First of all I just want to say thanks for your spoilers. I’ve only been reading your columns (or even watching the Bachelor/ette, for that matter) since Ben’s season, but they definitely help me stay mostly detached during the show rather than get my thoughts and feelings manipulated by the storytelling. For some reason, I still like to watch though. Probably because it’s fun to see where they go and what they do, and hope that they actually do pick the best person for them despite the fakeness of the show.
Anyway, so I’ve been waiting to e-mail until I actually had a valid question that I haven’t seen you answer before. I apologize, if you have answered this. But has the Bachelor/ette ever gone to Japan as one of their destinations, or do you think they would ever? The historical culture there is so rich; I think it would be really neat to see some of the activities they could do there, or the sights they could see. A lot of the dates they seem to do lately are kinda lame and reused over and over again. I realize Japan isn’t the first country any one thinks of when it comes to “romance”, but it would be a new and exciting experience, I would think.
One more thing, and I know you’ve answered this before (probably a bunch of times) but I haven’t found where: does the Bachelor/ette get ANY say whatsoever on where they travel to?
Thanks for your info and insights!
Comment: Off the top of my head, no, they’ve never been there. Closest I guess was Ashley’s season when they went to Hong Kong and Taiwan.
No, the lead has no say in where they go. The travel locations are booked well in advance of when they even know who the lead is going to be.
Greetings from Moscow Russia!
I’ve really enjoyed your column ever since Jason’s season. It was pretty shocking to me that he went along with the whole Melissa/Molly scheme. I know that’s “reality” TV, but it was pretty low. Though, Jake , Brad and Ben was far less entertaining. All fun and drama on their seasons came from the girls, not from the lead. So, I’ll guess, congrats on the casting job. I was actually able to watch 1 episode of Bachelor Ukraine (not Maxim season, or whatever he spells his name), and the girls drama was off charts, they put Bachelor US girls to shame.
So basically, I have couple of questions for you:
1) Do you think it’s all about the girls now, not the lead? Was it like that on the early seasons , how many girls producers cast each season as “fillers” and how many with actual intention for them to be liked by bachelor? My guess it’s 20 to 5
2) what countries are already on “reality Steve readers” map?
3) what are you top 5 and bottom 5 girls starting with Matt’ season (looks wise)?
Comment: Moscow in the house. I think this is our first Russian email. I think.
1) It’s always been about the contestants, and not the lead. That’s why I say it’s the same show every season, just with different characters. It’s about the dates, the travel, the drama, the in-fighting, the cliques in the house, etc. That’s why every episode will at some point focus on what’s happening in the house, or who’s not getting along, etc.
2) I’m not understanding your question here. Are you asking about what countries people have emailed me from? Off the top of my head, I can’t name them all, but they are pretty random.
3) Impossible to name a top 5.
Just because I know the PTB read your site, please let them know that the new Bachelor Message Board suxs.
Thank you, Steve, for entertaining the fans.
Comment: Uhhhh, ok. I’ll get right on that. I’ll report back to you as soon as I do.
Do you watch The Middle? It is my favorite sit-com right now. Maybe because I relate to so much of it and it is a show that my whole family can and does watch together. (I’m 43. Married 19 years. 4 kids, ages 16, 14, 9, &6. So you see why I might relate.) Last night the mother was so excited to see the ending to the Bachelor and then completely destroyed when he picked the wrong girl. All I could think was, “You should have been reading ‘Reality Steve’ so you wouldn’t have been so invested in the girl he didn’t pick, and could have just enjoyed the absurdity of the show.”
I watched the 1st season of the Bachelor and thought it was so ridiculous for all those women to fight over one unattractive, boring man. So I stopped watching, until Trista’s season. I had loved her one the 1st season, which is why it is smart for them to recycle former contestants to be the lead. Again I stopped watching, until Jake’s season. The controversioal commercials sucked me in. I loved Tenley and thought for sure she would be the one he picked. I hated Vienna, and fast forwarded all their dates. I was wrong of course on the one he picked. I was mad at myself for watching this crap, until I found you somewhere in the middle of Brad.2. Now I can just watch and enjoy. Thanks for the info you provide.
Comment: After that episode of the “Middle” aired, a lot of you emailed me asking if I’d watched. No. Never seen the show. But obviously I did hear about it. Glad that a scripted show poked fun at the absurdity of the some of the “Bachelor” audience about how they take everything so seriously on the show and try to live their boring lives vicariously through a bunch of contestants they don’t even know. It’s sad, but, it’s reality for them. Oh well. Nothing you can do but try and educate the masses on how ridiculous that is.
I love reading your column and seeing your take on things. Keep on spoiling!!
Anyway, during Sean’s season you posted that “By your Side” by Sade was one of your all time favorite love songs. Ben Taylor did a cover of it on the show and just didn’t do it justice.
I was just wondering what are your other favorite love songs?
Oh and are your a big Texas Rangers fan? Just wondering. I love them. Glad Hamilton was booed yesterday!
Comment: I’ve always my all-time favorite slow song is “Open Arms” by Journey. Highly doubt that’ll ever change. “By Your Side” definitely in the top 5 as well.
Am I Rangers fan? No. I’ve only lived here for almost 7 years. I wouldn’t call myself a fan of any of the Texas teams. I grew up a Dodger and Laker fan, and that’s where my allegiance lies. However, I’m more a fan of players and coaches than I am teams. I mean, my two favorite sports are college football and college basketball, and I don’t have a rooting interest in any of the programs. I just love watching the games.
I have a couple of questions for you.
1) Why does everyone hate Jake Pavelka so much? I really enjoyed his season- but that was also the first season of Bachelor/Bachelorette that I ever watched, so I had nothing to compare him or his season to. I also didn’t start following any contestants on twitter or reading your site until Ben’s season, so I don’t know that much about the contestants that came before Ben. I was just wondering.
2) You may have answered this in the past, but which season of 24 was your favorite? I feel like after season 5 they all started going downhill. And who was your favorite character that was not Jack Bauer?
Thanks, love your site!
Comment: 1) I think most people just saw Jake as phony, and every time he claimed to be on the show looking for love, everyone who knew him (including the guys from Jillian’s season) all said he made it known to all of them he wanted a career in TV and wanted to be famous. Which is fine, but just admit that’s what you were after, rather than claim innocence.
2) Season 5 was their best season and my favorite. Season 2 was my second favorite. You know, channel 500 on DirecTV had a “24” marathon about a month ago where they aired seasons 1-3 consecutively over a span of 3 days. It was awesome. I think people forget how great those early seasons were. Season 3, universally, has long been accepted as their most disappointing season. I dare you to go back and watch that season and not come away saying, “Damn, that was really good.” The last 12 hours of season 3 are as good of a 12 hours as they’ve ever produced. Edge-of-your-seat stuff.
Once they won their Emmy’s after season 5, it was basically impossible to live up to what they did. The location changes in seasons 7 and 8 setting in DC and NY respectively were a nice change, but nothing could top what they put together in season 5. It just seemed like every twist and turn, and good vs evil battle, along with excellent acting by so many different people, all came together in that one season. Not to mention, when the President of the United States ends up being the ultimate villain behind everything, I mean, nothing you do in any season after that will ever top it. Hence the reason season 5 will always be the best season yet.
Does ABC make the contestants sign contracts that they have to be best friends with each other once their season is over? And an additional contract that they are no longer allowed to hang around with their friends from before the show? It seems bizarre to me how these people seem to hang out all the time once their season is over. I get it that they shared a unique experience together, but, even the contestants that make it pretty far spend all of, what, 2-3 weeks together? How great of friends can they really have become? And why do you never see these people posting pics w anyone but other contestants? What happened to their actual friends. I’m joking about ABC making them sign contracts but it just seems really strange how people in their mid to late 20’s spend all their time with people they knew for 2 weeks.
Comment: Make them sign contracts to be friends with each other? No. They just do. It’s like going to summer camp for a month where all you do is bond with the people you are with every single day. Granted, some of these contestants end up making this show their life afterwards, and everything they do is show related and makes you think, “Wait, didn’t this person have any friends BEFORE they went on the show,” but it’s understandable how you’d make friends with those on your season. I get that. It’s just how you present yourself after the show that ends up giving people a certain opinion of you. Like, if you’re constantly at reunions all the time, and every tweet is “Bachelor/ette,” related, and all you do is post photos of you and your “Bachelor” friends, trust me, people find that nauseating, and it makes them seem fake. Yes, it is possible to have friends from the show and not tweet about them every 14 seconds, believe it or not.
I just realize you already posted the Reader’s Email, so feel free to either save it for the next or write back
1 ) With all the attention Sean and Catherine are getting right now, not to mention all the break up rumors it looks like your predictions of seeing these two walk down the isle is perhaps true. I agree that with Sean doing DWTS right on the heels of concluding “The Bachelor”, there’s just too much going on too soon. Are you surprised at what fame has done to Sean?
2) I just finished watching Burning Love and have laughed my way through all the episodes. For a spoof, Burning Love absolutely nailed it to the slightest detail! After looking up the creator of the show, Erica Oyama, who has also guested on the show and happens to be married to Ken Marino (so are “Julie” and “Robby Z”, and of course Ben Stiller and Christine Taylor) she’s apparently a massive fan of the franchise and it doesn’t seem to bother her that the show is fake. Looks like she’d like to strike up a friendship with Chris Harrison, of all people.
Here’s a long article she wrote about her love for the franchise in case you haven’t read it yet: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/erica-oyama/burning-love_b_2878808.html
Anyways I was able to who’s who as far as which former bachelor/bachelorette contestants they were inspired from.
For example Julie= Ashley Hebert
Alex=Jason Mesnick/Tony (the crying dads that miss their sons back home)
Blaze=Bentley and perhaps Wes
Is this accurate? Are there any more that you noticed?
Comment: 1) I’m willing to give Sean and Catherine the benefit of the doubt and wait a few months once DWTS is over. They are still living in fantasyland. Sean is living rent free in LA and still filming a TV show every day of his life when he’s training and performing on DWTS. Catherine’s mug is still on TV every Monday and Tuesday night when they show her in the audience. That’s not reality. That’s not what normal recently engaged couples face on a daily basis. So once this is all over, and Sean has to move back to Dallas and do whatever he is he’s going to do (my guess is that his days of working at the “Factory Girl” selling furniture are over), and Catherine either joins him or doesn’t, THEN lets see how things go between them. Until they are out of LA, away from the spotlight and the media, no one can predict what’s going to happen.
3) Without a doubt, Erica Oyama (and Ken Marino for that matter) are huge fans of the “Bachelor” franchise. You can’t not be, yet nail every single detail down to its core. As for your comparisons, I’d say that’s about right. Don’t forget crazy Lexie can be any of the women who have claimed their love for someone after a couple dates. They love taking the stereotypical cast members from this show, then creating their own character and exaggerating it to the 10th degree. Like Hayley who likes showing her vajayjay to everyone. Sure, none of the girls on this show have ever done that, however, there have been plenty of sluts they’ve cast on this show. Sluts = Hayley. It’s brilliant writing, brilliant casting, and I hope they continue to do this until the show goes off the air. I don’t think I’ll ever get tired of Mark Orlando’s ineptness.
Only thing I was bummed about was Robby Z, Robby Z, Robby Z…Z…Z wasn’t cool enough to make it onto “Burning Down the House,” which I tweeted at Erica about. However, she reminded me that Robby is busy with other projects like, you know, #DanceLikeYourParents.
First of all – I love you! Thank you for keeping us in the know! Now, my question is – what’s really going on with Catherine and Sean? The tabloids are tearing them apart. Are they breaking up? What’s really true? She still has her ring on in her Instagram photos from today.
2nd question if you don’t mind – do you have any info on where the cast is now from multiple season’s of MTV’s Real World? I want to know what happened to them after the reunion shows.
Comment: Sean and Catherine are still together. At least for now. It’s just tabloids being tabloids. They’ll write what they write to get people talking. However, it’s funny when certain tabloids are saying they are broken up, yet, Catherine is living in the same apartment complex as Sean in LA, she’s at the show every Monday and Tuesday night, and they’re at the after parties together every week and have been since the show started. Yet the tabloids say they’re broken up. Just lazy reporting.
I stopped watching “Real World” about 5 years ago. I have no idea what’s going on.
Was just wondering if you’re still watching AI and if so, do you still think Angie is going to win? I hadn’t watched Hollywood week or Vegas (but took note when you said she would win) and just started watching again once they sang live. I personally like Angie the best, but according the message boards (not that those people have a lot of weight, but something I consider interesting), it doesn’t seem like a lot of people like her and Candice seems to have a lot of momentum, especially after last week.
Anyway- was just curious if you’re having any doubts of her winning. I personally think she SHOULD win, but that’s my personal taste…
Thanks for your time.
Comment: When the top 40 performed in Vegas, I tweeted Angie’s performance and said 39 other people are now fighting for 2nd place. Well, a month ago I had a 1-in-40 chance of being right. Now it’s down to 1-in-4. Do I think she should win? Yes. Will she? Not sure. One thing she has going for her is that Amber, Kree, and Candice have all been in the bottom 2 or 3 once already, and Angie has never been. So that’s a plus.
Amber definitely won’t win. Not enough mass appeal. Candice can sing her ass off, but something about her mass appeal might hold her back. Her video packages aren’t doing much to help her because she doesn’t come off as having the greatest personality, and we know once we get down this far, it’s about appealing to as many people as possible. She sure can sing, but it just doesn’t seem like she has the mass appeal you’d expect from a winner. Might be too soft spoken for America. We’ll see. I think Kree and Angie will be your finalists, and at that point, it’s a coin flip. Both will get recording deals anyway (as will Candice), so does it really matter who wins? Both will be memorable. Angie for her original song she performed in Vegas (not to mention that Pretenders cover she did on Wednesday. Wow), and Kree for being a spitting image of Rumer Willis.
I read your tweets from Fri after “Ready for Love” got cancelled. I’ve never been you’re biggest fan, but when you tweeted stuff like that, it makes me realize why. Why do u think you control the ratings of the “Bachelor”? You think people only watch because of what you do? Are you that egotistical? We know you spoil the show every season, but you don’t control whether or not people watch the show. You might want to bring your ego down a few notches. Those tweets were annoying. I’m surprised your head even fits in the door. Ciao!
Comment: First off, if you don’t like my tweets, don’t follow me. Pretty simple. And there are even people who don’t follow me on Twitter, yet still reply to me when I say something they don’t like, which is even more ludicrous because it means they’re going out of their way pull up my Twitter feed whenever they want, but want to pretend they don’t read what I say by not following. Can’t get much more pathetic than that if you ask me.
Secondly, did you actually read my tweet, or you’re so bothered by anything I write, you have to immediately respond without looking at what I really wrote? For those that missed it, this is what I tweeted Friday after the announcement that “Ready for Love” was cancelled after 2 episodes. It took two tweets because it was more than 140 characters:
“So let me get this straight: I spoil the last 9 seasons of “The Bachelor” franchise, yet it continues 2 air & thrive in the ratings, yet I don’t write a word about “Ready for Love” & it lasts 2 eps. Further proof that what I do doesn’t affect viewership whatsoever.”
So just to be clear, this emailer emailed me and specifically asked “why do you think you control the ratings of the ‘Bachelor’,” right? Yet my tweet specifically stated that I DON’T control the ratings of the show, you know, in that one sentence where I say “…what I do doesn’t affect viewership whatsoever.” Could I have been any more clear than that? I’m admitting that what I do doesn’t change whether people are gonna watch this show or not, something I’ve said for years. My whole point was, people have known the episode-by-episode spoilers to this show, and they have for the last 9 seasons, yet it still gets great ratings, continues to thrive, and people continue to watch season after season after season, further proving that because I post spoilers, doesn’t mean people aren’t going to watch or not watch. I never wrote one word about “Ready for Love” and it’s cancelled after two episodes. So obviously spoilers have zero effect on whether someone watches a show or not. Thank you for being so attentive and comprehending what I write. If you’re gonna attack me for something I said, by all means, have at it. But it’d be nice if you actually had it right. Then maybe there’d be something to discuss.
It’s clear as day, in writing, still sitting there on my Twitter account for everyone to see. Yet someone, within 2 hours of me tweeting that on Friday, is emailing me calling for my head saying I’m egotistical for saying I control the ratings of this show. It’s amazing what people will choose to believe I say, rather than what I actually said, just so they can bitch about me. I find it hilarious, actually. Glad I generate that much venom and vitriol in other people. How sad. I’m amazed at how many people hang on to every single word I post in my column, or tweet on my account, just so they can spew nonsense afterwards. And proof they need to take up a different hobby or something. Wow. Keep reading. We all know you will.