 – the column is up on wetpaint and on…. both have articles about it. RS hasn’t said anything that I have seen.

  47. randais

    March 19, 2013 at 6:18 AM

    karyn – Red Widow, isn’t the caliber of say “The Following” or “Revenge” but I watched it the other weekend while cleaning and thought it was ok. I don’t watch it during it’s regular airing and won’t miss it, if it gets cancelled. I need a show that I can watch and not get invested in, like I have with some others. I call them, my “fluff” shows.

    kasey – I think a couple of contributors mentioned that they read, maybe on wetpaint, that BP is being cancelled after one more season? RS didn’t post it but it IS in this comment section.

    I didn’t watch DWTS, but may later. I just don’t want anymore Sean and Cat. I was completely UNinvested in this season and I’m STILL on SeanCat overload. I can NOT imagine him being any good at dancing.

  48. randais

    March 19, 2013 at 6:21 AM

    oh whoops, Jackie beat me to it :D.

  49. Sunnyside422

    March 19, 2013 at 6:55 AM

    Athena: laughed reading your reference to not having to see Seanie “kissing” on DWTS! I use the term “kissing” loosely as I have never seen another human suck upper lips with noses pressed to the woman’s nose ever anywhere! Pathetic.

    I was switching channels so didn’t see all of DWTS (oped out for The Following, of course), but did see Seanie announce he didn’t want to make a fool of himself on national TV which resulted in a huge laugh from me! Uhhh…hate to tell ya buddy, but you did big time during your stint on the Bachelor so nothing you do now will improve on the image of the dullard you are. Did see the very end where everyone was standing on stage, bouncing around, clapping, laughing, interacting, etc….and the camera pans (briefly) and there is Seanie standing there like a statue! Luckily for him there are many contestants who are as horrible a dancer as he is, so he could squeeze out a few more weeks.

    From what I did see of the show, looks to be a season of misfits with the exception of Kellie and the little 16 year old Disney person and perhaps Dorothy.

    Why oh why are those 3 stooges still at the judging table! Rather than changing the pro dancers, someone tell Conrad Green (producer) to please, please eliminate them!

  50. karynr

    March 19, 2013 at 7:53 AM

    Haven’t watched yet…..hopefully tonight.

    lucky…great idea! Should one of us propose this to RS? He’ll either put it down, make fun of it and say NO, or maybe he might think it’s a good idea. It sure might bring more traffic to his site if, let’s say, Wetpaint and a few others mention the contest going on with RS. It could bring good $ in his pocket too. What a good idea!

    Okay….who wants to email RS? Just kidding. I’ll do it, but want to hear thoughts from more of you too. I don’t want a snarky RS reply if I do email him. I’ve had my share over the years!

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